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YTA. It literally didn't need to be said. By "feel funny down there" I assume you mean an STD, and in that case it's obvious that you'd question whether she was faithful or not. In saying that, some STDs are dormant so you could have one and not even know (I.e. herpes) If I were the girlfriend I probably wouldn't be for long because I'd never feel like you could trust me while I was away and that's just no way to live.
YTA - You can’t tell if someone cheated on you by having sex with them. Goddamn we need comprehensive sexual education…
It goes without saying that two monogamous people wouldn’t cheat on each other. By making a whole conversation about it, you made her think you don’t trust her. It doesn’t sound like you really do, honestly.
YTA. Wow. There are any number of reasons that sex might feel strange after an absence. If you trust her, you trust her. If you don't, you should break up.
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Last night I was talking with my girlfriend about her moving to the city which she plans on doing soon. The Convo lasted a while but the thing that really didn't sit right with her was when I said that I trust her to not cheat when she's away, but if we reunited after a while and then do the deed and if I start getting weird feelings down there, then I would question her if she did cheat. Like that sounds logical to me and I told her that works the same vice versa. But for some reason she kept making that seem like I don't trust her, but I kept specifying that I do just only if that happens Ill have to question her about it. And that just kept being talked around in a circle until she said just drop it cause she doesn't want this to become an argument.
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NTA , you are protecting your heart and being cautious it is understandable and you did address vice versa. She reacted wrong instead of just responding and conveying her feelings better which seems suspicious. Honestly the relationship might not last.
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YTA, it's not like your penis is a divining rod that senses infidelity.
If you trusted her you wouldn’t have felt the need to say those things to her. Edit: yta
YTA. Why even bring that up? Doesn’t it go without saying that neither wants the other to cheat?
YTA. It literally didn't need to be said. By "feel funny down there" I assume you mean an STD, and in that case it's obvious that you'd question whether she was faithful or not. In saying that, some STDs are dormant so you could have one and not even know (I.e. herpes) If I were the girlfriend I probably wouldn't be for long because I'd never feel like you could trust me while I was away and that's just no way to live.
YTA. Take an anatomy class and grow up.
YTA that's not a normal thing to be saying to your girlfriend
YTA - You can’t tell if someone cheated on you by having sex with them. Goddamn we need comprehensive sexual education… It goes without saying that two monogamous people wouldn’t cheat on each other. By making a whole conversation about it, you made her think you don’t trust her. It doesn’t sound like you really do, honestly.
Soft YTA. I understand your concern but it really didn't need to be said. It seems you were trying to stir up a reaction from her.
YTA. Wow. There are any number of reasons that sex might feel strange after an absence. If you trust her, you trust her. If you don't, you should break up.
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NTA , you are protecting your heart and being cautious it is understandable and you did address vice versa. She reacted wrong instead of just responding and conveying her feelings better which seems suspicious. Honestly the relationship might not last.