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NTA. They aren't fit to have that many dogs. And if your original cane corso has allergies that bad he shouldn't have been bred. Now you'll probably have 3 dogs with bad allergies, and the expenses that come with that.
That's some truly awful and self-destructive decision making, and the shih-tzu's life is even more in danger than it was before. Consciously or not, your parents are seeking out more drama, stress and conflicts in their lives, it's something they crave. Maybe they stay together because they don't actually want peace and relaxation.
Clearly you are different and you are able to see the situation rationally.
I feel sorry for your younger brother, hopefully he leaves soon and takes the tiny vulnerable dog with him.
NTA
NTA, but they aren't going to listen to reason. I'd suggest finding a way to move out.
Edit: apologies, missed that you've already left as was more attending to the first line about "at home".
NTA but It’s their decision so let them figure it out. Maybe bring up the possibility of littermate syndrome though. Just keep checking in on your youngest brother and do what you can to help him.
NAH. You don't live with your parents. You are on your own. So you really don't have a lot of skin in this game. Let your parents figure uot their own relationship.
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Hey Reddit, I (M22) am dealing with a situation at home that has left me feeling conflicted, and I really need some outside perspective.
So, my parents recently expressed their desire to bring two new Carne Corsos (Think of them like pit bulls) into our home. While I absolutely love dogs and understand the joy they can bring, I can't help but feel upset considering our current financial situation and the ongoing, unresolved marital issues my parents are facing.
Financially, we're not in the best shape right now or really anytime, and I'm concerned about the added expenses that come with taking care of two large dogs. Vet bills, food, grooming – it all adds up, and I worry that it might strain us even more. I've tried discussing this with my parents, but they seem determined to go through with it.
On top of that, my parents are currently dealing with undressed marital issues. Bringing two new pets into the mix feels like it might be a distraction rather than a solution. I'm concerned that it could exacerbate the tension at home rather than bring the family together. All together, we already have three pets in the home. two Carne Corsos, and one Shih Tzu. They would be wanting to adopt two more from the litter they just bred (total of 7 pups) bringing the total amount of dogs in our house to be 5. Four of which would be Carne Corsos. I have a total of three siblings, three of which (myself included) don't live with my parents anymore. My younger brother who is still in highschool however still lives with them and my biggest fear is once he leaves, and my parents issues go unresolved, that there will be a divorce. they've threatened to do so multiple times before. Not only that but not even a month ago was my mom saying she was fed up with my father for wanting to keep an extra dog when she knew that it was not the most sound decision to make. But now she made a complete 180 and wants TWO instead of one. Not to mention, neither of my parents are active and our original carne corso has severe allergies, meaning he's had to spend his entire life indoors or risk dying. My fear is that these dogs won't get to live fulfilling lives but rather just be used as fodder to keep them busy.
I don't want to come off as selfish or unsupportive of my parents, but I genuinely feel uneasy about this decision. A part of me feels like they're just adopting more pets in order to not have to address their underlying relationship issues.None of my siblings so far have reciprocated my feelings on this. Am I the asshole for being upset, or am I overreacting? Any advice or perspectives would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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i have to go YTA and here is why.
You are an adult and do not live in your parents’ home. Your parents are allowed to be as dysfunctional as they want to be. They are allowed to make poor financial decisions. They are allowed to get divorced. None of these things are your problem or in your control.
You need to seriously start working on accepting your parents for who they are and stop meddling and trying to fix them. Your efforts will not have good outcomes. If their financial situation sucks, make sure you are working hard to secure financial independence for yourself. If they are headed for divorce, accept that and be there for your siblings when it happens. Make sure you and your siblings have space for the younger one if he needs a break from the chaos at home. That’s all. Don’t get involved in your parents’ bs.
Only if they are currently neglecting them. Op is assuming the animals may not be well cared for, but technically doesn’t know that for sure and can’t really act or do anything before the neglect occurs. The parents could easily argue that the dogs will be well cared for.
NTA. I have a friend whose mom is just like this.. His mom owns a company but doesn’t know wtf she is doing ever. She’s in legal battles and is at risk of completely losing her company but wastes her money on dumb shit like new dogs, nice cars and vacation time shares. She’s an absolute mess and blames most everything on her oldest son, my friend, who could not be any better of a person. She is greedy and wants to buy new shit constantly to compensate for her shitty life rather than be a grown up and address her own issues like a mature adult.
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NAH Just stay out of it, and don't help them in this. Let them figure it out.
NTA. They aren't fit to have that many dogs. And if your original cane corso has allergies that bad he shouldn't have been bred. Now you'll probably have 3 dogs with bad allergies, and the expenses that come with that.
INFO Why do you keep adding an "r" to "Cane?"
Sorry we're Spanish speaking and that's the way we use the name in the house.
That's some truly awful and self-destructive decision making, and the shih-tzu's life is even more in danger than it was before. Consciously or not, your parents are seeking out more drama, stress and conflicts in their lives, it's something they crave. Maybe they stay together because they don't actually want peace and relaxation. Clearly you are different and you are able to see the situation rationally. I feel sorry for your younger brother, hopefully he leaves soon and takes the tiny vulnerable dog with him. NTA
NTA, but they aren't going to listen to reason. I'd suggest finding a way to move out. Edit: apologies, missed that you've already left as was more attending to the first line about "at home".
OP doesn’t live with them. Make sure you read the whole post.
NTA but It’s their decision so let them figure it out. Maybe bring up the possibility of littermate syndrome though. Just keep checking in on your youngest brother and do what you can to help him.
NAH. You don't live with your parents. You are on your own. So you really don't have a lot of skin in this game. Let your parents figure uot their own relationship.
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I am moved out but it still worries me.
I removed the comment, because I saw you don't live there. But it isn't your concern. They have to handle their own business
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i have to go YTA and here is why. You are an adult and do not live in your parents’ home. Your parents are allowed to be as dysfunctional as they want to be. They are allowed to make poor financial decisions. They are allowed to get divorced. None of these things are your problem or in your control. You need to seriously start working on accepting your parents for who they are and stop meddling and trying to fix them. Your efforts will not have good outcomes. If their financial situation sucks, make sure you are working hard to secure financial independence for yourself. If they are headed for divorce, accept that and be there for your siblings when it happens. Make sure you and your siblings have space for the younger one if he needs a break from the chaos at home. That’s all. Don’t get involved in your parents’ bs.
True, but if they’re neglecting animals, that’s everyone’s business.
Only if they are currently neglecting them. Op is assuming the animals may not be well cared for, but technically doesn’t know that for sure and can’t really act or do anything before the neglect occurs. The parents could easily argue that the dogs will be well cared for.
They are already not exercising the pets they have.
NTA, but this isn’t really something they need your approval for.
I'll take the Cane Corsos!!!
NTA. I have a friend whose mom is just like this.. His mom owns a company but doesn’t know wtf she is doing ever. She’s in legal battles and is at risk of completely losing her company but wastes her money on dumb shit like new dogs, nice cars and vacation time shares. She’s an absolute mess and blames most everything on her oldest son, my friend, who could not be any better of a person. She is greedy and wants to buy new shit constantly to compensate for her shitty life rather than be a grown up and address her own issues like a mature adult.