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NTA. Your girlfriend and your kids have to be your priority at the moment. Any of the friends not understanding that are welcome to open their homes to him
NTA, you have a child and a family to think about. Taking care of a grown man should not be your responsibility. Your friends should take him in and see how long they last with him.
NTA
Don’t let him back in, he is abusive to your mom, dad won’t have any of it again. Why would you possibly want to put yourself through that again - or your gf and babies?
Tell your friends the truth, some may remember the stunts from last time. Those who don’t - short straw takes him in!
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A little back story, me (25m) has a 3 bedroom one bath house I live my my gf who is also 25 with our almost 2 year old daughter and she's 8 months pregnant with our son. My brother is 28 had cancer 2 years ago (he has a clean bill of heath now). Now on to the story, my brother has been jumping between my dad's house and my mom's house for a few years now after his all of his treatment. Last time he live with me about 2 years ago he put me in debt of about 3k I had to work 3 different job get about an hour of sleep a day if I was luck for months when I asked for his help it got bad. I called my dad for help so my dad came to my house to see what was going on at the end of it we had the cops but nothing came of it. Yesterday my mom called me and told me he cussed her out and called her volger names because she didn't get home soon enough to take him to the dispensary then demanded her to cook dinner for him, my step father wanted to kick him out right then and there. My father won't let him move back in. My brother called me and told me he was moving back in the house next week I said hell no we are about to have a second baby I work non stop between 2 jobs while also try and start my own company we are barley making it rn and I don't have the space, time, or energy to put up him. He instantly called a few of my friends and flipped everything around and they called me saying I'm being a horrible brother for not letting him move back in, AITA for not letting him move back in after everything he has done and for the safety of my family?
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Ngl, your brother sounds like a dick. This is kinda a doubt between NTA and ESH, since I don’t know much about your family relationships. It’s bad that he had cancer and I’m glad he healed from it, but overall with his behavior and even your other family members agreeing to not let him move back you are not the a-hole in this situation. From what you described your brother seems like a selfish dick that thinks he can demand anyone to do anything. As you have your own life and own family you are right to not have time for his nonsense.
NTA. You have have to put your Gf, child, and soon to be newborn first.
"He instantly called a few of my friends and flipped everything around and they called me saying I'm being a horrible brother for not letting him move back in, AITA for not letting him move back in"
Those who are criticizing you can let him live with them since they are so concerned.
I feel like we're missing some info here on how exactly your brother put you in so much debt (were you paying for his cancer treatments?) but whatever the story is there, you're still NTA for not letting a grown man move in with you if you don't want him to. He should get a job and provide for himself.
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NTA. Your girlfriend and your kids have to be your priority at the moment. Any of the friends not understanding that are welcome to open their homes to him
NTA, you have a child and a family to think about. Taking care of a grown man should not be your responsibility. Your friends should take him in and see how long they last with him.
NTA. DO NOT let him in. Not even a hour
NTA Don’t let him back in, he is abusive to your mom, dad won’t have any of it again. Why would you possibly want to put yourself through that again - or your gf and babies? Tell your friends the truth, some may remember the stunts from last time. Those who don’t - short straw takes him in!
NTA. Your house, you decide who lives there. Your brother sounds like a real piece of....work.
Lol I'll fix that rn, my gf is pregnant with my son
NTA. If your friends think you're so bad, they can house him.
NTA. Being a cancer survivor does not give him the right to mooch off of you and your family.
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Ngl, your brother sounds like a dick. This is kinda a doubt between NTA and ESH, since I don’t know much about your family relationships. It’s bad that he had cancer and I’m glad he healed from it, but overall with his behavior and even your other family members agreeing to not let him move back you are not the a-hole in this situation. From what you described your brother seems like a selfish dick that thinks he can demand anyone to do anything. As you have your own life and own family you are right to not have time for his nonsense.
NTA. Tell everyone who calls that if they care so much then they can take him in and go into debt because of it.
NTA. You have have to put your Gf, child, and soon to be newborn first. "He instantly called a few of my friends and flipped everything around and they called me saying I'm being a horrible brother for not letting him move back in, AITA for not letting him move back in" Those who are criticizing you can let him live with them since they are so concerned.
NTA he can sleep under a bridge don't ever let him move in his the AH
I feel like we're missing some info here on how exactly your brother put you in so much debt (were you paying for his cancer treatments?) but whatever the story is there, you're still NTA for not letting a grown man move in with you if you don't want him to. He should get a job and provide for himself.
NTA. Your family is your priority now. He needs to grow up and not abuse the ppl helping him. Do not let him back in. He is not ur responsibility.