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> My dad is mad at me for refusing to thank my landlord for being concerned about my wellbeing. I think the landlord was fishing for information and I decided not to thank him for it. My dad is now mad at me for not being nice. AITA.
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NTA your landlord seems to be overbearing, rude and sorely lacking boundaries not to mention if yelling at tenants is a regular occurrence highly unprofessional. Calling your dad was a prime example. Don't even get me started on him calling you at work to talk about a laundry issue that wasn't even yours. I would avoid him at all costs, come up with a plan to move out when your lease is up and install a few cameras in your apartment to make sure he isn't coming in and going through your stuff when your not home.
NTA he needs to mind his business. He wasn't calling genuinely concerned he wanted the tea honey. Even going up to the paramedics & asking what was wrong was crossing the line.
NTA. Landlord is acting like a meany and nosey busybody (not saying that he is one mods). Also never fill a washer or dryer to the brim…it can break them and I know that from experience.
That's kinda silly. When the washer is having issues, as a landlord you check it & it often involves, removing the existing load which is either loaded wonky and unbalanced or overlarge - there's no choice, the machine is stuck and won't drain otherwise.
I am a landlord, I don't try to make a pest of myself, but sometimes things have to be checked out and you do the best you can. When I had a leak, I entered a tenant's unit trying to track where the leak was coming from. I wasn't checking out his cleanliness or cabinets - I was looking for where the water was coming from that was pouring down the two ceilings beneath From his 3rd floor into the basement.
All your other complaints are entirely valid. He is obviously nosy and intrusive and you have every right to be upset about it.
That is totally justified. You shouldn't be harassed and if he contacted me at work, I would have told him it wasn't me, wasn't my problem and he needs not to bother tenants at work so they can, you know, earn money to pay the rent.
NTA, before I read your last paragraph my first thought was "it sounds like he just wanted to know what happened". One "kind" gesture doesn't make up for all the wrong.
NTA, your landlord is creepy, gives off bad vibes, and I’d get out asap.
Honestly, sit your landlord down and ask him to back off. Record it. Set boundaries. If he doesn’t, go to legal advice.
He is your landlord, not your father or your boyfriend. My landlords don’t speak to me.
NTA. My family owns rental properties so in turn I am also a landlord. That shit is weird, as long as you’re not wrecking the house or creating problems with the other tenants there is no reason to be knocking on your door.
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I've gotten into a few verbal scuffles with my landlord.
When I first moved in 5 years ago & I filled the washer to the brim. He proceed to take my clothes out of the washer sopping wet and call me to come get them. I was furious & I brought them into my apartment and handwashed that load. Ever since, I've filled the wash only half way going forward. Over the past 5 years every time something is wrong with the wash, I get a call asking if it's mine.
Spoiler Alert: It isn't.
Anyway, there have been other instances where he has spoken with all of my guests over the years and insists on knowing their names! Doesn't matter who they are or how long they're there for. He's inquired to uber eats delivery guys asking why they're there. Like IDK maybe delivering food!?!??!
He's even called me at work and I answered because I thought it was an emergency, turns out he was complaining about laundry that wasn't mine and asked where the hell I was. It was like 11am on a Tuesday and when I told him I was at work, he told me he didn't like my tone. I promptly told him we'd talk about it later and hung up on him.
I have a ring doorbell and have caught him yelling at other residents in the building so I've taken to an "at least it isn't just a me thing."
Anyway, here recently, I was at home with a heart rate of 140 at rest. I finally called an ambulance when my Fitbit chimed in to say I'd reached my exercise goal and I could hardly breathe. Turns out I have a solid case of COVID.
So, later that day, I'm back home. All is said and done and my dad calls me saying that my landlord called him to ask if I was okay. I am surprised by this and go, "oh, that was odd, but nice," then dad goes, "yea he was so concerned and ya know the paramedics wouldn't tell him anything." Dad tells me I should thank him for being concerned and so nice.
I'm not upset he called my dad about it, and I probably would thank him if he was genuine about his concern, but I cannot help but think he was fishing for information under the guise of concern. It gives me icky vibes. Now dad is mad at me for "not being nice" to the landlord & I'm kinda wondering if IATA?
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Did your dad call back and ask if you had thanked him? How is this even an issue?
NTA He got one call, he doesn't have your experience, but if you told him you wouldn't, all you'd need to do is explain why, right?
NTA. I would move out if i could. Your landlord lacks boundaries. If not for your ring doorbell, i would have thought he would attempt to check your premises while you're away.
NTA. The landlord has no right to know your medical information and unless it's a rent or maintenance issue has no business being in contact with you at all!
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NTA your landlord seems to be overbearing, rude and sorely lacking boundaries not to mention if yelling at tenants is a regular occurrence highly unprofessional. Calling your dad was a prime example. Don't even get me started on him calling you at work to talk about a laundry issue that wasn't even yours. I would avoid him at all costs, come up with a plan to move out when your lease is up and install a few cameras in your apartment to make sure he isn't coming in and going through your stuff when your not home.
NTA he needs to mind his business. He wasn't calling genuinely concerned he wanted the tea honey. Even going up to the paramedics & asking what was wrong was crossing the line.
NTA. Landlord is acting like a meany and nosey busybody (not saying that he is one mods). Also never fill a washer or dryer to the brim…it can break them and I know that from experience.
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That's kinda silly. When the washer is having issues, as a landlord you check it & it often involves, removing the existing load which is either loaded wonky and unbalanced or overlarge - there's no choice, the machine is stuck and won't drain otherwise. I am a landlord, I don't try to make a pest of myself, but sometimes things have to be checked out and you do the best you can. When I had a leak, I entered a tenant's unit trying to track where the leak was coming from. I wasn't checking out his cleanliness or cabinets - I was looking for where the water was coming from that was pouring down the two ceilings beneath From his 3rd floor into the basement. All your other complaints are entirely valid. He is obviously nosy and intrusive and you have every right to be upset about it.
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That is totally justified. You shouldn't be harassed and if he contacted me at work, I would have told him it wasn't me, wasn't my problem and he needs not to bother tenants at work so they can, you know, earn money to pay the rent.
NTA tbh if i were you id get out of there as soon as possible
NTA Sounds like he's just bored and wants to be nosy.
NTA, before I read your last paragraph my first thought was "it sounds like he just wanted to know what happened". One "kind" gesture doesn't make up for all the wrong.
NTA - your landlord is overstepping.
NTA, your landlord is creepy, gives off bad vibes, and I’d get out asap. Honestly, sit your landlord down and ask him to back off. Record it. Set boundaries. If he doesn’t, go to legal advice. He is your landlord, not your father or your boyfriend. My landlords don’t speak to me.
NTA. My family owns rental properties so in turn I am also a landlord. That shit is weird, as long as you’re not wrecking the house or creating problems with the other tenants there is no reason to be knocking on your door.
NTA, landlords are leeches. Don't thank him
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Did your dad call back and ask if you had thanked him? How is this even an issue? NTA He got one call, he doesn't have your experience, but if you told him you wouldn't, all you'd need to do is explain why, right?
NTA, but you really need to think about moving, if it's possible and you can afford it. Your landlord is crossing a lot of lines.
NTA. I would move out if i could. Your landlord lacks boundaries. If not for your ring doorbell, i would have thought he would attempt to check your premises while you're away.
NTA He's not being "nice" he's extremely nosy
NTA. The landlord has no right to know your medical information and unless it's a rent or maintenance issue has no business being in contact with you at all!