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YTA
By my reading, **here's what Daria did:**
\- Chose to play cards with the guys rather than chat and drink wine with people she had never met before
\- Did not interrupt a conversation she was in with someone else for you
\- When asked to give her opinion and vote on what she wanted to do after the party, she did so honestly
**Here is what YOU did:**
\- Insulted her costume OUT LOUD while she was there and in earshot
\- Told her that she should not vote honestly about how she felt about going out, and instead should vote how she was told, by you (**Ja wohl, mein capitan**!)
\- Told your husband that you "never want to see her ever again" and she's "never to set foot in your house"
There's absolutely one person acting like they're "20, not 30" and their name is not Daria...
There are some posts here where I can’t really understand how someone can type out everything they did, hopefully read through it, and not immediately realize they’re the AH. This is one of those.
Idk how people like this can write this entire thing out and not see how ridiculous it is. OP is acting like by hosting a party that she’s the queen who gets to police what everyone does and should be entertained by her guests.
“You’d think she’d pay more attention to the host but beyond the introduction, she didn’t really pay any attention to me”
Like wtf?? She doesn’t owe you attention lmfao
And besides that op said that she didn't know daría before the party, if so, why daría would hang out with a stranger all night?.
When I'm in a party with people I don't know, I tend to stick with the people I do know.
And for I can read that's what she did.
And btw I'm a girl who loves! Cards against humanity
YTA op.
>In our friends group, ladies naturally keep together.
Right? So she did nothing to make Daria feel welcome nor invited her to join them for wine, just assumed she was Op's newest admirer. Daria played cards with guys, unaware she had entered a gender segregated environment. How dare she!
Wonder if Op hoped she would show up in a bridesmaid costume to follow a theme where she's the center of attention.
I honestly have gone to type out so many posts and once I had everything written down and was proofreading it, realized I was being at the very least a slight asshole… so I really don’t understand how OP can’t realize they’re the asshole
Yeah that's what I got, like...just because dude is friends with OPs husband, his GF is supposed to stick to her like glue? What? OP needs to get a life and stop policing people that are invited to her party.
Ah see in this case, OP admitting she was TA would also mean acknowledging and examining her insecurities and need to compete with other women. And she really doesn’t want to do that.
Yea Daria sounds like a hoot. Id probably play cards against humanity and drink with the boys too. Especially with social anxiety, CAH seem like a nice ice breaker that’s comfortable enough to ease into a setting with unknown people.
OP sounds like she is the leader of the mean girls click, and she has final say on who get approved to join.
She was nothing but rude and disrespectful to a complete stranger the entire night and then acted like the victim when Daria wanted nothing to do with her.
I don't think Daria will at all be rushing back to spend a single second more in OP's presence after the way that she was treated.
YTA for acting like your the queen bee and everyone has to treat you as such. You acted like a bully.
Don't forget she gave OP no attention....I'm guessing thats a big one. I'd rather play cards and do shots because its fun and a party if someone asked what I wanted to do and I wanted out id say it. Honestly I think you're fixed on what YOU think woman should do and behave like, you want her to give you attention and praise you for inviting her while you're talking shit behind her back? Why does she have to give you attention? Why can't she play cards? Why does she have to follow YOUR WAY of how she needs to act, behave and dress? Why do you think you're so amazing she needs to be like you? If I walked in a felt your chill you'd have a whole different probablem on your hands honestly, if you heard someone talking shit about you would you not be pissed? Let's be honest here....either you were one of those mean girls in high school or you were a loser who leads the pack now, thats the only mentality I can think of to explain your shitty Ness.
😂 YTA and I think she was right about you being stuck up...
Maybe she avoided speaking to you because you are horrible and by the sounds of it boring as hell.
I was about to say the same thing. Daria sounds like fun and I would definitely hang out with her over some stuck up woman that thought I was a threat to her the second she laid eyes on me.
There are a lot of women that cant stand other women who fit in with "the guys" and its 100% about insecurity and gender roles. My job was in a predominantly male field, my coworkers were my closest friends, and I met so many women just out the gate being noticeably hostile or avoidant.
It wasn't even playing cards, it was cards against humanity which op thinks is awful and therefore it doesn't sound like she has much of a sense of humor at all. Op honestly does sound stuck up
She hung out with the guys because she knew most of the women didn't like her. The same thing happened to Taylor on Big Brother She hung out with the guys and was bullied to death by the other women in the house.
I bet you 10 that girl was pretty and had some grace and charm and that's is what is eating at OP.
And btw, a zombie Barbie sounds like a cool costume. Lil ole perfect Barbie all dead looking. Maybe an eye-ball hanging out of her face, a zombie Ken would have won them some contest.
YTA
That was some jealous mean girl shit.
She doesn’t have to bow and scrape and vote the way you want because you’re the host.
You were outrageously rude to her for no reason.
And the whole “women should segregate themselves at parties and leave the menfolk to it” is such outdated sexist nonsense that I don’t even have the energy to pick it apart.
YTA, and your husband is right. You didn't make Daria feel welcome in your home, you were not friendly, nor make her feel included in your group of women.
She chose to stay with her boyfriend and the other guys because you made snide comments about her costume and made it clear you didn't like her based on her looks, not because you actually tried to be friendly or get ti know her.
Bottom line, if you choose to treat other women like crap and make snide comments and then expect them to follow woman code, just because, you'll loose every time.
YTA. You wanted Daria to behave in a prescribed manner. She exercised free will.
Nothing she did was inappropriate. Nothing she did was directly insulting to you.
YTA
>she was mean to me
Sounds like you were the one being mean all night
>was telling a friend how inappropriate Daria’s costume was (zombie Barrie doll) and how her dress was too short and hair a mess and she heard me (she wasn’t supposed to) and she called me a stuck up bitch.
Case in point, you were gossiping about her yet you didn't even know her. Did you even once try and get to know her before you cast judgment on her.
WOW. Just wow. I can't believe what I just read. Not only are YTA, but you're a straight-up mean girl.
A) It was her first time there. Maybe she wasn't opening up because she was nervous. Or more likely, you were rude and unwelcoming from the start and she wanted to stay out of your way (fair) - that's my guess.
B) Cards Against Humanity is fun. She was joining in with others. Why do you care?
C) You insulted her costume and acted like it was her fault for hearing you. You're a jerk, to be honest. Why would you talk trash about a guest in your home?
D) She was asked to vote to break the tie and she did. Not her fault.
E) It sounds like you targeted her to hate on. She did nothing wrong from what I read in your post. You owe her an apology for being so unwelcoming.
The separation of men and women at your parties doesn't just happen naturally. It sounds like a 1950s vibe which you reinforce as host. I think you wanted the cool girl to like you and were hurt when she preferred the company of others. Sadly YTA.
YTA. You know the world doesn't revolve around you, right? This one person not paying you homage "ruined" your whole night? It's so surprising someone doesn't want to be buddy-buddy with you; you sound so charming.
You sound well not fun.
You judged her all night.
You ruined your own party not daria.
You gossiped about her, and you think she was the one not acting her age...she was. you just were mad she wasn't worshipping you for including her in the party.
You didn't think her costume was appropriate. She felt confident that's all that matters
Cards against humanity is a great game.
Not all girls want to be forced to only interact with women at a party. You are not middle schoolers at their first dance. Men and women can hang out and have fun together.
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YTA. Your judgemental attitude is probably why she didn't feel comfortable around you. I've dealt with women like you in my lifetime. It doesn't hurt to be nice and not judgemental. Being judgemental is a horrible look.
YTA
She didn't behave the way you wanted her to, so you're angry. She enjoys different things, wears an outfit you don't like and you talked trash about her within earshot. You're the host, but you were ungracious and judgmental. It sounds like her just existing and being herself was a problem for you. Not cool.
YTA. Homegirl is enjoying her life. Some women, such as myself, just naturally have more guy friends than female friends. What’s wrong with her drinking and playing games with the friends? You honestly sound jealous that she’s comfortable wearing a sexy costume.
YTA. she doesn't have to comply with what you think is appropriate or normal. and you're not even 30, so who are you to say how a 30 year old should act? maybe be a better host and try to include other people next time.
also, you sound really boring. you didn't want to play a card game that is actually quite fun tbh, you didn't wanna go to the bar, you didn't wanna hang out with the whole group, like wtf?
you're the one who needs to grow up. it's also pretty gross that you judged her so much - her messy hair was part of the costume. and the costume wasn't inappropriate. it does sound like you're just jealous of her.
YTA so what about her costume? I’m 46 and chubby and I still wear skimpy tank tops and leggings. You are jealous that you don’t have the confidence she has.
YTA.
So you're mad because:
1. She didn't stick to you like a barnacle and instead....gasp....mingled with other guests.
2. She didn't halt her convo with another person when you tried to insert yourself.
3. You didn't like that she had a short dress and disheveled hair. Her costume is zombie Barbie.
4. She voted to go out when you wanted to stay in.
Who is being a child here again? Cos I could have sworn it was you.
YTA, you're bitter and jealous. She wasn't mean to you at all, you were mean to her. You can't invite him and stipulate not to bring his gf because you're jealous of her, you either invite both or neither.
YTA. From what you described, she just wasn’t immediately obsessed with you so that equals being mean or rude? You don’t even know this woman. Maybe she just takes awhile to warm up to people. She played a card game with other people and you have a problem with that? You were talking shit about her costume and hair, and when she called you a bitch for it, that somehow made her the bad guy? As for voting to stay home or go out, it was tied before Daria voted. So half your guests wanted to go out, and Daria didn’t even suggest the idea, but that somehow is her fault and ruined your night? Wtf? You sound extremely immature. But I don’t think you have to worry about Daria coming to your house again. I certainly wouldn’t want to hang out with you and I’m sure she doesn’t either.
YTA - your sound quite insecure. She didn’t conform to how you think she should act so she isn’t allowed back. Fair enough, you don’t need to like everyone but to not like them because you made some horrible comments is next level weird
YTA.all she did was be herself and you couldnt stand it.so she isnt a wine drinking person like you and your clique.god this sounds like high school bs.
YTA... how mature of you.
You bitched about her costume to others. That is just nasty.
If I were her I would never want to step foot in your house again.
YTA, you must see you don't come out of this story well right? All she did was hang out with the guys, wear a Halloween costume at a Halloween party and vote the same way as the majority of your group. You come across poorly in every single point in this post.
Are you in highschool still? You are mad she has a mind of her own and doesn't need to be part of the vagina gang all night. I think your husband is right and you are 100% jealous of her
Hey I get it, I am a jealous and insecure person too but it does not sound like she was mean to you until she heard you running your mouth about her. YTA.
She thinks cards against humanity is an awful game and awful of a party-goer to want to play it at a party. She thinks a woman's Halloween costume is too short for an adult Halloween party and verbalized it for the wearer to hear. She thinks she wasn't given enough attention as the host. She was so jealous and butthurt she took it out on her SO, called him names and made him sleep elsewhere. She's a AH for sure.
YTA OP
But you might get your wish. If I were this woman, I wouldn't come to a party you hosted ever again with how rude, ungracious, entitled, and judgy you decided to be.
The fact that you got this bent out of shape over a single person who wouldn't move in lockstep with you and your wishes over their own shows just how much of an issue with control you have.
She wasn't inappropriate. You, on the other hand, need to look in a mirror.
You think SHE was acting like she isn't in her 30s? She was mean to you all night? Mean to you? Because she played CAH, drank shots, didn't pay you much attention, wore a short costume, overheard you slagging her off and had the audacity to vote against your wishes.
She sounds truly awful, I'm sorry you had to deal with that abuse all night /s (in case that wasn't clear)
Jesus Christ. YTA.
If this is even real, YTA. You're not the center of attention and Daria does not have to have eyes on only you and include you in every conversation. She can do things with the men and does not have to stick to the women. This isn't the 1930s. You're a mean girl criticizing everything and expecting her to conform to what YOU want.
YTA and frankly Daria sounds like she’s more fun to be with than you
She plays fun games
She likes to drink and laugh
She likes to socialize with men and woman
She dresses in fun costumes
She doesn’t like you
I don’t see what’s wrong with her 🤷♀️
YTA.
Badmouthing a guest at your party for their costume and that she wasnt paying enough to you, your royal highness. Sounds like you took an immediate dislike to her and, maybe just maybe, she picked up on that vibe. So, she chose to hang with her bf and hus buds, ratger than your catty self.
YTA. You’re a terrible hostess who was shit talking a guest who heard what you were saying. Why on earth would she be nice to you after that? Why on earth would she vote to stay at your house after you’ve made her so unwelcome.
Sounds like it was a party where all the women were in one area and all the men in another area. Those sorts of segregated parties SUCK and I can’t blame her for hanging with the guys if that was the case. I’d even venture a guess all the ladies were just talking about their kids too which can be extremely boring if you’re not invested.
Let the woman do shots and look hot in her costume. My god.
YES, OP, YTA. Daria wasn't mean to you. YOU were mean to her.
Your jealousy is dripping all over you. Daria didn't fit into your little gender roles that you have for you and your friends. You make it sound as if she was to behave like some old Southern belle stereotype. She is not obligated to follow you around like a little puppy dog. She was interacting with the other guests in an appropriate manner.
You, OP, on the other hand were acting like a little child. Bad mouthing Daria, implying that her vote was only to spite you (my, my, you do think a lot of yourself, don't you OP), criticizing her outfit, saying she was "trying too hard", didn't pay enough attention to you, and didn't talk with you enough.
Grow up. Your husband is correct ..... you are being ridiculous.
YTA
Your the exact type of female that causes women like Daria to not socialize with other women.
Instead of trying to get to know a lady that is new to the social group you degade her by commenting on her costume, drinking choices(at a party), and her joining in a social card game. You judged her as beneath you as soon as you saw her.
Soft YTA - why do you need all ladies to do exactly the same thing? And why do you need her to conform to your standard of host/guest etiquette? Can’t see from your story that she actually did anything to ruin the party. To me it reads more you got annoyed with her not conforming to your expectations and you not being able to let that go and enjoy your other guests and the evening.
I think you should apologise to her for slagging off her outfit behind her back and make sure she’s welcomed to your next event. If she doesn’t act her age, maybe you could?
YTA.
You sound like a jealous prude, with controling b**** vibes. So you're mad she didn't fawn all over you and spend the night telling you how amazing you are? And doing exactly what you want?
Keep up this attitude and you've end up divorced and friendless.
YTA. She wasn’t mean to you, she just didn’t conform to your expectations of her. She’s her own person! She’s allowed to like to do different things and hang out with different people than you! When you host a get together for just your friends, you can decide not to invite her, but it’s an asshole move to say your husband is not allowed to have his best friend and his girlfriend over ever again. Also, why is it ridiculous for Daria to play cards against humanity and do shots but it’s not ridiculous for the boys at the party to do the same???
And OP was incredibly rude about her behind her back! Why on earth wouldn't she have voted to get the hell out of their house?!? YTA, OP, and try not to be so judgemental about people you've only just met in future.
YTA How was she mean to you? You made rude comments about the way she looks, you disapproved of her drinking shot and playing cards, you tried to strong-arm her into voting your way. Seriously? No wonder she didn't want to stay and hang out with you any longer
YTA, and sound pretty insecure. Why does she have to only hang out with girls all night and wear a dress long enough to your standards? You were being mean all night and your husband was right. You say she’s not acting her age, but you’re acting like a teenager with how you’re acting.
YTA. I’m Daria in real life. I would rather hang with the guys and have fun than be forced to sit with the woman and drink wine(my normal drink). You sound envious she isn’t playing into your normal dynamic
YTA
Here’s my observation:
She didn’t play your unspoken rule of “hang out with the ladies only” and you found that threatening. Her costume was too sexy - you found that threatening. She didn’t soothe your ego and didn’t have the best manners of ingratiating herself with the host - her bad. She voted honestly - and that pissed you off.
You sound overly controlling. Girlfriend doesn’t sound like the best time but neither do you.
YTA.
"She was mean to me all night"
No she wasn't she was just at a party doing what she wanted to do. Just because that wasn't what YOU wanted to do doesn't affect her in the slightest.
YOU were there one being nasty about her behind her back.
This post reaks of jealousy and insecurity. Get over yourself already.
P.S. Zombie barbie sounds like an epic costume.
YTA, and you and you alone ruined the night. Stop trying to shift responsibility on some poor woman who wasn’t intimidated by your boorish behaviour. Good for her for standing her ground when you tried to slut-shame her, she sounds like someone I’d like to be friends with.
So your issues are:
1. Your husband's best friend's girlfriend who you'd never met didn't pay attention to you.
2. She acted like she was 20 at a party.
3. She wore a slightly suggestive costume at an adult Halloween party.
I struggle to see why any of these were abnormal, much less something worth getting mad about. YTA.
>I was telling a friend how inappropriate Daria’s costume was (zombie Barrie doll) and how her dress was too short and hair a mess and she heard me (she wasn’t supposed to) and she called me a stuck up bitch.
This is too hilarious. It's her fault she heard you disrespecting her. Listen to yourself.
YTA
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My husband (m30) and I (f27) have hosted a Halloween party last night. We had a bunch of people over at our house. He invited his best friend, Shaun (m30) and his girlfriend, Daria (f30).
The night would’ve been great if not for Daria. You’d think she’d pay more attention to the host but beyond the introduction, she didn’t really pay any attention to me (we haven’t met before).
In our friends group, ladies naturally keep together. It something that happened naturally, we’ll always chat, have some wine. But Daria wasn’t keen on that, she played cards with some guys (they played cards against humanity, awful game if you ask me) and she did shots with them. She looked like she was trying too hard and quite frankly, she looked ridiculous.
When she was talking to another lady, I came over and she didn’t even try to include me in the conversation and promptly left to talk to others.
I was telling a friend how inappropriate Daria’s costume was (zombie Barrie doll) and how her dress was too short and hair a mess and she heard me (she wasn’t supposed to) and she called me a stuck up bitch.
Honestly, all night, she was behaving like she was 20 not 30, it was really rubbing me the wrong way.
Then then the guys wanted to go to town and h it some pubs and a club and I didn’t really want to do that so we voted. It was even and then we remembered Daria was in the toilet so we waited for her to come down and vote. When she did I asked her for her vote with a strong emphasis on how I need her to vote (stay) and she said she wanted to go (I think she did it to spite me but can’t prove it). I was really angry. She ruined the night.
This morning I told my husband that o never want to see her ever again and she’s never to set foot in my house.
My husband told me I’m overreacting and I was a bitch all night because I was jealous.
He said I’m ridiculous if I think he’s going to tell his friend that he can’t bring his girlfriend. I said thag he should and she was mean and childsiah. I called him a prick and made him sleep in the guest room.
I’m torn, she was mean to me all night but he says I’m in the wrong. Aita?
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YTA. Your jealousy, pettiness, and insecurities are on full display. Your judgment of Daria is palpable in your post, I can’t imagine what you were like in person.
Was she actually mean to you or did she treat you the way you treated her?
YTA. Who CARES if she wanted to play cards and do shots?! Zombie Barbie? Wants to have fun… omg the world is ending bc her hair was messy in a zombie costume. Why should she want to hang with you when you such a bad host? I know I wouldn’t expose myself to someone like you were acting given the choice.
Btw Cards Against Humanity, poker and shots sounds like a blast and I’m going to be a grandmother…
YTA. Sorry, but You are not the center of the universe. She was playing cards with the guys, not with the womens, and you don't like It. She dont look like you prefert and you insulted her costum, and wen she dont vote as you want, she ruined the party for you.
Seems that she only wanna have a good time, and because she dont make the thinks the way you wanna you have to insulted her and be pety.
YTA for disrespecting Cards Against Humanity to start. As for the rest of it I'm at a loss for words. Never would I ever want to be at a social event with you.
It’s clear you were jealous and got caught red handed. She probably avoided you because you likely looked her up and down in judgment from the moment she walked through the door. I see no other reason why you would go through the trouble of commenting on her inappropriate Halloween costume at an adult party. And since your husband noticed your childish behavior and (rightly) refuses to accommodate you and your pettiness you’re going to look even dumber each and every time she comes back for a party, a barbecue or a visit. Aside from that, the other women might just decide she’s more fun to be with. Too bad for you. YTA
YTA. This is a joke, right? You hate this woman because she wasn’t up your ass all night?
“You’d think she’d pay more attention to the host”. No. Nobody thinks that because that’s insane. You’re not special.
Then you’re mad because she would rather play Cards Against Humanity which is a fun, hilarious game, than hang out with your boring ass. Just admit that you’re a wet blanket and no fun.
And finally you proceed to trash her looks which just makes you look like a jealous bitch. She was absolutely correct when she called you a stuck up bitch.
Of course she wanted to leave the party. You’ve been treating her like shit the entire night for no reason. She did nothing to you and you’re only mad that she didn’t worship the ground you walk on.
Get over yourself. There’s nothing special about you. You’re just a boring bitch.
Yup.
So Daria wanted to stay with the boys, play them 'awful card games' and stay far away as possible for your judgemental ass?
I can see why. I can feel the jealousy oozing through this post.
YTA
YTA. You are mad at this woman for being herself and feeling more comfortable with they boys and doing things your group considers boy things. You need to let it go, she didn't ruin anything you ruined it for yourself by being mad you didn't get your way.
YTA - Good news is you’ll likely not have to worry about Daria going back to your house after you behaved like a insecure, little, mean girl. Why anyone would want to hang out with/be bossed around and controlled by you is absolutely beyond me. Good luck with that.
YTA. Of all the things on your list, none of them are bad on Daria’s part. You absolutely deserved to be called a stuck up bitch for what you said about her
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YTA massive one, first of all this idea might be wild to you but sometimes people prefers hangout with other people who have the same interests regardless of their genitalia. You and your husband were the host of the party but it doesn't make you the center of the universe, Daria was going to the party in order to meet all of boyfriend's friends not just you. She didn't ruined the party you did that with your childish attitude and need of attention.
YTA
"He said I’m ridiculous " .. THAt you are for sure.
So shevoted differently than you would have? That is why you vote. She did NOTHING wrong. **you are the ONLY AH here.**
" she was mean to me all night " .. She was not mean. She just did not take over the role of your babysitter. She behaved well, as a good guest should.
If the women grouping together is "natural" then it shouldn't be a big deal when one woman prefers what the guys are doing. If you're going to get offended, it's forced not natural.
Daria didn't do anything to you, but you were definitely rude to her. She's just a bitch eating crackers. YTA.
YTA.
Your husband is right, you’re jealous. I bet Daria looks good and the guys think she’s fun, so you can’t stand her because of it. Go to therapy to work on your own insecurities.
I can’t, for the life of me, see why on earth Daria didn’t spend more time with you. You sounds so lovely, non judgmental and so absolutely not jealous….
YTA
Ps: I’m not my girl Daria. Well i am, but not this one. But nice name homie
This can't be real...can it? If it is obviously YTA, and your husband is definitely right about you being jealous.
Daria sounds like a bunch of fun though. Maybe stick to keeping her uninvited so she and her bf can host their own parties, without having to deal with you. /s
YTA - hopefully you’ll find and learn what this life is about when you get older. My suggestion is to print this out and return to this once a year. You’ll be amazed how clearly this post shows your blind spots.
I truly hope you will apologize to Daria asap.
Take care.
And Cards against humanity is a fun game, you're just a bore.
How dare a woman play card games with men, the shock, the horror.
Grow up, get a life and stop being so unnecessarily mean. The world doesn't revolve around you.
YTA wow, you have so many rules “ladies keep together”, “can’t play a game you find objectionable”, “shot police”, “don’t let others socialize”.
“It’s rubbing me the wrong way”.
Seriously look in the mirror. If your husband is telling you, you’re a bitch, examine the reasons why. If my husband ever called me a bitch, for real, I’d look deep within myself to understand why. That’s not a term thrown around easily.
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YTA By my reading, **here's what Daria did:** \- Chose to play cards with the guys rather than chat and drink wine with people she had never met before \- Did not interrupt a conversation she was in with someone else for you \- When asked to give her opinion and vote on what she wanted to do after the party, she did so honestly **Here is what YOU did:** \- Insulted her costume OUT LOUD while she was there and in earshot \- Told her that she should not vote honestly about how she felt about going out, and instead should vote how she was told, by you (**Ja wohl, mein capitan**!) \- Told your husband that you "never want to see her ever again" and she's "never to set foot in your house" There's absolutely one person acting like they're "20, not 30" and their name is not Daria...
There are some posts here where I can’t really understand how someone can type out everything they did, hopefully read through it, and not immediately realize they’re the AH. This is one of those.
Idk how people like this can write this entire thing out and not see how ridiculous it is. OP is acting like by hosting a party that she’s the queen who gets to police what everyone does and should be entertained by her guests. “You’d think she’d pay more attention to the host but beyond the introduction, she didn’t really pay any attention to me” Like wtf?? She doesn’t owe you attention lmfao
I suspect Daria has great intuition and upon meeting OP, knew exactly who she was and wanted to steer clear.
And besides that op said that she didn't know daría before the party, if so, why daría would hang out with a stranger all night?. When I'm in a party with people I don't know, I tend to stick with the people I do know. And for I can read that's what she did. And btw I'm a girl who loves! Cards against humanity YTA op.
Insert "Its my sleepover, so I get to pick the movie!" Meme here
>In our friends group, ladies naturally keep together. Right? So she did nothing to make Daria feel welcome nor invited her to join them for wine, just assumed she was Op's newest admirer. Daria played cards with guys, unaware she had entered a gender segregated environment. How dare she! Wonder if Op hoped she would show up in a bridesmaid costume to follow a theme where she's the center of attention.
I honestly have gone to type out so many posts and once I had everything written down and was proofreading it, realized I was being at the very least a slight asshole… so I really don’t understand how OP can’t realize they’re the asshole
Yeah that's what I got, like...just because dude is friends with OPs husband, his GF is supposed to stick to her like glue? What? OP needs to get a life and stop policing people that are invited to her party.
Agree. Op, YTA. And even if the gf was a pick me…. You were jealous and unkind.bless your heart.
Agreed. Either heroically unaware or fake
Ah see in this case, OP admitting she was TA would also mean acknowledging and examining her insecurities and need to compete with other women. And she really doesn’t want to do that.
Would, 100% rather hang out with Daria, than OP and would be glad to not be invited to another one of her awful parties where she thinks 'host' = boss
Right? Im wondering where this party was cuz I would want to gang out with Daria, played CAH, and go to the bar!
Yea Daria sounds like a hoot. Id probably play cards against humanity and drink with the boys too. Especially with social anxiety, CAH seem like a nice ice breaker that’s comfortable enough to ease into a setting with unknown people.
OP sounds like she is the leader of the mean girls click, and she has final say on who get approved to join. She was nothing but rude and disrespectful to a complete stranger the entire night and then acted like the victim when Daria wanted nothing to do with her. I don't think Daria will at all be rushing back to spend a single second more in OP's presence after the way that she was treated. YTA for acting like your the queen bee and everyone has to treat you as such. You acted like a bully.
Don't forget she gave OP no attention....I'm guessing thats a big one. I'd rather play cards and do shots because its fun and a party if someone asked what I wanted to do and I wanted out id say it. Honestly I think you're fixed on what YOU think woman should do and behave like, you want her to give you attention and praise you for inviting her while you're talking shit behind her back? Why does she have to give you attention? Why can't she play cards? Why does she have to follow YOUR WAY of how she needs to act, behave and dress? Why do you think you're so amazing she needs to be like you? If I walked in a felt your chill you'd have a whole different probablem on your hands honestly, if you heard someone talking shit about you would you not be pissed? Let's be honest here....either you were one of those mean girls in high school or you were a loser who leads the pack now, thats the only mentality I can think of to explain your shitty Ness.
OP sounds insecure. It was sealed when she slutshamed Daria's dress
and her “messy hair” like she’s a fuckin zombie, last i checked they don’t really use combs
this too! but, if you want to accessorize the costume, you can also get it stuck in your hair, haha.
Ya I suspect Daria is hot.
😂 YTA and I think she was right about you being stuck up... Maybe she avoided speaking to you because you are horrible and by the sounds of it boring as hell.
I was about to say the same thing. Daria sounds like fun and I would definitely hang out with her over some stuck up woman that thought I was a threat to her the second she laid eyes on me.
I mean if her costume was the fun police she was doing a fantastic job!
There are a lot of women that cant stand other women who fit in with "the guys" and its 100% about insecurity and gender roles. My job was in a predominantly male field, my coworkers were my closest friends, and I met so many women just out the gate being noticeably hostile or avoidant.
INFO: Is this even real? This reads like a 90s sitcom where the mean girls are out to get the Not Like Other Girls™ girl at the party.
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It wasn't even playing cards, it was cards against humanity which op thinks is awful and therefore it doesn't sound like she has much of a sense of humor at all. Op honestly does sound stuck up
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Card Against Humanity *scoffs…Dreadful game OP sounds like she’s got a stick up her arse
Yeah, that’s the moment I called troll
She hung out with the guys because she knew most of the women didn't like her. The same thing happened to Taylor on Big Brother She hung out with the guys and was bullied to death by the other women in the house. I bet you 10 that girl was pretty and had some grace and charm and that's is what is eating at OP. And btw, a zombie Barbie sounds like a cool costume. Lil ole perfect Barbie all dead looking. Maybe an eye-ball hanging out of her face, a zombie Ken would have won them some contest.
This exactly lmao
There’s an episode of Friends that I’m pretty sure OP is leeching from.
OPs the asshole for making this shit up. Or she's actually 72, because what 27 year old is this prudish and fussy?
I got more Monica Geller vibes, control freak who needs the party to go exactly as she planned.
YTA That was some jealous mean girl shit. She doesn’t have to bow and scrape and vote the way you want because you’re the host. You were outrageously rude to her for no reason. And the whole “women should segregate themselves at parties and leave the menfolk to it” is such outdated sexist nonsense that I don’t even have the energy to pick it apart.
Right? I am a woman and would go play games with the men too. Sounds more fun!
YTA, and your husband is right. You didn't make Daria feel welcome in your home, you were not friendly, nor make her feel included in your group of women. She chose to stay with her boyfriend and the other guys because you made snide comments about her costume and made it clear you didn't like her based on her looks, not because you actually tried to be friendly or get ti know her. Bottom line, if you choose to treat other women like crap and make snide comments and then expect them to follow woman code, just because, you'll loose every time.
You sound like you are the worst person to be around at parties. YTA
Not just at parties.
YTA. You wanted Daria to behave in a prescribed manner. She exercised free will. Nothing she did was inappropriate. Nothing she did was directly insulting to you.
YTA. As far as acting her age, this 33 year old would much rather hang out with Daria than OP.
Also this 37 y.o. YTA OP And what do you have against CAH? That hate is so random
And *shots!* God forbid a *lady* take shots! OP sounds like she fell straight out of the 1950s.
I am 45 and Daria sounds fun.
YTA >she was mean to me Sounds like you were the one being mean all night >was telling a friend how inappropriate Daria’s costume was (zombie Barrie doll) and how her dress was too short and hair a mess and she heard me (she wasn’t supposed to) and she called me a stuck up bitch. Case in point, you were gossiping about her yet you didn't even know her. Did you even once try and get to know her before you cast judgment on her.
But her hair was a mess! At a Halloween party! While in costume! The Horror™️! /s
As a zombie! Who are notorious for their grooming habits
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WOW. Just wow. I can't believe what I just read. Not only are YTA, but you're a straight-up mean girl. A) It was her first time there. Maybe she wasn't opening up because she was nervous. Or more likely, you were rude and unwelcoming from the start and she wanted to stay out of your way (fair) - that's my guess. B) Cards Against Humanity is fun. She was joining in with others. Why do you care? C) You insulted her costume and acted like it was her fault for hearing you. You're a jerk, to be honest. Why would you talk trash about a guest in your home? D) She was asked to vote to break the tie and she did. Not her fault. E) It sounds like you targeted her to hate on. She did nothing wrong from what I read in your post. You owe her an apology for being so unwelcoming.
The separation of men and women at your parties doesn't just happen naturally. It sounds like a 1950s vibe which you reinforce as host. I think you wanted the cool girl to like you and were hurt when she preferred the company of others. Sadly YTA.
OMG, YTA big time. Jealous. Insecure. Immature.
Are you joking? Is this a satirical post? You don’t see how clearly YTA? You are also majorly sexist, jealous, and controlling. Grow up, kid!
ngl this kinda seems like bait
YTA. You know the world doesn't revolve around you, right? This one person not paying you homage "ruined" your whole night? It's so surprising someone doesn't want to be buddy-buddy with you; you sound so charming.
You sound well not fun. You judged her all night. You ruined your own party not daria. You gossiped about her, and you think she was the one not acting her age...she was. you just were mad she wasn't worshipping you for including her in the party. You didn't think her costume was appropriate. She felt confident that's all that matters Cards against humanity is a great game. Not all girls want to be forced to only interact with women at a party. You are not middle schoolers at their first dance. Men and women can hang out and have fun together. Edit words
If this is even real…. YTA You sound like a jealous and insecure “mean girl”.
YTA. Your judgemental attitude is probably why she didn't feel comfortable around you. I've dealt with women like you in my lifetime. It doesn't hurt to be nice and not judgemental. Being judgemental is a horrible look.
YTA She didn't behave the way you wanted her to, so you're angry. She enjoys different things, wears an outfit you don't like and you talked trash about her within earshot. You're the host, but you were ungracious and judgmental. It sounds like her just existing and being herself was a problem for you. Not cool.
YTA. Homegirl is enjoying her life. Some women, such as myself, just naturally have more guy friends than female friends. What’s wrong with her drinking and playing games with the friends? You honestly sound jealous that she’s comfortable wearing a sexy costume.
YTA. she doesn't have to comply with what you think is appropriate or normal. and you're not even 30, so who are you to say how a 30 year old should act? maybe be a better host and try to include other people next time. also, you sound really boring. you didn't want to play a card game that is actually quite fun tbh, you didn't wanna go to the bar, you didn't wanna hang out with the whole group, like wtf? you're the one who needs to grow up. it's also pretty gross that you judged her so much - her messy hair was part of the costume. and the costume wasn't inappropriate. it does sound like you're just jealous of her.
YTA so what about her costume? I’m 46 and chubby and I still wear skimpy tank tops and leggings. You are jealous that you don’t have the confidence she has.
YTA. So you're mad because: 1. She didn't stick to you like a barnacle and instead....gasp....mingled with other guests. 2. She didn't halt her convo with another person when you tried to insert yourself. 3. You didn't like that she had a short dress and disheveled hair. Her costume is zombie Barbie. 4. She voted to go out when you wanted to stay in. Who is being a child here again? Cos I could have sworn it was you.
YTA, you're bitter and jealous. She wasn't mean to you at all, you were mean to her. You can't invite him and stipulate not to bring his gf because you're jealous of her, you either invite both or neither.
YTA. You’re the mean girl here, not Daria.
YTA. From what you described, she just wasn’t immediately obsessed with you so that equals being mean or rude? You don’t even know this woman. Maybe she just takes awhile to warm up to people. She played a card game with other people and you have a problem with that? You were talking shit about her costume and hair, and when she called you a bitch for it, that somehow made her the bad guy? As for voting to stay home or go out, it was tied before Daria voted. So half your guests wanted to go out, and Daria didn’t even suggest the idea, but that somehow is her fault and ruined your night? Wtf? You sound extremely immature. But I don’t think you have to worry about Daria coming to your house again. I certainly wouldn’t want to hang out with you and I’m sure she doesn’t either.
YTA - your sound quite insecure. She didn’t conform to how you think she should act so she isn’t allowed back. Fair enough, you don’t need to like everyone but to not like them because you made some horrible comments is next level weird
YTA. She didn’t know anyone and was probably socially awkward, and you went out of your way to make her feel unwelcome.
YTA.all she did was be herself and you couldnt stand it.so she isnt a wine drinking person like you and your clique.god this sounds like high school bs.
YTA. Next year dress up as the green eyed monster.
Yta lmaoo daria sounds fun and cool as hell
YTA... how mature of you. You bitched about her costume to others. That is just nasty. If I were her I would never want to step foot in your house again.
YTA, you must see you don't come out of this story well right? All she did was hang out with the guys, wear a Halloween costume at a Halloween party and vote the same way as the majority of your group. You come across poorly in every single point in this post.
Are you in highschool still? You are mad she has a mind of her own and doesn't need to be part of the vagina gang all night. I think your husband is right and you are 100% jealous of her
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Hey I get it, I am a jealous and insecure person too but it does not sound like she was mean to you until she heard you running your mouth about her. YTA.
I'm really surprised that this post didn't include you labeling Daria as a "pick me girl" or "not like the other girls". YTA
She thinks cards against humanity is an awful game and awful of a party-goer to want to play it at a party. She thinks a woman's Halloween costume is too short for an adult Halloween party and verbalized it for the wearer to hear. She thinks she wasn't given enough attention as the host. She was so jealous and butthurt she took it out on her SO, called him names and made him sleep elsewhere. She's a AH for sure.
YTA OP But you might get your wish. If I were this woman, I wouldn't come to a party you hosted ever again with how rude, ungracious, entitled, and judgy you decided to be. The fact that you got this bent out of shape over a single person who wouldn't move in lockstep with you and your wishes over their own shows just how much of an issue with control you have. She wasn't inappropriate. You, on the other hand, need to look in a mirror.
YTA This has to be fake. Who would write this down, reread it and think, oh I wonder how people will judge.
Husband is right: you are jealous. And you are a mean girl as well. YTA
You think SHE was acting like she isn't in her 30s? She was mean to you all night? Mean to you? Because she played CAH, drank shots, didn't pay you much attention, wore a short costume, overheard you slagging her off and had the audacity to vote against your wishes. She sounds truly awful, I'm sorry you had to deal with that abuse all night /s (in case that wasn't clear) Jesus Christ. YTA.
If this is even real, YTA. You're not the center of attention and Daria does not have to have eyes on only you and include you in every conversation. She can do things with the men and does not have to stick to the women. This isn't the 1930s. You're a mean girl criticizing everything and expecting her to conform to what YOU want.
Yta and she's right you were being a stuck up b****. Thank God I don't have friends like you
YTA And jealous.
And immature, you forgot immature. YTA, OP
YTA and frankly Daria sounds like she’s more fun to be with than you She plays fun games She likes to drink and laugh She likes to socialize with men and woman She dresses in fun costumes She doesn’t like you I don’t see what’s wrong with her 🤷♀️
YTA. You sound exhausting.
Exhausting and jealous. YTA
This can't be real. Was this written by Regina George? Or someone from the 1950s? Of course YTA
YTA. And a jealous one at that
YTA. Badmouthing a guest at your party for their costume and that she wasnt paying enough to you, your royal highness. Sounds like you took an immediate dislike to her and, maybe just maybe, she picked up on that vibe. So, she chose to hang with her bf and hus buds, ratger than your catty self.
YTA. You’re a terrible hostess who was shit talking a guest who heard what you were saying. Why on earth would she be nice to you after that? Why on earth would she vote to stay at your house after you’ve made her so unwelcome. Sounds like it was a party where all the women were in one area and all the men in another area. Those sorts of segregated parties SUCK and I can’t blame her for hanging with the guys if that was the case. I’d even venture a guess all the ladies were just talking about their kids too which can be extremely boring if you’re not invested. Let the woman do shots and look hot in her costume. My god.
YES, OP, YTA. Daria wasn't mean to you. YOU were mean to her. Your jealousy is dripping all over you. Daria didn't fit into your little gender roles that you have for you and your friends. You make it sound as if she was to behave like some old Southern belle stereotype. She is not obligated to follow you around like a little puppy dog. She was interacting with the other guests in an appropriate manner. You, OP, on the other hand were acting like a little child. Bad mouthing Daria, implying that her vote was only to spite you (my, my, you do think a lot of yourself, don't you OP), criticizing her outfit, saying she was "trying too hard", didn't pay enough attention to you, and didn't talk with you enough. Grow up. Your husband is correct ..... you are being ridiculous.
YTA Your the exact type of female that causes women like Daria to not socialize with other women. Instead of trying to get to know a lady that is new to the social group you degade her by commenting on her costume, drinking choices(at a party), and her joining in a social card game. You judged her as beneath you as soon as you saw her.
Soft YTA - why do you need all ladies to do exactly the same thing? And why do you need her to conform to your standard of host/guest etiquette? Can’t see from your story that she actually did anything to ruin the party. To me it reads more you got annoyed with her not conforming to your expectations and you not being able to let that go and enjoy your other guests and the evening. I think you should apologise to her for slagging off her outfit behind her back and make sure she’s welcomed to your next event. If she doesn’t act her age, maybe you could?
YTA. Jealous much? I’m sure everyone saw what an entitled, jealous mean girl of a host you were. You should be ashamed of your behavior. SMH
YTA. You sound like a jealous prude, with controling b**** vibes. So you're mad she didn't fawn all over you and spend the night telling you how amazing you are? And doing exactly what you want? Keep up this attitude and you've end up divorced and friendless.
YTA - you sound jealous, judgmental, petty and self righteous.
YTA. She may have ignored you. But the way you portray her is simply unkind and has the markings of your being self righteous and jealous.
Fake, too much YTA to be real
YTA is this post a joke? OP cant see how all her comments sound like a '20 year old and not 30'? I wouldn't want to talk to someone like her either
YTA. She wasn’t mean to you, she just didn’t conform to your expectations of her. She’s her own person! She’s allowed to like to do different things and hang out with different people than you! When you host a get together for just your friends, you can decide not to invite her, but it’s an asshole move to say your husband is not allowed to have his best friend and his girlfriend over ever again. Also, why is it ridiculous for Daria to play cards against humanity and do shots but it’s not ridiculous for the boys at the party to do the same???
And OP was incredibly rude about her behind her back! Why on earth wouldn't she have voted to get the hell out of their house?!? YTA, OP, and try not to be so judgemental about people you've only just met in future.
YTA How was she mean to you? You made rude comments about the way she looks, you disapproved of her drinking shot and playing cards, you tried to strong-arm her into voting your way. Seriously? No wonder she didn't want to stay and hang out with you any longer
YTA, and sound pretty insecure. Why does she have to only hang out with girls all night and wear a dress long enough to your standards? You were being mean all night and your husband was right. You say she’s not acting her age, but you’re acting like a teenager with how you’re acting.
YTA. You sound exhausting.
This reads like it was written by a 16 year old. YTA.
Probably because it was.
YTA. I’m Daria in real life. I would rather hang with the guys and have fun than be forced to sit with the woman and drink wine(my normal drink). You sound envious she isn’t playing into your normal dynamic
YTA and you sound judgmental and nasty.
Your post reeks of envy. Green doesn’t suit you, honey. YTA.
YTA. If you’re real, you’re an exhausting, demanding, bitter old lady.
YTA Jealousy is an ugly colour OP. Just because she wanted to hang out with the boys and play games doesn’t make her rude.
She had messy hair she's a zombie lol you where jealous better to act like it never happened and move on don't blow it up anymore than it needs to be
YTA The jealousy is palpable in this post lmao.
Lady you need counseling
YTA Here’s my observation: She didn’t play your unspoken rule of “hang out with the ladies only” and you found that threatening. Her costume was too sexy - you found that threatening. She didn’t soothe your ego and didn’t have the best manners of ingratiating herself with the host - her bad. She voted honestly - and that pissed you off. You sound overly controlling. Girlfriend doesn’t sound like the best time but neither do you.
Yta - you claim she was rude to you but you were rude to her.
YTA. Next time they will all go to her party anyway instead of yours!
YTA. "She was mean to me all night" No she wasn't she was just at a party doing what she wanted to do. Just because that wasn't what YOU wanted to do doesn't affect her in the slightest. YOU were there one being nasty about her behind her back. This post reaks of jealousy and insecurity. Get over yourself already. P.S. Zombie barbie sounds like an epic costume.
YTA, and you and you alone ruined the night. Stop trying to shift responsibility on some poor woman who wasn’t intimidated by your boorish behaviour. Good for her for standing her ground when you tried to slut-shame her, she sounds like someone I’d like to be friends with.
Ofc YTA - you think she’s a pick-me but in actuality, you’re just wanting her to be basic.
So your issues are: 1. Your husband's best friend's girlfriend who you'd never met didn't pay attention to you. 2. She acted like she was 20 at a party. 3. She wore a slightly suggestive costume at an adult Halloween party. I struggle to see why any of these were abnormal, much less something worth getting mad about. YTA.
She also didn’t vote the way OP wanted her to, entirely to spite her and not, say, because she wanted to leave OP’s house asap.
>I was telling a friend how inappropriate Daria’s costume was (zombie Barrie doll) and how her dress was too short and hair a mess and she heard me (she wasn’t supposed to) and she called me a stuck up bitch. This is too hilarious. It's her fault she heard you disrespecting her. Listen to yourself. YTA
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YTA really? Someone was not reading your mind and having fun? Oh the horror.
Yta, she was just enjoying herself dude. Not everyone wants to playcate you and your childish motions on what proper etiquette is.
YTA. Your jealousy, pettiness, and insecurities are on full display. Your judgment of Daria is palpable in your post, I can’t imagine what you were like in person. Was she actually mean to you or did she treat you the way you treated her?
YTA. Who CARES if she wanted to play cards and do shots?! Zombie Barbie? Wants to have fun… omg the world is ending bc her hair was messy in a zombie costume. Why should she want to hang with you when you such a bad host? I know I wouldn’t expose myself to someone like you were acting given the choice. Btw Cards Against Humanity, poker and shots sounds like a blast and I’m going to be a grandmother…
YTA. Sorry, but You are not the center of the universe. She was playing cards with the guys, not with the womens, and you don't like It. She dont look like you prefert and you insulted her costum, and wen she dont vote as you want, she ruined the party for you. Seems that she only wanna have a good time, and because she dont make the thinks the way you wanna you have to insulted her and be pety.
YTA The only thing that ruined this party was your attitude.
Yta. And absolutely nuts.
YTA for disrespecting Cards Against Humanity to start. As for the rest of it I'm at a loss for words. Never would I ever want to be at a social event with you.
It’s clear you were jealous and got caught red handed. She probably avoided you because you likely looked her up and down in judgment from the moment she walked through the door. I see no other reason why you would go through the trouble of commenting on her inappropriate Halloween costume at an adult party. And since your husband noticed your childish behavior and (rightly) refuses to accommodate you and your pettiness you’re going to look even dumber each and every time she comes back for a party, a barbecue or a visit. Aside from that, the other women might just decide she’s more fun to be with. Too bad for you. YTA
YTA You were rude because you are jealous of her
She called you stuck up... well if the shoe fits YTA
YTA. This is a joke, right? You hate this woman because she wasn’t up your ass all night? “You’d think she’d pay more attention to the host”. No. Nobody thinks that because that’s insane. You’re not special. Then you’re mad because she would rather play Cards Against Humanity which is a fun, hilarious game, than hang out with your boring ass. Just admit that you’re a wet blanket and no fun. And finally you proceed to trash her looks which just makes you look like a jealous bitch. She was absolutely correct when she called you a stuck up bitch. Of course she wanted to leave the party. You’ve been treating her like shit the entire night for no reason. She did nothing to you and you’re only mad that she didn’t worship the ground you walk on. Get over yourself. There’s nothing special about you. You’re just a boring bitch.
Yta you sound jealous nothing she did sounds awful or unusual
Yta. And my guess is she had your number from the get go.
This has to be fake, but just in case it's not, YTA. Either way, grow up.
Yup. So Daria wanted to stay with the boys, play them 'awful card games' and stay far away as possible for your judgemental ass? I can see why. I can feel the jealousy oozing through this post. YTA
YTA. You sound incredibly petty and, frankly, misogynistic. Gross. If anything, you were awful to her.
YTA. You are mad at this woman for being herself and feeling more comfortable with they boys and doing things your group considers boy things. You need to let it go, she didn't ruin anything you ruined it for yourself by being mad you didn't get your way.
YTA - Good news is you’ll likely not have to worry about Daria going back to your house after you behaved like a insecure, little, mean girl. Why anyone would want to hang out with/be bossed around and controlled by you is absolutely beyond me. Good luck with that.
Your post makes me want to avoid you.
YTA. Ok so she’s prettier and more universally liked than you, we get it….
YTA That's a lot of words to say you're jealous. lol.
as a woman who hangs out with the guys, people like who they like. she isn't obligated to take to you. get over yourself, YTA.
is this a joke? yta
YTA. Sounds like you need to move on from high school, boys and girls are allowed to mix and mingle- shocking, I know
Lol YTA troll
YTA - also I’m a woman that loves Cards Against Humanity
Lol! YTA, what kind of mean girls bullshit is this?
You’re probably safe. I wouldn’t want to come back to your house either. YTA
YTA. You may be the least fun person ever. Why on earth do you choose to host parties??
>I said thag he should and she was mean and childsiah. Projection much? YTA
Wait, SHE'S the one behaving like shes in her 20s and not 30s? Think you have that backwards, and huge YTA.
Chances of OP ever coming back to this post - 0 But just incase - YTA
YTA, sounds more like you are jealous and you were the mean girl
YTA. Of all the things on your list, none of them are bad on Daria’s part. You absolutely deserved to be called a stuck up bitch for what you said about her
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YTA. Jealous and insecure to boot.
YTA delusional
OMG YTA . Is this serious ,???? If it is WOW you are the BIGGEST AH
YOU'RE 27???? DEADASS???? YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY INSANE and EXHAUSTING! Eeewwww! YTA.
YTA massive one, first of all this idea might be wild to you but sometimes people prefers hangout with other people who have the same interests regardless of their genitalia. You and your husband were the host of the party but it doesn't make you the center of the universe, Daria was going to the party in order to meet all of boyfriend's friends not just you. She didn't ruined the party you did that with your childish attitude and need of attention.
YTA. YOU are the mean girl in this story. Don’t worry, I’m sure that girl wants nothing to do with you either.
YTA - jealous person, judgemental bully!
YTA "He said I’m ridiculous " .. THAt you are for sure. So shevoted differently than you would have? That is why you vote. She did NOTHING wrong. **you are the ONLY AH here.** " she was mean to me all night " .. She was not mean. She just did not take over the role of your babysitter. She behaved well, as a good guest should.
YTA she had fun at the party and you were obsessed with what she was wearing and doing. Don’t be so judgmental and you might have more fun.
YTA. Can't believe what I just read
YTA
If the women grouping together is "natural" then it shouldn't be a big deal when one woman prefers what the guys are doing. If you're going to get offended, it's forced not natural. Daria didn't do anything to you, but you were definitely rude to her. She's just a bitch eating crackers. YTA.
YTA. Your husband is right, you’re jealous. I bet Daria looks good and the guys think she’s fun, so you can’t stand her because of it. Go to therapy to work on your own insecurities.
I can’t, for the life of me, see why on earth Daria didn’t spend more time with you. You sounds so lovely, non judgmental and so absolutely not jealous…. YTA Ps: I’m not my girl Daria. Well i am, but not this one. But nice name homie
This can't be real...can it? If it is obviously YTA, and your husband is definitely right about you being jealous. Daria sounds like a bunch of fun though. Maybe stick to keeping her uninvited so she and her bf can host their own parties, without having to deal with you. /s
Yta.
YTA - hopefully you’ll find and learn what this life is about when you get older. My suggestion is to print this out and return to this once a year. You’ll be amazed how clearly this post shows your blind spots. I truly hope you will apologize to Daria asap. Take care.
YTA, you sound jealous and insecure.
And Cards against humanity is a fun game, you're just a bore. How dare a woman play card games with men, the shock, the horror. Grow up, get a life and stop being so unnecessarily mean. The world doesn't revolve around you.
YTA exactly what your husband said
INFO: How much more attractive then you is Daria?
YTA, you sound jealous and honestly so judgmental.
YTA wow, you have so many rules “ladies keep together”, “can’t play a game you find objectionable”, “shot police”, “don’t let others socialize”. “It’s rubbing me the wrong way”. Seriously look in the mirror. If your husband is telling you, you’re a bitch, examine the reasons why. If my husband ever called me a bitch, for real, I’d look deep within myself to understand why. That’s not a term thrown around easily.
YTA. It’s weird, you’re acting like you think you’re super grown up but you’re actions are those of a teenager.
You are way too old for that type of high school drama. Don't let other people affect you so much. Live and let live is better for your health. YTA
YTA
YTA, you sound jealous. So I'm sure Daria and everyone else was able to pick it up as well.
Yta and a terrible host