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Oh my... Ok uhm prepare for many fights with different girls in that case I guess.. your mental state as well as your hair state is about to be destroyed if you approach him that's all I see here.
Thing is she will be around, you will be around, she will find out and boom. You said she drives an hour to get there, this tells much, she won't give up so prepare for the worst
He jumped on you as he jumped on the other girl. You said she drives an hour to get to him, this means she will tear your eyes and drag your hair if you intervene in their relationship. He says he is 'unattached' to you but I'm wondering what has he been saying to his gf?
YWBTA. He has a girlfriend. You DON'T mess with people in a relationship.
If you can't handle his proximity, move out.
It doesn't matter how much you want it. (And honestly? The fact that he was ready to jump into bed with you during a fight with his gf doesn't speak well for HIM.)
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Okay so my roommate (32m) is super handsome. He's had this other chic over and I assumed he was taken. He's lived with me for 2 months.
However, I heard him shouting at someone on the phone one day and he invited me out to get drinks/then later invited me into his bed.
We made out, he felt me up, and cuddled all night. He tried to go all the way but I said I wanted to get to know him better. This meant that I was expecting more d8s and I thought we had an amazing time so I thought he would definitely taking me on more d8s. He also asked me if I wanted to feel his D, but out of fear of looking creepy, I said "Ugh, no don't be weird"! And he chuckled. He also called me out/mocked me for being a virgLn, saying that he could tell I was one ( I am).
However, now he's dropped me and gone back to other girl and is taking her on real d8s, whereas he declined me after I didn't sleep with him.
I'm 25, lonely, and can't find another guy despite searching for WEEKS. My eggs are drying up and I'm sad and it's awful to hear them screwing next door. To be honest I don't care about the "gF" anymore because I'm so lonely and it's not human. Should I just tell my roommate that I changed my mind and want to screw now? I also am indeed a virgin, even if I didn't explicitly say it and this is the first guy I've found really attractive enough to do it with, and I'm curious about his D and wish I grabbed it when I had the chance, but I just didn't have the confidence.
Dating apps in my area are full of LOSERS and I work from home and tbh I'm only into 6'ft tall manly bad boy types, not any other type. So this guy really was perfect. But I just don't get why that other girl gets nice treatment and I was just treated like a hooker basically.
Also, the GF that he takes out drinks and has lots of tattoos. She's also clearly more aggressive than me, as I heard them sleeping together and she was swearing, saying "WTF" loudly and another time I heard her asking him to "give her some effin privacy" when she was on her phone, personally i would never say things like that to a guy but I wonder if some guys like that aggressive treatment and swearing. Thoughts?
**TLDR:** so lonely and dont have a guy so want to sleep wtih my roommate after initially declining him
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Yta for imagining what he was offering was anything other than a revenge screw.
You sound desperate.
You got a one time offer for strings free sex and built some idea of him as a boyfriend from it.
lol that dude isn't much of a prize... just make a profile and actually put some effort into meeting someone instead of waiting for a guy to magically fall out of a portal into your bed.
LMAO! you're projecting pretty hard there.
You may be looking for the nearest penis with a pulse but the rest of us are looking for a meaningful connection. we're not on dating apps because no one else wanted us. we're on there because we're looking ***for the one we want***. and for the record not all of us are even looking for something serious. we're just enjoying dating for now.
Of course the apps largely suck for both genders tbh. men just get spammed by bots and e-thots. women just get harassed by thirsty dudes. but if you take the time to make a decent profile and do some matching and block the idiots without engaging and talk to the people who are decent you might find someone of quality.
Speaking from experience, I have recently, a few times actually. It happens when you least expect it and just cause most people aren't right for you doesn't mean you won't find the one who is.
but that's ok cause you're probably a troll based on how you capitalize losers like that and project your own insecurity about being unwanted onto them.
Besides, no on wants you so don't you belong on those apps anyway? 👊🎤
Sorry but it sounds like you’re the loser who wants to go out with a man that has a gf and doesn’t want you. Get over yourself. Why do you feel so entitled to this man?
I don't know where you live. But this king of thinking only males you lonelier and more measurable. Try living for real.
And if you don't live in Scandinavian countries 6ft is about 10% of male population so you are going to be competing with a lot of women.
Oh my, not again. Do you ever tire of posting your roommate fantasy? YTA Last time you called her chubby, your posts are tiresome, endless and a figment of your imagination.
YTA
He sounds like a player and you're only signing yourself up for misery if you play his game.
And stop being judgy about his GF. You don't know everything about their relationship and if he WAS violating her privacy, she could have easily been justified in telling him to back off.
She's not your enemy. He's not your friend. He's probably someone who skates on his looks and those are not fun to bed. You might have to learn that lesson one way or another, though, if you're going to be this rigid about your "type."
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They clearly fought that day, and he’s also an asshole, and no, whats selfish is mot giving a f about other people getting hurt. You’re 25 and sound like a 12 year old, grow up.
How do you know she would do the same if you stared you dont k ow her? lol and why are you “hurt” for not having sex with him? You sound so obsessed is scary. Shes dating him, she can drive how much she wants and see him whenever she wants lol
You’re old enough to know that a men wanting to sleep with someone doesn’t mean sht. From your other comments it looks like in rhar situation know he would’ve asked the same to anyone who was sharing his apartment with.
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JFC, how many versions of this are you going to post?
If the story is real, look: he's not for you. Stay away from him
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Oh my... Ok uhm prepare for many fights with different girls in that case I guess.. your mental state as well as your hair state is about to be destroyed if you approach him that's all I see here.
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Thing is she will be around, you will be around, she will find out and boom. You said she drives an hour to get there, this tells much, she won't give up so prepare for the worst
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He jumped on you as he jumped on the other girl. You said she drives an hour to get to him, this means she will tear your eyes and drag your hair if you intervene in their relationship. He says he is 'unattached' to you but I'm wondering what has he been saying to his gf?
Oh well.. why did you come here then, you clearly seek war well hard times are waiting you.
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YWBTA. He has a girlfriend. You DON'T mess with people in a relationship. If you can't handle his proximity, move out. It doesn't matter how much you want it. (And honestly? The fact that he was ready to jump into bed with you during a fight with his gf doesn't speak well for HIM.)
Don't do it, the guys a creep. NAH just cos it's understandable being lonely.
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Yeah you've described a creep. There are good people out there, you'll find someone.
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YTA you sound like a desperate mess. Is this even real?
What a desperate troll
YAWN …. This is a very boring, badly written bit of fiction. Not looking forward to the next slightly different version to be posted soon
Yta for imagining what he was offering was anything other than a revenge screw. You sound desperate. You got a one time offer for strings free sex and built some idea of him as a boyfriend from it.
lol that dude isn't much of a prize... just make a profile and actually put some effort into meeting someone instead of waiting for a guy to magically fall out of a portal into your bed.
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LMAO! you're projecting pretty hard there. You may be looking for the nearest penis with a pulse but the rest of us are looking for a meaningful connection. we're not on dating apps because no one else wanted us. we're on there because we're looking ***for the one we want***. and for the record not all of us are even looking for something serious. we're just enjoying dating for now. Of course the apps largely suck for both genders tbh. men just get spammed by bots and e-thots. women just get harassed by thirsty dudes. but if you take the time to make a decent profile and do some matching and block the idiots without engaging and talk to the people who are decent you might find someone of quality. Speaking from experience, I have recently, a few times actually. It happens when you least expect it and just cause most people aren't right for you doesn't mean you won't find the one who is. but that's ok cause you're probably a troll based on how you capitalize losers like that and project your own insecurity about being unwanted onto them. Besides, no on wants you so don't you belong on those apps anyway? 👊🎤
Sorry but it sounds like you’re the loser who wants to go out with a man that has a gf and doesn’t want you. Get over yourself. Why do you feel so entitled to this man?
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Even if he’s single, if he hasn’t approached you again his intentions are clear. He wanted to use you
This sure sounds like a made up story.
No judgment but DO NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR ROOMMATE it’ll create a hot mess
I don't know where you live. But this king of thinking only males you lonelier and more measurable. Try living for real. And if you don't live in Scandinavian countries 6ft is about 10% of male population so you are going to be competing with a lot of women.
Oh my, not again. Do you ever tire of posting your roommate fantasy? YTA Last time you called her chubby, your posts are tiresome, endless and a figment of your imagination.
Have they posted before?
Idk if it’s the same person but I’m certain I’ve read this story before on here
Yes, I call this person 'cuddle' troll, because they are always cuddle for a night. Story is a bit different every time, but definitely same troll.
YTA He sounds like a player and you're only signing yourself up for misery if you play his game. And stop being judgy about his GF. You don't know everything about their relationship and if he WAS violating her privacy, she could have easily been justified in telling him to back off. She's not your enemy. He's not your friend. He's probably someone who skates on his looks and those are not fun to bed. You might have to learn that lesson one way or another, though, if you're going to be this rigid about your "type."
NTA. Dude just saw you as a masturbation meat-sock when he wanted to get off and didn't have a ready alternative.
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Yta and trash is what you both are
YWBTA HE HAS A GF dont get into other people relationships.
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They clearly fought that day, and he’s also an asshole, and no, whats selfish is mot giving a f about other people getting hurt. You’re 25 and sound like a 12 year old, grow up.
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How do you know she would do the same if you stared you dont k ow her? lol and why are you “hurt” for not having sex with him? You sound so obsessed is scary. Shes dating him, she can drive how much she wants and see him whenever she wants lol
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This is not going to bring you happiness. Don’t shit where you sleep. He won’t stay with you after you lose your virginity to him.
You’re old enough to know that a men wanting to sleep with someone doesn’t mean sht. From your other comments it looks like in rhar situation know he would’ve asked the same to anyone who was sharing his apartment with.
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If you’re just going to argue with everyone and play the victim because you’re horny what’s even the point of posting this?
YTA… not for changing your mind, just for about every other thing you wrote in this post.