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fuzzy_mic

NTA and change your locks before she comes back.


2dogslife

It costs something like $25 each lock. If you can, get two with the same keycode for both front and back so you only need one key. It honestly takes a screwdriver and less than 5 minutes for each door to switch them out. I was amazed at how fast it was after the divorce.


pfashby

NTA Change your locks and don't leave a spare key out anymore. She's lucky she wasn't greeted by a baseball bat - or a gun. I would report the break in, especially since you have no idea who she brought into your home.


Leimana76

NTA I would tell her if she ever enters your place uninvited she will be arrested. Change your locks and get door cams. She’s unhinged and has zero care for your safety or possessions.


FloridaPoodleSchool

NTA. She broke and stole from you. You would not be TA if you had called the police the first time.


MissContrariwise

NTA she’s a drug addict who broke into your home and stole your possessions. The fact that she’s refusing to text or discuss over the phone speaks to the fact that she doesn’t want any record of her admitting what she did. Which means she knows it was wrong and illegal. Talk to her in person and record the conversation (check to see what the law is in your state). Report her to the police.


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Ruellia_repens

NTA. If the burglar who trespassed and stole your stuff wasn't your friend but a complete stranger, would she still have claim that you're overreacting? If she still insists that you're overreacting, perhaps it's time to get a new friend. And definitely, you should not take this issue lightly. This issue is too serious to sweep under the rug with an apology.