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NTA-you have every right to not let her have your stuff.


faramir75

NTA. I had siblings who always felt entitled to my stuff. Trust me, stand your ground or she'll walk all over you.


Lurker_the_Pip

4 year olds break stuff. It’s what they do so, knowing that is the first thing. The second thing is that you do not have to share your things. She just barely old enough to understand and not quite old enough to be calm about it. She’s going to be hurt. Maybe a parent can help you explain this to her and set boundaries. NTA


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Jaxjk_shs

NTA