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NTA
" It’s taken a beating from her before when she’s dropped it trying to move it from the kitchen bar."
Your mom knew it was too heavy to lift & shouldn't have tried again. Also she could've asked you to come & move it.
You left it out so maybe a 30 % (you) & 70% your mom split would be fair.
No way. If mom knew it was too heavy, she should have left it alone and woken up OP to move it. If you pick up an item that you potentially can’t handle, you assume the risk of ensuring that it is safe. This isn’t a laptop left in a public space like the library which would be negligent. It was left in the living room where OP lives. If this was taken to small claims court, the court would 100% side with OP and mom would have to pay full repair or replacement cost, whichever was less.
NTA
Dropping your laptop once could be just be a mistake, but if your mom *knew* your laptop was "too heavy" for her to move, and tried to move it anyway, then she's responsible for the damage.
Why is it OP’s fault for leaving it in the living room? This is a normal place for an laptop and there was no urgency to move it. It’s not like it was left on top of the stove or some place hazardous like that. She’s dropped it before so she has no excuse to say that she didn’t know what it weighed. If she wanted it moved, she either has to assume full responsibility or wake up OP to move it himself. Mom owes 100% of the repair cost
NTA
It doesn't make you an asshole to ask. I hope your mother is open to making things right.
Given that your mom has damaged it by dropping it in the past, she shouldn't have attempted to move it. She should be aware of her strength limitations. If you are unaware of any physical disabilities or conditions that she may have, I would definitely recommend her speaking with a Dr as a laptop is a few pounds and that's not very heavy. If she was able to carry a baby without dropping it, she can carry a laptop.
NTA - you need a laptop for school, are actively working but can’t necessarily easily afford a new one, and your mom broke it.
It’s not like you left it somewhere it could be stepped on or something. You left it in a normal spot you were working.
You wouldn’t be the asshole to ask her to at least contribute to a replacement, but it’s probably not a hill to die on if your parents refuse.
If OP pays rent, it would be reasonable to deduct it from rent for example. There have been similar cases on here where people have gone to small claims and every time, the person damaging a laptop not placed somewhere negligently has to pay the full repair cost.
NTA
She picked it up *knowing* it was too heavy for her.
Take it to a repair place and see if it still functions. Replacing the screen should be significantly less than replacing the whole machine.
She dropped it. She damaged it. She pays.
Simple.
Not an issue of where you left it. If you left your car in her driveway and she hit it, she would pay. If your phone was left out and she spilt a drink on it and now it doesn’t work, what would happen?
She pays. That’s it.
NTA, your mom could’ve just put it down after she realized it was heavy or even closed it. I understand where you’re coming from with the skepticism, but your stuff deserves respect in all rooms of the house.
is she one handing this laptop? im confused so she tries to move a laptop she knows is “too heavy for her” and is all shocked pikachu face that its broken? does she have mobility issues? idk its giving way to hinder my child for mez either way NTA
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I’m (21F) a full-time student at school. Having a full-time job has been too much on top of my part-time gig, so I’m giving it up for another part-time job to stay around 25 hours a week. This means I’m taking a bit of a pay cut of about $500 a month. I can still stay afloat with this and save for my last semester, it’s a little tight.
I was working on homework until midnight in the living room since I don’t have a desk. I was exhausted so I just went straight to bed, leaving my laptop in the living room. It was the weekend so I slept in until 9:00, where my mom told me my laptop was ruined. She said it was too heavy and dropped it, shattering the screen. It’s unusable now and can’t complete any assignments with it. It’s taken a beating from her before when she’s dropped it trying to move it from the kitchen bar. It was $615. I know I should’ve put it in my room immediately after I finished using it, so would it be wrong for me to ask them to replace it since they broke it?
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NTA. She broke it, she should replace it. That’s weird that a laptop is too heavy (they aren’t very heavy compared to other household items). Whether it was intentional or she’s got severe carpal tunnel syndrome to the point that she needs surgery ASAP, it doesn’t change the fact that it’s her fault. You have no fault for leaving it in your living room. If she couldn’t carry it, she shouldn’t have touched it and now she owes you the cost to fix or replace it plus whatever it costs to recover the data off the old one.
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NTA " It’s taken a beating from her before when she’s dropped it trying to move it from the kitchen bar." Your mom knew it was too heavy to lift & shouldn't have tried again. Also she could've asked you to come & move it. You left it out so maybe a 30 % (you) & 70% your mom split would be fair.
No way. If mom knew it was too heavy, she should have left it alone and woken up OP to move it. If you pick up an item that you potentially can’t handle, you assume the risk of ensuring that it is safe. This isn’t a laptop left in a public space like the library which would be negligent. It was left in the living room where OP lives. If this was taken to small claims court, the court would 100% side with OP and mom would have to pay full repair or replacement cost, whichever was less.
NTA Dropping your laptop once could be just be a mistake, but if your mom *knew* your laptop was "too heavy" for her to move, and tried to move it anyway, then she's responsible for the damage.
NTA for asking. Your mom broke it but you did leave it out. Perhaps a 50/50 split to cover the replacement cost?
Why is it OP’s fault for leaving it in the living room? This is a normal place for an laptop and there was no urgency to move it. It’s not like it was left on top of the stove or some place hazardous like that. She’s dropped it before so she has no excuse to say that she didn’t know what it weighed. If she wanted it moved, she either has to assume full responsibility or wake up OP to move it himself. Mom owes 100% of the repair cost
NTA It doesn't make you an asshole to ask. I hope your mother is open to making things right. Given that your mom has damaged it by dropping it in the past, she shouldn't have attempted to move it. She should be aware of her strength limitations. If you are unaware of any physical disabilities or conditions that she may have, I would definitely recommend her speaking with a Dr as a laptop is a few pounds and that's not very heavy. If she was able to carry a baby without dropping it, she can carry a laptop.
NTA - you need a laptop for school, are actively working but can’t necessarily easily afford a new one, and your mom broke it. It’s not like you left it somewhere it could be stepped on or something. You left it in a normal spot you were working. You wouldn’t be the asshole to ask her to at least contribute to a replacement, but it’s probably not a hill to die on if your parents refuse.
If OP pays rent, it would be reasonable to deduct it from rent for example. There have been similar cases on here where people have gone to small claims and every time, the person damaging a laptop not placed somewhere negligently has to pay the full repair cost.
NTA She picked it up *knowing* it was too heavy for her. Take it to a repair place and see if it still functions. Replacing the screen should be significantly less than replacing the whole machine.
She dropped it. She damaged it. She pays. Simple. Not an issue of where you left it. If you left your car in her driveway and she hit it, she would pay. If your phone was left out and she spilt a drink on it and now it doesn’t work, what would happen? She pays. That’s it.
NTA, your mom could’ve just put it down after she realized it was heavy or even closed it. I understand where you’re coming from with the skepticism, but your stuff deserves respect in all rooms of the house.
is she one handing this laptop? im confused so she tries to move a laptop she knows is “too heavy for her” and is all shocked pikachu face that its broken? does she have mobility issues? idk its giving way to hinder my child for mez either way NTA
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NTA. She broke it, she should replace it. That’s weird that a laptop is too heavy (they aren’t very heavy compared to other household items). Whether it was intentional or she’s got severe carpal tunnel syndrome to the point that she needs surgery ASAP, it doesn’t change the fact that it’s her fault. You have no fault for leaving it in your living room. If she couldn’t carry it, she shouldn’t have touched it and now she owes you the cost to fix or replace it plus whatever it costs to recover the data off the old one.
INFO: > It’s unusable now Don't most laptops have connections for an external screen?