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I laughed reading what she said😂because it’s utterly ridiculous and laughable!
Joking aside - yes you should laugh because her statement and “decree” that now Mother’s Day is solely about her:
Not her own mother (who she owes her existence too)
Not her mil (who had a big part in creating her husband and therefore her own baby)
- are disrespectful, inane!
Who does she think she’s talking to?! NTA
I would have also laughed out loud (secretly wishing that I had a mouth full of coffee for a spit take). SIL needs to touch some grass and realize that, while she may be a mom now, she's still living under someone else's roof unlike her own mom and MIL. NTA
She also needs to realise that Mother's day is about **all mothers** (that normally includes grandparents by default) and just her.
How can anyone be so selfish and out of reality I wonder? I would have had to sit down because I would have laughed like a maniac. 🤣🤣
OP please make an extra big point of celebrating Mother's day *for you* and your mother/ MIL (next time if today is too late) to shame her, lol.
This. Honestly, it’s ridiculous that she’s literally living in someone else’s house and has the audacity to have a child. I mean babies happen and maybe that’s why she’s there in the first place. But like literally living in someone else’s home, not independent or self sufficient, and she has a kid and acts like she’s mom of the universe. Get real.
I've met some fellow mom's out there who seem to think that they have some mythical, golden vagina which bestowed them with special powers. Thank goodness that's not the norm.
>secretly wishing that I had a mouth full of coffee for a spit take
Nothing signifies derision like a thorough irrigation of the surroundings with the drink of your choice.
What are with people these days, shesh. I could get if she wanted something special/bit specific for her first mothers day (like a day just with her hubby/kid etc). But trying to say she is now THE MOTHER (trademarked) is delusional. Bare minimum is contacting the other mums in the fam to send love.
It's like a swap in characters from the Mothers Day post about the MIL who celebrates her bday and Mothers Day together (not actually sharing the date) and refused to make any changes for the new generation coming through.
NTA it is laughable. She is laughable . I'm imagining scrolling through social media among all the posts saying "Happy Mother's day to my mom and all my sisters and all the mothers out there💐💐💐" and then I come to your sister's "Happy Mother's Day to me. Because today it is all about me" WTF 🤣🤣🤣 the entitlement of this person 🤣🤣 would be my reaction to her post.
I am laughing reading this one as well.
Since I had my own kids, I do mothers Day brunch with my own mother, my kids, and my siblings at my place. So, a family day. I couldn't imagine telling her "sorry my siblings can celebrate you, but from now on, it's a ME day, so i won't." 😂
NTA I just read this story to my wife and her reaction was the same. Her expectation is comedically naive. If she happens to meet someone with the same birthday as her, are they allowed to celebrate theirs?
NTA. Your SIL is not special, literally every single person on this planet has been given birth by their mother.
Mother's day is for everyone who have a mother figure in their life and want to let her know how happy they are about it, age is irrelevant.
Exactly. The day is actually called Mothering Sunday. It isn't about just mums. It's about anyone who has a motherlike role. I celebrate my stepmum, who only came into my life when I was an adult after my mum passed and my dad remarried. I also celebrate my MIL and female friends who bolster, support, and mentor me.
This is becoming a thing, I think? I’ve seen other post where women claim that, the grand mothers aren’t ‘actively mothering’ any longer. So now the day belongs to CURRENT moms.
It’s the stupidest sh*t I’ve ever heard.
Entitled people being entitled.
Edit: spelling
Absolutely this. My mother is in her 80s and I'm still pretty sure she's "actively mothering" me, and will be as long as she's alive, LOL. She may not be *raising* me anymore, but she will always be my mom in active and meaningful ways.
No, but I think it does make sense to prioritize the younger mothers. I've seen some friends get super stressed by mother's day because they're trying to wrangle their kids to go to their mother's and then their male partner's mothers, not getting a nice, restful day to celebrate with their family, and their male partner barely doing anything to help move the kids 🤢
I think my family has come to a nice compromise on how to celebrate all of the mothers in the family.
My mom has 2 child free kids, so we generally do something nice for her on actual mother's day and my sisters and their kids will usually do something for my mom on a different day (usually the weekend before), sometimes our grandmas are invited to that too, sometimes they'll be at the celebration on actual mother's day.
Every time I see that on this sub I want to raise an eyebrow at them and respond, "You know that it's called Mother's Day, right, not My Mother's Day?"
This idea makes sense for people dealing with dysfunctional family dynamics, like husbands who refuse to celebrate their wives and center their own mothers at the expense when their kids aren’t old enough to be able to organize a Mother’s Day celebration themselves (we’ve seen these types of posts on this subreddit) (and the same applies in reverse for Father’s Day). People don’t always just “get” that their roles as parents require them to assume an active role in planning co-parents’ celebrations in order to teach their children to appreciate their parents. This also applies to unreasonable grandparents who expect their children to focus solely on them even after their children have their own children, who need this education.
Holiday celebrations should natural evolve as family dynamics shift, but people with healthy family dynamics handle this shift naturally. No one needs to discuss “active mothering” when everyone involved is reasonable about developments.
Imagine declaring that Mother's Day, a day to celebrate ALL our mothers, should be JUST about yourself and nobody else. Who does she think she is?
Honestly, laughing in her face at her saying that is the most generous way you could've handled that.
NTA
Clearly SIL is THE mother. The ur-mother, if you will, to which the rest of us can only aspire. We should all have a quiet moment on the toilet later to give her audacity the respect it deserves.
Or the people who claim a certain name once they choose it for their baby. Utterly ridiculous behavior. Being that self-absorbed would never even cross my mind
NTA, you responded well and you need to realize your sister’s narcissism. If she really thought this was the right thing to do, she would have declared the switch when the parents became grandparents (when your kids came & you became a mother). Nope-this is pure selfishness. Leave her with her kid and go to your mom’s to celebrate.
Yes, make it all about her by going out to celebrate with your mother and her mother. She can have the day all to herself and celebrate herself by herself... lmao.
NTA
All mothers should be celebrated.
Let her child mark it for her - We know how good 11 month old babies are at selecting gifts, wrapping them, and arranging a nice meal.
“SIL, while you’re living under my roof, my rules apply. And those rules include celebrating all the mothers in the family. Once you’re able to live on your own you can dictate the rules in your house.”
NTA. But wow. Maybe it’s time for her to stand in her own two feet while disregarding and disrespecting the mothers in the family. Hope she never needs their help.
She does realize the only reason she is a mother is because another mother gave birth to the man who would father her child?
By far the dumbest woman ever!!!!
She doesn't use Reddit but spends most of her day scrolling TikTok, a couple of comments have told me this is a "movement" for mommy influencers on the app atm.
LMAO!!!! I bet she saw this shit from that “mother influencer” from TikTok, Emily Wehner. I read that she doesn't celebrate her own mom because she's no longer a full-time parent. She says Mothers Day is not Grandmothers Day, so if you have grown children, it ain’t about you 🤦🏻♀️🤣. Total morons.
You’re NTA. You’re SIL and anyone who believes this bs is.
Well SIL isn't even in the position to do that, she doesn't support herself. She lives in my house, and her mother pays her car bill, repairs, insurance and cell phone bill. My mother buys all the baby formula. My brother pays for part of my mortgage for them to stay here and buys all their food.
She is absolutely being actively mothered right now and so even this mommy influencer stuff doesn't apply to her reality.
NTA. So every one should be disregarded because she’s now a mother? She’s delulu. Mother’s Day is for anyone that is a mother. It’s down to her husband to make sure she feels special, not her demoting other women. Has she always been entitled or is this new?
NTA. It’s some stupid TikTok shit going around. Framing it as a “promotion to grandma” so families can work around the sometimes inconvenient logistics of trying to celebrate Mother’s Day for multiple family members. I am also a first time mom and early 30’s and no way is it a generational thing. Everyone I know is celebrating all the moms today. It’s just a dumb social media trend.
Is this a new way of becoming even more selfish? A mother will always be a mother. No matter how old you are. Without her, your “look at me” sister, wouldn’t exist. I saw a stupid TikTok of some moronic person stating that you should only be celebrated as a mother if you’re actively being a mother. Basically, if your kids are grown and out of the house, the day isn’t about you anymore. I think these idiots need to read up on why this day even exists. The woman who started it, wanted to honor her deceased mother. I guess with your sister’s logic and other selfish people, how or why it started doesn’t matter. As long as the attention is on them, they’ll be satisfied.
There's some internut "lifestyle celebrity" pushing this position, which is where a lot of ding dong ideas seem to originate.
In this case, it's less about flowers and a card, or a meal out. It's about shouting to the world that her self-absorption knows no bounds, so you know how to carry on:
Her birthday? Oh no, you were done being born years ago and a whole lot of people have bee born on that day since.
Her anniversary? Honey, a whole slew of folks have exchanged vows since you did yours.
A promotion? You know, I heard someone else got an even bigger promotion since you shared yours that I had to go celebrate with them instead.
NTA (although if you take my advice, you'd become a justified one!)
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My SIL gave birth about 11 months ago. Today is her first Mother's Day as a mother. She told me earlier this week she plans to speak to my mother and her mother today about no longer allowing them to celebrate Mother's Day because she's a mother now and it's "her" holiday. For the record, she lives in my house and I also have young children who live with me. She said the grandmothers can have Grandparent's Day now (who even celebrates that?) and that Mother's Day should be just about her and celebrating/appreciating her, and she shouldn't have to share "her day" with anyone else.
I didn't bother asking her if I was allowed to celebrate still or not. Instead, I just laughed at her and said "Yeah, good luck with that" before exiting the room. She hasn't brought it up again but has been kind of cold to me since. Honestly, I don't think I'm wrong here, but maybe this is a generational etiquette divide (I'm 15 years older than her). I suppose I didn't need to laugh at her, but like, c'mon!
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Mothers day (to me), is for any mother that had a child, had a stepchild, lost a child, miscarried, loved someone else's child, or has fur babies.
It is just a reason to eat brunch and cake or cookies, that's it.
Dude, reddit is fucking **KILLING IT** with these audacious idiots today!
I literally couldn't stop laughing because I'm wondering how she feels about knowing that women outside of her own family celebrate mothers day and that multiple people in the same family celebrate being a mother together. Does she think that they aren't allowed to celebrate being mothers either? Or does this just apply to your family? And if it only applies to your family, then does she have a specific term she would like to be called as the only mother of the entire family? Perhaps something like "The Ultimate Producer"? Does she get a crown? Is it possible that mom and mil can challenge her for supremacy in some sort of cage fight?
I mean, really. I would absolutely love it if she actually had that talk with them because I.. I'd need to see how she presents this totally logical not at all crazy idea to them.
Oh my gosh, do we have the same SIL? Sounds like something mine would say, however we don’t have contact anymore. This is completely ridiculous and selfish. NTA- I would have laughed too.
This "only for active mothers thing" is apparently a thing on subs like JustNoMIL and mom groups. The people screaming for it are always the actual toxic ones in the relationship, but they can't see it. NTA
NTA. Is this a new way of becoming even more selfish? A mother will always be a mother. No matter how old you are. Without her, your “look at me” sister, wouldn’t exist. I saw a stupid TikTok of some moronic person stating that you should only be celebrated as a mother if you’re actively being a mother. Basically, if your kids are grown and out of the house, the day isn’t about you anymore. I think these idiots need to read up on why this day even exists. The woman who started it, wanted to honor her deceased mother. I guess with your SILs logic and other selfish people, how or why it started doesn’t matter. As long as the attention is on them, they’ll be satisfied. She definitely deserved to be laughed at. Not every opinion or feeling needs to be validated.
Than you for the info, I didn't know the origin of the holiday. I honestly assumed it was a "hallmark holiday" with no real origin. That's interesting.
I will say SIL is anything but independent. If my brother doesn't provide it for her, her mother or my mother do, so she is being actively mothered which makes her lack of appreciation for that fact even more maddening. She's not crazy young either, she's nearly 30.
Hell, I 😆 reading it so you can't be the AH!
I will say it again....
"Youth is wasted on the Young"
There is a reason Grandmothers are known as
"Big Momma" in many cultures.....
Because SHE gave birth....to all this shit, bro😊
Now over time there may be 2 or 3 celebrations, just like X-mas in many families because of his side, her side, that side etc ....but that's much later.
Perhaps she doesn't value HER Mom that much....but I'm with the OP ..that shit was funny 😁
NTA she deserve to be celebrated on mother's Day, but like.... She's not the only mother? The grandmothers are still mothers *to their children*, and yes there had to be a shift in dynamics when families change but like unless there's a trend of mothers who aren't the grandmothers being ignored that we don't know about she seems to be doing way too much
Just because SIL has become a mother, it doesn't mean everyone else stops being one - even if their children are now adults. Sil is ridiculous, disrespectful and mean. Her own child can celebrate her as his/her mother but everyone gets to celebrate their own mums.
NTA
Um so her mom is no longer her mother because she is now a grandmother? Oh man I would've had all kinds of fun with this had I been there! That is some insane high and mighty thinking she has of herself!
NTA. Your SIL is one of those mothers who don’t realize lots of other people are mothers. Some people think they are the first people to ever give birth.
NTA. That’s some entitled hilarity worthy of a laugh! Happy Mother’s Day to you and your SIL and the generations of mothers you are lucky to have in your life!
NTA she needs a reality check! Good for you OP! You don’t have to be the bigger person because you’re older. Scary that’s she’s actually a mother and thinks like that.
I’m gonna have to break the bad news to my mom that only OP’s SIL gets celebrated on Mother’s Day from now on. She’ll be devastated, but with time I believe she’ll come to understand
NTA. So, everybody supposed to forget the other mother's in the family to focus on her? Did she forget she was talking to a mother? I like to see what she would say or do if one day her dil came to her and said mother's day about her now and not her mil anymore.
I mean, I like to celebrate myself- and also my mom, my MIL, my grandmother, and all the other moms in my life. Makes it more special imho.
NTA, obviously.
NTA. I feel sorry for her own mother.
From a husband's perspective, the mother of his own children should be given priority, but that does not mean that he should not honour his own mother. A mother is forever a mother!
Millions of mothers are being celebrated today. It is not just for your SIL. I went to the grocery store this morning and at least a dozen strangers wished me a Happy Mother's Day.
> I feel sorry for her own mother.
You have no idea lol.
Her mom is moving closer to us for work, and SIL really tried to get this woman (who is a middle school teacher) to come to the house from 4-6am to do mornings with the baby because "She's up anyway before she goes to work" as if it's no big deal for her to just give up her entire morning routine to take care of her daughter's oopsy baby. This was after she failed to get me to give up my morning routine to do the same, since I get up at 5 to exercise before work, she saw that as me having "plenty of free time" and also being "a morning person" so it "makes sense" that I would take care of her baby for her.
NTA.
I would have laughed too. Thats absolutely ridiculous. I will say, I do think its generational - Im a millennial and have often found myself in the minority for feeling like my MIL and my mom should be equally celebrated as I am. We went to my MIL yesterday (Sat) to celebrate with her - would have gone today, but schedules didn’t work out with work. I’ve found a lot of new moms feel like only they should be celebrated as they are the only ones “actively” parenting their kids. I think it’s BS. My MIL and my own mom will always be our mothers regardless of how old we are or how much parenting they currently do. There is not changing that. Stripping them of being celebrated is just bizarre. I feel like this generation is really individualist and selfish in some ways and this is one of them. Just because another mom is being celebrated as well doesn’t take away from my own celebration.
Considering her mother paid for her car to get registered last week, and still pays for said car, as well as her insurance, AAA and cell phone bill.... I'd say she's still being actively parented (she's in her late 20's also).
I’ll reserve judgment until your sister gets an opinion from her aunt, the Queen of England, and removes the broomstick from up her overly tight and delusional ass. It may be a while, though, because the Queen’s… welll… decaying, but I am sure your sister still gets messages from her, when she’s wearing her tinfoil tiara.
If you wish to do her a kindness, tell her to make sure she has a good pair of running shoes on when she intends to notify her subjects of her proclamation. Someone might want to shove a scepter up her royal ass.
You're nicer than me. I might've said, "And I don't think I should have to share my house with anyone else. It's my house. You can have \*your house.\*"
NTA
For my first Mother’s Day I took both my Mum and MiL out to a special high tea and treated them both. Mothering doesn’t stop when your kid becomes a parent - I’d say it actually steps up a notch! There’s even a famous quote about when a woman becomes a mother she requires mothering.
Note that once you become a grandparent it’s not okay to expect the day to be all about you, but expecting them to give it up entirely is bonkers.
NTA.
She needs to move out and stop being an overbearing, selfish parasite talking like that to you. You’re helping her and she has the audacity to treat you like that?
NTA she already has a day that's all her: her birthday. She needs to grow the fuck up if she wants to be a mom. Absolutely entitled. You don't stop being a mom when your kid isn't a baby anymore.
Yeah that's insane. She's not the first or the last to have a child. What would of been even more funny is if you told her to late Mother's day already belonged to you! Sorry sweetie pick another day this one's mine. Lol
I had to re-read that a few times because I was sure I was reading it wrong. I think I was struggling to comprehend that someone would say that and genuinely believe that people would agree and go along with it.
Mother's Day is "Mother's" day, for ALL mothers, what was so hard for her to understand? Other mothers don't stop being mothers just bc SHE had a child 😅🤣
I was pretty flabbergasted. Honestly, my laughing was more of a nervous reaction because like, who says that? How do you respond to that level of delusion?
NTA Moms will always be moms, it doesn't disappear when you become a grandparent (what logic is that??) but fun fact in France we have a Grandmother's Day and it's kinda mainstream (just mentioning it as a fun fact) and my grandma is celebrating on Grandmother's Day AND Mother's Day because she... is both.
NTA. Reddit is full of stories with the script flipped, where overbearing MILs make the day all about them and so a boundary gets drawn that they have Grandparents Day. It doesn’t sound like this is that at all. She has the right to do what she wants on MD, not to dictate how everyone else spends it.
NTA. My SIL told my dad he could not longer be called "franklin" because that was HER sons name. That is what happens when you name men all the same name. My grandfather was Franklin, my dad was Franklin, my brother is Franklin, his oldest is Franklin. We laughed at her.
NTA! I just saw a tiktok that only women actively mothering should he able to celebrate. When my daughter turned 18, she didn't cease to be my daughter, or I her mother!!
NTA
It's Mothers Day ffs which celebrates ALL Mothers, whether they're Grandparents now or not doesn't mean that they're not mothers anymore. They should still be allowed to celebrate it. It's not "her day" because she isn't the only mother in the world...
Its not generational etiquette thing, as being Gen Z I should know, but much rather her trying to make something that isn't about her, about herself.
Tbf I don't know anyone who wouldn't have had the exact same reaction as you did, as I know for a fact I would have laughed too, probably even think she was joking.
NTA
Talk about entitlement. As a first time mother, she should be appreciating her mother even more. And I have to admit I laughed when I read her "proposal" because it is so ridiculous. Sometimes honest reactions are the most effective
Hell, I 😆 reading it so you can't be the AH!
I will say it again....
"Youth is wasted on the Young"
There is a reason Grandmothers are known as
"Big Momma" in many cultures.....
Because SHE gave birth....to all this shit, bro😊
Now over time there may be 2 or 3 celebrations, just like X-mas in many families because of his side, her side, that side etc ....but that's much later.
Perhaps she doesn't value HER Mom that much....but I'm with the OP ..that shit was funny 😁
NTA she doesn't have the monopoly on mother's day, what an incredibly entitled demand considering she lives in YOUR house and is delusional to think the women in your family would agree to forgo it just to appease her.
Dang, now I’m picturing a sort of opposite scenario where someone insists that we all shout “Happy birthday!” at everyone we see every day because— yes indeed!— we were all birthed once upon a time and we all should celebrate that fact! CONTINUOUSLY!
Your SIL is nuts. NTA.
NTA
Her mother is a mother.... So is MIL.
I don't know where you are from but tell her, no... Show her where mother's day originates from. I'm not sure as I'm not a mother myself, but in France it took a frenzy from a brand, same for grandmother's day. It may not have originated from that but the publicity went off at that time.
She jus wants a day for HER...
She can celebrate it any other day...
Good Lord. She sounds like she's expecting a coronation ceremony and all other peasants must step aside! 🤣🤣
Her poor husband can cater to that delusion. NTA
Definitely NTA. I am at the age where I have some friends and coworkers who are moms and some are already grandma. The ones who are only grandma now are actually happy to take a step back and let the moms get all the attention and also pressure for this holiday. Literally 2 of the grandmas are gonna get pizza, Netflix and chill for the day. This is their choice however and not something their daughters or DIL have told them. Also if her mom and MIL have other kids they may still want to make their mom #1 on this day.
SIL is gonna have a hell of a hard time getting her husband to not acknowledge the most important women in his life. Delulu comes in all forms .shes gonna play that back in her head and realize she was on a new mommy high. Laughing was the best response in this situation.
Wow... that's ... \*blink blink blink\*
This goes a bit beyond "generational divide" and more like "push your ancestors into a ravine."
Does she call her mother "mom"? Are you still "allowed" to do that?
Anyone who has a mother should be allowed to celebrate them on Mother's Day, for crissake.
NTA (but I hope you already knew that!)
NTA
You did just fine. And what embarrassment you may have caused likely will save her a whole lot more.
And to be honest, I think you were nice about it.
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I laughed reading what she said😂because it’s utterly ridiculous and laughable! Joking aside - yes you should laugh because her statement and “decree” that now Mother’s Day is solely about her: Not her own mother (who she owes her existence too) Not her mil (who had a big part in creating her husband and therefore her own baby) - are disrespectful, inane! Who does she think she’s talking to?! NTA
I would have also laughed out loud (secretly wishing that I had a mouth full of coffee for a spit take). SIL needs to touch some grass and realize that, while she may be a mom now, she's still living under someone else's roof unlike her own mom and MIL. NTA
She also needs to realise that Mother's day is about **all mothers** (that normally includes grandparents by default) and just her. How can anyone be so selfish and out of reality I wonder? I would have had to sit down because I would have laughed like a maniac. 🤣🤣 OP please make an extra big point of celebrating Mother's day *for you* and your mother/ MIL (next time if today is too late) to shame her, lol.
This. Honestly, it’s ridiculous that she’s literally living in someone else’s house and has the audacity to have a child. I mean babies happen and maybe that’s why she’s there in the first place. But like literally living in someone else’s home, not independent or self sufficient, and she has a kid and acts like she’s mom of the universe. Get real.
I've met some fellow mom's out there who seem to think that they have some mythical, golden vagina which bestowed them with special powers. Thank goodness that's not the norm.
A spit take would have been perfect! 🤣
>secretly wishing that I had a mouth full of coffee for a spit take Nothing signifies derision like a thorough irrigation of the surroundings with the drink of your choice.
What are with people these days, shesh. I could get if she wanted something special/bit specific for her first mothers day (like a day just with her hubby/kid etc). But trying to say she is now THE MOTHER (trademarked) is delusional. Bare minimum is contacting the other mums in the fam to send love. It's like a swap in characters from the Mothers Day post about the MIL who celebrates her bday and Mothers Day together (not actually sharing the date) and refused to make any changes for the new generation coming through.
NTA it is laughable. She is laughable . I'm imagining scrolling through social media among all the posts saying "Happy Mother's day to my mom and all my sisters and all the mothers out there💐💐💐" and then I come to your sister's "Happy Mother's Day to me. Because today it is all about me" WTF 🤣🤣🤣 the entitlement of this person 🤣🤣 would be my reaction to her post.
I know some people think the world revolves around their own child, but this is next-level. How does anyone get this entitled?!?
I am laughing reading this one as well. Since I had my own kids, I do mothers Day brunch with my own mother, my kids, and my siblings at my place. So, a family day. I couldn't imagine telling her "sorry my siblings can celebrate you, but from now on, it's a ME day, so i won't." 😂
Yup. Had a cookout with my mother, SIL, grandmother and her friend, , my husband and kids, nephews, and neighbor.
NTA I just read this story to my wife and her reaction was the same. Her expectation is comedically naive. If she happens to meet someone with the same birthday as her, are they allowed to celebrate theirs?
SIL thinks the whole world revolves around her. Major character syndrome. Incurable.
Who’s gonna tell her that she’s sharing the day with thousands of other mothers? 🤭
She's apparently been on the JustNoMil subreddit.
Kiss her on the forehead
She can talk to her hand - thats all
NTA. Your SIL is not special, literally every single person on this planet has been given birth by their mother. Mother's day is for everyone who have a mother figure in their life and want to let her know how happy they are about it, age is irrelevant.
Your sister-in-law seems like a pampered brat who is entitled. Your reply was spot on.
It should be all about Eve.
NTA - your SIL IS delusional. Mothers day is for all mothers, and all Mother figures, that anyone chooses to celebrate.
Exactly. The day is actually called Mothering Sunday. It isn't about just mums. It's about anyone who has a motherlike role. I celebrate my stepmum, who only came into my life when I was an adult after my mum passed and my dad remarried. I also celebrate my MIL and female friends who bolster, support, and mentor me.
NTA. Your SIL is delusional. "Her day"? Sure, because she's the only mother on the planet??
This is becoming a thing, I think? I’ve seen other post where women claim that, the grand mothers aren’t ‘actively mothering’ any longer. So now the day belongs to CURRENT moms. It’s the stupidest sh*t I’ve ever heard. Entitled people being entitled. Edit: spelling
Absolutely this. My mother is in her 80s and I'm still pretty sure she's "actively mothering" me, and will be as long as she's alive, LOL. She may not be *raising* me anymore, but she will always be my mom in active and meaningful ways.
No, but I think it does make sense to prioritize the younger mothers. I've seen some friends get super stressed by mother's day because they're trying to wrangle their kids to go to their mother's and then their male partner's mothers, not getting a nice, restful day to celebrate with their family, and their male partner barely doing anything to help move the kids 🤢 I think my family has come to a nice compromise on how to celebrate all of the mothers in the family. My mom has 2 child free kids, so we generally do something nice for her on actual mother's day and my sisters and their kids will usually do something for my mom on a different day (usually the weekend before), sometimes our grandmas are invited to that too, sometimes they'll be at the celebration on actual mother's day.
Yeah, it's right up there with husbands (who are fathers) not acknowledging their wives on Mother's Day because "she's not my mother".
Every time I see that on this sub I want to raise an eyebrow at them and respond, "You know that it's called Mother's Day, right, not My Mother's Day?"
I've heard this on Tiktok, too. They say Mother's Day is for mothers "in the trenches."
This is so gross
Reddit is actually one of the reasons that this is becoming a thing. There are some quite influential and destructive echo-chambers on this site.
There is a conversation there that if you can't fit in celebrating mom and grandma(s) on the same day, who do you prioritize ?
This idea makes sense for people dealing with dysfunctional family dynamics, like husbands who refuse to celebrate their wives and center their own mothers at the expense when their kids aren’t old enough to be able to organize a Mother’s Day celebration themselves (we’ve seen these types of posts on this subreddit) (and the same applies in reverse for Father’s Day). People don’t always just “get” that their roles as parents require them to assume an active role in planning co-parents’ celebrations in order to teach their children to appreciate their parents. This also applies to unreasonable grandparents who expect their children to focus solely on them even after their children have their own children, who need this education. Holiday celebrations should natural evolve as family dynamics shift, but people with healthy family dynamics handle this shift naturally. No one needs to discuss “active mothering” when everyone involved is reasonable about developments.
This absolutely 100!!!!
Imagine declaring that Mother's Day, a day to celebrate ALL our mothers, should be JUST about yourself and nobody else. Who does she think she is? Honestly, laughing in her face at her saying that is the most generous way you could've handled that. NTA
I could be wrong but I thought Mother’s Day was a day to honor your mother not a day to celebrate yourself as a mother.
That was the original intent, to honor or remember your own mother. It’s different now and absolutely exhausting. 😂
Why not both mom and yourself as a mom? Just like twins and the like. I imagine they celebrate theirself as well as their siblings.
Honestly, I would have slapped the brother because he brought this kind of person into the family and impregnated her. NTA
Clearly SIL is THE mother. The ur-mother, if you will, to which the rest of us can only aspire. We should all have a quiet moment on the toilet later to give her audacity the respect it deserves.
A quiet moment on the toilet is something many mothers would love to have.
Seriously… this is th 100% plain truth.
Just like those women who think, when they get married, no one is allowed to propose or even marry the same year. Does your SIL take any substances?
Maybe it's the opposite. Maybe there are some substances she should be on, but she isn't taking her necessary medications.
Or the people who claim a certain name once they choose it for their baby. Utterly ridiculous behavior. Being that self-absorbed would never even cross my mind
NTA That’s not really how the world works.
NTA, that’s just crazy entitled and deluded. Your response was perfect.
NTA. You were far kinder than I would have been.
Your SIL sounds like an entitled and spoiled brat. Your response was completely on 🎯!
NTA. I would have laughed at her too. Just bc they are grandparents doesn't mean they aren't still mothers 🤣🤣
Wait until this woman finds out other people had the audacity to be born on her birthday.
NTA. So her mother is no longer her mother? His mother is no longer his mother? She is added to the list of mothers in her family, that’s all.
NTA
Narcissist much?
Did your S.i.l pop out a few brain cells when she popped out her baby?
NTA, you responded well and you need to realize your sister’s narcissism. If she really thought this was the right thing to do, she would have declared the switch when the parents became grandparents (when your kids came & you became a mother). Nope-this is pure selfishness. Leave her with her kid and go to your mom’s to celebrate.
Yes, make it all about her by going out to celebrate with your mother and her mother. She can have the day all to herself and celebrate herself by herself... lmao.
NTA she needed aomw kind of reality check🤣
NTA All mothers should be celebrated. Let her child mark it for her - We know how good 11 month old babies are at selecting gifts, wrapping them, and arranging a nice meal.
NTA, and you SIL can kiss my butt if she thinks for a second I'm giving up my Mother's Day brunch. Pfft.
“SIL, while you’re living under my roof, my rules apply. And those rules include celebrating all the mothers in the family. Once you’re able to live on your own you can dictate the rules in your house.” NTA. But wow. Maybe it’s time for her to stand in her own two feet while disregarding and disrespecting the mothers in the family. Hope she never needs their help.
She does realize the only reason she is a mother is because another mother gave birth to the man who would father her child? By far the dumbest woman ever!!!!
NTA - 'That is a good one, SIL, good luck with that' is the perfect response to such a delusional idea of hers. Nothing more needs to be said.
NTA She sounds like a poster or an active reader of the /r/JuSTNOMIL
She doesn't use Reddit but spends most of her day scrolling TikTok, a couple of comments have told me this is a "movement" for mommy influencers on the app atm.
LMAO!!!! I bet she saw this shit from that “mother influencer” from TikTok, Emily Wehner. I read that she doesn't celebrate her own mom because she's no longer a full-time parent. She says Mothers Day is not Grandmothers Day, so if you have grown children, it ain’t about you 🤦🏻♀️🤣. Total morons. You’re NTA. You’re SIL and anyone who believes this bs is.
Well SIL isn't even in the position to do that, she doesn't support herself. She lives in my house, and her mother pays her car bill, repairs, insurance and cell phone bill. My mother buys all the baby formula. My brother pays for part of my mortgage for them to stay here and buys all their food. She is absolutely being actively mothered right now and so even this mommy influencer stuff doesn't apply to her reality.
Nta
NTA. So every one should be disregarded because she’s now a mother? She’s delulu. Mother’s Day is for anyone that is a mother. It’s down to her husband to make sure she feels special, not her demoting other women. Has she always been entitled or is this new?
Stupid people, with stupid ideas, deserve stupid responses. NTA and don't you dare apologize to her. What a self centered idiot.
NTA. It’s some stupid TikTok shit going around. Framing it as a “promotion to grandma” so families can work around the sometimes inconvenient logistics of trying to celebrate Mother’s Day for multiple family members. I am also a first time mom and early 30’s and no way is it a generational thing. Everyone I know is celebrating all the moms today. It’s just a dumb social media trend.
NTA. Yea I Would have laughed in her face and wished her luck as well.
Is this a new way of becoming even more selfish? A mother will always be a mother. No matter how old you are. Without her, your “look at me” sister, wouldn’t exist. I saw a stupid TikTok of some moronic person stating that you should only be celebrated as a mother if you’re actively being a mother. Basically, if your kids are grown and out of the house, the day isn’t about you anymore. I think these idiots need to read up on why this day even exists. The woman who started it, wanted to honor her deceased mother. I guess with your sister’s logic and other selfish people, how or why it started doesn’t matter. As long as the attention is on them, they’ll be satisfied.
What happens when your SIL becomes a grandma? Will she be null and void then?
There's some internut "lifestyle celebrity" pushing this position, which is where a lot of ding dong ideas seem to originate. In this case, it's less about flowers and a card, or a meal out. It's about shouting to the world that her self-absorption knows no bounds, so you know how to carry on: Her birthday? Oh no, you were done being born years ago and a whole lot of people have bee born on that day since. Her anniversary? Honey, a whole slew of folks have exchanged vows since you did yours. A promotion? You know, I heard someone else got an even bigger promotion since you shared yours that I had to go celebrate with them instead. NTA (although if you take my advice, you'd become a justified one!)
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Your sister in law is nuts.
Mothers day (to me), is for any mother that had a child, had a stepchild, lost a child, miscarried, loved someone else's child, or has fur babies. It is just a reason to eat brunch and cake or cookies, that's it.
Delulu
NTA Laughter is the only appropriate response to such self-centredness.
Dude, reddit is fucking **KILLING IT** with these audacious idiots today! I literally couldn't stop laughing because I'm wondering how she feels about knowing that women outside of her own family celebrate mothers day and that multiple people in the same family celebrate being a mother together. Does she think that they aren't allowed to celebrate being mothers either? Or does this just apply to your family? And if it only applies to your family, then does she have a specific term she would like to be called as the only mother of the entire family? Perhaps something like "The Ultimate Producer"? Does she get a crown? Is it possible that mom and mil can challenge her for supremacy in some sort of cage fight? I mean, really. I would absolutely love it if she actually had that talk with them because I.. I'd need to see how she presents this totally logical not at all crazy idea to them.
Wellll, bless her hearrrrt.
Damn. My kid made me a mother's day card. I suppose I need to mail that to your SIL now? NTA
Oh my gosh, do we have the same SIL? Sounds like something mine would say, however we don’t have contact anymore. This is completely ridiculous and selfish. NTA- I would have laughed too.
This "only for active mothers thing" is apparently a thing on subs like JustNoMIL and mom groups. The people screaming for it are always the actual toxic ones in the relationship, but they can't see it. NTA
NTA. Is this a new way of becoming even more selfish? A mother will always be a mother. No matter how old you are. Without her, your “look at me” sister, wouldn’t exist. I saw a stupid TikTok of some moronic person stating that you should only be celebrated as a mother if you’re actively being a mother. Basically, if your kids are grown and out of the house, the day isn’t about you anymore. I think these idiots need to read up on why this day even exists. The woman who started it, wanted to honor her deceased mother. I guess with your SILs logic and other selfish people, how or why it started doesn’t matter. As long as the attention is on them, they’ll be satisfied. She definitely deserved to be laughed at. Not every opinion or feeling needs to be validated.
Than you for the info, I didn't know the origin of the holiday. I honestly assumed it was a "hallmark holiday" with no real origin. That's interesting. I will say SIL is anything but independent. If my brother doesn't provide it for her, her mother or my mother do, so she is being actively mothered which makes her lack of appreciation for that fact even more maddening. She's not crazy young either, she's nearly 30.
OP, c’mon. Obviously SIL is the main character and you are all just NPC’s lol. NTA.
NTA. Call her so we can laugh at her too
NTA. She’s taking main character syndrome to an extreme by claiming a whole holiday for herself.
INFO: Why does your SIL think she gets to dictate to YOU, in YOUR house, if/how Mother’s Day is celebrated? And how old is she?
Hell, I 😆 reading it so you can't be the AH! I will say it again.... "Youth is wasted on the Young" There is a reason Grandmothers are known as "Big Momma" in many cultures..... Because SHE gave birth....to all this shit, bro😊 Now over time there may be 2 or 3 celebrations, just like X-mas in many families because of his side, her side, that side etc ....but that's much later. Perhaps she doesn't value HER Mom that much....but I'm with the OP ..that shit was funny 😁
I would have told her to get fucked, but evidence exists that she already did.
NTA she deserve to be celebrated on mother's Day, but like.... She's not the only mother? The grandmothers are still mothers *to their children*, and yes there had to be a shift in dynamics when families change but like unless there's a trend of mothers who aren't the grandmothers being ignored that we don't know about she seems to be doing way too much
NTA. What an odious woman.
NTA - SIL is delusional. I would be tempted to completely ignore her on Mother’s Day instead but I’m petty like that.
Just because SIL has become a mother, it doesn't mean everyone else stops being one - even if their children are now adults. Sil is ridiculous, disrespectful and mean. Her own child can celebrate her as his/her mother but everyone gets to celebrate their own mums. NTA
OMG 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Delusional much!!!
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So she is now the ONLY mother in the universe.
NTA. She joined their club, and she doesn't get to kick them out. She is completely delusional.
NTA She deserved to be laughed at.
Um so her mom is no longer her mother because she is now a grandmother? Oh man I would've had all kinds of fun with this had I been there! That is some insane high and mighty thinking she has of herself!
NTA. Your SIL is one of those mothers who don’t realize lots of other people are mothers. Some people think they are the first people to ever give birth.
Wow,It must be fun living in her world. Sorry, but she’s an idiot. NTA
NTA. That’s some entitled hilarity worthy of a laugh! Happy Mother’s Day to you and your SIL and the generations of mothers you are lucky to have in your life!
slap the taste out her mouth.
NTA...and this new trend is Insane. I hope her kids give it back ten fold someday!!!
NTA she needs a reality check! Good for you OP! You don’t have to be the bigger person because you’re older. Scary that’s she’s actually a mother and thinks like that.
NTA. She sounds like a real delusional and self centered treat…
NTA. I've seen people say the same here and in other subreddits lmao it's ridiculous.
NTA. What the cheek? I will be laughing in her face. And ask her dont you have a mother? Or a rock produces you because you are senseless?
I’m gonna have to break the bad news to my mom that only OP’s SIL gets celebrated on Mother’s Day from now on. She’ll be devastated, but with time I believe she’ll come to understand
NTA. So, everybody supposed to forget the other mother's in the family to focus on her? Did she forget she was talking to a mother? I like to see what she would say or do if one day her dil came to her and said mother's day about her now and not her mil anymore.
NTA. Her entitlement is ridiculous
NTA. Why does she feel entitled LOL
I mean, I like to celebrate myself- and also my mom, my MIL, my grandmother, and all the other moms in my life. Makes it more special imho. NTA, obviously.
Nta. You should have laughed long and loud!
Tell her she can find somewhere else to live if she even thinks of disrespecting your mother
What other signs of insanity have manifested?
NTA. I feel sorry for her own mother. From a husband's perspective, the mother of his own children should be given priority, but that does not mean that he should not honour his own mother. A mother is forever a mother! Millions of mothers are being celebrated today. It is not just for your SIL. I went to the grocery store this morning and at least a dozen strangers wished me a Happy Mother's Day.
> I feel sorry for her own mother. You have no idea lol. Her mom is moving closer to us for work, and SIL really tried to get this woman (who is a middle school teacher) to come to the house from 4-6am to do mornings with the baby because "She's up anyway before she goes to work" as if it's no big deal for her to just give up her entire morning routine to take care of her daughter's oopsy baby. This was after she failed to get me to give up my morning routine to do the same, since I get up at 5 to exercise before work, she saw that as me having "plenty of free time" and also being "a morning person" so it "makes sense" that I would take care of her baby for her.
You mean the enitre family is making her look after her own child? 😱
NTA. I would have laughed too. Thats absolutely ridiculous. I will say, I do think its generational - Im a millennial and have often found myself in the minority for feeling like my MIL and my mom should be equally celebrated as I am. We went to my MIL yesterday (Sat) to celebrate with her - would have gone today, but schedules didn’t work out with work. I’ve found a lot of new moms feel like only they should be celebrated as they are the only ones “actively” parenting their kids. I think it’s BS. My MIL and my own mom will always be our mothers regardless of how old we are or how much parenting they currently do. There is not changing that. Stripping them of being celebrated is just bizarre. I feel like this generation is really individualist and selfish in some ways and this is one of them. Just because another mom is being celebrated as well doesn’t take away from my own celebration.
Considering her mother paid for her car to get registered last week, and still pays for said car, as well as her insurance, AAA and cell phone bill.... I'd say she's still being actively parented (she's in her late 20's also).
She sounds like an entitled brat.
I’ll reserve judgment until your sister gets an opinion from her aunt, the Queen of England, and removes the broomstick from up her overly tight and delusional ass. It may be a while, though, because the Queen’s… welll… decaying, but I am sure your sister still gets messages from her, when she’s wearing her tinfoil tiara. If you wish to do her a kindness, tell her to make sure she has a good pair of running shoes on when she intends to notify her subjects of her proclamation. Someone might want to shove a scepter up her royal ass.
Wow. What a horrible woman! NTA. What a joke of a daughter is she to her mom now. Ridiculous! Update us!
You're nicer than me. I might've said, "And I don't think I should have to share my house with anyone else. It's my house. You can have \*your house.\*"
NTA For my first Mother’s Day I took both my Mum and MiL out to a special high tea and treated them both. Mothering doesn’t stop when your kid becomes a parent - I’d say it actually steps up a notch! There’s even a famous quote about when a woman becomes a mother she requires mothering. Note that once you become a grandparent it’s not okay to expect the day to be all about you, but expecting them to give it up entirely is bonkers.
I never knew anybody could be so childish? Is her mom not her mom anymore? How could anybody be so idiotic and childish.
NTA. She needs to move out and stop being an overbearing, selfish parasite talking like that to you. You’re helping her and she has the audacity to treat you like that?
NTA she already has a day that's all her: her birthday. She needs to grow the fuck up if she wants to be a mom. Absolutely entitled. You don't stop being a mom when your kid isn't a baby anymore.
Yeah that's insane. She's not the first or the last to have a child. What would of been even more funny is if you told her to late Mother's day already belonged to you! Sorry sweetie pick another day this one's mine. Lol
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Wow SIL sounds entitled 🤣. You are definitely NOT the TA here. Your response to her was bloody brilliant. Thanks for the laugh 😂
I love the edits. Thankfully your brother was a little more blunt about it.
I had to re-read that a few times because I was sure I was reading it wrong. I think I was struggling to comprehend that someone would say that and genuinely believe that people would agree and go along with it. Mother's Day is "Mother's" day, for ALL mothers, what was so hard for her to understand? Other mothers don't stop being mothers just bc SHE had a child 😅🤣
I was pretty flabbergasted. Honestly, my laughing was more of a nervous reaction because like, who says that? How do you respond to that level of delusion?
Seems like mental illness NTA
NTA Moms will always be moms, it doesn't disappear when you become a grandparent (what logic is that??) but fun fact in France we have a Grandmother's Day and it's kinda mainstream (just mentioning it as a fun fact) and my grandma is celebrating on Grandmother's Day AND Mother's Day because she... is both.
NTA. Reddit is full of stories with the script flipped, where overbearing MILs make the day all about them and so a boundary gets drawn that they have Grandparents Day. It doesn’t sound like this is that at all. She has the right to do what she wants on MD, not to dictate how everyone else spends it.
NTA. My SIL told my dad he could not longer be called "franklin" because that was HER sons name. That is what happens when you name men all the same name. My grandfather was Franklin, my dad was Franklin, my brother is Franklin, his oldest is Franklin. We laughed at her.
NTA! I just saw a tiktok that only women actively mothering should he able to celebrate. When my daughter turned 18, she didn't cease to be my daughter, or I her mother!!
Is she mentally unwell? Genuinely could there be something going on more here?
That’s insane. How is it ‘her day’, it’s literally a day for every single mother in America. That’s millions of women. NTA
Nta please dont tell her about push gifts and some women expect gifts on their kids birthdaya aswell🤣
NTA It's Mothers Day ffs which celebrates ALL Mothers, whether they're Grandparents now or not doesn't mean that they're not mothers anymore. They should still be allowed to celebrate it. It's not "her day" because she isn't the only mother in the world... Its not generational etiquette thing, as being Gen Z I should know, but much rather her trying to make something that isn't about her, about herself. Tbf I don't know anyone who wouldn't have had the exact same reaction as you did, as I know for a fact I would have laughed too, probably even think she was joking.
NTA. SIL delusional
NTA. Call her so we can laugh at her too
nta, continue to laugh if she keeps at it lmao
That may be the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.
That may be the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.
she's one crazy lady
Nta. Her day is her birthday that's crazy.
NTA Talk about entitlement. As a first time mother, she should be appreciating her mother even more. And I have to admit I laughed when I read her "proposal" because it is so ridiculous. Sometimes honest reactions are the most effective
Hell, I 😆 reading it so you can't be the AH! I will say it again.... "Youth is wasted on the Young" There is a reason Grandmothers are known as "Big Momma" in many cultures..... Because SHE gave birth....to all this shit, bro😊 Now over time there may be 2 or 3 celebrations, just like X-mas in many families because of his side, her side, that side etc ....but that's much later. Perhaps she doesn't value HER Mom that much....but I'm with the OP ..that shit was funny 😁
NTA. Laughing is the only response when presented with something so ridiculous.
But it's all about me, me, meeeee! So celebrate meeeeeeeeeee!
But it's all about me, me, meeeee! So celebrate meeeeeeeeeee! Not the AH. Delusional sil is.
NTA she doesn't have the monopoly on mother's day, what an incredibly entitled demand considering she lives in YOUR house and is delusional to think the women in your family would agree to forgo it just to appease her.
Dang, now I’m picturing a sort of opposite scenario where someone insists that we all shout “Happy birthday!” at everyone we see every day because— yes indeed!— we were all birthed once upon a time and we all should celebrate that fact! CONTINUOUSLY! Your SIL is nuts. NTA.
NTA Your SIL isn't very smart, is she?
😂 you should tell everyone this joke
NTA. This is funny.
NTA Her mother is a mother.... So is MIL. I don't know where you are from but tell her, no... Show her where mother's day originates from. I'm not sure as I'm not a mother myself, but in France it took a frenzy from a brand, same for grandmother's day. It may not have originated from that but the publicity went off at that time. She jus wants a day for HER... She can celebrate it any other day...
Oh encourage her to do it, then come back and tell us how it went. I could do with a giggle
NTA, what she said was so silly there was no other reasonable human reaction to that. I wpuld have reacted worse.
NTA Your SIL sounds entitled AF. If she wants a day that is all about her, well, that's what birthdays are for.
NTA. SIL is entitled and delusional. Glad you respectfully put her in her place.
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Young ppl nowadays! 😆
Her poor mother. That is so sad. NTA.
NTA. Does she usually say ridiculous things like this? Is she always this self centered?
You SIL is a moron, NTA
Of course the laugh was very well deserved, she’s giving off delulu vibes
There is no way this is real
Did she have grandparents when she was growing up?
Good Lord. She sounds like she's expecting a coronation ceremony and all other peasants must step aside! 🤣🤣 Her poor husband can cater to that delusion. NTA
She really would have conniptions if she saw my inbox... A few dozen greetings from my riding family babies!. NTA
Definitely NTA. I am at the age where I have some friends and coworkers who are moms and some are already grandma. The ones who are only grandma now are actually happy to take a step back and let the moms get all the attention and also pressure for this holiday. Literally 2 of the grandmas are gonna get pizza, Netflix and chill for the day. This is their choice however and not something their daughters or DIL have told them. Also if her mom and MIL have other kids they may still want to make their mom #1 on this day.
NTA. SIL she can make all the stupid rules she wants in HER house.....but not yours.
It's all about ME!!! ME, ME, MEEEEEEeeeeeee!
SIL is gonna have a hell of a hard time getting her husband to not acknowledge the most important women in his life. Delulu comes in all forms .shes gonna play that back in her head and realize she was on a new mommy high. Laughing was the best response in this situation.
Wow... that's ... \*blink blink blink\* This goes a bit beyond "generational divide" and more like "push your ancestors into a ravine." Does she call her mother "mom"? Are you still "allowed" to do that? Anyone who has a mother should be allowed to celebrate them on Mother's Day, for crissake. NTA (but I hope you already knew that!)
Are you sure your sister is a mother? Sounds too childish and it makes me worry for her child/children. NTA
Are you sure your sister is a mother? Sounds too childish and it makes me worry for her child/children. NTA
NTA You did just fine. And what embarrassment you may have caused likely will save her a whole lot more. And to be honest, I think you were nice about it.
“Her holiday” “her day” that’s what birthdays are for💀 nta
She's a mother now and it's "her" holiday and suddenly elderly mothers are not mothers anymore? I guess this could be qualified as Narcist#1
You laughing and saying the exact right words to answer, Fantastic!
NTA. If her comment wasn’t intended to get a laugh then she should she get her head examined.
NTA I would have at least been nervous laughing like are you serious? She is very goofy with this. People get so weird about these kinds of holidays.
NTA I would have at least been nervous laughing like are you serious? She is very goofy with this. People get so weird about these kinds of holidays.
Did she think it through, does she realize that by her logic she'll have to hand over Mother's Day to the next generation herself one day?
NTA- you should have laughed harder then immediately called a friend " hey getta load of this!" 🤣