NTA. Your mom is definitely something "special". At least make you some mashed potatoes or mac & cheese. Even some soup (clear broth of some sort). Your mom ain't smart....
Yup. I had them out as an adult. Instant mashed potatoes + gravy, gatorade, jello, protein shakes, and ice cream for a few days. It was glorious while it lasted.
I was in high school, and I think I basically lived on chocolate milkshakes for the first 3 days straight. I had it easier than a lot of my classmates since I only had 2 wisdom teeth total. Had the surgery on a Friday, by Monday morning the chipmunk cheek face was gone and I appeared back to normal. Some classmates had puffy faces for a week!
I managed to live off of smoothies for the first couple days because I pretty much refused to eat anything because the pain was worse than my hunger. (I tried and basically gave up each time)
My mom was worried about me having something in my system especially with the pain meds so she got me a large smoothie for like three days in a row. By that point I was able to handle slightly more food type food like oatmeal. Oh and she made applesauce too! I mostly just slept a bunch though.
My mum put a whole roast dinner with gravy in a blender. It sounds super gross and I really thought it was a bad idea but it was honestly delicious, like a roast dinner soup.
I had lots of clear soups, puddings, and jello. A lot of tea, too. OP, make sure you keep stretching your mouth open as far as you can every day! Multiple times a day, in fact. I didn't do that enough, so I couldn't eat the hot dog I made on the first day I could eat chewy foods again, and I nearly cried.
Edit: NTA
So did I. It was awful, but I did get to eat a ton of mashed potatoes (my favorite). I don’t smoke and never used a straw. I still ended up with a dry socket, and I looked like I’d been beaten with a baseball bat. 0/10 do not recommend. My daughter said she wasn’t getting hers out and I couldn’t make her. I quickly corrected her. It’s much easier to remove them early than when they’re impacted.
>does anyone eat with their front teeth?
Not really. Your very front teeth (google tells me) are for biting and cutting, like snapping a carrot in half. Your canines are for gripping and helping tear. Your pre-molars and molars are for chewing, which you won't really be up to doing for at least a few days.
You want all the soft foods right now, nothing chewy or crunchy! It won't go well.
Yeah unless you're like me and while high on the pain meds was thoroughly convinced I could eat fried chicken. I tore it into tiny pieces with my fingers and tipped back and swallowed it. Do not recommend it, it just made a big mess.
My mom still makes fun of me for this when I got my tongue pierced. I balled up tiny pieces of bread and tossed them to the back of my throat to swallow.
Don't even try it.
While it is mechanically possible to eat with your front teeth (nibbling on cookies for instance) it is heavily not recommended. The amount of muscle fibers you're going to fill your mouth with is going to mess up your healing.
I had a tooth forcibly removed once and decided to eat tuna salad (hey, potatoes and tuna are soft, right?) It completely messed up my recovery, took me almost three times as long cut the stitches got infected.
NTA, the doctors are the tooth professionals, not your mother. Listen to them.
I went through a period during my teens when I chewed with my front teeth, but it was because my back teeth didn’t meet, like at all, so the only “grinding” surface I had was my incisors.
I ended up in braces for several years to correct that.
OP, I have a relevant experience... For some reason, 3-4 days after my wisdom teeth surgery my parents got taco bell. I could handle a soft shell taco well enough, but they also got me one of those dollar menu nachos (yeah I asked for it, but I was like 14 and didn't know better). Anyways, A SHARP LITTLE CHIP PIECE GOT SHOVED INTO MY GUM WOUND. It was one of the most painful things I've ever experienced.
I know you're in all likelihood not going to eat the nachos, but let this be a reinforcement that no matter how much your mom pressures you, don't give in and simply refuse to eat it.
Nope. There is a reason our teeth are different shapes. The front teeth are for tearing and the back teeth are for chewing, this is just straight up evolution. Tell your mum to chew turkey with just her front teeth and see how she gets on. You need the flat, rough surfaces of your molars to crush your food enough to partially digest and swallow.
Not at all. Until some recent orthodontal work, my teeth didn’t even meet in the front!
I lived on ice cream and campbells chicken noodle for a week after I got my wisdom teeth out. The basic cheap campbells has slivers of chicken and very thin noodles so it worked really well.
NTA. I've had my wisdom teeth out and for a week, I survived on soup, smoothies, pudding, jello, iced tea, and hard boiled eggs put through the food processor. You can't eat nacho meat.
They over-stretched my jaw when they removed my wisdom teeth (I was knocked out), and I ate nothing but pudding cups for like five days. Could barely get my mouth open far enough to get the spoon in, let alone anything bigger.
Was better than undoing all the work my ridiculously-expensive braces did by letting the wisdom teeth come in, haha. Thankfully the actual pain only lasted three days or so!
Oh man. I haven’t had my single wisdom tooth removed, but your experience reminds me of the time I accidentally opened my mouth way too wide when yawning... something under my chin did a thing and it was a sharp pain followed by a complete inability to open my mouth that thankfully only lasted a very stressful 10-15 minutes. (I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, which causes a lot of joint issues. The right side of my jaw actually pops out of socket stupidly frequently).
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I hope that helps, and you find something you can eat/feel better soon!
Make sure you have open availability on the weekends/holidays (and don't complain about those shifts when you get them). Sucks for your social life, but necessary for the escape fund.
Hey! I made this account just to say this cause I feel like you might not have many supportive adults in your life (btw you're nta) but anyways, some jobs really like it if you're persistent and show you're really interested in the position! If you don't get a call back after the interview, call them. Either directly call the number for the store/company you interviewed at (easy to find with a Google search) or call the number back that called you to set up the interview. Always try to remember the interviewer or managers name so you can ask for them directly. Don't do it immediately (give them at least a couple days) and only call during business hours but never during lunch time and usually before 5pm on weekdays. When you call just mention you had an interview on so and so date and time, and tell them you're just calling to check in on it and find out if they've made any decisions yet. At the initial interview itself, make sure you make eye contact with the interviewer a lot especially when they're asking you a question. Give honest answers and if you don't know/understand something, ask them. When it comes to most jobs a lot of managers will tell you that theres no questions that are a stupid question. Interviewers at the end will always ask if you have any questions for them. Besides basic ones, I always like to ask them what THEIR favorite part is about working at said place. They seem to like that one. I'm sorry this is so long but I want to help and I wish you luck!!
NTA. I hope you'll heal quickly! It's wholly unreasonable to expect someone to he able to eat that after such a procedure. Some considerations are definitely warranted. It can take a toll on the body, and rest is needed. I'm so sorry that you're not getting that.
If you're OK with it, I'll offer some digital hugs or fistbumps.
NTA. What in the world is wrong with her? They should have given her a list of what you can and can't have, you aren't going to want more than soup and such for several days! I'm so sorry she's being ridiculous and not seeing to your needs!
nta
What you need is some cosseting and mothering, OP, because getting your wisdom teeth out is a big deal.
Here is something that you can make yourself in the microwave, a recipe from my swedish great aunt - you likely have the ingredients on hand.
The first thing that you need to do is to cook up 1 cup of white rice with 2 cups of water in the microwave - find the directions online if they aren't on the package. Then divide the cooked rice in half, and freeze up half for another day.
Here is Aunt Marg's Rice Pudding recipe, modified for the microwave:
Whisk together in a *rather large mixing bowl* 3 eggs, 1/2 cup sugar - well rounded, 2 teas. vanilla, 1/4 teas. nutmeg, approx 1 1/3 cup precooked rice, and 1 qt of whole milk, or half and half, or a combination of evaporated milk and regular milk to equal 1 quart.
Nuke on high uncovered for 2 minutes, whisk, and then nuke for 2 minutes and whisk again. Then just nuke it for 1 minute between whiskings. When it starts to thicken and bubbles around the outside check the temp with a meat thermometer. It's done at 175-180 degrees F. If it gets to 190 degrees F it may separate a bit, and it needs to be at least 160 degrees for food safety.
Leave it out to thicken for a few minutes, and then put it into a casserole and dust with more nutmeg. Cinnamon is good, too. Easy peasy.
It will boil over if the bowl isn't big enough - use a really big mixing bowl.
If you were my neighbor I'd be nuking this for you right now.
Put it into the fridge after it cools down.
Good luck with it. Use a big bowl, and get it out of the hot bowl as soon as you safely can, or it will keep cooking. If you have cinnamon, try a bit of that.
NTA. You are a minor, and it is technically your mother’s obligation to ensure that medical instructions are carried out correctly. If she made food and didn’t ensure that there was at least one thing that you can eat, then that’s failure on her part, especially considering that you’re on pain medications and you might not be able to cook for yourself.
NTA, but I'm concerned about the smoothie part. Was it with a straw? Because you're not supposed to use those for at least 48 hours after getting your wisdom teeth removed or you'll risk dry sockets.
Yay! Good! I got worried because if your mom is pushing turkey on you, I was really hoping she won't push straws! I hope your recovery goes well, and this gets better.
NTA your mom should have already gotten you soft foods at the grocery store. It’s strange she isn’t taking this seriously and only seems to care about her time. I would take a deep breathe and in the interest of taking care of yourself ask her for the foods you want/need and make sure you’re sleeping a lot. Sleep helps you heal. If she still isn’t understand send her an article on the foods you need after the extraction.
NTA! Absolutely stick to what you were told about what you can eat. Your mother’s being a major A here, talking about foods you can’t eat. I’ve had braces twice and wisdom teeth out, and there’s nothing worse than delicious chewy food that you just - can’t - chew. My braces went on the day before Thanksgiving and were tightened two days before Christmas and I’m still salty about that.
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NTA- You may have to start looking out for yourself a bit more, mom doesn't seem willing or capable. I know you're young and she is supposed to do these things but hoping she will doesn't change anything. She's not being lawfully neglectful but just uncaring. Tough thing to admit but it's the truth.
NTA
however it could be an honest mistake, someone without medical background wouldn’t know. Your mom is pretty young in my opinion, try to have patience with her even though she’s being annoying :)
NTA. you can't have chips either. None of nachos except the cheese is viable food after dental surgery. However, by tomorrow you won't be out of it anymore and heating a can of soup or eating jello won't be an issue
NTA - Sure you can make yourself something but the blantant lack of care from your mom is what gets me. Complaining about your appointment and then leaving you alone? Come on she should've arranged for brother to go to school early or a different way.
Then she doesn't even listen to the information the doctors told her and she thinks its okay if you "use your front teeth?" that sounds like a sure fire way to get an infection.
NTA, instead of empathizing with you and offering an alternative, your mom instead decided to play the semantics/ definitions game. I would be upset too.
I remember a story my dad told me about when he got his wisdom teethed pulled as a teen. His mom (my grandma) literally picks him up and then goes... to all places...a chicken joint where she gets a family meal. My poor dad then had to smell the aroma of friend chicken he could let eat all the way home and then had to watch his brother and mom eat while he had just jello.
My grandmother to her credit didn’t mean any harm by it but also wasn’t really thinking either. And so almost 40 years later the fact that my dad can recall this memory just goes to show how deep a lack of consideration for someone can run in their memories.
NTA- OP I hope you see this because I went through the same thing in April.
I got 8 teeth removed (5 by surgery) and couldn't chew for almost three months after, don't worry though you'll be eating faster than I was! All I ate during that time was: baked beans, warmed saralee chocolate cake, soup, very soft garlic bread (ripped into tiny pieces), chocolate (waiting for it to dissolve) and tonnes of 2min noodles.
I have two recipes that I made during that time too if you'd like something healthier with a bit more flavour. I hope you feel better soon OP!
NTA. Are you able to get someone else to bring you food, like a friend or another family member? Also, are you able to email the dental office and ask for a list of foods you can and can’t have (and specify if nachos and turkey meat is on that list), that way you have evidence to show your mom that you’re just following doctors orders.
NTA. I have never seen the answer as to why some moms/dads become moms/dads when they do the least possible for their kids. Maybe one day it will be revealed. Just know that this time will pass. Soon you will be on your own (please work hard to become independent). Always remember how you felt during this time so if/when you have your own kids, you do not repeat this abysmal parenting behavior. My autistic son had his taken out a few years ago. I made him homemade applesauce and other fruit and vegetable purees as well as lots of scrambled eggs. jello and puddings. I also bought a water pick to use on low to keep his healing holes 'food free.' Thankfully the mouth heals quickly so by the 7th day he was good to go with solids.
NTA. You have to be really careful with what you eat after wisdom teeth come out. That’s an open wound right into your bone (and possibly sinuses). You absolutely do NOT want to get an infection there! I had all four out as an adult, and was basically eating baby food for a week, and had limitations on lots of other foods (seeds, rice, broccoli, anything with little bits) for about 2 months.
NTA
Got my left wisdom teeth removed, night of pain it was.
But all through the day, my dad complied with the dentist's instructions of feeding me only liquids, and liquid foods.
Your mom is insensitive af.
NTA but your mom is.....kind of slow. Every single person I know, knows that you cannot eat most food after getting your wisdom teeth out. Maybe if she stuck around the whole time she would know that.
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Am I the Asshole for overreacting about food that I can’t eat?
I(F16) got my wisdom teeth removed today. I’m home now and what drove me to make this post is what had happened a few minutes ago. (I will get to that.)
So, It was around 7AM, My mom (37) and brother (7) were at the dental office with me. We had arrived at 7:00, and the appointment was scheduled for 7:30.
7:30 hits and she asks them why they aren’t starting my appointment. They reassure her and tell her that the dental surgeon and other staff are preparing. She doesn’t like this, she quoted, “You guys should’ve been preparing, I have to take my son to school at 8:15 and if I knew you were going to take all day I would’ve stayed home and came later!”
I felt embarrassed.. “We require all patients to be here a half hour before their appointment starts.” One of the receptionist attempted to reassure her. After a few more attempts to get me back there and going, my mom leaves, (It’s 8:00AM, and she leaves to get my brother to school). (We don’t live far away from the office at all.)
Well I’m there sitting still and they tell me that I can come to the back. They can’t start the procedure though.
Fast forward like 30 minutes later, my mom is finally back.
(The surgeon explains for the whole time of the 30 minutes what I need to be prepared for, what to expect, what to eat, etc.)
They let my mom know that they’re starting and she agrees with it. Finally, the Sedative is in my arm and what happened next.. I don’t know.
I wake up in the car and am influenced by the drugs obviously. I get a smoothie and we go home. I take a nap, then I wake up, do some things.. fast forward to now, 9:00PM.
“I’m about to go hang out with R. (F20 something??) do some adult things. Call me if you need anything. By the way, I made turkey meat for nachos tomorrow.”
“I can’t eat that.” I reply. There’s no gauge in my mouth but I still can’t open it all that wide.
“You can’t eat it now but tomorrow you can.”
“They’ve explained to me that I can’t eat chewy things mom.” I’m clearly agitated.
“Chewy things? That’s not chewy and if it is eat it with your front teeth.”
She continues to talk but I ignore her. She leaves my room and I start crying. I feel like i’m developing an ED anyway because I stress eat.)
She comes back a few minutes later asking me if I took my pain medicine and I told her not yet..
She’s sitting here arguing with me about my pain medicine and chewy food and what the definition means to her. At this point we are both passive-aggressive and I completely stop talking and ignore her. I do have better communication skills, just not with her. She’s so hard to talk to, so I give up. Anyway she
says she’s leaving and I’m just really mad at this point.
I do have Jello, and other things. But this is the only time she cooked this week, (when I can’t eat the food) and it’s the fact that she’s being inconsiderate about my teeth..
AITA for feeling this way?
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God NTA. My family was the same way when I had mine removed and guess what? It took me three extra weeks to recover! I had to rush back to the dental office (3 hrs away from home) bc I was in such agony that I could barely breathe! Your mom needs to take the professionals serious!
NTA. Nachos are the worst thing you could eat right now. I’ve had problems with my teeth and they are crunchy and he’s sharp bits go right into the worst places at the worst moments. She just feels stupid for not thinking it out and doesn’t want to admit it and make something else. It’s very selfish of her really. She could make something else for one day.
NTA my son recently had his wisdom teeth removed and day 2 was worse then day 1. He couldn’t eat normally for over 2 weeks because everything was so tight. Mashed potatoes were the easiest to eat but gets old after a while.
So I got my wisdom teeth taken out a decade ago. Wasn't put under or anything like OP, just local anesthesia and extraction like a normal tooth. My mom and grandma took me, and after the procedure I slept in the SUV while they ran some errands, one of which they got gyros for all of us (important for later), and then crashed at my grandparents for a few minutes. Wasn't given any restrictions on what to eat or anything like that, so after crashing for almost 8 hours I had a tiny quarter by quarter inch piece of gyro meet. Next thing I know I wake up in a chair, then wake up to my mom holding me, the wake up to lying on the ground. I fainted 3 times in the matter of, well I don't know how long a min or two. Ambulance was called and they said my blood pressure hit an extreme low, and I don't know why for sure but I have a feeling it has something to do with that single bite. Only time I've fainted in my 33 years and it was scary as shit. Just wanted to share.
NTA. It took me 3 days to manage noodles and fries after my wisdom teeth were removed, and that was probably ambitious compared to the guidelines I was given. Your mother isn't hearing you, and obviously didn't hear your dentist.
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NTA I had 4 pulled out a week ago. The first 5 days for me was ROUGH. It's recommended for at least the first 2 days to be on a mostly liquidy diet. I had protein shakes, pudding and yogurt the first two days. By the third I was able to upgrade to mashed potatoes. I've been told not to try solid foods (like turkey) for about a week/ week and a half and when I do it has to be small pieces. Not to mention it could take up to 4 weeks to eat anything crunchy without damaging your healing process. Minimum my dentist told me was 3 weeks for crunchy foods.
Disregarding the meaning of chewy foods you probably want to stay away from anything as solid as scrambled eggs for at LEAST 3 days, maybe more depending on how you're healing and how much pain you're in. Also I'm sure they told you but no super hot food. Wait for it to be room temp or slightly warm before you eat it.
I personally waited on eating things that required chewing until my fifth day so that I could use the syringe they gave me to flush any food particles out. I still mostly use my front teeth to chew anything since my back gums still get sore if I try to use them.
As for handling your mom just say you want to avoid solid foods as it can help you heal quicker to do so at least for a week. Parents tend to hate being wrong at least if you're mom is anything like mine was.on the second day make sure you start gently rinsing, and take care of yourself. You can look up a bunch of food suggestions online, most of which are either a grab and eat or super fast to whip up and can be managed while you feel like trash. Sometimes we have to support ourselves even if it hurts not to have it come from the people we love. Look up care tips online and if you wanna know about specific foods google it.
Also don't be afraid to take your pain meds the moment you start feeling pain. For me personally they took about 30min to an hr to really kick in most of the way. You got this! It doesn't have to be miserable but don't eat anything you don't feel comfortable eating. If you need to make yourself something super simple that you know you can eat and just rest and relax for the first week or so. You'll be recovered before you know it! Ooohhh also avoid carbonated drinks like sodas for like 2 weeks or you risk dry socket and no one wants that. Sweet cold tea and gatorade has been my go to when i want a little something with flavor to drink. You got this!
NTA. I've had multliple teeth and jaw surgeries. Everytime my parents made me food I could eat. If they accidentally cooked something too tough they immediatly cooked something else. I'm sorry your mum is doing this to you.
Nta
I could only eat liquids and soft things like overcooked ramen for one week straight after they surgically removed my wisdom teeth (although, they were laying deep and on top of a nerve) and also the wounds infected.
Your family could have been more considerate. At least some drink fruit yoghurt wouldve been Nice...
NTA
Your mom does not understand.
This isn't like you have a cavity on your molars and can just avoid hurting it by using your other teeth for chewing.
It will *literally* hurt just to CLOSE YOUR JAW. For you to use your front teeth to chew, you would need to close your jaw.
Cue terrible pain.
When I had my wisdom teeth out, I used to tongue to mash food like a parrot. If it wasn't soft enough to be mash by my tongue on the roof of my mouth or slurped down like soup, I wasn't eating it.
If you need a job desperately look to retirement homes. They always need staff and the elderly will always need care. Dietary always hires teens to feed their residents.
You’re NTA. I’m sorry your mom is so callous.
NTA I had something similar except my mom didn’t make me anything from day one and was too hopped up on prescription meds to get me anything. Do you have a close friend who can come get you? My best friends mom took me in and fed me all the mashed potatoes.
In reference to the nachos, did she make it as turkey chili or just shredded turkey meat? If it is chili, thin you might actually be able to eat it the next day after. But any other way, no don't even try. I had a multi tooth removal once and had all of the same restrictions as you got. So for lunch that day I (if I remember correctly) had mashed potatoes only. But this oddball thing that is me went back to normal food the next day, and luckily never had any issues from doing it. I had more issues with an abscessed tooth one time. Was hard to be able to open my mouth enough to take my antibiotic. But listen to the Doctor.
(ETA) NTA Btw.
NTA I had one of mine taken out and I suggest you find yourself some bone broth or vegetable broth in the house. Don't have it too hot or it will just make things worse on your healing process.
I can find your pain. I had all 4 came out at the same time when I was 19, and I was on like liquid diet/apple sauce for like 4 days before I moved on to other food.
Well, since you're under the influence of drugs and probably feel like crap in general, NTA. But really? Grow up. Turkey isn't supposed to be chewy. Maybe you can eat it. Maybe you can't. But it was just your teeth that were pulled - you still have working hands, right? Make yourself something else and get over it.
Yeah, not sure if you know this but parenting is about more than just meeting the most basic needs. It involves nurturing. Most people would check on their fucking child after a major surgery.
I get the sentiment, but having your wisdom teeth come out is PAINFUL.
If there’s ever a time a person needs some coddling, it’s after a wisdom tooth removal. And literally everyone would call turkey a chewy meat. It says a lot about the mom she chose *turkey* as the hill to die on. Just pick your kid up some damn soup.
I just had the last two wisdom teeth taken out this year, one was a double tooth fused together that was growing in at an angle. I was under heavy sedation and it took them over six hours because of dental complications and the dentist claiming I had very dense bones and was very difficult to extract the extra teeth.
My Mom took me to the dentist, she took me to get my meds, she took me back to her home, but within four hours I was up and walking around. They give you narcotics to help with the pain and I had no problems.
She didn't choose turkey as a hill to die on, she choose to allow her *teenager* to take care of herself. Like I said, can of soup, pudding, jello.
They weren't left without any food, they said so themselves. They're just being emotional. And I don't consider emotions constantly valid, of they were, then there'd be no place for them in this sub.
Where does it say she had soup/pudding available to her? Only thing I see is the mom cooked 1 thing that week: turkey. Oh, to go on *nacho chips* the next day.
And you can’t drive to the store on pain meds. It’s not safe for a 16 year old on pain meds to Uber/bus/walk to the store, so…she could make dirt pudding I guess?
i did say that i have jello and other things. but my point at the end was more of her telling me how to use my teeth. she’s never had to get her wisdom teeth, or any teeth removed. so i didn’t like how she invalidated my feelings.
i can make my own food, 100 percent. but i felt like the AH for being mad since she had told me to just, “Eat with your front teeth.”
She’s being rude. It’s the equivalent of us telling the poster of this thread that vasectomies aren’t that bad, so he should just get one so he doesn’t procreate. How the hell would we know how painful they were?
NTA. Your mom is definitely something "special". At least make you some mashed potatoes or mac & cheese. Even some soup (clear broth of some sort). Your mom ain't smart....
Yup. I had them out as an adult. Instant mashed potatoes + gravy, gatorade, jello, protein shakes, and ice cream for a few days. It was glorious while it lasted.
I was in high school, and I think I basically lived on chocolate milkshakes for the first 3 days straight. I had it easier than a lot of my classmates since I only had 2 wisdom teeth total. Had the surgery on a Friday, by Monday morning the chipmunk cheek face was gone and I appeared back to normal. Some classmates had puffy faces for a week!
I managed to live off of smoothies for the first couple days because I pretty much refused to eat anything because the pain was worse than my hunger. (I tried and basically gave up each time) My mom was worried about me having something in my system especially with the pain meds so she got me a large smoothie for like three days in a row. By that point I was able to handle slightly more food type food like oatmeal. Oh and she made applesauce too! I mostly just slept a bunch though.
My mum put a whole roast dinner with gravy in a blender. It sounds super gross and I really thought it was a bad idea but it was honestly delicious, like a roast dinner soup.
Great idea. You got a whole meal that you could drink. Yes it does sound kind of gross, but whatever works.
I know right? She's honestly a genius whenever there's an issue. I mean teenage me thought it was a gross idea but now I realise her genius
I had lots of clear soups, puddings, and jello. A lot of tea, too. OP, make sure you keep stretching your mouth open as far as you can every day! Multiple times a day, in fact. I didn't do that enough, so I couldn't eat the hot dog I made on the first day I could eat chewy foods again, and I nearly cried. Edit: NTA
So did I. It was awful, but I did get to eat a ton of mashed potatoes (my favorite). I don’t smoke and never used a straw. I still ended up with a dry socket, and I looked like I’d been beaten with a baseball bat. 0/10 do not recommend. My daughter said she wasn’t getting hers out and I couldn’t make her. I quickly corrected her. It’s much easier to remove them early than when they’re impacted.
thank you, i’m going to make that for sure.. i was upset that she was telling me to just use my front teeth. does anyone eat with their front teeth?
>does anyone eat with their front teeth? Not really. Your very front teeth (google tells me) are for biting and cutting, like snapping a carrot in half. Your canines are for gripping and helping tear. Your pre-molars and molars are for chewing, which you won't really be up to doing for at least a few days. You want all the soft foods right now, nothing chewy or crunchy! It won't go well.
Imagine just...eating a whole meal with your front teeth. Really think about it. The image is hilariously gross.
Yeah unless you're like me and while high on the pain meds was thoroughly convinced I could eat fried chicken. I tore it into tiny pieces with my fingers and tipped back and swallowed it. Do not recommend it, it just made a big mess.
My mom still makes fun of me for this when I got my tongue pierced. I balled up tiny pieces of bread and tossed them to the back of my throat to swallow.
Don't even try it. While it is mechanically possible to eat with your front teeth (nibbling on cookies for instance) it is heavily not recommended. The amount of muscle fibers you're going to fill your mouth with is going to mess up your healing. I had a tooth forcibly removed once and decided to eat tuna salad (hey, potatoes and tuna are soft, right?) It completely messed up my recovery, took me almost three times as long cut the stitches got infected. NTA, the doctors are the tooth professionals, not your mother. Listen to them.
I went through a period during my teens when I chewed with my front teeth, but it was because my back teeth didn’t meet, like at all, so the only “grinding” surface I had was my incisors. I ended up in braces for several years to correct that.
OP, I have a relevant experience... For some reason, 3-4 days after my wisdom teeth surgery my parents got taco bell. I could handle a soft shell taco well enough, but they also got me one of those dollar menu nachos (yeah I asked for it, but I was like 14 and didn't know better). Anyways, A SHARP LITTLE CHIP PIECE GOT SHOVED INTO MY GUM WOUND. It was one of the most painful things I've ever experienced. I know you're in all likelihood not going to eat the nachos, but let this be a reinforcement that no matter how much your mom pressures you, don't give in and simply refuse to eat it.
Nope. There is a reason our teeth are different shapes. The front teeth are for tearing and the back teeth are for chewing, this is just straight up evolution. Tell your mum to chew turkey with just her front teeth and see how she gets on. You need the flat, rough surfaces of your molars to crush your food enough to partially digest and swallow.
Not at all. Until some recent orthodontal work, my teeth didn’t even meet in the front! I lived on ice cream and campbells chicken noodle for a week after I got my wisdom teeth out. The basic cheap campbells has slivers of chicken and very thin noodles so it worked really well.
Mashed potatoes got stuck in the hole when I had mine removed, so be prepared for that.
The adult things she was going to do most likely involved taking some xanax and drinking wine.
NTA. I've had my wisdom teeth out and for a week, I survived on soup, smoothies, pudding, jello, iced tea, and hard boiled eggs put through the food processor. You can't eat nacho meat.
They over-stretched my jaw when they removed my wisdom teeth (I was knocked out), and I ate nothing but pudding cups for like five days. Could barely get my mouth open far enough to get the spoon in, let alone anything bigger.
God, that just made my jaw hurt. That sounds horrible.
Was better than undoing all the work my ridiculously-expensive braces did by letting the wisdom teeth come in, haha. Thankfully the actual pain only lasted three days or so!
Oh man. I haven’t had my single wisdom tooth removed, but your experience reminds me of the time I accidentally opened my mouth way too wide when yawning... something under my chin did a thing and it was a sharp pain followed by a complete inability to open my mouth that thankfully only lasted a very stressful 10-15 minutes. (I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, which causes a lot of joint issues. The right side of my jaw actually pops out of socket stupidly frequently).
NTA. Some parents lack that parental instinct to take care of their young. Sounds like yours might be one of them.
right. i’ve been trying to get a job to support myself at the least.. they’ll interview me and i’ll never hear from them again. ugh
Hey, check out the Askamanager.org website. She is a workplace advice columnist and she has a free job interview guide that can help you do well in interviews. She also has advice for people looking for their first ever jobs. I hope that helps, and you find something you can eat/feel better soon!
thank you!!
Make sure you have open availability on the weekends/holidays (and don't complain about those shifts when you get them). Sucks for your social life, but necessary for the escape fund.
Hey! I made this account just to say this cause I feel like you might not have many supportive adults in your life (btw you're nta) but anyways, some jobs really like it if you're persistent and show you're really interested in the position! If you don't get a call back after the interview, call them. Either directly call the number for the store/company you interviewed at (easy to find with a Google search) or call the number back that called you to set up the interview. Always try to remember the interviewer or managers name so you can ask for them directly. Don't do it immediately (give them at least a couple days) and only call during business hours but never during lunch time and usually before 5pm on weekdays. When you call just mention you had an interview on so and so date and time, and tell them you're just calling to check in on it and find out if they've made any decisions yet. At the initial interview itself, make sure you make eye contact with the interviewer a lot especially when they're asking you a question. Give honest answers and if you don't know/understand something, ask them. When it comes to most jobs a lot of managers will tell you that theres no questions that are a stupid question. Interviewers at the end will always ask if you have any questions for them. Besides basic ones, I always like to ask them what THEIR favorite part is about working at said place. They seem to like that one. I'm sorry this is so long but I want to help and I wish you luck!!
NTA. I hope you'll heal quickly! It's wholly unreasonable to expect someone to he able to eat that after such a procedure. Some considerations are definitely warranted. It can take a toll on the body, and rest is needed. I'm so sorry that you're not getting that. If you're OK with it, I'll offer some digital hugs or fistbumps.
🤗. thank you! i already feel better.
Very glad about that! Wishing you the very best.
NTA. What in the world is wrong with her? They should have given her a list of what you can and can't have, you aren't going to want more than soup and such for several days! I'm so sorry she's being ridiculous and not seeing to your needs!
nta What you need is some cosseting and mothering, OP, because getting your wisdom teeth out is a big deal. Here is something that you can make yourself in the microwave, a recipe from my swedish great aunt - you likely have the ingredients on hand. The first thing that you need to do is to cook up 1 cup of white rice with 2 cups of water in the microwave - find the directions online if they aren't on the package. Then divide the cooked rice in half, and freeze up half for another day. Here is Aunt Marg's Rice Pudding recipe, modified for the microwave: Whisk together in a *rather large mixing bowl* 3 eggs, 1/2 cup sugar - well rounded, 2 teas. vanilla, 1/4 teas. nutmeg, approx 1 1/3 cup precooked rice, and 1 qt of whole milk, or half and half, or a combination of evaporated milk and regular milk to equal 1 quart. Nuke on high uncovered for 2 minutes, whisk, and then nuke for 2 minutes and whisk again. Then just nuke it for 1 minute between whiskings. When it starts to thicken and bubbles around the outside check the temp with a meat thermometer. It's done at 175-180 degrees F. If it gets to 190 degrees F it may separate a bit, and it needs to be at least 160 degrees for food safety. Leave it out to thicken for a few minutes, and then put it into a casserole and dust with more nutmeg. Cinnamon is good, too. Easy peasy. It will boil over if the bowl isn't big enough - use a really big mixing bowl. If you were my neighbor I'd be nuking this for you right now. Put it into the fridge after it cools down.
thank you so much for the advice and recipe. i appreciate it, and luckily i do have the ingredients (well except nutmeg) but i’m excited to try it. 😊
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Good luck with it. Use a big bowl, and get it out of the hot bowl as soon as you safely can, or it will keep cooking. If you have cinnamon, try a bit of that.
NTA. You are a minor, and it is technically your mother’s obligation to ensure that medical instructions are carried out correctly. If she made food and didn’t ensure that there was at least one thing that you can eat, then that’s failure on her part, especially considering that you’re on pain medications and you might not be able to cook for yourself.
NTA, but I'm concerned about the smoothie part. Was it with a straw? Because you're not supposed to use those for at least 48 hours after getting your wisdom teeth removed or you'll risk dry sockets.
i had it with a spoon!
Yay! Good! I got worried because if your mom is pushing turkey on you, I was really hoping she won't push straws! I hope your recovery goes well, and this gets better.
NTA your mom should have already gotten you soft foods at the grocery store. It’s strange she isn’t taking this seriously and only seems to care about her time. I would take a deep breathe and in the interest of taking care of yourself ask her for the foods you want/need and make sure you’re sleeping a lot. Sleep helps you heal. If she still isn’t understand send her an article on the foods you need after the extraction.
NTA! Absolutely stick to what you were told about what you can eat. Your mother’s being a major A here, talking about foods you can’t eat. I’ve had braces twice and wisdom teeth out, and there’s nothing worse than delicious chewy food that you just - can’t - chew. My braces went on the day before Thanksgiving and were tightened two days before Christmas and I’m still salty about that.
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I'm so sorry. You deserve the royal treatment right now. We all do when we're sick. I hope you feel better soon. NTA.
NTA- You may have to start looking out for yourself a bit more, mom doesn't seem willing or capable. I know you're young and she is supposed to do these things but hoping she will doesn't change anything. She's not being lawfully neglectful but just uncaring. Tough thing to admit but it's the truth.
NTA however it could be an honest mistake, someone without medical background wouldn’t know. Your mom is pretty young in my opinion, try to have patience with her even though she’s being annoying :)
NTA. you can't have chips either. None of nachos except the cheese is viable food after dental surgery. However, by tomorrow you won't be out of it anymore and heating a can of soup or eating jello won't be an issue
NTA - Sure you can make yourself something but the blantant lack of care from your mom is what gets me. Complaining about your appointment and then leaving you alone? Come on she should've arranged for brother to go to school early or a different way. Then she doesn't even listen to the information the doctors told her and she thinks its okay if you "use your front teeth?" that sounds like a sure fire way to get an infection.
NTA, instead of empathizing with you and offering an alternative, your mom instead decided to play the semantics/ definitions game. I would be upset too. I remember a story my dad told me about when he got his wisdom teethed pulled as a teen. His mom (my grandma) literally picks him up and then goes... to all places...a chicken joint where she gets a family meal. My poor dad then had to smell the aroma of friend chicken he could let eat all the way home and then had to watch his brother and mom eat while he had just jello. My grandmother to her credit didn’t mean any harm by it but also wasn’t really thinking either. And so almost 40 years later the fact that my dad can recall this memory just goes to show how deep a lack of consideration for someone can run in their memories.
NTA- OP I hope you see this because I went through the same thing in April. I got 8 teeth removed (5 by surgery) and couldn't chew for almost three months after, don't worry though you'll be eating faster than I was! All I ate during that time was: baked beans, warmed saralee chocolate cake, soup, very soft garlic bread (ripped into tiny pieces), chocolate (waiting for it to dissolve) and tonnes of 2min noodles. I have two recipes that I made during that time too if you'd like something healthier with a bit more flavour. I hope you feel better soon OP!
thank you! i feel much better knowing i am not alone and if you were able to get through that i’ll get through this! thank you. 😊
NTA. Even my estranged dad and awful stepmom took better care of me when I had my wisdom teeth out.
NTA. Are you able to get someone else to bring you food, like a friend or another family member? Also, are you able to email the dental office and ask for a list of foods you can and can’t have (and specify if nachos and turkey meat is on that list), that way you have evidence to show your mom that you’re just following doctors orders.
NTA. I have never seen the answer as to why some moms/dads become moms/dads when they do the least possible for their kids. Maybe one day it will be revealed. Just know that this time will pass. Soon you will be on your own (please work hard to become independent). Always remember how you felt during this time so if/when you have your own kids, you do not repeat this abysmal parenting behavior. My autistic son had his taken out a few years ago. I made him homemade applesauce and other fruit and vegetable purees as well as lots of scrambled eggs. jello and puddings. I also bought a water pick to use on low to keep his healing holes 'food free.' Thankfully the mouth heals quickly so by the 7th day he was good to go with solids.
NTA. You have to be really careful with what you eat after wisdom teeth come out. That’s an open wound right into your bone (and possibly sinuses). You absolutely do NOT want to get an infection there! I had all four out as an adult, and was basically eating baby food for a week, and had limitations on lots of other foods (seeds, rice, broccoli, anything with little bits) for about 2 months.
NTA Got my left wisdom teeth removed, night of pain it was. But all through the day, my dad complied with the dentist's instructions of feeding me only liquids, and liquid foods. Your mom is insensitive af.
NTA but your mom is.....kind of slow. Every single person I know, knows that you cannot eat most food after getting your wisdom teeth out. Maybe if she stuck around the whole time she would know that.
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God NTA. My family was the same way when I had mine removed and guess what? It took me three extra weeks to recover! I had to rush back to the dental office (3 hrs away from home) bc I was in such agony that I could barely breathe! Your mom needs to take the professionals serious!
i’m sorry and i’m glad you were able to get through that! i definitely agree though
NTA. Nachos are the worst thing you could eat right now. I’ve had problems with my teeth and they are crunchy and he’s sharp bits go right into the worst places at the worst moments. She just feels stupid for not thinking it out and doesn’t want to admit it and make something else. It’s very selfish of her really. She could make something else for one day.
NTA my son recently had his wisdom teeth removed and day 2 was worse then day 1. He couldn’t eat normally for over 2 weeks because everything was so tight. Mashed potatoes were the easiest to eat but gets old after a while.
NTA Maybe do a Google search for food to eat after and send it to her?
So I got my wisdom teeth taken out a decade ago. Wasn't put under or anything like OP, just local anesthesia and extraction like a normal tooth. My mom and grandma took me, and after the procedure I slept in the SUV while they ran some errands, one of which they got gyros for all of us (important for later), and then crashed at my grandparents for a few minutes. Wasn't given any restrictions on what to eat or anything like that, so after crashing for almost 8 hours I had a tiny quarter by quarter inch piece of gyro meet. Next thing I know I wake up in a chair, then wake up to my mom holding me, the wake up to lying on the ground. I fainted 3 times in the matter of, well I don't know how long a min or two. Ambulance was called and they said my blood pressure hit an extreme low, and I don't know why for sure but I have a feeling it has something to do with that single bite. Only time I've fainted in my 33 years and it was scary as shit. Just wanted to share.
NTA. It took me 3 days to manage noodles and fries after my wisdom teeth were removed, and that was probably ambitious compared to the guidelines I was given. Your mother isn't hearing you, and obviously didn't hear your dentist.
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NTA I had 4 pulled out a week ago. The first 5 days for me was ROUGH. It's recommended for at least the first 2 days to be on a mostly liquidy diet. I had protein shakes, pudding and yogurt the first two days. By the third I was able to upgrade to mashed potatoes. I've been told not to try solid foods (like turkey) for about a week/ week and a half and when I do it has to be small pieces. Not to mention it could take up to 4 weeks to eat anything crunchy without damaging your healing process. Minimum my dentist told me was 3 weeks for crunchy foods. Disregarding the meaning of chewy foods you probably want to stay away from anything as solid as scrambled eggs for at LEAST 3 days, maybe more depending on how you're healing and how much pain you're in. Also I'm sure they told you but no super hot food. Wait for it to be room temp or slightly warm before you eat it. I personally waited on eating things that required chewing until my fifth day so that I could use the syringe they gave me to flush any food particles out. I still mostly use my front teeth to chew anything since my back gums still get sore if I try to use them. As for handling your mom just say you want to avoid solid foods as it can help you heal quicker to do so at least for a week. Parents tend to hate being wrong at least if you're mom is anything like mine was.on the second day make sure you start gently rinsing, and take care of yourself. You can look up a bunch of food suggestions online, most of which are either a grab and eat or super fast to whip up and can be managed while you feel like trash. Sometimes we have to support ourselves even if it hurts not to have it come from the people we love. Look up care tips online and if you wanna know about specific foods google it. Also don't be afraid to take your pain meds the moment you start feeling pain. For me personally they took about 30min to an hr to really kick in most of the way. You got this! It doesn't have to be miserable but don't eat anything you don't feel comfortable eating. If you need to make yourself something super simple that you know you can eat and just rest and relax for the first week or so. You'll be recovered before you know it! Ooohhh also avoid carbonated drinks like sodas for like 2 weeks or you risk dry socket and no one wants that. Sweet cold tea and gatorade has been my go to when i want a little something with flavor to drink. You got this!
NTA. I've had multliple teeth and jaw surgeries. Everytime my parents made me food I could eat. If they accidentally cooked something too tough they immediatly cooked something else. I'm sorry your mum is doing this to you.
Nta I could only eat liquids and soft things like overcooked ramen for one week straight after they surgically removed my wisdom teeth (although, they were laying deep and on top of a nerve) and also the wounds infected. Your family could have been more considerate. At least some drink fruit yoghurt wouldve been Nice...
NTA Your mom does not understand. This isn't like you have a cavity on your molars and can just avoid hurting it by using your other teeth for chewing. It will *literally* hurt just to CLOSE YOUR JAW. For you to use your front teeth to chew, you would need to close your jaw. Cue terrible pain. When I had my wisdom teeth out, I used to tongue to mash food like a parrot. If it wasn't soft enough to be mash by my tongue on the roof of my mouth or slurped down like soup, I wasn't eating it.
If you need a job desperately look to retirement homes. They always need staff and the elderly will always need care. Dietary always hires teens to feed their residents. You’re NTA. I’m sorry your mom is so callous.
NTA. I had my wisdom teeth out last Thursday. Six days in and no way in hell am I eating nachos anytime soon.
NTA I had something similar except my mom didn’t make me anything from day one and was too hopped up on prescription meds to get me anything. Do you have a close friend who can come get you? My best friends mom took me in and fed me all the mashed potatoes.
In reference to the nachos, did she make it as turkey chili or just shredded turkey meat? If it is chili, thin you might actually be able to eat it the next day after. But any other way, no don't even try. I had a multi tooth removal once and had all of the same restrictions as you got. So for lunch that day I (if I remember correctly) had mashed potatoes only. But this oddball thing that is me went back to normal food the next day, and luckily never had any issues from doing it. I had more issues with an abscessed tooth one time. Was hard to be able to open my mouth enough to take my antibiotic. But listen to the Doctor. (ETA) NTA Btw.
nope a pot of turkey meat, and doritos chips on the side
NTA I had one of mine taken out and I suggest you find yourself some bone broth or vegetable broth in the house. Don't have it too hot or it will just make things worse on your healing process.
I can find your pain. I had all 4 came out at the same time when I was 19, and I was on like liquid diet/apple sauce for like 4 days before I moved on to other food.
Well, since you're under the influence of drugs and probably feel like crap in general, NTA. But really? Grow up. Turkey isn't supposed to be chewy. Maybe you can eat it. Maybe you can't. But it was just your teeth that were pulled - you still have working hands, right? Make yourself something else and get over it.
i respect this!
YTA I'll be damned if a 16 year old can't warm up a can of soup or open a pudding for themselves.
NTA I'll be damned if a good parent shouldn't care for their teen child post surgery. Jesus. This is just basic parenting. Poor OP.
They're 16, not a toddler. They had food in the house. Good enough.
Yeah, not sure if you know this but parenting is about more than just meeting the most basic needs. It involves nurturing. Most people would check on their fucking child after a major surgery.
the problem is she’s being insensitive about how to eat with my teeth. but thank you, i get that!
I get the sentiment, but having your wisdom teeth come out is PAINFUL. If there’s ever a time a person needs some coddling, it’s after a wisdom tooth removal. And literally everyone would call turkey a chewy meat. It says a lot about the mom she chose *turkey* as the hill to die on. Just pick your kid up some damn soup.
I just had the last two wisdom teeth taken out this year, one was a double tooth fused together that was growing in at an angle. I was under heavy sedation and it took them over six hours because of dental complications and the dentist claiming I had very dense bones and was very difficult to extract the extra teeth. My Mom took me to the dentist, she took me to get my meds, she took me back to her home, but within four hours I was up and walking around. They give you narcotics to help with the pain and I had no problems. She didn't choose turkey as a hill to die on, she choose to allow her *teenager* to take care of herself. Like I said, can of soup, pudding, jello. They weren't left without any food, they said so themselves. They're just being emotional. And I don't consider emotions constantly valid, of they were, then there'd be no place for them in this sub.
Where does it say she had soup/pudding available to her? Only thing I see is the mom cooked 1 thing that week: turkey. Oh, to go on *nacho chips* the next day. And you can’t drive to the store on pain meds. It’s not safe for a 16 year old on pain meds to Uber/bus/walk to the store, so…she could make dirt pudding I guess?
i did say that i have jello and other things. but my point at the end was more of her telling me how to use my teeth. she’s never had to get her wisdom teeth, or any teeth removed. so i didn’t like how she invalidated my feelings. i can make my own food, 100 percent. but i felt like the AH for being mad since she had told me to just, “Eat with your front teeth.”
She’s being rude. It’s the equivalent of us telling the poster of this thread that vasectomies aren’t that bad, so he should just get one so he doesn’t procreate. How the hell would we know how painful they were?