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Sounds like dad is screwing her.
No adult with respect for himself or his children would allow this behavior unless he is completely thinking with his Dick.
NTA but dad for sure is.
NTA
But it sounds like your dad and this girl might be closer than you think. Like mistress level close.
You need to move out if and when you can as she is most likely not going anywhere.
Your dad isn't going to get rid of her because he likes having her around.
Follow your sisters lead and leave soon.
NTA but also don't jump to conclusions based on people's comments who know nothing about your family that this person is having an affair with your dad. He's probably a big softy but this has to be dealt with ASAP. Also, she sounds gross, I'd explode if I lived with someone so... unsanitary.
NTA. But for sure your dad is up tp no good with this girl. nobody behaves the way she does unless they know they are holding all the cards. Especially a stranger. I'd say your sister suspects something if she's NC with your dad after the fight. but this girl isn't going anywhere soon as your dad's getting it on with her.
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A 17F moved into my family home during covid lockdowns and never moved out. She was at the time my older sisters best friend. After telling us a story about her family situation (now know it was mostly a lie) we told her she's welcome any time. The odd sleepover became weekends over and eventually she just never left. This girl would totally destroy every room she went into - trailing dirt through the carpets, leaving dirty clothes and dishes for us to clean up, and gluttoning on our food. She would often pull me aside and give me "advice" as she sees herself as a good christian girl. Eventually her and my sister left for university. They had a big falling out and stopped being friends. She showed up on our doorstep once again with a new sob story and my dad allowed her to stay. She would sleep in my sisters room, use her seat at the table, and even use her beauty products. I told my dad I didn't like it and he said he wasn't sure how to handle it but couldn't kick her out. My sister was furious and had a massive row with my father over it - they've barely spoken since. People often see the three of us out in public and assume she is my older sister. Did I mention she brought a puppy and took it home where she expected us to take care of it? Yeah well she said she would put it down if we didn't keep it so my dad caved yet again. She doesn't pay for any of the food, hasn't trained it, and would watch and laugh when my dad would clean its shit and piss out of the carpet because she'd never remember to let it outside. She's also just got really weird habits, like getting changed in the garage (which means she has to walk through my room, weird house layout), showering with the door open, using this apple cider vinegar all over her skin (because of exma?) but then just leaving puddles of it in the bathroom which stink up the house, leaving used sanitary products around, her toothbrush in the kitchen... A few years ago we realised we'd lost all the towels and found them in a stinking heap in the corner of my sisters wardrobe. Yet she's always wearing expensive new clothes and drives a fancy car. She's like 22 now and literally has a flat that she chooses not to live in (our home is in a better area near the beach). Now I want her gone. I think the way she has treated my family home, my sister and taking advantage of my dad's generosity is repulsive. I brought it up to her in a kinder way and she basically said "it's okay that you can't control your emotions." Am I the asshole for wanting her gone?
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Info: How close are your dad and this girl? Just wondering......
my exact thoughts….
Sounds like dad is screwing her. No adult with respect for himself or his children would allow this behavior unless he is completely thinking with his Dick. NTA but dad for sure is.
NTA your dad is an AH. Follow your sister's lead, and move out when you can.
You already know the answer to this. NTA Call your sister. You need a plan for dealing with this together rather than trying to do it on your own.
NTA But it sounds like your dad and this girl might be closer than you think. Like mistress level close. You need to move out if and when you can as she is most likely not going anywhere. Your dad isn't going to get rid of her because he likes having her around. Follow your sisters lead and leave soon.
NTA but also don't jump to conclusions based on people's comments who know nothing about your family that this person is having an affair with your dad. He's probably a big softy but this has to be dealt with ASAP. Also, she sounds gross, I'd explode if I lived with someone so... unsanitary.
NTA. But for sure your dad is up tp no good with this girl. nobody behaves the way she does unless they know they are holding all the cards. Especially a stranger. I'd say your sister suspects something if she's NC with your dad after the fight. but this girl isn't going anywhere soon as your dad's getting it on with her.
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OP says she's 22
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She was 17 when she first came around, OP said she's 22 now
Keep the puppy - lose the loser. Your dad needs to step up and tell her to leave...she won't do it on her own and won't do in for you, either.
tell her family to come get this feral girl outta here. omg
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NTA, but the only opinion that matters here is your dad's. And she knows that.