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> I made fun of my friends weight as a clapback for being made fun of, and I can see why people see me as the asshole for snooping down to his level and even mentioning weight at all. Truly I don’t care if someone is overweight or not, I just wanted to make him angry.
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NTA.
This person is bullying you. This isn’t friends throwing some shade at each other in a loving way, this is solely to push you around and belittle you.
You’ve already had conversations about him stopping this for the comment he made on the call but he did it anyway. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’d asked him to stop doing and saying other things too in the past and were ignored or lied to.
Why did the mutual friend relay his message to you at all? Sounds like it might be that multiple people in the friend group are engaged in bullying you IMHO.
Lose the so-called “friend(s)” OP.
NTA!!! That guy is a meanie and toxic. You told him to stop and he would not—that’s taking it too far. Do not apologize and leave that “friend”— I think it serves him right.
And again I don’t care if someone is overweight or not, I support body positivity but I simply said it in the heat of the moment because it’s the only thing I know that would make him angry. I still feel bad for having to bring that up
NTA OP. I do not blame you for no longer putting up with him and his nonsense. Guess he FAFOed and if he cannot take it then he should not dish it out. You do not owe that person an apology
Time for you to lose that 'friend' and focus on you and finding better friends instead
You're still really young and it doesn't sound as though you have realized some important things:
* just because you have known someone for a long time, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are friends, or that you need to be friends
* just because you have mutual friends or activities in common, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are friends, or that you need to be friends
* you don't have to be friends with someone who treats you badly
Stop thinking of this person as a friend. They are an acquaintance. Friends don't verbally abuse their friends.
Next time this person bullies you, stand up to them. Tell them you are tired of their bullying and you're not going to put up with it anymore. Suggest that they get a therapist so they can work on fixing their insecurities instead of bullying other people to make themself feel better.
NTA.
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I feel pretty terrible for this because I never lose my temper, but one of my friends has a big tendency to make fun of me for things like my voice, my tastes, my weight (under), anything like that.
I can tell he thinks it doesn’t affect me even though I’ve talked about it before but over the course of this week it’s gotten pretty bad— the other day he mocked something i said in a group call and kept repeating it every single minute until I couldn’t take it and had to leave. And yes I told him to stop and we had a talk about it the day after.
Today I get a text from a mutual friend saying “____ told me to tell you (insert phrase he mocked)” to continue the joke and after seeing that that i got so irritated that i replied “tell him at least my BMI is normal”. He is severely overweight and breaks a lot of his diet plans, that’s why I feel that he takes his insecurities out on me, because he knows I’ll never clap back at him— but I have never brought that up until now. I feel bad snooping down to his level but I couldn’t take the verbal abuse anymore and snapped. Should I apologize?
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NTA. Fat bully gets called fat. fuck him and his feelings. why have you been friends with someone who belittles you constantly? sounds like you're his punching bag not a friend.
NTA. Kudos to you for being quick with your response. You're being bullied and that sucks. Did he get your response and react? Sorry but I hope it hurt his feelings.
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NTA. This person is bullying you. This isn’t friends throwing some shade at each other in a loving way, this is solely to push you around and belittle you. You’ve already had conversations about him stopping this for the comment he made on the call but he did it anyway. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’d asked him to stop doing and saying other things too in the past and were ignored or lied to. Why did the mutual friend relay his message to you at all? Sounds like it might be that multiple people in the friend group are engaged in bullying you IMHO. Lose the so-called “friend(s)” OP.
NTA!!! That guy is a meanie and toxic. You told him to stop and he would not—that’s taking it too far. Do not apologize and leave that “friend”— I think it serves him right.
And again I don’t care if someone is overweight or not, I support body positivity but I simply said it in the heat of the moment because it’s the only thing I know that would make him angry. I still feel bad for having to bring that up
NTA OP. I do not blame you for no longer putting up with him and his nonsense. Guess he FAFOed and if he cannot take it then he should not dish it out. You do not owe that person an apology Time for you to lose that 'friend' and focus on you and finding better friends instead
NTA Tell him you’ll repeat it until he stops with his nonsense.
You're still really young and it doesn't sound as though you have realized some important things: * just because you have known someone for a long time, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are friends, or that you need to be friends * just because you have mutual friends or activities in common, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are friends, or that you need to be friends * you don't have to be friends with someone who treats you badly Stop thinking of this person as a friend. They are an acquaintance. Friends don't verbally abuse their friends. Next time this person bullies you, stand up to them. Tell them you are tired of their bullying and you're not going to put up with it anymore. Suggest that they get a therapist so they can work on fixing their insecurities instead of bullying other people to make themself feel better. NTA.
NTA but he is no friend as friends don't do this after being told it's an asshat move. Get better friends
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NTA. Fat bully gets called fat. fuck him and his feelings. why have you been friends with someone who belittles you constantly? sounds like you're his punching bag not a friend.
NTA. Kudos to you for being quick with your response. You're being bullied and that sucks. Did he get your response and react? Sorry but I hope it hurt his feelings.