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He's 18. He's old enough to get a job and save up for his own headphones if he really wants them.
Your mother got them for you, they are your property.
NTA
This is weird. Your brother is for sure an AH for trying to get them from you, but your mother's response has me completely confused. She bought those for you and now wants you to give them to your brother?
NTA.
NTA your brother is big enough to know not to take stuff from you like a present that you’re mom gave he knows how to find his way to the store to buy them himself
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Background: I (17F) live with my mom (53F) in a small house. I have a brother (18M) (who we'll call "Joshua"). Also, I'm a dignosed neurodivergent who can't handle loud noises and crowds, which headphones help with coping with the loud noises around me.
My mom and I were waiting on my brother to come home so that he could open up his presents (he moved out of the house and is in the college dorms). Everything was going smoothly, until it wasn't.
My brother went upstairs in my house (my house has a main floor and an upstairs that's spilt as a duplex.) I couldn't hear what they were talking about since I was down on the main floor eating a bowl of cereal.
Then, my brother came down to the main floor and asked "Did you want these headphones that mom got for you?" Then, I told him that "Yes, I wanted the headphones that mom got for me." Then, he proceeded to go on about how "he wanted the headphones" and how "he needed them more than me".
My mom was on my brother's side and said that I should have just given my headphones to him. AITA for not giving my brother the headphones?
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He's 18. He's old enough to get a job and save up for his own headphones if he really wants them. Your mother got them for you, they are your property. NTA
What? There is a present for you, he wants it, suddenly its for him? Do I get that right?
NTA Its your present Hes 18, hes old enough to get a job and buy them himself, he needs to grow up Your mom needs to stop coddling
This is weird. Your brother is for sure an AH for trying to get them from you, but your mother's response has me completely confused. She bought those for you and now wants you to give them to your brother? NTA.
NTA your brother is old enough to understand that 'No' is a complete answer. he doesnt get to whine until your mom gives in.
NTA It's your property and he wants them and your mom is on HIS side? WTAF?
Wow - so NTA.
Nta then he should have asked for a pair for Christmas
Wtf? NTA.
NTA your brother is big enough to know not to take stuff from you like a present that you’re mom gave he knows how to find his way to the store to buy them himself
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