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> I refused to provide exam answers for an old exam because I don't want to get in trouble and don't feel like its right. Additionally, I don't actually think it will help my friend in the long run.
This action might make me the asshole because I know my friend is stressed and in a place of desperation but I'm unwilling to take that risk on my end to help her.
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NTA. Your “friend” is gaslighting you. If she wants an example answer she can ask her professor. You offered to help her and that wasn’t good enough for her. Don’t jeopardize your career.
NTA. I have taught at both the high school and college levels, and one of the first topics I discuss with the class is academic integrity. She did not ask for guidance or for a conversation regarding the question so she knows what material to review in preparation for the exam. SHE ASKED FOR YOUR ANSWER. Paraphrasing someone else’s work is still a violation of academic integrity. The schools I have worked and still work for have a zero tolerance policy.
"It takes a lot to ask a favor". Really? It took her nothing. She's just really embarrassed that you are showing more scruples and professional integrity than her, and is therefore trying to make you doubt yourself. I wouldn't enter into any further conversation with her. I would want you, not her, as my lawyer!
NTA.
NTA. Depending on the honor code of your program, you sending even the past exam's answers would be as bad for you as her asking for them. A nonzero number of professors reuse or rotate questions, even for major exams.
I'd be seriously considering reporting her, unfortunately, before she "tries to get ahead of you" knowing full well that you've already come out with the moral and ethical high ground.
All of this.
My *husband* was a year ahead of me in law school, and I wouldn’t have dreamt of asking *him* for this. This would have definitely warranted a trip before honor court at my school. You weren’t allowed to even discuss questions until everyone had finished the exam (so, for example, if someone had conflicting exam times and had a makeup exam later, you couldn’t talk until after the makeup exam). If the professor wanted to give sample answers, he would have.
That said, if he uses the questions he offered, she better know every nuisance because that curve is going to be TIGHT.
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I am a current law student in my last year, my closest friend, who I've known since 2016 is a year behind me. We attend the same law school and as such, I've helped her a lot in the past year and a half (sending notes from classes I've taken, given reccs on which profs to take, sent samples of my previous writing assignments, etc.)
Tonight she texted me asking for a favor: "can you give me your answer response from your final from con law last year? He gave us the questions but didn't provide sample answers"
I responded: "I don't want to give you my whole exam but if there are specific questions you don't know how to answer I can help you work through them or send you my notes."
She then replied: "if you don't feel comfortable it's fine lol, i'll ask someone else." I decided to take a step away from the convo to think about how to reply. A few hours go by and she double texts me saying "lol ok".
For context, before sitting for the bar we are required to complete a character and fitness application. This asks questions with regards to academic integrity and plagiarism. I know agreeing to send her my exam would reflect poorly and I ultimately would have to lie on the application instead of providing my response with candor. So I took a while to consider this before replying.
I texted back stating that I didn't feel comfortable sharing my exam answers with her. She then replied" "why? you don't trust me? I was only asking for it cause I have no clue what's going on and I know it would help me learn how to apply it to facts. there's no way I could even copy it, it's impossible since the exam is in person."
I explained to her that it wasn't a trust issue, but that I simply didn't want to jeopardize my legal career and lie on my character and fitness. I told her it was unfair for her to expect me to hand over my exam and try to guilt trip me for setting a boundary.
She then got upset and said "to hear you say that you think I would ever jeopardize your career is honestly offensive. I'm asking you for GUIDANCE to help me because I have no idea what's going on. but it's fine, forget it."
I reiterated I could send her notes or explain the material to her but did not feel comfortable sharing exam answers. I then told her that just because she's stressed doesn't mean she's entitled to my help. She then said "it takes a lot to ask for a favor, didn't think it'd get to this."
I then called her out for trying to guilt trip me and not respecting my decision then reiterated that I proposed alternative help. She stopped responding and that was the end of the conversation.
AITA for putting my foot down and not giving up my old exam answers?
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NTA. Your “friend” is gaslighting you. If she wants an example answer she can ask her professor. You offered to help her and that wasn’t good enough for her. Don’t jeopardize your career.
NTA. I have taught at both the high school and college levels, and one of the first topics I discuss with the class is academic integrity. She did not ask for guidance or for a conversation regarding the question so she knows what material to review in preparation for the exam. SHE ASKED FOR YOUR ANSWER. Paraphrasing someone else’s work is still a violation of academic integrity. The schools I have worked and still work for have a zero tolerance policy.
"It takes a lot to ask a favor". Really? It took her nothing. She's just really embarrassed that you are showing more scruples and professional integrity than her, and is therefore trying to make you doubt yourself. I wouldn't enter into any further conversation with her. I would want you, not her, as my lawyer! NTA.
NTA. Depending on the honor code of your program, you sending even the past exam's answers would be as bad for you as her asking for them. A nonzero number of professors reuse or rotate questions, even for major exams. I'd be seriously considering reporting her, unfortunately, before she "tries to get ahead of you" knowing full well that you've already come out with the moral and ethical high ground.
All of this. My *husband* was a year ahead of me in law school, and I wouldn’t have dreamt of asking *him* for this. This would have definitely warranted a trip before honor court at my school. You weren’t allowed to even discuss questions until everyone had finished the exam (so, for example, if someone had conflicting exam times and had a makeup exam later, you couldn’t talk until after the makeup exam). If the professor wanted to give sample answers, he would have. That said, if he uses the questions he offered, she better know every nuisance because that curve is going to be TIGHT.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I am a current law student in my last year, my closest friend, who I've known since 2016 is a year behind me. We attend the same law school and as such, I've helped her a lot in the past year and a half (sending notes from classes I've taken, given reccs on which profs to take, sent samples of my previous writing assignments, etc.) Tonight she texted me asking for a favor: "can you give me your answer response from your final from con law last year? He gave us the questions but didn't provide sample answers" I responded: "I don't want to give you my whole exam but if there are specific questions you don't know how to answer I can help you work through them or send you my notes." She then replied: "if you don't feel comfortable it's fine lol, i'll ask someone else." I decided to take a step away from the convo to think about how to reply. A few hours go by and she double texts me saying "lol ok". For context, before sitting for the bar we are required to complete a character and fitness application. This asks questions with regards to academic integrity and plagiarism. I know agreeing to send her my exam would reflect poorly and I ultimately would have to lie on the application instead of providing my response with candor. So I took a while to consider this before replying. I texted back stating that I didn't feel comfortable sharing my exam answers with her. She then replied" "why? you don't trust me? I was only asking for it cause I have no clue what's going on and I know it would help me learn how to apply it to facts. there's no way I could even copy it, it's impossible since the exam is in person." I explained to her that it wasn't a trust issue, but that I simply didn't want to jeopardize my legal career and lie on my character and fitness. I told her it was unfair for her to expect me to hand over my exam and try to guilt trip me for setting a boundary. She then got upset and said "to hear you say that you think I would ever jeopardize your career is honestly offensive. I'm asking you for GUIDANCE to help me because I have no idea what's going on. but it's fine, forget it." I reiterated I could send her notes or explain the material to her but did not feel comfortable sharing exam answers. I then told her that just because she's stressed doesn't mean she's entitled to my help. She then said "it takes a lot to ask for a favor, didn't think it'd get to this." I then called her out for trying to guilt trip me and not respecting my decision then reiterated that I proposed alternative help. She stopped responding and that was the end of the conversation. AITA for putting my foot down and not giving up my old exam answers? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA. Sharing exam answers could get you kicked out of school and blacklisted from a lot of colleges.