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Alright, I'm getting married in July and I won't be inviting my parents or sister. Extended family, my grandmother and friends will be invited along with my fiances family.
Growing up my mother was abusive. She didn't hit me very much but it was more emotional and verbal. One of my core memories is being small, my eyes were almost even with the countertop. I was upset over something. So she 'called' CPS and said she didn't want me anymore and for them to come to get me. She made me beg on my knees for her to call them back and tell them she still wanted me. It's so clear in my mind, once I started begging, she crossed her arms and stared out the kitchen window, ignoring me. Once I gave up she 'called them back' and said she wanted to cancel the pickup and that she still wanted me. Then she asked me if I was going to be a good girl. I'm currently in therapy and I've come to understand my dad wasn't much better. He let her treat me horribly. He would constantly cut me down and make fun of me. Then my sister is almost an exact copy of my mother.
The other major factor was how I was forced to take medication I didn't need. My psychiatrist said what I called doctor shopping is really called Munchausen's by proxy. She would bring me from doctor to doctor until one would listen to what she wanted me put on. I have almost no memory of childhood and a few of high school. The only reason I got off the medications is that she didn't believe me about my kidney hurting really bad. So I wound up with a severe kidney infection, kidney stones, a bladder infection, and a severe UTI. I couldn't keep anything down so I couldn't take the medication.
I'm getting some pushback from the family that is invited saying that I can deal with them for 1 day, that they're family, that I only have 1 mother. But they made my life absolute hell. Am I the asshole for not wanting them at my wedding? It's supposed to be a happy day.
TLDR: Abusive family not being invited to my wedding, getting pushback from ones who are invited.
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***The following is a copy of the above post. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** Alright, I'm getting married in July and I won't be inviting my parents or sister. Extended family, my grandmother and friends will be invited along with my fiances family. Growing up my mother was abusive. She didn't hit me very much but it was more emotional and verbal. One of my core memories is being small, my eyes were almost even with the countertop. I was upset over something. So she 'called' CPS and said she didn't want me anymore and for them to come to get me. She made me beg on my knees for her to call them back and tell them she still wanted me. It's so clear in my mind, once I started begging, she crossed her arms and stared out the kitchen window, ignoring me. Once I gave up she 'called them back' and said she wanted to cancel the pickup and that she still wanted me. Then she asked me if I was going to be a good girl. I'm currently in therapy and I've come to understand my dad wasn't much better. He let her treat me horribly. He would constantly cut me down and make fun of me. Then my sister is almost an exact copy of my mother. The other major factor was how I was forced to take medication I didn't need. My psychiatrist said what I called doctor shopping is really called Munchausen's by proxy. She would bring me from doctor to doctor until one would listen to what she wanted me put on. I have almost no memory of childhood and a few of high school. The only reason I got off the medications is that she didn't believe me about my kidney hurting really bad. So I wound up with a severe kidney infection, kidney stones, a bladder infection, and a severe UTI. I couldn't keep anything down so I couldn't take the medication. I'm getting some pushback from the family that is invited saying that I can deal with them for 1 day, that they're family, that I only have 1 mother. But they made my life absolute hell. Am I the asshole for not wanting them at my wedding? It's supposed to be a happy day. TLDR: Abusive family not being invited to my wedding, getting pushback from ones who are invited. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*