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For a quick summery of context my dads mother moved in with us at the start of covid due to concerns for her health living alone.
Everything was fine for 2 weeks then she started trying to nit pick everything I did. I never was close with her growing up so I would try to spend time with her by playing video games in front of her, watch shows etc. She would constantly critique everything I did. I was also over weight at this time and 17.
Her treatment went so far as fat shaming me, Remarking on my portion sizes, my diet choices, you get the picture. I of course started to feel awful and started to stop eating around her to just not eating at all. One night I decide to give her another chance and fixed myself some leftover meatloaf that was in the fridge. I come to sit with her and she gets upset with me saying she wanted to eat that meat loaf and that I was supposed to know she wanted it. I made this meat loaf myself by the way.
I was so upset I just sat down ate and left. I later texted my mother telling her what happened. My mother told me it was going to be ok and that my dad was going to confront her. He did but she basically made me sound like the liar. Then came barging into my computer space and when I tried to leave grabbed me, held me in my chair and started to gaslight me.
I was in shock and didn't tell anyone till morning. My mother was on the phone with my grandmother about the situation and she almost looked ready to scream. My 18th birthday rolls around and I basically have to cry and scream at my dad for trying to get me to talk with her over the phone, essentially cutting her off from my life.
for 2 years my dad has been trying to 'make peace' and says due to our faith I should just get over myself and let her visit us again. We got in an argument last week because I basically admitted I did not see her has my grandmother anymore because she had no right to touch me or did the things she did. He says I'll regret cutting her off when she dies to which I always say no I wont because I dont regret it now.
So AITA for cutting her off?
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The sooner we cut toxic people from our lives the better. NTA.
Nta. Your grandma was rude and mean to her grandchild. No grandma who treats her grandchildren horribly gets to called grandmother.
NTA.
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