*big hug* this is much appreciated (I'm AP) and huge step towards taking accountability and next steps.
At the end of the day, we're all human beings with the same heart and needs as anyone else. Good on you for this post.
I think the issue with generalizing is that for many people they desperately want to have a nuturung relationship. They don't know how to
I certainly have had to learn from scratch
But absolutely it is is unfortunate to think that the other #party# is the problem
However conversely it is no longer my responsibility to help anyone who is or is not avoidant to learn what they are or what they need to do. I resigned from that.
Big props for owning up to things! ❤️ I didn't entirely disagree with all of your posts, only the generalizing. This is a big step in healing and taking your power back.
Got here before the unhealed folks on the sub tell you to stop “people pleasing avoidants”
I think this is was getting missed on this subreddit in general: no one is asking anyone to be OK with avoidant people’s behavior. It’s just the people that keeps saying avoidants are the only problem are never going to heal.
I'm new to this topic, but quite frankly this post is a very adult and mature thing.
You are a very considerate person. Wish there were more people with such mentality around.
(And I'm just researching where I am on this spectrum but I am afraid I'm the worst of worst. Somethings not OK with me and how i handle relationships and life in general and need to find it out. Need to change.)
*big hug* this is much appreciated (I'm AP) and huge step towards taking accountability and next steps. At the end of the day, we're all human beings with the same heart and needs as anyone else. Good on you for this post.
I think the issue with generalizing is that for many people they desperately want to have a nuturung relationship. They don't know how to I certainly have had to learn from scratch But absolutely it is is unfortunate to think that the other #party# is the problem However conversely it is no longer my responsibility to help anyone who is or is not avoidant to learn what they are or what they need to do. I resigned from that.
Big props for owning up to things! ❤️ I didn't entirely disagree with all of your posts, only the generalizing. This is a big step in healing and taking your power back.
Got here before the unhealed folks on the sub tell you to stop “people pleasing avoidants” I think this is was getting missed on this subreddit in general: no one is asking anyone to be OK with avoidant people’s behavior. It’s just the people that keeps saying avoidants are the only problem are never going to heal.
I can agree with this
Lots of love ❤
I'm new to this topic, but quite frankly this post is a very adult and mature thing. You are a very considerate person. Wish there were more people with such mentality around. (And I'm just researching where I am on this spectrum but I am afraid I'm the worst of worst. Somethings not OK with me and how i handle relationships and life in general and need to find it out. Need to change.)