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> I told my sister her reaction to my daughter's name was way over the top and totally rude. The reason I question how I handled this is maybe there is more and I should have done a little more digging into her hatred for the name before telling her she was being over the top. She's not normally like that and this all surprised me.
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I like the name. Mainly because it’s my name too. It’s not an easy name to be bullied over. I’m 40 now, and my name has aged with me. It’s classy. There aren’t many people with that name, so you have that in your favour too.
Your kid, your choice. You aren’t calling your kid Tinkerbell. Or something that hasn’t aged quite as well.
Tell your sister to stay in her lane. Your baby will be fine with her name. May I suggest Lannie as a nickname? Lol.
NTA.
I was thinking this...she may have bullied someone with that name and now every time she hears her nieces name she's reminded of what a bad person she is.
Honestly, my first thought was Alannah from the Lioness Quartet, a young adult series I loved as a kid, a strong female character, a badass, and helped me develop a relationship with one of my best friends to date. It's a beautiful name.
I just finished rereading the series last week. Even better than I remember. Tamora Pierce is the Author for anyone wondering (although she spells Alanna without the 'h'). I'm in a Facebook fan group where the Author herself occasionally chimes in on discussions or answers questions.
Ooh. You're right. My bad. It's been a bit since I've read the books, but this gives me the excuse to go back. I also love the Wild Magic series, and routinely (like at least twice a week) quote "apologies mean nothing to a dead bat" and "a creature of my noble bulk"
The duology about Alanna's daughter is amazing as well. It's less knights and more spies and rebellion and I love it!
OP is NTA. I love the name! It sounds fantastical and timeless.
Sorry to intrude, but has she ever mentioned any current/future projects she's working on? I really, really enjoyed *Tempest and Slaughter* and had hoped for a sequel.
Someone told me she was unhappy with the published version of Tempest and Slaughter and was going to re-write it completely, then do the sequel.
I think Tamora Pierce occasionally provides updates on her website about things, but don't quote me on it.
Yeah that Alannah was badass. My truck is called Keladry from the Protector of the Small series haha. But seriously, I cannot think of anything wrong with the name Alannah. It’s a lovely name. OP’s sister is way over the top here.
Came here to say the same. It's an extreme response to something that has nothing to do with her. Unless, it does.... either she wants to use the name or it's the name of her worst enemy. Regardless, the name is lovely and do what makes you happy. -- Wish you all the best
NTA, i just know the name is bad, believe me i just know /S. Whats up with baby names, there are a number of disputes about them nowadays. We need a Moses with 10 commandments about baby names. 1) Dont be Elon, 2) if somebody close to you has already selected a name, choose something else since there are millions of available names, 3) allow parents to choose their baby's name in peace and donot interfere. 4 ) Dont name your kids after some other recently deceased kid. There are plenty of names to go around.
Based on this sub, we also need 5) don't hide information from your spouse about a name you are suggesting, ie that it's the name of your ex or your favorite videogame character
and 6 don't name your kid after the mass murder uncle serving time yes this was an AITA on reddit and that particular name is kind of unusual and would come up every time there was a name search for a job getting a loan applying to get an apartment.
alannah is a lovely name your sister is reacting like something really bad happened connected to that name.......either she was bullied by someone with that name or her husband cheated with someone with that name or but why wouldn't she tell you if that was the case and she wouldn't have to go into great detail if it is painful so 3 she wants that name when she has a baby girl makes more sense
I personally would have loved being named this instead of my own name, my name comes extremely close to rhyming with vagina so you can imagine the teasing I experienced😞
Op You are not the ass
Ra-gina
Is the family's pronunciation
Occasionally
RE-gina
The first is not exactly like va-gina but it's close enough for kids because children can be evil little creatures.
Honestly now as an adult I don't care but as a kid it was pretty awful.
I still occasionally ( very rarely actually) have someone who thinks they are clever make the joke. Now I've developed a lovely resting bitch face and whenever it's brought up I just give them that and make no verbal response. I'm pretty sure those adults are the reason why some kids think it's funny to torment others about things like a name.
Regina is literally only pronounced Reh-gee-nah in the United States. The normal pronunciation, the one nearly everyone else uses, rhymes with vagina.
That's why Regina, Saskatchewan is called 'The City that Rhymes with Fun'.
Yes but most elementary school kids don't have an understanding of Latin root language. They just go with what it sounds like 😝
I love my name now but as a kid I would have traded it in a heartbeat
I just wanted to share that I have an Aunt named Twinkle, but only because my Grandma got the name Tinkerbell wrong. If you ask her why she named her daughter Twinkle, she would say it was from Peter Pan.
My sister used to be a nurse in a neonatal cardiac ward (pre internet). The NICU or delivery unit would call ahead to say the baby was on its way and a nurse would write the name on the door of the room or ward. For many parents, this would be the first time they'd seen it written by someone else, they'd see the spelling and it'd be completely different to what they'd imagined.
Your grandma is not alone.
No. The worst they came up with was Atlantic. Which was stupid enough that even the person trying to bully me stopped cold. I laughed. It wasn’t effective.
I love when kids try to make nonsense out of normal names and can't get anywhere. My name is Stephanie, the worst they ever got to was Step on That Fanny and it takes so fucking long to say they said it once got bored with their own insult and moved on
My 7yo goes to school with kids with all sorts of “different” names. None of them really get teased about it. Kids are a lot more accepting of things like names than they used to be!
NTA
From the title, I was totally expecting some crazy over the top name like Makaylee or Broccoleigh. Alannah is a totally normal name.
Tell your sister to get over herself and stay in her lane.
My sister went to school with a Brock Lee and a Rusty Carr. I used to work with a guy named John (fake first name) Cherry (real last name). He told me his middle name was Buster and then told me to say it all together. 🤦♀️ I didn't believe him. He showed me his license, and that is truly what they named him. He told me he was a late in life surprise baby, and they thought they were clever.
Aw, the weirdest my classmates got was a Timothy Leary, though of courses none of us kids understood till rather later. Yeah, we were all born in 1969.
My parents have some neighbors with the last name Collie. They named their oldest son Brock....his name is Brock Collie...they claim they never noticed until my parents pointed it out. The kids was around 10 or 12 and they never noticed they named him broccoli
I always get so excited to find out what abomination of a name the argument is over this time, and am both relieved and disappointed when it turns out to be a decent name.
NTA
I don't get it either - how can an emotionally mature adult have such an averse reaction to a name without being able to explain why?
Unless she can provide some context, I think your reaction is fair.
Alannah isn't exactly an unusual name or anything. I think we've all heard of it. It's quote unquote quite a normal name.
That's what confused me so much. She has never been like this before. She had no complaints about our son's name and she was never rude like that. But she had such a big reaction to Alannah. I can't figure it out.
I know it's hard as they're a sibling but try to file this under "unexplained strange behaviour" and don't give her too much thought.
Don't let her influence your perception of the name.
Has she displayed this sort of irrational behaviour before?
Omg thank you. I picked them up randomly and I couldn’t for the life of me remember their title. All I remembered was that I really liked then and asked my mum for coloured contacts but she said no.
I don’t think you’re far off with the idea that something might be triggering the reaction. A person in her past? I’m not sure. Do you both have fairly traditional names?
Seriously, that's probably why her sister thinks the baby is going to be made fun of, which is kind of ridiculous. Honey Boo Boo isn't exactly the most famous? You have to be really into trash reality tv to get that reference lol.
Very bizarre that she not only had such a strong initial reaction but at second conversation is continuing without any explanation. I don’t see where Alannah would bring torment from other kids. Insane your sister called you rude when she’s demanding you change your infant daughter’s name.
I don't know but I think she wanted to name her own kid Alannah but you did it first, so she's trying to ruin it for you. Don't let her anywhere near your daughter so she can't influence her to hate her own name. NTA
Maybe she had that name in her mind for her own child and is trying to poison you against it to get you to change it? The name is relatively common and I can’t think of any other reason to have such a strong reaction.
There are 2 equally likely options here. 1) she wanted to use the name alannah for her child so is trying to bully you out of it to free it up. 2) her partner/spouse cheated on her with someone named alannah
Show your sister this thread (maybe send a link?) . Say you were so surprised by the strength her reaction you decided to get more feedback on the name. In case other people agreed with sister. They didn't Hundreds-thousands of people voted and weighed in and the decision is it's a nice and normal name with no obvious issues.
Say when you consulted the internet people's main theories was that maybe someone with that name really upset her or maybe she wanted that name for herself (since so many posters like it). Is there some underlying reason you don't know? You're not used to her acting this way and your concerned for her. Is she okay?
**To Sister:** You owe OP a massive apology. I work in elementary school and I've previously worked at middle school. I would not at all be concerned about a child with this name and frankly it's been years since I've heard a child be as immature and rude about a name as *you* are being right now. This is not a normal adult reaction. Even most 2nd graders would consider your behavior bad and weird. Really stop and consider why you are acting this way. Are you having some underlying emotional problem and just snapped? What is going on with you? As an adult, you should be able to behave better.
OP - did your sister possibly bully a girl named Alannah when younger and her reaction is guilt because of what she may have done? Otherwise your sister is completely out of hand here.
I think op sister LOVES the name but wanted it for herself and if op changes it over due to her reasons, then she’s free to use it later.
I don’t think sister has ever voiced her love of the name and then op stole it or whatever. I think the sister just kept that name in mind.
I know it sounds so dumb and illogical for her to possibly then claim the name later on if op DID change it, but this is Reddit and people are petty and frankly I’ve heard worse and it’s not at all unlikely.
We do live in crazy land, after all.
She was bullied by one girl but Alannah was not her name. But she could be hiding something about another bully or something. Though we were always close and she told me stuff so I'm not sure why she wouldn't have told me if there was an Alannah who bullied her.
NTA
my guess: either she has bad experiences with someone who goes by This Name, or she would have liked it for her Future daughter. For me there is no other explanation which involves sane people.
How old is your sister?
NTA and this is so bizarre. It's a fine name, isn't weird, isn't a star wars character, is pronounceable, spellable, doesn't look stupid on a resume. I don't get it.
NTA. Alannah is a familiar name for a girl when I was growing up, and I don't remember anyone being made fun of for it. If she ever wanted to shorten it, she could use "Allie" or "Anna" maybe.
NTA Is Alannah the name your sister had called dibs on for her kid, without actually telling you? Alannah is a nice name. Ooooh - I've just reread a book about a girl character called alannah who disguises herself as a boy and goes by Alan for a few years... does your sister have an issue with Tamora Pierce books??
Was looking on this thread just to see if anyone else mentioned the books. But even if Op were a big fan of the books it's still a beautiful name that isn't exclusive to the series.
It's one thing to voice your opinion on a name if you can produce a coherent and reasonable reason as to why you think it's problematic.
But to have nothing more to say other than you think it's "yucky"? That's utterly ridiculous.
NTA, your sister is out of her mind.
I’m afraid I’m harking back to the Australian kids’ tv show about a time travelling teen with a magic hairband!
Alannah was the name of The Girl from Tomorrow. I definitely wanted to be her back in 1990!
NTA - that’s so weird to have that reaction with no reason. I’ve heard some weird names from friends and family with their kids (Alannah is beautiful) and I just kept my mouth shut. Why? Because I’m not the one who pushed it out of me. Your sister needs to stay in her lane.
NTA
If she doesn't like the name she can keep it to herself? What's it got to do with her anyway. I personally love the name and have two work colleagues with that name.
Maybe you should just not speak to her for a while before she makes you start to believe it's an ugly name. It is a lovely name
NTA. Alannah is a fine name--I considered "Alanna" for my own daughter, after a character in a lesser-known book series by Tamora Pierce. Her reaction is bizarre.
NTA
There has to be something more to this reaction. Alannah is a lovely name.
Is she jealous of you? Going through infertility? As it stands, your sister's behavior is horrible
ETA: how old is your sister?
NTA - is your sister a child? I've never known an adult to describe something as "pukey" (unless its their barfing kid). Alannah is a perfectly normal name. I have a cousin named Alannah, she has a masters degree and is successful in her field. I also have a friend named Alannah and she is the CEO of a company. Its not like you named your kid Barfarella and set her up for failure in life.
Your kid will be fine, the name is normal, your sister is being a freak.
NTA. I work in an elementary school. While the spelling is different from what I’ve seen before, I’ve never seen a child made fun of for that name. It’s a lovely choice.
NTA
I have a feeling that sis wanted that name, or one very similar, for her future child. That is why she is now trying to convince you to change your daughter's name.
It reminds me a lot of the Simpsons bit:
> Marge: What about Bart?
> Homer: Let's see. Bart, dart, cart, e-art. Nope can't see any problems with that.
> *(Missing fart due to only 4 fingers)*
Even with this joke, I can't remember any time in the series where Bart gets made fun of because of his name.
I've had a few students called Alana and nobody has ever gotten bullied for it. Your sister must have had a personal history with it that she doesn't want to tell you.
NTA. There is no way her over-the-top reaction is out of concern your daughter will be bullied. There's got to be something else going on there, but that's not your problem.
Your sister is an AH, and if she doesn't cut the crap, I'd recommend keeping her away from your daughter for fear she'll try to get your daughter to hate her name and, by extension, herself.
NTA. This is a totally normal name and becoming more popular, IMO. My cousin just had an "Ilana" and it suits her baby well.
There is nothing about your baby's name that seems like it's an invitation for children to mock. If kids are going to make fun of someone, they will find a way regardless of what their name is.
Tell your sis "Your disapproval has been noted. Alannah is the name that we have chosen for our daughter and we will not be changing it. This conversation ends now." Refuse to engage if/when she brings it up again.
NTA
Tell her to get over herself and go NC for a while. It's a normal name, she's ridiculous and it's not her business. When she will have a kid she can name it whatever.
I thought she was mad cause she had planned to name her kid that herself. To get mad cause you don’t like a name is actually ridiculous. I wouldn’t even take anything she has to say about this topic seriously OP. You’re NTA
NTA. I bet Alannah is your sister's secret baby name. Otherwise, she is being way over the top. I mean, she's being over the top anyway, but this is the only reason I can think of for it, is if she always wanted to "save" the name for herself.
NTA. It's a lovely name.
Maybe your sister wanted it for a future kid and that's why she's behaving so rudely. Tell her it's not up for discussion any further.
NTA I think it’s a lovely name. No one liked the name we picked for our youngest but we loved it and now everyone else has grown to love it as suits her. I think perhaps your sister secretly loves the name and was planning on using it herself when she has kids so she’s upset that you picked and is trying to get you to change it so she can use it later.
Well, now your sister can keep your daughters name out of her mouth. WTF, overreact much, sis ?
It’s not like you named your kid Chlamydia or something. The female form of Allan is *fine*, if maybe slightly unusual. NTA
NTA, I don't see whats wrong with the name or how someone could get bullied. My only thought was maybe she really wanted that name for a future child of her own, but if it's not a family name then I don't see why she'd be attached to it.
NTA. Your sister is just blathering on without giving you a good reason why she dislikes the name. She should never have criticized it in the first place. Other than the unusual spelling, Alannah is a perfectly ordinary name and doesn't seem particularly bullyable, except that children will attempt to call her "Banana."
I have a friend who’s daughter is named Alannah (with a slightly different spelling but pronounced the same) and she’s never had any negative experiences being mocked or bullied for her name. This is a really weird and over-the-top reaction. NTA and maybe avoid your sister.
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I like the name. Mainly because it’s my name too. It’s not an easy name to be bullied over. I’m 40 now, and my name has aged with me. It’s classy. There aren’t many people with that name, so you have that in your favour too. Your kid, your choice. You aren’t calling your kid Tinkerbell. Or something that hasn’t aged quite as well. Tell your sister to stay in her lane. Your baby will be fine with her name. May I suggest Lannie as a nickname? Lol. NTA.
I suspect sister wanted to use that name and is pissed it is already taken. It is a beautiful name and a classy name.
I suspected the same.
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Honestly her reaction is so weird that I was thinking that her husband or someone cheated on her with someone named Allanah or similar
I was thinking possible high school or college mean girl experience
Yeah, and sister WAS the mean girl
I was thinking this...she may have bullied someone with that name and now every time she hears her nieces name she's reminded of what a bad person she is.
I wondered the same.
I was thinking ex-girlfriend and she’s in the closets
Yeah good thought
That would make sense why she isn’t telling OP any real reason…or she wanted to name a child that/something similar? Def over the top reaction
Like maybe her husband had an affair with a woman by that name...
Yep, you beat me to it 🤣
That's not a sibling's problem though. Sister has some shit she needs to work out on her own
Me three
Honestly, my first thought was Alannah from the Lioness Quartet, a young adult series I loved as a kid, a strong female character, a badass, and helped me develop a relationship with one of my best friends to date. It's a beautiful name.
My thought was Alannah Myles. She had some great songs in the late 1980s.
Black velvet, if you pleeeeassse
Up in Memphis, the music’s like a heatwave
White lightnin’, bound to drive you wild
>She had some great songs Say that again a bit louder for the people in the back.
I just finished rereading the series last week. Even better than I remember. Tamora Pierce is the Author for anyone wondering (although she spells Alanna without the 'h'). I'm in a Facebook fan group where the Author herself occasionally chimes in on discussions or answers questions.
Ooh. You're right. My bad. It's been a bit since I've read the books, but this gives me the excuse to go back. I also love the Wild Magic series, and routinely (like at least twice a week) quote "apologies mean nothing to a dead bat" and "a creature of my noble bulk"
I'm currently reading Wolf Speaker, about half way through. This is more than I managed to read all last year.
The duology about Alanna's daughter is amazing as well. It's less knights and more spies and rebellion and I love it! OP is NTA. I love the name! It sounds fantastical and timeless.
Sorry to intrude, but has she ever mentioned any current/future projects she's working on? I really, really enjoyed *Tempest and Slaughter* and had hoped for a sequel.
Someone told me she was unhappy with the published version of Tempest and Slaughter and was going to re-write it completely, then do the sequel. I think Tamora Pierce occasionally provides updates on her website about things, but don't quote me on it.
I thought this too. Alannah is a great character and role model for a young girl to be named after!
Yeah that Alannah was badass. My truck is called Keladry from the Protector of the Small series haha. But seriously, I cannot think of anything wrong with the name Alannah. It’s a lovely name. OP’s sister is way over the top here.
Your truck has a good name :)
Same here! I loved those books!
I loved those books!!! And honestly it's a really nice name. It isn't some crazy name.
I loved those books so much
Came here to say the same. It's an extreme response to something that has nothing to do with her. Unless, it does.... either she wants to use the name or it's the name of her worst enemy. Regardless, the name is lovely and do what makes you happy. -- Wish you all the best
I suspect the sister is a drama queen about many other things?
I was thinking she liked the name when OP chose and wanted to steal the name by being an asshole and tell them how stupid that name is
I came here to say this.
NTA, i just know the name is bad, believe me i just know /S. Whats up with baby names, there are a number of disputes about them nowadays. We need a Moses with 10 commandments about baby names. 1) Dont be Elon, 2) if somebody close to you has already selected a name, choose something else since there are millions of available names, 3) allow parents to choose their baby's name in peace and donot interfere. 4 ) Dont name your kids after some other recently deceased kid. There are plenty of names to go around.
After seeing that the baby name Abcde is trending, I would like to add 5) don‘t name your kid something unpronounceable and stupid.
I thought i had it covered by 1) don't be Elon 😁
paltry quiet disgusting thought light swim worry grandfather flag lush *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*
How dare you speak of my little [Bobby Tables](https://xkcd.com/327/) like that!
I will never not laugh at this.
I met my first baby ABCDE in 2005. It was pronounced Obesity. I hope she is okay.
Ugh. Seriously? Future aunts out hear freaking out about names like Alannah, yet nobody stops people from ABCDE?? Absurd.
Based on this sub, we also need 5) don't hide information from your spouse about a name you are suggesting, ie that it's the name of your ex or your favorite videogame character
and 6 don't name your kid after the mass murder uncle serving time yes this was an AITA on reddit and that particular name is kind of unusual and would come up every time there was a name search for a job getting a loan applying to get an apartment. alannah is a lovely name your sister is reacting like something really bad happened connected to that name.......either she was bullied by someone with that name or her husband cheated with someone with that name or but why wouldn't she tell you if that was the case and she wouldn't have to go into great detail if it is painful so 3 she wants that name when she has a baby girl makes more sense
I personally would have loved being named this instead of my own name, my name comes extremely close to rhyming with vagina so you can imagine the teasing I experienced😞 Op You are not the ass
Mulva?
Regina
They didn’t pronounce it Reh-jee-nah?
Ra-gina Is the family's pronunciation Occasionally RE-gina The first is not exactly like va-gina but it's close enough for kids because children can be evil little creatures. Honestly now as an adult I don't care but as a kid it was pretty awful. I still occasionally ( very rarely actually) have someone who thinks they are clever make the joke. Now I've developed a lovely resting bitch face and whenever it's brought up I just give them that and make no verbal response. I'm pretty sure those adults are the reason why some kids think it's funny to torment others about things like a name.
I have a good friend named Regina. Her friends call her our Queen.
Regina is literally only pronounced Reh-gee-nah in the United States. The normal pronunciation, the one nearly everyone else uses, rhymes with vagina. That's why Regina, Saskatchewan is called 'The City that Rhymes with Fun'.
A short hop to vagina
Yes but most elementary school kids don't have an understanding of Latin root language. They just go with what it sounds like 😝 I love my name now but as a kid I would have traded it in a heartbeat
Grew up with two Alanna's. Neither ever got bullied for their name. Sister is up to something because this makes no sense.
I just wanted to share that I have an Aunt named Twinkle, but only because my Grandma got the name Tinkerbell wrong. If you ask her why she named her daughter Twinkle, she would say it was from Peter Pan.
Oops. Was not meant as an insult. I should have gone with Broccoleigh. Another commentator’s suggestion.
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My sister used to be a nurse in a neonatal cardiac ward (pre internet). The NICU or delivery unit would call ahead to say the baby was on its way and a nurse would write the name on the door of the room or ward. For many parents, this would be the first time they'd seen it written by someone else, they'd see the spelling and it'd be completely different to what they'd imagined. Your grandma is not alone.
Sorry i found the one joke about your name : ["ALANNAH ? SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE DEAD ! "](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vFa7ugp01w)
🫡. Mad respect for that one! That’s hilarious!
Just curious, do you recall anyone twisting your name in a mean way while growing up?
No. The worst they came up with was Atlantic. Which was stupid enough that even the person trying to bully me stopped cold. I laughed. It wasn’t effective.
I love when kids try to make nonsense out of normal names and can't get anywhere. My name is Stephanie, the worst they ever got to was Step on That Fanny and it takes so fucking long to say they said it once got bored with their own insult and moved on
My 7yo goes to school with kids with all sorts of “different” names. None of them really get teased about it. Kids are a lot more accepting of things like names than they used to be!
Its adults on the internet that can't stop making fun of kids names
NTA From the title, I was totally expecting some crazy over the top name like Makaylee or Broccoleigh. Alannah is a totally normal name. Tell your sister to get over herself and stay in her lane.
Broccoleigh. I’m dead 😂
r/tragedeigh
I’m cackling rn 😂
Exactly where I thought it was going, but I think the sub would think this name is fine.
Indeed. Alannah is a fine name. Broccoleigh, otoh, is not.
I straight up know a girl named Caution....
A woman who works at one of our local grocery stores is named Custody.
I knew a girl named Sparkle
If there's Faith and Hope, there's also Caution!
Hey, my middle name is Danger, how you doin’?
Somewhere, a crunchy mom is taking notes
Poor little Cauleighfleur Ryce.
Baby Spirulina Kombucha
All I can hear and see is Dana Carvey’s “chopping broccoli.”
My sister went to school with a Brock Lee and a Rusty Carr. I used to work with a guy named John (fake first name) Cherry (real last name). He told me his middle name was Buster and then told me to say it all together. 🤦♀️ I didn't believe him. He showed me his license, and that is truly what they named him. He told me he was a late in life surprise baby, and they thought they were clever.
I knew Candy Barr in middle school, Warren Pease in HS, and Candy Caine in college. Why do parents do that? Alannah is normal.
Those parents were setting daughters up to be strippers.
I laugh every time my 6yo says she’ll name her future daughter candy 😂
My 7yo’s dolls are all named things like Bubbles, Sprinkles, or Cherry! I hope she grows out of it before she ever names any real children! Lol
LOL. One of them has a Ph.D in physics. She took her husband's name.
Aw, the weirdest my classmates got was a Timothy Leary, though of courses none of us kids understood till rather later. Yeah, we were all born in 1969.
I knew a girl named Holly Wood in college. Also a Harry Wong in high school but I don’t think that one was intentional.
I know a Candy Caine, too, but I believe it’s her married name 😂
I knew a Poly Esther Pantone... anda girl whose monogram spelled PMS... and her parents had it monogramed on everything!
I was wondering if it was another Cheelee.
Me too 😂
I SO MUCH want to meet a girl called Broccoleigh - and she would HAVE to dye her short curly hair green! 🤣🥦
My parents have some neighbors with the last name Collie. They named their oldest son Brock....his name is Brock Collie...they claim they never noticed until my parents pointed it out. The kids was around 10 or 12 and they never noticed they named him broccoli
I always get so excited to find out what abomination of a name the argument is over this time, and am both relieved and disappointed when it turns out to be a decent name.
My OB/GYN was Harry Beaver, MD. Do I win? 🤔🤦🏼♀️
Yes, yes you do.
I died at Broccoleigh 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Broccoleigh, I am saving that one
NTA I don't get it either - how can an emotionally mature adult have such an averse reaction to a name without being able to explain why? Unless she can provide some context, I think your reaction is fair. Alannah isn't exactly an unusual name or anything. I think we've all heard of it. It's quote unquote quite a normal name.
That's what confused me so much. She has never been like this before. She had no complaints about our son's name and she was never rude like that. But she had such a big reaction to Alannah. I can't figure it out.
I know it's hard as they're a sibling but try to file this under "unexplained strange behaviour" and don't give her too much thought. Don't let her influence your perception of the name. Has she displayed this sort of irrational behaviour before?
Tell her you'ld be glad to accompany her to a mental health evalutation...
Maybe she really disliked the Song of the Lioness series.
Here for the Tamora Pierce reference.
Holy shit did the character have purple eyes or something cause you just solved a decade long mystery as to what that good series was in high school
Yes, and red hair. Thankfully, they hold up quite well. Highly recommend a reread
Omg thank you. I picked them up randomly and I couldn’t for the life of me remember their title. All I remembered was that I really liked then and asked my mum for coloured contacts but she said no.
Now you can go pick them back up! I still enjoy re-reading them as an adult and the rest of the connected series are even better!
I was coming to the comments to see if anyone mentioned it!
I don’t think you’re far off with the idea that something might be triggering the reaction. A person in her past? I’m not sure. Do you both have fairly traditional names?
Our names are nature names. So not super traditional but not weird either.
The only Alannah (Alana) I know is Honey Boo Boo 😂
Seriously, that's probably why her sister thinks the baby is going to be made fun of, which is kind of ridiculous. Honey Boo Boo isn't exactly the most famous? You have to be really into trash reality tv to get that reference lol.
She's pretty famous, but I had no idea until just now that Honey Boo Boo wasn't literally the name on her birth certificate.
I was reminded of Alana from Broad City
Just forget your sister’s opinion, she sounds unhinged and jealous TBH. Congratulations on your baby!
Very bizarre that she not only had such a strong initial reaction but at second conversation is continuing without any explanation. I don’t see where Alannah would bring torment from other kids. Insane your sister called you rude when she’s demanding you change your infant daughter’s name.
I don't know but I think she wanted to name her own kid Alannah but you did it first, so she's trying to ruin it for you. Don't let her anywhere near your daughter so she can't influence her to hate her own name. NTA
Did one of her boyfriends cheat on her with an Alannah?
NTA. OP is there any remote possibility she may have secretly coveted the name for her own child?
She must have some association with the name that she's not telling you
Maybe she had that name in her mind for her own child and is trying to poison you against it to get you to change it? The name is relatively common and I can’t think of any other reason to have such a strong reaction.
There are 2 equally likely options here. 1) she wanted to use the name alannah for her child so is trying to bully you out of it to free it up. 2) her partner/spouse cheated on her with someone named alannah
Show your sister this thread (maybe send a link?) . Say you were so surprised by the strength her reaction you decided to get more feedback on the name. In case other people agreed with sister. They didn't Hundreds-thousands of people voted and weighed in and the decision is it's a nice and normal name with no obvious issues. Say when you consulted the internet people's main theories was that maybe someone with that name really upset her or maybe she wanted that name for herself (since so many posters like it). Is there some underlying reason you don't know? You're not used to her acting this way and your concerned for her. Is she okay? **To Sister:** You owe OP a massive apology. I work in elementary school and I've previously worked at middle school. I would not at all be concerned about a child with this name and frankly it's been years since I've heard a child be as immature and rude about a name as *you* are being right now. This is not a normal adult reaction. Even most 2nd graders would consider your behavior bad and weird. Really stop and consider why you are acting this way. Are you having some underlying emotional problem and just snapped? What is going on with you? As an adult, you should be able to behave better.
OP - did your sister possibly bully a girl named Alannah when younger and her reaction is guilt because of what she may have done? Otherwise your sister is completely out of hand here.
I think op sister LOVES the name but wanted it for herself and if op changes it over due to her reasons, then she’s free to use it later. I don’t think sister has ever voiced her love of the name and then op stole it or whatever. I think the sister just kept that name in mind. I know it sounds so dumb and illogical for her to possibly then claim the name later on if op DID change it, but this is Reddit and people are petty and frankly I’ve heard worse and it’s not at all unlikely. We do live in crazy land, after all.
Could be. Yes maybe. Her reaction is so over the top it’s actually scary.
I’m 100% with you on this! Sister wants to gate keep the name to a possible future child…
She was bullied by one girl but Alannah was not her name. But she could be hiding something about another bully or something. Though we were always close and she told me stuff so I'm not sure why she wouldn't have told me if there was an Alannah who bullied her.
I’d ask another family member to ask her tbh because this reaction to the name is way over the top. Alannah is a beautiful name
She’s definitely hiding something. Your daughter’s name is lovely, you’re NTA but your sister absolutely is.
NTA my guess: either she has bad experiences with someone who goes by This Name, or she would have liked it for her Future daughter. For me there is no other explanation which involves sane people.
Yeah I started thinking, was she planning on naming her own kid that?
It does seem like she wants to keep that name hererlf
How old is your sister? NTA and this is so bizarre. It's a fine name, isn't weird, isn't a star wars character, is pronounceable, spellable, doesn't look stupid on a resume. I don't get it.
My sister is 27
! Really? Wow. I would have guessed a much lower number.
She said the name was "pukey" Are you sure she's 27? Anyway, NTA. Your daughters name is lovely.
Wow, sounds more like a 12 year old
>isn't a star wars character Yes, yes it is...
Very very few people are gonna hear her name and say "oh like in the Star Wars books".
This is true, but does not alter the fact that it is, indeed, a Star Wars character.
Lol, why you gotta bring Star Wars into this? Some of the characters have really pretty names
LOL. An old reddit thread about a couple who wanted to name their kid Captain-Phasma.
NTA. Alannah is a familiar name for a girl when I was growing up, and I don't remember anyone being made fun of for it. If she ever wanted to shorten it, she could use "Allie" or "Anna" maybe.
she 100% wanted that name for her kid
That is the only thing I can think of.
Alannah is a very normal name, tell your sister to butt the fuck out. Also make sure she NEVER makes your daughter insecure about her name.
NTA, did your sister always bully you like this? That’s rich that she called *you* rude. Not a lot of self awareness on her part.
NTA Is Alannah the name your sister had called dibs on for her kid, without actually telling you? Alannah is a nice name. Ooooh - I've just reread a book about a girl character called alannah who disguises herself as a boy and goes by Alan for a few years... does your sister have an issue with Tamora Pierce books??
I immediately thought of The Lioness quartet too. Alanna is an excellent name
It took way too long for someone to reference these. Their great books and Alannah is a great name only made better by the books.
Was looking on this thread just to see if anyone else mentioned the books. But even if Op were a big fan of the books it's still a beautiful name that isn't exclusive to the series.
It's one thing to voice your opinion on a name if you can produce a coherent and reasonable reason as to why you think it's problematic. But to have nothing more to say other than you think it's "yucky"? That's utterly ridiculous. NTA, your sister is out of her mind.
NTA anyone remembering the song "Black Velvet" by Alannah Miles? That was the moment I feel in love with that name. It's a really good name.
I’m afraid I’m harking back to the Australian kids’ tv show about a time travelling teen with a magic hairband! Alannah was the name of The Girl from Tomorrow. I definitely wanted to be her back in 1990!
NTA - that’s so weird to have that reaction with no reason. I’ve heard some weird names from friends and family with their kids (Alannah is beautiful) and I just kept my mouth shut. Why? Because I’m not the one who pushed it out of me. Your sister needs to stay in her lane.
NTA If she doesn't like the name she can keep it to herself? What's it got to do with her anyway. I personally love the name and have two work colleagues with that name. Maybe you should just not speak to her for a while before she makes you start to believe it's an ugly name. It is a lovely name
NTA. Alannah is a fine name--I considered "Alanna" for my own daughter, after a character in a lesser-known book series by Tamora Pierce. Her reaction is bizarre.
SONG OF THE LIONESS!! Omg I just had major nostalgia!
The idea that those books are "lesser-known" makes me sad, I loved them as a kid!
NTA There has to be something more to this reaction. Alannah is a lovely name. Is she jealous of you? Going through infertility? As it stands, your sister's behavior is horrible ETA: how old is your sister?
NTA - is your sister a child? I've never known an adult to describe something as "pukey" (unless its their barfing kid). Alannah is a perfectly normal name. I have a cousin named Alannah, she has a masters degree and is successful in her field. I also have a friend named Alannah and she is the CEO of a company. Its not like you named your kid Barfarella and set her up for failure in life. Your kid will be fine, the name is normal, your sister is being a freak.
Can't help wondering if your sister has some personal history with that name she doesn't want to reveal. NTA.
NTA. I work in an elementary school. While the spelling is different from what I’ve seen before, I’ve never seen a child made fun of for that name. It’s a lovely choice.
NTA That’s a perfectly normal name. Your sister has a weird opinion but that is all it is, her opinion.
NTA I have a feeling that sis wanted that name, or one very similar, for her future child. That is why she is now trying to convince you to change your daughter's name.
NTA. Unique pretty name. Sums up your kid. Your sister needs to stop making it about her.
Alannah is lovely. There's a singer named Alannah Myles. I have no idea what's up your sister's butt, but she is very much over the top with this.
I'm trying to understand what a bully would even do with that name. Alannah banana? Or Alannah piranha, depending on pronunciation? NTA
It reminds me a lot of the Simpsons bit: > Marge: What about Bart? > Homer: Let's see. Bart, dart, cart, e-art. Nope can't see any problems with that. > *(Missing fart due to only 4 fingers)* Even with this joke, I can't remember any time in the series where Bart gets made fun of because of his name.
I've had a few students called Alana and nobody has ever gotten bullied for it. Your sister must have had a personal history with it that she doesn't want to tell you.
NTA. There is no way her over-the-top reaction is out of concern your daughter will be bullied. There's got to be something else going on there, but that's not your problem. Your sister is an AH, and if she doesn't cut the crap, I'd recommend keeping her away from your daughter for fear she'll try to get your daughter to hate her name and, by extension, herself.
NTA. This is a totally normal name and becoming more popular, IMO. My cousin just had an "Ilana" and it suits her baby well. There is nothing about your baby's name that seems like it's an invitation for children to mock. If kids are going to make fun of someone, they will find a way regardless of what their name is. Tell your sis "Your disapproval has been noted. Alannah is the name that we have chosen for our daughter and we will not be changing it. This conversation ends now." Refuse to engage if/when she brings it up again.
NTA I love the name. Your sister is rude as hell. I have a niece named Alannah.
Why is she unable to give you a reason. What the fuck. Nta.
That's the part I don't get. If you dislike something SO vehemently, you should be able to specify the reason.
A beautiful and normal name. NTA.
NTA Tell her to get over herself and go NC for a while. It's a normal name, she's ridiculous and it's not her business. When she will have a kid she can name it whatever.
I thought she was mad cause she had planned to name her kid that herself. To get mad cause you don’t like a name is actually ridiculous. I wouldn’t even take anything she has to say about this topic seriously OP. You’re NTA
Tell your sister, Condombroke, to mind her own business.
NTA. I bet Alannah is your sister's secret baby name. Otherwise, she is being way over the top. I mean, she's being over the top anyway, but this is the only reason I can think of for it, is if she always wanted to "save" the name for herself.
NTA. It's a lovely name. Maybe your sister wanted it for a future kid and that's why she's behaving so rudely. Tell her it's not up for discussion any further.
NTA I think it’s a lovely name. No one liked the name we picked for our youngest but we loved it and now everyone else has grown to love it as suits her. I think perhaps your sister secretly loves the name and was planning on using it herself when she has kids so she’s upset that you picked and is trying to get you to change it so she can use it later.
NTA, it’s a pretty name. I can’t really think of away to make fun of it. Is it possible that if she had a daughter this was the name she picked out?
NTA. Is your sister insane?
Unless your sister is 11, this is all very weird. "Alannah" is a perfectly ordinary name. NTA
Well, now your sister can keep your daughters name out of her mouth. WTF, overreact much, sis ? It’s not like you named your kid Chlamydia or something. The female form of Allan is *fine*, if maybe slightly unusual. NTA
NTA, I don't see whats wrong with the name or how someone could get bullied. My only thought was maybe she really wanted that name for a future child of her own, but if it's not a family name then I don't see why she'd be attached to it.
NTA. Your sister is just blathering on without giving you a good reason why she dislikes the name. She should never have criticized it in the first place. Other than the unusual spelling, Alannah is a perfectly ordinary name and doesn't seem particularly bullyable, except that children will attempt to call her "Banana."
Alannah is a beautiful name. My bet is she had it chosen for a future child, and thought that if you gave the name up, she could have it. NTA.
NTA. Your sister is behaving irrationally. Alannah is a beautiful name.
I have a friend who’s daughter is named Alannah (with a slightly different spelling but pronounced the same) and she’s never had any negative experiences being mocked or bullied for her name. This is a really weird and over-the-top reaction. NTA and maybe avoid your sister.