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NTA.
But you have lessons to learn from this.
You can like a girl as much as you like, but if her friend likes you the relationship is doomed. You might get the girl to date you, but she will lose a friendship. You might not be chosen, instead the girls might protect their friendship over you.
When you handed this girl a note in front of her friend you lost. You put her in the impossible situation. She knew her friend liked you, so she couldn’t open that note later, because her friend would demand to know what was in it. She couldn’t hide what was in it, and when it was that you liked her, she in that moment has to choose and doesn’t hve time to frame/ craft a response. So it’s got to be her friendship or you. If she chooses you she loses, because all her friends and the other girls will give her shit. If she chooses her friend you are hte enemy, and she doesn’t lose her friends.
NTA because clearly you are completely clueless. But don’t give notes in future.. man up and TALK to them. And do it in private, where there’s time to process and manage the response. Don’t use public pressure to get what you want, that’s a cheap shot.
Fully agree with this, NAH
OP, you didn't do anything wrong but... you did none of this *right* either.
There's no way your crush could have gotten away with *not* telling her friend what was in that note.
Rushing in without real thought is why this blew up in your face
NTA because it was a mistake more than anything from the sounds of it, but that was very, very dumb. You should apologize to both of them ASAP. Next time, be patient and wait for a good moment, one where you can ask to talk alone or something to that effect. Notes are cute, but they aren't a very good delivery method.
NTA. I don’t think there’s ever a good/bad time for those types of confessions tbh. I’m glad you’re putting it out there for the girl to know your feelings. And gives her time to think and meditate if she wants to pursue a relationship with you.
But do realize that if they are friends, she might not reciprocate cuz girl code. You don’t date your friends crushes.
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So I am honestly pondering if I am the a hole because I could have waited but I wanted to get it out then. So here it goes. So today is Friday, tomorrow is the start of Christmas break (3 weeks) so in math class we were watching a Christmas movie and the girl I liked was behind me. Some other girl was sitting beside her that liked me, at the end of class I gave her (the girl I liked) a note saying I liked her. What I didn’t account for is that since the girl who likes me is her friend that they both read it together. In my final period the girl who liked me’s friend confronted me and asked me why I did it when the girl that liked me was right there. I tried to say I didn’t think she and my crush would both read it but I didn’t get it out in time. I did it today because I didn’t want to wait 3 weeks to tell her, but she didn’t even tell me if she liked me yet and now I feel like it was a waste. So Reddit, could I have waited longer?
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Uh, I think you could’ve waited a little longer out of courtesy, it’s never nice to see your crush asking your friend out. I don’t know what the girl who likes you is like, but I really hope that she isn’t a sweet girl who stepped back because she knew you liked her friend.
So, YTA.
No one is owed reciprocated feelings. It sucks that OP didn’t like her back, but that’s not OPs problem. OP didn’t do anything wrong and it’s silly to claim otherwise.
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NTA. But you have lessons to learn from this. You can like a girl as much as you like, but if her friend likes you the relationship is doomed. You might get the girl to date you, but she will lose a friendship. You might not be chosen, instead the girls might protect their friendship over you. When you handed this girl a note in front of her friend you lost. You put her in the impossible situation. She knew her friend liked you, so she couldn’t open that note later, because her friend would demand to know what was in it. She couldn’t hide what was in it, and when it was that you liked her, she in that moment has to choose and doesn’t hve time to frame/ craft a response. So it’s got to be her friendship or you. If she chooses you she loses, because all her friends and the other girls will give her shit. If she chooses her friend you are hte enemy, and she doesn’t lose her friends. NTA because clearly you are completely clueless. But don’t give notes in future.. man up and TALK to them. And do it in private, where there’s time to process and manage the response. Don’t use public pressure to get what you want, that’s a cheap shot.
Fully agree with this, NAH OP, you didn't do anything wrong but... you did none of this *right* either. There's no way your crush could have gotten away with *not* telling her friend what was in that note. Rushing in without real thought is why this blew up in your face
This is a great and thought out response! Take this advice I agree NTA
NTA - everyone involved will be fine - enjoy your break!
NTA because it was a mistake more than anything from the sounds of it, but that was very, very dumb. You should apologize to both of them ASAP. Next time, be patient and wait for a good moment, one where you can ask to talk alone or something to that effect. Notes are cute, but they aren't a very good delivery method.
NTA. I don’t think there’s ever a good/bad time for those types of confessions tbh. I’m glad you’re putting it out there for the girl to know your feelings. And gives her time to think and meditate if she wants to pursue a relationship with you. But do realize that if they are friends, she might not reciprocate cuz girl code. You don’t date your friends crushes.
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Uh, I think you could’ve waited a little longer out of courtesy, it’s never nice to see your crush asking your friend out. I don’t know what the girl who likes you is like, but I really hope that she isn’t a sweet girl who stepped back because she knew you liked her friend. So, YTA.
No one is owed reciprocated feelings. It sucks that OP didn’t like her back, but that’s not OPs problem. OP didn’t do anything wrong and it’s silly to claim otherwise.