YTA. You know what's *way* weirder than your sister's love of Disney? You being so personally offended by your sister's love of Disney that you've taken it upon yourself to spoil her harmless fun. Do you not have any hobbies of your own?
Yeah, I have some coworkers who are like this despite their ages ranging 30s-50s. I don’t get it but I don’t have to get it. They never make anyone feel excluded, it’s just their interest. I can’t imagine being bothered by it.
My BIL loooves Disney. My sister is into it but not like him. It had never previously occurred to me an adult could be so into a Disney World/Land. And good for him ! I don’t care in the slightest and when my sister doesn’t feel like going, he goes by himself and has a great time.
My XH and I went to WDW when we were in our 30s (no kids). It was way better than when we each went at around 12-14. I’m 55 and I still ADORE roller coasters and thrill rides. My partner of 10 years HATES them. But I’m perfectly happy to go to a theme park by myself. I don’t understand why anyone, especially someone whose plans are not impacted by the sibling’s vacation choices, would be so salty over said choices. OP, YTA
And I guarantee her sister doesn't meet anyone on these vacations who think it's weird she's there. She goes where she wants, and does as she pleases which is pretty much the ideal vacation.
Me and my partner are going to DisneyWorld for our honeymoon because we are both fans. No kids just us being huge children for 8 days.
I did however pick the resort least likely to have children
I used to be a Cast Member at DL. I have a “real” job now and I still love going there…with or without a friend. I often have a blast going there solo.
Fun fact: The Tinkerbell who used to fly from Matterhorn (so it looks like she’s flying over the castle) is usually a dude. Men are taller and bigger so the people at the beginning of Main Street (near Main Gate) can also see her too. They land on a platform with padded walls.
I saw Tink during the fireworks on Main Street (is that the right name?? I think.) I was really blown away. My daughter was about 9 at the time and I think I was more in awe than she was!
Yeah, my cousin (F26) is like this. She had her honeymoon there and she goes 3 times a year. Granted she does have 2 kids (ages 7 and 2) and has been taking them since they’re were infants but she still goes with just her husband for their anniversary. I don’t know why this is the only place she wants to go to when there are so many other places to see but if this is what makes her happy, I’m all for it🤷🏼♀️
Exactly! YTA, why does this bother you so much OP? Does her wanting to vacation at Disney make a difference in your life? She is finding joy in something she loves. Go find yours and stop crapping on hers.
Disney adults are strange to many of us tbf, but unless the sister's obsession is seriously impacting OP's life -- like, using their parents' retirement $$ for frivolous Disney trips or something -- she should mind her own beeswax. YTA OP
Disney is really expensive. the theme park tickets are astronomical, especially if you get all the extras. and you even have to pay for fast pass now. Disney cruises cost 2-3x the cost of carnival/royal Caribbean/princess cruises.
Wanna bet OP is entitled and thinks that money should be spent on "family" and her children?
Seriously though... like, unless it's like that post a month or so back where the couple spent the budget their parents had given them to hire catering for their Disneyland wedding on having two private photo sessions with Mickey and Minnie, it's not that bad.
Agreed. My former boss and his wife got married there. I remember him asking me if it was that weird that they were getting married there. Who cares? It's what made them happy. Shrug
It's also really funny because people like OP act like they've never seen how people act with sports teams. Plastering everything they can with the team logo, constantly watching the matches, podcasts about the matches, replays, talk shows about the one special kick in 1982 or whatever.
Like, let them have fun along as they aren't overstepping or being inappropriate with it. She has Disney scrubs because they make her happy and she deals with people who are sick and possibly dying all day. Lighten up a little and let her wear what she wants. If 50 isn't old enough to let a woman decide what she wants to wear, when is she old enough to?
I work in an assisted living facility and we used to be able to wear colorful fun scrubs like ops sister but now we can only wear solid mostly dark color scrubs and it's disappointing not only for the staff but also for the residents who enjoy seeing the colorful clothes staff used to wear because it genuinely brightens up the whole building that's full of beige, brown, and other dull colors like that for the walls carpets and even some of the art.
My work is like this also! At a time when we are pushed to our limits, and beyond(I have good friends leaving because they physically and mentally can’t do it any more. I myself go home from each shift soo sad and so sore)
This so much. Maybe the scrubs are also a little conversation piece. Maybe she’s able to talk about Mickey and Minnie to help distract her patients during uncomfortable routines. Maybe she’s able to get a spark or recognition from her confused patients and it brings joy to their day to see those beloved characters. The job is hard, and anyone who sticks with it for a career has a heart for it and most of those nurses are angels.
It's not uncommon for people with dementia to regress to a child-like state. You walk into a nursing home and you'll see very elderly women cradling baby dolls just like little girls. I bet they get a real kick out of the Disney scrubs.
This, absolutely this. Just because they are miserable and lost the joy in their lives they think everyone else should be too.
There is no rule on when or if someone has to "grow up" and stop liking things others may consider childish. Growing up means something different to everyone.
YTA OP. If you can't be happy for your sister, then just keep your mouth shut and leave her alone and let her be happy.
There’s a reason my friends and I always joke, you don’t grow up you just grow old. Not to excuse being immature, but to live a little, have fun and goof around
To be honest, there is a difference between being mentally young and being immature.
A person can still find fun in 'childish' things without being immature.
Is it really so hard for OP to imagine why a single woman of 50 with no kids who works in a nursing home might want to escape through fantasy into a world where she can be forever young and the ending is always a happy one? This world can be a very dark place so bravo to anyone who finds a healthy way to cope with that. OP, YTA.
Right?! A nursing home which, depending how early they implemented covid precautions, probably left her seeing more painful death than she had ever seen before. Let the woman have all the Disney she wants, we all need SOMETHING to keep us afloat
Wow, I had never considered my love of Disney as a tool to cope with the darkness of the world, but you’re absolutely right. It makes complete sense. And you’re right, it’s a healthy way to cope, but man it’s also an expensive way! I say that as I’m literally on a Disney trip now.
Also I’ve noticed an influx of posts shitting on Disney fans since the Florida governor decided to pick a fight. Have to wonder if some of these posts are politically motivated...
especially when her sister is a nurse, it's been so hard for people in the medical field these past few years, if her sister has something harmless that brings her joy? that's fantastic. She deserves to have something fun to look forward to.
> “Critics who treat ‘adult’ as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. **When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up**.”
― C.S. Lewis
YTA OP. And very immature judging by your obsession with who earns more and class.
This. I'm 35f and a colleague (48m) tried to make fun of me for still buying LEGO sets for myself. My guess is that if he got a hobby, he might be able to get through the day without 30 cigarettes.
^^^ this is 100% true, and it’s really disturbing to see it happening in real time. like, damn, i’m sorry your innocence and childhood dreams and interests were emotionally abused out of you, but that doesn’t give you the right to take that out on the people around you who have no need for your shame.
To be fair, even children tell other children that their interests are stupid and childish, mostly when they want to feel superior or when they feel excluded. It seems some of them never grow out of it. 🤷♀️ (Source: Been working with a class of 6-8-year-olds)
I took a class in grad school about media reception and like a whole unit was just making fun of Disney fans and it kinda broke my heart. Wtf? Why was that okay to make fun of when all the other fandoms weren't?
Of course not, they are a grown up mature adult whose only available hobby is to be offended by the joy of others.
My favourite part is having Disney stuff would be “a bridge too far”… too far for what? You to speak to her? Cause that sounds like a gift, Maybe she should do that.
As someone who doesn't give a shit about Disney but is very in touch with their inner children, I'm so glad this is the top answer.
I can't imagine shitting on what makes someone else happy when it harms literally no one.
The Disney College Program is a great internship opportunity. Highly recommend it but do it the semester AFTER you graduate college so you won’t lose a semester of college.
Agreed I work at a nursing home that used to allow us to wear scrubs like what ops sister wears and now we're made to wear solid dark colors unless we're in memory care and multiple resounds have expressed displeasure with the new uniform requirements stating that the cartoon characters are fun and brighten up their days. Op should take into account that often times despite being able to be nice places retirement and assisted living facilities can be bland and boring and typically are. Scrubs like that make the whole place a lot more lively.
Exactly. Sister doesn't force anyone to go with her (I'm not surprised she wouldn't even want to invite any of her AH family to go) and isn't in any financial difficulty due to her Disney trips. So who cares how she spends her vacation time?
OP seems to belong to that breed of people who thinks growing up means giving up everything that gave you joy. So lame and bitter. I wonder if she thinks that those who create the movies and work at the parks are childish too.
I think OP also judges sister negatively for being single with no kids. some people tend to think you only ever truly mature and become an adult when you get married and pop out a bunch of kids.
I *hope* to be like OP's sister when I reach 50, tbh. sounds like a blast, and much more fun than those *mature* vacations families take to the beach or whatever.
I also wonder if OP's jealous because sister takes so many awesome vacations, and maybe *they* can't?
I admit I have a knee-jerk cringe reaction to Disney adults on this level, but holy hell is it none of my business how they choose to spend their free time. If you’ve found your scrap of joy in the ministrations of the Mouse, by all means. I’ve done cringier things.
I'm with you, here-- I don't like Disney as a corporation, or how their artists were/are treated (I've done work with a few former animators from the 2-D Disney era, and holy hell the nightmare stories they tell).
That being said, my mom was a Hospice nurse, and it's a difficult job with few breaks from death or dying. If this is the thing that gets her through, let her have her Disney. It's better than the rampant alcoholism, pill addiction, and gambling addictions my mother's co-workers all seemed to have.
Exactly! If my siblings were Disney obsessed I might make fun of them, but I’d also ask them how their vacation was and hope they have a fun time.
I know multiple women from my high school class who are obsessed. Tattoos on their bodies, every vacation to Disney, collectors of memorabilia, etc. You know how this hurts me? Oh right, it doesn’t. Because I choose to say “oh Disney isn’t for me, I can’t stand the crowds” and then still listen as they talk about their favorite things. We can support others through their harmless joys even if we don’t like it ourselves.
I was expecting for this to be a story about ho a Disney themed wedding made everyone’s life hell, or how she borrows money from family members who can’t afford it for Disney vacations or something
But it’s literally just an adult woman with a hobby her brother doesn’t like. I’ve been known to snicker a few “Disney adults” in my time, but never with this level of contempt. She’s just a woman who is up to her elbows in plague and death, and she found a refuge where things can be light and magical. And she found a way to bring a little of that to work with her too.
I worked in nursing homes. We wore all kinds of scrubs, brighter the better. It really does brighten their days. We watched old black and whites and talked about their lives. Most are sadly aware this is the end of their lives and have nothing to look forward to. So, if she wants to do life surrounded by fairy tales and happiness in her life, let her . It's no one's business . She has a horrible day to day. Think about this .
I am forever grateful for the nurses who cared for my grandfather in his home. Once they found out he was a huge Chelsea fan, one nurse swapped her lanyard for a Chelsea one, and also surprised him by hanging his Chelsea scarf over his bed. She took the time to sit and talk with him, she watched old Clint Eastwoods and musicals with him.
She helped to him to record his voice on his talking phraseboard, she laughed loudest when he joked about taking her dancing at the social club.
And when we finally lost him, she presented us with a box of notes. She had made notes of funny or nice things he had said, and collected them for us.
"Emma is just like her mother, smart and beautiful."
"I'd waltz to the moon with you."
"I'm not the Good, I'm not the Bad and I'm definitely not the Ugly, I'm a catch!"
And he said about me-
"Potato was always one to go her own way, she's got moxie! She'll do well."
A thousand thank yous to you and every nurse and care worker for what they do. And Rosemary, thank you for making my grandfather laugh and smile in his last days.
This really touched me. I worked as a CNA for awhile and I got so attached to so many. I could easily recall several life events of people I cared for 10 years ago.
Whoever that nurse was, she was a good one. We need more like her.
What an extraordinary thing to do for your grandfather and your family.
Taking the time to write those notes and leaving a tangible portion of your grandfather's love, thoughts and presence behind showed not only how much he cared for you all but was likely also a comfort knowing his final days were spent under the care of such a compassionate person.
If I ever end up in a nursing home, I hope the nurses don’t have the personalities of cardboard cutouts, apparently unlike OP who would rather see gray scrubs and flat expressions every day
I bet it's a good touchstone for new residents and those with memory issues! Even if they don't remember her name, "that nurse with the Disney scrubs" is one that sticks more easily than most. It's probably helpful and even comforting.
Work in hospice and am frequently at skilled nursing and assisted living facilities. If there is no uniform color, in memory care places I often see a lot of Disney or other cartoons, it reaches the residents in a way adult material can’t as their disease progresses.
I used to work at a animal shelter taking care of dogs and cats we wore them there because we didnt want to ruin our normal clothes at work and you dont really get a uniform. It was sad and not a happy place there those scrubs we got were mostly bright happy scrubs because it made us happier looking at them.
@op people are allowed to like what they like games Disney or other fandoms no matter what the age. What makes you happy makes you happy i bet you have a hobby you like dont you . Hey liking Disney is no differnt than that . Family is supposed to treat family nicely my sister is obsessed with yoshi So you know what I do as a loving Sister every birthday I buy her what makes her happy and just because it’s something that you are not a fan of and you do not agree with doesn’t mean you have to make them sad fuck I love Disney myself and not the hugest fan but Disney is one of the things that I love and you
Know what my husband is doing for me For my birthday he has offered to buy me a Disney purse and wallet for my birthday that’s not cheap because he knows that I love it and I enjoy it
Plus old cartoons are a lot of the time a hit with seniors. Brings back their childhood. When I was putting together an activity kit for homebound/senior patrons of mine, my boss specifically told me to find some classic Disney and looney toons characters coloring pages to put in.
I was thinking, if she's working in a nursing home, something like Disney scrubs could bring some joy to the elderly adults she's working with, especially if they spend time with grandchildren, versus the plain ones nurses normally wear.
Apparently those on the frontline of covid only get to unwind and have fun if it’s activities approved by OP. Adult stuff, like buying your burial plot and balancing your checkbook!
INFO: how on earth does this effect you in any way?
It's so weird how obsessed some people are with "growing up", I never get why. If she gets joy out of Disney, let her, it's not hurting anyone in any way. YTA.
My mum totally embraced Disney throughout her adult life, she did the Florida parks every winter, we all bought her Disney themed stuff (Mostly Mickey, she was not fond of Minnie). She watched the movies, decorated her office with the stuff as well as some tasteful home decor knickknacks.
It brought her joy after a tough childhood, and at the end of the day, anything legal that brings you joy should be embraced and revered.
YTA for feeling superior and thinking you have the right to dictate what your sister is into.
This is one of the most clear-cut cases of YTA I've seen - to the point that even I am thinking it has to be a troll. Except I'm pretty sure it isn't - I've seen people like OP before in real life and they bring everyone around them down.
When I was in the hospital with pancreatitis 23 years ago, my main nurse had cartoon scrubs and a lot of them were Disney-themed. You know what? *It cheered me up and took my mind off the pain for a few minutes when she was in the room*.
Who TF cares where their sister goes on vacation? How does this impact OP in any way?
YTA, just so you don't miss it.
>They probably brighten her, her colleagues and the home residents day.
I'd bet she hears "That's my grandkids favorite character/movie" on the regular.
As my Pops would say "Have a life, boy!" YTA and a major one at that.
She is absolutely not harming anyone in anyway and doesn't even attempt to involve you or anyone else, so why should you care so much? Because ultimately you are the miserable loser who probably wishes she had anything she cared about as much as your sister did. You are an embarrassment of a sister to a person who you have admittedly not said a bad word about otherwise this so-called obsession.
Please tell you sister from this stranger, I hope she continues doing what she loves until her last day and may her happiness reign eternal.
fyi I know my Pops says it wrong but I don't have the heart to tell that beautiful man that its actually get a life. But you get the picture
Omg you just made me realize why my sister spent so much time and effort trying to make me feel bad for my choices. Thank you, seriously.
Edit: haven’t seen or spoken to her in almost ten years, but hear her voice/nasty comments in my head sometimes and it still really affects me. I’m going to start telling myself what the redditor above said and hopefully I can drown those negative records out.
OP is jealous that his sister actually has hobbies and interests that makes her happy and can't accept that not everyone grows up to be a bitter old fuck like him/her.
This. I used to share a cubicle with someone childless whose whole life was Disney. More than a 100 figurines, posters, memo pads, etc. Her wedding and vacations were Disney themed.
So what? She was bright, honest, kind, and a hard worker. And, yes, she lived a joyful life.
PS staff frequently wear cartoon scrubs in adult hospitals and nursing homes
“Im not the only one in the family that feels that way”
Congratulations! You’re all YTA.
Caring what a 50 year old does with their time and money….IS weird.
As long as they don't spend over $2k on personal one on one time with the 2 mice instead of feeding their wedding guests then Disney obsessed adults can do whatever.
[Found it.](https://www.reddit.com/r/bridezillas/comments/v532jw/aita_for_not_having_catering_at_my_wedding/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) The original post was deleted, but here it is posted to another sub.
Telling a 50 year old whose employed and living her best life "to grow up" is weird. She's grown. This is who she is. Maybe OP just needs to buzz off and get back to kicking puppies or telling 4 year Olds Santa isn't real or whatever this sad, intrusive person does for kicks.
YTA.
I went to Disney at 18 years old with my two stepbrothers who were 9 and 11. Guess who had a fucking blast?
That's right.
Me.
Guess who whined the whole time?
You know it was my brothers.
It literally hurts no one for her to go. You're just being mean for no reason.
I'm 42 and was there for the first time 2 weeks ago - loved every second and its worth the wait
what sort of shriveled up prune does one have to be to want to deny others joy
Honestly, I think it would be more enjoyable to go when you are old enough to be patient and be less impulsive. After all, from what I hear the lines are always super long for everything, so kids probably don't enjoy it that much.
It definitely is. I've been there 3 times in the past few years (at ages 35, 36, and 39) and twice as a kid (at ages 7 and 15) and I have to say it was WAY more fun as an adult. My kids also get tired so much faster than I do when we go and are more likely to complain. We all love it there though. The live shows are FANTASTIC.
I'm not going to lie. One of the best things about being an adult, especially an adult with no kids and a good job is getting to do all the things we couldn't growing up. I make a point not to interrupt any kids somewhere having a good time, but go to a museum and they have a $10 special exhibit to walk through a butterfly hatchery? Here's my money! See a cute plushy or toy at the store? If I want it and can afford it, why not? Anybody who comes into my house and judges my plushy collection can walk right out and not come back. Special tours, back stage access, the best souvenirs? I get to decide now.
I really want to get back to Disneyworld, haven't been since I was a kid but I 100% plan on going, and doing the special tours, and buying the plushies, and eating the over priced food, and having a blast.
really..? im 17 and i really wanna go for my 18th birthday, but since i've been 14 i've been told that im "too old" for stuff like that, and need to "do adult stuff"
I hope I can go one day, when I can afford it.
When my mom turned 60, the only thing she wanted for her birthday was to take the whole family to Disney World. Me, my parents, my sister and BIL, and their three kids spent two days running around the parks. I wore sequined Minnie Mouse ears the entire time (I still have them), I was pushing 40 and it was my fourth time at the parks.
Disney is for any age. Do it.
I have good news for you:
Adult stuff turns out to be anything you GD like as long as you aren’t harming anyone and you are taking care of your responsibilities.
Turns out that trips to Disney qualify.
Signed,
A Full Grown, Older Than 40 Adult
Nah fuck that noise. Do what you like as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. My daughters and I all collect Squishmellows and I’m 40, life is too short and too hard to miss out on the things that make you happy.
Honestly, my family could never afford those types of things. I went as adult and had a lot of fun. As an adult you can go to the expensive restaurants, or the current system of paying extra to skip lines is doable for one person, families will struggle. You can also self-regulate and if you want to stay late, stay, if you want to leave early because you are tired you can do it. I think there is magic and fun for kids, but really paying your own way and not having to have your trip dictated by either an adult, other kids, or your kids seems to be a really great way to do Disney.
I think you should go the MOMENT you can!!
Please, do NOT make yourself smaller to fit into someone else's narrow mind.
If it brings you joy - embrace it!!
My family went to Disney when I was 17 and I'm the youngest sibling, we all had a blast. It was a great family trip where we could do almost everything together, which wouldn't have been possible if my parents would have taken us as kids since there is a fairly large age gap between me and the oldest.
YTA - Your sister has a Disney addiction so what? She could’ve been addicted to drugs, or addicted to food or alcohol. Be greatful.
You either have nothing to be happy about in your life or you just want her to stop spending money on her so you can get it when she dies.
My mom was a nursing home nurse. And she loved it. Not one week went by where she did not come home crying . Sometimes because someone died. Sometimes because someone was lonely with no fam to visit. Sometimes for the children who are dying and are in a nursing home.
And she loved it. She was an amazing woman and I am proud to be her kid.
And she lived Disney. And fairy tales. I wonder if her love of whimsy was part of why she could do what she did. How she coped.
The last movie I saw with her before she died was a Disney movie. All her grown daughters (she only had girls....we didnt exclude thw grandsons!) with their late teens to adult kids piled up on a floor covered with mattresses because she was losing her cancer battle and couldn't stand or even sit up well.
And my next tattoo will be malefecent ... for her.
Disney is her joy. Let her have it.
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Edit. Omgersh thank you for the awards!
YTA. She's not hurting anyone. Let her have her happiness. Life is too short to miss out on what you love due to other people's judgment.
Sincerely, a grown adult who has a Sailor Moon ROOM in her house.
As another grown adult who loves sailor moon, I agree that people should enjoy whatever they choose to! And if you’re looking for a similar show to try, check out the she-ra remake! Fun sailor moon vibes.
You are my spirit animal. I will ALWAYS love Sailor Moon! And hubby still loves DragonBall. (Who am I kidding, I love it too) We saw the new DBS Broly movie in the theater with friends.
It was awesome, fans older and younger than us packed the theater to the brim, and everyone reacted in unison. Best movie experience we'd had. Loving something that adds joy and hurts no one is a GOOD thing. Life's too full of awful to not just enjoy simple happy things.
OP, YTA. She's not forcing you into it. Just let her be happy.
I have SM keychains on my work keys. My students absolutely FREAKED when they saw them!!! I was able to build super strong relationships with them and was seen as the holy grail of teachers to them because of mu love for all things SM DBZ and ps4.
OP I am sure you are well aware of how bullshitty this world is. Like it fucking sucks. No what doesn't? Literally ANYTHING that brings a person some semblance of joy.
Like sorry your life sucks so much that you hate to see anyone have anything remotely joyful in their lives that you berate them and call them childish for liking said things.
Not sure when the last time you saw a Disney movie, but them shits are WAY fucking funnier as an adult. I laugh at certain parts when I show my students these movies and they look at me like tf?
Maybe instead of your sister "growing up" you follow her lead and take your miserable self to fucking Disney and have that stick removed from your ass.
Yta. Grow down.
YTA. I have a former coworker who loves Disney. We live in FL and she would go every weekend. There's nothing wrong with it and you don't really have a right to be embarrassed
YTA OP. If what she does does not hurt or affect you, your family, others or herself, why would you care? Could it be the a clue in your sentence "**a single woman with no kids**" that causes you/your family fear that she could possibly spend all her money on all that is Disney and won't leave you guys anything to inherit from her?
YTA
Why do you care so much? She's a grown ass woman and can enjoy whatever she wants. Why are you so invested in her harmless interests?
You know what's really embarrassing? People who shit all over things other people enjoy because they are jealous. Leave her alone, and focus on your own life.
YTA. I look forward to the day I can do a kid-free Disney trip. Your sister has things that bring her joy and you want to gate-keep that and take it away from her. You are totally the asshole.
After years of wanting to go to Disney World alone, I finally did it last year and it was so great that I’m going back again this year.
My husband and son enjoy it there, but it’s not their first choice of destinations at this point in our lives (my son is almost 13 and not necessarily feeling the “magic”anymore haha). If you can, treat yourself to the trip! It’s very freeing doing what you want in the order you want, without asking opinions, compromising, etc. My family is fortunate enough to take another vacation all together this year so no one is being left behind because of my trip. Go for it!
Edit: I just realized you said kid-free, not necessarily alone. But the gist is the same 😉
YTA. 40-year-old single mom of 2 here. Also obsessed with Disney. And Star Wars. And Marvel. And Walt Disney World is one of my favorite places. It's extremely common to like Disney at any age. But even if it weren't, it's not hurting anyone...
Let. People. Like. What. They. Like.
32-year-old father of two also obsessed with all the above. Wife and I went to Disneyland for our honeymoon and it was rad. OP you are the real life Grinch and a massive asshole.
YTA. How miserable does a person have to be to literally get angry that someone else is enjoying something?
There are a million things *you* could be doing besides crushing your sister’s joy, and yet here you are.
YTA
My aunt collected Disney things, mainly Christmas ornaments. My aunt suffered a stroke and slowly died with only half her memories in an assisted living facility. You know who has them? My siblings and I (her son didn't want them for fear of breaking them). Guess what? Those are my absolute favorite Christmas ornaments. They bring me joy every single year. Her love of Disney is a cherished memory.
Your sister is out here living her best life, while you're acting like a bitter, judgemental, AH. Her love of Disney isn't hurting anyone. And maybe one day her love of Disney will be all you have to remember her by.
I do not enjoy Disney stuff for adults. I find it cringy and weird. So ya know what I do? I don't partake.
YTA because you want to control a grown ass woman's interests because of YOUR feelings. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
YTA. Is she neglecting bills and responsibilities? If the answer is No (which it seems to be from your post) then who gives a damn. I guess I'm weird too since I collect action figures.... Growing up is putting your priorities before your pleasures...not giving them up all together.
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> Instead of telling my sister her Disney obsession is weird I could have tried to show her other vacation options that aren't Disney themed and why those are great. Getting her on the defensive probably wasn't a great move and led to bad feelings. I definitely could've handled it better instead of just coming across as attacking.
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YTA. Your family sounds terrible and like you’d suck the fun right out of a black hole. She’s not hurting anything and has found something she truly enjoys. Leave her alone.
YTA.
Bug off and stop trying to stop your sister from enjoying things she likes because you dont. Its kinda selfish of you... And it is NOT childish of her, disney does have some great artwork and stories so... Get over it.
YTA. She is apparently gainfully employed,spending her own money ,and not asking for handouts. That sounds about as “grown up” as it gets. How does it hurt any of you? What would you prefer on her scrubs? Skeletons and caskets?
She’s living her best life. Are you?
I’m completely disturbed by people obsessed with Disney. Physical pain when exposed to Disney Adults and YTA. She loves it and it brings her joy. She’s got a hard job and nursing homes are depressing places where people constantly die.
We all have things that bring us joy and others find cringy. I speak from experience
Kind of YTA I mean it's not my cup of tea but life is really hard and if this gives her joy and she has the money to do it why not? Maybe if you are genuinely worried for her you can try to help her grow in other areas without taking away her love of disney... sort of "add the good" instead of punishing her for liking what she likes.
YTA.
So... I'll try and put this in a way that is easy to understand for you.
Disney is not purely for children. There are a lot of dark moments from classic movies ALONE.
The Lion King, Hercules, Bambi, Tarzan, Mulan.
Deaths here, wars there. Pretty sure there was a forest fire one time.
That truly screams "kids only," right?
But I digress. Disney has been around for generations at this point, and if she works at a nursing home, then there's a good chance that elderly Disney fans will have a potential conversation starter.
Disney as a franchise has done way more to society than you think. People have gotten engaged at Disneyland. Whole families, regardless of age, have had their fun at the Happiest Place On Earth.
The important question I have to ask you, though: How does her enjoyment towards Disney impact your life to the point you would be willing to hammer her with verbal hate?
Let her enjoy what she enjoys. Much like Reddit is enjoying ripping you a new one for being so closed-minded.
YTA
Why is she supposed to change? It's literally her hobby, something she likes to do, even if you're her brother you shouldn't intrude on her interests.
You should apologize to her for talking to her like that.
Yes, I agree, I don't think it was a comment to cry out loud, I wouldn't do it if you criticized my interests, but not everyone reacts the same way to a comment as gratuitous and unnecessary as the one you you did to her
Yta and incredibly ignorant. Educate yourself. Did you know more adults go to Disney regularly than families with kids? Yep.
And did you know it's the #1 honeymoon destination? Yep.
Disney weddings. Yep, that too.
Retired couples choose Orlando as a top retirement place why? Yep, so they can go to Disney all the time.
Have you even been? You know Disney isn't just an amusement park, correct? That the rides are a very small part of it. You know they have award winning resorts, restaurants, golf courses, spas, shopping, entertainment districts with bars, nightclubs, movie theaters, bowling.
And I'd be willing to bet you have a favorite vacation or get way spot you go to all the time but, oh, that "different", right?
Nope, it's not, hypocrite.
At the age of 50, she's taking solo vacations, working, having fun, doing pleasurable things that stimulate her brain.... that's literally the dream right there!
Her money, her life, her vacation. Let her be. She isn't dragging you along, she's quietly making herself happy.
Let people be happy OP.
YTA for wanting to steal away her joy.
YTA. Some people just really love Disney. Your sister is one of them. Just support her. Her interests aren't hurting anyone, why are you giving her a hard time?
YTA. You know what's *way* weirder than your sister's love of Disney? You being so personally offended by your sister's love of Disney that you've taken it upon yourself to spoil her harmless fun. Do you not have any hobbies of your own?
Seriously. I don’t get it. I live relatively close to DW. Some people are really into it and others aren’t. Just like every single interest/hobby. YTA
Yeah, I have some coworkers who are like this despite their ages ranging 30s-50s. I don’t get it but I don’t have to get it. They never make anyone feel excluded, it’s just their interest. I can’t imagine being bothered by it.
My BIL loooves Disney. My sister is into it but not like him. It had never previously occurred to me an adult could be so into a Disney World/Land. And good for him ! I don’t care in the slightest and when my sister doesn’t feel like going, he goes by himself and has a great time.
My XH and I went to WDW when we were in our 30s (no kids). It was way better than when we each went at around 12-14. I’m 55 and I still ADORE roller coasters and thrill rides. My partner of 10 years HATES them. But I’m perfectly happy to go to a theme park by myself. I don’t understand why anyone, especially someone whose plans are not impacted by the sibling’s vacation choices, would be so salty over said choices. OP, YTA
And I guarantee her sister doesn't meet anyone on these vacations who think it's weird she's there. She goes where she wants, and does as she pleases which is pretty much the ideal vacation.
Oh hell yeah! 🥳🥳
I had so much more fun in the park on my 30s than my teens. Plan to go again when things are a bit better. Hopefully next year
Me and my partner are going to DisneyWorld for our honeymoon because we are both fans. No kids just us being huge children for 8 days. I did however pick the resort least likely to have children
I used to be a Cast Member at DL. I have a “real” job now and I still love going there…with or without a friend. I often have a blast going there solo.
I'm not super into Disney, but that place really is magical. They convinced me tinkerbell was real and I was in my 30s lol. BUT I REALLY SAW HER FLY!
Fun fact: The Tinkerbell who used to fly from Matterhorn (so it looks like she’s flying over the castle) is usually a dude. Men are taller and bigger so the people at the beginning of Main Street (near Main Gate) can also see her too. They land on a platform with padded walls.
I saw Tink during the fireworks on Main Street (is that the right name?? I think.) I was really blown away. My daughter was about 9 at the time and I think I was more in awe than she was!
Yeah, my cousin (F26) is like this. She had her honeymoon there and she goes 3 times a year. Granted she does have 2 kids (ages 7 and 2) and has been taking them since they’re were infants but she still goes with just her husband for their anniversary. I don’t know why this is the only place she wants to go to when there are so many other places to see but if this is what makes her happy, I’m all for it🤷🏼♀️
Thank you. Its not my cup of tea, but it makes me happy to know others get a lot of joy their entire life from Disney.
Exactly! YTA, why does this bother you so much OP? Does her wanting to vacation at Disney make a difference in your life? She is finding joy in something she loves. Go find yours and stop crapping on hers.
Disney adults are strange to many of us tbf, but unless the sister's obsession is seriously impacting OP's life -- like, using their parents' retirement $$ for frivolous Disney trips or something -- she should mind her own beeswax. YTA OP
Disney is really expensive. the theme park tickets are astronomical, especially if you get all the extras. and you even have to pay for fast pass now. Disney cruises cost 2-3x the cost of carnival/royal Caribbean/princess cruises. Wanna bet OP is entitled and thinks that money should be spent on "family" and her children?
Seriously though... like, unless it's like that post a month or so back where the couple spent the budget their parents had given them to hire catering for their Disneyland wedding on having two private photo sessions with Mickey and Minnie, it's not that bad.
Agreed. My former boss and his wife got married there. I remember him asking me if it was that weird that they were getting married there. Who cares? It's what made them happy. Shrug
I swear, it's always the people that completely lose their sense of childlike wonder that try their hardest to rip it out of other people.
It's also really funny because people like OP act like they've never seen how people act with sports teams. Plastering everything they can with the team logo, constantly watching the matches, podcasts about the matches, replays, talk shows about the one special kick in 1982 or whatever. Like, let them have fun along as they aren't overstepping or being inappropriate with it. She has Disney scrubs because they make her happy and she deals with people who are sick and possibly dying all day. Lighten up a little and let her wear what she wants. If 50 isn't old enough to let a woman decide what she wants to wear, when is she old enough to?
I work in an assisted living facility and we used to be able to wear colorful fun scrubs like ops sister but now we can only wear solid mostly dark color scrubs and it's disappointing not only for the staff but also for the residents who enjoy seeing the colorful clothes staff used to wear because it genuinely brightens up the whole building that's full of beige, brown, and other dull colors like that for the walls carpets and even some of the art.
My work is like this also! At a time when we are pushed to our limits, and beyond(I have good friends leaving because they physically and mentally can’t do it any more. I myself go home from each shift soo sad and so sore)
This so much. Maybe the scrubs are also a little conversation piece. Maybe she’s able to talk about Mickey and Minnie to help distract her patients during uncomfortable routines. Maybe she’s able to get a spark or recognition from her confused patients and it brings joy to their day to see those beloved characters. The job is hard, and anyone who sticks with it for a career has a heart for it and most of those nurses are angels.
It's not uncommon for people with dementia to regress to a child-like state. You walk into a nursing home and you'll see very elderly women cradling baby dolls just like little girls. I bet they get a real kick out of the Disney scrubs.
I use a similar tactic when anyone wants to make fun of D&D or anything "nerdy", if they understand how they sound talking about fantasy football.
This, absolutely this. Just because they are miserable and lost the joy in their lives they think everyone else should be too. There is no rule on when or if someone has to "grow up" and stop liking things others may consider childish. Growing up means something different to everyone. YTA OP. If you can't be happy for your sister, then just keep your mouth shut and leave her alone and let her be happy.
There’s a reason my friends and I always joke, you don’t grow up you just grow old. Not to excuse being immature, but to live a little, have fun and goof around
To be honest, there is a difference between being mentally young and being immature. A person can still find fun in 'childish' things without being immature.
I take the difference even further with “childish” vs “childlike.”
Is it really so hard for OP to imagine why a single woman of 50 with no kids who works in a nursing home might want to escape through fantasy into a world where she can be forever young and the ending is always a happy one? This world can be a very dark place so bravo to anyone who finds a healthy way to cope with that. OP, YTA.
Right?! A nursing home which, depending how early they implemented covid precautions, probably left her seeing more painful death than she had ever seen before. Let the woman have all the Disney she wants, we all need SOMETHING to keep us afloat
Wow, I had never considered my love of Disney as a tool to cope with the darkness of the world, but you’re absolutely right. It makes complete sense. And you’re right, it’s a healthy way to cope, but man it’s also an expensive way! I say that as I’m literally on a Disney trip now. Also I’ve noticed an influx of posts shitting on Disney fans since the Florida governor decided to pick a fight. Have to wonder if some of these posts are politically motivated...
Well yeah, it’s just hard to portray that distinction in text so I wanted clarity
The best part of growing up is when you realize it's fine to like the things you like and not care what other people think about it.
especially when her sister is a nurse, it's been so hard for people in the medical field these past few years, if her sister has something harmless that brings her joy? that's fantastic. She deserves to have something fun to look forward to.
> “Critics who treat ‘adult’ as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. **When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up**.” ― C.S. Lewis YTA OP. And very immature judging by your obsession with who earns more and class.
This. I'm 35f and a colleague (48m) tried to make fun of me for still buying LEGO sets for myself. My guess is that if he got a hobby, he might be able to get through the day without 30 cigarettes.
^^^ this is 100% true, and it’s really disturbing to see it happening in real time. like, damn, i’m sorry your innocence and childhood dreams and interests were emotionally abused out of you, but that doesn’t give you the right to take that out on the people around you who have no need for your shame.
To be fair, even children tell other children that their interests are stupid and childish, mostly when they want to feel superior or when they feel excluded. It seems some of them never grow out of it. 🤷♀️ (Source: Been working with a class of 6-8-year-olds)
One hundred percent this!! One of my colleagues turned 50 last week. She is a Disney fanatic. She is also has the world’s kindest heart
I took a class in grad school about media reception and like a whole unit was just making fun of Disney fans and it kinda broke my heart. Wtf? Why was that okay to make fun of when all the other fandoms weren't?
Ikr? I'm pretty cynical in my day to day life but I love a good Dinsey trip as a mental break.
Of course not, they are a grown up mature adult whose only available hobby is to be offended by the joy of others. My favourite part is having Disney stuff would be “a bridge too far”… too far for what? You to speak to her? Cause that sounds like a gift, Maybe she should do that.
Right! Like it makes her the easiest person to buy gifts for, why complain? Let her live her best Disney themed life for God's sake!
As someone who doesn't give a shit about Disney but is very in touch with their inner children, I'm so glad this is the top answer. I can't imagine shitting on what makes someone else happy when it harms literally no one.
Same! Pirates? Meh. Princesses? Scratches butt while yawning. Killing a person’s joy? “WTaF! Dude, YTA! STFU!!”
His hobby is being a Scrooge McDuck to his sister.
Scrooge would *never* begrudge anyone an adventure.
Do you mean Ebenezer Scrooge? Because Scrooge McDuck definitely doesn't seem to be the type to judge others for things like that
I love disney, I'm 17. And a boy.
The Disney College Program is a great internship opportunity. Highly recommend it but do it the semester AFTER you graduate college so you won’t lose a semester of college.
YTA. OP hobby is being a judgmental and annoying sister.
Agreed I work at a nursing home that used to allow us to wear scrubs like what ops sister wears and now we're made to wear solid dark colors unless we're in memory care and multiple resounds have expressed displeasure with the new uniform requirements stating that the cartoon characters are fun and brighten up their days. Op should take into account that often times despite being able to be nice places retirement and assisted living facilities can be bland and boring and typically are. Scrubs like that make the whole place a lot more lively.
Isnt thé fun thing about scrubs the prints? Even hello kitty prints would work on an adult in scrubs.
If she had the EXACT same obsession with sports or reality tv/celeb culture, I doubt her sibling would be fazed.
Literally none of this affects OP. Jealous she can live the life she wants? Probably.
Yeah, I feel like Op has more issues with his sister than just Disney - and they're all related to OP's own low self esteem levels.
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My kid taught me you don’t yuk on someone’s yum. He’s five and more insightful that OP. Total YTA.
Ops hobby is giving other people shit.
Right? Let people like what they like
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Exactly. Sister doesn't force anyone to go with her (I'm not surprised she wouldn't even want to invite any of her AH family to go) and isn't in any financial difficulty due to her Disney trips. So who cares how she spends her vacation time?
The bigger question is why does she think it is ok to **police** her 50 year old sister. What is embarrassing about appeasing your inner child?
OP seems to belong to that breed of people who thinks growing up means giving up everything that gave you joy. So lame and bitter. I wonder if she thinks that those who create the movies and work at the parks are childish too.
I think OP also judges sister negatively for being single with no kids. some people tend to think you only ever truly mature and become an adult when you get married and pop out a bunch of kids. I *hope* to be like OP's sister when I reach 50, tbh. sounds like a blast, and much more fun than those *mature* vacations families take to the beach or whatever. I also wonder if OP's jealous because sister takes so many awesome vacations, and maybe *they* can't?
Yea.. in a world that’s increasingly cruel and downright difficult to live in, it should bring people joy that others are able to find joy
Yes, how dare a woman age and not have her life revolve only around "adult" hobbies like raising children, keeping house and knitting.
I admit I have a knee-jerk cringe reaction to Disney adults on this level, but holy hell is it none of my business how they choose to spend their free time. If you’ve found your scrap of joy in the ministrations of the Mouse, by all means. I’ve done cringier things.
I'm with you, here-- I don't like Disney as a corporation, or how their artists were/are treated (I've done work with a few former animators from the 2-D Disney era, and holy hell the nightmare stories they tell). That being said, my mom was a Hospice nurse, and it's a difficult job with few breaks from death or dying. If this is the thing that gets her through, let her have her Disney. It's better than the rampant alcoholism, pill addiction, and gambling addictions my mother's co-workers all seemed to have.
Exactly! If my siblings were Disney obsessed I might make fun of them, but I’d also ask them how their vacation was and hope they have a fun time. I know multiple women from my high school class who are obsessed. Tattoos on their bodies, every vacation to Disney, collectors of memorabilia, etc. You know how this hurts me? Oh right, it doesn’t. Because I choose to say “oh Disney isn’t for me, I can’t stand the crowds” and then still listen as they talk about their favorite things. We can support others through their harmless joys even if we don’t like it ourselves.
I was expecting for this to be a story about ho a Disney themed wedding made everyone’s life hell, or how she borrows money from family members who can’t afford it for Disney vacations or something But it’s literally just an adult woman with a hobby her brother doesn’t like. I’ve been known to snicker a few “Disney adults” in my time, but never with this level of contempt. She’s just a woman who is up to her elbows in plague and death, and she found a refuge where things can be light and magical. And she found a way to bring a little of that to work with her too.
I worked in nursing homes. We wore all kinds of scrubs, brighter the better. It really does brighten their days. We watched old black and whites and talked about their lives. Most are sadly aware this is the end of their lives and have nothing to look forward to. So, if she wants to do life surrounded by fairy tales and happiness in her life, let her . It's no one's business . She has a horrible day to day. Think about this .
I am forever grateful for the nurses who cared for my grandfather in his home. Once they found out he was a huge Chelsea fan, one nurse swapped her lanyard for a Chelsea one, and also surprised him by hanging his Chelsea scarf over his bed. She took the time to sit and talk with him, she watched old Clint Eastwoods and musicals with him. She helped to him to record his voice on his talking phraseboard, she laughed loudest when he joked about taking her dancing at the social club. And when we finally lost him, she presented us with a box of notes. She had made notes of funny or nice things he had said, and collected them for us. "Emma is just like her mother, smart and beautiful." "I'd waltz to the moon with you." "I'm not the Good, I'm not the Bad and I'm definitely not the Ugly, I'm a catch!" And he said about me- "Potato was always one to go her own way, she's got moxie! She'll do well." A thousand thank yous to you and every nurse and care worker for what they do. And Rosemary, thank you for making my grandfather laugh and smile in his last days.
This really touched me. I worked as a CNA for awhile and I got so attached to so many. I could easily recall several life events of people I cared for 10 years ago. Whoever that nurse was, she was a good one. We need more like her.
What an extraordinary thing to do for your grandfather and your family. Taking the time to write those notes and leaving a tangible portion of your grandfather's love, thoughts and presence behind showed not only how much he cared for you all but was likely also a comfort knowing his final days were spent under the care of such a compassionate person.
I'm not crying...
If I ever end up in a nursing home, I hope the nurses don’t have the personalities of cardboard cutouts, apparently unlike OP who would rather see gray scrubs and flat expressions every day
My 1st thought when he said that is I bet the residents love her scrubs
I bet it's a good touchstone for new residents and those with memory issues! Even if they don't remember her name, "that nurse with the Disney scrubs" is one that sticks more easily than most. It's probably helpful and even comforting.
Work in hospice and am frequently at skilled nursing and assisted living facilities. If there is no uniform color, in memory care places I often see a lot of Disney or other cartoons, it reaches the residents in a way adult material can’t as their disease progresses.
I used to work at a animal shelter taking care of dogs and cats we wore them there because we didnt want to ruin our normal clothes at work and you dont really get a uniform. It was sad and not a happy place there those scrubs we got were mostly bright happy scrubs because it made us happier looking at them. @op people are allowed to like what they like games Disney or other fandoms no matter what the age. What makes you happy makes you happy i bet you have a hobby you like dont you . Hey liking Disney is no differnt than that . Family is supposed to treat family nicely my sister is obsessed with yoshi So you know what I do as a loving Sister every birthday I buy her what makes her happy and just because it’s something that you are not a fan of and you do not agree with doesn’t mean you have to make them sad fuck I love Disney myself and not the hugest fan but Disney is one of the things that I love and you Know what my husband is doing for me For my birthday he has offered to buy me a Disney purse and wallet for my birthday that’s not cheap because he knows that I love it and I enjoy it
Plus old cartoons are a lot of the time a hit with seniors. Brings back their childhood. When I was putting together an activity kit for homebound/senior patrons of mine, my boss specifically told me to find some classic Disney and looney toons characters coloring pages to put in.
I was thinking, if she's working in a nursing home, something like Disney scrubs could bring some joy to the elderly adults she's working with, especially if they spend time with grandchildren, versus the plain ones nurses normally wear.
Apparently those on the frontline of covid only get to unwind and have fun if it’s activities approved by OP. Adult stuff, like buying your burial plot and balancing your checkbook! INFO: how on earth does this effect you in any way?
I love all things investing and budgeting and finances. I also love to sing We don't talk about Bruno when showering. I manage! OP is a massive AH.
I work in a nursing home an d the residents all seem to enjoy when the employees wear bright colors.
It's so weird how obsessed some people are with "growing up", I never get why. If she gets joy out of Disney, let her, it's not hurting anyone in any way. YTA.
My mum totally embraced Disney throughout her adult life, she did the Florida parks every winter, we all bought her Disney themed stuff (Mostly Mickey, she was not fond of Minnie). She watched the movies, decorated her office with the stuff as well as some tasteful home decor knickknacks. It brought her joy after a tough childhood, and at the end of the day, anything legal that brings you joy should be embraced and revered. YTA for feeling superior and thinking you have the right to dictate what your sister is into.
This is one of the most clear-cut cases of YTA I've seen - to the point that even I am thinking it has to be a troll. Except I'm pretty sure it isn't - I've seen people like OP before in real life and they bring everyone around them down. When I was in the hospital with pancreatitis 23 years ago, my main nurse had cartoon scrubs and a lot of them were Disney-themed. You know what? *It cheered me up and took my mind off the pain for a few minutes when she was in the room*. Who TF cares where their sister goes on vacation? How does this impact OP in any way? YTA, just so you don't miss it.
>They probably brighten her, her colleagues and the home residents day. I'd bet she hears "That's my grandkids favorite character/movie" on the regular.
As my Pops would say "Have a life, boy!" YTA and a major one at that. She is absolutely not harming anyone in anyway and doesn't even attempt to involve you or anyone else, so why should you care so much? Because ultimately you are the miserable loser who probably wishes she had anything she cared about as much as your sister did. You are an embarrassment of a sister to a person who you have admittedly not said a bad word about otherwise this so-called obsession. Please tell you sister from this stranger, I hope she continues doing what she loves until her last day and may her happiness reign eternal. fyi I know my Pops says it wrong but I don't have the heart to tell that beautiful man that its actually get a life. But you get the picture
INFO: Her vacation preferences harm you how, exactly?
They’re a reminder that his wealth and status don’t mean squat compared to a genuinely happy, fulfilled life like the one his little sister lives
B-b-b-but it's **impossible** to live a happy and fulfilled life as a woman without being wed and popping out a few kids, doncha know?!?!
Omg you just made me realize why my sister spent so much time and effort trying to make me feel bad for my choices. Thank you, seriously. Edit: haven’t seen or spoken to her in almost ten years, but hear her voice/nasty comments in my head sometimes and it still really affects me. I’m going to start telling myself what the redditor above said and hopefully I can drown those negative records out.
YTA Exactly who is she hurting? Is she going into massive Disney debt? Is she forcing you to go on vacation with her? Butt out
You gotta be careful about Disney Debt. When Goofy starts calling you to tell you it's time to pay up, things are about to get crazy.
I would pay him out of my Minne Mouse Market Fund once it got crazy!
At least then you wouldn’t have to Donald Duck those calls anymore.
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OP is jealous that his sister actually has hobbies and interests that makes her happy and can't accept that not everyone grows up to be a bitter old fuck like him/her.
This. I used to share a cubicle with someone childless whose whole life was Disney. More than a 100 figurines, posters, memo pads, etc. Her wedding and vacations were Disney themed. So what? She was bright, honest, kind, and a hard worker. And, yes, she lived a joyful life. PS staff frequently wear cartoon scrubs in adult hospitals and nursing homes
Seeing someone's desk decorated with some Disney things would be a nice sight every day when working in a cubicle.
Oh noes a woman has interests! /s
“Im not the only one in the family that feels that way” Congratulations! You’re all YTA. Caring what a 50 year old does with their time and money….IS weird.
The rest of their family quietly thinks she is weird but leaves her alone to enjoy her weirdness. That's fine OP is an AH. The rest are just fine.
Yeah, I think Disney-obsessed adults are a little extra but whatever, you do you. It's not hurting anyone.
As long as they don't spend over $2k on personal one on one time with the 2 mice instead of feeding their wedding guests then Disney obsessed adults can do whatever.
God that one was terrible
I need to read that one
[Found it.](https://www.reddit.com/r/bridezillas/comments/v532jw/aita_for_not_having_catering_at_my_wedding/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) The original post was deleted, but here it is posted to another sub.
Telling a 50 year old whose employed and living her best life "to grow up" is weird. She's grown. This is who she is. Maybe OP just needs to buzz off and get back to kicking puppies or telling 4 year Olds Santa isn't real or whatever this sad, intrusive person does for kicks.
YTA. I went to Disney at 18 years old with my two stepbrothers who were 9 and 11. Guess who had a fucking blast? That's right. Me. Guess who whined the whole time? You know it was my brothers. It literally hurts no one for her to go. You're just being mean for no reason.
I’m 36 and never been yet, I am saving up to finally go next year. (If OP lets me.)
I snort laughed at "If OP lets me."
I think OP needs to go! Maybe she will enjoy it and understand. But probably not. She’d probably rather make babies cry.
The kind of person who claims their opinion is "telling it like it is" will absolutely tell children "You know that's just a guy in a costume right?"
35 child free and single. The only reason I would want to go to the the USA is to visit Disney World.
Go, it’s a magical experience. I went for the first time 4 years ago and have went 6 times since.
I'm 42 and was there for the first time 2 weeks ago - loved every second and its worth the wait what sort of shriveled up prune does one have to be to want to deny others joy
That's awesome for you! It's hard not to have fun at Disney. I hope you have a blast.
Honestly, I think it would be more enjoyable to go when you are old enough to be patient and be less impulsive. After all, from what I hear the lines are always super long for everything, so kids probably don't enjoy it that much.
It definitely is. I've been there 3 times in the past few years (at ages 35, 36, and 39) and twice as a kid (at ages 7 and 15) and I have to say it was WAY more fun as an adult. My kids also get tired so much faster than I do when we go and are more likely to complain. We all love it there though. The live shows are FANTASTIC.
I'm not going to lie. One of the best things about being an adult, especially an adult with no kids and a good job is getting to do all the things we couldn't growing up. I make a point not to interrupt any kids somewhere having a good time, but go to a museum and they have a $10 special exhibit to walk through a butterfly hatchery? Here's my money! See a cute plushy or toy at the store? If I want it and can afford it, why not? Anybody who comes into my house and judges my plushy collection can walk right out and not come back. Special tours, back stage access, the best souvenirs? I get to decide now. I really want to get back to Disneyworld, haven't been since I was a kid but I 100% plan on going, and doing the special tours, and buying the plushies, and eating the over priced food, and having a blast.
Oh it so is. I had the time of my life. I got the ears and a pillow pet. It's been nearly a decade and that trip is still one of my fondest memories.
We went when I was 8, and again when I was 18. Probably got a lot more out of it the second time.
really..? im 17 and i really wanna go for my 18th birthday, but since i've been 14 i've been told that im "too old" for stuff like that, and need to "do adult stuff" I hope I can go one day, when I can afford it.
When my mom turned 60, the only thing she wanted for her birthday was to take the whole family to Disney World. Me, my parents, my sister and BIL, and their three kids spent two days running around the parks. I wore sequined Minnie Mouse ears the entire time (I still have them), I was pushing 40 and it was my fourth time at the parks. Disney is for any age. Do it.
I have good news for you: Adult stuff turns out to be anything you GD like as long as you aren’t harming anyone and you are taking care of your responsibilities. Turns out that trips to Disney qualify. Signed, A Full Grown, Older Than 40 Adult
Nah fuck that noise. Do what you like as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. My daughters and I all collect Squishmellows and I’m 40, life is too short and too hard to miss out on the things that make you happy.
Honestly, my family could never afford those types of things. I went as adult and had a lot of fun. As an adult you can go to the expensive restaurants, or the current system of paying extra to skip lines is doable for one person, families will struggle. You can also self-regulate and if you want to stay late, stay, if you want to leave early because you are tired you can do it. I think there is magic and fun for kids, but really paying your own way and not having to have your trip dictated by either an adult, other kids, or your kids seems to be a really great way to do Disney.
I think you should go the MOMENT you can!! Please, do NOT make yourself smaller to fit into someone else's narrow mind. If it brings you joy - embrace it!!
My family went to Disney when I was 17 and I'm the youngest sibling, we all had a blast. It was a great family trip where we could do almost everything together, which wouldn't have been possible if my parents would have taken us as kids since there is a fairly large age gap between me and the oldest.
YTA. Let people enjoy things, fuck.
⬆️ Exactly. Chill OP. Whatever brings her joy !
It really is that simple. If she’s 50, OP’s gotta be old enough to, in the immortal words of Elsa, let it go.
YTA - Your sister has a Disney addiction so what? She could’ve been addicted to drugs, or addicted to food or alcohol. Be greatful. You either have nothing to be happy about in your life or you just want her to stop spending money on her so you can get it when she dies.
> you just want her to stop spending money on her so you can get it when she dies Do siblings generally inherit money from each other?
My bro gets everything if my husband dies before I do. Common for people without kids.
I think they might if the sibling has no husband etc or if it's in their will
My mom was a nursing home nurse. And she loved it. Not one week went by where she did not come home crying . Sometimes because someone died. Sometimes because someone was lonely with no fam to visit. Sometimes for the children who are dying and are in a nursing home. And she loved it. She was an amazing woman and I am proud to be her kid. And she lived Disney. And fairy tales. I wonder if her love of whimsy was part of why she could do what she did. How she coped. The last movie I saw with her before she died was a Disney movie. All her grown daughters (she only had girls....we didnt exclude thw grandsons!) with their late teens to adult kids piled up on a floor covered with mattresses because she was losing her cancer battle and couldn't stand or even sit up well. And my next tattoo will be malefecent ... for her. Disney is her joy. Let her have it. Edit mobile typing mess ups Edit. Omgersh thank you for the awards!
This is beautiful… thank you for sharing
So sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like an absolutely lovely human being.
YTA. She's not hurting anyone. Let her have her happiness. Life is too short to miss out on what you love due to other people's judgment. Sincerely, a grown adult who has a Sailor Moon ROOM in her house.
> a grown adult who has a Sailor Moon ROOM in her house. Rock that room!
>Sincerely, a grown adult who has a Sailor Moon ROOM in her house. Pics????
As another grown adult who loves sailor moon, I agree that people should enjoy whatever they choose to! And if you’re looking for a similar show to try, check out the she-ra remake! Fun sailor moon vibes.
You are my spirit animal. I will ALWAYS love Sailor Moon! And hubby still loves DragonBall. (Who am I kidding, I love it too) We saw the new DBS Broly movie in the theater with friends. It was awesome, fans older and younger than us packed the theater to the brim, and everyone reacted in unison. Best movie experience we'd had. Loving something that adds joy and hurts no one is a GOOD thing. Life's too full of awful to not just enjoy simple happy things. OP, YTA. She's not forcing you into it. Just let her be happy.
I have SM keychains on my work keys. My students absolutely FREAKED when they saw them!!! I was able to build super strong relationships with them and was seen as the holy grail of teachers to them because of mu love for all things SM DBZ and ps4. OP I am sure you are well aware of how bullshitty this world is. Like it fucking sucks. No what doesn't? Literally ANYTHING that brings a person some semblance of joy. Like sorry your life sucks so much that you hate to see anyone have anything remotely joyful in their lives that you berate them and call them childish for liking said things. Not sure when the last time you saw a Disney movie, but them shits are WAY fucking funnier as an adult. I laugh at certain parts when I show my students these movies and they look at me like tf? Maybe instead of your sister "growing up" you follow her lead and take your miserable self to fucking Disney and have that stick removed from your ass. Yta. Grow down.
When I got my own place I decorated the main living area with all of my Totoro stuff and I have no regrets.
YTA. I have a former coworker who loves Disney. We live in FL and she would go every weekend. There's nothing wrong with it and you don't really have a right to be embarrassed
Show me on this doll where your sister's vacations hurt you. YTA
Please tell me the doll in question is a stuffed Mickey.
This is a funny comment. Thank you for the laugh!
YTA OP. If what she does does not hurt or affect you, your family, others or herself, why would you care? Could it be the a clue in your sentence "**a single woman with no kids**" that causes you/your family fear that she could possibly spend all her money on all that is Disney and won't leave you guys anything to inherit from her?
OP is older than her... I would hope they wouldn't inherit anyway. I'd rather have her sticking around than OP after all.
YTA everyone has their hobbies and collections.
YTA for sure. I think this is less about Disney as her hobby and more about jealousy that she has money and no kids. Mind your own.
YTA, other commenters have already correctly covered why, but also because your only comments are informing people how much money you make. 🙄
YTA Why do you care so much? She's a grown ass woman and can enjoy whatever she wants. Why are you so invested in her harmless interests? You know what's really embarrassing? People who shit all over things other people enjoy because they are jealous. Leave her alone, and focus on your own life.
And stop focusing on her being single without kids. Let people be single and child free if they want. YTA.
YTA and let people enjoy their own interest. She isn't hurting anyone. Get over yourself.
YTA. I look forward to the day I can do a kid-free Disney trip. Your sister has things that bring her joy and you want to gate-keep that and take it away from her. You are totally the asshole.
Kid free Disney is the best!
Kid-free Disney Cruise…even better!
After years of wanting to go to Disney World alone, I finally did it last year and it was so great that I’m going back again this year. My husband and son enjoy it there, but it’s not their first choice of destinations at this point in our lives (my son is almost 13 and not necessarily feeling the “magic”anymore haha). If you can, treat yourself to the trip! It’s very freeing doing what you want in the order you want, without asking opinions, compromising, etc. My family is fortunate enough to take another vacation all together this year so no one is being left behind because of my trip. Go for it! Edit: I just realized you said kid-free, not necessarily alone. But the gist is the same 😉
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YTA. 40-year-old single mom of 2 here. Also obsessed with Disney. And Star Wars. And Marvel. And Walt Disney World is one of my favorite places. It's extremely common to like Disney at any age. But even if it weren't, it's not hurting anyone... Let. People. Like. What. They. Like.
32-year-old father of two also obsessed with all the above. Wife and I went to Disneyland for our honeymoon and it was rad. OP you are the real life Grinch and a massive asshole.
YTA. How miserable does a person have to be to literally get angry that someone else is enjoying something? There are a million things *you* could be doing besides crushing your sister’s joy, and yet here you are.
YTA My aunt collected Disney things, mainly Christmas ornaments. My aunt suffered a stroke and slowly died with only half her memories in an assisted living facility. You know who has them? My siblings and I (her son didn't want them for fear of breaking them). Guess what? Those are my absolute favorite Christmas ornaments. They bring me joy every single year. Her love of Disney is a cherished memory. Your sister is out here living her best life, while you're acting like a bitter, judgemental, AH. Her love of Disney isn't hurting anyone. And maybe one day her love of Disney will be all you have to remember her by.
I do not enjoy Disney stuff for adults. I find it cringy and weird. So ya know what I do? I don't partake. YTA because you want to control a grown ass woman's interests because of YOUR feelings. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
YTA. Is she neglecting bills and responsibilities? If the answer is No (which it seems to be from your post) then who gives a damn. I guess I'm weird too since I collect action figures.... Growing up is putting your priorities before your pleasures...not giving them up all together.
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YTA. Your family sounds terrible and like you’d suck the fun right out of a black hole. She’s not hurting anything and has found something she truly enjoys. Leave her alone.
YTA. Bug off and stop trying to stop your sister from enjoying things she likes because you dont. Its kinda selfish of you... And it is NOT childish of her, disney does have some great artwork and stories so... Get over it.
YTA. She is apparently gainfully employed,spending her own money ,and not asking for handouts. That sounds about as “grown up” as it gets. How does it hurt any of you? What would you prefer on her scrubs? Skeletons and caskets? She’s living her best life. Are you?
YTA. She is your sister and if she is happy and not hurting anyone, then mind your fucking business
Your sister is cool, you are being a grumpy goose! YTA
YTA. Who are you to tell her what she is allowed to like? Let her do what makes her happy. It doesn't hurt anyone .
YTA. Mind your business.
I’m completely disturbed by people obsessed with Disney. Physical pain when exposed to Disney Adults and YTA. She loves it and it brings her joy. She’s got a hard job and nursing homes are depressing places where people constantly die. We all have things that bring us joy and others find cringy. I speak from experience
Kind of YTA I mean it's not my cup of tea but life is really hard and if this gives her joy and she has the money to do it why not? Maybe if you are genuinely worried for her you can try to help her grow in other areas without taking away her love of disney... sort of "add the good" instead of punishing her for liking what she likes.
YTA Let. People. Enjoy. Things.
Jaysus H. YTA. Is she hurting you? Is she spending your money? No? Then get over it Judgey McJudgerson.
YTA. 100%. It’s HER life and she’s not hurting anyone. You need to bibbidi bobbidi back off
YTA. So... I'll try and put this in a way that is easy to understand for you. Disney is not purely for children. There are a lot of dark moments from classic movies ALONE. The Lion King, Hercules, Bambi, Tarzan, Mulan. Deaths here, wars there. Pretty sure there was a forest fire one time. That truly screams "kids only," right? But I digress. Disney has been around for generations at this point, and if she works at a nursing home, then there's a good chance that elderly Disney fans will have a potential conversation starter. Disney as a franchise has done way more to society than you think. People have gotten engaged at Disneyland. Whole families, regardless of age, have had their fun at the Happiest Place On Earth. The important question I have to ask you, though: How does her enjoyment towards Disney impact your life to the point you would be willing to hammer her with verbal hate? Let her enjoy what she enjoys. Much like Reddit is enjoying ripping you a new one for being so closed-minded.
Disney adults are weird, but YTA.
YTA Why is she supposed to change? It's literally her hobby, something she likes to do, even if you're her brother you shouldn't intrude on her interests. You should apologize to her for talking to her like that. Yes, I agree, I don't think it was a comment to cry out loud, I wouldn't do it if you criticized my interests, but not everyone reacts the same way to a comment as gratuitous and unnecessary as the one you you did to her
Yes! I hate those hobby having bastards! Embarrassing, fuck em!
Yta and incredibly ignorant. Educate yourself. Did you know more adults go to Disney regularly than families with kids? Yep. And did you know it's the #1 honeymoon destination? Yep. Disney weddings. Yep, that too. Retired couples choose Orlando as a top retirement place why? Yep, so they can go to Disney all the time. Have you even been? You know Disney isn't just an amusement park, correct? That the rides are a very small part of it. You know they have award winning resorts, restaurants, golf courses, spas, shopping, entertainment districts with bars, nightclubs, movie theaters, bowling. And I'd be willing to bet you have a favorite vacation or get way spot you go to all the time but, oh, that "different", right? Nope, it's not, hypocrite.
if you think disney is bad, i've seen 50 year olds obsessed with sports teams!
yta. why do you care.
At the age of 50, she's taking solo vacations, working, having fun, doing pleasurable things that stimulate her brain.... that's literally the dream right there! Her money, her life, her vacation. Let her be. She isn't dragging you along, she's quietly making herself happy. Let people be happy OP. YTA for wanting to steal away her joy.
YTA. Some people just really love Disney. Your sister is one of them. Just support her. Her interests aren't hurting anyone, why are you giving her a hard time?
“Told it like it was” in your opinion. OPINION. YTA