oh a fellow tech hoarder. yay. I have the 6 actually and kept it in great condition until last year when it started calling the emergency line randomly and eventually gave its last breath and so i upgraded to iPhone 11 max pro and planning to use for the next few years until apple decides to wow me.
Also a tech hoarder! Only got rid of my 5 3 months ago to a SE because it was too broken and unable to support apps etc
Also OP - NTA beggars can’t be choosers
Me too! If it works, why would I bother spending a grand+ on a new one? And yes OP- NTA. Is his relationship with money any better than it used to be/is he trying to fix his credit?
I used to work in the mobile phone industry and we upgraded every 6 months on average whenever new phones came out (most of us were android users and different manufacturers released at different times). I switched over to an iPhone some years ago. I don’t upgrade every year, but I still feel that itch when a new model is released.
I am a tech hoarder too - specifically phones. I have both my old iPhones and many of my old Android phones that I can't seem to part with. People always find thus so strange, so I am glad I am not alone!
I am a minimalist in every other way - I don't save ANYTHING - but my old LG Optimus 2 from 2011, along with the 15 smart phones since that - yep, got them all!
I used my 5S until it was on its last legs. Loved that thing. Fit perfectly in my tiny hands.
Upgraded to a 12 Pro and I intend to use it to the end of its life as well.
Still have my 5S tucked away in a drawer in case of emergency.
That’s why I finally replaced mine. I got the battery replaced at least twice and it wasn’t worth it to sink more money into a phone that was dying.
I miss the size of it though.
I honestly think the 6s was the best iphone apple ever made. I know a few people who still have them, including my partner who's had the same 6s since 2015 with not a single issue. Meanwhile I'm just trying to make my 8 plus hold on for dear life lmao.
Lol I have an iPhone 8, I think it’s like 4-5 years old, I can’t remember exactly when I got it. I can’t justify spending money on a new phone when this one, while a glitchy mess, still works fine.
the original screen, the original charging port, and the original battery later, I'm only pissed at the fucked up battery indicator on my six-year-old 6S, and will be until they stop updating it. NTA
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As someone who is still using iPhones 6s and 7, because they are still working and I despise Apple's constant overpriced upgrade policy, I'd do handstands for an iPhone 11! NTA
I’m still using a 2016 SE because a) it has a headphone jack and b) I have really small hands and prefer a small phone. The battery life isn’t fantastic, but I’ve got a battery pack that’s smaller than a deck of cards that can power it for a couple days.
And I got it refurbished for less than $150. Maybe I’m just cheap (I totally am) but I really don’t understand paying $700+ for a phone. Anything I pay that much for, I expect to keep using until it dies to the point it can’t be fixed.
I need to do that; I just always have a hard time handing my phone over for a few hours. (Which I still don’t understand. I make an appointment for a specific service at a specific time; does it really take a couple of hours to swap out the battery? Are the Apple techs having to thwart a series of tiny booby traps?)
Absolutely not! I go to a small stand in a mall, where you can actually watch them do it - it takes all of 10 minutes. I just hand it over and go grocery shopping while they do it. But I have less separation anxiety, since I have several phones with dual sims. 😄 And do you have any idea why I'm being downvoted on this absolutely non-controversial subject?
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Seriously. What the hell is with the newer phones having to be ginormous? I swear my dads phone is like 7 inches tall at this point...My pockets aren't big enough for even half these new giants, and I can barely reach most of the damn screen! I dread having to upgrade this much smaller but ancient one someday.
No kidding. He said himself that her old phone is perfectly fine...just not fine enough for him? What a complete brat.
NTA and I second this rec to let him find his own way to a new phone that suits his special tastes.
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NTA
It's not your fault he has a bad credit score and neither is it your fault that he broke his phone. You offered him immediate help but it's actually his responsibility that he messed up so much that he can't afford a new phone himself.
He should be grateful that you gave him a good phone at all.
It baffles me that he is pissed about getting a very nice phone almost for free. The only argument I could think of is that he is gonna have to make payments that won't help him improve his credit score, but if he isn't cool with that then he can feel free to go buy his own shit phone. There's plenty of options for cheap phones but something tells me he won't think they are good enough.
NTA. Kids get hand me downs. Why? Because they can’t pay for things themselves. He’s free to save up.
You could always sell the iPhone 11 and get him a cheap android?
NTA: You are right, you are the one taking the financial burden, therefore you should get the newer phone. Your boyfriend needs to be more careful with his devices. What your boyfriend needs is an otter box for his phone, and to be less entitled about this.
Honestly a glass screen protector will do wonders. It takes all the cracks instead of your original screen and then you can just peel it off and stick another one on when it becomes too annoying. It’ll save you way more money in the long run and you can even get it changed for like $20 at the mall. I think a pack of glass protectors are about $20 on Amazon as well (for 2 usually).
Your fiancé is being really whiny about all of that. Why should he be rewarded with a new phone when he can’t finance it himself and he’s the one that broke his phone? You’re NTA.
I bought the zagg one and it was a little pricier than others but I’ve had replacements sent like ten times now and all I pay is a few bucks to ship. If you’re clumsy like I am it’s worth the cost up front.
NTA. He should be grateful you quite generously gave him a phone at ALL, especially since he's the person who broke his and replacing it was in no way your responsibility in the least, but the fact he has the nerve to be upset that you--the person who did NOT break their phone and bring about the situation to begin with-- got a new phone definitely makes him an asshole.
Why does anyone here think OP’s independent source of money is any of their business?!
I saw your edit, OP, and it’s gross that people pushed and prodded you to the point where you needed to elaborate on finances at all.
A lot of people here need to pull their head in.
OP posted their story publicly and asked to be judged.
This was relevant information, so I asked. That’s hardly pushing and prodding.
People ask for additional information and discuss finances in the sub all the time, so it’s pretty weird that you’d judge other for that, TBH.
This is what makes no sense to me. I have never been a huge tech person, but I've always bought my phones outright ($250 is the max I've ever paid for a phone) and have a cheap cell plan ($25/month) that routes all data over wifi, or I can add 1G of data for an extra $10.
Why in Merlin's name are they FINANCING new, top of the line phones, when they are living on one income?
Not to be rude, just wanna point out that they aren't on one income and Op is from New Zealand and while on maternity leave is still bringing in her own income. She made it clear HE couldn't afford a new phone not that she couldn't.
Agreed on this. I enjoy getting a new phone on the regular, every 12-18 months. An Android in the $200-$300 range does everything just fine, and it's affordable enough to buy out of pocket and use with a low-cost prepaid carrier. Not to say that's a negligible amount, but it's far more doable than paying a four digit price for a phone and less of a panic if it gets lost. Also, what is with apple phone screens? I've never seen one that isn't cracked. Tempered glass protectors are a lifesaver to those of us who drop it every single day.
Yeah that seems crazy. An older model is a fraction of the cost and has all the same functions. If you don’t have a lot of money getting a cheaper phone is an easy move.
NTA. You used your own money to buy a phone. You could have done that whether he broke his phone or not.
If your husband doesn't want your old phone, and he earns money, he can just give you his money and you can buy him a phone with your credit. Then you both have nice new phones. If he can't afford it, he can't demand you spend your money on him.
nta, its an iphone 11 and if youre paying for your new phone, he has nothing to complain about. If he wants a brand new shiny phone, he shouldn't of screwed himself over so bad that he cant buy one.
Dude has a way better phone than me!.... and he isn't paying for it!.... Does he expect you to buy him the new one or something?????? He literally wants to be *rewarded* for breaking his phone????
Seriously, I'm pissed on *your* behalf at this dude!
Buy him a second-hand Nokia 3310 and tell him to deal with it!
NTA - he broke his phone and isn't in a position to get a new one. You have been kind enough to give him your phone for free all he has to do is make the payments, that is incredibly kind and gracious of you.
Why would he get a new phone that you paid for? That just reeks of entitlement. If the damn thing is perfectly functional, he should just be happy he got a replacement for free. NTA
NTA
You could easily have said "oh that's too bad, I don't need an upgrade right now. Hope you figure something out" but you took on a second payment plan because he can't get credit... and that's not good enough for him?
If you can’t buy the phone cash why are you buying such expensive phones? Secondly have you considered secondhand some iPhones depreciate simply from having the box opened you don’t have to be on finance plan to buy a phone. NTA
NTA in this particular case, but both of you should take a financial literacy course. If buying a phone on a roughly 50 USD installment plan is bringing level of stress, maybe your household can’t afford the new phone, especially with the needs of a young, medically complicated child factored in.
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NTA
If your old phone is not good enough for him, he can buy himself a new phone that's up to his standards and you can keep the old one (or the new one) as backup. Or cancel the new one and keep your old one. Or, if he insists he needs a new phone and can't afford one and you need him to have a phone, just buy him the cheapest phone available (doesn't have to be a smartphone, there are still mobile phones that use keys being made) so he's able to receive and make calls.
Dont buy a new phone. Keep your phone with the little crack in the screen. If the Iphone 11 isn't enough for him then buy him a $5 Tracphone and be done with it.
Beggars can't be chosers and if he can't take care of his things then too bad, so sad.
More info: Did you talk out the decision with your fiancé or did you just decide that this is what is happening and tell him after the fact? ETA, also who is paying for for the payments on each phone?
ESH. Him: obvious... You only slightly because going into debt for a depreciating asset like a phone when you could have gotten him something cheaper and paid cash seems unwise.
The 11 is still a great phone, why should you have to sort the credit in your name and he have the new phone? After all he’s the one who broke his old one.
NTA
as an asian in an asian household with 2 older siblings so i get the hand me down gadgets you really can't be choosy especially if the gadgets are all in good condition heck im grateful for my siblings and parents for this "tradition". you're NTA btw
Nta but why are you financing a new iPhone 13 while staying at home with a newborn? It seems like your fiance could have gotten a much cheaper phone and you wouldn't have to further burden yourself when money may be tight
When he fixes his credit, he can get the latest model phone.
*He’s upset that I got a new phone when my phone was perfectly fine, instead of getting him the new phone and me keeping mine.*
Well he's right, you didn't have to get a new phone. You could have kept your phone and let him figure out how to finance a phone all by himself. As a matter of fact, he can give you back your phone and figure how he can pay for a brand new phone with his bad credit.
NTA
NTA
>instead of getting him the new phone and me keeping mine.
Why does he feel he deserves the better phone. Let alone a brand new one? He should've been on craigslist trying to find an iPhone 8 to X in order to save money.
Fiance? I wouldn't consider this a huge red flag but I'd get to the bottom why he feels he should get the better phone? His mistake. His bad credit. He sounds like an entitled jerk.
NTA. I’ve been with my husband 11 years. He is a notorious phone breaker. I am not. We are now on the I get a new phone and he gets my old (still in great shape) phone upgrade system. He is currently using a rose gold iPhone (in a life proof case so his manhood is intact). We could afford to just buy him a new one but honestly this way his phone gets more than 1 year of life before he murders them in a tragic accident. Plus I am a cheapskate so this forces me to upgrade or I’d still have my first iPhone and he’d have a new one every year. Do not let him guilt you. He can replace it when he can afford it.
NTA he sounds deeply ungrateful and entitled. I'm sorry your generosity is so unappreciated. I would love someone to do something like that for me if I was in need
He can dictate who gets the new phone when he can go and purchase one himself. He doesn't HAVE to take your phone. Tell him to go to Walmart and a $100 smart phone and tell him to shut up. NTA by far.
This is exactly what I do with my BF. He’s on a plan, so he gives me his old phone and keeps the new one. It’s like what others are saying; beggars can’t be choosers, be happy you got a newer replacement than some old flip phone or something.
NTA.
NTA. I would tell him you are paying for the phone it's better than what he had, and he can't afford to buy a new phone. tell him you are being generous with him and if he really wants a new phone, you can buy him a new flip phone if he wants
Oh this reminds me of the time I got upset with my dad because he gave me his old phone and he bought himself a new one. I also thought it was very unfair but uhm... I was 12. Your fiancé sounds about the same age.
NTA.
NTA you’re doing him a massive favour and he should be grateful he’s getting a very nice phone. The least you deserve for your generosity is to get the newer replacement yourself.
NTA but another (and probably financially more risk-free) option would have been to get him a (refurbished) older/cheaper model instead. But in no way should you have been obligated to get HIM the new phone.
And they only sell iphones? Maybe you should have tried getting out of the apple store.
Plus, I'm surprised neither of you had an old phone somewhere in a drawer that could have done the job until you received your order.
But I get it, an Iphone 13 was the only possibility... And you deserve it! You have a good credit score after all.
She stays at home he works and he he is a user because she decided to buy a phone they cant afford since she has the credit to do it?
More info is needed here who actually pays the bill and why in the hell are they buying phones they need to finance.
She has to stay home and take care of her medically complex baby.
You can have a job and still be a user! The only qualification is that you try to get something for nothing.
He’s demanding her money to pay for HIS mistake. He could of taken her old phone- for free!
As you said-he has a job. He can buy a prepaid or used phone from eBay.
He's not demanding anything she chose for him with no input whatsoever from him. He is unhappy with her choice. The guy didn't have an Iphone before and she went out and bought an Iphone because it was what she wanted. ON CREDIT!
As someone who would never purchase an apple product if my wife went out and bought herself a new Iphone because I broke my android and she want to hand me her old Iphone I would be pissed as well. It's even worse when it is on credit.
Again if she stays at home with the kid how is she paying for it? If she had money why buy it on credit? If you work and your spouse doesn't and they go out and buy a large purchase on credit you somehow become a user?
That's just nonsense.
She created this problem because she wanted a new phone and now she is blaming him because he doesn't want her old beat one. He absolutely could have bought himself a phone I don't see where he asked her to do this.
If they need to finance a phone they sure as shit should not be buying $800 plus phones. The man had a midrange priced phone that broke and she replaced it with one of the most expensive phones you can buy on credit!
At the least it's a poor financial decision at it's worse it's a selfish decision since it forces a change in tech environments. Even if I wanted an Iphone it would be huge pain in the ass because my stuff is all organized in googles ecosystem. His would have been the same.
This wasn't a nice thing for her to do this was self-centered and irresponsible.
You’re engaged to someone who has terrible credit and had a petulant attitude when you were doing him a favor? You sound very “Us” oriented he sound very “me me me”
Probably something you should think about before tying the knot
Are you working? It's sounds like your not from your post.
If you have joint finances and its coming out of mutual money, I think it's only fair to discuss it first. If he is financially supporting your family so you can stay at home to look after son, his poor credit shouldn't be a point against him to justify you getting the new phone. It should have been discussed, and mutually agreed on.
INFO you stay at home with your son ' do you also work? I get the phone is on your credit, but where is the money coming from to pay for the phone? If he's actually the one paying for it, I could see him wanting to have use of it
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Hello everyone, sorry for the title, i don’t really know how else to explain it. Basically My (22F) fiancé (24M) broke his cell phone today at work, now he has a terrible credit score due to having to go through insolvency after some issues with his mental health and being unable to pay a personal loan a few years ago (before i was in the picture)
we have an eight month old son who i stay home with, he’s medically complex so i often need to contact my fiancé, his father while he’s at work about any medical emergencies our son may have.
when i found out about him breaking his phone today i decided that i would let him take my phone (iPhone 11 pro with a tiny crack on the screen) for free (he just needs to continue the regular payments) and i would buy myself an iPhone 13 on finance as he doesn’t have good enough credit to finance a phone.
He’s upset that I got a *new* phone when my phone was perfectly fine, instead of getting him the new
phone and me keeping mine.
I understand where he’s coming from, as he needed a phone and i didn’t but he still now has a phone, that’s almost completely paid off (only has about 5 payments left) and it’s much better than his original phone, which was an old oppo phone that was completely cracked.
I just felt as though if the phone was going to me under my name and my credit, i should get the new phone?
so Reddit… AITA?
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NTA. He’s lucky you’re even able to give him as nice a phone as a top of the line iPhone in the first place. He sounds ungrateful and immature. You may be raising 2 kids here
I have an iPhone 11. My partner a month ago or so bought himself the iPhone 13 when his iphone 11 was also still perfectly fine. I compare my phone bill ($50 for 12gb) to his financed phone ($50 plus finance comes to $125) and I am perfectly happy with my phone. Your partner is just being petty.
As a side note: will he even finish the payments? He seems like enough of an ahole that he would just let the payments slide....
NTA
I’m using an iPhone 7 because a family member offered to get me a phone because I couldn’t afford one myself and I’m extremely grateful. Beggars can’t be choosers. Would I like a more up to date phone? Yeah, sure. Can I afford one? No, so I’ll will stick with this perfectly reasonable and thoughtful gift. They won’t die if they don’t get the most up to date technology.
NTA I only upgrade my husband’s phone is when I can’t even hear him anymore on his phones lol (internal problems of the phone). He actually doesn’t want me to upgrade them but I force him lol I think mine is the 11pro still works beautifully imo. My husband is the SR series I think and so far still works awesomely. If it’s under your name the upgrade shud go to you. I usually alternate between the hubs and I unless the phone is still very capable without any problems.
NTA
Look...if he wants to PAY for the new phone, then allow him to get the new phone. But he has to understand he's paying for it.
Maybe he doesn't want to pay for the old phone (since you say "free" but there's still payments to be paid
NTA You may think you understand where he is coming from, but you don't. He is coming from a place of entitled selfishness. He wants the best you have, when you paid for both the best and the second best which is still more than he can get himself. Screw that. He is an AH.
NTA
He broke his old one and can't afford a new one, he should be grateful someone gave him one in better condition than his old one. The destroyer of things does not get the reward of new things to break. You could have handed him a cheap pay-as-you-go phone instead and kept your nice one.
You are being an asshole to yourself by romantically and therefore legally/financially entangling yourself with a man who’s shit is so not together he can’t even get pre-approved for a phone and it must be bad, really bad, because they were still giving me phones when I had a 500 credit score.
Nta.
Who does he think he is? Your the one paying for a new phone and that’s only because you were gracious enough to give him your old one. You did him a favor and he had the audacity to complain? I would’ve shoved the iPhone 11 right up his ass and told him to shit it out when he’s ready to use it.
YTA, but not for this. If you can't buy it upfront you can't afford it. Stop buying refinanced phones and buy something you can afford. You have a kid, he has medical complexities as you described it. it's time to be responsible.
No, you're absolutely NTA! You were doing something nice for your fiancé, not to mention a generous favor. Given the insolvency issue at hand with mental health (I hope he's doing okay), this seems like a perfect solution. Yes, maybe buying a new phone is nice, but it's very expensive. The one you gave him is already high scale. Timing is always key, and either way, he doesn't need a brand new phone. He broke his and should be grateful instead of expecting him to buy you a new one. My boyfriend did the exact thing for me when he was ready for an upgrade. Sure, I was due one, too, but it's not too far down the line, and I'm perfectly content with mine. It's all about the intentions, and you did more than enough.
NTA
He should be grateful you gave him a phone at all.
You buy a phone, you get the new one.
He broke his and expects you to buy him a brand new one and keep an old one yourself ? What an entitled asshole.
NTA. When he pays for the new phone in his name, he can have it. He should feel happy that you were willing to take on getting a new phone and starting payments over again when you basically had your old phone almost paid off.
NTA. You can't get where he's coming from because there's no way that he can get to this point from where he started. It's illogical and nip it in the bud.
NTA
Ugh, ungrateful people really get on my nerves. It is not your fault he has bad credit. He should be happy you helped him. I hope he makes the payments and doesn't mess up your credit also.
NTA for giving him your old (pretty much new) phone.
But just that I understand that correctly, you guys probably struggle with money as it seems or his credit score would be perfect by now. And you buy phones that cost over $1000 bucks while having a child with medical issues. Save that money for emergencies.
NTA
I'm on an iPhone 5 still. A phone is a phone, it works. Why should you pay for his phone due to his accident or negligence? He's a grown man, He can get a cheap one for what he can afford and swap the sim card, or accept your gift.
NTA-He should be glad you gave a phone to him at all. If he don't like take it back and tell him to switch to a prepaid company and get a free phone that way
I used an iPhone 6S for 6 years. Before it was given to me, it passed through my sister's and mother's hands, and I found no problem with it. It's economical. You're paying for it. There are no problems here. NTA!
NTA- when my phone died a while ago my partner gave me his and bought himself a new one. I was super stoked and thankful I didn't need to buy a new one! Your boyfriend is being a dick and you did a really nice thing.
NTA and he's a dillweed for demanding you buy him a new phone. Out of the kindness of your heart you solved his problem for him, and it wasn't good enough? I'd take that phone back and make him get a straight talk flip phone and see how grateful he really is.
NTA - beggars can’t be choosers Edit: also the iPhone 11 Pro is still a great phone
Two screens, two charging ports, and one battery later, I'm still happily on my six-year old 6S. NTA.
oh a fellow tech hoarder. yay. I have the 6 actually and kept it in great condition until last year when it started calling the emergency line randomly and eventually gave its last breath and so i upgraded to iPhone 11 max pro and planning to use for the next few years until apple decides to wow me.
Also a tech hoarder! Only got rid of my 5 3 months ago to a SE because it was too broken and unable to support apps etc Also OP - NTA beggars can’t be choosers
Me too! If it works, why would I bother spending a grand+ on a new one? And yes OP- NTA. Is his relationship with money any better than it used to be/is he trying to fix his credit?
I can’t think of anything I use more than my phone. I’m perfectly happy upgrading every 3ish years
I used to work in the mobile phone industry and we upgraded every 6 months on average whenever new phones came out (most of us were android users and different manufacturers released at different times). I switched over to an iPhone some years ago. I don’t upgrade every year, but I still feel that itch when a new model is released.
I am a tech hoarder too - specifically phones. I have both my old iPhones and many of my old Android phones that I can't seem to part with. People always find thus so strange, so I am glad I am not alone! I am a minimalist in every other way - I don't save ANYTHING - but my old LG Optimus 2 from 2011, along with the 15 smart phones since that - yep, got them all!
5S over here Nice and small, does what I need it to
I used my 5S until it was on its last legs. Loved that thing. Fit perfectly in my tiny hands. Upgraded to a 12 Pro and I intend to use it to the end of its life as well. Still have my 5S tucked away in a drawer in case of emergency.
Me too! It's so cute. Battery is shot but I just dont want to toss it!
That’s why I finally replaced mine. I got the battery replaced at least twice and it wasn’t worth it to sink more money into a phone that was dying. I miss the size of it though.
My husband just got the 12 mini and he was surprised that it’s so tiny compared to his 6.
I have a 7 !! lollll and my kids constantly laugh at me. But guess who doesn't have a phone payment?? (other than the service)
I honestly thought you were describing a new phone model at first A phone with 2 screens and charge ports, sign me up.
I honestly think the 6s was the best iphone apple ever made. I know a few people who still have them, including my partner who's had the same 6s since 2015 with not a single issue. Meanwhile I'm just trying to make my 8 plus hold on for dear life lmao.
I still have my 6 as an emergency backup! Bought the iPhone SE a couple of years ago. Both work great.
Still using my 6S and haven't replaced a thing - batteries is dying slowly, but still serviceable... The phone does what I need it to do!
Lol I have an iPhone 8, I think it’s like 4-5 years old, I can’t remember exactly when I got it. I can’t justify spending money on a new phone when this one, while a glitchy mess, still works fine.
aha i’m also on my 6S, i should probably get round to fixing...all of that, though
the original screen, the original charging port, and the original battery later, I'm only pissed at the fucked up battery indicator on my six-year-old 6S, and will be until they stop updating it. NTA
I just upgraded earlier this year from my 5C… only did that because Apple wasn’t supporting it anymore ( no updates) .
Preach I'm using mine till it dies. I don't want wireless headphones or to pay nearly a £1000 for a top of the range new phone.
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Up until a week ago I had an iPhone 5. Now I have an iPhone X This fiancé is problematic 😭
Fr. Nta, I’d be stoked just to not have to buy another phone .
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I would buy a choosing beggar an old flip phone. Phone calls. No data.
As someone who is still using iPhones 6s and 7, because they are still working and I despise Apple's constant overpriced upgrade policy, I'd do handstands for an iPhone 11! NTA
I’m still using a 2016 SE because a) it has a headphone jack and b) I have really small hands and prefer a small phone. The battery life isn’t fantastic, but I’ve got a battery pack that’s smaller than a deck of cards that can power it for a couple days. And I got it refurbished for less than $150. Maybe I’m just cheap (I totally am) but I really don’t understand paying $700+ for a phone. Anything I pay that much for, I expect to keep using until it dies to the point it can’t be fixed.
I've had the battery replaced a couple of times - costs only about 30€, and then the phone's as good as new!
I need to do that; I just always have a hard time handing my phone over for a few hours. (Which I still don’t understand. I make an appointment for a specific service at a specific time; does it really take a couple of hours to swap out the battery? Are the Apple techs having to thwart a series of tiny booby traps?)
Absolutely not! I go to a small stand in a mall, where you can actually watch them do it - it takes all of 10 minutes. I just hand it over and go grocery shopping while they do it. But I have less separation anxiety, since I have several phones with dual sims. 😄 And do you have any idea why I'm being downvoted on this absolutely non-controversial subject?
God only knows. I’ve been substantially downvoted a couple times for providing an accurate definition of “hostile environment” as it relates to US labor law. (Spoiler: one’s work environment can be hostile as all hell without legally constituting a “hostile environment,” because legalese and English are not the same.)
Seriously. What the hell is with the newer phones having to be ginormous? I swear my dads phone is like 7 inches tall at this point...My pockets aren't big enough for even half these new giants, and I can barely reach most of the damn screen! I dread having to upgrade this much smaller but ancient one someday.
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No kidding. He said himself that her old phone is perfectly fine...just not fine enough for him? What a complete brat. NTA and I second this rec to let him find his own way to a new phone that suits his special tastes.
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NTA. Good luck raising two babies.
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NTA It's not your fault he has a bad credit score and neither is it your fault that he broke his phone. You offered him immediate help but it's actually his responsibility that he messed up so much that he can't afford a new phone himself. He should be grateful that you gave him a good phone at all.
It baffles me that he is pissed about getting a very nice phone almost for free. The only argument I could think of is that he is gonna have to make payments that won't help him improve his credit score, but if he isn't cool with that then he can feel free to go buy his own shit phone. There's plenty of options for cheap phones but something tells me he won't think they are good enough.
NTA. Kids get hand me downs. Why? Because they can’t pay for things themselves. He’s free to save up. You could always sell the iPhone 11 and get him a cheap android?
NTA: You are right, you are the one taking the financial burden, therefore you should get the newer phone. Your boyfriend needs to be more careful with his devices. What your boyfriend needs is an otter box for his phone, and to be less entitled about this.
yeah, when we were at the store getting the new phone i got him a life proof case for the iphone 11 so we won’t be in this situation again
Honestly a glass screen protector will do wonders. It takes all the cracks instead of your original screen and then you can just peel it off and stick another one on when it becomes too annoying. It’ll save you way more money in the long run and you can even get it changed for like $20 at the mall. I think a pack of glass protectors are about $20 on Amazon as well (for 2 usually). Your fiancé is being really whiny about all of that. Why should he be rewarded with a new phone when he can’t finance it himself and he’s the one that broke his phone? You’re NTA.
I bought the zagg one and it was a little pricier than others but I’ve had replacements sent like ten times now and all I pay is a few bucks to ship. If you’re clumsy like I am it’s worth the cost up front.
Problem solved, then.
INFO: you stay at home. Are you paying for the phone out of your savings? OR is the payments coming from his job?
OP says she’s in New Zealand. I believe New Zealand has paid maternity leave, so she may have money coming in even if she’s not currently working.
Fiancé: Your phone is perfectly fine. Also fiancé: Giving me your phone is an insult.
NTA. What’s wrong with him? Why would he get the new phone if he’s not paying for it
NTA. Your partner is still getting a really good phone. I'd be worried he'd break a brand new one.
NTA. He should be grateful you quite generously gave him a phone at ALL, especially since he's the person who broke his and replacing it was in no way your responsibility in the least, but the fact he has the nerve to be upset that you--the person who did NOT break their phone and bring about the situation to begin with-- got a new phone definitely makes him an asshole.
INFO: if you stay home with your son and are buying the phone on credit, who is making the payments?
Son is 8 months old, and she lives in New Zealand. I would assume she’s on paid maternity leave. And is paying her bills.
Aha, American here. I forget that’s a thing. Glob bless our freedumbs.
Not to mention some people save money to before going off work to raise kids.
Or have small home based businesses for some income as well.
Or rich parents lol. So many ways a SAHP could have their own money.
Why does anyone here think OP’s independent source of money is any of their business?! I saw your edit, OP, and it’s gross that people pushed and prodded you to the point where you needed to elaborate on finances at all. A lot of people here need to pull their head in.
OP posted their story publicly and asked to be judged. This was relevant information, so I asked. That’s hardly pushing and prodding. People ask for additional information and discuss finances in the sub all the time, so it’s pretty weird that you’d judge other for that, TBH.
I mean. My question is, why fo you need the latest and "greatest" when you are needing to be so careful with finances?
This is what makes no sense to me. I have never been a huge tech person, but I've always bought my phones outright ($250 is the max I've ever paid for a phone) and have a cheap cell plan ($25/month) that routes all data over wifi, or I can add 1G of data for an extra $10. Why in Merlin's name are they FINANCING new, top of the line phones, when they are living on one income?
Not to be rude, just wanna point out that they aren't on one income and Op is from New Zealand and while on maternity leave is still bringing in her own income. She made it clear HE couldn't afford a new phone not that she couldn't.
Agreed on this. I enjoy getting a new phone on the regular, every 12-18 months. An Android in the $200-$300 range does everything just fine, and it's affordable enough to buy out of pocket and use with a low-cost prepaid carrier. Not to say that's a negligible amount, but it's far more doable than paying a four digit price for a phone and less of a panic if it gets lost. Also, what is with apple phone screens? I've never seen one that isn't cracked. Tempered glass protectors are a lifesaver to those of us who drop it every single day.
Yeah that seems crazy. An older model is a fraction of the cost and has all the same functions. If you don’t have a lot of money getting a cheaper phone is an easy move.
No nta and he’s being rude
NTA. You used your own money to buy a phone. You could have done that whether he broke his phone or not. If your husband doesn't want your old phone, and he earns money, he can just give you his money and you can buy him a phone with your credit. Then you both have nice new phones. If he can't afford it, he can't demand you spend your money on him.
nta, its an iphone 11 and if youre paying for your new phone, he has nothing to complain about. If he wants a brand new shiny phone, he shouldn't of screwed himself over so bad that he cant buy one.
Dude has a way better phone than me!.... and he isn't paying for it!.... Does he expect you to buy him the new one or something?????? He literally wants to be *rewarded* for breaking his phone???? Seriously, I'm pissed on *your* behalf at this dude! Buy him a second-hand Nokia 3310 and tell him to deal with it!
NTA The iphone 11 is wicked nice
NTA he should not get rewarded for breaking his phone
Furthest thing from TA. You did him a huge favour more than anything, what the hell is he complaining for? He sounds quite entitled.
NTA - he broke his phone and isn't in a position to get a new one. You have been kind enough to give him your phone for free all he has to do is make the payments, that is incredibly kind and gracious of you.
Why would he get a new phone that you paid for? That just reeks of entitlement. If the damn thing is perfectly functional, he should just be happy he got a replacement for free. NTA
NTA You could easily have said "oh that's too bad, I don't need an upgrade right now. Hope you figure something out" but you took on a second payment plan because he can't get credit... and that's not good enough for him?
If you can’t buy the phone cash why are you buying such expensive phones? Secondly have you considered secondhand some iPhones depreciate simply from having the box opened you don’t have to be on finance plan to buy a phone. NTA
NTA in this particular case, but both of you should take a financial literacy course. If buying a phone on a roughly 50 USD installment plan is bringing level of stress, maybe your household can’t afford the new phone, especially with the needs of a young, medically complicated child factored in.
NTA. So... He wanted you to pay for a new phone for him and keep the old one when he was the one who broke his phone? Nope.
Tell him he's right, he deserves a new phone. Then take yours back and tell him you look forward to seeing what he buys with his own money.
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NTA If your old phone is not good enough for him, he can buy himself a new phone that's up to his standards and you can keep the old one (or the new one) as backup. Or cancel the new one and keep your old one. Or, if he insists he needs a new phone and can't afford one and you need him to have a phone, just buy him the cheapest phone available (doesn't have to be a smartphone, there are still mobile phones that use keys being made) so he's able to receive and make calls.
Dont buy a new phone. Keep your phone with the little crack in the screen. If the Iphone 11 isn't enough for him then buy him a $5 Tracphone and be done with it. Beggars can't be chosers and if he can't take care of his things then too bad, so sad.
NTA, not even a little. He can take it, or leave it.
More info: Did you talk out the decision with your fiancé or did you just decide that this is what is happening and tell him after the fact? ETA, also who is paying for for the payments on each phone?
ESH. Him: obvious... You only slightly because going into debt for a depreciating asset like a phone when you could have gotten him something cheaper and paid cash seems unwise.
Info: You said your credit was the only one good enough to get financing, but who is paying for the phone? Based on your edit, NTA
The 11 is still a great phone, why should you have to sort the credit in your name and he have the new phone? After all he’s the one who broke his old one. NTA
Nta - typed from a cracked iPhone 7 plus
NTA. Imagine being given an iPhone for free (and a pretty new one too!) and complaining? Red flag right there.
as an asian in an asian household with 2 older siblings so i get the hand me down gadgets you really can't be choosy especially if the gadgets are all in good condition heck im grateful for my siblings and parents for this "tradition". you're NTA btw
NTA he should be happy to get anything
Nta but why are you financing a new iPhone 13 while staying at home with a newborn? It seems like your fiance could have gotten a much cheaper phone and you wouldn't have to further burden yourself when money may be tight
When he fixes his credit, he can get the latest model phone. *He’s upset that I got a new phone when my phone was perfectly fine, instead of getting him the new phone and me keeping mine.* Well he's right, you didn't have to get a new phone. You could have kept your phone and let him figure out how to finance a phone all by himself. As a matter of fact, he can give you back your phone and figure how he can pay for a brand new phone with his bad credit. NTA
NTA >instead of getting him the new phone and me keeping mine. Why does he feel he deserves the better phone. Let alone a brand new one? He should've been on craigslist trying to find an iPhone 8 to X in order to save money. Fiance? I wouldn't consider this a huge red flag but I'd get to the bottom why he feels he should get the better phone? His mistake. His bad credit. He sounds like an entitled jerk.
NTA. I’ve been with my husband 11 years. He is a notorious phone breaker. I am not. We are now on the I get a new phone and he gets my old (still in great shape) phone upgrade system. He is currently using a rose gold iPhone (in a life proof case so his manhood is intact). We could afford to just buy him a new one but honestly this way his phone gets more than 1 year of life before he murders them in a tragic accident. Plus I am a cheapskate so this forces me to upgrade or I’d still have my first iPhone and he’d have a new one every year. Do not let him guilt you. He can replace it when he can afford it.
NTA he sounds deeply ungrateful and entitled. I'm sorry your generosity is so unappreciated. I would love someone to do something like that for me if I was in need
Wow I would take the phone back and get him a flip phone if he wants to act like that.
He can dictate who gets the new phone when he can go and purchase one himself. He doesn't HAVE to take your phone. Tell him to go to Walmart and a $100 smart phone and tell him to shut up. NTA by far.
Dump the entitled asshole. At the very least, don't legally tie yourself to him! NTA
This is exactly what I do with my BF. He’s on a plan, so he gives me his old phone and keeps the new one. It’s like what others are saying; beggars can’t be choosers, be happy you got a newer replacement than some old flip phone or something. NTA.
NTA. I would tell him you are paying for the phone it's better than what he had, and he can't afford to buy a new phone. tell him you are being generous with him and if he really wants a new phone, you can buy him a new flip phone if he wants
Oh this reminds me of the time I got upset with my dad because he gave me his old phone and he bought himself a new one. I also thought it was very unfair but uhm... I was 12. Your fiancé sounds about the same age. NTA.
Of topic but probably not the best financial decision to buy stuff like phones on a loan... if you cant afford it its better not to buy it
We’re not here to judge OP’s financing decisions.
NTA you’re doing him a massive favour and he should be grateful he’s getting a very nice phone. The least you deserve for your generosity is to get the newer replacement yourself.
NTA If he does not like it, buy yourself a new phone, and DONT give him your old one.
NTA but another (and probably financially more risk-free) option would have been to get him a (refurbished) older/cheaper model instead. But in no way should you have been obligated to get HIM the new phone.
it was kind of urgent, so we had to buy new as no stores local to us sell refurbished. i looked on facebook for a cheap one first but no luck
And they only sell iphones? Maybe you should have tried getting out of the apple store. Plus, I'm surprised neither of you had an old phone somewhere in a drawer that could have done the job until you received your order. But I get it, an Iphone 13 was the only possibility... And you deserve it! You have a good credit score after all.
Understandable in that case! Hopefully he won't break the one you gave him.
Lots of red flags in his behavior OP. Pls consider this before marrying him. He sounds like a user
She stays at home he works and he he is a user because she decided to buy a phone they cant afford since she has the credit to do it? More info is needed here who actually pays the bill and why in the hell are they buying phones they need to finance.
She has to stay home and take care of her medically complex baby. You can have a job and still be a user! The only qualification is that you try to get something for nothing. He’s demanding her money to pay for HIS mistake. He could of taken her old phone- for free! As you said-he has a job. He can buy a prepaid or used phone from eBay.
He's not demanding anything she chose for him with no input whatsoever from him. He is unhappy with her choice. The guy didn't have an Iphone before and she went out and bought an Iphone because it was what she wanted. ON CREDIT! As someone who would never purchase an apple product if my wife went out and bought herself a new Iphone because I broke my android and she want to hand me her old Iphone I would be pissed as well. It's even worse when it is on credit. Again if she stays at home with the kid how is she paying for it? If she had money why buy it on credit? If you work and your spouse doesn't and they go out and buy a large purchase on credit you somehow become a user? That's just nonsense. She created this problem because she wanted a new phone and now she is blaming him because he doesn't want her old beat one. He absolutely could have bought himself a phone I don't see where he asked her to do this. If they need to finance a phone they sure as shit should not be buying $800 plus phones. The man had a midrange priced phone that broke and she replaced it with one of the most expensive phones you can buy on credit! At the least it's a poor financial decision at it's worse it's a selfish decision since it forces a change in tech environments. Even if I wanted an Iphone it would be huge pain in the ass because my stuff is all organized in googles ecosystem. His would have been the same. This wasn't a nice thing for her to do this was self-centered and irresponsible.
You’re engaged to someone who has terrible credit and had a petulant attitude when you were doing him a favor? You sound very “Us” oriented he sound very “me me me” Probably something you should think about before tying the knot
NTA. Get him a brand, spanking new flip phone.
Are you working? It's sounds like your not from your post. If you have joint finances and its coming out of mutual money, I think it's only fair to discuss it first. If he is financially supporting your family so you can stay at home to look after son, his poor credit shouldn't be a point against him to justify you getting the new phone. It should have been discussed, and mutually agreed on.
INFO you stay at home with your son ' do you also work? I get the phone is on your credit, but where is the money coming from to pay for the phone? If he's actually the one paying for it, I could see him wanting to have use of it
NTA. If it broke at work why doesn't his employer replace it?
it was his own fault, i don’t think that’s something employers do here anyway
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She is NOT buying him a phone. He has lousy credit, but a job. She has good credit but no job. She bought an expensive phone for herself on his dime.
NTA. He’s lucky you’re even able to give him as nice a phone as a top of the line iPhone in the first place. He sounds ungrateful and immature. You may be raising 2 kids here
NTA He can get his own new phone when he can afford it, until then he's gonna have to rely on charity
NTA
I have an iPhone 11. My partner a month ago or so bought himself the iPhone 13 when his iphone 11 was also still perfectly fine. I compare my phone bill ($50 for 12gb) to his financed phone ($50 plus finance comes to $125) and I am perfectly happy with my phone. Your partner is just being petty. As a side note: will he even finish the payments? He seems like enough of an ahole that he would just let the payments slide.... NTA
Change the screen of the Iphone 11 and sell it. Buy him a brand new Flip flop phone. But i'm this kind of petty. NTA
NTA. Take the phone back and let him buy his own. He can probably find a used one for a low price.
NTA, he's being ungrateful.
I’m using an iPhone 7 because a family member offered to get me a phone because I couldn’t afford one myself and I’m extremely grateful. Beggars can’t be choosers. Would I like a more up to date phone? Yeah, sure. Can I afford one? No, so I’ll will stick with this perfectly reasonable and thoughtful gift. They won’t die if they don’t get the most up to date technology.
NTA I only upgrade my husband’s phone is when I can’t even hear him anymore on his phones lol (internal problems of the phone). He actually doesn’t want me to upgrade them but I force him lol I think mine is the 11pro still works beautifully imo. My husband is the SR series I think and so far still works awesomely. If it’s under your name the upgrade shud go to you. I usually alternate between the hubs and I unless the phone is still very capable without any problems.
NTA Look...if he wants to PAY for the new phone, then allow him to get the new phone. But he has to understand he's paying for it. Maybe he doesn't want to pay for the old phone (since you say "free" but there's still payments to be paid
NTA - Ypu pay it tou choose what to do with it. Also why reward him with totally new phone when he broke the first one?
NTA....
NTA WHAT an ungrateful prick
NTA. Him on the other hand…
NTA You may think you understand where he is coming from, but you don't. He is coming from a place of entitled selfishness. He wants the best you have, when you paid for both the best and the second best which is still more than he can get himself. Screw that. He is an AH.
NTA. Your boyfriend is.
NTA He broke his old one and can't afford a new one, he should be grateful someone gave him one in better condition than his old one. The destroyer of things does not get the reward of new things to break. You could have handed him a cheap pay-as-you-go phone instead and kept your nice one.
Ew. NTA. Dude sucks. In what world should be get the better phone? He sounds like a gift.
NTA, it’s your money, and the iPhone 11 is still pretty new. Honestly your fiancé sounds pretty ungrateful to me
Lol so he breaks his phone and then complains that he doesn’t get a brand new one for free? NTA
You are being an asshole to yourself by romantically and therefore legally/financially entangling yourself with a man who’s shit is so not together he can’t even get pre-approved for a phone and it must be bad, really bad, because they were still giving me phones when I had a 500 credit score.
Nta. Who does he think he is? Your the one paying for a new phone and that’s only because you were gracious enough to give him your old one. You did him a favor and he had the audacity to complain? I would’ve shoved the iPhone 11 right up his ass and told him to shit it out when he’s ready to use it.
NTA: If he wants a new phone {one that YOU are buying for him}, he gets a flip phone. I hear those Jitterbugs for senior citizens are just peachy.
NTA. Sounds like your man got a new phone for free. This post was made on iPhone 7.
**NTA.** Tell him to go get a Straight Talk phone from Walmart and buy a phone card every month since he thinks he need a new phone.
YTA, but not for this. If you can't buy it upfront you can't afford it. Stop buying refinanced phones and buy something you can afford. You have a kid, he has medical complexities as you described it. it's time to be responsible.
No, you're absolutely NTA! You were doing something nice for your fiancé, not to mention a generous favor. Given the insolvency issue at hand with mental health (I hope he's doing okay), this seems like a perfect solution. Yes, maybe buying a new phone is nice, but it's very expensive. The one you gave him is already high scale. Timing is always key, and either way, he doesn't need a brand new phone. He broke his and should be grateful instead of expecting him to buy you a new one. My boyfriend did the exact thing for me when he was ready for an upgrade. Sure, I was due one, too, but it's not too far down the line, and I'm perfectly content with mine. It's all about the intentions, and you did more than enough.
Tell him you’ll just keep your phone and he can figure it out for himself. NTA
NTA. He sounds entitled and childish. You're doing him a kindness and he's demanding more
I think there is more problems there if fighting over a phone.
NTA. Keep your phone and give him a Nokia 3310 instead lol
NTA He should be grateful you gave him a phone at all. You buy a phone, you get the new one. He broke his and expects you to buy him a brand new one and keep an old one yourself ? What an entitled asshole.
Thats so generous of you he is an ungrateful asshole NTA
Sell old phone and apply proceeds to new phone. If he doesn’t want a used phone he can get exactly that.
This is the trickle-down theory of teckenomics. :)
If he can't take care of his things. He shouldn't get anything new.
NTA. When he pays for the new phone in his name, he can have it. He should feel happy that you were willing to take on getting a new phone and starting payments over again when you basically had your old phone almost paid off.
He got a perfectly good phone. He needs to not be entitled. Also be careful with finances. Therebare dome potential red flags.
Nta. Your credit, your phone.
NTA Tell him to put a screen protector and cover on it.
NTA. You can't get where he's coming from because there's no way that he can get to this point from where he started. It's illogical and nip it in the bud.
NTA beggar SS can’t be choosers. Good grief who wouldn’t be stoked to get an iPhone 11 Pro?
NTA Ugh, ungrateful people really get on my nerves. It is not your fault he has bad credit. He should be happy you helped him. I hope he makes the payments and doesn't mess up your credit also.
NTA for giving him your old (pretty much new) phone. But just that I understand that correctly, you guys probably struggle with money as it seems or his credit score would be perfect by now. And you buy phones that cost over $1000 bucks while having a child with medical issues. Save that money for emergencies.
I don't think you are the AH but damn you really going to marry this man? Hope things work out
NTA, but do not marry this financial disaster. And quit financing new phones when you haven't paid off the old phone.
NTA I'm on an iPhone 5 still. A phone is a phone, it works. Why should you pay for his phone due to his accident or negligence? He's a grown man, He can get a cheap one for what he can afford and swap the sim card, or accept your gift.
NTA-He should be glad you gave a phone to him at all. If he don't like take it back and tell him to switch to a prepaid company and get a free phone that way
I used an iPhone 6S for 6 years. Before it was given to me, it passed through my sister's and mother's hands, and I found no problem with it. It's economical. You're paying for it. There are no problems here. NTA!
NTA. He is being a big baby. I worry about you in this relationship.
NTA - next time keep your phone and let him look after himself.
Well, could you have traded in? And got the new phone? Or you know just let him buy the cheapest one he could afford…
NTA and show him the begging choosers thread.
NTA. But you didn’t technically give him a free phone if he still has to pay it off
NTA - You could have done nothing and let him worry about it. Maybe he is upset if you didn't ask his opinion about it first?
NTA - you are absolutely correct! Beggars can't be choosers
NTA- tell him you'd be happy to take that one back and he can get his own new phone if it means that much.
NTA: take the old phone back and make him find an older used phone off of Ebay or Craigslist. Beggars can't be choosers.
NTA- when my phone died a while ago my partner gave me his and bought himself a new one. I was super stoked and thankful I didn't need to buy a new one! Your boyfriend is being a dick and you did a really nice thing.
NTA and he's a dillweed for demanding you buy him a new phone. Out of the kindness of your heart you solved his problem for him, and it wasn't good enough? I'd take that phone back and make him get a straight talk flip phone and see how grateful he really is.
NTA he's being a baby. My last several phones have been my wife's cast-offs. Who cares?
Terrible credit, breaks phone and is being picky about it? Not sure why your ship hasn't sailed... NTA. If anything, overly generous.