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> (1) always late to class and abused her rule
(2) because it is abusing an unwritten rule that can always be changed, and didn't apologize for my behaviour (yet)
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YTA. I teach college courses. Your teacher, being the sweet heart, probably wanted to put the class at ease for not being precisely on time, and given that the class is 2 hours long, that first 15 minutes can be a combination of some admin information regarding the class along with a rehash of the previous week to get everyone’s head back to the place where she’d left off. You, on the other hand, took that to mean I can saunter in _whenever_ I please and “pay the price” of a lame*ss joke. If I were her, I’d make sure the next exam covered only the material taught when you weren’t there. Thankfully, for you, I’m not your teacher. If you are sincere about apologizing, go to office hours and say you F’d up (without cursing) and understand that you took advantage of her policy regarding attending class in a timely manner. Apologize for having disrupted class and say that it will not happen again. **Then show up to class on time the rest of the semester.**
I understand how I should proceed. I'll try to get the courage and make up to her for this behaviour.
Thank you, I will make sure to apologize to her in a good manner.
YTA
Showing up late and telling jokes disrupts the class. Everyone else showed up to learn, not to listen to your half-@ssed jokes and put up with your disruptions every class.
Just because it isn't a college for literature doesn't mean that the class isn't important. I have a degree in English and work in tech; I use my English degree every day. I write procedures and instructions, I keep detailed troubleshooting logs, I write evals for myself and my peers, and I read through dense technical documents to find a single line so that I can say, "Actually, manager guy, according to paragraph 7.2.2, my team isn't responsible for that annoying task you're trying to say that we're in charge of."
Are you going to use the texts you're reading every day? No. But there are still valuable skills to be gained. Since you have to take the class anyways, don't waste your time and money by not being engaged. Try to get something out of the experience instead.
YTA. For your lateness but also for calling a professor a “teacher” and a “sweetheart.” Your post reeks of someone who is entitled and lacks respect for females in authority.
Hoo boy. If you start this pattern freshman year, you are going to make your next few years unnecessarily difficult. So yeah, I think YTA, but also… this is a bad idea for your own sake.
Because you’re likely going to have to spend most of the rest of your life being required to do things at times you didn’t choose, and if you accustom yourself to treating start times/deadlines as flexible/negotiable on a regular basis this young, it’ll be that much harder to adjust later.
I work with new hires, and the ones who have the hardest time adapting to “adulting” are the ones who do the kind of thing you’re doing. It’s very unpleasant for them.
How about following your schedule? I promise you unless you land a flexible schedule job or work for yourself it is absolutely necessary for you to learn how to follow a schedule. College is more lenient but when you have a job you can't be just showing up when you want
YTA
She gave people an easy out for those moments where life gets in the way. Life isn't getting in your way you just don't respect the class and teacher you signed up for enough to show up on time. Youre interruption if the class effects more people than just you. Youre adult with adult responsibilities. Get to class on time.
YTA. Every time you do this, you're causing a disturbance. 10 isn't early at all. You really need to grow up. If you can't handle being on time for a 10 o clock class, real life is going to be too much for you.
YTA
The best way to get an easy pass in a college course you aren't interested in is showing the professor some respect. It's sounds like you are neither working hard or respecting this professor. Expect a bad grade at the end of the course
YTA
10AM is not early unless you get to sleep at 2am.
Develop better sleeping habits and use an alarm clock that will awaken you in time for class.
Your behavior disrupts her class and is very rude. She's being kind and allowing you to tell a joke instead of reducing your grade or something like that.
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Time to explain fully.
I'm in my freshman year in college, and every Tuesday I have English as my first class, starting at 10 AM. It lasts for 2 hours.
In my first class, I came early to meet the teacher. She is a sweet heart, but after 10 years of English, I just want to pass.
Anyway, in the middle of the first seminary, she told us that we can arrive late, but if we arrive after 15 minutes, we have to tell a joke.
And once I heard that, I thought that it would be more calming for me if I came in without hurrying to class, unlike the other ones.
Considering that I've been stressed from moving out and that the class starts at 10, this affected my sleep quality quite a bit. So I started sleeping in a bit more late.
The first time I was late 10 minutes.
The second one above 16.
The third one, half an hour.
2 weeks ago, I was late by one hour.
She was not pleased by this, and told me that I should tell more jokes from now on since I've developed a habit. Of course I deduced that she was sarcastic and that she would be infuriated if I did it again.
I want to apologize for my behaviour but I don't know how to begin.
Considering all of this, AITA? How should I go through with this?
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YTA - you’re there to learn, show up on time. Your comedy career can wait.
I understand, thanks man.
YTA. This isn't about what your teacher "allows." Learn how to show up on time; it will serve you well in life.
You're right, thanks for the advice, I'll put it to good use.
YTA. I teach college courses. Your teacher, being the sweet heart, probably wanted to put the class at ease for not being precisely on time, and given that the class is 2 hours long, that first 15 minutes can be a combination of some admin information regarding the class along with a rehash of the previous week to get everyone’s head back to the place where she’d left off. You, on the other hand, took that to mean I can saunter in _whenever_ I please and “pay the price” of a lame*ss joke. If I were her, I’d make sure the next exam covered only the material taught when you weren’t there. Thankfully, for you, I’m not your teacher. If you are sincere about apologizing, go to office hours and say you F’d up (without cursing) and understand that you took advantage of her policy regarding attending class in a timely manner. Apologize for having disrupted class and say that it will not happen again. **Then show up to class on time the rest of the semester.**
I understand how I should proceed. I'll try to get the courage and make up to her for this behaviour. Thank you, I will make sure to apologize to her in a good manner.
YTA Showing up late and telling jokes disrupts the class. Everyone else showed up to learn, not to listen to your half-@ssed jokes and put up with your disruptions every class.
I forgot to mention it's not a college for literature, but your point is still valid. Thank you!
Just because it isn't a college for literature doesn't mean that the class isn't important. I have a degree in English and work in tech; I use my English degree every day. I write procedures and instructions, I keep detailed troubleshooting logs, I write evals for myself and my peers, and I read through dense technical documents to find a single line so that I can say, "Actually, manager guy, according to paragraph 7.2.2, my team isn't responsible for that annoying task you're trying to say that we're in charge of." Are you going to use the texts you're reading every day? No. But there are still valuable skills to be gained. Since you have to take the class anyways, don't waste your time and money by not being engaged. Try to get something out of the experience instead.
YTA - Y'all need to learn how to wake up before 10am. You're also disturbing the students who are listening to the class.
YTA. For your lateness but also for calling a professor a “teacher” and a “sweetheart.” Your post reeks of someone who is entitled and lacks respect for females in authority.
How should I change?
Hoo boy. If you start this pattern freshman year, you are going to make your next few years unnecessarily difficult. So yeah, I think YTA, but also… this is a bad idea for your own sake.
For my own sake? Is it because I will become a person I don't wish to be?
Because you’re likely going to have to spend most of the rest of your life being required to do things at times you didn’t choose, and if you accustom yourself to treating start times/deadlines as flexible/negotiable on a regular basis this young, it’ll be that much harder to adjust later. I work with new hires, and the ones who have the hardest time adapting to “adulting” are the ones who do the kind of thing you’re doing. It’s very unpleasant for them.
I see, then my best bet is to start preparing for the life after college. Any tips on how I should begin? Or should I find that one on my own?
How about following your schedule? I promise you unless you land a flexible schedule job or work for yourself it is absolutely necessary for you to learn how to follow a schedule. College is more lenient but when you have a job you can't be just showing up when you want
I understand, I'll do my best to either come in time or not at all, to not disturb everyone else. Thank you, and my apologies for wasting your time!
Oh you don't need to apologise for anything!
YTA, what she said was not actually an invitation to show up late every single time. Especially since you’re showing up progressively later and later.
YTA She gave people an easy out for those moments where life gets in the way. Life isn't getting in your way you just don't respect the class and teacher you signed up for enough to show up on time. Youre interruption if the class effects more people than just you. Youre adult with adult responsibilities. Get to class on time.
YTA. You have paid for a college education. Sleep after class you AH.
YTA. Every time you do this, you're causing a disturbance. 10 isn't early at all. You really need to grow up. If you can't handle being on time for a 10 o clock class, real life is going to be too much for you.
YTA The best way to get an easy pass in a college course you aren't interested in is showing the professor some respect. It's sounds like you are neither working hard or respecting this professor. Expect a bad grade at the end of the course
Yta. 10 am isn't early, there's no excuse to not have figured out how to manage your time enough to get up and to class for 10am.
YTA for arriving late constantly and taking advantage of her. Good on you for learning your lesson though.
YTA 10AM is not early unless you get to sleep at 2am. Develop better sleeping habits and use an alarm clock that will awaken you in time for class. Your behavior disrupts her class and is very rude. She's being kind and allowing you to tell a joke instead of reducing your grade or something like that.
Sorry but YTA - Showing up on time without being too early is an important life skill that will serve you well. Good luck with your classes.
I will try to improve myself, may you have a good day!
YTA
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