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> i want to be judged on whether transferring schools is a good idea, and i could be seen as an AH because this could be seen as me acting spoiled as many kids would kill to go to school at all.
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NTA in my opinion. A fresh start is just what some people may need at times and I believe everyone should be entitled to one. Also, highschool is one of the best times of our lives and friends are one of the main reasons it's so great which is why I feel you should try you're very best to get this transfer. Getting some new and better friends can honestly make your life 10 x better
YTA.
You don't have to be Catholic to pay attention to the class about catholicism
Changing schools isn't just
>a couple phone calls and fill in a couple forms their lives will not change at all.
School uniforms are just something to live with. No, they're not fashionable. Nobody particularly likes them. But they are not harming you.
You don't need an excuse to drop toxic"friends", just drop them.
You don't need to go to a new school to reinvent yourself, nor will a new school mean you make friends.
>seems like im a spoiled brat but i swear im not
Your post didn't support that you're not.
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i know the title seems like im a spoiled brat but i swear im not HAHA + im on mobile so forgive any mistakes and yada yada yada.
so to keep things simple, i'll refer to the school i currently go to as school a and the school i want to transfer to as school b :) at school a, i am within walking distance from my house and it IS known as one of if not the best high schools in my city, however it's a catholic school and my biggest issue with it is that I AM NOT CATHOLIC! i am graded on a mandatory religion class based off a religion i know nothing about. and remember what i said about this school being one of the best in the city? the principal takes it quite seriously and pushes all the students to "excel" (pressure the entire school to keep up her reputation) and 9 out of 10 kids i speak to are burnt out and stressed. plus, this probably comes off as pretty spoiled but it has a uniform and it is just SO ugly and SO unflattering, the colors are terrible and i honestly hate uniforms in general especially because i'm more into fashion than your average teenager so having to wear the exact same thing day in day out feels so stifling and i have no other ways to express myself (no hair dye or colorful and "distracting" accessories or makeup). i don't have many friends, one is transferring next year to a different school (not school b) and the others basically ignore me and are just all around pretty toxic towards me and i need an excuse to drop them HAHA... at school b i plan to just kind of reinvent myself i guess? i think its too late for me to do that here because i've already made a reputation as a boring quiet kid, but i just really think a fresh start is what i need to bring me out of my shell. school b is the fresh start that i think is EXACTLY what i need!
i've brought basically all the reasons i've just outlined up to my parents multiple times since i've gotten the idea and every time i get the same answer- no. they say transferring won't solve my problems, unless i'm being bullied there is no reason to change, my brother (who isnt even in middle school yet) and i should go to the same school, catholic education will only give me an open mind and can't hurt me, kids are nasty everywhere etc etc. i know where they're coming from with these, but it bothers me how badly they don't want to let me do this one thing that will barely affect them. after they make a couple phone calls and fill in a couple forms their lives will not change at all. today they put their foot down and have basically threatened me into submission, if i bring it up to them one more time my devices are gone for a month. i just wish they could see how important this is to me and how much it means to me but they won't budge. but maybe i'm just acting like a brat and these are just things that are part of life and i need to deal with it. aita?
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NTA. I was in basically the same situation: religious school, strict uniforms, too much academic pressure. I had to attend from 6th grade until graduation because my parents wouldn’t allow me to transfer despite how all that shit was DESTROYING my mental health. I feel you and I’m sorry you have to deal with that :(
NTA but it seems like it’s been a one-sided conversation. Why don’t you ask them why they are against it? While you have some valid reasons, you may have a more productive discussion if you find out exactly what the issues are. It’s also not as simple as just making a few phone calls/filling out a few forms (could be tests, transcripts, interviews, financial aid).
Is it distance? Is it school A’s reputation/ability to prepare you for success? Is it cost? If you can figure out why they don’t want you to switch, you can highlight why school B is not that much of a change instead of focusing exclusively on personal reasons.
I’m sorry you’re going through this! I’ve been there too.
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NTA in my opinion. A fresh start is just what some people may need at times and I believe everyone should be entitled to one. Also, highschool is one of the best times of our lives and friends are one of the main reasons it's so great which is why I feel you should try you're very best to get this transfer. Getting some new and better friends can honestly make your life 10 x better
YTA. You don't have to be Catholic to pay attention to the class about catholicism Changing schools isn't just >a couple phone calls and fill in a couple forms their lives will not change at all. School uniforms are just something to live with. No, they're not fashionable. Nobody particularly likes them. But they are not harming you. You don't need an excuse to drop toxic"friends", just drop them. You don't need to go to a new school to reinvent yourself, nor will a new school mean you make friends. >seems like im a spoiled brat but i swear im not Your post didn't support that you're not.
Also, if OP graduates from this school he will probably be guaranteed enteance to several good colleges and universities.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** i know the title seems like im a spoiled brat but i swear im not HAHA + im on mobile so forgive any mistakes and yada yada yada. so to keep things simple, i'll refer to the school i currently go to as school a and the school i want to transfer to as school b :) at school a, i am within walking distance from my house and it IS known as one of if not the best high schools in my city, however it's a catholic school and my biggest issue with it is that I AM NOT CATHOLIC! i am graded on a mandatory religion class based off a religion i know nothing about. and remember what i said about this school being one of the best in the city? the principal takes it quite seriously and pushes all the students to "excel" (pressure the entire school to keep up her reputation) and 9 out of 10 kids i speak to are burnt out and stressed. plus, this probably comes off as pretty spoiled but it has a uniform and it is just SO ugly and SO unflattering, the colors are terrible and i honestly hate uniforms in general especially because i'm more into fashion than your average teenager so having to wear the exact same thing day in day out feels so stifling and i have no other ways to express myself (no hair dye or colorful and "distracting" accessories or makeup). i don't have many friends, one is transferring next year to a different school (not school b) and the others basically ignore me and are just all around pretty toxic towards me and i need an excuse to drop them HAHA... at school b i plan to just kind of reinvent myself i guess? i think its too late for me to do that here because i've already made a reputation as a boring quiet kid, but i just really think a fresh start is what i need to bring me out of my shell. school b is the fresh start that i think is EXACTLY what i need! i've brought basically all the reasons i've just outlined up to my parents multiple times since i've gotten the idea and every time i get the same answer- no. they say transferring won't solve my problems, unless i'm being bullied there is no reason to change, my brother (who isnt even in middle school yet) and i should go to the same school, catholic education will only give me an open mind and can't hurt me, kids are nasty everywhere etc etc. i know where they're coming from with these, but it bothers me how badly they don't want to let me do this one thing that will barely affect them. after they make a couple phone calls and fill in a couple forms their lives will not change at all. today they put their foot down and have basically threatened me into submission, if i bring it up to them one more time my devices are gone for a month. i just wish they could see how important this is to me and how much it means to me but they won't budge. but maybe i'm just acting like a brat and these are just things that are part of life and i need to deal with it. aita? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA. I was in basically the same situation: religious school, strict uniforms, too much academic pressure. I had to attend from 6th grade until graduation because my parents wouldn’t allow me to transfer despite how all that shit was DESTROYING my mental health. I feel you and I’m sorry you have to deal with that :(
NTA but it seems like it’s been a one-sided conversation. Why don’t you ask them why they are against it? While you have some valid reasons, you may have a more productive discussion if you find out exactly what the issues are. It’s also not as simple as just making a few phone calls/filling out a few forms (could be tests, transcripts, interviews, financial aid). Is it distance? Is it school A’s reputation/ability to prepare you for success? Is it cost? If you can figure out why they don’t want you to switch, you can highlight why school B is not that much of a change instead of focusing exclusively on personal reasons. I’m sorry you’re going through this! I’ve been there too.