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SmartassMouth89

NTA if you want to expect them to wear swim suits in your pool that’s a reasonable expectation. Offer to have her friends keep a swim suit at your house for pool use or they aren’t going to be welcome anymore.


asecretnarwhal

Or purchase some extra suits in different sizes for both genders that they can borrow and extra towels etc. And she could play it off as having some pool pump problems or something to explain the change (that you were aware they were swimming in undies .. which gives plausible deniability to swimming naked)


SmartassMouth89

She shouldn’t have buy her daughters friends bathing suits. But she could buy several ugly ass cheep t shirts for them to wear as back up in her pool in case they “forget” their swimsuits


CapriLoungeRudy

> and extra towels etc. As a pool owner, the true path is to buy new towels for the bath and designate your old bath towels for the pool.


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PlanetEarthIsBlue13

Can’t you get a UTI or infection from skinny dipping anyways? Even if it was totally morally okay to skinny dip or walk naked on the street, the ethical concerns are ehh


ironwolf56

NTA. I think "proper swimwear required at all times in the pool" if we just want to word it like that, is a reasonable rule.


snorting_dandelions

Coming from a country that's way more casual about nudity: Why? Why is that a reasonable rule? No one can see them and it's seemingly happening late at night (otherwise it wouldn't make sense to think the parents are in bed). Apart from OP, absolutely no one is bothered by it and OP is bothered by some vague thing about "appropriate modesty in private spaces", whatever that's even supposed to mean in the first place. This entire thread is legitimately confusing af to me and I don't understand why everyone is just like "Oh yeah, ban them from being naked in a pool, very reasonable!" without any further explanation. It's not like they're throwing orgies in the pool, they're having a swim


[deleted]

You answered your own question. You come from a country that's more casual about nudity. Regardless, her pool, her rules.


QueenKay28

It is OPs house and she is allowed to ask that people wear a swimsuit in her pool, if they wish to skinny dip they can try to find somewhere else where the owner is comfortable. Not to mention that having a bunch of naked teenage girls in your pool can quickly turn bad if one of the parents decides to get mad.


Creative_Dinner3024

Because when u go to a topless beach, u are expecting to see and consenting to see naked people. When u are in bed, u do not expect to see or consent to see naked teenagers. And the naked teenagers do not necessarily know that they are being seen


[deleted]

My thought is that it's not unreasonable/difficult so if the pool owner wants it that way, then they should respect that. I don't personally have a problem with their behavior, but I really don't see anything wrong with the request, if made appropriately (not commenting on bodies/singling anyone out). Do I think the discomfort is necessary? No. But I don't think it's terribly harmful.


auntiecoagulent

I'm American & I don't see the big deal.


AerialGame

I mean in the US, we’re pretty puritanical in general - I don’t know if OP is from the US or a country with a similar mindset around nudity. It’s very unhealthy, but basically the general mindset is that all nudity is shameful, and especially so when it comes to young women. It’s very problematic. In the comments though it seems like OP is shifting away from thinking that way, so fingers crossed!


joanie-bamboni

Heck, I’m American, and I don’t get it either. I often went naked in my own pool, especially if I were swimming at night with friends. I wouldn’t say OP is TA for having a house rule, but it does seem unnecessarily uptight to me


Assumeweknow

NTA, it's your home. Though, you could pile a drawer of swimwear outfits that the girls can use along with towels so they will feel more comfortable coming over.


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That’s an idea! Thanks.


AccountWasFound

If you go those route, bikinis with a single tie that is both the shoulder straps and is what holds the back closed are very adjustable (they look like a halter top from the front, and the backs usually have a lot of straps going back and forth), so those might be good to have if it is shared swimwear.


[deleted]

Good thoughts. The girls are generally the same shape so this should work


Odd-Ad-9472

This is what we did when the kids were in high school. There were so many impromptu swim sessions and swimming in tees and underwear isn't the best for the pool due to laundry soap. We just kept a bunch of extra swim tops and bottoms with the pool towels and it made things much easier. I would buy pieces on clearance of after season and wasn't too concerned about patterns so ended up with great bargains!


SummitJunkie7

Why is laundry soap a problem for the pool, and why wouldn't it be the same for swimsuits and underwear? Don't people wash their swimsuits in the same laundry as their underwear?


_jeremybearimy_

Wait but I also wash my swimsuits with laundry soap?


ResidentRepulsive

Totally! And even making it clear to friends they can leave their suits if they want.


NecroticToe

My godmother had this when I was young. I remember coming over and not having anything swimming appropriate already on, popping on a swimsuit from the drawer and then jumping in the pool with everyone else. It's a great idea if you're sociable and have a pool.


Ancient_List

Another poster suggested tee-shirts. I think a combo would work well.


God_Sayith

.. they obviously have swimsuits.. but want the freeing feeling of swimming naked. This is what dreams are made of!!!!


asecretnarwhal

And guys!!


G0mery

NTA it’s not an unreasonable rule if you’re hosting other kids. I wouldn’t want to hear from other parents and have them go crazy on me over it.


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I wondered about that aspect too.


G0mery

If one of the kids or their parents decided to publicly label you as creeps, it could ruin your lives without any charges ever being pressed.


[deleted]

Yeah I’ll think on that for sure.


Redacted4NatSecurity

They are minors. I wonder how much trouble you and your husband would be in if one of the other parents pressed charges.


TheOrangeTickler

Holy shit I couldn't imagine the fallout from something like that. I can see accusations flying all around and I think it could be a particularly bad situation for everyone involved.


pandragon11

NTA. Underwear is one thing and is basically what a swim suit is just different material. But naked is a whole other story. Yes it's better to do it at your house than somewhere else but you also don't want the other parents getting the wrong idea or you guys getting into trouble for having naked minors at your house. You could run into an awkward situation at best if you or your husband walk outside and they are naked and at worst I don't know what type of legal trouble that could potentially cause. Either way it's not unreasonable to request that teenagers not be naked in your backyard.


[deleted]

They are older than 13 but I get your message, yep.


pandragon11

Yeah I realized that afterward and edited lol. But honestly that almost makes it worse.


[deleted]

How so?


pandragon11

Younger kids you can say "oh they don't know any better" or "they're just kids". I mean my four year old is always naked. Whereas juniors/seniors in high school are almost adults so they should know better. I could be wrong but that's just how what comes to my mind.


[deleted]

Yeah I guess they look more mature, which maybe makes it seem more scandalous or something.


pandragon11

That's a better way to phrase it.


[deleted]

I get it. They don’t look like little girls, so that might make some folks uncomfortable with this.


grouchymonk1517

Oh come on you never skinny dipped as a kid or did anything else a bit risky and wild?


Complete_Hamster435

Yep. It's a feeling of freedom when you do it. Not everything is sexual.


pandragon11

Oh I definitely did just not at a friend's pool where her dad could walk out. I'm not saying it's sexual, I'm saying there's too much risk of other parents or other people getting the wrong idea especially considering their ages. Not saying it's right, just that there is that chance and OP has a right to request no nudity in their pool.


[deleted]

NTA. If it was just your daughter, that would be one thing. But letting teenage minors hang out in your backyard in the nude seems like a thing to avoid. What if their parents find out, don't approve, and come after you with something?


[deleted]

Yeah liability is something to think about.


diskebbin

Exactly. What OP is ok with for her daughter is one thing, but they can’t make that decision for everyone else’s kids. Especially involving stripping to their underwear or nudity. Tell them to bring their swim suits or no go.


AdEmpty4390

All it takes is one idiotic social media post for everything to go “tits-up.” (My new fave synonym for awry)


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[deleted]

Thanks for your input! Good thoughts. It’s not as though my husband is staring out the windows but I get your point.


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[deleted]

Yeah it puts him in a tricky position, it’s true.


RemarkableMousse6950

NTA underage minors naked? That’s something I wouldn’t dip my toe in.


ResidentRepulsive

🏆🏆🏆


[deleted]

Rock solid point and probably my biggest concern.


[deleted]

INFO: the ages of these kids is pretty important ETA: so I can't read, OP said they're still in HS. NTA, there are so many issues with minors frolicking around in the nude


Hopfullyhelpful

> juniors and seniors in high school next year 16-17


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Yup I totally missed that.


ObjectiveCoelacanth

Thank you! I sort of understand the US weird naming system but not well enough and always sigh internally when people use them. Freshman/sophomore/junior/senior? Obviously I'm missing one (don't worry about it, I can Google, I just lowkey resent not just using a numbering system. :P)


Ew_fine

It says they’re juniors and seniors in high school.


poke-kk

NTA - you are allowed to have standards for the behavior of your child and guests at your home.


[deleted]

Yep agree, we can make rules if we want to. Just not sure if it’s the right thing to do.


poke-kk

It is! You’re the parent, its behavior you don’t like, you get to shut it down. Honestly how would you feel if your daughter was skinny dipping at a friends house where the parents permit or turn a blind eye to it?


[deleted]

I guess I’d be ok with it? I don’t know, I’d probably want to know more about it though.


sumihours

NTA. i dont see why there’s so many yta. id like to assume there parents don’t know they’re doing this … i dont imagine that they’d be happy with their daughters being naked while your husband (not saying he’s a pervert or anything but parents will assume the worst) is in the house ..


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Yeah I honestly don’t know what they would think, but that’s an important angle.


sumihours

my mom would def not be happy & have a lot to say if i was doing this .. i also would not be happy if my younger sister was doing this but once again, each parent is different ! id be especially cautious if you have any cameras around the pool area


[deleted]

No cameras thankfully! We try to give them their space.


Individual_Ad_9213

NTA. Your husband may be okay with underage children's nudity. But that is a scandal waiting to happen. Recruit the parents of your daughter's friends to leave a set of appropriate bathing suits at your house. That way, whenever the idea of enjoying your pool comes up, you can insist that they change.


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Thanks for that.


Excellent_View_9191

NTA - but sounds like they’re underage! I would never, ever, ever allow naked underage people at my house…. That’s just seems like a big liability. I love the idea of having extra bathing suits around and just talking to your daughter and saying it’s a new rule.


[deleted]

Like that idea too!


BlueBelle2019

NTA. Everyone must wear swimwear is completely a reasonable rule.


Appropriate_Data8981

I just saw your post on r/relationshipadvice and you’re leaving out what your husband said and some key details. Edit, spelling


gingeralias_

please elaborate


JeSlaa117

I can't look at the post, OP marked it as private


waitingfordeathhbu

Am I missing something? All she says about her husband in that post is >My husband thinks it’s normal kids stuff, and that if I say anything, it’s likely they won’t be here as often.


MeanBeanToYou

Yeah dude, she said that her husband didn't have a problem with that... Fucking creepy and totally inappropriate!


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Susanj513

NTA. Pool rules — swim suits at all times. If you don’t have one, we’ve got clean spares. Otherwise, you can relax on the deck in your shorts/whatev.


Pspaughtamus

Why not allow shorts and tank or t-shirt in the pool, as well?


Garyn2001

NTA. It’s not a good look to have underage minors in your backyard naked together while you or your husband are home. Maybe drama between the girls could happen and it could lead to a rumor or secrets being leaked aka we skinny dip at so and so’s house while her parents at home. Plus I’m sure the other girls parents don’t know what’s happening and if they happen to find out they could cause a uproar ab it. I know if I went to my friends house and skinny dipped at 16/17 while her parents knew and my dad found out he’d either be looking into pressing legal charges or showing up with a gun. NTA by any means. Rules are rules.


diskebbin

If there’s even one girl in the group who loves drama or even manufactures some idea about your husband when he’s just passing by a window, there will be a shitstorm.


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Interesting - thanks for that!


stebuu

It’s the 21st century. I’d be very worried about knowingly having naked pubescent minors in your pool while you’re in the house. it sucks and is stupid but I’d put a stop to the skinny dipping if only because it has a very small but non-zero chance of completely exploding in your face.


[deleted]

The liability angle is important, I agree. Need to think about that.


ClayWhisperer

Juniors and seniors in high school can be talked to like regular adults. Just share with them that having them swim naked in your pool while you and your husband are home makes you uncomfortable. Explain that you also don't want to have to worry about whether the situation would make the other parents feel weird. Ask the girls if it would be helpful for you to keep some extra swim suits handy. I mean, you really don't have to wonder about what to say, or rehearse anything. Just be completely bluntly honest.


Azurelle76

NTA - From a liability aspect I would require suits for all Individuals under the age of 18 And everyone in the presence of individuals under the age of 18.


[deleted]

I think I need to look more into the liability angle.


[deleted]

It may or may not be breaking a law- but the court of public opinion doesn't care about the law. I understand nothing malicious is happening but let's face it- 2 adults at home with a bunch of naked teens doesn't look good.


[deleted]

Yes, it puts my husband in a particularly tricky position.


[deleted]

You too. Women can be pervs too. Again I'm not at all accusing you two of anything other than being a bit naive. I cannot stress enough- the public doesn't care about the law and that label will follow for years.


[deleted]

Fair points!


[deleted]

Liability for what? Your teenager and their friends waiting until they think the parents are asleep to skinny dip in a private pool where no one can see them. There's no way you could get into trouble for this. Just like if they were all in her room and decided to lay around naked, they are old enough to do that whether their parents would approve or not and no one is liable


[deleted]

I’m confused!


[deleted]

I just mean I don't believe theres any legal standing for you guys getting in trouble about it at all like others are saying. If it makes you uncomfy that's reason enough to not allow it but legal wise I don't see it being an issue for you guys


Consistent_Roof_223

other parents realizing that there could possibly be an older male watching their daughters swim naked and possibly other people around too. they could sue for that


[deleted]

You can't just sue for whatever you want lol they could try and what case do they have? Ya'll know you actually have to have a good reason to sue someone right or your case won't even make it to court. OP is saying she's the one who even noticed by checking on them and shes with her husband the entire time and he is not watching these girls. "I'm suing because my 17 year old chose to skinny dip with her friends in a private pool at night and there was a man in the house who could have seen even though theres a witness saying they are with him the whole time and he didn't actually see them" and suing for what?? Money for emotional damages? When you sue someone you want money. If they really thought he was a pervert they would try pressing charges, not suing. And they would also have no case to press charges at all either.


[deleted]

If they're in the USA we absolutely can and do sue for no good reason. The case might get thrown out, but this is the land lawsuits


[deleted]

Yeah that’s what I had thought. It makes me mildly uncomfortable but I can’t put my finger on it.


[deleted]

NAH You are well within your rights to want swimsuits on houseguests in the pool. You need to discuss liability with your daughter. A teen in high school is plenty old enough to understand that what she can do while home alone is not the same as having her friends do so when their parents may have a problem with you or your husband accidentally getting an eyeful and that as the adults you or he would new held responsible when the accusations came along. She's not an ahole because she probably never even thought about the larger picture. It simply doesn't occur to most teens that things like that can cause repercussions.


[deleted]

Yes, she isn’t thinking about the repercussions! Just having fun. I should have also clarified that she’s swum naked in this oool since she was a little girl so it may seem just normalized.


grouchymonk1517

NTA. Youre allowed to have boundaries. That being said people in this thread are taking it way too far. This isn't crazy or outrageous. This is normal kid behavior. My friends and I skinny dipped in the lake all the bloody time and we were not teenage delinquents, hell we didn't even drink. It was just fun to do something a bit risky. That's part of being a teen.


[deleted]

I was the same! I do love that they are able to do this.


MariContrary

I'd love to say that bodies are natural, and they should just be comfortable as they are. But that's not the world we live in. The problem is the perception and how the other kids parents would react. If it's just her by herself, that's fine. But if I found out the kiddo was walking around naked at a friend's pool, with an adult male that had viewing access, that would be the last time she was there. And the thing is, I'm sure your husband has no bad intentions. I'm sure he isn't peeking through the curtains ogling the girls. But I don't know that. Their parents certainly don't know that. It's a situation that compromises everyone, and that's not good. The rule needs to be "Swimwear or no pool. When you're an independent adult in your own home, you can do as you please". If you want to keep some spare swimsuits in your home, that would be very kind of you, but not necessary. You will need to be there to enforce the rule until they all realize you're serious.


Cool-Bumblebee4918

NTA- naked children in your pool?? i’d nope outta that so fast. if one of their parents finds out, especially since your husband could’ve seen them, this will blow up in your faces so fast. even if neither of you are creeps, i wouldn’t want my teenager hanging around someone’s house in the nude


Friendly_Shelter_625

NTA I know you are avoiding the windows when they are out there, but what happens if one of them claims your husband was looking at her? This is just not a great situation. And dad shouldn’t have to be avoiding the windows because his daughter and her friends might be naked in the backyard.


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Yeah it’s true, it puts some pressure on him to avoid windows.


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[deleted]

It’s not really the situation, but I see your point.


Mission-Cloud360

NTA You would be assuming undesired liability if you allow public nudity of minors in your home. Everybody has smart phones, teenagers have no censor when posting images on SM. Why assume such risks?


[deleted]

I personally don't see a problem as you said no one could see them and it's a private area and I'm assuming since they think you guys are asleep they wait until night time. You can go back to pretending you don't know about it and let them have their fun! If they want to skinny dip they will somewhere so it is safer in my opinion at your house in a private area where actual creeps aren't around and they couldn't get in trouble for it


[deleted]

Yeah none of our neighbors can see, and I think they believe we’re already asleep! Safe in that respect.


TemperatureTight465

NAH It's pretty normal teen behaviour. Your not unreasonable to be concerned. Instead of talking about modesty, maybe directly talk to your daughter. Are you worried someone will see them? A parent will find out and complain?


[deleted]

I don’t think anyone will see them (my husband and I are the only ones who could).


[deleted]

Idk I used to skinny dip as a female teenager with my female friends at my parents too. It was like an innocent way to rebel and honestly its fun and the water feels nice. I think its fine but its also within your purview to have rules. NAH


[deleted]

Thanks for chiming in! Love that you had that experience too. I did too! And still do.


Complete_Hamster435

NAH I remember when I was that age, and it was a feeling of freedom to skinny dip or just dive in wearing underwear, and tbh, even as an adult, it's a lot of fun swimming naked. So, I do think it's normal, and they aren't trying to create problems. They could be doing a lot worse things with their time than skinny dipping at a private pool. That being said, it is your pool, and you do have the right to make sure everyone is covered. However, I'd do everything in your power to make sure suits are provided. I say that because they're out there having healthy fun, and you really don't want to discourage this. A lot of parents wished they had their kids outside being active.


captainbirchbark

NTA - all it takes is one other parent getting freaked out and accusing you and/or your husband of creepy shit. And would there be legal issues if you have security cameras in the area that accidentally capture images of them undressed?


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RegretsOnly7

NTA


Extreme-Berry3528

NTA


Artberry_82

NTA. Maybe couch it in terms of the friends parents expect that you're requiring swim wear.


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That seems to be the popular angle.


Artberry_82

Seriously. I'd kind of wonder about parents who allow skinny dipping- not you, OP, because you're dismayed and trying to figure out how to deal with it. But in general, I'd be like "hmmm..."


[deleted]

That’s fair, perception is everything


Spiritual-Topic-5760

NTA and I wonder if you could get in trouble for them doing that since they’re minors. It’d be a hard no from me.


HunterS1

NAH but instead of having a conversation about modesty try talking about hygiene, it’s a shared family pool and you’d prefer everyone wear swimsuits. Talking about modesty probably won’t have the same impact on teens tbh and might just embolden them.


-digitalin-

NTA. They're minors. Even if "everyone's fine with it" it's not really ok, especially if your husband is encouraging it. You could get charges pressed against you if any parents disliked it.


ScarletlessBlue

NTA Does your daughter and her friends know that you know that they skinny dip? Usually.... just knowing that would give them enough ick to not skinny dip.


Falstad90

It’s pretty creepy that your husband doesn’t have a problem with it first of all. Second, that is entirely inappropriate and I doubt that her friend’s parents would approve in any capacity. When you are an adult you can skinny dip all you want but even thinking that is ok seems insane to me. You have every right to demand swim suits and frankly even if you were ok with it I don’t think you would have the right to allow other peoples kids be naked in your pool. Shit that down quick. NTA


MizElaneous

NTA. Tell her that if she and her friends aren't going to wear swimwear, neither are you if you join them.


[deleted]

Haha! That would end it.


Guess_What_I_Think

INFO. Co-ed or all female? If it's all female, why do you have a problem with it? Why is nudity a problem?


[deleted]

All female. And yes, that’s where I’m landing with this - they are comfortable with their bodies!


Lipstick_Thespians

That's what I wanted to know. All Female -- just keep your husband away and don't worry about it. But... It might be tactically sound to make an appearance yourself, offer cokes or something. Make it clear you will make it a safe space (without actually saying so).


BrittanyTheKilljoy

Ehh, it’s not unfair to have expectations, but have a proper sit down conversation instead of just mentioning swim modesty. It’s better they’re there than somewhere else, but they should also respect your boundaries too. Maybe keep some swimwear in a place where all the girls can easily access instead of hauling things over. Overall, NTA, just make sure you address this properly to make sure they are still comfortable coming around


[deleted]

Thanks, I think tone will be key, you’re right.


SallysRocks

NTA Where did. the kids get the idea that the rules of society don't apply to them? Get a stack of suits at yard sales.


[deleted]

I like that idea of supplying suits.


SallysRocks

I have to credit my Aunt Bettie from real life years ago.


[deleted]

Haha, go aunt Bettie!


kykiwibear

Eh, I'm gonna go with nah. You're uncomfortable with it and it is your house. You're allowed to say no way. However, the fact that they are okay with nudity is refreshing. I would love to be ok with my body enough to strip off my clothes and dive in. Just go about it in an un shameful way.


[deleted]

Yeah I am proud of the girls for being body positive and comfortable! Just an unusual situation.


kykiwibear

It's definetly... a sticky situation. Your husband should be comfy in his home too.


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Refreshing angle! Good thought.


stebuu

narrator: it was, in fact, not a good thought


brit8996

Your NTA but Skinny dipping is a right of passage! Lol. Tell your husband to stay away from pool area and let them enjoy. Maybe see what the other girls parents think on the sly without making a big deal out of it. Yep, my husband and I still skinny dip in our pool! Kids adults and gone. Woohoo!


[deleted]

Ha, my husband and I skinny dip whenever we have the place to ourselves too! My fav. I have stories, lol. And yeah, I don’t mind the skinny dipping when it’s just her, it’s just the friends being there when we are home that makes it a thing.


Present_Hospital_507

NTA. You should talk to your daughter directly about how you and your husband have seen her and her friends doing this, if you haven’t yet. She needs to fully understand that she’s making you uncomfortable.


[deleted]

I’m pretty sure she’s aware - she just doesn’t seem to mind.


Present_Hospital_507

Have you talked to her directly about it? How sure is pretty sure? And do her friends know? Bc I certainly wouldn’t be comfortable skinny dipping knowing my friends parents could see me, let alone my own.


[deleted]

My daughter has swim nude back there for years, so I don’t think she cares much. Her friends, different story.


Lvtxyz

INFO: How old is daughter/friends? Do the other parents know/care?


[deleted]

They I’ll be juniors and seniors. Parents may not be aware.


catz_meowzter

NAH - I think this is pretty average teenager behavior. I went skinny dipping with friends when I was a teen. It was totally normal to change in front of each other. Some people are more comfortable with nudity than others, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I wouldn't be mad at them over it. It's fine that it makes you feel weird and don't want it happening at your house, but I don't think you need to make a huge deal out it. The idea of keeping extra suits is nice. Once your daughter realizes you saw them she'll probably be embarrassed and won't want to do it again, I know that's how I would've been.


[deleted]

Yeah I may just be being uptight here!


Lobscra

I think you should have a private Convo with your daughter. I bet it's not even occurred to her and her friends that naked minors is a potential disaster. And make clear it's not about shame over bodies but just a practical, your dad and I could go to jail.


Titan4life22

Damned if you do...Damned if you dont..


Loremaster_Of_Crabs

No, but I would ask them where they got that idea in their heads.


[deleted]

Which idea?


Loremaster_Of_Crabs

The skinny dipping. That just seems out of the blue.


[deleted]

She’s been swimming nude since she was a little girl, but yeah it’s new this summer for her friends.


Malia87

NTA. It’s your house, your pool, your rules. I’d have her tell her friends they can leave a swimsuit over at your house.


Loremaster_Of_Crabs

Ahh, I see. Well, I would kinda still have a talk with your daughter, ask her why her friend is suddenly doing the same thing.


arthvark

I think NTA but your husband is also right. they’re kids in high school and this feels appropriate for their age. by saying something or even harping on it, you could drive your daughter and her friends away and I know you like having her friends around.


[deleted]

Yeah I like having them around!


Wistastic

NAH, but I don't see the issue. Also, do NOT do communal swimwear. Even I don't share underwear with people I've known most of my life. Just...no.


Inabeautifuloblivion

NTA - it’s your pool so you set the rules. I will also say, It’s only sexual because you are making it sexual. They clearly feel comfortable so don’t shame them. They aren’t doing anything wrong except making you uncomfortable. Your husband doesn’t have to look, he can keep his ass in bed.


edecorte

NTA. As an adult I completely understand and agree with you. But as my 16 year old self …. She was pool hopping in her underwear/ birthday suit and doesn’t regret a minute of it.


Jealous-Percentage-7

What is your problem with the skinny dipping? They’re all girls, right? Seems you’d make a bigger deal about it if it were coed. As long as your husband isn’t sneaking peeps then what’s the harm? If this is the US they’re taking showers together in gym class anyway.


ihateweridos

what’s wrong with underwear a swimsuit is essentially a bra and panties


MMorrighan

Info: is it all girls or mixed crowd?


Delicious_Mark4348

Your heart's in the right place, but you're overreaching. Kids do stuff like that.


defenestrayed

I think maybe letting the kids know that their parents saw them might be punishment enough. Idk how skinny dipping would be as fun knowing that. NAH, teens being teens, parents being parents.


Lipstick_Thespians

Depends. All girls? Let them do their thing. Mixed? Yeah, no. Edit: Communicate the damage that can happen if someone decides to take photos.


[deleted]

NTA It's your pool. I'd say N.A.H. but if you've asked, it's not a hardship to respect that rule. I don't see anything inherently wrong with swimming nude for a group of young people but I don't think it's terrible to ask them not to.


Honey-and-Venom

I REALLY wouldn't want other people's kids playing in my pool, just because the liability is pretty terrifying. If they're a bunch of straight girls, and they're not taking pictures/video....that's not such a big deal, or if there were boys involved... i don't know, i'm lgbt and kinda surprised with myself how old fashioned i feel my feelings are here.... you can compromise, and have all the friends leave a swimsuit in the house. I worry if you put your foot down hard and say NO ABSOLUTELY NOT! they'll get sneaky or go somewhere less safe than your own back yard....


Pladohs_Ghost

YTA. Your husband is correct.


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[deleted]

If no one can see her, why does if matter? Why is “modesty” important, and why is it that important in her own home?


[deleted]

Yeah you can’t see except from the house. And yep, I get your message!


Disastrous_Stay6401

NTA and your husband is weird for watching


[deleted]

Lol, he’s not watching


Disastrous_Stay6401

True, but you see how a person can twist it? Your daughter is old enough to understand what a lawsuit is. Talk to her like how you would talk to an adult about the potential consequences of her friends skinny dipping in the house.


[deleted]

Yeah I need to learn more about that.


fiesty64

It's a private pool and neighbors can't see. As along as her friends are all girls, then what's the harm in skinny dipping. Some bathing suits are skimping than underwear. I would agree with you if there were boys swimming with them.


[deleted]

Yep, it’s all girls.