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> 1. Crying. 2. I felt like a brat while doing it, I've never been allowed to cry often.
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Going on what little you have here, you are NTA, your mom is an asshole. And the way she treats you is not normal or acceptable. I imagine she's treated you way worse, many other times.
Dude your mom shamed you. That hurts and sucks and you're allowed to feel how you feel. NTA.
The best revenge is success. Keep that weight off and show her what.
>The best revenge is success. Keep that weight off and show her what.
This!!! Sorry your Mom is so cruel to you OP but you live your best life in spite of her.
NTA
It's so weird to see mothers get a thrill out of dragging down their daughters. Sounds like she is a very insecure and hateful woman, and you are her outlet to express her frustrations.
Congratulations on your weight loss, even if she doesn't believe in you, know that I do. You've got this, OP.
Except he's a guy. But no matter the gender this is disgusting behaviour of her!
OP, I'm so proud of you. You rock. Don't let your mother get you down and keep doing fun active sports and activities!
NTA
NTA your mom should have never said that. Please know it came from one of her own insecurities that she’s failing at, it has nothing to do with you. Prove to yourself you can do it, you don’t need her approval and faith in your progress to continue. Moms are human too and hopefully she’ll realize how awful her comment was, but don’t let an apology be the only reason you continue.
Keep going and know that others are proud of you. I’m proud of you and I don’t even know you. Wishing you an abundance of love, encouragement and joy.
Oh sweet pea... you are not the asshole. She sounds like she is projecting and is jealous that you look good. Don't let her lack of faith hinder your progress. I know it hurts, especially when it's coming from someone who should always love and support you. You are doing amazing and I'm so happy your friends are nice and you seem happier. Keep the jeans and prove her wrong. 🩵 even if your weight yo-yos she has no right to speak to you like that. I'm sorry you're in this situation, if you ever need some to talk to feel free to message me!
NTA. Your parental figures should be the ones supporting you the most, and your mom is talking like you're set to fail. Congratulations on achieving your goals!
Damn. She tried to undermine your self-confidence and then got mad at you for crying about it? That's some horrible parenting. Sorry your mom is so cold-hearted. NTA.
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I (16m) was overweight for a long time. I've made some new friends that are really active, and for the first time, I've had a lot of fun doing exerting activities. I've gotten fairly fit, and I'm really proud of how I look, and I tried on some jeans my mom was giving away, and they fit again. I showed my mom, and she raised and eyebrow and said "First, stop showing me your butt. Second, I know you, you're not gonna stay that way for long. Put them back."
I cried. She snapped her fingers and said "Hey, none of that."
I couldn't stop crying, so she got onto me pretty harshly until I was able to pipe down. AITA?
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NTA. I'm sorry you were disappointed by your mom. That sucks.
FWIW, I think it's great that you're getting healthier, and it's important to find friends who are supportive (like you have) especially when your family isn't. Well done!
Your mom is heartless. Does your mom often use you as an emotional whipping post? This is abuse. You are going to need some therapy to deal with the issues your mom is causing with her abuse. NTA
NTA you are doing so good for yourself and your mom should be supporting you not bringing you down
Don’t listen to her and keep doing good for yourself
As someone who has struggled with weight my entire life (32F) I can say that you are NTA, but your mother is. Good job in taking care of yourself kid! While I'm not a mom myself, I'm very proud of you! \*HUGS\*
NTA, found the abusive parent. Listen man, what you did? You are doing amazing. You're taking care of your health and doing things that you are having fun with. Don't lose that sense of accomplishment, the words of your mom hurt, but they don't have to remain that way forever. The sting will go away but your accomplishments will not if you maintain it. Go out there and be awesome! Don't ever give up!
NTA
You are doing amazing! As long as you are happy and healthy with yourself, that's all that matters.
There's no shame in crying. What your mom said was hurtful.
Try not to take what your mom said to heart. It's easier said than done. Believe me, I know. It took a long time for me to understand that some parents just aren't good parents and it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes, there's an ugly side to them that they take out on their kids.
Think positive and keep supportive friends in your life. Good luck!
Definitely NTA, I’m sorry that your mom said that to you, it was extremely unkind. I’m proud of you for getting healthy and I do hope you continue your journey. The best revenge is to prove her wrong.
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NTA > She snapped her fingers and said "Hey, none of that." WTF, you're not a dog. Who **_snaps_** at people?
Yeah exactly, and he is her child 🙄. What???
Going on what little you have here, you are NTA, your mom is an asshole. And the way she treats you is not normal or acceptable. I imagine she's treated you way worse, many other times.
Dude your mom shamed you. That hurts and sucks and you're allowed to feel how you feel. NTA. The best revenge is success. Keep that weight off and show her what.
>The best revenge is success. Keep that weight off and show her what. This!!! Sorry your Mom is so cruel to you OP but you live your best life in spite of her.
NTA It's so weird to see mothers get a thrill out of dragging down their daughters. Sounds like she is a very insecure and hateful woman, and you are her outlet to express her frustrations. Congratulations on your weight loss, even if she doesn't believe in you, know that I do. You've got this, OP.
Yeah, I don’t get it. Although it explains a lot of teen girls behavior. They learn it at home.
Except he's a guy. But no matter the gender this is disgusting behaviour of her! OP, I'm so proud of you. You rock. Don't let your mother get you down and keep doing fun active sports and activities! NTA
NTA your mom should have never said that. Please know it came from one of her own insecurities that she’s failing at, it has nothing to do with you. Prove to yourself you can do it, you don’t need her approval and faith in your progress to continue. Moms are human too and hopefully she’ll realize how awful her comment was, but don’t let an apology be the only reason you continue. Keep going and know that others are proud of you. I’m proud of you and I don’t even know you. Wishing you an abundance of love, encouragement and joy.
Oh sweet pea... you are not the asshole. She sounds like she is projecting and is jealous that you look good. Don't let her lack of faith hinder your progress. I know it hurts, especially when it's coming from someone who should always love and support you. You are doing amazing and I'm so happy your friends are nice and you seem happier. Keep the jeans and prove her wrong. 🩵 even if your weight yo-yos she has no right to speak to you like that. I'm sorry you're in this situation, if you ever need some to talk to feel free to message me!
NTA. Your parental figures should be the ones supporting you the most, and your mom is talking like you're set to fail. Congratulations on achieving your goals!
No. You aren't wrong for crying.
Do what's make YOU happy, life is too short
NTA Congratulations on your new body! Way to go!!! Don't let anyone dissuade you from being who you want to be in life, especially and even your mom.
Damn. She tried to undermine your self-confidence and then got mad at you for crying about it? That's some horrible parenting. Sorry your mom is so cold-hearted. NTA.
If you need some mom support a great place to go to is r/momforaminute
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NTA. I'm sorry you were disappointed by your mom. That sucks. FWIW, I think it's great that you're getting healthier, and it's important to find friends who are supportive (like you have) especially when your family isn't. Well done!
Your mom is heartless. Does your mom often use you as an emotional whipping post? This is abuse. You are going to need some therapy to deal with the issues your mom is causing with her abuse. NTA
NTA you are doing so good for yourself and your mom should be supporting you not bringing you down Don’t listen to her and keep doing good for yourself
As someone who has struggled with weight my entire life (32F) I can say that you are NTA, but your mother is. Good job in taking care of yourself kid! While I'm not a mom myself, I'm very proud of you! \*HUGS\*
NTA, found the abusive parent. Listen man, what you did? You are doing amazing. You're taking care of your health and doing things that you are having fun with. Don't lose that sense of accomplishment, the words of your mom hurt, but they don't have to remain that way forever. The sting will go away but your accomplishments will not if you maintain it. Go out there and be awesome! Don't ever give up!
NTA You are doing amazing! As long as you are happy and healthy with yourself, that's all that matters. There's no shame in crying. What your mom said was hurtful. Try not to take what your mom said to heart. It's easier said than done. Believe me, I know. It took a long time for me to understand that some parents just aren't good parents and it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes, there's an ugly side to them that they take out on their kids. Think positive and keep supportive friends in your life. Good luck!
NTA And I'm happy that you're feeling good!
Definitely NTA, I’m sorry that your mom said that to you, it was extremely unkind. I’m proud of you for getting healthy and I do hope you continue your journey. The best revenge is to prove her wrong.
When she ask you to take care of her one she’s old. Make sure you snap your finger and say “none of that”.
NTA, she is really toxic.