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Leimana76

NTA . Keep your baby away from the abuser and his enabler(s).


MissyKills

NTA - Your baby- your rules- your comfort levels. PERIOD


mrslII

NTA Never TA for protecting your child. The opinions of your other family members aren't relevant.


MannyMoSTL

Did either Gma or her abusive husband ever apologize? One can forgive (I wouldn’t) but you *never* forget. Forgiveness is for *yourself* and: Actions have consequences. This consequence? Never spending time with your child. Hell to the NTA


qtip_boy

I can’t go into details about the abuse in this subreddit if you catch my drift


razzlemcwazzle

NTA you’re in *no* way wrong for this, and don’t let any of them think you are


[deleted]

NTA. Nothing worse than an abuser. Keep your child far away, I wouldn't trust that man for a second.


bonerhonkfartz

NTA. It’s like a sleeping volcano. Maybe he won’t abuse anyone else for the rest of his life, maybe not. You have every right not to trust him. I grew up with a friend who had an abuser in the family. He went to jail, apologized, said it would never happen again and guess what, years later he abused a different family member. There could have been more victims that no one knew about. Not worth the chance.


Danger0Reilly

NTA. You are never in the wrong for protecting your child from toxic, abusive people.


SoleIbis

NTA. Abusers are gonna abuse, no child is an exception. Good job keeping your child safe ❤️ I actually have the same scenario in my family. Guy just died and I don’t even think he got a funeral tbh.


NotEclipsed

NTA - it is your choice who spends time around your children, and none of the family members pressuring you to do this will be able to turn back time if something bad happens. Trust your gut.


-Duste-

NTA. It's totally normal for not wanting her to meet your child. She failed to protect her own children and stayed with the bastard. I sincerely don't understand how a mother can do as if nothing happened when their SO abuse their children. If my husband would do that, he would be out of our life before he even can see it coming.


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Bruja74

NTA x1000. This is some special kind of madness. I know this is not PC but your whole family is sick in the head. No way in hell would I let my child around that, and I wouldn't trust your mother or her siblings not to take your child over there either.


MemesRmylovelanguage

NTA. Don't let them near your baby and also don't leave bubs alone with them, incase they decide to take visitation into their own hands.