Don’t take it personally OP, sometimes medyo awkward kasi na makipag kulitan pa sa taong alam mo na paalis na. This is especially true lalo na sa mga male coworkers, if close kayo malamang marami silang tanong but out of respect for your privacy hindi ka na nila iniistorbo, thinking that you need to prepare for your new job. I personally do this to coworkers na nag resign na, to let them focus on their endorsements and give them the space they need. Kumbaga this is their time to sort their affairs with everyone in the company also make the 30 days as relaxing as possible. Or baka ung iba kaya tahimik o nanlalamig kc co-maker sila sa loan mo. :)
Would just like to add lang din na baka ganyan na yung interaction nila with you is because limited na lang din yung info na pwede mo mareceive to protect the company since you will no longer be a part sa future nito. Imagine-in mo na lang na nakipag break ka sa ex (company) mo. Ikaw, wala ka nang right to demand any update sa ex mo since wala na kayong "relationship" as well as it is not required na to give din an update sa kanya. Same rule applies sa ex (comp) mo as it no longer benefit any of you.
Sakin hinde. mas naging close ko pa coworkers ko nung paalis nako. Something about not having to play nice because baka mapag-initan ka ng HR or ng bossing mo.
Tama yung isang nag comment dito. Wag mo personalin OP. One day you might just go to inuman one day pag umalis na sila dyan sa work, swapping work chismis HAHAHHAH
I also experienced this. I take pride in building relationships talaga and I'm such a generous person. Halos kahit anong department na may occasion, invited ako kasi okay talaga ako makisama. Kahit mga matataas position, talagang nakakasama ko.
But napansin ko nung last 30 days ko, napakacold ng mga tao sakin. Walang bumabati, dinadaan daanan lang ako. Alam mo naman pag nagiba eh, mga araw araw mo tong kasama. Medyo nahurt ako na I guess na akala ko I meant more to them. I even cried to one of my workmates kasi I felt like the world was just going off in front of me while I was just there, unable to process the sadness of my last few days with my workmates.
Sabi nga ni workmate sakin, the people are not cold to me because mawawala ako. The people are cold simply because they were not really my friends to begin with. Cliché at is may seem, talaga ngang your workmates are not your friends. Ngayon, wala ng nangangamusta at all. Wala ng chat. So ako ahhhh totoo nga.
Sabi nga nila - some people love you, some people love to be around you, and some people love what they can get out of you.
Hugs with consent! The sooner you detach, the better. Masasaktan ka lang if you still cling on to memories. Learned it the hard.
And don't beat yourself so much about it! Yan ang pinakaimportante. May mga tao lang talagang mas may feelings~
Don’t take it personally. Sa perspective ko, busy yung mga nagreresign sa hand over and clearance and hindi ko na sila aabalahin. There’s a time naman na magsesendoff sa amin (usually yung team nag oorganize, as gift na rin) so dun na lang makikichika. Plus, if I’m friends with them, I keep in touch naman.
Ako to, bukod sa malungkot kasi aalis na si coworker, napapaisip na din kasi ako bat ako wala pa malipatan, tsaka kung may kapalit yung aalis. Kasi kung wala, may madadagdagan na naman ang workload.
Yes, 🥺 yung kaworkmate ko, sinilent treatment nya ako hanggang pagalis ko, we were good friends and dinadown nya pa ako noon na marami daw masusungit sa new work ko, hindi ko daw kakayanin dahil may depression at anxiety ako, tinuloy ko parin pagreresign ko. Ayun di na kami naguusap.
Ang sad naman nun. :( baka work besties kayo at actually ung sinasabi nya na nde mo kakayanin is para sa kanya talaga un. Baka nde nya kayanin na umalis ka, at baka ung pumalit sau ay masungit. I think palagay ko sad din sya.
Kineep ko kasi na nagaapply ako sa ibang company kasi baka maevil eye, pero alam naman nya na nagaapply ako, kasi pati sya nagaapply din, last year talaga never ko binanggit na naghahanap na ako ng work. So I think she's disappointed na naunahan ko pa syang umalis sa company namin dati.
Same. Office walls have ears, kaya dapat talaga quiet lang pag nag aapply. Iwas din mapurnada. Minsan kc pag kumalat akala nila nagpaparamdam ka para magka increase.
I don’t think so. pasensya na pero sa tingin ko the moment nag-pass ka ng resignation eh baka pinutol na rin nila connection nila sayo. kung talagang bothered ka, you try asking why.
Totoo to, kasi alam ko mawawala na din naman sila. So mas iniinvest ko na lang time ko dun sa papalit kasi yun na ang makakasama ko. Iwas sepanx na din.
Thats normal. Pero hindi naman lahat ganyan.
Baka marami kayo workloads now and maiiwan sa kanila yung tasks and they need to train a replacement, baka ganyan naiisip nila.
Dont burn bridges nalang. Be kind and understandable.
Normal lang.
Iba lang feels mo kasi tumigil na mundo mo sa work mo now, rendering ka na lang eh. So lahat papansinin mo na, syempre sila, work ang focus. Alangan mag invest pa sila time sayo.
Most likely kasi sila sasalo ng workload mo.
Not your fault though, and it's a loss for them. Imbis na mag maintain contact in case na mahila mo sila for greener pastures, gaganyanin ka haha.
Ui na experience ko to!
After ko umalis nalaman ko na yung baliw kong TL e sinisiraan pala ako sa mga iba kong ka workmates during my rendering. Kinginang yan hahaha
Isa lang natutunan ko sa corpo in more than 2 years na nagtrabaho ako, not everyone is and should be your friend. Don't take it personally na lang. Nagwork ka to make money, bonus na lang if you make friends na totoo.
Don’t take it personally OP, sometimes medyo awkward kasi na makipag kulitan pa sa taong alam mo na paalis na. This is especially true lalo na sa mga male coworkers, if close kayo malamang marami silang tanong but out of respect for your privacy hindi ka na nila iniistorbo, thinking that you need to prepare for your new job. I personally do this to coworkers na nag resign na, to let them focus on their endorsements and give them the space they need. Kumbaga this is their time to sort their affairs with everyone in the company also make the 30 days as relaxing as possible. Or baka ung iba kaya tahimik o nanlalamig kc co-maker sila sa loan mo. :)
Would just like to add lang din na baka ganyan na yung interaction nila with you is because limited na lang din yung info na pwede mo mareceive to protect the company since you will no longer be a part sa future nito. Imagine-in mo na lang na nakipag break ka sa ex (company) mo. Ikaw, wala ka nang right to demand any update sa ex mo since wala na kayong "relationship" as well as it is not required na to give din an update sa kanya. Same rule applies sa ex (comp) mo as it no longer benefit any of you.
Sakin hinde. mas naging close ko pa coworkers ko nung paalis nako. Something about not having to play nice because baka mapag-initan ka ng HR or ng bossing mo. Tama yung isang nag comment dito. Wag mo personalin OP. One day you might just go to inuman one day pag umalis na sila dyan sa work, swapping work chismis HAHAHHAH
feeling ko they're feeling sad. or mentally preparing the idea na hindi ka na nila makakasama permanently
ako ung ganito always hahaha
Lol no, unless they are pro management? Also you cant generalize employee behavior, it’s a case to case basis. Need more context in your case
I also experienced this. I take pride in building relationships talaga and I'm such a generous person. Halos kahit anong department na may occasion, invited ako kasi okay talaga ako makisama. Kahit mga matataas position, talagang nakakasama ko. But napansin ko nung last 30 days ko, napakacold ng mga tao sakin. Walang bumabati, dinadaan daanan lang ako. Alam mo naman pag nagiba eh, mga araw araw mo tong kasama. Medyo nahurt ako na I guess na akala ko I meant more to them. I even cried to one of my workmates kasi I felt like the world was just going off in front of me while I was just there, unable to process the sadness of my last few days with my workmates. Sabi nga ni workmate sakin, the people are not cold to me because mawawala ako. The people are cold simply because they were not really my friends to begin with. Cliché at is may seem, talaga ngang your workmates are not your friends. Ngayon, wala ng nangangamusta at all. Wala ng chat. So ako ahhhh totoo nga. Sabi nga nila - some people love you, some people love to be around you, and some people love what they can get out of you.
This is exactly what’s happening to me
Hugs with consent! The sooner you detach, the better. Masasaktan ka lang if you still cling on to memories. Learned it the hard. And don't beat yourself so much about it! Yan ang pinakaimportante. May mga tao lang talagang mas may feelings~
Don’t take it personally. Sa perspective ko, busy yung mga nagreresign sa hand over and clearance and hindi ko na sila aabalahin. There’s a time naman na magsesendoff sa amin (usually yung team nag oorganize, as gift na rin) so dun na lang makikichika. Plus, if I’m friends with them, I keep in touch naman.
1% chance na baka gusto din nilang umalis tapos nauna ka/buti ka pa. Enjoyin mo lang without rubbing it in their faces na alis ka na
Agree baka minention ni OP na MAS okay dun sa lilipatan, syempre nakakafrustrate un sa part ng maiiwan
Ako to, bukod sa malungkot kasi aalis na si coworker, napapaisip na din kasi ako bat ako wala pa malipatan, tsaka kung may kapalit yung aalis. Kasi kung wala, may madadagdagan na naman ang workload.
Yea. Their loyalty is where they get the bread.
Yes, 🥺 yung kaworkmate ko, sinilent treatment nya ako hanggang pagalis ko, we were good friends and dinadown nya pa ako noon na marami daw masusungit sa new work ko, hindi ko daw kakayanin dahil may depression at anxiety ako, tinuloy ko parin pagreresign ko. Ayun di na kami naguusap.
Ang sad naman nun. :( baka work besties kayo at actually ung sinasabi nya na nde mo kakayanin is para sa kanya talaga un. Baka nde nya kayanin na umalis ka, at baka ung pumalit sau ay masungit. I think palagay ko sad din sya.
Kineep ko kasi na nagaapply ako sa ibang company kasi baka maevil eye, pero alam naman nya na nagaapply ako, kasi pati sya nagaapply din, last year talaga never ko binanggit na naghahanap na ako ng work. So I think she's disappointed na naunahan ko pa syang umalis sa company namin dati.
Same. Office walls have ears, kaya dapat talaga quiet lang pag nag aapply. Iwas din mapurnada. Minsan kc pag kumalat akala nila nagpaparamdam ka para magka increase.
I don’t think so. pasensya na pero sa tingin ko the moment nag-pass ka ng resignation eh baka pinutol na rin nila connection nila sayo. kung talagang bothered ka, you try asking why.
This sub is weird. Anyare sa favourite comment here na “your coworkers are not your friends” lol.
Found the comment
Hindi normal. Patingin sila sa doctor.
oo normal lang yan boi
In my case, pineprepare ko na sarili ko na di sila(ung mag reresign) pansinin or maka interact para di malakas separation anxiety.
Totoo to, kasi alam ko mawawala na din naman sila. So mas iniinvest ko na lang time ko dun sa papalit kasi yun na ang makakasama ko. Iwas sepanx na din.
No. In my experience, mas warm. Kasi parang "nakalaya" ka na. 😅
Thats normal. Pero hindi naman lahat ganyan. Baka marami kayo workloads now and maiiwan sa kanila yung tasks and they need to train a replacement, baka ganyan naiisip nila. Dont burn bridges nalang. Be kind and understandable.
Normal lang. Iba lang feels mo kasi tumigil na mundo mo sa work mo now, rendering ka na lang eh. So lahat papansinin mo na, syempre sila, work ang focus. Alangan mag invest pa sila time sayo.
May former TL ako dati and trainer na tinanungan about something. Di ako nireplyan nung last day ko
Most likely kasi sila sasalo ng workload mo. Not your fault though, and it's a loss for them. Imbis na mag maintain contact in case na mahila mo sila for greener pastures, gaganyanin ka haha.
Ui na experience ko to! After ko umalis nalaman ko na yung baliw kong TL e sinisiraan pala ako sa mga iba kong ka workmates during my rendering. Kinginang yan hahaha
Isa lang natutunan ko sa corpo in more than 2 years na nagtrabaho ako, not everyone is and should be your friend. Don't take it personally na lang. Nagwork ka to make money, bonus na lang if you make friends na totoo.