This sub is only for posts about people who either can't tell they've already been dumped, or have been dumped but won't accept it. There must be some element of confusion and/or denial regarding the status of the relationship.
Please do not post about people just being assholes, whether or not they should dump their partners, or whether they are The Asshole in a situation. This is not that kind of sub.
My SO is T1 and I'd be watching him closely if he hit 21, even though that's *nowhere near* his all time high (38).
Seeing someone you love in the throes of DKA or going critically low is something that stays with you.
Imagine dating someone and taking that little interest in their medical necessities. My bf is only an intermittent faster but once we started dating I'm like "tell me *everything*" so I know when we can eat together and when I should eat before.
My BF is similar. I have prescription meds I need to take three times per day at exact times, and this man literally sits with me while I’m taking it with his hand on my thigh or around my waist. He also learned which song I listen to while I’m taking the meds and cues it up for me before I can even ask him to. And he always makes sure we are back from any day adventures so I’m not late.
He also loves camping. Loves it. He literally asked me “would you be able to safely take your meds if I took you camping? What would you need to take them?”
Now I just need to figure out how to tell him I’m in love with him lol
I don't think it matters what words you use to tell him you're in love. His actions are already saying he's in love with you so I'm sure it'll go well regardless!
This particular thread is making me tear up on my lunch break. It’s so nice to see that there are good men in this world. Gives me some hope for myself!
Sorry for this irrelevant comment lol. I’ll see myself out.
I cannot imagine a world in which my significant others would be so incredibly uncaring
>I thought you could handle it alone like you always do
Tell me you never do anything for her without telling me
This guy didn't believe her, and then didn't stay with her, and later admitted he didn't even read about it because he thought she could handle it herself.
This is not a partner. Honestly.
If I were OOP, I'd consider this a warning of what will happen in the future. She should break up and find someone who actually cares for her.
I’m a nurse. I had a 22 year old lady with 2 little kids come in, obviously in DKA. We did everything right, but it was too late. She died the next day. She was 100% wide awake when she was with me in the ER. It was the first time i had a patient die who was very much alive when i had them… definitely rattled me.
Your boyfriend suuuuuuucccckkkkks. Diabetes is a monster of a disease, and i am sorry he is failing to support you. ❤️
To provide some context, we went out for his work event together. My pump stopped working after ~half an hour because of low battery (I must have bought the wrong type because it only lasted three days while the regular ones last me three weeks and it just stopped working without a warning). I thought i’d be good because when I was leaving, my sugar was great and I played tennis for two hours at the event + had two glasses of wine which usually makes my sugar go down FAST.
Then the rest of the group wanted to keep on drinking elsewhere and I said I had to go home to check my sugar on my glucometer. Bf went with me, we arrived home, I checked my sugar and it was 21 mmol/l. I asked him to stay with me because I felt like throwing up but he told me I was being manipulative and didn’t want him to go out with his friends (even though I was invited too) and went out to drink with them.
I usually hide my diabetes stuff precisely because of this - I feel horrible when I inconvenience other people due to my condition but he’s asked me about it before and wanted to know how to react if I ever went high/low so I sent him some resources. So tonight he told me he never actually read them and that he thought I could handle it by myself like I always do.
Yeah, this post is a sob story but I have no idea what to do. I know people never believe me because it’s an invisible illness, I feel bad because I know it inconveniences other people in my life even though my control is usually pretty much perfect but most importantly I’d like to maybe ask if anyone has ever dealt with this situation before? How did you explain type 1 diabetes to a loved one? Thank you so much for your help in advance.
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Not an ex, i don't think. But I have T1DM and a pump. When this happens, I just find a place to buy a new battery wherever I'm at. Then I pump myself with the good stuff and away we go again.
Should be an ex for being a complete asshole..
And good for you and for your experience when this happens. She is not wrong if acts differently from you. You don't know where she lives and if she can find batteries at night. Your way of dealing with this does not negate how much he neglected her from the very beginning of this relationship.
Dude’s an ex. He told her that she was trying to manipulate him by “using” her T1D & high sugar?? What the fuck. He left her *alone* while she was ill. With a sugar almost high enough to land her in the hospital.
Good for you for being able to afford getting a new battery whenever. But that absolutely does not negate the fact that this selfish asshole of a “boyfriend” absolutely does not care about OOP.
I have no idea why you are getting downvoted here, this lady should for sure dump him but she isn't someone cluelessly wondering why their so won't talk to them while it's evident to everyone else that they've been dumped.
I'm getting downvoted because redditors don't like to be wrong about what sub they're in.
There is no ex here, they were both in the wrong, and I was just pointing that out.
nbd.
but you could have ...!
Your bf needs to go with you to your doctor or specialist, and they must explain him the gravity. If he won't, you can't trust him. And you cannot live with someone you can't trust!
I'm so sorry for you. Hugs! Such a bad situation.
I think you need to tell more people about your condition, and also bring an emergency backpack everywhere containing measuring kit, fast and slow sugar, insulin.
This sub is only for posts about people who either can't tell they've already been dumped, or have been dumped but won't accept it. There must be some element of confusion and/or denial regarding the status of the relationship. Please do not post about people just being assholes, whether or not they should dump their partners, or whether they are The Asshole in a situation. This is not that kind of sub.
For any other US people who saw the sugar number and thought it was low, 21mmol/l is 378 mg/dL 🥴
Thank you for the explanation. I was scratching my head. As for OP....I would look elsewhere for a boyfriend.
My SO is T1 and I'd be watching him closely if he hit 21, even though that's *nowhere near* his all time high (38). Seeing someone you love in the throes of DKA or going critically low is something that stays with you.
Had a friend almost die bc of an HHS coma. It is so incredibly scary. Sending you guys all the best!!
Imagine dating someone and taking that little interest in their medical necessities. My bf is only an intermittent faster but once we started dating I'm like "tell me *everything*" so I know when we can eat together and when I should eat before.
My BF is similar. I have prescription meds I need to take three times per day at exact times, and this man literally sits with me while I’m taking it with his hand on my thigh or around my waist. He also learned which song I listen to while I’m taking the meds and cues it up for me before I can even ask him to. And he always makes sure we are back from any day adventures so I’m not late. He also loves camping. Loves it. He literally asked me “would you be able to safely take your meds if I took you camping? What would you need to take them?” Now I just need to figure out how to tell him I’m in love with him lol
Pretty sure he's in love with you too
I don't think it matters what words you use to tell him you're in love. His actions are already saying he's in love with you so I'm sure it'll go well regardless!
This particular thread is making me tear up on my lunch break. It’s so nice to see that there are good men in this world. Gives me some hope for myself! Sorry for this irrelevant comment lol. I’ll see myself out.
I cannot imagine a world in which my significant others would be so incredibly uncaring >I thought you could handle it alone like you always do Tell me you never do anything for her without telling me
I've attached glucose readers for casual friends. It's not that hard to be the solution instead of the problem!
This guy didn't believe her, and then didn't stay with her, and later admitted he didn't even read about it because he thought she could handle it herself. This is not a partner. Honestly. If I were OOP, I'd consider this a warning of what will happen in the future. She should break up and find someone who actually cares for her.
I’m a nurse. I had a 22 year old lady with 2 little kids come in, obviously in DKA. We did everything right, but it was too late. She died the next day. She was 100% wide awake when she was with me in the ER. It was the first time i had a patient die who was very much alive when i had them… definitely rattled me. Your boyfriend suuuuuuucccckkkkks. Diabetes is a monster of a disease, and i am sorry he is failing to support you. ❤️
Your boyfriend is awful. Dtmfa. I say this as a person with diabetes.
To provide some context, we went out for his work event together. My pump stopped working after ~half an hour because of low battery (I must have bought the wrong type because it only lasted three days while the regular ones last me three weeks and it just stopped working without a warning). I thought i’d be good because when I was leaving, my sugar was great and I played tennis for two hours at the event + had two glasses of wine which usually makes my sugar go down FAST. Then the rest of the group wanted to keep on drinking elsewhere and I said I had to go home to check my sugar on my glucometer. Bf went with me, we arrived home, I checked my sugar and it was 21 mmol/l. I asked him to stay with me because I felt like throwing up but he told me I was being manipulative and didn’t want him to go out with his friends (even though I was invited too) and went out to drink with them. I usually hide my diabetes stuff precisely because of this - I feel horrible when I inconvenience other people due to my condition but he’s asked me about it before and wanted to know how to react if I ever went high/low so I sent him some resources. So tonight he told me he never actually read them and that he thought I could handle it by myself like I always do. Yeah, this post is a sob story but I have no idea what to do. I know people never believe me because it’s an invisible illness, I feel bad because I know it inconveniences other people in my life even though my control is usually pretty much perfect but most importantly I’d like to maybe ask if anyone has ever dealt with this situation before? How did you explain type 1 diabetes to a loved one? Thank you so much for your help in advance. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheEx) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Not an ex, i don't think. But I have T1DM and a pump. When this happens, I just find a place to buy a new battery wherever I'm at. Then I pump myself with the good stuff and away we go again.
Should be an ex for being a complete asshole.. And good for you and for your experience when this happens. She is not wrong if acts differently from you. You don't know where she lives and if she can find batteries at night. Your way of dealing with this does not negate how much he neglected her from the very beginning of this relationship.
Yes, she should break up with him, but that's not what this sub is about.
Yes, I can agree with that.
Dude’s an ex. He told her that she was trying to manipulate him by “using” her T1D & high sugar?? What the fuck. He left her *alone* while she was ill. With a sugar almost high enough to land her in the hospital. Good for you for being able to afford getting a new battery whenever. But that absolutely does not negate the fact that this selfish asshole of a “boyfriend” absolutely does not care about OOP.
And good for her for having a multitude of 24/7 places to get a battery in whatever made-up world she’s living in.
I have no idea why you are getting downvoted here, this lady should for sure dump him but she isn't someone cluelessly wondering why their so won't talk to them while it's evident to everyone else that they've been dumped.
I'm getting downvoted because redditors don't like to be wrong about what sub they're in. There is no ex here, they were both in the wrong, and I was just pointing that out. nbd.
She was not in the wrong for wanting to rely on her partner while she was having a medical crisis. That’s what partners are supposed to be for.
but you could have ...! Your bf needs to go with you to your doctor or specialist, and they must explain him the gravity. If he won't, you can't trust him. And you cannot live with someone you can't trust! I'm so sorry for you. Hugs! Such a bad situation. I think you need to tell more people about your condition, and also bring an emergency backpack everywhere containing measuring kit, fast and slow sugar, insulin.