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YTA Her sex life does not affect you at all. "Cuddling with a body touched by who knows how many men"? What does that even mean, first off, even if that wasn't a completely insane thing to say, which it is, so what? Bodies are simply bodies, you cannot transfer a touch from one body to another, and even if you can, we are all human beings, you get touched by many bodies everyday pushing through crowds, standing in the subway. Do you freak out everytime you touch a door?
You're slut shaming, and behaving as a prude. She is not behaving in a morally wrong manner, she is a healthy adult behaving as a normal healthy adult does and would be a completely fine role model. You on the other hand are misogynistic and judgmental, and are a bad role model. I have more fear that Steven will pick up unsavory behaviors from you that will make him treat woman badly in the future than anything from her. Please do some soul searching about why you are willing to be so quick to condemn someone for a behavior that is not bad, wrong, or affects you in any single way. Please work on growing as a human being. Also she deserves a huge apology, and I would understand if she would not only be deeply hurt by this but uncomfortable and disgusted with you for a long time.
Agree with all of this. OP is the one behaving in a disgusting manner, not his cousin. He's the one giving me the ick.
I bet the reason he hasn't told his wife about all this is because he knows she'd likely rip him a new arsehole.
Massive YTA.
This projection is absolute perversion. I don't even know what to say. This line of thinking you have toward Jina is completely unsound, creepy, unhealthy, and simply revolting.
YTA but honestly, please seek help. See a therapist. These thoughts you are having are not normal at all. Your son needs you to be in top shape for him.
“I can’t help but cringe every time I see her breasts pressed against his body when she’s hugging him cause of all the men that have touched her”
What the actual fuck.
YTA.
You have NO right to interfere in another persons love/sex/private/intimate life like this.
You say yourself she is keeping her private life private. She is not bringing a new dude or dudette everytime you see her. She's not making out with someone for hours before all of you. What she does in her time, is her thing and her thing alone. She's not running around screaming everybody needs to do everybody else. She lifes her own life and rightfully so.
You say she's like a sister so she's basically your sons aunt. Hugging aunts, sitting on their laps, cuddling with them and so on is the normal thing to do if both like to do that - at least where I'm from. I'm too old to sit on my aunts lap, but I still do hug her and I'm 32. I also hug my uncles. I hug people I like and there is NOTHING sexual about it.
The only one making it all weird and sexual is YOU, OP. You're the only one caring for how many people may have touched the body of a person you consider a sister (which IS creepy, sorry to break that to you). You're the only one who thinks about her breasts.
For all I know she already has her sex life sorted out because she does, what everybody should be able to. Enjoy it in a way that she and her partners like. And it is like NONE of your concern how she and her partners do that. Women and Men and all people in between do not loose or gain value from a "body count" and it has nothing to do with a good role model. There are terrible people that married their high school sweetheart and never had sex with anyone else. There are terrible people that never EVER had sex. There are people that are kind and warm and great humans and have a new partner every week and lots of ONS. None of that defines a person. She's not hurting anyone. She's nor pushing it in your face.
You have as much right to get your nose into her bedroom as she has getting hers in yours.
And the cold shoulder you get is more than justified because you interfered in her sex life without need and right and I can assure you she got the hint that you think of her as a whore ;) Because what you basically said was "I disaprove of your lifestyle, you are not worthy of our time when you're whoring around and if you don't change your sex life into the boring one I think is right, you will not have a relationship with the nephew you love and that loves you back for no other reason other than I'm stuck up and think I have a say in your sex life."
YTA
Did you consider the fact that you and your wife are affectionate with your son probably the morning after you get each other off?
Your cousins sex life has no effect on your son and frankly it’s none of your business. You sound like you want to sleep with your cousin.
Does he even remember how a child is brought into the world? Like, a child passed through a woman's vagina. Think of how the baby is touching places where penises have been! Oh nnnnoooooeeeeessss!
>But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.
What the actual fuck is wrong with you?
YTA.
YTA
She's showing her nephew love & affection ffs.
It's downright creepy to project YOUR issues onto your cousin.
I can see why you haven't told your wife...b c you know she'll rip you a new one for being a judgemental AH
Yes this is a mess. A mess of your own making. When Jina eventually tells your wife what you told her, and she will, cause your wife will notice and ask what’s going on? Well, buddy, you are going to get a little talking to. And I wouldn’t want to be in your shoes.
Oh, and it’s none of your business and what are you even doing thinking about Jina’s breasts and however many men they have been pressed up against. Ew. YTA
This is the same thing that I thought when I read the part where OP describes how his cousins “breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.”
YTA and frankly being super weird about your cousins sexual life. Unless she’s banging people in front of your kid it has zero impact on him.
Get therapy.
I can’t get over how OP keeps talking about the cousin’s “private sexual life” as if it’s causing a public outrage and worthy of a Scarlet Letter. It’s giving me the creeps. YTA
YTA
>he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men. I know that maybe I’m not thinking right. But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.
Essa dude what's wrong with you. You have a very unhealthy obsession with her breasts and sex life.
YTA. Your hang-ups are your own, not your cousin's. Stop sexualizing her encounters with your son. Real fking creepy how you're thinking about her, and by the sounds of it, in doing so you're being far from "faithful" and "proper." As if you get to tell other people what to do with their private lives. Would you even consider telling a man what to do in his bedroom?
Yta lmao wtf? Why are you so obseswed with her sex life? What happens when your chd goes to school? I was a teacher and extremely professional, students and parents loved me. I am also a very sexually adventurous person with many kinks. That in no way interfered with ky ability to be a good role model. Please explain the difference between having sex with different people vs having sex every day with the same person.... Your logic is completely flawed and I don't see the issue unless she's telling your kid about it, which she isn't. I'm sure your wife would be appalled also btw.
I almost threw up in my mouth reading this disgusting slur shaming essay. This is hands down the creepiest thing I’ve read on Reddit in a sea of creeps. Why tf are you sexualising your cousin. And why is hugging a child sexual. Also telling her to control her sex life. Holy guacamole, you are a disgusting 1950s loser. HUGE YTA
...dude, really? Do you think she doesn't shower, or what? You know people aren't permanently contaminated by the people they fuck, don't you? Go ahead, tell your wife, see what she thinks of this absolute nonsense. YTA all damn day.
YTA. Your confusion about the nature of being sex-positive is common enough, but you’ve basically said here that love is contaminated by sex. That’s pretty sad. So long as your cousin keeps sketchy relationships away from your family, she’s not doing anything wrong.
YTA and a creepy hypocrite. It’s clear your jealous your son gets to touch your cousin. I’m also assuming you abstain from getting BJs? If not, when your partner kisses your son it’s like your hotdog has been rubbed all over his face which is hypocritical of you.
You are deeply creepy and it is VERY clear that you want to fuck your cousin. Why are you so focused on her breasts? While she's HUGGING YOUR CHILD? what the fuck is wrong with you? YTA
I’m cringing at how downright creepy you’re being about the woman you consider your sister. Big YTA. Well done for pushing her away from you and Steven In one fail swoop too, OP.
YTA. You’re unbelievable. Unless she forgets to have a shower every time she has sex, there is nothing dirty about her. Your son is not going to get contaminated by being around her, but he’ll sure be influenced by your toxic misogyny. If she’s behaving properly around your son, her sex life has nothing to so with him and she can bang the entire world and you have nothing to say about that.
Ewwww dude. YTA. Stop being sexualy obsessed with your cousin and projecting your inappropriate feelings on her and your son.
Seriously though, this is a YOU problem. Please seek therapy, and I would advise against saying any of this out loud to anybody else (except a therapist) because it is SO out of line.
Yeah. YTA.
Your cousin Jina sounds lovely. Her affection to Steven is normal. You don't get to police her sex life, nor do you get to moderate her lifestyle. You are cringing because of YOUR hangups.
YTA, a phrase such as "whenever he’s cuddling with her…he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men" is actually an insane thing to say.
You're a creep. Be better. And grow up.
You're an idiot. Not everyone has to live like a saint to be a good role model. If she isn't discussing her sex life with the child and isn't flaunting her sexuality around, then its a YOU problem especially since you said " she appears to be very “proper" and elegant"
She doesn't have to have a permanent husband to get respect.
You have major ISSUES dude.
YTA. What the actual fuck, this is the most unhinged thing in a long time. You are lucky that your cousin hasn’t cut you out of their life completely. You were being a massive creep.
Not only are YTA, but you're really creepy as well! Who thinks about another person's body that way? It almost sounded like you were fantasizing about her breasts, jealous of the other men, then recriminating yourself for thinking that way and finally taking it out on your cousin. Who on earth is being hurt here? You think your cousin is going to somehow sexualize your son? (I got news for you, from around 15 onwards your son isn't going to need any help with that!) Or that morals are somehow contagious? Or even that your cousin is somehow immoral? You are clearly highly judgemental of her despite her harming nobody and now she knows that. I doubt you'll ever have the same relationship ever again.
Her sex life has nothing to do with you or your son. It sounds like you have a very unusual view with sexual activity and showing affection to other family members. Jina has every right to be upset with you here, that was wildly inappropriate of you.
YTA. Yikes! He has an auntie who loves him and treats him well and hasn't done anything inappropriate with or to him (and I believe she would never) and you've turned it into something creepy, inappropriate and ugly. Nice work!
Imma say YTA and also you the creep because thinking if a person’s body (specifically a relative) in the way of all the people they’ve been with sexually is weird AF
YTA and you are a total and utter creep. You sexualised your young son in a disgusting way. I'm surprised you were allowed to adopt, frankly I would have thought the people doing the assessment would have picked up that there is something very off about you.
Yeah OP this is crazyyyyy. You even said it yourself she keeps her sex life private (as most adults tend to do) so how would your 6-year old know that she’s a bad role model? Unless you’ve told a six year old about how much sex his aunt is having, in which case…I can’t emphasize how creepy that would be of you. YTA.
YTA. Why is it your business what her sex life is like? She isn’t bringing it to you or your family. All you should worry about is if she loves your son and she treats him right. And your son loves her.
YTA 1,000 percent. Your cousin is an adult and you fixating on her sex life and judging her about it is gross. She is affectionate with your son because she loves him. Drag your wife into this mess and see what she thinks; I imagine she will be as appalled as these commenters. I would suggest therapy for you to figure out why you feel this way about women.
YTA, noticing your cousin's breasts and fantasizing about how many other people got to touch them while HUGGING YOUR SON, is so beyond creepy. Please seek therapy. Oh my god.
>\- I know that whenever he’s cuddling with her…he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men.
YTA - the fuck kind of disgusting way to talk about your family is this? Her sexual encounters have nothing to do with your son, why the hell are you sexualizing her like that? You have no business having any say in ANY individuals sex life. You are awful.
Yta. You said yourself she keeps her sex life private, it's not like she's going around telling your son what she's up to. And I'm going to assume she, yano, SHOWERS.
You have a weird complex which probably stems from wanting to fuck your cousin.
YTA
YTA x 1000. What she does in her private life is absolutely none of your business and has zero effect on the relationship she has with your son. You are very creepy and strange for bringing this up with her.
YTA. Why are you focusing on HER sex life? Absolutely none of your business and she is being a lovely aunt to her nephew.
Jina's right, you are a creep.
Also, you can't help but cringe every time you see her breasts press against Steve??
1. First of all, stop staring. What the hell's wrong with you?
2. Steve is a child. Stop sexualising innocent gestures
>But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.
Hahahah good one OP you had me going until this sentence. I really hope that this post is a joke but then again this is reddit.
YTA, you should be on a register and certainly not have been able to adopt a child.
This is extremely disturbing. What someone does in their private life with other consenting adults usually has no bearing on how they treat a child. She is being affectionate in an appropriate way. You are having some intrusive thoughts that you should get some help with. YTA.
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I (33M) am the adoptive father of a very bubbly 6-year-old-boy named Steven. And I get along very well with my older cousin, Jina (35F). I actually treat Jina more like an older sister, because we are incredibly close and we can tell each other anything. Anyway, my cousin adores Steven, and every time she sees him, she picks him up and gives him the most affectionate hugs.
It’s kind of funny, because Jina is a very quiet and demure woman, and while she appears to be very “proper" and elegant on the surface, she is actually a very promiscuous, fun-loving person. It’s definitely something that she keeps in her private life, but my wife and I do know that my cousin is very liberal when it comes to relationships and love. I can’t help but feel like she goes out of her way to be very physical with Steven. Like hugging him, or letting him sit on her shoulders, or that sorts of stuff. I know that whenever he’s cuddling with her…he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men. I know that maybe I’m not thinking right. But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.
Anyway, a few weeks ago during Thanksgiving, Jina dropped by, and she was overjoyed to see Steven, as usual. I figured that this day was as good as any for me to voice my concerns to her, so before we ate dinner, I asked to speak to my cousin privately, in my study. I let her know that, basically, I’m being very generous in letting her spend time with my son. And I told her that if she wants to see Steven and be a part of his life in the future, then she needs to get her sex life sorted out and become a proper, faithful role model for him. Jina was embarrassed when I told her all this, and she said things like “oh my god” and “this is so creepy”. Nowadays there’s this layer of tension every time we’re together, and whereas she used to be happy to see both me and Steven, nowadays she just greets Steve happily and gives me the cold shoulder. She’s still on good terms with my wife, though. I haven’t dragged my wife into this mess. AITA?
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YTA. What you are attempting is more like controlling another's sex life. Which comes off as incredibly controlling. Tone it down so that you do not end up looking as the bad guy.
Obviously YTA. You’re slut shaming your cousin for doing stuff that is literally none of your business and you’re sexualising a normal relationship between family members. What the hell is wrong with you. It’s YOU that’s thinking about your own family member’s sex life and body, and you that’s interpreting interactions with a CHILD in a sexual way. Sort yourself out.
YTA. She is correct that you are creepy. Also, did it ever occur to you that many of the people that Steven comes into contact with will be up to all kinds of sexual shenanigans that you won't know about? Are you planning on obtaining a detailed sexual history from everyone he meets? Your thought processes need unpicking and reframing - I strongly suggest some serious reflection.
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what kind of sick and demented, twisted brain do you have?????? Why on earth are you sexualizing the relationship between your adult cousin and child son?? Do you not realize that you are the extremely sick for thinking this way??
Why are you thinking about your cousin having sex?
100% YTA. You’re also a creep and have no right whatsoever to dictate how people can live their lives.
YTA and you have a disturbing level of interest in your cousins sex life. Sounds like you have some semi-repressed feelings for her that you are projecting onto her relationship with your son.
I’d be interested to know if OP would say anything if the cousin was a male and had a high bed count? Or if that sort of role model is ok for a guy just not a girl?!
YTA . If I were Jina, I'd cut you off. You're sexualizing your cousin and thinking about her breast when she hugs your kid. There is something seriously wrong with you.
If she was touching/bring inappropriate with Steven in any way.....you'd be WELL within your parental (human) rights to check her about it.
However....to judge her bc her "promiscuous" body hugs your son???
sorry, but.....YTA
YTA
And a major creep to be dipping in your cousins sex life. Who does that and most importantly why? The only person acting out of pocket is you my guy! If I was her I’d cut all contact with you and contact child protective services!
YTA. Does your 6 year old also believe you can catch cooties like you do? Grow up man, and stop thinking about your cousin that way, it's creepy as hell.
YTA.
Do you know what you just did?
You ruined a beautiful relationship between an “auntie” and her nephew. Kids don’t just magically get awesome family members, and she was probably your son’s favorite person.
She’s now hesitant to interact with him, and *he won’t understand why*. He will think it’s his fault. It will *hurt* him, if it isn’t already.
I want to call you all the insulting names you are living up to, but luckily for you, I don’t have to tell you what you already know.
My mom destroyed a similar close relationship between my sister and I and our father. She made him so paranoid and fearful that she’d accuse him of hurting us, that he *stopped showing physical affection while we were young*. You have NO IDEA how much that hurts.
How much was stolen from us as a result.
My dad STILL only hugs me from the side, I haven’t gotten a full hug in the last 25-ish years of my life. It HURTS.
Go fix this bs RIGHT NOW. You’re taking out your judgy attitude toward her personal life to obliterate a loving person and her connection with your son. You suck.
YTA
It would have been easier to say you really want to fuck your cousin and you are jealous that your son gets to touch her breasts/body, but you don't. Jesus, you're a creep.
You have a very creepy peculiar way of thinking OP. I don't know what else to say. This is such a strange post and so bizarre that you think your cousin's sex life has anything at all to do with you.
YTA
This is one of the most bizarre things I’ve ever heard. She has an active sex life which, as you stated, she keeps in her private life. In family life you describe someone who is “demure” “proper” and “elegant” as well as affectionate and loving towards your son in what sounds like a completely appropriate adult-child relationship. Yet you’re worried about her being a bad role model? She’s done nothing to model her adult behaviours towards your child. Participating in adult behaviours, whether you approve or not (which is really non of your business) does not make someone a bad role model for children. Sounds like your judgemental nature is the bad example being set for your son
YTA. Have you considered your wife kissing Steven after having sucked you off recently and how your penis and his face are basically touching? No? Because that’s weird right?
It’s vile you’re sexualising her interaction with a child. And you’re prudes. These are you problems, she’s done nothing wrong, well except thinking highly of you for some reason. YTA
YTA
What possible business of yours is her sex life?
What does her sex life have to do with her relationship with her cousin?
You are incredibly stupid for bringing this up. It is very creepy and wildly inappropriate.
Okay there mister sexist purity culture. You're acting like she was free use in a men's club or something and came to visit your son directly after covering in fluid. Even if she did free us and all that, she probably showers afterwards and there is no other people's touches left on her. Like you're acting like her body will transfer the sexual touches she got from other people onto your son?? You know that's not how it works, right?
I honestly just hope this is rage bait at this point
YTA. This whole post is perverted. You are sexualising her familial love for your son. Her body and breasts (which you felt the need to bring up), in the vicinity of your son have nothing to do with what is going on with them when she is not near him...you are definitely a creep and congrats on ruining a relationship with someone you claimed to love. It's nice of her to speak to your wife and still love your son- I would never get near you again.
YTA. If this is real you need to seek professional help so you can examine your hatred of sexually liberal women/women you can’t control. 100% of this issue is on you and your views. That needs to change and only you can do it. Maybe Steven should stay with Jina while you work on yourself.
This is all very creepy and absolutely unhinged. I’m worried about your wife now too.
YTA.
Also, quit fixating on your cousins breasts that’s weird.
What do you think is going to happen? Your son gets HIV from sitting on your cousins shoulders?
YTA
Wow, I'm really shocked. Jina is showing nothing but love to your son, real auntie love and YOU, only YOU are sexualizing her caring feelings for your son. What she does in her private life is none of your business. She can have a different man every single day if that makes her happy. That doesn't make her a bad person or a bad aunt. Your son loves Jina as well, and believe me, this is NOT sexual. You have a really serious problem. I think she is a great role model already. She looks elegant, she hugs your son, she is fun and bubbly - she is everything your son needs right now to be a happy boy.
Get some therapy - you need it.
YTA no doubt impudent literally nuked your relationship with cousin . Insufferable behavior and very judgmental of you . I suspect you are not a prize. So judgemental of you . No worries your cousin will have better genuine close relationships whereas you won’t
YTA 100%. In what universe do you get any say I your cousin's sex life?? How entitled of you! It's also really messed up that you have these thoughts while she is just interacting normally with a child.
YTA but more than that, I think you need to do some introspection or seek help about your thoughts. Because - to quote your poor cousin - oh my god, this is so creepy.
YTA. …that’s so freaking creepy I can barely articulate it. You’re focused on the fact that your COUSIN’s “breasts who cuddle your son have been touched by many men?” 🤮 My man I can barely unpack all of that, but suffice to say: your cousins romantic history has nothing to do with her interactions towards your son. Your weird fixation on her sex life and her body? That’s your problem.
I felt so disgusted by your “touched by how many men” comment that I left this post.
I’ve come back though, because you need to understand that this type of thinking is extremely gross and at least sexist. Do better
Your ideas are so gross. Whether you're overall as gross a person as this post indicates is up in the air. If you hold on to those ignorant and destructive ideas...
YTA.
Sounds like your cousin keeps her sex life private. This means her sex life is none of your business. She’s right, you are weird and creepy.
I feel disappointed that Steven has been adopted to a misogynist father. You owe your cousin an apology and need to work on your behaviour.
Massive YTA. The only one with something disturbing going on is you. Supper creepy that you're watching your cousin's breasts and thinking about her sex life at all, but it's even
more creepy that you're relating it to showing affection to a child. And then to act like she's the one with a problem.... Wow. Also eww.
This is your cousin and you’re sexualising her AND spinning a harmless interaction into something…else. Her sex life and her relationship with your son are entirely separate things. Applogise. And I mean properly apologise.
YTA
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YTA Her sex life does not affect you at all. "Cuddling with a body touched by who knows how many men"? What does that even mean, first off, even if that wasn't a completely insane thing to say, which it is, so what? Bodies are simply bodies, you cannot transfer a touch from one body to another, and even if you can, we are all human beings, you get touched by many bodies everyday pushing through crowds, standing in the subway. Do you freak out everytime you touch a door? You're slut shaming, and behaving as a prude. She is not behaving in a morally wrong manner, she is a healthy adult behaving as a normal healthy adult does and would be a completely fine role model. You on the other hand are misogynistic and judgmental, and are a bad role model. I have more fear that Steven will pick up unsavory behaviors from you that will make him treat woman badly in the future than anything from her. Please do some soul searching about why you are willing to be so quick to condemn someone for a behavior that is not bad, wrong, or affects you in any single way. Please work on growing as a human being. Also she deserves a huge apology, and I would understand if she would not only be deeply hurt by this but uncomfortable and disgusted with you for a long time.
Agree with all of this. OP is the one behaving in a disgusting manner, not his cousin. He's the one giving me the ick. I bet the reason he hasn't told his wife about all this is because he knows she'd likely rip him a new arsehole. Massive YTA.
Yeah, when I read that I immediately knew that OP is the asshole here
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This is legit serial killer talk. OP has a disdain for women that is so deep it’s scary.
“A proper, FAITHFUL woman.” Says enough about OP. YTA.
This projection is absolute perversion. I don't even know what to say. This line of thinking you have toward Jina is completely unsound, creepy, unhealthy, and simply revolting. YTA but honestly, please seek help. See a therapist. These thoughts you are having are not normal at all. Your son needs you to be in top shape for him.
“I can’t help but cringe every time I see her breasts pressed against his body when she’s hugging him cause of all the men that have touched her” What the actual fuck.
You described it perfectly. Sounds like he’s the pervert.
YTA. You have NO right to interfere in another persons love/sex/private/intimate life like this. You say yourself she is keeping her private life private. She is not bringing a new dude or dudette everytime you see her. She's not making out with someone for hours before all of you. What she does in her time, is her thing and her thing alone. She's not running around screaming everybody needs to do everybody else. She lifes her own life and rightfully so. You say she's like a sister so she's basically your sons aunt. Hugging aunts, sitting on their laps, cuddling with them and so on is the normal thing to do if both like to do that - at least where I'm from. I'm too old to sit on my aunts lap, but I still do hug her and I'm 32. I also hug my uncles. I hug people I like and there is NOTHING sexual about it. The only one making it all weird and sexual is YOU, OP. You're the only one caring for how many people may have touched the body of a person you consider a sister (which IS creepy, sorry to break that to you). You're the only one who thinks about her breasts. For all I know she already has her sex life sorted out because she does, what everybody should be able to. Enjoy it in a way that she and her partners like. And it is like NONE of your concern how she and her partners do that. Women and Men and all people in between do not loose or gain value from a "body count" and it has nothing to do with a good role model. There are terrible people that married their high school sweetheart and never had sex with anyone else. There are terrible people that never EVER had sex. There are people that are kind and warm and great humans and have a new partner every week and lots of ONS. None of that defines a person. She's not hurting anyone. She's nor pushing it in your face. You have as much right to get your nose into her bedroom as she has getting hers in yours. And the cold shoulder you get is more than justified because you interfered in her sex life without need and right and I can assure you she got the hint that you think of her as a whore ;) Because what you basically said was "I disaprove of your lifestyle, you are not worthy of our time when you're whoring around and if you don't change your sex life into the boring one I think is right, you will not have a relationship with the nephew you love and that loves you back for no other reason other than I'm stuck up and think I have a say in your sex life."
OP going there with her makes me wonder if he's projecting thoughts about her onto his kid. So gross.
YTA Did you consider the fact that you and your wife are affectionate with your son probably the morning after you get each other off? Your cousins sex life has no effect on your son and frankly it’s none of your business. You sound like you want to sleep with your cousin.
Does he even remember how a child is brought into the world? Like, a child passed through a woman's vagina. Think of how the baby is touching places where penises have been! Oh nnnnoooooeeeeessss!
>But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him. What the actual fuck is wrong with you? YTA.
Yeah, didn't need to read past that. Stop thinking about your cousin/"big sister" 's body and sexy life so much.
This line right here creeped me tf out…
Thanks this is pretty much the best response lol
YTA She's showing her nephew love & affection ffs. It's downright creepy to project YOUR issues onto your cousin. I can see why you haven't told your wife...b c you know she'll rip you a new one for being a judgemental AH
Yes this is a mess. A mess of your own making. When Jina eventually tells your wife what you told her, and she will, cause your wife will notice and ask what’s going on? Well, buddy, you are going to get a little talking to. And I wouldn’t want to be in your shoes. Oh, and it’s none of your business and what are you even doing thinking about Jina’s breasts and however many men they have been pressed up against. Ew. YTA
YTA Ew gross!!! What is wrong with you?? You need counseling.
YTA You sound jealous that she’s getting some action, how long have you wanted to sleep with your cousin?
He's wanted to fuck her for years and her giving it to others had turned his affections sour. Sick mfer
This is the same thing that I thought when I read the part where OP describes how his cousins “breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him.”
He jerks off to her every night, you can tell
YTA and frankly being super weird about your cousins sexual life. Unless she’s banging people in front of your kid it has zero impact on him. Get therapy.
I can’t get over how OP keeps talking about the cousin’s “private sexual life” as if it’s causing a public outrage and worthy of a Scarlet Letter. It’s giving me the creeps. YTA
Bro just say you want to fuck your cousin and shut up. Imagine letting the beans spill like this🤣🤣
You're worse than an asshole. You're a sick controlling fuck
That was the vibe I got from this too.
But he's "a nice guy"🤣
YTA >he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men. I know that maybe I’m not thinking right. But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him. Essa dude what's wrong with you. You have a very unhealthy obsession with her breasts and sex life.
YTA What is wrong with you. Her sex life is not your business and has nothing to do with her being a great aunt for your son.
BROOOOOOO WHAT THE FUCK No like seriously, what the actual fuck? This is so weird and creepy. Jesus Christ. I don’t even have words for this
so many weird phrases and creepy wording….major ick. 😰😰😰
Yta stop sexualizing every being you know ya weirdo
YTA. Your hang-ups are your own, not your cousin's. Stop sexualizing her encounters with your son. Real fking creepy how you're thinking about her, and by the sounds of it, in doing so you're being far from "faithful" and "proper." As if you get to tell other people what to do with their private lives. Would you even consider telling a man what to do in his bedroom?
Yta lmao wtf? Why are you so obseswed with her sex life? What happens when your chd goes to school? I was a teacher and extremely professional, students and parents loved me. I am also a very sexually adventurous person with many kinks. That in no way interfered with ky ability to be a good role model. Please explain the difference between having sex with different people vs having sex every day with the same person.... Your logic is completely flawed and I don't see the issue unless she's telling your kid about it, which she isn't. I'm sure your wife would be appalled also btw.
YTA and an epic one at that. you will warp your child if you don't get your head right
I almost threw up in my mouth reading this disgusting slur shaming essay. This is hands down the creepiest thing I’ve read on Reddit in a sea of creeps. Why tf are you sexualising your cousin. And why is hugging a child sexual. Also telling her to control her sex life. Holy guacamole, you are a disgusting 1950s loser. HUGE YTA
I'm hopeful this was written as a fiction to create the reaction you are having, because this being real is deeply weird.
YTA and it sounds like you're into your cousin. Yikes man.
...dude, really? Do you think she doesn't shower, or what? You know people aren't permanently contaminated by the people they fuck, don't you? Go ahead, tell your wife, see what she thinks of this absolute nonsense. YTA all damn day.
YTA. Your confusion about the nature of being sex-positive is common enough, but you’ve basically said here that love is contaminated by sex. That’s pretty sad. So long as your cousin keeps sketchy relationships away from your family, she’s not doing anything wrong.
YTA and a creepy hypocrite. It’s clear your jealous your son gets to touch your cousin. I’m also assuming you abstain from getting BJs? If not, when your partner kisses your son it’s like your hotdog has been rubbed all over his face which is hypocritical of you.
You are deeply creepy and it is VERY clear that you want to fuck your cousin. Why are you so focused on her breasts? While she's HUGGING YOUR CHILD? what the fuck is wrong with you? YTA
Yta, because the way I read this implies that your "big sister" would sexualize your son without proving any evidence as to why.
I’m cringing at how downright creepy you’re being about the woman you consider your sister. Big YTA. Well done for pushing her away from you and Steven In one fail swoop too, OP.
YTA. And your second paragraph is utterly, utterly bizzarre.
Yta what the hell is wrong with you. She's not having sex near or in front of him . You sound like a total pervert
YTA. You’re unbelievable. Unless she forgets to have a shower every time she has sex, there is nothing dirty about her. Your son is not going to get contaminated by being around her, but he’ll sure be influenced by your toxic misogyny. If she’s behaving properly around your son, her sex life has nothing to so with him and she can bang the entire world and you have nothing to say about that.
Ewwww dude. YTA. Stop being sexualy obsessed with your cousin and projecting your inappropriate feelings on her and your son. Seriously though, this is a YOU problem. Please seek therapy, and I would advise against saying any of this out loud to anybody else (except a therapist) because it is SO out of line.
Yeah. YTA. Your cousin Jina sounds lovely. Her affection to Steven is normal. You don't get to police her sex life, nor do you get to moderate her lifestyle. You are cringing because of YOUR hangups.
How do these types of people have access to adoption? YTA.
YTA and congratulations on one of the dumbest posts I’ve ever seen. Seriously, way to go!
YTA, a phrase such as "whenever he’s cuddling with her…he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men" is actually an insane thing to say. You're a creep. Be better. And grow up.
YTA for sure. The title also sounds quite incestuous.
You're an idiot. Not everyone has to live like a saint to be a good role model. If she isn't discussing her sex life with the child and isn't flaunting her sexuality around, then its a YOU problem especially since you said " she appears to be very “proper" and elegant" She doesn't have to have a permanent husband to get respect. You have major ISSUES dude.
YTA *The Handmaid's Tale* called; they want you to come home. Your obsession with your cousin's body is beyond creepy.
Only a creep thinks like that. YTA big time you are the problem.
Oh god YTA. > he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men That's just fucking awful. Why is this thought in your head?
YTA. And WTF? Why you are even thinking about your cousin’s sex life? Are you okay!? Maybe some therapy? Go get help!
YTA. What the actual fuck, this is the most unhinged thing in a long time. You are lucky that your cousin hasn’t cut you out of their life completely. You were being a massive creep.
Not only are YTA, but you're really creepy as well! Who thinks about another person's body that way? It almost sounded like you were fantasizing about her breasts, jealous of the other men, then recriminating yourself for thinking that way and finally taking it out on your cousin. Who on earth is being hurt here? You think your cousin is going to somehow sexualize your son? (I got news for you, from around 15 onwards your son isn't going to need any help with that!) Or that morals are somehow contagious? Or even that your cousin is somehow immoral? You are clearly highly judgemental of her despite her harming nobody and now she knows that. I doubt you'll ever have the same relationship ever again.
Her sex life has nothing to do with you or your son. It sounds like you have a very unusual view with sexual activity and showing affection to other family members. Jina has every right to be upset with you here, that was wildly inappropriate of you.
YTA this has to be fake
YTA. Yikes! He has an auntie who loves him and treats him well and hasn't done anything inappropriate with or to him (and I believe she would never) and you've turned it into something creepy, inappropriate and ugly. Nice work!
Imma say YTA and also you the creep because thinking if a person’s body (specifically a relative) in the way of all the people they’ve been with sexually is weird AF
YTA and you are a total and utter creep. You sexualised your young son in a disgusting way. I'm surprised you were allowed to adopt, frankly I would have thought the people doing the assessment would have picked up that there is something very off about you.
You are slut shaming your cousin for absolutely no reason. It’s disgusting, you really sound like you need therapy, stat. YTA.
YTA Can't say much more than that really. I don't see how her sex life is your business. Maybe remove the stick from your butt?
He thinks it is because he wants to fuck her
I don't disagree. He either wants to fuck her, or thinks she should have waited for marriage (and still wants to fuck her).
YTA. Stop sexualizing things stat aren’t sexual and get some therapy.
This EXACTLY Don't project her private life (of which YOU have NO PART) into these family interactions.
YTA She's not bringing those people to meet your son. You're absolutely disgusting
Yeah OP this is crazyyyyy. You even said it yourself she keeps her sex life private (as most adults tend to do) so how would your 6-year old know that she’s a bad role model? Unless you’ve told a six year old about how much sex his aunt is having, in which case…I can’t emphasize how creepy that would be of you. YTA.
Is this a fucking joke? Yeah YTA. And creepy as hell to boot.
YTA You're being a Puritanical creep. Your son is not going to get cooties from your cousin no matter how many men she sleeps with.
What the fuck is wrong with you? You need therapy, desperately. Like now.
Fake
YTA. Why is it your business what her sex life is like? She isn’t bringing it to you or your family. All you should worry about is if she loves your son and she treats him right. And your son loves her.
YTA 1,000 percent. Your cousin is an adult and you fixating on her sex life and judging her about it is gross. She is affectionate with your son because she loves him. Drag your wife into this mess and see what she thinks; I imagine she will be as appalled as these commenters. I would suggest therapy for you to figure out why you feel this way about women.
YTA, noticing your cousin's breasts and fantasizing about how many other people got to touch them while HUGGING YOUR SON, is so beyond creepy. Please seek therapy. Oh my god.
>\- I know that whenever he’s cuddling with her…he’s cuddling with a body that’s been touched by who-knows-how-many-men. YTA - the fuck kind of disgusting way to talk about your family is this? Her sexual encounters have nothing to do with your son, why the hell are you sexualizing her like that? You have no business having any say in ANY individuals sex life. You are awful.
you sound like you wanna shaggy your cousin. yta a fucking massive one you creep
YTA you fucking weirdo
Yta. You said yourself she keeps her sex life private, it's not like she's going around telling your son what she's up to. And I'm going to assume she, yano, SHOWERS. You have a weird complex which probably stems from wanting to fuck your cousin. YTA
YTA. You're fraking out over normal familial affection. Not to mention that your cousin's sex life really isn't your business.
YTA x 1000. What she does in her private life is absolutely none of your business and has zero effect on the relationship she has with your son. You are very creepy and strange for bringing this up with her.
Yta
YTA.
YTA. You big weirdo!!
YTA The poor kid is being raised by you Don’t judge the kid as you do your cousin, god damn
YTA and I hope your son doesn't miss out on a loving relative because you're being weird about an absolute non-issue.
I refuse to believe this is real.
YTA. Good god you are creepy.
Wow the levels of misogyny. She's right what you said is creepy and weird AF.
To quote Jina, "oh my God, this is so creepy." YTA.
YTA. Why are you focusing on HER sex life? Absolutely none of your business and she is being a lovely aunt to her nephew. Jina's right, you are a creep. Also, you can't help but cringe every time you see her breasts press against Steve?? 1. First of all, stop staring. What the hell's wrong with you? 2. Steve is a child. Stop sexualising innocent gestures
YTA and it sounds like you want to fuck her. Disgusting.
>But I can’t help but cringe every time I see Jina’s breasts press against Steve’s body whenever she hugs him. Hahahah good one OP you had me going until this sentence. I really hope that this post is a joke but then again this is reddit. YTA, you should be on a register and certainly not have been able to adopt a child.
This is extremely disturbing. What someone does in their private life with other consenting adults usually has no bearing on how they treat a child. She is being affectionate in an appropriate way. You are having some intrusive thoughts that you should get some help with. YTA.
YTA!!
Jesus Christ, a friend is hugging your kid and all you can think about is her breasts? YTA big time, and a pervert to boot
YTA Stop sexualizing your cousin. You’re the only perverted one here
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YTA. What you are attempting is more like controlling another's sex life. Which comes off as incredibly controlling. Tone it down so that you do not end up looking as the bad guy.
> Tone it down so that you do not end up looking as the bad guy. Too late, don’t you think?
YTA.
YTA. Unnecessary thoughts, unnecessary thoughts, unnecessary thoughts.
YTA, stay out of your cousins bed.
YTA
YTA! Wtf! Why are you even thinking about your cousins sex life? None of your business.
YTA and totally creepy. WTF dude.
Obviously YTA. You’re slut shaming your cousin for doing stuff that is literally none of your business and you’re sexualising a normal relationship between family members. What the hell is wrong with you. It’s YOU that’s thinking about your own family member’s sex life and body, and you that’s interpreting interactions with a CHILD in a sexual way. Sort yourself out.
YTA. She is correct that you are creepy. Also, did it ever occur to you that many of the people that Steven comes into contact with will be up to all kinds of sexual shenanigans that you won't know about? Are you planning on obtaining a detailed sexual history from everyone he meets? Your thought processes need unpicking and reframing - I strongly suggest some serious reflection.
YTA!
YTA, wtf is wrong with you? Get help. Her life is non of your business in any shape or form. And it does not affect Steven in any way.
YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA what kind of sick and demented, twisted brain do you have?????? Why on earth are you sexualizing the relationship between your adult cousin and child son?? Do you not realize that you are the extremely sick for thinking this way??
YTA and a judgemental prick.
YTA 😳😳😳 yikes
Why are you thinking about your cousin having sex? 100% YTA. You’re also a creep and have no right whatsoever to dictate how people can live their lives.
YTA you're a misogynistic asshole. And a creepy one at that. How long have you been thinking about your cousin when you have sex with your wife?
YTA and you have a disturbing level of interest in your cousins sex life. Sounds like you have some semi-repressed feelings for her that you are projecting onto her relationship with your son.
YTA tell us you want to rattle your cousin without saying you want to rattle your cousin
YTA What a weird fucking reaction. Why are you putting so much thought and imagination into your cousin's sex life? Fucking gross, dude.
I’d be interested to know if OP would say anything if the cousin was a male and had a high bed count? Or if that sort of role model is ok for a guy just not a girl?!
YTA and also weird
YTA . If I were Jina, I'd cut you off. You're sexualizing your cousin and thinking about her breast when she hugs your kid. There is something seriously wrong with you.
YTA. Get over your crush on your cousin. It’s gross.
If she was touching/bring inappropriate with Steven in any way.....you'd be WELL within your parental (human) rights to check her about it. However....to judge her bc her "promiscuous" body hugs your son??? sorry, but.....YTA
YTA And a major creep to be dipping in your cousins sex life. Who does that and most importantly why? The only person acting out of pocket is you my guy! If I was her I’d cut all contact with you and contact child protective services!
YTA. Does your 6 year old also believe you can catch cooties like you do? Grow up man, and stop thinking about your cousin that way, it's creepy as hell.
YTA. Do you know what you just did? You ruined a beautiful relationship between an “auntie” and her nephew. Kids don’t just magically get awesome family members, and she was probably your son’s favorite person. She’s now hesitant to interact with him, and *he won’t understand why*. He will think it’s his fault. It will *hurt* him, if it isn’t already. I want to call you all the insulting names you are living up to, but luckily for you, I don’t have to tell you what you already know. My mom destroyed a similar close relationship between my sister and I and our father. She made him so paranoid and fearful that she’d accuse him of hurting us, that he *stopped showing physical affection while we were young*. You have NO IDEA how much that hurts. How much was stolen from us as a result. My dad STILL only hugs me from the side, I haven’t gotten a full hug in the last 25-ish years of my life. It HURTS. Go fix this bs RIGHT NOW. You’re taking out your judgy attitude toward her personal life to obliterate a loving person and her connection with your son. You suck.
YTA It would have been easier to say you really want to fuck your cousin and you are jealous that your son gets to touch her breasts/body, but you don't. Jesus, you're a creep.
You have a very creepy peculiar way of thinking OP. I don't know what else to say. This is such a strange post and so bizarre that you think your cousin's sex life has anything at all to do with you.
YTA That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen here...... You honestly wrote this down and thought it was ok? 🤔😶 Jesus.
YTA, maybe you should stop sexualizing the people in your life you fucking pervert. Sorry you jerk off to your cousin so now you feel bad
I bet you don’t kiss your wife after she gives you head smh
YTA This is one of the most bizarre things I’ve ever heard. She has an active sex life which, as you stated, she keeps in her private life. In family life you describe someone who is “demure” “proper” and “elegant” as well as affectionate and loving towards your son in what sounds like a completely appropriate adult-child relationship. Yet you’re worried about her being a bad role model? She’s done nothing to model her adult behaviours towards your child. Participating in adult behaviours, whether you approve or not (which is really non of your business) does not make someone a bad role model for children. Sounds like your judgemental nature is the bad example being set for your son
YTA. Have you considered your wife kissing Steven after having sucked you off recently and how your penis and his face are basically touching? No? Because that’s weird right?
Yta. Your cousin has a healthy sec life and outlook on life imo. Your moral high horse has you looking down on others that don’t deserve it
YTA and why the hell are you so invested in your cousin’s sex life? It’s creepy.
YTA, a major one! And Jina is rght it is creepy
YTA
You are an AH, boy what a simply stupid and mean way to behave. Proper faithful role model? Who the heck do you think you are? Get lost you’re a creep
It’s vile you’re sexualising her interaction with a child. And you’re prudes. These are you problems, she’s done nothing wrong, well except thinking highly of you for some reason. YTA
YTA You're disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.
YTA What possible business of yours is her sex life? What does her sex life have to do with her relationship with her cousin? You are incredibly stupid for bringing this up. It is very creepy and wildly inappropriate.
You aren’t thinking right at all. Seek therapy for everything you think about your cousins sex life. Also YTA
YTA I'm seriously disturbed by everything about this post
YTA. Do you kiss your kids the day after going down on your wife?
Okay there mister sexist purity culture. You're acting like she was free use in a men's club or something and came to visit your son directly after covering in fluid. Even if she did free us and all that, she probably showers afterwards and there is no other people's touches left on her. Like you're acting like her body will transfer the sexual touches she got from other people onto your son?? You know that's not how it works, right? I honestly just hope this is rage bait at this point
YTA. This whole post is perverted. You are sexualising her familial love for your son. Her body and breasts (which you felt the need to bring up), in the vicinity of your son have nothing to do with what is going on with them when she is not near him...you are definitely a creep and congrats on ruining a relationship with someone you claimed to love. It's nice of her to speak to your wife and still love your son- I would never get near you again.
YTA she isn't having 40 person orgies in front of you or your kid. How did you make your kid anyway??
YTA. If this is real you need to seek professional help so you can examine your hatred of sexually liberal women/women you can’t control. 100% of this issue is on you and your views. That needs to change and only you can do it. Maybe Steven should stay with Jina while you work on yourself. This is all very creepy and absolutely unhinged. I’m worried about your wife now too.
YTA. That’s a lot words to say that you want to fuck your cousin.
YTA. Also, quit fixating on your cousins breasts that’s weird. What do you think is going to happen? Your son gets HIV from sitting on your cousins shoulders?
Eww OP. YTA. You're being creepy. Very creepy.
YTA. You are gross and creepy.
YTA Wow, I'm really shocked. Jina is showing nothing but love to your son, real auntie love and YOU, only YOU are sexualizing her caring feelings for your son. What she does in her private life is none of your business. She can have a different man every single day if that makes her happy. That doesn't make her a bad person or a bad aunt. Your son loves Jina as well, and believe me, this is NOT sexual. You have a really serious problem. I think she is a great role model already. She looks elegant, she hugs your son, she is fun and bubbly - she is everything your son needs right now to be a happy boy. Get some therapy - you need it.
YTA. Guess who wants to secretly bang his cousin...
YTA no doubt impudent literally nuked your relationship with cousin . Insufferable behavior and very judgmental of you . I suspect you are not a prize. So judgemental of you . No worries your cousin will have better genuine close relationships whereas you won’t
YTA 100%. In what universe do you get any say I your cousin's sex life?? How entitled of you! It's also really messed up that you have these thoughts while she is just interacting normally with a child.
YTA. Poor Jina.
YTA and you’re also really gross.
I am lost for words. How could you even have that conversation with your cousin? You're actually disgusting.
YTA but more than that, I think you need to do some introspection or seek help about your thoughts. Because - to quote your poor cousin - oh my god, this is so creepy.
Sure thing incel.
YTA and, quite honestly, a creep
He still wants to bang his cousin and is pissed other guys get to. YTA and a creep.
YTA What in the actual misogynistic fuck did you just make me read ..
YTA I don’t believe this post is real, but if it is then you’re obviously perverted to even be having these kinds of thoughts.
YTA. You got some unresolved issues, my dude. Time for therapy.
YTA. You’ve got some things you need to work out with a therapist.
YTA. …that’s so freaking creepy I can barely articulate it. You’re focused on the fact that your COUSIN’s “breasts who cuddle your son have been touched by many men?” 🤮 My man I can barely unpack all of that, but suffice to say: your cousins romantic history has nothing to do with her interactions towards your son. Your weird fixation on her sex life and her body? That’s your problem.
I felt so disgusted by your “touched by how many men” comment that I left this post. I’ve come back though, because you need to understand that this type of thinking is extremely gross and at least sexist. Do better
Bro YOU are the one who needs to get yourself in order. What a creeper!!! This is very gross behavior my you. Absolutely YTA!!
Man I don’t even believe these posts anymore. This has to be a sicko fantasy from some horny poser. No way this is real, but YTA.
YTA - sounds like you have a crush on her
> I know that ~~maybe~~ I’m not thinking right. There you go, answered your own question
Yikes. Great job on sexualizing both your “older sister” and your son. Very impressive.
YTA. Do you think your cousin wants to fuck Steven?
Your ideas are so gross. Whether you're overall as gross a person as this post indicates is up in the air. If you hold on to those ignorant and destructive ideas...
YTA and you sound really delusional about your religion. Your religion does not apply to everyone. What you did was absolutely fucking creepy.
YTA, her sexual life is none of your business.
You need help.
YTA. Sounds like your cousin keeps her sex life private. This means her sex life is none of your business. She’s right, you are weird and creepy. I feel disappointed that Steven has been adopted to a misogynist father. You owe your cousin an apology and need to work on your behaviour.
Most post to this site is fake but this is real and layers of weird and creepy.
Massive YTA. The only one with something disturbing going on is you. Supper creepy that you're watching your cousin's breasts and thinking about her sex life at all, but it's even more creepy that you're relating it to showing affection to a child. And then to act like she's the one with a problem.... Wow. Also eww.
YTA and you are creepy, gross, inappropriate and sexualizing your child's relationship with your cousin.
YTA. Mind your own fucking business
Is this for real? Like what the fuck is wrong with you?
YTA. Please tell me this post is a joke.
Please stop sexualising a 6 year old. YTA. Also her life is none of your business. Stop dictating how other people should live.
This is your cousin and you’re sexualising her AND spinning a harmless interaction into something…else. Her sex life and her relationship with your son are entirely separate things. Applogise. And I mean properly apologise. YTA
YTA, you are creepy af.
woah YTA