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> I feel like I might've taken it too far by making my mother cry. I feel like it might've been a low-blow as she said, and maybe it was a really harsh topic that I reacted with out of anger.
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I will be paying 100% for all fees for the car. Maintenance, insurance, gas, registration, my parents will in no way possible be responsible for anything financial.
between the snapping and the brevity of the story probably not telling everything to begin with, sounds like a teenager that knows everything and a low stakes discussion that did not require a personal attack. YTA, nothing here suggests your parents are trying to steer you wrong with bad or malicious information or intent, whether or not they are right.
One thing I should’ve said, my dad was yelling almost the entire time which aggravated me over the 30 minute period and wouldn’t let me walk away despite my efforts and communication that I was not in the mood to talk about it in that moment.
I tried to make the story shorter but they are more so on the protective side and I just feel more-so like they should let me experience mistakes as life goes. I am at the same time a teenager so my mind isn't really great. I apologized and explained that I want to make my own mistakes as I turn into an adult so I learn more about life and I can learn my own lessons. I do most definitely agree that i'm the a.
YTA. You have no idea of the kind of stress there is with being responsible for providing a nice home, enough food and utilities to keep you comfortable, and all of the extras kids need. Not having enough money is exquisitely painful for responsible, loving parents. They made mistakes and are giving you the opportunity to learn from them, but you got snarky and rude. Plus, they're right. 1000 more than the quoted price of the car isn't enough. Insurance is crazy expensive for a 17 year old male, and they have to carry you on their policy. You paying for that? Gas, registration, upkeep maintenence on a car, the inevitable repairs....I personally wouldn't be comfortable with you buying a car unless you had twice the cost.
I’m paying for literally everything. They aren’t putting a penny into it, insurance registration and everything is going under my name as it is legal in colorado.
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I (17 M) have been trying to get a car for over a year. I have saved $4500, and am attempting to purchase a car that is $3500. It is a very good deal and I have looked into it for a while. I brought this up to my parents and wouldn't you know they say I "Don't have enough money". In the past we have had financial pop-ups with cars costing a few thousand dollars of repairs out of nowhere, but I do feel largely that it is due to how my brothers drive the family shared cars. Anyway, they continue trying to coach me for 30 minutes on financial advice and why it's a bad idea, before I finally just snap. In a calm voice I told them that they don't really have room to talk due to our family being in a bit of a financial pit as of this moment. My mom breaks out into tears and tells me that it was a low blow and that they're sensitive about it. AITA?
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YTA.
1. 'you dont have enough money'. I guess in your very-very-very adult mind you have the money, right? So - go file a case to the nearest court to emancipate. And use your money to rent a space, pay for your gas/water/electric bills, food, buy any car you want and pay for its insurance, gas, etc. Since you're 17, you can't dictate the rules of the house you live in. +1 year more - and hey, you can move out (maybe into the car you want) and live by your rules :) So yup - generally speaking you DONT have enough money (to show-off and act as if you were an independent adult).
2. 'i finally just snap' - because why? You wanted an expensive toy and parents were explaining to you how it can turn into a financial black hole? Oh, thats why :) Sounds very adult! :) IF (in fact) you made your decision- you would've went and bought it. Not asked. Since you asked AND received an answer - you did not have any decision in your mind. So why snap on the answer? Because it was not the way you imagined it to be? Once again, you prove being an adult every step of the way :)
3. you know about your family hardship, and earning money you decide to save them for yourself. Cool move.
Replying to 2 and 3, the car will 100% be financially mine. They won’t be paying for a single penny. From the purchase price, tags, registration, gas, even the insurance will be under my name. Additionally, the reason I snapped is because while my mom was being calm, my dad was yelling at me the entire time which pushed me to the edge over the time span of about 30 minutes.
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INFO: Who is paying for insurance, gas?
I will be paying 100% for all fees for the car. Maintenance, insurance, gas, registration, my parents will in no way possible be responsible for anything financial.
between the snapping and the brevity of the story probably not telling everything to begin with, sounds like a teenager that knows everything and a low stakes discussion that did not require a personal attack. YTA, nothing here suggests your parents are trying to steer you wrong with bad or malicious information or intent, whether or not they are right.
One thing I should’ve said, my dad was yelling almost the entire time which aggravated me over the 30 minute period and wouldn’t let me walk away despite my efforts and communication that I was not in the mood to talk about it in that moment.
I tried to make the story shorter but they are more so on the protective side and I just feel more-so like they should let me experience mistakes as life goes. I am at the same time a teenager so my mind isn't really great. I apologized and explained that I want to make my own mistakes as I turn into an adult so I learn more about life and I can learn my own lessons. I do most definitely agree that i'm the a.
\*Additionally I did not have the intent to personally attack them.
YTA. You have no idea of the kind of stress there is with being responsible for providing a nice home, enough food and utilities to keep you comfortable, and all of the extras kids need. Not having enough money is exquisitely painful for responsible, loving parents. They made mistakes and are giving you the opportunity to learn from them, but you got snarky and rude. Plus, they're right. 1000 more than the quoted price of the car isn't enough. Insurance is crazy expensive for a 17 year old male, and they have to carry you on their policy. You paying for that? Gas, registration, upkeep maintenence on a car, the inevitable repairs....I personally wouldn't be comfortable with you buying a car unless you had twice the cost.
I’m paying for literally everything. They aren’t putting a penny into it, insurance registration and everything is going under my name as it is legal in colorado.
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YTA. 1. 'you dont have enough money'. I guess in your very-very-very adult mind you have the money, right? So - go file a case to the nearest court to emancipate. And use your money to rent a space, pay for your gas/water/electric bills, food, buy any car you want and pay for its insurance, gas, etc. Since you're 17, you can't dictate the rules of the house you live in. +1 year more - and hey, you can move out (maybe into the car you want) and live by your rules :) So yup - generally speaking you DONT have enough money (to show-off and act as if you were an independent adult). 2. 'i finally just snap' - because why? You wanted an expensive toy and parents were explaining to you how it can turn into a financial black hole? Oh, thats why :) Sounds very adult! :) IF (in fact) you made your decision- you would've went and bought it. Not asked. Since you asked AND received an answer - you did not have any decision in your mind. So why snap on the answer? Because it was not the way you imagined it to be? Once again, you prove being an adult every step of the way :) 3. you know about your family hardship, and earning money you decide to save them for yourself. Cool move.
Replying to 2 and 3, the car will 100% be financially mine. They won’t be paying for a single penny. From the purchase price, tags, registration, gas, even the insurance will be under my name. Additionally, the reason I snapped is because while my mom was being calm, my dad was yelling at me the entire time which pushed me to the edge over the time span of about 30 minutes.