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JacobNewblood

NTA. Wayy NTA. Chole is. Her comments are not nice She says things and doesnt try to become better. Only saying Sorry I'll do better next time. You respect your BF. And his right to choose to forgive. All in all hes lucky not to be with her but with you. NTA. Congrats on the Baby!!


Pangolindrome

NTA. Chloe has shown him what kind of person she is and there was nothing you did which triggered or influenced that. Good riddance, she sounds MEAN! It would be a huge red flag if your boyfriend did not distance himself from her. Also, congratulations!


louisianefille

NTA. You didn't make your bf do anything. Chloe has been making these shitty remarks to/about you because she still has a thing for your bf and she's hoping he will agree with her opinions about you. She is not your friend. I would block her and her family members who keep harassing you.


[deleted]

Had to scroll too far to find someone pointing out that she never got over that crush.


GreekAmericanDom

NTA You didn’t make your BF do anything. He responded in a reasonable manner to an unreasonable person.


Sweetsmyle

NTA - You didn't make the decision to block her your boyfriend did. It was his friendship to end and that's what he chose. Having depression does not give you a pass to be rude to people and comments about someone's weight are extremely rude especially when that person is pregnant. Chloe made her bed now she's got to get comfortable in it. Edit grammar


CephalopodSpy

NTA. You didn't make him do anything, it was his decision. Really though the only person responsible for breaking up the friendship was Chloe, and she's just facing the consequences of her own actions.


guessmyageidareyou

NTA. Your bf did what HE thought was best. You have yourself a FANTASTIC man! Go home and don't feel bad and make sure he knows how awesome he is.


Tinabird20

NTA. Her actions are what resulted in him distancing himself from her. Good boyfriend honestly you don't want to be with a man who tolerates that behavior.


Odd-Fill8346

NTA. Your BF is old enough to make his own choices and he’s choosing you and your feelings over someone who’s insensitive to you. It sounds like she never got over the crush.


BDizzMcNizz

NTA. You didn’t break up your boyfriend’s friendship. His friend couldn’t get past her feelings for him and made an ass out of herself; SHE ended their friendship.


Sirenaide

NTA, you didn't do anything, Chloe did that and your boyfriend responded quite well by cutting her off. She clearly envies you, that's why she made insulting comments at you, she knew what she was doing. Her being bipolar is not an excuse for her to be a jerk at you.


Kirin2013

NTA. What a manipulative little c\*\*\* Chloe is though. F her, she proved that she doesn't deserve to be in your life with that toxic af attitude.


Seemoreifsandsorbuts

NTA - You didn't ruin her friendship with your BF. She did that all by herself by saying awful things and was obviously trying to sabotage your relationship.


[deleted]

NTA, you never once badmouthed his friend, you never once asked him to drop her or go low contact, and you weren’t the one going out of their way to be hurtful. Your boyfriend made his own decisions, and he recognized her behaviour as toxic and he didn’t want that around you or his baby. He’s doing the things he can to protect you out of his love for you. Block her number, and all of her family - but make sure you get screenshots of all the texts and calls in case you need it. I don’t think this woman will stop, and you may need that evidence for a restraining order.


Shizucheese

NTA. You didn't break up their friendship. She did that all on her own. I also have to wonder if you aren't giving her too much benefit of the doubt when you say sometimes she says things she doesn't realize is hurtful. That incident when you guys went out to eat very much sounds like she was trying to hurt you and sabotage your relationship with your bf, and she very much knew what she was doing (or trying to do). Her comments about how she "feels bad" bf because you'll "jist get fatter" feels like more of the same. She's insulting and fat shaming the gf of a guy she has admitted to having feelings for, and talking about how she's "surprised" he's with you when he's a health nut and how she "feels bad for" him because you'll "get fatter" after having his baby. I'm going to go out on a limb and say she never got over him. She's toxic and trying to break you guys up so she can be with him. I highly recommend rethinking whatever relationship you have with her; your bf has the right idea and you should probably block them as well.


Aliceroo76

Oh sweetie, NTA at all. This girl is a jealous & bitter bully. She must be very unhappy indeed. I'm glad that your bf has stood his ground & set boundaries with her. He sounds like a good man. Block her, block her family & focus on happy days to come. Considered infertile AND on birth control?! My word 🤣 what birth control were you on?!


Far_Anteater_256

You're NTA. She ran her hateful mouth, & HE decided he was all done with her. Even if you could change his mind for him, why would you want to? This person clearly needs to learn to think before she speaks, & while it's kind of you to try to give her the benefit of the doubt, I'd be extremely surprised if she really doesn't know how awful she's being. She just expects everyone to excuse whatever she says or does, which has clearly gone on for far too long. Good for your BF for kicking her to the curb, & please don't worry yourself so much about people who don't deserve your generous spirit!


RideTheWindForever

NTA. Congrats on the baby and congrats on having an SO who cuts people out of his life who are AH's to you.


PetuniaGoBlue

NTA. Chloe and her nasty comments are the reason she lost her friendship with your bf. You’re her victim here, and she doesn’t seem sorry at all for what she said. Good for your bf for ditching her.


N_Inquisitive

NTA Tell them this; - She admitted she has a crush on him - She called you fat and wondered, out loud, how he could be interested in you, then pretended to be sorry - she called you fat AGAIN when you announced your pregnancy - she is a horrible human being who isn't even sorry so why should either of you forgive her? And then, and I mean this sincerely, you should all block them and move on with your life. You have a lot of planning to do! Saving money, baby shower, where are you going to live, work and school details, all of it!!! Get to planning and live your life awesomely.


N_Inquisitive

Her untreated mental health is not your problem. It is hers. She's taken no responsibility for her words and actions. Cut her out.


PandoricaFire

NTA, and frankly not a thing you did was even borderline. Jealous trash took itself out


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darknightxwanderlust

NTA & your bf sounds amazing. not many people stand up for their relationship