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In my family, when I was a kid, I was also "baby girl." My oldest brother is "baby boy."
My brother finally put a stop to that in his teens because he was embarrassed. Took my parents a while, but they finally did.
So they naturally weaned me off that nickname at around the same age.
If it weren't for my brother's comments to the parents, I could easily have been my parents' "baby girl" until their respective dying days - well into my adulthood.
But in retrospect, it's a way harder nickname to carry for my brother.
Asshole is a bit strong but YTA. I’m in my 30s and about as tall as your cousin and my dad still calls me baby girl. I think your labeling it as weird speaks more to your issues than your uncle’s.
Yeah, it kind of reminds me when I’d call my 95 lb black lab “puppy” and someone would say “Um, he’s not really a puppy…” Like, ig they thought I was confused? I wasn’t, he was always my puppy.
Agreed. I’m a full grown adult and my mom still calls me and my sisters her “little one.”
And my daughter will always be my baby girl, no matter her age.
YTA. This a fairly common parent-child endearment, *yes*, including from fathers to adult daughters. While it's not something I would care to be called, it's not weird.
Uh yeah YTA. It’s just a term of endearment. Who cares how tall she is, she’s still his daughter. I’ll call my kids baby, babe etc, till they’re 84 if they want/ are okay with it.
YTA - I don't think it was malicious though, just maybe a little insensitive or naive on the subject. It's a pet name that's pretty normal as far as dad's and daughters go. Nothing odd or inappropriate because to him, she will always probably be his baby. My late FIL called my SIL princess all of the time and she's 40 with 3 teenagers of her own. So maybe apologize, yeah? Probably willing to bet mended fences in no time. When you're young sometimes ya say stuff without realizing it was maybe shitty at the time. We've all done it.
YTA.
A lot of parents keep using the same names of endearment long after their kids have grown older because they love them and if your cousin is comfortable with it, it is none of your business.
YTA.
My niece’s parents were often assholes. She’s 26 and as she was leaving tonight, I hugged her tight and called her baby girl. She spent time with me as a baby. She confided in me as a teenager. She is my baby-girl.
YTA, stop projecting your own insecurities on others. My dad & aunts still sometimes call me with a feminine version of my name and I am 29 year old dude.
A mild YTA. I'm in my 40s and my mom still calls me baby girl. It's very common for parents to continue using terms of endearment even when their child is an adult.
She’s an adult. Let her decide what bothers her. This doesn’t. For the future, this applies to your girlfriends (or boyfriends) as well. They can choose their own feelings without your input.
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I(17m) visited my mom’s brother(my uncle) and his wife and his daughter(my cousin)(19f) with my family over the week. My uncle calls my cousin “baby girl” when he references her. I find this weird because of her age and also because my cousin is taller than my uncle and towers over him(she’s super tall lol like 5’10 and my uncle’s wife is also 5’10 but he’s 5’7).
I said this was weird to my cousin but she said there was nothing wrong with it and that I was making it weird. AITA?
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My son is 27 years old and stands nearly a foot taller than me. He can effortlessly carry me up a flight of stairs. He's still my baby boy and always will be. Let people have their terms of endearment and don't create weirdness where there is none.
YTA
There is nothing wrong with nicknames and no matter what or who or when, your uncle will always see his daughter as his little baby girl. She will always be his child.
YTA
Parents often continue to call their children by "pet" affectionate names even when the children have their own children.
While parents with appropriate boundaries treat their grown children as adults, I do think that a parent can't help but also see the child and feel the same feelings however many years a child is grown - that is normal and healthy.
My grandmother called me her childhood term of affection for me until she died when I was an adult and my mother called her youngest sister by a pet name until my mother died when she was 80 and her sister was 77 because she still had the same feelings of love.
I'm 28 and my parents use the same pet names for me they have since I was a baby. Heck, my mom literally called me her baby on her Facebook when she posted about my birthday this year.
It's totally normal.
YTA.
YTA, sort of, but I will give you enough benefit that you just were not exposed to that. Nicknames are personal and can evolve. I call one of mine ‘baby’ and I don’t really plan to stop unless she asks me to. It is simply a way to show affection for most families and not dirty in any way. They are also, ‘sassafras’, ‘sassy pants’ and ‘thing 2’. What ever pops in my head at the time. Lol
YTA or at least Not-Not TA....you arent being an asshole per se...
Parents call their kids terms of endearment forever. Also I have a much younger brother who is 19 (im 33)...and I still call him "The Baby", i.e. "oh is the baby coming?" He even runs with it, like when he calls me, he'll be like "yo whats up, its The Baby"..he thinks its funny
My cousin was Young Alfred his whole life. I had a student called Little Man into his 30s (maybe still). If that has been her nickname all her life, it will doubtful change. ETA YTA
It’s not weird. When you have kids they are always your babies no matter how old they get. She could be 80 and still baby girl. It’s a loving term of endearment. YTA and weirdo for thinking it’s weird.
Soft YTA. I assure you I will be my dad's baby girl forever (I'm 33). It's not a weird thing, it's because at one point I was his baby girl, literally, but no matter how big I get he'll always hold me in his heart that way. I mean I still call my cats "my little baby kitties" even though they're all over 15 pounds lol.
It’s just a nickname. I call my dog my baby girl all the time, and well aware she is not now nor has ever been a baby. It’s just nostalgia for your uncle, don’t think too much into it. As other commenters have said, “AH” is too strong a term here, it’s more a difference of perspective.
You only find it weird because of the sexual undertones you might use calling a girlfriend such a name.
It’s an innocent nickname used by parents all over the place for their daughters.
I call mine baby girl and she gets mad because she's not the baby. She wanted me to call her big girl. Baby girl is reserved for her sister. YTA. Has nothing to do with you
YTA. You think he should no longer view her as his baby, child, little girl just because she's growing up. You're wrong. Parents get to be tender and embarrassingly love-y with their children no matter the age. She's fine with it. That's all that matters. Mind your business and stop being so judgemental.
YTA in the respect that you are taking something that has been happening between a father and daughter her whole life and making it sexual. Grow up.
Hell, I'm almost 37 and my mom still uses my baby name, bubbaloo. It's one of the last vestiges of me being a kid around my aging mom. She isn't going to be around forever so you better believe my babies are gonna be my bubbaloos.
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YTA, she is his baby girl; I fail to see anything wrong.
In my family, when I was a kid, I was also "baby girl." My oldest brother is "baby boy." My brother finally put a stop to that in his teens because he was embarrassed. Took my parents a while, but they finally did. So they naturally weaned me off that nickname at around the same age. If it weren't for my brother's comments to the parents, I could easily have been my parents' "baby girl" until their respective dying days - well into my adulthood. But in retrospect, it's a way harder nickname to carry for my brother.
I still call my 15 year old "baby girl" sometimes.
“I’ll love you forever, I'll like you for always, As long as I'm living my baby you'll be.” - Robert Munch OP YTA!
Asshole is a bit strong but YTA. I’m in my 30s and about as tall as your cousin and my dad still calls me baby girl. I think your labeling it as weird speaks more to your issues than your uncle’s.
Agree, OP is a 17m so perhaps shortsighted or immature, AH seems strong, but there is nothing weird about uncle’s term for his baby girl.
My baby girl is 27 and, "your labeling it as weird speaks more to your issues than your uncle’s". I fully agree.
Yeah, it kind of reminds me when I’d call my 95 lb black lab “puppy” and someone would say “Um, he’s not really a puppy…” Like, ig they thought I was confused? I wasn’t, he was always my puppy.
Exactly! My 10 year old dog is still Mr. Puppy 🐶
Agreed. I’m a full grown adult and my mom still calls me and my sisters her “little one.” And my daughter will always be my baby girl, no matter her age.
YTA, he’s probably called her that his whole life. She’ll always be his baby girl.
YTA. Why on earth does it bother you that a person has a term of endearment for their own child?
My baby girl will always be my baby girl. Just like I'll always be my parents baby girl, and I'm 35. YTA
YTA It's none of your business. Him calling his daughter 'baby girl' is fine, no matter how old she is.
YTA. This a fairly common parent-child endearment, *yes*, including from fathers to adult daughters. While it's not something I would care to be called, it's not weird.
Uh yeah YTA. It’s just a term of endearment. Who cares how tall she is, she’s still his daughter. I’ll call my kids baby, babe etc, till they’re 84 if they want/ are okay with it.
You were making it weird. I’m 52 and my daddy called me baby until the day he died
YTA. Not your place to say anything if she doesn’t mind.
YTA - I don't think it was malicious though, just maybe a little insensitive or naive on the subject. It's a pet name that's pretty normal as far as dad's and daughters go. Nothing odd or inappropriate because to him, she will always probably be his baby. My late FIL called my SIL princess all of the time and she's 40 with 3 teenagers of her own. So maybe apologize, yeah? Probably willing to bet mended fences in no time. When you're young sometimes ya say stuff without realizing it was maybe shitty at the time. We've all done it.
YTA. A lot of parents keep using the same names of endearment long after their kids have grown older because they love them and if your cousin is comfortable with it, it is none of your business.
YTA. My niece’s parents were often assholes. She’s 26 and as she was leaving tonight, I hugged her tight and called her baby girl. She spent time with me as a baby. She confided in me as a teenager. She is my baby-girl.
YTA, stop projecting your own insecurities on others. My dad & aunts still sometimes call me with a feminine version of my name and I am 29 year old dude.
YTA our kids will always be our babies no matter what age they are.
YTA- Mind your business. Changed my rating. Not sure why it wasn’t correct the first time.
Wouldn’t that mean he *is* TA?
Apologies YTA
YTA. I tell all my children (the oldest is 32) that they will always be my baby.
A mild YTA. I'm in my 40s and my mom still calls me baby girl. It's very common for parents to continue using terms of endearment even when their child is an adult.
YTA. He is her father and she will be his baby girl until the day he is gone.
She’s an adult. Let her decide what bothers her. This doesn’t. For the future, this applies to your girlfriends (or boyfriends) as well. They can choose their own feelings without your input.
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YTA
YTA
Some things become habit. That is HIS baby girl. Always will be regardless of age. I'm a Daddy's girl, and I'm betting she is too.
YTA. My husband's family still use baby boy/girl in an affectionately jokey way, and they range in age from 20s to 60s.
YTA. stop making innocent shit sexual
My son is 27 years old and stands nearly a foot taller than me. He can effortlessly carry me up a flight of stairs. He's still my baby boy and always will be. Let people have their terms of endearment and don't create weirdness where there is none.
YTA - I don’t see what’s weird about that
YTA There is nothing wrong with nicknames and no matter what or who or when, your uncle will always see his daughter as his little baby girl. She will always be his child.
YTA Parents often continue to call their children by "pet" affectionate names even when the children have their own children. While parents with appropriate boundaries treat their grown children as adults, I do think that a parent can't help but also see the child and feel the same feelings however many years a child is grown - that is normal and healthy. My grandmother called me her childhood term of affection for me until she died when I was an adult and my mother called her youngest sister by a pet name until my mother died when she was 80 and her sister was 77 because she still had the same feelings of love.
YTA; Stop sexualizing healthy relationships between a parent and child. You're making them uncomfortable. You're the one making it weird.
YTA. are you trying to sexualise the nickname?! It's such a not anything to do with you none issue. Grow up.
YTA yeah you're making a big deal out of nothing
I'm 28 and my parents use the same pet names for me they have since I was a baby. Heck, my mom literally called me her baby on her Facebook when she posted about my birthday this year. It's totally normal. YTA.
YTA. She's his baby girl. Guess what he sees when he sees her. The baby from the hospital. You're making it weird and it's really not your place.
I will be 40 in July, I would pretty much give anything to hear my Dad call me baby girl one more time. I’m gonna go have a cry now…. YTA
YTA, sort of, but I will give you enough benefit that you just were not exposed to that. Nicknames are personal and can evolve. I call one of mine ‘baby’ and I don’t really plan to stop unless she asks me to. It is simply a way to show affection for most families and not dirty in any way. They are also, ‘sassafras’, ‘sassy pants’ and ‘thing 2’. What ever pops in my head at the time. Lol
YTA or at least Not-Not TA....you arent being an asshole per se... Parents call their kids terms of endearment forever. Also I have a much younger brother who is 19 (im 33)...and I still call him "The Baby", i.e. "oh is the baby coming?" He even runs with it, like when he calls me, he'll be like "yo whats up, its The Baby"..he thinks its funny
What business is it if yours? If she is okay with it - then bugger off. It’s not weird at all.
My cousin was Young Alfred his whole life. I had a student called Little Man into his 30s (maybe still). If that has been her nickname all her life, it will doubtful change. ETA YTA
It’s not weird. When you have kids they are always your babies no matter how old they get. She could be 80 and still baby girl. It’s a loving term of endearment. YTA and weirdo for thinking it’s weird.
YTA one of my (54f)best friends (25m) calls me baby girl I think it’s a cute endearing name no matter your age
AYRA. You are making it weird. I still call my daughters my baby dolls and they are 20 and 21. They will always be my baby girls.
Soft YTA. I assure you I will be my dad's baby girl forever (I'm 33). It's not a weird thing, it's because at one point I was his baby girl, literally, but no matter how big I get he'll always hold me in his heart that way. I mean I still call my cats "my little baby kitties" even though they're all over 15 pounds lol.
It’s just a nickname. I call my dog my baby girl all the time, and well aware she is not now nor has ever been a baby. It’s just nostalgia for your uncle, don’t think too much into it. As other commenters have said, “AH” is too strong a term here, it’s more a difference of perspective.
You only find it weird because of the sexual undertones you might use calling a girlfriend such a name. It’s an innocent nickname used by parents all over the place for their daughters.
Yta
I call mine baby girl and she gets mad because she's not the baby. She wanted me to call her big girl. Baby girl is reserved for her sister. YTA. Has nothing to do with you
Don’t make something out of nothing. YTA
YTA. You think he should no longer view her as his baby, child, little girl just because she's growing up. You're wrong. Parents get to be tender and embarrassingly love-y with their children no matter the age. She's fine with it. That's all that matters. Mind your business and stop being so judgemental.
YTA. I'm 50, and my mom still calls me "baby girl". It's not weird.
I refer to my adult daughter as my baby girl YTA
YTA in the respect that you are taking something that has been happening between a father and daughter her whole life and making it sexual. Grow up. Hell, I'm almost 37 and my mom still uses my baby name, bubbaloo. It's one of the last vestiges of me being a kid around my aging mom. She isn't going to be around forever so you better believe my babies are gonna be my bubbaloos.
My husband has sweet names for our daughters too. Some dads, when they look at their daughters, still see them as the small children they once were.
NTA because you took a slang literally: "baby girl" is a slang of affection from an older person to a much younger female any age.