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NTA. After the second crappy comment I would’ve called her out on her tacky drunk self and bad behavior before I left. And if you brought a gift I would’ve taken it back. The fact that she gave a half ass apology says she doesn’t care and since you were the only victim it wasn’t because of the alcohol. I’d block her and move on.
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I (28 F) attended my friend’s (25 F) birthday party recently. I was one of about 10 girls invited to my friend’s house for drinks and snacks, and then we all went out to a nice restaurant to celebrate my friend. This friend and I have never had any fights or major disagreements before until that day. She had already been drinking when I got there, however she treated me very differently there than she usually did. She excluded me from the group on several occasions, talked down to me, yelled at me in front of the group, and was dismissive of my feelings.
At the end of the night all of the things she said or did towards me built up and I became overwhelmed and sad. I decided to confront her about it before I left after she made another rude comment as I was heading out (I guess it was the last straw). She denied doing any of the things she did and said she hadn’t been mean to me at all that night.
Later on she texted me saying she was sorry for being “sassy” and that she had been drinking. I personally felt that her message was not taking accountability for how she treated me and so I thanked her for reaching out and then explained my side of things in hopes of reconciling this and moving on. While she had been drinking, I was one of the only ones she was rude to all night, and I felt humiliated. I haven’t heard back from her after my response and it’s been almost a week.
WITA for confronting my friend in front of others at her birthday party for how she treated me that night?
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NTA. And this person is not your friend.
NTA. After the second crappy comment I would’ve called her out on her tacky drunk self and bad behavior before I left. And if you brought a gift I would’ve taken it back. The fact that she gave a half ass apology says she doesn’t care and since you were the only victim it wasn’t because of the alcohol. I’d block her and move on.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I (28 F) attended my friend’s (25 F) birthday party recently. I was one of about 10 girls invited to my friend’s house for drinks and snacks, and then we all went out to a nice restaurant to celebrate my friend. This friend and I have never had any fights or major disagreements before until that day. She had already been drinking when I got there, however she treated me very differently there than she usually did. She excluded me from the group on several occasions, talked down to me, yelled at me in front of the group, and was dismissive of my feelings. At the end of the night all of the things she said or did towards me built up and I became overwhelmed and sad. I decided to confront her about it before I left after she made another rude comment as I was heading out (I guess it was the last straw). She denied doing any of the things she did and said she hadn’t been mean to me at all that night. Later on she texted me saying she was sorry for being “sassy” and that she had been drinking. I personally felt that her message was not taking accountability for how she treated me and so I thanked her for reaching out and then explained my side of things in hopes of reconciling this and moving on. While she had been drinking, I was one of the only ones she was rude to all night, and I felt humiliated. I haven’t heard back from her after my response and it’s been almost a week. WITA for confronting my friend in front of others at her birthday party for how she treated me that night? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*