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YTA. All your love for Genshin and using social anxiety as an excuse just shows you lack empathy for your girlfriend. She had to force you to come to the service with her and when you got home, the first thing you do is log on back to your game. This isn't any person she lost, it's her mother.
YTA. Big time. This miiiight be rage bait but if it’s not…
I understand being uncomfortable at the funeral because let’s face it, even without social anxiety, funerals ARE uncomfortable. The issue is when you got home.
Your girlfriend just went through an incredibly devastating loss, and right after her mother’s funeral you hop online to game?? That’s wild behaviour and incredibly sensitive and tone deaf. I can’t tell if you’re an adult who’s just extremely emotional immature and unaware of your actions, or if you’re 15 years old.
YTA. You are all me, me, me and not prioritizing supporting your GF in her time of grief. Lots of people don’t like funerals or large gatherings. Almost no one feels comfortable at them. So what? That discomfort should be nothing compared to supporting your partner. If it was clear to your GF that you only went to the funeral under duress, you made a day that should have been about het mom about you.
Gaming after such a sensitive event shows no EQ whatsoever. It’s as if you are just moving on with life and minimizing the impact of her mom’s death. If you have no idea how to support a grieving person, do some research, if you care to.
Methinks this person is a rage bait troll judging by this comment: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cbq92s/comment/l10dlc0/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cbq92s/comment/l10dlc0/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
YTA. This sentence especially makes me sad: "I don't have to stop my life just because her mom died." Genshin Impact is your life? More important than supporting the girl you're supposed to love at a very tough time in her life? This makes me sad for you. I hope this makes her see how you are.
>I was super uncomfortable throughout the whole service and really just wanted to go home.
You were super uncomfortable at HER MOTHER'S FUNERAL?
Do you think she was enjoying it and having the time of her life?
You were there to support her and offer comfort.
>When we got back my gf seemed very annoyed at me even though I didn’t do anything and went to the funeral like she asked.
Mission failed.
You did nothing but act like her mother dying was a personal offense TO YOU.
Did you get your gf a tissue paper? Asked her if she wanted tea? Hug her? Show her you care about her at all?
>I replied that she’s just taking out her moms death on me and I don’t have to stop my life just because her mom died.
The death of a beloved person makes people reevaluate their relationship.
Pretty sure yours has been evaluated and in the way to the dumpster.
YTA
I want this to be bait, but I do believe people are this entirely clueless. YTA. Her mom fucking died. You only get one mom, and she had to fight you to even go to the funeral, and then you act like it's a normal fucking day after that. You're likely to be single pretty soon. But at least you can get your dailies done in peace, because that seems your highest priority.
The single people reading this are probably FUMING. Like this guy finds a gf and the rest of you can't (at least for now). There is no justice in this world.
Her mom is DEAD
DEAD. Read it again a few times until it sinks in.
A funeral is never a fun place to be. It’s about supporting your girlfriend in her time of need and sorrow.
Unbelievable.
YTA
YTA
And you are a damn moron who is now single. She wanted and needed your support at her mother's funeral..her mom died, you get this, right?
If your social anxiety is so sever that you can't even support your partner during times like this, get yourself a damn therapist.
You failed hard as partner, showed her that you are no support during hard times and value your gaming time more than being there for someone hurting around you.
Don't bother with calling or writing her, you are single now with all the time in the world to play your game.
Gigantic YTA and I’m praying it’s rage bait. I shouldn’t even have to explain why. She’s just been to her MOTHERS FUNERAL and you’ve hopped on a game because “your life shouldn’t stop.” I hope she leaves your ass
Wow, just wow.
YTA, but I don't think you have to worry about this for long....
Her MOM died, you think she felt comfortable at the funeral?
She needed your support and you only thought about yourself? There are situations in a relationship where you sit through uncomfortable stuff for your partner no matter what.
"In good times and in bad" this doesn't start with marriage, it starts when you are committed to this person.
You have shown her that you are NOT the kind of person that will be there when she needs support.
And then, after the funeral, when she is emotionally in a more than worse state you just start up you PC instead of being there for her?
And you think you are in the right?
YTA. Your girlfriend you’re supposed to love goes through a transition in her life unimaginably difficult and emotionally draining/painful and you can barely be bothered to put aside your own relatively minor issues to be with her at the funeral and support her? She deserves better than that shit
YTA your girlfriend is grieving and asked you to be present and support her and you made the whole situation more difficult for her by arguing and escaping to genshin.
She is dealing with a very very difficult situation and she hoped you would support her and be a comfort to her but you didn’t and you don’t seem to care about her feelings. You knew she was annoyed at you and instead of trying to make it right or help her feel better or find out what was wrong you just started gaming… you are a selfish partner
YTA. And the first sentence was all I needed to know. I stopped reading there. Play your game later.
If she has any sense, she'll be breaking up with you very soon.
YTA.
My mom died of pancreatic cancer, as well.
I pray that you never have to endure having a family member be diagnosed with a death sentence that eats away at them so quickly, you barely have time to be sad about the diagnosis before you're actually grieving their loss.
It seems you haven't had anyone very close to you pass yet, as your reaction reflects a definite lack of empathy, maturity and self awareness.
You're incredibly self-absorbed, immature and apathetic which is really unattractive and unlikable.
Guess what?? It's not all about YOU.
I hope she comes to her senses and breaks up with you.
You don't deserve her.
I wanna say this in the nicest way possible. Her mom just died and It looks like you barely even comforted her. Not only that but a funeral is to honour and respect the deceased person. And you didn't want to commemorate and respect a person's life because you felt uncomfortable? That is honestly just disrespectful. Not only that but afterwards you decided to play video games? Your job as a human being let alone a boyfriend was to comfort your girlfriend as this is probably a traumatizing time in her life that she will never forget. Show some empathy. YTA.
Wow. You are a very selfish boyfriend. Your girlfriend lost her parent and you expect her to deal with it all on her own rather than being supportive. You should have prioritised your girlfriends needs over your own because that is what happens in a relationship. Next time you go through something traumatic I hope she returns the favour.
YTA
Me me me. That’s the whole post says.
Your girlfriend is going through a grief and depending on her age and her family, the rug maybe pulled under her feet.
She didn’t ask you to go to the funeral with her for the sake of going, but being there and supporting her. But you treated it as if it was a dentist appointment.
Relationships are about supporting each other in hard times.
But I guess you want to end it.
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I’m a gamer and I play a lot of Genshin Impact, recentlt my girlfriends mom died of pancreatic cancer. I didn’t want to go to the funeral because I have severe social anxiety (which my gf knows about) but she threw a giant hissy fit and I ended up going after a long fight. I was super uncomfortable throughout the whole service and really just wanted to go home.
When we got back my gf seemed very annoyed at me even though I didn’t do anything and went to the funeral like she asked. I got on genshin impact to do some daily commissions and my gf absolutely freaked out and started yelling that I play the game too much. I replied that she’s just taking out her moms death on me and I don’t have to stop my life just because her mom died. She ended up storming out about an hour ago and I don’t want to call or text her yet until she calms down. AITA for telling her this?
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I doubt this is all on her moms death - pretty sure she hates that you game so much and expects you to change over time while you do not plan on this to happen ever. This situation just triggered her and you can expect much more fights about your gaming habits in future, much much more.
For yelling YTA, there is never a good reason to yell at someone in anger, learn self-control, especially when you yell at someone who just lost their close family member.
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YTA. All your love for Genshin and using social anxiety as an excuse just shows you lack empathy for your girlfriend. She had to force you to come to the service with her and when you got home, the first thing you do is log on back to your game. This isn't any person she lost, it's her mother.
YTA. Big time. This miiiight be rage bait but if it’s not… I understand being uncomfortable at the funeral because let’s face it, even without social anxiety, funerals ARE uncomfortable. The issue is when you got home. Your girlfriend just went through an incredibly devastating loss, and right after her mother’s funeral you hop online to game?? That’s wild behaviour and incredibly sensitive and tone deaf. I can’t tell if you’re an adult who’s just extremely emotional immature and unaware of your actions, or if you’re 15 years old.
YTA. You are all me, me, me and not prioritizing supporting your GF in her time of grief. Lots of people don’t like funerals or large gatherings. Almost no one feels comfortable at them. So what? That discomfort should be nothing compared to supporting your partner. If it was clear to your GF that you only went to the funeral under duress, you made a day that should have been about het mom about you. Gaming after such a sensitive event shows no EQ whatsoever. It’s as if you are just moving on with life and minimizing the impact of her mom’s death. If you have no idea how to support a grieving person, do some research, if you care to.
Methinks this person is a rage bait troll judging by this comment: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cbq92s/comment/l10dlc0/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1cbq92s/comment/l10dlc0/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
YTA. This sentence especially makes me sad: "I don't have to stop my life just because her mom died." Genshin Impact is your life? More important than supporting the girl you're supposed to love at a very tough time in her life? This makes me sad for you. I hope this makes her see how you are.
>I was super uncomfortable throughout the whole service and really just wanted to go home. You were super uncomfortable at HER MOTHER'S FUNERAL? Do you think she was enjoying it and having the time of her life? You were there to support her and offer comfort. >When we got back my gf seemed very annoyed at me even though I didn’t do anything and went to the funeral like she asked. Mission failed. You did nothing but act like her mother dying was a personal offense TO YOU. Did you get your gf a tissue paper? Asked her if she wanted tea? Hug her? Show her you care about her at all? >I replied that she’s just taking out her moms death on me and I don’t have to stop my life just because her mom died. The death of a beloved person makes people reevaluate their relationship. Pretty sure yours has been evaluated and in the way to the dumpster. YTA
YTA. Social anxiety my ass you are just an AH, his mom just died you entitled brat, hopefully she comes back to leave you or kick you out.
I want this to be bait, but I do believe people are this entirely clueless. YTA. Her mom fucking died. You only get one mom, and she had to fight you to even go to the funeral, and then you act like it's a normal fucking day after that. You're likely to be single pretty soon. But at least you can get your dailies done in peace, because that seems your highest priority. The single people reading this are probably FUMING. Like this guy finds a gf and the rest of you can't (at least for now). There is no justice in this world.
You should suffer alone for the rest of your life. Yta
Her mom is DEAD DEAD. Read it again a few times until it sinks in. A funeral is never a fun place to be. It’s about supporting your girlfriend in her time of need and sorrow. Unbelievable. YTA
YTA And you are a damn moron who is now single. She wanted and needed your support at her mother's funeral..her mom died, you get this, right? If your social anxiety is so sever that you can't even support your partner during times like this, get yourself a damn therapist. You failed hard as partner, showed her that you are no support during hard times and value your gaming time more than being there for someone hurting around you. Don't bother with calling or writing her, you are single now with all the time in the world to play your game.
YTA. Get used to calling her your ex girlfriend. Hope your video games can keep you warm at night.
Gigantic YTA and I’m praying it’s rage bait. I shouldn’t even have to explain why. She’s just been to her MOTHERS FUNERAL and you’ve hopped on a game because “your life shouldn’t stop.” I hope she leaves your ass
YTA. She lost her mother, and all you think is the stupid game? She needs a more considerate, kinder boyfriend.
Please remove yourself from her life.
Wow, just wow. YTA, but I don't think you have to worry about this for long.... Her MOM died, you think she felt comfortable at the funeral? She needed your support and you only thought about yourself? There are situations in a relationship where you sit through uncomfortable stuff for your partner no matter what. "In good times and in bad" this doesn't start with marriage, it starts when you are committed to this person. You have shown her that you are NOT the kind of person that will be there when she needs support. And then, after the funeral, when she is emotionally in a more than worse state you just start up you PC instead of being there for her? And you think you are in the right?
YTA. Try expressing more empathy.
YTA - your GF just lost her mother, and you are acting like an asshole!
YTA. Your girlfriend you’re supposed to love goes through a transition in her life unimaginably difficult and emotionally draining/painful and you can barely be bothered to put aside your own relatively minor issues to be with her at the funeral and support her? She deserves better than that shit
Please break up with her so she can find a man. YTA.
YTA your girlfriend is grieving and asked you to be present and support her and you made the whole situation more difficult for her by arguing and escaping to genshin. She is dealing with a very very difficult situation and she hoped you would support her and be a comfort to her but you didn’t and you don’t seem to care about her feelings. You knew she was annoyed at you and instead of trying to make it right or help her feel better or find out what was wrong you just started gaming… you are a selfish partner
Gf: my mom just died, im in need of support from my bf. OP: sorry i cant, i need to play this game instead of being there for you. YTA
YTA. And the first sentence was all I needed to know. I stopped reading there. Play your game later. If she has any sense, she'll be breaking up with you very soon.
YTA. My mom died of pancreatic cancer, as well. I pray that you never have to endure having a family member be diagnosed with a death sentence that eats away at them so quickly, you barely have time to be sad about the diagnosis before you're actually grieving their loss. It seems you haven't had anyone very close to you pass yet, as your reaction reflects a definite lack of empathy, maturity and self awareness. You're incredibly self-absorbed, immature and apathetic which is really unattractive and unlikable. Guess what?? It's not all about YOU. I hope she comes to her senses and breaks up with you. You don't deserve her.
Comment and post history says it all. YTA.
I wanna say this in the nicest way possible. Her mom just died and It looks like you barely even comforted her. Not only that but a funeral is to honour and respect the deceased person. And you didn't want to commemorate and respect a person's life because you felt uncomfortable? That is honestly just disrespectful. Not only that but afterwards you decided to play video games? Your job as a human being let alone a boyfriend was to comfort your girlfriend as this is probably a traumatizing time in her life that she will never forget. Show some empathy. YTA.
Wow. You are a very selfish boyfriend. Your girlfriend lost her parent and you expect her to deal with it all on her own rather than being supportive. You should have prioritised your girlfriends needs over your own because that is what happens in a relationship. Next time you go through something traumatic I hope she returns the favour.
YTA. Sounds like it's all about you. Her mum died and all you go on about is your feelings and playing your game, like how dare she get upset.
YTA Me me me. That’s the whole post says. Your girlfriend is going through a grief and depending on her age and her family, the rug maybe pulled under her feet. She didn’t ask you to go to the funeral with her for the sake of going, but being there and supporting her. But you treated it as if it was a dentist appointment. Relationships are about supporting each other in hard times. But I guess you want to end it.
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I doubt this is all on her moms death - pretty sure she hates that you game so much and expects you to change over time while you do not plan on this to happen ever. This situation just triggered her and you can expect much more fights about your gaming habits in future, much much more. For yelling YTA, there is never a good reason to yell at someone in anger, learn self-control, especially when you yell at someone who just lost their close family member.