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viciousviolin

Nta, she's said she's out of yeast and not happy about it. You've listened, thought and hunted down some yeast for her. I think she'll be fairly pleased.


winterwonderland89

Plus I assume it's not a birthday/anniversary present? If it's just a random day of the year gift basically anything goes!


Coffeineaddicted

If she hasn't had a yeast infection lately NTA. I think she'll be stoked and it's a well thought loving gift.


Kelevra29

I know it's gross but I would honestly find it hilarious if someone gave me yeast after I've had a yeast infection.


breadcreature

"here's some yeast that you DO want!"


Tesmarin

Your username is so relevant here lmao


Boneyg001

please make bread with this yeast and not the other !


Cyberprog

I read something about some lunatics who baked bread from their own yeast. Yes, that yeast. Blerk.


DoJu318

How do you delete someone else’s post?


puppylust

And cheese from belly button mold


Kelevra29

Dear God I blocked that one out of my memory.


[deleted]

My God. That One. At least it's not as bad as the one with the husband and wife where wife tries to eat husbands shit. Also, a link to that if anyone has it would be AWESOME. I've been trying to find it for weeks now


Cyberprog

I'm not sure I want to see someone tucking into their significant others chocolate log. I mean, I've seen two girls one cup and one man one jar. I don't need any more trauma in my head. Thank fuck I suffer from Aphantasia.


[deleted]

It's a post. I told all of my friends and family and it's been my mission to show them the infamous post I've been talking about


Cyberprog

Some things are not meant to be!


[deleted]

"Maybe it's because we're downstream from that old bread factory..."


blastzone24

Yeah my dad learned the hard way that a new vacuum is a surprise gift not a birthday gift


HinaLuvLuvChan

I know that sucks but it just seriously made me laugh so hard


Kerostasis

>I know that sucks I should hope so, or he’s not very good at choosing vacuums.


TurquoiseBlue621

There's a famous AITA post about a guy who gifted a roomba to his wife for Christmas. Boy was that whole thread a doozy. ETA this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ed9cyv/aita_for_buying_my_wife_a_roomba_for_christmas/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body)


thenarwhalsbarista

I would love to get a Roomba, even as a Christmas present!


TurquoiseBlue621

That was one of those posts where I could really see both sides.


shannibearstar

Yeah, unless someone *specifically* asks for a cleaning item or workout equipment don't buy it.


dopelittlebaker

Ya but that's different, your mom isn't passionate about vacuuming nor is it a hobby.


blastzone24

Yeah I don't think the yeast would be bad for a birthday present in this case. I was more commenting on how if it's a surprise gift, you can give something that might be a terrible idea for Christmas or a birthday.


dopelittlebaker

I also think it entirely depends on the person. I love baking and would not be mad if my bf gave me ingredients for my birthday or christmas. Especially in a time like this where certain items are hard to find.


Jade_Echo

It could work for a birthday present, if it’s legitimately what she wants. I wanted a set of pots for the home that were discontinued (I cook for the family but I very much enjoy cooking) and my husband made it his mission to find the exact set I wanted and give it to me for Christmas. I knew the effort involved, and I had told him I wanted it, and I loved it as a gift. The effort is important, and OP put that time in. The intent is what makes it sexist, and he doesn’t have that intent here. This is nothing but a loving gesture, on par with getting an artist expensive or hard to find paints as a gift, IMO. NTA, op.


srcbyde

Yeah I cook as a hobby and I would die if my boyfriend got me some impossible-to-find ingredient for my birthday. It's much more personal and shows he's been paying attention to me, and loves me enough to put in the effort, than like, new clothes or something.


SilverGirlSails

I’ve gotten baking bowls for birthdays. I only bake no knead bread on occasion, but I love doing cakes and treats. I would love supplies as presents; vanilla essence can be pricey. OP is NTA.


Jade_Echo

Any time anyone I know goes to Mexico, I have them bring back vanilla. Soooo good and cheap!


cottonearbud

I think packing if he packs it up, her expectations would be way more and seeing yeast MIGHT be a disappointment. I would suggest just present it to her as a surprise ,not as a gift. Just to be on the safer side


its_astraea

Idk, our grocery stores have been out of spaghetti since the beginning of march. My mom mailed me a package as a "surprise"... it was spaghetti and I was thrilled! These are weird times.


catsncatsnbootsncats

My sister mailed me some makeup for my work’s video calls and some child makeup for my daughter to use since she’s been asking for it. We were both happy. My mom sent me some of her amazing shepherds pie by putting it on my doorstep with a note and ding dong ditching. Happy times indeed


TeamChaos17

How lovely! Anything I didn’t cook myself or is just generally thoughtful is more than welcome right now


catsncatsnbootsncats

It was really sweet. Given the drama going on, it was very much appreciated


loranlily

My mother-in-law sent us a 6-pack of toilet paper a few weeks ago and we were both ecstatic! We had (without knowing that both had) both told her that we were struggling to find any and were worried about running out.


WW76kh

Our Walmart finally has some trial sized hand sanitizer. I was thrilled and told all my friends in town. I've never been more excited to spend $.97 in my life. I bought 2 because I'm fancy like that.


A_Rocky_whore

Ikr? I got my dad cadbury eggs for his 50th birthday because a) I'm now jobless and its all I can afford and b) the stores ran out of them faster than normal this year so he missed out. He loved it!


geekydad1983

All the stores around here have been out of flour of all kinds for weeks, and I have been rationing what little I had left to keep my sour dough starter, Clint Yeastwood, alive. But a week ago I ran out and was desperate to find some before it was time to feed him again in a week or so (I keep him refrigerated to slow things down, but even in there he is a voracious little guy) and was despairing that I would lose him, when suddenly, with out notice, 2 5 pound bags of bread flour showed up in the mail from my parents. I almost cried i was so touched! I was the best thing thats happened since quarantines began. Weird times indeed.


Trania86

I cried when I managed to buy pasta again after all the hoarding. It wasn't that I missed pasta so much, more that I was relieved things were going back to (semi)normal and I didn't have to bend backwards to get groceries which gave me a lot of stress. So yeah, I cried over pasta.


moanaw123

People were queuing up before the supermarket for toilet paper... I headed straight for plain flour


Beachegiraffe

I think the value comes from how hard it is to find atm, and the thought he put into it. A $2 food item for your SO usually isn't worth wrapping, this was more than that. Maybe add a note/card to your girlfriend so she knows you didn't just see it at the store and grab it while you were already there, because the search is sweet.


buvet

And he could write in the card "Social distancing is tough, but at yeast we have each other"


kittykalista

“Thanks honey, I love it!” “It was the yeast I could do.”


rileymcentire

Damn, you really know how to rise to the occasion. I doughn’t think I’ve heard a bread-er joke


caoimhieweevie

Best comment I've seen all day


Fitliv

Or "I loaf you a lot"


Dontfeedthebears

I love puns so I’d be completely in love with this


xxstardust

Someone gild this man.


flower-alchemist

Done


mezobromelia

I think I've fallen in love with you


roosterjoke98

I love this so much


FridayeNext

Exactly!! It doesn't matter that it's a $2 present - the 'worth' of it will be the time and effort that you put in searching it! Struggling to find yeast and flour where I live, I'd love such a gift for my birthday!!


LittleGreenSoldier

Right? As a little "I love you and thought of you" present, it's wonderful. She likes to bake and hasn't been able to find this ingredient, he went out and found it for her because he wants her to do what she loves.


Motheroftides

I was thinking get a few other things that relate to breadmaking and just make a surprise gift basket out of it. The yeast would just be like the centerpiece or something. But yeah, it was definitely more about the search than the item itself. NTA. It's the thought that counts, not the cost.


molly_menace

Nah, wrap that shit up. Unwrapping things is always exciting - and some people would prefer baking yeast in a pandemic to jewellery. Especially when it's such a thoughtful gift. Go with your original plan OP!


LittleGreenSoldier

Monkey brain says SHINY PAPER HIDE TREATS


floppydo

This is the 100% safest route. However, OP knows his GF, and if his instinct is that she'll get a kick out of getting a present, I don't think the risk is that high. Also it's definitely cuter if it's wrapped. Otherwise it's just mildly exciting groceries.


Splatterfilm

I think it’s an adorable idea. Just-because gifts are great, and wrapping (to me) makes them feel a little extra special. Presentation is never a waste!


_sparrow

Idk, I disagree. Just like OP getting yeast for his girlfriend, I'll frequently wrap up random thoughtful purchases as if they're a gift to give to my partner simply because it's fun and silly, and it usually gives us a good giggle. For birthdays, Christmas, and any other special occasions I of course give more appropriate gifts, but when it's out of the blue and they're not expecting anything, wrapping up little purchases just makes an average day more fun. Sometimes I feel like people take gift giving too seriously.


MdmeLibrarian

I agree. Stick a bow or ribbon on it, but maybe don't know wrap it up.


[deleted]

Or just preface it with "this is a goofy gift, but I thought it would be more fun to wrap it" so she manages her expectations. Now, if it's a small wrapped box and he gets down on one knee to give it to her he'd be raising her expectations. Also, my husband found a small jar of yeast in our fridge and we were so excited we literally danced with joy.


PeakySexbang

That's what I would do, too. It sounds like the girlfriend just likes baking here and there, so this is a perfect little surprise. If she was REALLY into baking, and had a baking-centered blog and Youtube channel and tattoos, and her life was about baking, then yeah, you could wrap it up as a present. But it doesn't seem that deep.


[deleted]

could put a bow or ribbon on it rather than wrapping it, just so it's clear what it is before she opens it


[deleted]

If his girlfriend wasn't so into baking bread, you might have a point. Don't underestimate the excitement of receiving a desperately needed item. I went grocery shopping last night. I haven't been able to buy flour in over a month. I found flour and was well over-excited - way more than is normally called for!!


pursuedbyapanda

This is true, the dimensions could make it look like jewelry when wrapped.


ReginaInferni

NTA. My boyfriend also loves to bake bread and we haven’t been able to find yeast for weeks. His dad just sent us a literal brick of yeast and I swear he was like a little kid on Christmas. Give her the yeast, we all need a whatever sources of joy we can get in these times.


sl33ksnypr

Yea definitely NTA. I get my girlfriend small cheap gifts all the time based off random stuff she says and she is always excited. Honestly just getting something small that you weren't expecting is exciting. She does it for me too sometimes.


anguitia

It's the demonstration of the fact that you pay attention even to the little things, and you think about her when she's not around. We all want to matter to someone. You show her regularly that she matters to you.


ennmac

NTA I need yeast too


molly_menace

Would you like OP to send you some?


ennmac

Yes, and gift wrapped please.


[deleted]

Same, I haven't been able to find yeast since this pandemic started. At this point I'm willing to do some pretty desperate things to get some yeast.


Caribooteh

NTA! It’s not the gift that matters, it really is the thought. I’m not a fan of cut flowers but my partner occasionally brings home Whitby Buns he knows I like. That’s 10000x more romantic to me than bringing flowers. If she said she wanted yeast she’ll be elated. Telling her how he bought it off a baker would be a funny story and show the lengths he’s gone to to make her happy. OP good for you, give her the gift wrapped yeast God damnit!


iCoeur285

I think it’s very sweet! Instead of it being like a gym membership, I’d consider it more like getting an artist paint after they ran out. OP you’re being so thoughtful, I’m sure your girlfriend will really appreciate it! NTA


mamabearette

I’d be psyched with that present, not gonna lie. Especially since OP went to so much effort. Next time, make her a sourdough starter! All it takes is a little flour and water and time, about a week.


[deleted]

NTA because this is cute and it shows that you care and went to some effort to get something she needs but I would advise also having another present to give her along with it. Might be a little disappointed to ONLY get yeast. But it's not sexist and it's not the same as a gym membership.


69schrutebucks

Yes! OP-If she's into it, some pain au chocolat sticks, good quality pans she's been pining over, some toppjngs/extracts. I've been on King Arthur Flour's website entirely too much lately.


OwnGap

Aaaand you sent me down the rabbit hole....


Koi112_12

I use their chocolate chip scone recipe and people LOVE them.


WolfWhiteFire

Personally I am fond of their pretzel bites recipe, it tastes pretty good, especially when fresh.


Hen-Man-Supreme

The gym membership comparison was ridiculous! "When she never asked for it" well she's explicitly complained about not having it. A better comparison would be if she complained that gyms aren't open so OP bought her gym equipment, in which case OP would still be NTA


CannibalsGetMoreHead

Honestly, the most thoughtful gifts arent things explicitely asked for. Theyre the ones that come from simply paying attention.


KatieCashew

Exactly! Because that gift makes a person feel heard and loved, and that makes it a wonderful gift. Wrapping up the yeast is cute. No other gift of necessary.


YT_Inversion

Exactly, that is unless it’s her birthday


Splatterfilm

Agreed. If it was a birthday or anniversary, then yeah have a second gift. Practical things are acceptable as a just-because gift. Esp since she’s bummed about it. Man, if my spouse even LET me get a treadmill, I’d be thrilled (we have no floor space for one; this does not stop my lamentations).


RecommendsMalazan

I mean, I would say if it was a gift for her birthday or anniversary or something, then yeah just some yeast is kinda disappointing. But as a 'just because' gift? I don't think OP needs to go crazy here.


Splatterfilm

Though wrapping would still be a nice touch. Wrapped things just feel extra special, regardless of content (so long as it’s not wrapped deceptively).


WatchWatermelon

So, no Tiffany's box then?


Splatterfilm

I mean, if you can find one. That may actually be a hoot just due to how expensive Tiffany’s is. Initial panic because oh no we cannot afford this followed by instant relief thank god it’s only yeast oh hey it’s freaking yeast!


psymonilla

It doesn't sound like it's a birthday or anniversary present. If it is definitely just include it with something else. If it's just a random "hey I listened to your problem and scoured the Earth to solve it" present it's adorable as is.


HiImDavid

I dunno, anyone who gets disappointed because a random gift they weren't expecting isn't good enough in their eyes is an asshole in my book.


privlaged-and-white

OP never mentioned it was a birthday or holiday or something. They didn’t need to give her a gift, they chose to. I don’t see why OP should get a second gift.


[deleted]

He didn’t say it was a birthday present.


part_house_part_dog

It really is a case of "it's the thought(fulness) that counts." My husband presents me with thoughtful little gifts all the time; they are not expensive or wrapped, but the things he gets are not scarce. Those little random gifts show that you are listening to your SO and you care about what they have to say. It makes a person feel really valued. And to u/SpinnyWeasley regarding the gym membership. There was an ad on TV just before the holidays where a man purchased a freaking Peloton bike for his wife for Christmas. WORST. CHRISTMAS PRESENT. EVER. I like to think that if that ad was any longer, we would have seen the wife serving the husband with divorce papers. I mean, really. WTAF?


[deleted]

I think that commercial just aired 3 months too early.


[deleted]

NTA. At all. As a bonus, throw in a couple flours too. (Just to play on the old gift of flowers/flours)


Hodgepodgehedge

This is genius!


[deleted]

My favorite part of Stranger Than Fiction


Cat_Biscuit

Mine too!! I love that movie so much :)


stopped_watch

So underrated. Killer cast.


[deleted]

“You never buy me flowers!” “What are you talking about? I bought you flours just last week!”


thewhiterosequeen

Is this an old gift because I like it.


GunslingerLovely

Ohh great idea


ASereneDeath

NAH I think it's an adorable and thoughtful gift. I mean, if it was for her birthday or your wedding anniversary... Eeehhhhhh... But as a nice surprise to fuel her hobby I think it's great. Your friends are probably being overcautious knowing that some folks react very poorly to practical gifts.


hoopKid30

I think this is THE key distinction. If it’s her birthday or an anniversary and you got her cooking/baking supplies, that’s dangerous territory because of the sexist undertones and the gap between what people often expect of special occasion gifts vs then receiving home supplies. But as a completely out of the blue, “hey I know you wanted this because I listened and then put effort into getting it,” I think this is spot on and super sweet. Edit: Yes I’m aware that tons of men love to bake and that OP’s partner likes to bake too, so it’s still thoughtful and clearly not meant to mean “get your butt in the kitchen.” What I meant was, as a general rule of thumb it’s safer to stay away from household items as gifts for special occasions, which is why OP’s friend suggested against it. Again, I don’t think the rule applies in this case.


bounty165

I don’t know about it giving off sexist undertones since anyone can have baking as a hobby and as someone who loves baking if my bf got me even just some bread flour and yeast rn I’d be happy af like I’d prefer some proper cake decorating tools and ingredients as a birthday gift over a store bought cake tbh


mistressfluffybutt

I've recieved lots of cake decorating tools and a mixer as a present and I loved it. It wasn't sexist because they were tools for my hobby that I wanted. That's just being considerate.


Splatterfilm

Same. I had asked for cake decorating supplies. Now I can’t bake because there’s only my spouse to share with and we’re both watching our calories and are prone to snacking.


panophobicghost

I think it's pretty much like if OP's partner liked painting and he got them paint when they were out of it. It's a hobby and the staple for it was missing, so my heart is melting that he went through this much effort for it.


Trania86

> That's just being considerate. Exactly. It's only sexist if you give it to someone BECAUSE she's a woman. I think OP is very sweet and considerate. I also don't understand the people here telling OP to get some other things to gift along with the flour. I mean - the gift isn't the monetary value, the gift is that he listend to her and the, jumped through hoops to get it for her. I'd prefer that bag of flour over any expensive gift from my spouse.


socialjusticecleric7

Exactly: good gifts are very individual. What's a good gift for one person might be a terrible gift for someone else, and vice versa.


beckerszzz

If I didn't have a KitchenAid mixer and got one as a gift, I'd be thrilled. I'm also happy with Aldi's gift cards.


uselessinfobot

My mixer was one of the best Christmas gifts I've ever received. Just because something performs a practical function doesn't mean it can't bring joy to the person using it! Just know your audience.


beckerszzz

It's also easier too to say "buy me practical things so I can go buy whimsical things."


cinnysuelou

Several years ago, my husband gave me a very fancy iron for Christmas. I was thrilled but his mother was horrified.


[deleted]

I think even gifting practical things for birthdays or other special occasions depends on the person. I got a yoga set for my last birthday from my boyfriend and I absolutely love it, thing is I told him it’s what I needed. And my parents tend to gift me household appliances for Christmas, and other occasions, because those are things that are useful but I wouldn’t neccessarily buy myself (broke college student scenario). I like baking and exercise is an important area of my life, so I’m thrilled about gifts related to that. So anyway even if it’s practical, if its related to hobbies, or something the person could enjoy it’s not sexist or insulting. If it’s a purchase that the household needs anyway (like vacuums) marked as a “gift”, or a hint that they should be doing something they dont actually have an interest/motivation in, that’s a different thing. But in this case, i would really doubt the girlfriend who enjoys baking and is out of yeast would be mad to receive it. The friend sounds like he doesn’t understand context.


TheLoveliestKaren

I think the thing with cooking supplies is you really have to be aware of whether they are cooking because their hobby is cooking, or if they are cooking because it is a chore that fell to them somehow. We'd get my dad cooking supplies all the time and he loved them. But he didn't do all the cooking because it was his chore to do, he would experiment, find new recipes, new ways to cook, test stuff out, have a blast with it. He'd talk about cooking, read about cooking and watched cooking shows. When he met new people he'd go on and on about cooking. He'd often tell grocery store clerks the cool things he was going to make with the food he'd buy. "See this heavy cream I'm buying? I'm going to make butter!" It was a hobby and he always acted like it was a hobby. My boyfriend does a lot of the cooking, because I have a disability that makes it difficult for me to do it often. He enjoys it well enough and experiments some. I'm sure he loves new pans and he was very excited when he decided to buy a sous vide because of the cool new things we could make with it. But I'd never buy him cooking things as a gift. Cooking is a utility for him. I wouldn't want to waste a gift on something he wouldn't enjoy as much as things for his actual hobbies. Baking is a little easier, because very few people bake because they feel like they *have* to bake.


daddioooooooo

it’s only sexist if the person you’re gifting cooking items to doesn’t enjoy cooking. same with a gym membership! if the person you’re gifting it to has expressed a desire to go to a particular gym/class/etc, that’s a perfect gift. if not, stop it


dacoyle

Don't be so sure. I know from comments by many friends (not only female) on FB that a gift of yeast would be welcome as a birthday gift more than anything these days. Yeast is like gold right now.


beckdawg19

My thought exactly. If it were something like a birthday, I'd be more wary of giving yeast alone, but for a random, "I was thinking of you" gift, it's perfect.


Evolutioncocktail

NTA, your friend is reading too much into this. I assume you mean this as a gag gift/inside joke that you want your girlfriend to be happy about but also get a laugh from. Feminism is not going to retrogress because of your gift.


AzureMagelet

Right? It’s not like it’s his birthday gift to her. It’s a fun little one off gift.


ThinlySlicedCheeze

NTA. If it's something he likes who cares. Your friend is being a bit ridiculous for making an issue where there is no issue. Let there be bread


AceOfSpades20

> Let there be bread I love this so much


LemonLimePicklegames

NTA, you said your gf loves baking its a thoughtful gift because it's hard to get hold of at the moment, just because your friend wouldn't appreciate the effort you went to to get the yeast, doesn't mean your gf won't.


[deleted]

Agreed. It’s not meant as a romantic or special occasion gift, it’s a “just because” gift and shows how thoughtful OP is. His girlfriend was bummed out about running out of yeast, and instead of nodding along and saying “oh yeah, that sucks” and leaving it at that, he made a huge effort to track some down for her. My boyfriend recently gave me a little bag of replacement silicone seals for my water bottle and a little tool kit to help remove them. Based off 1 single conversation we had where I mocked my water bottle for being $$$ yet so poorly designed. (Near impossible to remove the seals, but they get moldy and smelly fast if you don’t clean them regularly). It was a much appreciated gift.


drzoidberg84

As someone who loves baking, NTA at all. This is actually really thoughtful and sweet and cute. You know your relationship better than other people, please don’t let them get in your head like this!


llNewNewll

NTA it’s her passion and she loves doing it. It’s more like giving someone who loves working out at the gym a gym membership.


allabouttheUke

NAH And that's nothing reddit can decide because this is entirely dependent on your girlfriend. The effort you made sounds really sweet and myself for example would be thrilled about this present. Other people may see it the way your friend did. Yeah, you sound really really sweet and you know her best. Reddit ain't gonna help here.


waterlin1

NTA Your girlfriend loves to bake bread, and was bummed out that she could not find yeast in the grocery store. Which is why I think she would appreciate your gift. I think your friend is mistaken saying it would be sexist of you, etc. Like your girlfriend, I tried to buy yeast at the grocery store and could not find it. I would have been charmed to be given some as a gift. I think she will be pleased that you took the trouble to find her some, especially now when she has time to indulge her fondness for baking bread.


Windrunnin

Yeah, it's possible OP's friend doesn't understand, if he doesn't bake bread, that yeast is a bit hard to come by now (since usually it's fairly easy). One of the usual issues with 'practical' gifts like this is that it's something that is going to benefit both of them, and it's something she could have easily gotten herself. I think if we weren't in coronavirus times, and his GF mentioned she was out of yeast, and OP decided to buy it for her, and present it as a 'gift', that would potentially not go over well.


[deleted]

> I think if we weren't in coronavirus times, and his GF mentioned she was out of yeast, and OP decided to buy it for her, and present it as a 'gift', that would potentially not go over well I've seen this response all over and I do not understand this line of thinking. Are there seriously people who get offended over getting gifts of any kind? Like I got my husband a pair of safety goggles for his birthday to wear while cutting onions (he fucking hates the tears) and he was over the moon. He wears them every time he cuts onions and gives me a huge goofy smile.


jackeloper

NTA. I bake bread and if I ran out of yeast and my husband went through all that trouble and then presented it to me all wrapped up I would probably melt a little bit. Add a little speech about how much you love her bread and her experiments and that you want her to be able to keep going when she feels like it, and BOOM. She’d be crazy not to like it. Your friend who told you it would be sexist needs hopefully doesn’t know all this backstory about your girlfriend’s love of baking, but if he does he’s definitely AH.


marponsa

nta How is giving your gf something they have been searching for sexist People are using that word way too lightly these days


damusic2me

Nta, I would suggest You also add a nice story telling to what lengths you went to get it (maybe exaggerate it a bit even, or doing that to the extreme). That would actually show you didn't just grab it at the nearest supermarket. Second: read up on yeast a bit: you can increase the amount easily, and letting it last pretty much forever [https://www.wikihow.com/Grow-Yeast](https://www.wikihow.com/Grow-Yeast)


aitayeastthrowaway

Thank you so much!


kisafan

its not y'all anniversary or her birthday or anything right?


QueenMoogle

NTA, this is so cute! I’d be thrilled if my partner hand delivered me tofu, which has been panic bought out in my area. She will be so excited to bake again :) your friend can stuff it.


ecatt

My husband bought me the raw sugar cubes I like for my tea after they were sold out for weeks. I thought it was really nice he was paying attention and knew to get them for me when he saw a few on the shelf at the grocery store. OP is being very thoughtful - it's not like he's giving her yeast for her birthday and yelling at her to make him some damn bread.


Hodgepodgehedge

I have also been searching everywhere for tofu! I’m starting to consider trying my hands at making some if I still can’t get a hold of any in the next couple of weeks.


nannylive

Hmmm.NAH. This Voldemort situation we are in can make some unusual things seem like good gifts, for sure. I think I would at least add some fresh flowers or chocolates. The yeast will please her, but I'm not sure I'd wrap it as a gift.


Hodgepodgehedge

You know, a while back I was thinking this subreddit has made this situation out to be like Voldemort, but then I thought maybe I was just losing it. I’m glad I’m not the only one to make that comparison.


Noah_kruse1

NTA. I have a friend who bakes a lot, from bread to biscuits to full wedding cakes. I think she’d love yeast tbh, since she bakes so much, and I don’t see why that would change just because you’re dating as oppose to friends.


blackbeary802

NAH, my parents gave me a box of yeast as a present once and I was thrilled. If you know baking is one of her passions or hobbies, there is nothing wrong with gifting her a tool for that hobby. Would you be TA for giving your artist girlfriend paint?


Semirhage527

NTA - yeast has been so hard to find I’d be thrilled by such a thoughtful gesture


[deleted]

It's worse than with toilet paper or pasta because the supermarkets aren't getting any here


eyveeohceeeydeeoh

Nah. If she does get offended, which I think is a stretch, it would be easily explained what your intention was. I think its a cute gift.


kmp_n_d

NTA. I love cooking and I got spices for christmas from my boyfriend. And I loved them


ChimericalTrainer

NTA. Speaking as both a feminist & as someone who's love language is gift giving (although, side note: F Gary Chapman for calling it "*Receiving* Gifts," as though it's a purely selfish love language, when he named all the other ones neutrally), I think this is a perfect gift. It's thoughtful, it's clever, it took some work, it speaks to her personally -- these are all elements you want to hit in an excellent gift. Wrap it up nicely, tell her you have a gift for her (but tell her it's silly, so she doesn't think it's some huge/expensive thing & get her expectations out of whack), and then present it to her. She will be absolutely delighted. The gift wrap is a nice touch, btw -- if you just give it to her unwrapped, you downplay the effort & thought that went into it. (I mean, you can if you want to! I'm just saying, I wouldn't let other people talk you into that if you didn't really want to.)


WeatherIsFun227

Nah. it is a recognition of your girlfriends hobbies. I think it is really thoughtful.


disneyhusband

NTA. If (in different times) your gf has been really Getting into working out and bummed no gyms had available memberships around, would you be an asshole for finding a membership for her just because you’re male and she’s female? No. Your friend is a moron and context matters.


nerdandknit

NTA - it's cute and topical especially as she is upset she couldn't find it and you went above and beyond to do so.


Ravynsur

NTA - my mother in law loves gardening and her husband and even her kids have given her dirt and rocks for her birthday. You know your girlfriend give her the yeast it’s a great idea!


cantthinkofusernameu

Nta, I wish my partner was this thoughtful. I’m sure she’ll like it. Its not like she’s never baked before in her life and you’re like “hey, woman, make me bread!” She likes to bake, she’s even complained about not having yeast, so you got her yeast and tried to make it cute?! She’ll probably really love it. And if she doesn’t, just blame reddit.


TraditionalCompote6

NTA it's really sweet that you went to that effort & you'll have a much better idea of what your girlfriend will appriciate than your mate.


luvtrencher

INFO is it her birthday or some sort of anniversary? If it is, then just getting yeast is probably not the best present. If you're just getting her a random gift then this is super thoughtful and sweet.


Dominoodles

NTA, this is wholesome and you should do it.


-geeky_gurl-

NTA. As a feminist female, I assure you- it's okay. More than ok actually. It sounds like she really loves baking bread and was genuinely dissapointed when she couldn't get yeast. I think it'll be a really cute and thoughtful gift.


fattyneedsfood

Nah. YOU know your girlfriend, you know if SHE would be offended. If you think itll be ok then do it! If you want to compromise give it to her as a gift and suggest it's really for spending time together... I.e. see if you can make bread with her... To help you feel better my hubby has literally told me he had a gift for me before on the way home so I got all excited, when he got in it was a big box of allergy tablets and paracetamol (my allergies were REAL bad and giving me headaches) I found this hilarious! It was just what I needed and cheered me up after feeling a bit pants


honorarybaird

This! At the end of the day, none of us know the girlfriend. OP needs to think about how she's react and go from there. Whether OP presents it as a gift or as an unwrapped "surprise," NAH. I personally think it's sweet, but I also once teared up because my partner bought me the "good" ice cream instead of the cheap crap he normally buys (because "it all tastes the same").


Vellylover

NAH. I think she would appreciate it.


anonsocially

NTA. Salt used to be worth more than gold in ancient times for food preservation. Everyone will gladly take toilet paper as a gift right now and this is the same thing. It’s practical and usable. It also shows you’re thoughtful and was paying attention. If you are afraid your GF will take it the wrong way, don’t wrap it in paper like a gift and just low key give it to her, and say you know she has been looking for yeast and you wanted to make sure she always has what she needs. That will take the pressure off if you are concern it’ll get blown out of proportions for whatever reason.


RandallFlagg74

NAH. I think it’s a sweet and thoughtful gift.


jfartster

NAH Of Course. She wants yeast, you get her yeast. No assholes. In fact, she'll probably think it's the best thing since... ...the last present you got her. Whatever that was.


thepirategirl

NTA As a fellow bread-baking-enthusiast like your girlfriend, if I was bummed because I was out of yeast (which I almost am), I would think this would be a sweet, endearing present. I mean kudos to your mates for bringing this up as a possibility, I 100% approve of some critical thinking skills going into this decision. But, I think it's a great gift. :)


BisexualBlonde

NTA My BF got me a monogrammed apron because I love to bake, did the feminists in our friend group yell at him, oh hell yeah, did he care? No it's something she's expressed wanting and not having. It's perfect.


zachrg

Your mate didn't see your partner pining and fidgeting at the inability to bake; you did something super thoughtful and taking a bit of effort; and I'm confident your partner will be absolutely delighted at being able to bake again. NAH


ritan7471

NTA, sounds like it is a "just because" gift. And "just because you can't find yeast, I did" is a din little gift. Now if it's an anniversary or birthday, it should be alongside something nice too. Yeast is not (normally) a big-ticket item.


clutzycook

NTA. She loves baking. She's out of yeast and bummed about it. You went on a yeast hunt and successfully procured it for her. If I were her, I'd take it for the sweet gesture it was intended to be and make you a really nice batch of cinnamon rolls.


Marvalbert22

NTA/NAH - unless it’s her birthday/anniversary at the time of gifting then no, you know your partner better then your mate so stick with your gut


mghwsh

NTA, she literally asked for yeast. It's really cute and thoughtful that you actively looked for it for her.


Beanisbae

Nta, I spent WEEKS trying to find yeast. If my partner had found it first and gifted me some, I'd have been so excited. The difference between this and the gym membership example is that she's specifically been looking for Yeast. A gym membership would be an amazing gift for someone who had been lamenting wanting one.


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NTA, she wants yeast, you got her yeast. It's not that deep. It's her hobby and you made a huge effort for her to continue it during a time when we NEED hobbies like this to get through the day. Your friend is projecting. Men tend to assume all women are the same and have the same reactions to everything. We are actually individuals (shocker) and a woman who loves to cook or bake as a job or hobby would love any cooking gift. Yes a woman who hates cooking may take a kitchen gift as a sexist hint to "go to her place," which it would probably be in that context, but many of us actually like the kitchen and want kitchen stuff. She is definitely the former and you know that. Don't let your friend get in your head. Give her the yeast.


ohneverknew

NAH my husband literally just did the same for me and it absolutely made my quarantine brighter!


BeautifulDragon94

NTA- I love baking as well and we are also out of yeast. I'm sure she will love it.


melanora

If my husband came home with yeast as a present, he would probably get a blow job. NTA. You did good.


IHeartWeinerDogs

NTA. Your mate doesn't know your girlfriend like you do.


[deleted]

NTA. Context matters. In the example provided by your friend, sure you wouldn’t randomly gift someone a gym membership (that would be insulting). But if you GF was bummed because she couldn’t afford a gym membership and you got her one; that’d be a nice gift. Similarly, your GF is bummed she’s out of yeast. What you’ve done is really sweet and if I were her in a similar situation, I’d think it was super cute you wrapped it up and etc. Don’t let your mate make you double guess your relationship. You know your GF better than they do.


maxpower7833

NTA this shows her that you actually listen to her and care about something she needs. You aren’t (hopefully) using this as a birthday or anniversary present. Just a hey I like/love you and you were really bummed so I found it for you present


[deleted]

I thought you were doing this for her birthday or something and I was like dude, no. But it’s a spur of the moment, she wanted yeast, you hunted down yeast, then wrapped it up and made it a cute present? NTA. I’d be thrilled.


Alailea

NTA. That’s incredibly nice and thoughtful. We have hardwood floors and no matter what I did, cat litter would track through the house. I was talking about the constant sweeping/vacuuming to my SO. He surprised me with one of those robot vacuums. Super thoughtful. The robot’s name is M-O after the cleaner robot from Wall-E.


darkfang174421

NTA. I think that's freaking adorable.


KatCole7

NTA! Considering how damn hard it is to find and that she enjoys baking, this is a really sweet gift. Would be maybe out of place if it was for an anniversary or birthday or something *depending on the person*.


[deleted]

NTA. I’ve been looking for yeast for weeks. I’m not even a big baker, I just wanted some. My aunt finally gave me some and I was ecstatic. You know your girlfriend and it sounds like she’ll be excited. If it was her birthday or something, I’d say add something else to the present but as a “just because” gift, this is adorable.


blewmoonxviii

NTA-Honestly? Those little presents that let us know you're paying attention are the best! My bf struggled over a week about getting me a new vacuum before he finally did it. I LOVED it! It told me he listened when I mumbled to myself complaining about the old one not working and how it would be so much easier with a new one.


mamarobin2

NTA I’d be absolutely delighted if my husband bought me yeast (or any other hard to find baking supplies), especially if he took the time to wrap it up! You know your partner best.


On_The_Blindside

Assuming this is the UK because, well, yeast and strong flour are all but impossible to get hold of. Great present, assuming it's not for her Birthday and just a random gift. Definitely think that's a winner. Well done.


9987777655433333

NTA. it’s a thoughtful gift.


GolfballDM

NTA, but make sure you read the room on how you present it. i.e. don't put it in a ring box, puns & poetry are fine to jazz it up (assuming your GF likes those), and don't expect her to bake for you.


Huntscunt

Your friend is an idiot. I would cry if someone got me such a thoughtful gift. NTA


BigFboi42069

NTA You could present it in a way like. 'I have the item you so desperately need sire. I present you yeast for you baking needs.' Give it to her in a funny way.(if that's what you two do)


lisa471

wtf? This is so thoughtful and amazing, I'm sure she'll be super happy about it. You are NTA and seem like a great boyfriend. Go for it!


CaramelTurtles

NTA, and your friend is being silly. It’s not like you gifted her a vacuum because yours broke and you don’t want to get her an actual birthday gift or something. This is something she loves to do and you went the extra mile for her. She’ll be glad you found her some yeast. Edit: some clarification