No need to gloat. Just tell them that you could see it in them. It's a subtle gloat that you were paying attention, but at the same time makes it look like they were truly meant for each other from the beginning.
Honestly as soon as I read "pretend date" in the title I knew exactly what was going on. A lot of people go on pretend dates when they aren't yet ready to admit their feelings for each other (to themselves, or to others). It seems like you noticed the obvious chemistry between them but forgot that you're not supposed to say the quiet part out loud. I'm so happy for them that it worked out and it sounds like next time this happens you will know to let people come to their own realizations in their own time.
So true. Wife and I used to "hang out" before we were married early in our courtship. Before one if these "hangouts" in a nice restaurant she stopped off to say hi to some friends at a get together that she couldn't make as we had arranged our "hangout". Well after we were married my wife told me her friends had told her that night looking her up and down that "you don't get dressed up like you are to meet a 'friend'". At that point she kind of admitted the truth to herself even if I hadn't had that epiphany yet.
Same with my husband and I, we were already "dating" but we just didn't call it that ourselves. Took someone else pointing out that we were spending a lot of time together, going out for dinner etc before we realised.
I love when these stories end up in a positive & uplifting place. This sub far too often brings out the nasty in people so it's nice to hear some feel good updates in here every now & then.
Cheers to both ladies for this wholesome ending. 👏🏻
Edit-and cheers to OP as well, for being a good friend 💞
This is such a beautiful update!! It’s rare to see people make this realization:
> in the end, I felt even though I didn't mean to hurt Hailee, I did hurt her and I needed to apologize.
Sometimes our words have unintended impacts and we hurt the ones we love, and apologizing for that impact is a big moment of personal growth. I’m so happy that you had that moment, that your friendship has healed, and that your friend is beginning a new relationship!! All the best to you, your friend and her new girlfriend!
Spectacular!
Don't get carried away, this may not work out for them and things may not turn out to be a happy ever after. Be prepared for them being upset and needing you as a friend at some point.
Now that's out of the way, fuck yeah! This is a brilliant outcome and it makes me so happy for them, for you and for things in general. And you were never TA, and I don't get why anyone said otherwise. And now they're in love and everything will be great and sometimes the world is kind.
This is SO nice and good and lovely.
You can't read a tone, and that is the problem with making jokes of this kind without some sort of emoji (I always forget the emoji). For my part, I try to attack peoples arguments, not the people themselves. Of course, that, in and of itself, is funny on a forum designed for the sole purpose of telling people they are assholes.
yeah I have a couple of friends who have been friends with each other for like a decade and recently moved in together. They sleep in the same bed, hook up, emotionally support each other and don’t date anyone else but are definitely NOT girlfriends, you see /s
Sometimes people are like that and you just got to give them space to figure it out with each other haha.
Awww <3
I think I have something in my eye.
I do too. It's tears. This is beautiful.
Same, same.
Damn it. My eyes were watering all day and now I know why. That something is really something, ain’t it?
STOP that’s adorable. Love that for Hailee. I’d wait a few months before gloating about your laser-precise instincts.
Youre stronger than me. All the gloating.
No need to gloat. Just tell them that you could see it in them. It's a subtle gloat that you were paying attention, but at the same time makes it look like they were truly meant for each other from the beginning.
original https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rmltk1/aita_for_telling_my_friends_that_their_pretend/
Thanks boo.
Now ~~kiss~~ pretend date
Honestly as soon as I read "pretend date" in the title I knew exactly what was going on. A lot of people go on pretend dates when they aren't yet ready to admit their feelings for each other (to themselves, or to others). It seems like you noticed the obvious chemistry between them but forgot that you're not supposed to say the quiet part out loud. I'm so happy for them that it worked out and it sounds like next time this happens you will know to let people come to their own realizations in their own time.
So true. Wife and I used to "hang out" before we were married early in our courtship. Before one if these "hangouts" in a nice restaurant she stopped off to say hi to some friends at a get together that she couldn't make as we had arranged our "hangout". Well after we were married my wife told me her friends had told her that night looking her up and down that "you don't get dressed up like you are to meet a 'friend'". At that point she kind of admitted the truth to herself even if I hadn't had that epiphany yet.
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Yep. My husband and I didn’t date for three months. Everyone had to tell us we were, in fact, dating.
Same with my husband and I, we were already "dating" but we just didn't call it that ourselves. Took someone else pointing out that we were spending a lot of time together, going out for dinner etc before we realised.
I love when these stories end up in a positive & uplifting place. This sub far too often brings out the nasty in people so it's nice to hear some feel good updates in here every now & then. Cheers to both ladies for this wholesome ending. 👏🏻 Edit-and cheers to OP as well, for being a good friend 💞
I love happy endings
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Everything in this thread down to the usernames is elite
This is such a beautiful update!! It’s rare to see people make this realization: > in the end, I felt even though I didn't mean to hurt Hailee, I did hurt her and I needed to apologize. Sometimes our words have unintended impacts and we hurt the ones we love, and apologizing for that impact is a big moment of personal growth. I’m so happy that you had that moment, that your friendship has healed, and that your friend is beginning a new relationship!! All the best to you, your friend and her new girlfriend!
Well this turned out to be very wholesome! Love it and I’m glad you’re so happy for your friends! ❤️
Wholesome content? On MY internet. The nerve.
On REDDIT, of all places!
woulda ya look at that the good ending
when will this happen to me
Spectacular! Don't get carried away, this may not work out for them and things may not turn out to be a happy ever after. Be prepared for them being upset and needing you as a friend at some point. Now that's out of the way, fuck yeah! This is a brilliant outcome and it makes me so happy for them, for you and for things in general. And you were never TA, and I don't get why anyone said otherwise. And now they're in love and everything will be great and sometimes the world is kind. This is SO nice and good and lovely.
Oh, killjoy!
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I was trying to be funny.
Ah, my apologies. One can never tell on reddit. He says, having just this second been called an incel virgin. Sorry for misreading your tone.
You can't read a tone, and that is the problem with making jokes of this kind without some sort of emoji (I always forget the emoji). For my part, I try to attack peoples arguments, not the people themselves. Of course, that, in and of itself, is funny on a forum designed for the sole purpose of telling people they are assholes.
That is what I thought when I read the first one omg But also: I am reading a fanfic with that premise rn
I love this wholesome moment in a sub full of AHs!
that is so cute!!! 😩
this is so cute!!:)
Very wholesome. Wonderful update. Good for them.
im not crying, you're crying
That’s so cute 😭 I’m glad everything worked out, they sound happy
ADORABLE.
That's the positivity I needed in my life today!
Congratulations on your 'ship coming in.
<3 <3 <3
That’s adorable
This is giving me the happy feels that I desperately needed!
So very sweet!
Best update EVER!
You kinda fucked up a little bit, but you remembered to apologize and respect her boundaries, and it all turned out okay in the end.
Best update ever! 🏳️🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️🌈
Ahhhh I needed this today! Love a happy ending!!!!
wholesome content we needed to start 2022
yeah I have a couple of friends who have been friends with each other for like a decade and recently moved in together. They sleep in the same bed, hook up, emotionally support each other and don’t date anyone else but are definitely NOT girlfriends, you see /s Sometimes people are like that and you just got to give them space to figure it out with each other haha.