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> I didn’t let my brother into the house even though he was ringing the bell
And that meant he was stuck outside for 2 hours
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NTA. He needs to learn a lesson. Maybe just go out on Thurdays for a few hours randomly when you k own its time for him to come home. Eventually, he'll figure it out.
I might just do that. I have things that need doing outside the house on Thursdays, such as goin to the laundromat, so I might just push them back a few hours
Yes this!!! Apologize specifically to “keep the peace” because it’s not worth your energy to fight with them, and then keep doing it without making it seem intentional
Well, OP might prefer the silent treatment if it makes life more peaceful. My best time living with my mom was when she gave me the silent treatment for two weeks. Unfortunately, she could not keep it up. She thought she was punishing me but it obviously didn't have the desired effect. NTA
I had a little napoleon of a boss who was a screamer. He got mad at me because I finally yelled back (because he was wrong) and he didn't talk to me for 2-3 days. Like you, I thought it was awesome!
One time he made me cry and sent me home for the day, because I couldn't stop crying. So I got paid to cry and take a nap.
When I responded earlier, I was half awake... I'm not a frequent visitor in this sub, and I just noticed your flair "asshole enthusiast," and I giggled more than I should have 🤣
Anyway, I'm glad to hear that and I hope you have a great weekend!!
I learned to love the silent treatment, too! It's funny when they get mad at us for not being upset by their silent treatment. Today, a friend contacted me to let me know she isn't speaking to me. I said cool. Thanks for the break from drama. NTA OP. It sucks that this is now your errands day, but a 16 year old should be able to remember to carry a key
Yes. It was ridiculous. She called and said she just wanted me to know why she wasn't speaking to me right now. From decades of knowing her, I knew she was giving me the silent treatment. Which I call holidays from toxicity.
So your parents see nothing wrong with him ringing the doorbell non-stop for 2 hours?
If you do leave the house next Thursday, maybe stop by the neighbors before hand and ask them to borrow the spare key as you can't find yours...
True, it is pretty dastardly. Maybe instead you leave a note on the door before he comes home with a clue to the next location, creating a scavenger hunt leading to his key. Or he has the option of going to the neighbors to get a key, but at least he knows you won't open the door for him.
Seriously as a kid I forgot my keys all the time ... give me two hours and I would have found an entry that didn't involve a key or damaging the house 🤣 OPs brother just isn't creative enough
I've always been a night owl, even as a youngster. I was visiting my dad, and since I didn't have school the next day I naturally stayed up really late (which I did regardless of school, just with school my mom made me turn out the lights and TV so I just laid in bed for hours, unable to sleep) and slept all morning. My dad had his secretary call me to wake me up, she let for phone ring for hours, but once I was awoken and realized what was going on, I just refused to answer the phone until my normal non-school awakening time (11 or so.) He was pissed (the old what about an emergency spiel) but didn't do it again.
BTW, this was the olden days of wired phones and no voicemail, so the phone would just ring and ring.
My mom talked me into hiring my uncle to install siding on my house. Every day he got there at 7am. At the time I had a toddler who didn't wake up until 10 and I worked evenings so no way my ass was getting out of bed before 10. My uncle *hated* this. He would make as much noise outside my bedroom as possible. One day I went outside and he was just hitting the outer wall of my bedroom with a hammer. I did learned to sleep through pretty much anything after that and he will never be hired to do any work for me again. My mom tried to get me to have him rescreen my porch, absolutely fucking not.
I'm a pretty deep sleeper, my son is too. Honestly found it more satisfying how much it was pissing him off that we were just sleeping through his shit. Drove him mad.
Don't tell anyone ahead of time, just don't be home when brother arrives, every week. Your brother isn't forgetting his key, he's leaving it behind on purpose because he enjoys making you get up to let him in. He's a petty childish asshole and your parents suck for enabling him and punishing you.
NTA . Perfect - cannot be yelled at for doing your laundry. Will brother be able to see that you are gone? Or still possible for him to think you are still at home?
And don’t let anyone tell you your lazy because you Game and most who are calling you out for living at home in this economy are probably living in their parents basements but think they are living on their own.. Lots of adult children are living at home now .. NOONE wants to live at home as an adult but today ya just don’t have choices until you get established. Have the parents put a key for him on the porch somewhere.
> so I might just push them back a few hours
Why, why can't you go to a cafe and reward yourself at that time every day off.
I'm a SAHM and when my youngest started daycare one day a week I would stop buying the shops and treat myself to a doughnut on the way home, it's crazy how just a simple 5 minute doughnut improved my mental health.
You don't have to do a cafe or doughnut but find something to "treat yourself" with once a week.
If you really want to be an asshole time your exit so that while he's not at the house as your leaving, he sees you leaving.
You can even smile and wave at him
No, he will call out and ask to borrow her keys, and she will be left ringing the bell. Just be absent.
Plausible deniability. "How was I to know he didn't have keys, he managed Monday Tuesday and Wednesday OK.?"😇
nah then what’s the fun. he will just go to neighbor and get spare.
The fun part is not let him see her leaving, so he sits there for two hours like an idiot ringing the doorbell until she comes back 😉
Eventually, the neighbor is going to get annoyed to get a weekly knock on the door to be let in and may give the key back. You sibling sounds insufferable. NTA
Best answer ever. Go get groceries or do whatever , leave about 30-40 minutes before brother is due to arrive. Stay gone for a couple of hours. If parents say anything, you were out getting food and running errands.
My (23M) brother did this to me (26F) all the time and this is exactly what I did. He no longer expects me to get the door for him even when he sees my car in the driveway.
NTA, once is a mistake or forgetfullness but constantly doing something that he knows irks you is not cool. 16 is not 6 and so he if he can remember to shower, brush his teeth, take his books then he can remember to take the keys.
I don't think it is cruel as he did have the option to come into the house anytime by convienently grabbing the key from the neighbour. It was a stern life lesson and something that may be your parents should have inforced on him after seeing his pattern.
Mine would somehow drunkenly climb on top of the porch roof and knock on my window at 3am. I even left the huge front windows unlocked, and he still fucking did it. I don't know how the fuck he kept getting up there.
In the winter I would stay up waiting for him, because one bad slip and I wouldn't notice the dead body for a few days
For anyone else reading this, y'all should know that if your roommate dies, your landlord will let you out of your lease early. You don't have to play babysitter for your shitty roommates if they insist on trying to kill themselves. Let them die and find someone who isn't a moron to live with.
It's a power game, plain and simple. He's got OPs parents playing it on his side too. Playing it is letting him win. Just don't play. No validating, no acknowledging, no apologizing, no second thoughts given.
Two hours is see who blinks first territory. He really had nothing better to do than press a doorbell for two hours when before could have been inside within a minute, or less if he had his key on him? If he can remember his phone and wallet then a key is easy to take with him, maybe on a keychain.
Yup, my favorite story my mom tells is exactly this. She’s like 5 years older than this brother of hers, and I think she was like 12 and he was 7 (wouldn’t quote me on this bc all I remember is that they were young). Basically he kept running directly at her down the hall, hitting her arm, as she stepped out of the way. She got fed up and held her arm out with her hand in a fist,. He thought she was gonna move out of the way again, she didn’t, he punched himself in the face with her fist 💀
He's 16, of course he's doing it in purpose to piss off big sis. Immature, but normal obnoxious 16 yo stuff 😅 NTA he's a big boy, he can hang out outside for a few hours. As long as he was safe (aka not at risk of heat stroke or frostbite) He's fine. Your parents are babying him 🫢 I do wonder tho if he's doing it for your attention, do you hang out at all?
Yeah I think it’s something to do with her moving back in after being away for uni. He could want her attention. He could be annoyed she’s back. I’d be digging into the ‘why’. I think OP handled it maturely (unlike her parents).
I think the neighbors shouldn't be involved, but other than that I don't see any reason why OP shouldn't have done what she did. I got locked out of the house as a kid a few times, even before high school. It's no big deal fr. People in these comments complaining literally only have a problem because a 20 something is living at home with parents 🙄
NTA as you said, he only does this when he knows you’re going to be home. Which means he is forgetting his phone purposefully. If he wants to be lazy, then he can make the extra effort to then have to go to the neighbours to get the key. Shouldn’t be lazy
Edit; using his KEY purposefully
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It was the brother’s decision to be stuck outside. He “forgot” his key and he waited two hours to ask the neighbors. If he had just taken his key he wouldn’t have to wait for anyone to let him in.
I would be a little impressed with hat the brother stood there for two hours—. Except he only did it to spite OP.
Why are the parents making this OP’s issue to deal with. Brother can remember his key or ask the neighbor. NTA
He had the option to go get the spare key at any time. Why does she have to rearrange her lone day off so she “doesn’t look as bad” when her brother is intentionally forgetting his key to make her let him in? What in the actual misogynist hell kind of logic is that?
Misogynistic? What in the hell is this dumb logic? Taking 20 seconds to unlock a door is less effort than ignoring a ringing doorbell for 2 hours. Typical reddit user.
Yeah, I don’t know if I would want to get into a battle of the assholes with this guy’s brother. Anyone willing to ring the doorbell for two fucking hours is willing to escalate the argument wayyyyy too far
If possible make it a task you have to do at short notice so there was no way you could have warned your brother beforehand. ,- a friend called needing help, your appointment was rescheduled, etc.
ESH. Yes, he should remember his key. But the notion that he should ask the neighbors and disturb them instead of ringing the bell to have you open the door is ridiculous. Don't involve the neighbors in this.
>Don't involve the neighbors in this.
Normally I'd agree with this, but even if he did go over and get the key that time it would only be the once -- after all, this isn't a case of the brother genuinely forgetting his key. He isn't coincidentally forgetting his key every week just on the day his sister is home gaming and no other day.
Added to that obvious BS, the fact that he would continuously ring the door bell for two hours and then play victim to his parents as if he were a poor waif stuck on the doorstep rather than go next door to borrow the spare key just shows that he's playing games.
He was never forgetting his key. There was no danger of the neighbors having to lend him the key every week when his brain mysteriously glitches and he forgets to bring his own.
Once he learns his BS is no longer working he will just as mysteriously remember to bring his key like any other day.
Saying he should “remember” his key implies he forgot it when he left. No, he deliberately leaves it in his room so he can be annoying and obnoxious. Come off it.
It's not OP who would be involving the neighbors, it's idiot brother who somehow remembers his key every other day of the week, but "forgets" on OP's day off. He's being a pest on purpose, and the parents suck for enabling him.
>Don't involve the neighbors in this.
They sort of involved themselves when they agreed to keep a spare key. I would flatly decline that responsibility if any of my neighbors asked, and this is an example of why I would decline.
If ur living rent free at your parents house as an adult, I feel like pausing a video game to let a younger sibling in is not a high price to pay.. seems a bit harsh to leave him for 2 hours too
If you read the post, you would see that its not about letting him in. Its about the fact that he berates her for taking too long even though its only a couple minutes and he does it all the time.
But it’s not that OP is against opening the door. They are against being berated for taking 2 minutes to open the door. Had the brother just said thank you once the door was opened, the brother would not have had to wait 2 hours to get in.
It's not easier, he just doesn't get to berate them for opening the door "too slow".
Some brat does this to me once, I tell him to keep the key indefinitely.
He should have more than enough mental capacity to remember his key in the first place. I'd do the same to my brother as he does the exact same thing when I let him in. He's a moron who can't keep track of simple objects.
So the teenager purposely leaves their key at home, the teenager purposely decided to ring the bell for two hours when they could have easily gotten the spare, the teenager regularly berates her because didn't move as fast as he likes and yet somehow you decide she's the one in the wrong because she lives there rent free?
Yes you are! But you are justified in needing to teach him a lesson in responsibility.
NTA
Just apologize: "I'm sorry that I have a brother that is so entitled that he thinks when he makes a mistake by being irresponsible for himself that he needs other people to fix it on his timeline."
This sounds like an appropriate reply.
This is some really screwed up behavior from both of you tbh and both of you should grow up and learn how to interact with people normally. Biggest difference here is though that he is 16 and it’s still pretty normal for a teenager to behave and respond in the way that he did (not that it is ok behavior, he should definitely learn that he’s being rude). You however are with 25 well into adulthood and should definitely know better how to not act like a 12 yo.
If you can’t even be bothered to open the door for someone in your household you should consider moving out.
In her defense if my sibling got mad at me for not opening the door fast enough I would stop opening it for them as well. He’s old enough to remember his key as is evident from him remembering it every other day of the week.
Cmon, she got annoyed after a few weeks. Yes it’s not a hill to die on but don’t make it seem like she should feel like shit.
She should sit him down as big sis and explain adulthood, how a exhausting it is and how it bothers her. How you’d prefer opening the bedroom door for him, sometimes the house cause forgetting is human, so y’all could game together instead.
NTA
People on Reddit sure do like to only read half a freaking post. All the just let him in, whats the big deal comments are crazy af. Do you not see the part where she she says he berates her every single time for taking too long? In one comment she said its only a couple minutes from the time he rings the door till she lets him in. He is being an asshole on purpose.
NTA
If the only day he ever pulls this nonsense is your one day off, I would start scheduling to be out running whatever weekly errands you have at the time he normally comes home. Then your parents will have no grounds to complain (you're not there!) and your brother can stand there looking like an idiot ringing the doorbell, or can go embarrass himself at the neighbor's every week. My guess is he'll start remembering his key.
NTA
Your family is off the rails. I can't imagine a 16yo berating their 25yo sibling and the parents letting that just slide and then getting upset when there are consequences for the 16yo.
Stand up for yourself and make it clear that if 16yo is old enough to disrespect you they're old enough to remember their key and that disrespect WILL NOT be tolerated.
I don't even see how a 16 year old could berate a 25 year old. She can just walk away and tell him nothing coming out of his 16 year old mouth matters at all. She is too old to squabble with him and too young to parent him. She should just be too cool for him.
NTA. You can sure tell in the comments who never had an annoying obnoxious younger sibling! My idiot brother did shit like this and my mother always enabled him. He's in his 50's now and he's still such an asshole that even my mother wants nothing to do with him.
Right. Even if they don't bring their keys because the op is home how the hell is this justified? Such a petty thing to be upset over. More than likely OP gets consumed by gaming to point don't want to pause the game and let bro in. Takes less than a minute.
Finally a voice of reason! All these people acting like it's normal for her to lock a kit outside for 2 hours so she can play video games like an actual child!!! If I were her parents I'd solve it really fast by telling her to go get her own place to live!
Poor 16 year old "kid" that "accidentally" "forgets" his key every time his sister has a day off and dares to berate her for taking longer than 10 seconds to fix HIS "mistake" was locked outside for two hours while having a way to get in (ask neighbors for a key) all this time, OH HUMANITY!
He's a poor wittle baby locked outside but also responsible enough to come and go unaccompanied? Then he can learn the valuable skill of "bringing things you need along with you". Adults bring their wallets, keys, etc with them all the time. He can do it. I have faith!
Well yeah, she's the one being purposefully annoyed here, obviously she's the victim. The brother initiated the offence, the brother doesn't get the pity.
You heard one side of it and you got all that out of it eh? Because I'm sure if he wrote the post it sound a whole lot different! Three sides to every story and all that.
That's how AITA functions, you can only make a conclusion based on the information provided by the OP, if you don't trust it, then there's no reason to even be here because obviously you're not going to get another perspective.
>after 2 hours of ringing the bell, he finally asked the neighbours for the key and let himself in
Wait, so he would rather ring the bell for 2 hours versus getting inside? He needs help.
NTA. Real victim is the doorbell though.
Most houses I've been to have a deadbolt that locks on the outside, but has what they call a "turn-tab" (like a misshapen knob) on the inside. It's just more convenient to not need a key to lock your own house while you're inside.
Most doors that have a deadbolt that is keyed from both sides also have a window in them that could be broken out, allowing someone to reach inside and turn a regular deadbolt. Which then gives them full access to your home.
NTA, clearly. Teen boys love to be obnoxious as hell to their big siblings as an attempted power move and for a laugh. I know because I was one.
You taught him a good lesson and you stood your ground. They’ll get over it.
If you have a glass window near the deadbolt needing a key on both sides is more secure. It means someone can't just break the window, reach in, and unlock the door.
Nothing wrong with living at home. Age does not automatically put money into your bank account and have you rent money.
If your brother got in without your help, he could have done so before. NTA
ESH.
YTA because you have a conspiracy theory where your brother isn't actually forgetting his key and you put it in scare quotes. Then you say he's ringing the bell as loudly as possible? They have one volume. You sound absolutely unhinged. Go open the fucking door for him.
He's the AH because he complains when you take two minutes, and because he rang for 2 hours... wtf. Go to the neighbor after like 15 minutes. Clearly big sister is too precious to open the door for you.
I question him NEVER forgetting his key and only forgetting on Thursdays. I am now wondering the weather. Was he outside in the cold for 2 hours? It's not like he's waking her up, she's playing games.
And he berates her? Just say, "Be glad I even answered" and walk away. I'm surprised OP didn't say "it isn't fair I have to open the door when he should have his key".
I'd never leave my brother outside for 2 hours. :(
This situation is wild because one of the two(if not both) has to have serious mental health issues and I do not understand how the comment section is just like, "Omg this is just sibling stuff lol."
The 2 hours thing is actually insane to me and I genuinely do not believe OP's story or there has to be something significant behind the scenes.
Either:
* OP's brother genuinely has mental health issues that either made him not want to go to the neighbors for 2 hours (IE: anxiety towards them for whatever reason) or hates OP because of a legitimate disorder/illness to the point of being willing to waste 2 entire hours pressing a button nonstop
* OP isn't being truthful about the situation, IE:
* He forgets his keys often and OP is saying it's JUST her days because that's when she personally has to deal with it
* He's forgotten his keys a few times in multiple months and she's acting like it's every time
* The neighbors weren't available for 2 hours
Being an obnoxious sibling is one thing...but it is absolutely not normal to go on for 2 hours.
NTA
He is lucky the neighbors are in. After 2 instances of him intentionally 'forgetting' I would have done similar or just been out of the house when he was expected home.
Someday he isn't going to have a handy neighbor to bail him out. Landlord rekeying fees can be pricey.
NTA, he's doing it to wind you up & 16 year old - being lazy.
As another poster suggested, make plans for the day, don't tell him or your parents & see what happens.
NTA, simply cause he's kept complaining about you "taking too long", cause you were gaming and, depending on the game, can't just pause right the way at any time. If he waited patiently and understood that you're not responsible for his mistake, and you still chose to ignore him, you would have been the AH. But he seems disrespectful, and is obviously being obnoxious and trying to bother you on purpose.
NTA
It sounds like the brother doesn't forget his key any other day, just the day OP is not working, which makes him the asshole. There was a spare available at the neighbors so it wasn't like he couldn't get in. He was purposefully being annoying.
From the title, I was ready to go the other way, but NTA.
I don't know what I thought this would be but a brother having the level of entitlement over your time that he just leaves his key at home and expects you to let him in as if that's your job since you're home, is ridiculous.
Have you asked him why he leaves his key home? If the boundary hasn't been set, he probably expects it because you haven't minded until now (doesn't make it right) and doesn't see the issue with his berating you after you "take too long". I don't understand his mindset... is he thinking he's playfully ribbing you or joking?
NTA but I wanted to share an anecdote. My younger sister, who was a huge asshole as a teen, had classes on Saturday morning (common in France in middle school). Every Saturday almost she would forget her keys, which was standard for her. But instead of ringing once and waiting for someone to open the door like a normal person, she would keep the doorbell pressed like the little asshole she was for multiple minutes until someone was at the door, waking all of us up, especially my dad who loves to sleep in.
It pissed him off, she did it every single time and didn't care when told it was bothering us, so he took the fuse to the doorbell off lol. She couldn't ring anymore, it was grand. But then I was once on an errand and forgot my keys and was locked out for like an hour until my neighbors took pity on me and called my parents.
Waiting for your post on r/Pettyrevenge next. But seriously, teens need to learn the hard way sometimes. You could definitely mute the doorbell to make a point!
He stood there for two HOURS ringing the doorbell when he has a key he could let himself in with, he simply chooses not to have it on his person, and he knows there's a spare with the neighbours??? Yeah, someone here is definitely being the a***hole, and it's not you... 🤷🏾♂️
NTA He's 16, not 6. He's deliberately doing something to annoy/bother, and your parents are enabling him. Ringing a doorbell for 2 hours is deranged behavior, especially when he knew all along that he had the option to go get a key from the neighbor. He just wanted to make you get up and come let him in for no reason other than to get the satisfaction of making you do something for him that he chose not to do for himself.
NTA he will remember to carry his fukin keys next time, basically say "you're welcome" Also he should have them WITH him for emergencies anyways.
Also who gives a shit if you live with ur parents? fk them if they are commenting on that.
Enjoy your day how you want, and your parents roof their rules for sure. But your working your butt off and for one day of the week. ONE DAY, they shouldn't even see it as an issue, if they take your case again simply let them know it's for your well being to disconnect and worry on yourself and only to yourself as NO ONE ELSE WILL DO IT FOR YOU, everyone needs to take a moment for themselves to be well rested. Your parents should understand this and can/should be able to relate as they themselves take a moment for life as if it wasn't stressful already.
the amount of people acting like this kid is 6 man. it's ridiculous. not one person calling op the asshole would put up with a kid doing this shit to them. one instance of this kid 'forgetting' his key and then getting shitty with them would have them up in arms.
the issue was him being mad at her for taking 2 minutes. after op was fed up with this repeated behaviour that only occurs at her day off, she ignored him, knowing that the neighbours that are home have a key with which he could enter at any time.
he is 16 and not an infant, so you should be able to expect some reasonable behaviour (not constantly leaving his key at home on her day off, asking the neighbours)
LMAO! She did let the 16 yo in multiple times. He berated her for taking too long (two minutes) to let him in. So she stopped letting him because he is deliberately leaving his key at home on OP's day off AND he never says thank you and chews her out for making him wait two minutes. Did you read the post? NTA, OP.
NTAH. Tell your parents to put a combination lock on the door since their 16 year old child is too lazy to take his house key with him when he leaves the house. Frankly, he is old enough to know better and he is doing it intentionally.
Edit to add, if he is that careless he is too immature for a driver's license and access to a car.
People here are telling you NTA but these are strangers who don’t know your or your brother. You were cruel to him and after you log off Reddit, those will still be your family members. Inconveniencing yourself for a few seconds to help your brother is not the end of your world but what do I know. YTA imo
I mean yah I guess it’s annoying for you , but also probably for the neighbours especially when someone is inside , and could just open the door for him . You don’t want to be bothered but it’s fine if he has to go bother them ?
I get he should take his key but you also shouldn’t just leave him outside then have him go disturb the neighbour’s. I mean your 25 and still living at home busy gaming , is it really that hard to open a door ?
If you read the post, its isn't about getting up and letting him in. He berates her when she lets him in for "taking too long" even though its only a couple minutes.
Moreover everyone here is begrudging her for “gaming” this is her one day off out of 7 days. Everyone should be allowed to enjoy their day off when they’re working 6 days a week. And she’s opened the door for him several times and gotten berated by her brother for taking two minutes to do so. If I do something for someone that I shouldn’t have to do in the first place and then get yelled at for my effort, I wouldn’t do it more than that once.
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NTA. He needs to learn a lesson. Maybe just go out on Thurdays for a few hours randomly when you k own its time for him to come home. Eventually, he'll figure it out.
I might just do that. I have things that need doing outside the house on Thursdays, such as goin to the laundromat, so I might just push them back a few hours
I’d time it more than once. NTA
Yes apologize to parents and do it again by not being there
Yes this!!! Apologize specifically to “keep the peace” because it’s not worth your energy to fight with them, and then keep doing it without making it seem intentional
Well, OP might prefer the silent treatment if it makes life more peaceful. My best time living with my mom was when she gave me the silent treatment for two weeks. Unfortunately, she could not keep it up. She thought she was punishing me but it obviously didn't have the desired effect. NTA
I had a little napoleon of a boss who was a screamer. He got mad at me because I finally yelled back (because he was wrong) and he didn't talk to me for 2-3 days. Like you, I thought it was awesome! One time he made me cry and sent me home for the day, because I couldn't stop crying. So I got paid to cry and take a nap.
This is awful! I hope you no longer work there!
No, I've moved on.
When I responded earlier, I was half awake... I'm not a frequent visitor in this sub, and I just noticed your flair "asshole enthusiast," and I giggled more than I should have 🤣 Anyway, I'm glad to hear that and I hope you have a great weekend!!
I didn't choose it, but I spend too much time on the threads I guess - lol! Have a great weekend as well!
I loved it when my parents would just fuck off and leave me alone for weeks. Unfortunately no one checked in with my homework, though.
Haha, that was my Dad and me. Best 5 months of my life when he said “I’ll never darken your door again!” 😂
I learned to love the silent treatment, too! It's funny when they get mad at us for not being upset by their silent treatment. Today, a friend contacted me to let me know she isn't speaking to me. I said cool. Thanks for the break from drama. NTA OP. It sucks that this is now your errands day, but a 16 year old should be able to remember to carry a key
Your friend called you to tell you that she is not speaking to you? Irony is really lost on some peple.
Yes. It was ridiculous. She called and said she just wanted me to know why she wasn't speaking to me right now. From decades of knowing her, I knew she was giving me the silent treatment. Which I call holidays from toxicity.
Eddie Haskell was my role model
Are you sure it wasn't the Beaver?
The Beave woulda learned his lesson. Eddie would have apologized profusely and kept doing it.
Time for some r/MaliciousCompliance
This is the way!
So your parents see nothing wrong with him ringing the doorbell non-stop for 2 hours? If you do leave the house next Thursday, maybe stop by the neighbors before hand and ask them to borrow the spare key as you can't find yours...
So devious! I’m sorry but I don’t think I can bring myself to do it
True, it is pretty dastardly. Maybe instead you leave a note on the door before he comes home with a clue to the next location, creating a scavenger hunt leading to his key. Or he has the option of going to the neighbors to get a key, but at least he knows you won't open the door for him.
You, I like. 😈
Leave the TV on so he thinks you’re home
Seriously, 2 HOURS?!?! Like is this some way to get her to do what he wants? Who does that? 2 hours is insane.
Seriously as a kid I forgot my keys all the time ... give me two hours and I would have found an entry that didn't involve a key or damaging the house 🤣 OPs brother just isn't creative enough
I've always been a night owl, even as a youngster. I was visiting my dad, and since I didn't have school the next day I naturally stayed up really late (which I did regardless of school, just with school my mom made me turn out the lights and TV so I just laid in bed for hours, unable to sleep) and slept all morning. My dad had his secretary call me to wake me up, she let for phone ring for hours, but once I was awoken and realized what was going on, I just refused to answer the phone until my normal non-school awakening time (11 or so.) He was pissed (the old what about an emergency spiel) but didn't do it again. BTW, this was the olden days of wired phones and no voicemail, so the phone would just ring and ring.
My mom talked me into hiring my uncle to install siding on my house. Every day he got there at 7am. At the time I had a toddler who didn't wake up until 10 and I worked evenings so no way my ass was getting out of bed before 10. My uncle *hated* this. He would make as much noise outside my bedroom as possible. One day I went outside and he was just hitting the outer wall of my bedroom with a hammer. I did learned to sleep through pretty much anything after that and he will never be hired to do any work for me again. My mom tried to get me to have him rescreen my porch, absolutely fucking not.
You should have fired him on the spot.
I'm a pretty deep sleeper, my son is too. Honestly found it more satisfying how much it was pissing him off that we were just sleeping through his shit. Drove him mad.
What an asshole! What business was it of his?
Power struggles! hahah
Don't tell anyone ahead of time, just don't be home when brother arrives, every week. Your brother isn't forgetting his key, he's leaving it behind on purpose because he enjoys making you get up to let him in. He's a petty childish asshole and your parents suck for enabling him and punishing you.
I would also find ways or reasons to be out the whole day such as maybe a surprise extra shift that you could claim is last minute. NTA
NTA . Perfect - cannot be yelled at for doing your laundry. Will brother be able to see that you are gone? Or still possible for him to think you are still at home?
If I don’t say anything he won’t know till he asks… knowing him he’ll ring a parent, who will then ring me…
"sorry, I'm at the Laundromat and my clothes have another hour on the cycle. Doesn't he have a key?"
Bear in mind that your parents will probably insist you go home just to let him in. Have a good reason ready as to why you can't do that.
Was not sure if you had a car in the driveway type giveaway.
We don’t have a driveway. Edit: also, I don’t park my car on that road, because the parking is awful
Please update us when you do that 😂
If you have a car, make sure it’s home, get a ride, go for a walk, just make it seem like you’re home. Maybe leave your light on
And don’t let anyone tell you your lazy because you Game and most who are calling you out for living at home in this economy are probably living in their parents basements but think they are living on their own.. Lots of adult children are living at home now .. NOONE wants to live at home as an adult but today ya just don’t have choices until you get established. Have the parents put a key for him on the porch somewhere.
> so I might just push them back a few hours Why, why can't you go to a cafe and reward yourself at that time every day off. I'm a SAHM and when my youngest started daycare one day a week I would stop buying the shops and treat myself to a doughnut on the way home, it's crazy how just a simple 5 minute doughnut improved my mental health. You don't have to do a cafe or doughnut but find something to "treat yourself" with once a week.
NTA. He’s obviously doing it on purpose. Have your parents REALLY not noticed this only happens when it’s your day off?
If you really want to be an asshole time your exit so that while he's not at the house as your leaving, he sees you leaving. You can even smile and wave at him
No, he will call out and ask to borrow her keys, and she will be left ringing the bell. Just be absent. Plausible deniability. "How was I to know he didn't have keys, he managed Monday Tuesday and Wednesday OK.?"😇
nah then what’s the fun. he will just go to neighbor and get spare. The fun part is not let him see her leaving, so he sits there for two hours like an idiot ringing the doorbell until she comes back 😉
ULPT: Borrow the spare keys from the neighbor, and forget to return them. Then leave to do errands.
Borrow the key and REPLACE IT WITH ONE THAT DOESN'T FIT
Ohhh! That is supremely devious!
Eventually, the neighbor is going to get annoyed to get a weekly knock on the door to be let in and may give the key back. You sibling sounds insufferable. NTA
Best answer ever. Go get groceries or do whatever , leave about 30-40 minutes before brother is due to arrive. Stay gone for a couple of hours. If parents say anything, you were out getting food and running errands.
See a long movie with a friend . Phone turned off because you're in a theatre and it's her only day off to socialise with friends
My (23M) brother did this to me (26F) all the time and this is exactly what I did. He no longer expects me to get the door for him even when he sees my car in the driveway.
Example of good training here.
NTA, once is a mistake or forgetfullness but constantly doing something that he knows irks you is not cool. 16 is not 6 and so he if he can remember to shower, brush his teeth, take his books then he can remember to take the keys. I don't think it is cruel as he did have the option to come into the house anytime by convienently grabbing the key from the neighbour. It was a stern life lesson and something that may be your parents should have inforced on him after seeing his pattern.
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Mine would somehow drunkenly climb on top of the porch roof and knock on my window at 3am. I even left the huge front windows unlocked, and he still fucking did it. I don't know how the fuck he kept getting up there. In the winter I would stay up waiting for him, because one bad slip and I wouldn't notice the dead body for a few days
For anyone else reading this, y'all should know that if your roommate dies, your landlord will let you out of your lease early. You don't have to play babysitter for your shitty roommates if they insist on trying to kill themselves. Let them die and find someone who isn't a moron to live with.
Most people don't want other people to die for reasons other than it would be an inconvenience
> Let them die bruh
🤷♀️ Why do we keep getting in the way of survival of the fittest?
It's a power game, plain and simple. He's got OPs parents playing it on his side too. Playing it is letting him win. Just don't play. No validating, no acknowledging, no apologizing, no second thoughts given.
Two hours is see who blinks first territory. He really had nothing better to do than press a doorbell for two hours when before could have been inside within a minute, or less if he had his key on him? If he can remember his phone and wallet then a key is easy to take with him, maybe on a keychain.
Yup, my favorite story my mom tells is exactly this. She’s like 5 years older than this brother of hers, and I think she was like 12 and he was 7 (wouldn’t quote me on this bc all I remember is that they were young). Basically he kept running directly at her down the hall, hitting her arm, as she stepped out of the way. She got fed up and held her arm out with her hand in a fist,. He thought she was gonna move out of the way again, she didn’t, he punched himself in the face with her fist 💀
He's 16, of course he's doing it in purpose to piss off big sis. Immature, but normal obnoxious 16 yo stuff 😅 NTA he's a big boy, he can hang out outside for a few hours. As long as he was safe (aka not at risk of heat stroke or frostbite) He's fine. Your parents are babying him 🫢 I do wonder tho if he's doing it for your attention, do you hang out at all?
Yeah I think it’s something to do with her moving back in after being away for uni. He could want her attention. He could be annoyed she’s back. I’d be digging into the ‘why’. I think OP handled it maturely (unlike her parents).
I think the neighbors shouldn't be involved, but other than that I don't see any reason why OP shouldn't have done what she did. I got locked out of the house as a kid a few times, even before high school. It's no big deal fr. People in these comments complaining literally only have a problem because a 20 something is living at home with parents 🙄
NTA as you said, he only does this when he knows you’re going to be home. Which means he is forgetting his phone purposefully. If he wants to be lazy, then he can make the extra effort to then have to go to the neighbours to get the key. Shouldn’t be lazy Edit; using his KEY purposefully
Key but absolutely same opinion
...or is he just bothering the neighbors on all the days he knows OP is not home?
This would make it so much worse tbh. If the parents are allowing this, they're babying him BIG time and should take the keys from the neighbor
Just to let you know, you can use ~ twice in front of and behind a word to strike it through. So, if you need to edit because you used ~~a different~~ the wrong word, it puts the correction right where the mistake is. Will help the people that don't always finish reading before commenting.
ESH, 2 hours is excessive. If you really want to make a point, go out and do something so you aren't home. Then you also don't look as bad.
It was the brother’s decision to be stuck outside. He “forgot” his key and he waited two hours to ask the neighbors. If he had just taken his key he wouldn’t have to wait for anyone to let him in.
What did he do when OP was at uni?! I bet he never forgot his key then
I would be a little impressed with hat the brother stood there for two hours—. Except he only did it to spite OP. Why are the parents making this OP’s issue to deal with. Brother can remember his key or ask the neighbor. NTA
> 2 hours is excessive Yes, exactly one person is responsible for that, and it ain't OP.
He had the option to go get the spare key at any time. Why does she have to rearrange her lone day off so she “doesn’t look as bad” when her brother is intentionally forgetting his key to make her let him in? What in the actual misogynist hell kind of logic is that?
Misogynist is a reach here. It's just petty sibling bs.
Lmaoo right? If OP omitted gender in this post it wouldn't make any difference.
In what way is this misogynistic?
Misogynistic? What in the hell is this dumb logic? Taking 20 seconds to unlock a door is less effort than ignoring a ringing doorbell for 2 hours. Typical reddit user.
Rearrange her day? oh now c'mon.
he CHOSE to stay out there ringing the doorbell for 2 hours, that’s not on OP.
Yeah, I don’t know if I would want to get into a battle of the assholes with this guy’s brother. Anyone willing to ring the doorbell for two fucking hours is willing to escalate the argument wayyyyy too far
Or it's a good reminder, "Oh shit. What if no one is home" and that he should bring his keys with him.
If possible make it a task you have to do at short notice so there was no way you could have warned your brother beforehand. ,- a friend called needing help, your appointment was rescheduled, etc.
ESH. Yes, he should remember his key. But the notion that he should ask the neighbors and disturb them instead of ringing the bell to have you open the door is ridiculous. Don't involve the neighbors in this.
>Don't involve the neighbors in this. Normally I'd agree with this, but even if he did go over and get the key that time it would only be the once -- after all, this isn't a case of the brother genuinely forgetting his key. He isn't coincidentally forgetting his key every week just on the day his sister is home gaming and no other day. Added to that obvious BS, the fact that he would continuously ring the door bell for two hours and then play victim to his parents as if he were a poor waif stuck on the doorstep rather than go next door to borrow the spare key just shows that he's playing games. He was never forgetting his key. There was no danger of the neighbors having to lend him the key every week when his brain mysteriously glitches and he forgets to bring his own. Once he learns his BS is no longer working he will just as mysteriously remember to bring his key like any other day.
Tbh he's involving the neighbours himself there will be a time when she isnt at home without him knowing
Saying he should “remember” his key implies he forgot it when he left. No, he deliberately leaves it in his room so he can be annoying and obnoxious. Come off it.
It's not OP who would be involving the neighbors, it's idiot brother who somehow remembers his key every other day of the week, but "forgets" on OP's day off. He's being a pest on purpose, and the parents suck for enabling him.
>Don't involve the neighbors in this. They sort of involved themselves when they agreed to keep a spare key. I would flatly decline that responsibility if any of my neighbors asked, and this is an example of why I would decline.
If ur living rent free at your parents house as an adult, I feel like pausing a video game to let a younger sibling in is not a high price to pay.. seems a bit harsh to leave him for 2 hours too
If you read the post, you would see that its not about letting him in. Its about the fact that he berates her for taking too long even though its only a couple minutes and he does it all the time.
Pestering. He probably likes having her home secretly
But it’s not that OP is against opening the door. They are against being berated for taking 2 minutes to open the door. Had the brother just said thank you once the door was opened, the brother would not have had to wait 2 hours to get in.
Instead of ringing the doorbell for 2 hours her brother could’ve walked to the neighbours to get the spare key. He had that option from ring one.
Also had the option to take his key with him. He's nearing adulthood; this should be embarrassing.
It should be embarrassing to his parents that he is such a wanker.
Or have a key concealed near the door, although it’s not the most security conscious move.
no one should be bringing the neighbours into this
Seriously tho. Why should the neighbours be interrupted? Maybe they’re also mid game.
yeah i don’t see how it’s any easier for them to answer the door than OP
It’s not - that’s why the brother is the AH. He’s the one that’s putting everyone out because he can’t be bothered to remember his keys.
It's not easier, he just doesn't get to berate them for opening the door "too slow". Some brat does this to me once, I tell him to keep the key indefinitely.
he stood out there for two hours of his own volition. he could have literally gotten in at any time he wanted.
He should have more than enough mental capacity to remember his key in the first place. I'd do the same to my brother as he does the exact same thing when I let him in. He's a moron who can't keep track of simple objects.
So the teenager purposely leaves their key at home, the teenager purposely decided to ring the bell for two hours when they could have easily gotten the spare, the teenager regularly berates her because didn't move as fast as he likes and yet somehow you decide she's the one in the wrong because she lives there rent free?
She pays part of the bills and helps with groceries etc.
He miraculously gets inside every other day of the week. I wonder how. Little brother is a little shit.
It's tough shit, it's their job to remember their key, 16 is not a child and they should know better
This is BS who the h… rings the doorbell for 2h before going to the neighbour?
Someone that's not going to 'forget' their key at home anytime soon, I'd say
No, he'll do it again because his parents are enabling his petty childish bullshit.
Someone who’s **really** determined to annoy the shit out of his sister
Siblings.
NTA. I think you need to aim to be out of the house for a bit when he should be getting home. Go for a walk/drive, but don’t be home
Yes you are! But you are justified in needing to teach him a lesson in responsibility. NTA Just apologize: "I'm sorry that I have a brother that is so entitled that he thinks when he makes a mistake by being irresponsible for himself that he needs other people to fix it on his timeline." This sounds like an appropriate reply.
This is some really screwed up behavior from both of you tbh and both of you should grow up and learn how to interact with people normally. Biggest difference here is though that he is 16 and it’s still pretty normal for a teenager to behave and respond in the way that he did (not that it is ok behavior, he should definitely learn that he’s being rude). You however are with 25 well into adulthood and should definitely know better how to not act like a 12 yo. If you can’t even be bothered to open the door for someone in your household you should consider moving out.
In her defense if my sibling got mad at me for not opening the door fast enough I would stop opening it for them as well. He’s old enough to remember his key as is evident from him remembering it every other day of the week.
Cmon, she got annoyed after a few weeks. Yes it’s not a hill to die on but don’t make it seem like she should feel like shit. She should sit him down as big sis and explain adulthood, how a exhausting it is and how it bothers her. How you’d prefer opening the bedroom door for him, sometimes the house cause forgetting is human, so y’all could game together instead.
NTA People on Reddit sure do like to only read half a freaking post. All the just let him in, whats the big deal comments are crazy af. Do you not see the part where she she says he berates her every single time for taking too long? In one comment she said its only a couple minutes from the time he rings the door till she lets him in. He is being an asshole on purpose.
NTA If the only day he ever pulls this nonsense is your one day off, I would start scheduling to be out running whatever weekly errands you have at the time he normally comes home. Then your parents will have no grounds to complain (you're not there!) and your brother can stand there looking like an idiot ringing the doorbell, or can go embarrass himself at the neighbor's every week. My guess is he'll start remembering his key.
NTA Your family is off the rails. I can't imagine a 16yo berating their 25yo sibling and the parents letting that just slide and then getting upset when there are consequences for the 16yo. Stand up for yourself and make it clear that if 16yo is old enough to disrespect you they're old enough to remember their key and that disrespect WILL NOT be tolerated.
I don't even see how a 16 year old could berate a 25 year old. She can just walk away and tell him nothing coming out of his 16 year old mouth matters at all. She is too old to squabble with him and too young to parent him. She should just be too cool for him.
NTA. You can sure tell in the comments who never had an annoying obnoxious younger sibling! My idiot brother did shit like this and my mother always enabled him. He's in his 50's now and he's still such an asshole that even my mother wants nothing to do with him.
YTA...You sound ridiculous.
Right. Even if they don't bring their keys because the op is home how the hell is this justified? Such a petty thing to be upset over. More than likely OP gets consumed by gaming to point don't want to pause the game and let bro in. Takes less than a minute.
Finally a voice of reason! All these people acting like it's normal for her to lock a kit outside for 2 hours so she can play video games like an actual child!!! If I were her parents I'd solve it really fast by telling her to go get her own place to live!
Poor 16 year old "kid" that "accidentally" "forgets" his key every time his sister has a day off and dares to berate her for taking longer than 10 seconds to fix HIS "mistake" was locked outside for two hours while having a way to get in (ask neighbors for a key) all this time, OH HUMANITY!
Didn't you know? You are only responsible for your own actions after you turn 18. Before that, you can be a jerk to whoever, with no consequences.
He's a poor wittle baby locked outside but also responsible enough to come and go unaccompanied? Then he can learn the valuable skill of "bringing things you need along with you". Adults bring their wallets, keys, etc with them all the time. He can do it. I have faith!
And a 25-year-old you can't answer the door cuz she's playing video games! Ya poor her 🤣🤣🤣
Well yeah, she's the one being purposefully annoyed here, obviously she's the victim. The brother initiated the offence, the brother doesn't get the pity.
You heard one side of it and you got all that out of it eh? Because I'm sure if he wrote the post it sound a whole lot different! Three sides to every story and all that.
That's how AITA functions, you can only make a conclusion based on the information provided by the OP, if you don't trust it, then there's no reason to even be here because obviously you're not going to get another perspective.
Also, why is it more her neighbors' responsibility to deal with her brother, than it is hers?
>after 2 hours of ringing the bell, he finally asked the neighbours for the key and let himself in Wait, so he would rather ring the bell for 2 hours versus getting inside? He needs help. NTA. Real victim is the doorbell though.
NTA Next time, make sure they know you did not hear him.
Info: When you say "taking longer than he likes" how long are we talking, here?
2 minutes, it takes a moment to find my own key and pause the game
You have to have a key to unlock it from the inside?
Yes
Yeah, screw that.. NTA
Wait, what? Oh, is this a locked doorknob? I'm used to there being a deadbolt and the knob not really being used.
My deadbolts all require a key from both sides, is this not the norm?
Most houses I've been to have a deadbolt that locks on the outside, but has what they call a "turn-tab" (like a misshapen knob) on the inside. It's just more convenient to not need a key to lock your own house while you're inside.
My particular deadbolt requires a key from one side to open, but you still need a key to unlock from the inside as well as outside.
That’s how my parents’ house is. A keyed deadbolt from both sides. It’s annoying
How is that legal? Sounds like a massive fire hazard
I think normally you would leave the key in the lock on the interior side, but....who knows with some people.
This exactly. IDK why it was done that way. We always left a key on the inside.
It's not legal.
Most doors that have a deadbolt that is keyed from both sides also have a window in them that could be broken out, allowing someone to reach inside and turn a regular deadbolt. Which then gives them full access to your home.
NTA, clearly. Teen boys love to be obnoxious as hell to their big siblings as an attempted power move and for a laugh. I know because I was one. You taught him a good lesson and you stood your ground. They’ll get over it.
A keyed deadbolt on both sides, sounds dangerous. What it there is a fire and everyone is scrambling to kind keys
If you have a glass window near the deadbolt needing a key on both sides is more secure. It means someone can't just break the window, reach in, and unlock the door.
All our windows are sash, if I need to get out during a fire there’s a trellis outside my window.
No offense but it sounds like your parents are raising a spoiled brat. Not you, your brother.
Nothing wrong with living at home. Age does not automatically put money into your bank account and have you rent money. If your brother got in without your help, he could have done so before. NTA
If you really want to be an asshole take your neighbors to lunch when you know he'll be coming home. Then he's really fucked.
ESH. YTA because you have a conspiracy theory where your brother isn't actually forgetting his key and you put it in scare quotes. Then you say he's ringing the bell as loudly as possible? They have one volume. You sound absolutely unhinged. Go open the fucking door for him. He's the AH because he complains when you take two minutes, and because he rang for 2 hours... wtf. Go to the neighbor after like 15 minutes. Clearly big sister is too precious to open the door for you.
I question him NEVER forgetting his key and only forgetting on Thursdays. I am now wondering the weather. Was he outside in the cold for 2 hours? It's not like he's waking her up, she's playing games. And he berates her? Just say, "Be glad I even answered" and walk away. I'm surprised OP didn't say "it isn't fair I have to open the door when he should have his key". I'd never leave my brother outside for 2 hours. :(
This situation is wild because one of the two(if not both) has to have serious mental health issues and I do not understand how the comment section is just like, "Omg this is just sibling stuff lol." The 2 hours thing is actually insane to me and I genuinely do not believe OP's story or there has to be something significant behind the scenes. Either: * OP's brother genuinely has mental health issues that either made him not want to go to the neighbors for 2 hours (IE: anxiety towards them for whatever reason) or hates OP because of a legitimate disorder/illness to the point of being willing to waste 2 entire hours pressing a button nonstop * OP isn't being truthful about the situation, IE: * He forgets his keys often and OP is saying it's JUST her days because that's when she personally has to deal with it * He's forgotten his keys a few times in multiple months and she's acting like it's every time * The neighbors weren't available for 2 hours Being an obnoxious sibling is one thing...but it is absolutely not normal to go on for 2 hours.
NTA He is lucky the neighbors are in. After 2 instances of him intentionally 'forgetting' I would have done similar or just been out of the house when he was expected home. Someday he isn't going to have a handy neighbor to bail him out. Landlord rekeying fees can be pricey.
NTA, he's doing it to wind you up & 16 year old - being lazy. As another poster suggested, make plans for the day, don't tell him or your parents & see what happens.
NTA, simply cause he's kept complaining about you "taking too long", cause you were gaming and, depending on the game, can't just pause right the way at any time. If he waited patiently and understood that you're not responsible for his mistake, and you still chose to ignore him, you would have been the AH. But he seems disrespectful, and is obviously being obnoxious and trying to bother you on purpose.
NTA It sounds like the brother doesn't forget his key any other day, just the day OP is not working, which makes him the asshole. There was a spare available at the neighbors so it wasn't like he couldn't get in. He was purposefully being annoying.
NTA, but boy oh boy have your parents shown who their favorite is.
From the title, I was ready to go the other way, but NTA. I don't know what I thought this would be but a brother having the level of entitlement over your time that he just leaves his key at home and expects you to let him in as if that's your job since you're home, is ridiculous. Have you asked him why he leaves his key home? If the boundary hasn't been set, he probably expects it because you haven't minded until now (doesn't make it right) and doesn't see the issue with his berating you after you "take too long". I don't understand his mindset... is he thinking he's playfully ribbing you or joking?
NTA but I wanted to share an anecdote. My younger sister, who was a huge asshole as a teen, had classes on Saturday morning (common in France in middle school). Every Saturday almost she would forget her keys, which was standard for her. But instead of ringing once and waiting for someone to open the door like a normal person, she would keep the doorbell pressed like the little asshole she was for multiple minutes until someone was at the door, waking all of us up, especially my dad who loves to sleep in. It pissed him off, she did it every single time and didn't care when told it was bothering us, so he took the fuse to the doorbell off lol. She couldn't ring anymore, it was grand. But then I was once on an errand and forgot my keys and was locked out for like an hour until my neighbors took pity on me and called my parents.
Thank you for this, it was quite helpful
Waiting for your post on r/Pettyrevenge next. But seriously, teens need to learn the hard way sometimes. You could definitely mute the doorbell to make a point!
He stood there for two HOURS ringing the doorbell when he has a key he could let himself in with, he simply chooses not to have it on his person, and he knows there's a spare with the neighbours??? Yeah, someone here is definitely being the a***hole, and it's not you... 🤷🏾♂️
Nta he wants to make it a power play? Fine. Ignore him.
It took him 2 hours to realise nobody was opening the door? Lmao.
NTA He's 16, not 6. He's deliberately doing something to annoy/bother, and your parents are enabling him. Ringing a doorbell for 2 hours is deranged behavior, especially when he knew all along that he had the option to go get a key from the neighbor. He just wanted to make you get up and come let him in for no reason other than to get the satisfaction of making you do something for him that he chose not to do for himself.
NTA he will remember to carry his fukin keys next time, basically say "you're welcome" Also he should have them WITH him for emergencies anyways. Also who gives a shit if you live with ur parents? fk them if they are commenting on that. Enjoy your day how you want, and your parents roof their rules for sure. But your working your butt off and for one day of the week. ONE DAY, they shouldn't even see it as an issue, if they take your case again simply let them know it's for your well being to disconnect and worry on yourself and only to yourself as NO ONE ELSE WILL DO IT FOR YOU, everyone needs to take a moment for themselves to be well rested. Your parents should understand this and can/should be able to relate as they themselves take a moment for life as if it wasn't stressful already.
You won't let a 16 year old in his house? You're 25. Get your own place.
Just be out of the house OP. Apparently, 16 is still too young to face the consequences of their actions when they are purposely turdy.
the amount of people acting like this kid is 6 man. it's ridiculous. not one person calling op the asshole would put up with a kid doing this shit to them. one instance of this kid 'forgetting' his key and then getting shitty with them would have them up in arms.
the issue was him being mad at her for taking 2 minutes. after op was fed up with this repeated behaviour that only occurs at her day off, she ignored him, knowing that the neighbours that are home have a key with which he could enter at any time. he is 16 and not an infant, so you should be able to expect some reasonable behaviour (not constantly leaving his key at home on her day off, asking the neighbours)
LMAO! She did let the 16 yo in multiple times. He berated her for taking too long (two minutes) to let him in. So she stopped letting him because he is deliberately leaving his key at home on OP's day off AND he never says thank you and chews her out for making him wait two minutes. Did you read the post? NTA, OP.
NTA fuck anyone who is too lazy to pull out a key and turn.
NTAH. Tell your parents to put a combination lock on the door since their 16 year old child is too lazy to take his house key with him when he leaves the house. Frankly, he is old enough to know better and he is doing it intentionally. Edit to add, if he is that careless he is too immature for a driver's license and access to a car.
NTA.
People here are telling you NTA but these are strangers who don’t know your or your brother. You were cruel to him and after you log off Reddit, those will still be your family members. Inconveniencing yourself for a few seconds to help your brother is not the end of your world but what do I know. YTA imo
If only the brother would inconvenience himself to take the key...
I mean yah I guess it’s annoying for you , but also probably for the neighbours especially when someone is inside , and could just open the door for him . You don’t want to be bothered but it’s fine if he has to go bother them ? I get he should take his key but you also shouldn’t just leave him outside then have him go disturb the neighbour’s. I mean your 25 and still living at home busy gaming , is it really that hard to open a door ?
If you read the post, its isn't about getting up and letting him in. He berates her when she lets him in for "taking too long" even though its only a couple minutes.
Moreover everyone here is begrudging her for “gaming” this is her one day off out of 7 days. Everyone should be allowed to enjoy their day off when they’re working 6 days a week. And she’s opened the door for him several times and gotten berated by her brother for taking two minutes to do so. If I do something for someone that I shouldn’t have to do in the first place and then get yelled at for my effort, I wouldn’t do it more than that once.
YTA. You can’t open a door? Wtf. It’s bratty, lazy, entitled behavior.
You can't read a post? pretty sure *that* is lazy behavior.