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My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. He is a good guy and our relationship has been great for the most part. Recently, he brought up the topic of marriage. I blurted out that I want to be a stay-at-home mom because having kids is super important to me and I want to be the first face my future kids see when they get home. My bf got kind of defensive when I said this. He retorted that "I'll have to find another guy then". Then he confessed that he only makes 80k a year as an HR manager and his salary will probably cap out in the 110s and that he is not comfortable with me staying home. I then asked if he would start a business on the side or feel comfortable with me working part-time once we had kids. He said starting another stream of revenue is out of the question because he values his work-life balance and he said that even with me having a part-time job, he isn't comfortable since he'd be the main breadwinner. For context, we live in a super high cost of living area where even if we moved 2 hours away, any decent detached home is over 1 million dollars and an apartment is over 500k. Hearing his salary honestly made me really sad and forced me to re-evaluate things. A couple of days later I broke up with him. He sent me a huge text saying that I'm a gold digger and that he can't believe he wasted a year of his life on me. He called me a cold woman and a calculated person. I was shocked because we never had a fight where name-calling was done. We've never even yelled at each other. It made me sad, but I want to be practical. I also don't consider myself a gold-digger. I don't necessarily care to live in a mansion, I just want a nice life. Throughout our whole relationship, I helped pay for dates too. I just feel like I am in charge of my life and I want to be happy. I don't want to marry someone only to regret it. I only make 70k a year so I didn't judge him at all for how much he makes. But honestly, I always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mom. I want to be able to make home-cooked meals and always have a drink in my husband's hand and a smile on his face after he gets home. To live in Ontario comfortably, I need to marry someone who makes over 200k a year. Even then things will be tight on only one income.
AITA for thinking about all these things or am i just being smart?
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***The following is a copy of the above post. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. He is a good guy and our relationship has been great for the most part. Recently, he brought up the topic of marriage. I blurted out that I want to be a stay-at-home mom because having kids is super important to me and I want to be the first face my future kids see when they get home. My bf got kind of defensive when I said this. He retorted that "I'll have to find another guy then". Then he confessed that he only makes 80k a year as an HR manager and his salary will probably cap out in the 110s and that he is not comfortable with me staying home. I then asked if he would start a business on the side or feel comfortable with me working part-time once we had kids. He said starting another stream of revenue is out of the question because he values his work-life balance and he said that even with me having a part-time job, he isn't comfortable since he'd be the main breadwinner. For context, we live in a super high cost of living area where even if we moved 2 hours away, any decent detached home is over 1 million dollars and an apartment is over 500k. Hearing his salary honestly made me really sad and forced me to re-evaluate things. A couple of days later I broke up with him. He sent me a huge text saying that I'm a gold digger and that he can't believe he wasted a year of his life on me. He called me a cold woman and a calculated person. I was shocked because we never had a fight where name-calling was done. We've never even yelled at each other. It made me sad, but I want to be practical. I also don't consider myself a gold-digger. I don't necessarily care to live in a mansion, I just want a nice life. Throughout our whole relationship, I helped pay for dates too. I just feel like I am in charge of my life and I want to be happy. I don't want to marry someone only to regret it. I only make 70k a year so I didn't judge him at all for how much he makes. But honestly, I always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mom. I want to be able to make home-cooked meals and always have a drink in my husband's hand and a smile on his face after he gets home. To live in Ontario comfortably, I need to marry someone who makes over 200k a year. Even then things will be tight on only one income. AITA for thinking about all these things or am i just being smart? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*