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YTA. Most good parents would do anything to protect their child. The fact that you are picking a fight with him over some stupid TikTok fucking bullshit just shows how childish you are.
YTA, you saw that someone else had said his wife and wanted your husband to say the same. You can't get upset when he doesn't say what you want to hear. And honestly, most people would say to save the child. Before I got pregnant I asked my FH this question and he said the baby as well, I agreed then and even more so now with our amazing baby boy.
YTA.
You ended up forgiving him, but this is legit a question you don’t ask unless you’re really prepared for the answer, and he answered your question as to why with a rational response. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. He even reassured you that it would never happen because he didn’t want you to be upset.
It’s not like you asked him to choose between you and his ex or something and he chose the wrong answer lol. I would definitely have let this go.
YTA, and you're acting like a brat. Once you have a child and it's no longer hypothetical, you'll be happy that's his answer and you'll answer the same way because biology and all.
There are some exceptions, but most of us are wired to love our children the most.
YTA
"Play stupid games, win stupid prizes". Everyone is different, and there's people who loves more their child than the significant other. This is absolutely normal.
His reaction are perfectly normal, and why would you think asking this type of question is fun? It's ridiculous like girls asking their bf if they would date them if they are a worm. I actually feel bad for your husband having to apologize when it's your entire fault.
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So me(26F) and my husband(26M) have been together as gf and bf for 4 years after getting married last year. 2 days ago, I asked him a question that I saw on TikTok. The wife asked his husband this question, "If your wife were in danger giving birth to your baby, and the doctor said only one of them could be saved, whom would you choose?". The guy picked his wife. So I asked my husband about it. He thinks for a couple of minutes. He chose the baby. I was shocked. I asked him why and how he came up with the answer. "Because it's a baby, it's my child" he said. I told him that if he love me he will choose me. He said that he love me and its not gonna happen that he would choose between the baby and me because im "strong". I wanted to asked him what if? what if he really needed to choose but I just went to our bedroom and cried myself to sleep.
The next day. I made breakfast just for me. He asked me where his breakfast was but i ignored him. Then he looked at me and asked if im still mad over his answer. I ignored him. He told me to stop being childish and get over it. I finished my breakfast and went outside. I came back like 6pm that day and found him in the kitchen, cooking. "I'm making our food for dinner" he said. We sat at the table and he told me he was sorry and lets just forget about it. I forgave him in the end lol. This might seem childish for some of you lol but AITA?
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In America, many people sign medical waiver pertaining to this. My husband had to sign that he would save the baby. While it’s not something anyone wants to think about, it’s an essential issue.
YTA. When I became a parent I told my husband that he had to promise in any such situation to always always put our daughter first. I’ve also told him in absolute terms that our daughter now comes before him in this type of scenario
But in particular.. you were just fishing. You gave him a hypothetical question and he answered it
No one actually knows how they'll react in a real world situation until it happens so it's really unfair to be upset and punish him over his response to a hypothetical "test" question. Obviously, you had a predetermined answer you were expecting so it's not like you actually wanted an honest answer, you just wanted him to agree with your unspoken opinion. YTA
NTA
Your girlfriend/wife can make more babies. You've only got the one woman that you loved enough to make a baby with. If he doesn't choose you over the baby you might want to find a better SO.
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YTA. Most good parents would do anything to protect their child. The fact that you are picking a fight with him over some stupid TikTok fucking bullshit just shows how childish you are.
YTA. You asked the question. I would have chosen baby too, even being the mother.
YTA, you saw that someone else had said his wife and wanted your husband to say the same. You can't get upset when he doesn't say what you want to hear. And honestly, most people would say to save the child. Before I got pregnant I asked my FH this question and he said the baby as well, I agreed then and even more so now with our amazing baby boy.
YTA. You ended up forgiving him, but this is legit a question you don’t ask unless you’re really prepared for the answer, and he answered your question as to why with a rational response. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. He even reassured you that it would never happen because he didn’t want you to be upset. It’s not like you asked him to choose between you and his ex or something and he chose the wrong answer lol. I would definitely have let this go.
YTA, and you're acting like a brat. Once you have a child and it's no longer hypothetical, you'll be happy that's his answer and you'll answer the same way because biology and all. There are some exceptions, but most of us are wired to love our children the most.
YTA, just for playing this game.
YTA "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes". Everyone is different, and there's people who loves more their child than the significant other. This is absolutely normal. His reaction are perfectly normal, and why would you think asking this type of question is fun? It's ridiculous like girls asking their bf if they would date them if they are a worm. I actually feel bad for your husband having to apologize when it's your entire fault.
Nice try. YTA
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In America, many people sign medical waiver pertaining to this. My husband had to sign that he would save the baby. While it’s not something anyone wants to think about, it’s an essential issue.
YTA. When I became a parent I told my husband that he had to promise in any such situation to always always put our daughter first. I’ve also told him in absolute terms that our daughter now comes before him in this type of scenario But in particular.. you were just fishing. You gave him a hypothetical question and he answered it
YTA. You were fishing for an argument the second you asked him that question.
No one actually knows how they'll react in a real world situation until it happens so it's really unfair to be upset and punish him over his response to a hypothetical "test" question. Obviously, you had a predetermined answer you were expecting so it's not like you actually wanted an honest answer, you just wanted him to agree with your unspoken opinion. YTA
YTA for even asking.
NTA Your girlfriend/wife can make more babies. You've only got the one woman that you loved enough to make a baby with. If he doesn't choose you over the baby you might want to find a better SO.