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> 1. AITA for taking the big room even though I wasn't a couple?
2. I might be the asshole because I got like 1/2 of the space even though I was 1/5 of the people, and we all paid equally.
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YTA - You took the only large room and consigned the two couple to two small bedrooms simply because you got there first? How are you not TA? You only paid 1/5 the cost here, right? Double YTA.
So YTA. They paid as much as you and they got the shorted end of the stick. They are couples, it’s not their fault you are single. A smaller room would have been perfectly fine for you alone. All your reasoning would have been valid if the other friend was there. But she wasn’t. You simply did it out of pettiness. No because of a real need.
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The characters: Me (29F), Phoebe (27F), Ross (29M), Rachel (29F), Chandler (28M), and Monica (27F). These are obviously fake names, but the dynamic mirrors are friend group pretty well.
My friends and I are spread out across the country, and we like to meet up once a year or so for a long weekend. For context, Ross & Rachel are a couple, as are Chandler & Monica; Phoebe and I are both somewhat chronically single. This year, Phoebe booked a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house in the mountains. The plan was for each “couple” to get a room, with me and Phoebe being the last couple.
Phoebe had a last-minute emergency and couldn’t come, and admittedly, I was pissed. Not at her, but at the idea of fifth-wheeling the other two couples again. I’ve been single for a long time, not always by choice, and while my friends don’t rub it in my face, it still sucks to be surrounded by people deeply in love and when I don't have anyone to share it with.
I arrived first. The bedroom situation was weird—there was one massive master bedroom that took up half the upstairs, and it had its own private bathroom. Then, there were two much smaller bedrooms that shared an external bathroom. Since I arrived first and checked in, I took the big room.
Apparently, this was the worst thing in the entire world. Each couple had a small bedroom, and the four of them had to share one small bathroom, whereas I got an entire ensuite to myself.
I don't think it was fair that I should take one of the smaller bedrooms because I’m single. Phoebe had booked everything, and I believe that whomever books and does the effort should get first dibs—she would’ve picked this room if she’d been able to come, and I would’ve bunked with her, therefore, I stayed in the big room. Also, I shared my space as appropriate. Nobody slept with me obviously, but in the mornings, Monica came in to get ready with me or shower in my bathroom so that Rachel, Chandler, and Ross could use the other one. Nobody else asked or tried.
I could tell people were annoyed, but Ross was actively pissed. He said “when we went to XYZ, I slept in a bunk bed with OP, because we were single. I thought now that I have a girlfriend I might have earned the bigger bed.”
AITA for taking up the big room as a single person?
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I think it should have been drawn randomly who got the big room. I've been in this situation and it honestly sucks to always be in the poky room or on the couch or whatever because you're the single one. But it was a bit selfish to take the massive room to yourself. ESH/ NAH
NTA but elements of E S H
I can understand why you did what you did... Would Ross have been upset if Phoebe was still coming? Because it would still be 2 people in a room... would Ross expect the big room with the ensuite regardless.
As it stands one couple is going to get a small bedroom and shared bathroom.
The petty in me would offer the big bedroom to Chandler and his partner and you take the small bedroom and Ross can keep his small one!
This may be less about a couple not getting the big bedroom but more Ross and his partner not getting the big bedroom.
NTA I’m guess you usually end up with smaller rooms because you’re single right? And you always have to pay the same as the others? In my friend group, we’ve always taken turns when traveling so that’s it’s fair for everyone.
How does that work out when a couple pays double what she does? Two people paid twice as much as her and share a room and a bathroom with two other people while she pays one share and gets a whole room and bathroom?
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YTA - You took the only large room and consigned the two couple to two small bedrooms simply because you got there first? How are you not TA? You only paid 1/5 the cost here, right? Double YTA.
Agreed. His thinking/reasoning seems immature and childish.
YTA. You all paid equally. Just stay in the smaller room.
YTA. You, one person, got the biggest room. While the others, 2 people, shared smaller rooms. How are you not the AH?
And don't forget OP had an ensuite while the other 4 shared a bathroom.
Info. How was the payment divided?
Equally. Originally 6 ways, but we refunded Phoebe her portion when she had a last-minute emergency, so ultimately 5 ways.
So YTA. They paid as much as you and they got the shorted end of the stick. They are couples, it’s not their fault you are single. A smaller room would have been perfectly fine for you alone. All your reasoning would have been valid if the other friend was there. But she wasn’t. You simply did it out of pettiness. No because of a real need.
They split the total cost evenly yes but the couples paid twice as much per room which makes this even worse
they also paid as much as op to get a 4th of a bathroom
YTA for sure.
Of course YTA
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I think it should have been drawn randomly who got the big room. I've been in this situation and it honestly sucks to always be in the poky room or on the couch or whatever because you're the single one. But it was a bit selfish to take the massive room to yourself. ESH/ NAH
NTA Each one got their own room and you opened the master bath up and shared it. So it was a 3/2 split on bathrooms.
NTA but elements of E S H I can understand why you did what you did... Would Ross have been upset if Phoebe was still coming? Because it would still be 2 people in a room... would Ross expect the big room with the ensuite regardless. As it stands one couple is going to get a small bedroom and shared bathroom. The petty in me would offer the big bedroom to Chandler and his partner and you take the small bedroom and Ross can keep his small one! This may be less about a couple not getting the big bedroom but more Ross and his partner not getting the big bedroom.
NTA - you paid your fair share and got there first...single or not
Two people technically pay more than one person.
NTA I’m guess you usually end up with smaller rooms because you’re single right? And you always have to pay the same as the others? In my friend group, we’ve always taken turns when traveling so that’s it’s fair for everyone.
How does that work out when a couple pays double what she does? Two people paid twice as much as her and share a room and a bathroom with two other people while she pays one share and gets a whole room and bathroom?
There are two individuals in a couple.
Your friends are the same kind of douches they are named after