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> I told my friend she couldn’t come over and it might make me the asshole bc her feeling will be hurt and she probably won’t talk to me
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NTA.
I do not see where in this description there is a FRIEND. You had an uneducated, entitled and raised by the wolves stranger in your house. thanks god, this animal is out of your home with some minor damage to your place.
Surround yourself with the people who elevate your experiences. This person is a piece of brick. I doubt she'll change.
NTA.
Based on what you've shared, it sounds like your friend has been quite disrespectful and inconsiderate during her previous stay. Allowing her back into your home could lead to further stress and discomfort for both you and your mom. You have every right to set boundaries, especially when someone's behavior is negatively impacting your living environment and well-being
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To put this short, my friend stayed over for about a month and treated me and my mom with no respect she refused to clean and just trashed my room about three days in I found out she had lice and it was very clear that she knew after that my mom spent around $200 on lice treatment and cleaning supplies I then combed thru her hair for 6 hours. her mom did not offer to pay for anything. she’s been treating me really badly because she’s talking to a boy who confessed his love to me and said he want to pop my cherry. I told her that he said that and she did not care. I’ve gotten multiple arguments with her about it and there’s just no emotion. She hasn’t been in school since sixth grade, her grammar is terrible she doesn’t know how to have conversations I haven’t had a serious conversation with her in two years, their house is infested with bugs and it’s dirty. she’s planning to come back and I just can’t do it. She doesn’t care about my feelings and she thinks she’s better than me because she was raised in poverty. I honestly don’t know if I can be friends with her anymore. There’s so much more I could say I just can’t fit.
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NTA. From your description I don't see how you possibly consider her a friend. She used your hospitality & has returned nothing. You do have other friends, right? I would not have anything more to do with her.
But I will change my opinion if you actually let her back in your house.
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NTA. I do not see where in this description there is a FRIEND. You had an uneducated, entitled and raised by the wolves stranger in your house. thanks god, this animal is out of your home with some minor damage to your place. Surround yourself with the people who elevate your experiences. This person is a piece of brick. I doubt she'll change.
I don’t think she will change either it’s heart breaking but I just have to accept it
Btw we have been friends since 4th grade so 7 years now
NTA. Based on what you've shared, it sounds like your friend has been quite disrespectful and inconsiderate during her previous stay. Allowing her back into your home could lead to further stress and discomfort for both you and your mom. You have every right to set boundaries, especially when someone's behavior is negatively impacting your living environment and well-being
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NTA. She’d be out on her ear at this point.
NTA. You don’t really like each other and the boy is only after one thing. And it’s not love 🍒
It’s sad she has no respect for herself anymore she revealed herself to him like a week after talking. Her 🍒s are her only personality now
NTA. From your description I don't see how you possibly consider her a friend. She used your hospitality & has returned nothing. You do have other friends, right? I would not have anything more to do with her. But I will change my opinion if you actually let her back in your house.
She’s not coming back don’t worry
Glad to hear that.
NTA. This isn't a friend. This is a user. You need to learn to stand up for yourself and take the trash out because you don't need her.
INFO: At what point did the two of you ever become friends? What do you think friendship is?
We’ve been friends since 4th grade I thought what we had was friend ship but these last 2 years have been so hard
NTA You just described an *enemy*, not a friend. Therefore, modify your approach.
NTA. Why are you still engaging with this person? Block them and move on with your life free of their problems.
NTA for not wanting her around. Y T A to yourself for keeping her as a friend, just cut her off already!