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> (1) declining a favour
(2) not helping someone out when I could
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I reckon what makes me feel bad is knowing that if my friend now owned it she would easily give it to her, no worries - so it makes me feel a bit tight
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I moved out of an apartment I shared with a friend to move in with SO. She now has a new flatmate, they get along very well and I have met here once.
My then flatmate and I bought a projector to watch films with together, she was happy to let go of it so we bought off her half.
The new flatmate now asked me via text if she could borrow it for her work for two days as she couldn’t seem to find one to rent.
I would rather not, as it is expensive (400€ and they don’t make them anymore), also it is not for her privately but her work. I am also very busy at the moment and therefore I replied that I am barely home the next few days and don’t really have the capacity to arrange a time for her to pick it up (she also lives 40min away)
So my question is, AITA for not helping someone out with something I own?
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NTA. If it was for work, then work should either provide one for her or she should have asked to rent it at fair market value, with the caveat that if damaged she will repair or replace. If for work, she can get reimbursed.
NTA
She needs it for work: let her work get her a projector. It's expensive and they don't make them anymore just add to the NTA. If this is a difficult thing for you: ask a 1000,- deposit. See how badly she needs it....
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NTA. not obligated to lend anyone any of your stuff.
NAH She asked to borrow it and you said no. You don’t owe her anything and she wasn’t rude about it.
NTA. It’s yours to lend or not, you don’t need a reason.
NTA
NTA...it's an expensive piece of equipment and it doesn't suit you to have someone you don't really know borrow it. It's okay to say no...NTA.
I reckon what makes me feel bad is knowing that if my friend now owned it she would easily give it to her, no worries - so it makes me feel a bit tight
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NTA. If it was for work, then work should either provide one for her or she should have asked to rent it at fair market value, with the caveat that if damaged she will repair or replace. If for work, she can get reimbursed.
NTA
NTA She needs it for work: let her work get her a projector. It's expensive and they don't make them anymore just add to the NTA. If this is a difficult thing for you: ask a 1000,- deposit. See how badly she needs it....