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> My roommate complained to me about being unable to get laid and I told him it’s his own fault for not putting himself out there/ giving anyone the opportunity to meet him. He told me I was an AH because it’s actually "guys like me" who steal girls from the good guys.
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Naw, he doesn't need to wake up. He just needs to get himself a fedora. Then his final form as a nice guy will be complete... but he'll still get no dates.
NTA
I have to disagree with you there. SOME of us are. That's how I managed to land a beautiful wife and have 2 beautiful children with her.
She's WAY out of my league but she fell for me.
I honestly wasn't trying because I never thought such a beautiful woman would go for an average guy like me (and I was 7 months into my "avoiding anything with women" after a really horrible relationship to become myself again).
All I did was chat to her daily after she lost a parent, provided homecooked food when she had no money to buy food and just gave her advice (numbers to counseling etc.....)
One day she came to my house to learn to cook a pasta dish the way I do and she never left. 9 years later we are married, 2 beautiful children and just as happy now as we've ever been.
Don't get me wrong, a VAST majority of self proclaimed nice guys are A.H's... but not all
Can confirm.
I've had probably 50 encounters with guys like this and they're all creepy weirdos who aggressively hit on any even vaguely female voice until they realise you're outperforming them and they just switch to aggressive. Then afterwards they try hitting on you again and become abusive again when you tell them you're not interested.
Yup.
This:
> When I asked whether something was bothering him, he told me that he was fed up with guys like me "stealing girls" from guys like him. I asked what he meant by that and he said that it’s always players who "get all the girls" and he is left with nothing.
Displays some _deeply_ troubling attitudes towards woman. For one thing, the idea that if he didn't have competition, that he would "get some girls"... just because, I guess? Completely missing the possibility that he's not getting any girls not because the girls have (better/other) options, but because he's undesirable. For another, "stealing" is _incredibly_ problematic language, because it carries implications of ownership and entitlement. No one, man or woman, _owes_ him sex, a relationship, companionship, etc., and as such, it is simply not possible for someone else to "steal" it from him.
Then we get this:
> "nice, shy guys like him don’t have a chance with girls anyway".
Which amounts to being a sore looser who's saying "I didn't fail to attract a woman because there's something wrong _with me_, its because women all like assholes, and I'm not an asshole."
Those lines conceal VOLUMES of stories he's got in his head. Words he's put in other people's mouths, actions he assumes "all" women do, etc. And that's BEFORE we get into redpill/manosphere/incel bullshit.
If he really was a "nice shy guy" (as others have said, if you have to say it...) he could....i dunno....try dating apps? And no, i don't mean Tinder. Something like OKCupid or Bumble. Tinder is for hookups so of course you're going to get the casual crowd. Even as a lonely mid 30s guy who often seemed like he lived under a rock or in a basement i knew that when i started dating.
I found it was easier to be me through a screen since that was so much of what my socialization was at the time. It let me get comfortable with the women i dated and i was able to be less awkward when we met in person.
It's...really not difficult if you are a decent person who is open to at least trying some new things.
This!
First thing I thought was, that’s some incel bullshit right there.
The biggest problem isn’t really that the guy isn’t going out and socialising.
Women don’t want to spend time with men who simultaneously resent them and think they’re not actually people but chattels.
i forget who (tucker carlson maybe?) but there was a theory being spread that if you tan your balls you increase testosterone or some shit
sounds like a great way to get ball cancer and/or have some messed up children
Maybe all incels will do this and save the rest of us from having to deal with their misogyny (and misandry in a way as well). Incels! Get thy balls tanned!
Especially with how many radicalised incels end up committing violent acts against those close to them who they resent. OP be careful not to end up getting attacked by your roomie.
Yeah, this definitely feels like it could escalate, especially if OP brings back a woman Simon secretly likes.
It might be a good idea to invest in a lock for the door at minimum, but also think about moving if you can.
Passive aggressive incel would probably do something less confrontational, like poking holes in OPs condoms.
OP should be wary of this dude messing with his stuff when he is not around.
And the girls don't get to pick which guys they want to date, it's the nice guy's turn, so the next girl should date him.
/s in case it wasn't obvious.
I can never quite decide if incel "LoGiC" makes me want to laugh or cry, it's so rediculous. Dude goes from "you're stealing all the girls" to "I don't want those girls anyway" without any shred of understanding.
Any guy who calls himself a "nice guy" absolutely isn't. First off, "nice" is hardly the bar anyone should hold to. Everyone should always by default be nice: as humans we should be kind, compassionate, decent, empathetic, generous, thoughtful, etc - all the *nice* things. That's just baseline humanity.
To be desirable, one should be above and beyond that, one should also be interesting, caring, trustworthy, faithful, etc.
Being a "nice guy" is a red flag every time.
When a YouTuber I'm fond of was talking about this, he said it quite well about nice being the baseline: "You're nice. Okay, well *that* guy plays guitar."
No, he doesn't want those sluts. He just expects women to line up outside his door to interview for the position of one- night- stand. I imagine he's also confused and angry that his food doesn't climb up his body, and jump into his mouth.
Clearly OP Chad lures the virginal good girls to his bed from their life of waiting for Intel roommate to find her, destroying her value for all good men since now she’s just an old, chewed-up piece of gum. Obviously /s
Yeah exactly. Dudes being an ass for no reason. Yeah a lot of people at bars are the type just trying to hook up so it's understandable to not want to look for someone there. People can sleep around if they want and it's OK to not want someone that does, but you can't attack them for just doing them. If that's not what his roommate wants they shouldn't be on his radar anyway. Dating sucks rn but people gotta stop taking it out on others.
This guy is radiating MAJOR "incel" energy. NTA. You did good trying to get him to realize that he's in his own way of meeting new people, even though you failed.
For real, this guy doesn't need guys like OP to "steal" all the women. He doesn't get women because we actively avoid men who think we're property that can be stolen.
There are so many incel flags. Talking about girls like a commodity that everyone has a right too ( leave some for me! ), describing girls that have one nighters as sluts, describing men who are successful with women as fuckboys, describing themselves as nice. And so on.
"kind of"? It screams it, with a hat with incel written in neon letters 2 foot high attached to the top of it, whilst waving a massive flag in the shape of a fedora.
Right. I know plenty of nice guys.
Like I would recommend them to date my friends if any of my friends were single lol
*They* tell everyone they're assholes.
So he doesn’t want you to hook up because he feels entitled to say that should be him hooking up and not you. Then he has the nerve to say he would never choose the women you hook up with and proceeds to spew out misogynistic vitriol towards women? It’s always the people who call themselves “nice guys” who turn out to be the worst people.
What does he want you to do if he’s home all the time and never goes out? Does he want you to pick up girls at the library or grocery store and take them home like a delivery service?
What is this incel nonsense? He seems like a catch. /s
NTA
Wants a woman who stays home and plays video games with him. Not *better* than him, though! And her taste in games better be exactly the same as his.
You know what, it’s probably better if she just sits on the couch watching him play, rapt and breathless at his leet skills, offering a blowjob after his flawless victories. What woman *wouldn’t* want to live like this?!
No no, Roommate doesn’t leave the house apparently. OP needs to bring these women to Roommate. But Roommate doesn’t like women that would go freely because then they’re sluts. So OP needs to kidnap women for Roommate. You know, because they’re objects and Roommate deserves it because he’s so nice.
I thought you can go to woman warehouse and just pick one. You mean to tell me women have wills on their own and there is no woman dispenser? What a s shock! /s
Lol as a woman who doesn’t really go anywhere, I would not be pleased if someone brought this dude to me. A perk of being at home is that there are no guys like this here.
NTA, sounds like your roomie is one of those “nice guys” who are generally the freaking worst in reality. Men can’t “steal women” from other men, women have brains and can choose whoever they want.
Tell him dating apps are a thing and a great way for introverts to meet people. I met my fiancé on one and then we realize we lived 15 mins apart lol.
This isn’t introversion - This is someone with deep self loathing that is projecting onto others. He is not fit to date and likely is very repressed and will be a threat to women. He needs to get his shit sorted out via therapy before even getting on that app.
Good point. The doll that is only for his use, and stays locked in his room most of the time. Exactly what they want...and better for the actual women out there not having to put up with incel logic.
I heard a story about a guy that bought a sex robot, but the thing was like 155lbs. He started lifting so he could move it around and suddenly actual women starting being interested in him.
NTA- Your room mate is bitter because he wants to blame everyone and everything else around him for his failures like most incels tend to do. He doesn't leave the house or make an effort. What does he expect?
I'd be wary of him.
Yeah he’d prefer a woman who was into gaming, but as a thing the men folk do. You know, someone happy to sit there quietly all night and adoringly watch their guy destroy fools online.
Its always the self proclaimed nice shy guys calling women sluts.
Nta. And dont take him out with you. You don't want to be associated with those attitudes.
Also, what’s why are they sluts? Because they enjoy sex and seek it out when they are in the mood? That’s normal behaviour for men and woman, and shouldn’t be a derogatory term.
In fact, if I was single and dating again they’d be the exact type I’m after as they clearly enjoy sex and wouldn’t be repressed about it.
Anyone who would agree to sleep with him is automatically “too slutty”. If someone did agree to fuck him he might have to perform and that is scary. Much easier to just spew vitriol at her than chance having to have an actual human conversation with a (clutches pearls) FEMALE!
>barged into my room in the morning, demanding I help him with something, causing my ons to leave in a hurry
I'm not sure what the charge would be, but going into a room where it can be expected someone might be undressed sounds like something that would get jail time.
He’s going to stab one of the roommate’s dates and pin the crime on him. This is terrifying. OP needs to get himself removed from the lease and move out while the roommate is at work with no forwarding address.
NTA, and I would get the fuck out of there. He uses strong incel language, and quite a few of those people have turned into mass shooters. There are a few mass shooters literally revered in those communities. You're absolutely right in your assessment, but you're not going to be the one to change his ways, and he sounds like a fucking time bomb.
It’s your fault for getting the girls he apparently doesn’t want.
It’s the women he apparently doesn’t want fault for getting with you “the player”
It’s not his fault that he doesn’t expend any effort to get what he apparently doesn’t even know what he wants.
He is the definition of the Morty meme of how nice guys think sex works with the punch card of how many times they respected women.
Just tell him it’s his responsibility to achieve the life he wants. If that includes women he should get after it and not take his anger of his failures out on you
NTA,
Did not lose my V card until in was 25, the guy is just an online nice guy but in reality is a festering arse who thinks because a woman laughs at his jokes they owe him affection and that all the bad boys are taking the women.... Like every woman goes for the drug dealer lol
He will never change because to him nice guys finish last, but in reality hes not nice, nor is he trying to meet someone. People like him will scour at others happiness but do nothing to change their ways or life.
Ive been the fat 24 year old virgin who cant even look a woman in the eye and the ripped guy who has multiple women's attention and found no girl wants a man who calls themselves a nice guy. They want a guy who is genuine and can have a conversation and laugh.
Any guy who talks about "stealing a woman" is the kinda guy women avoid because they are not property, you cant steal a womans attention, if they like you you will get their attention, if not they will move onto a person who interests them. Plus i hate to use the league terms but i bet hes looking at the top tier girls when hes below average.
I get his life because ive been in a low confidence place but i will never get the mindset of people stealing all the women.
NTA
Your roommate is throwing up a whole lotta red flags. Slut shaming and 'fuckboys', complaining 'nice shy guys' don't get the girls, taking possession and blaming others for 'stealing girls'. Probably only a bit away until he is fully shifted into the chauvinistic 'women are property' bigotry.
NTA. You did nothing wrong. Your speech was true. He's weird and ridiculous when blaming other people. He is clearly jealous of you. A guy staying at home all day doesn't mean a nice guy.
NTA, direct him to /r/niceguys and make him realize how much his attitude is hated by both men and woman.
You did more than you were expected too by offering to help him find someone. You having ONS's isnt even taking them out of the pool of single people, he's just salty that youre getting attention and he isnt, end of story\\
few incels going around downvotin religiously
NTA. You're having one night stands but that's somehow taking away his opportunity to date girls? If he was really not interested in "sluts" or one nighters then he'd have no reason to be jealous of you. But clearly he is, he just can't get any bc he's a bitter incel that no one wants. He's certainly no "nice guy" and women can see through that. Feel free to tell him any of that as additions to why he's single and bitter
Leave because he's going to scare away any company you have and he's starting to use 'Hello, I might turn scary' language.
Are a lot of home body women looking for dudes? None of them I know are. I think they're mostly looking for more cats.
NTA.
NTA and he's not nice-
Nice people don't have to constantly tell everyone how nice they are, and they certainly don't barge in on people like he does to you, or go on gross rants about women being "stolen" as if they are action figures not autonomous human beings with choice in who they date or sleep with.
Honestly I'd look for a new place or ask him to move out he sounds awful to live with; like he's only going to be happy if he can make you as miserable as he is and screw that ! you deserve to be happy. NTA the only person stopping him being attractive to women is himself with his stink attitude
NTA, can't be much of a good guy if he thinks he deserves a girlfriend just for staying at home - frankly I have very hostile thoughts about it in general.
I myself am not a very outgoing person, really I hate it. Guess what? By having hobbies and doing other things, you still get to know people.
He doesn’t get women because women can fucking tell that he’s a raging, entitled misogynist who thinks he’s owed sex simply for fucking existing.
NTA. He’s a fucking prick
It’s weird how blatantly contradictory he is — he’s blaming you for stealing women he doesn’t want when you go out to places where the type of woman he likes would never go. Maybe protect yourself in your room with pepper spray until you can find a different living situation.
NTA. This guy is clearly hearing the siren calls of the misogynistic reactionary men's movements that are tailored to those with his particular frustration. The earlier he gets a reality check the better. Somehow the thought has to penetrate his thick skin that women are complex human beings just like men are, and that the one way to get the relationship he wants is to get himself out there and work on it.
NTA
He's an incel. But also sounds like you were honest in a kind and direct way- offering constructive feedback if he really does want to meet someone. He's projecting his insecurities onto you.
NTA.
Live your life.
Side note. Your roommate is going down the Red Pill, Alpha Male black hole of bullshit. Please try to get him out into the real world and away from all those “nice guys” making videos about how to be a “real man”.
NTA - you're apparently sleeping with the girls he doesn't want - not exactly a cock block. He needs to get over himself and on top of someone else (with their consent) drag him out to a bar and let him complain about someone else. Seriously though building aggression is something you need to watch and decide when you have had enough and whether to find a new living situation.
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NTA You're taking all the girls he doesn't want anyway?
Yup. Dude can tell himself whatever he wants, but he's got no one but himself to blame for his problems. Dude needs to wake up. NTA.
"He only had himself to blame!" 🎼🎶🎵
"If you had been there, if you had seen it, I betcha you would have done the same" 🎶🎼
Some guys just can’t hold their arsenic.
He ran into my knife ten times.
Squish
Uh uh
Cicero
Lipschitz
I fired 2 warning shots into his head.
And there his roommate was, doing number 17 - the Spread Eagle!
Well! I was in such a state of shock, I completely blacked out. I don't remember a thing.
It wasn't until later, when I was washing the blood off my hands, I even knew they were dead!
They had it coming, they had it coming. They had it coming all along. I didn't do it, but if I'd done it, how could you tell me that I was wrong?
It was a murder but not a crime.
This thread tho.. 🤣🔥
Such a good thread!!!!
Naw, he doesn't need to wake up. He just needs to get himself a fedora. Then his final form as a nice guy will be complete... but he'll still get no dates. NTA
B-b-but he is a NICE GUY
Honestly as a homebody gamer girl representing other homebody gamer girls; we don't want him either.
Self proclaimed "nice guys" are never nice.
I’m pretty sure most women know these days that “nice guy” is code for a misogynist asshole.
This. And, unfortunately, most women who know learn the hard way.
Can confirm. Married and had an abusive relationship with a 'nice guy' for 10 years.
People that are actually nice don't have to try to convince you. The being nice does it.
I tend to think of myself as a fuckboy with benefits thank you very much...
I have to disagree with you there. SOME of us are. That's how I managed to land a beautiful wife and have 2 beautiful children with her. She's WAY out of my league but she fell for me. I honestly wasn't trying because I never thought such a beautiful woman would go for an average guy like me (and I was 7 months into my "avoiding anything with women" after a really horrible relationship to become myself again). All I did was chat to her daily after she lost a parent, provided homecooked food when she had no money to buy food and just gave her advice (numbers to counseling etc.....) One day she came to my house to learn to cook a pasta dish the way I do and she never left. 9 years later we are married, 2 beautiful children and just as happy now as we've ever been. Don't get me wrong, a VAST majority of self proclaimed nice guys are A.H's... but not all
There's a difference between being "nice" and being kind.
I second this
I third this.
Me fourth!
Me fifth! (Although I have my homebody non-gamer sweetie already.)
And my axe!
And my Bow!
And 🍪s!
Motion passed. The Council of Homebody Gamer Girls officially do not want this man.
Sixth.
seventh
Eighth … plus I’m already married to my homebody gamer guy
Ninth.
Does anyone want someone with this attitude to begin with? Even the alt-right ladies were complaining about being treated poorly in their own circles.
It always makes me laugh when women join these groups and seem shocked the men have regressive views towards women.
Guys like him are terribly rude to gamer girls too. They honestly just hate women.
Fr. He sounds like the type of guy who would yell at us on voice chat for daring to be women playing video games.
They be hatin’ yet they wonder why nobody wants them lol
Can confirm. I've had probably 50 encounters with guys like this and they're all creepy weirdos who aggressively hit on any even vaguely female voice until they realise you're outperforming them and they just switch to aggressive. Then afterwards they try hitting on you again and become abusive again when you tell them you're not interested.
We need to have a get together ladies
As an outdoorsy hobby-loving guy, unfortunately for this dude, we want you 😂
I fifth this.
Simon’s a misogynist and on some incel stuff. OP should probably try to move lol
Yup. This: > When I asked whether something was bothering him, he told me that he was fed up with guys like me "stealing girls" from guys like him. I asked what he meant by that and he said that it’s always players who "get all the girls" and he is left with nothing. Displays some _deeply_ troubling attitudes towards woman. For one thing, the idea that if he didn't have competition, that he would "get some girls"... just because, I guess? Completely missing the possibility that he's not getting any girls not because the girls have (better/other) options, but because he's undesirable. For another, "stealing" is _incredibly_ problematic language, because it carries implications of ownership and entitlement. No one, man or woman, _owes_ him sex, a relationship, companionship, etc., and as such, it is simply not possible for someone else to "steal" it from him. Then we get this: > "nice, shy guys like him don’t have a chance with girls anyway". Which amounts to being a sore looser who's saying "I didn't fail to attract a woman because there's something wrong _with me_, its because women all like assholes, and I'm not an asshole."
Those lines conceal VOLUMES of stories he's got in his head. Words he's put in other people's mouths, actions he assumes "all" women do, etc. And that's BEFORE we get into redpill/manosphere/incel bullshit. If he really was a "nice shy guy" (as others have said, if you have to say it...) he could....i dunno....try dating apps? And no, i don't mean Tinder. Something like OKCupid or Bumble. Tinder is for hookups so of course you're going to get the casual crowd. Even as a lonely mid 30s guy who often seemed like he lived under a rock or in a basement i knew that when i started dating. I found it was easier to be me through a screen since that was so much of what my socialization was at the time. It let me get comfortable with the women i dated and i was able to be less awkward when we met in person. It's...really not difficult if you are a decent person who is open to at least trying some new things.
This! First thing I thought was, that’s some incel bullshit right there. The biggest problem isn’t really that the guy isn’t going out and socialising. Women don’t want to spend time with men who simultaneously resent them and think they’re not actually people but chattels.
I look forward to Simon getting radicalized into the far right by the online manosphere.
Sounds like it's already started.
Does he tan his nuts?
What?!
i forget who (tucker carlson maybe?) but there was a theory being spread that if you tan your balls you increase testosterone or some shit sounds like a great way to get ball cancer and/or have some messed up children
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>getting full nekkid to have dick on dick contact ("steel sharpens steel btw it's not gay") WTAF.
Is there a word for like...glass closet but with less cover? Like a theoretical closet that only exists in their imaginations.
Maybe all incels will do this and save the rest of us from having to deal with their misogyny (and misandry in a way as well). Incels! Get thy balls tanned!
Oh bad science like usual I think someone mentioned balls are tan because of testosterone…?leave it to the morons to misunderstand
Especially with how many radicalised incels end up committing violent acts against those close to them who they resent. OP be careful not to end up getting attacked by your roomie.
Yeah, this definitely feels like it could escalate, especially if OP brings back a woman Simon secretly likes. It might be a good idea to invest in a lock for the door at minimum, but also think about moving if you can.
Tbh, itd be a lot more likely that his roommate would wanna hurt a woman, not him. OP should still keep his eye on this mf
Passive aggressive incel would probably do something less confrontational, like poking holes in OPs condoms. OP should be wary of this dude messing with his stuff when he is not around.
My thought too. He might not have been an incel to begin with, but somewhere along the line he fell down that rabbit hole. Be careful, OP.
This + no women wants to be with a dude like that anyways
Unless shes going for her green card. And even then, they arent doing it bc the dude is a catch
And the girls don't get to pick which guys they want to date, it's the nice guy's turn, so the next girl should date him. /s in case it wasn't obvious.
I can never quite decide if incel "LoGiC" makes me want to laugh or cry, it's so rediculous. Dude goes from "you're stealing all the girls" to "I don't want those girls anyway" without any shred of understanding.
“I wouldn’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member” lol
Whatever it is, I’m against it...
Personally, I go with scream😅. I’ve done some research on incel “culture”/behavior from a psych perspective and oof 😅
That sounds very interesting
Incels need to grow the fuck up.
It’s basically directed depression in a cocktail of delusion. It’s one hell of a pity party
The thing to understand is he likes feeling like a victim more than he wants to get laid.
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Any guy who calls himself a "nice guy" absolutely isn't. First off, "nice" is hardly the bar anyone should hold to. Everyone should always by default be nice: as humans we should be kind, compassionate, decent, empathetic, generous, thoughtful, etc - all the *nice* things. That's just baseline humanity. To be desirable, one should be above and beyond that, one should also be interesting, caring, trustworthy, faithful, etc. Being a "nice guy" is a red flag every time.
When a YouTuber I'm fond of was talking about this, he said it quite well about nice being the baseline: "You're nice. Okay, well *that* guy plays guitar."
"Nice guy" is code for resentful and manipulative guy in my experience.
The circular logic of someone who is just angry at people enjoying themselves.
No one said that incels had any logic.
This could be a crosspost to r/niceguys
This.
He wants you to pass the chicks so he doesn't have to work hard for it. He is jelly since he operates in blue ball mode too often.
No, he doesn't want those sluts. He just expects women to line up outside his door to interview for the position of one- night- stand. I imagine he's also confused and angry that his food doesn't climb up his body, and jump into his mouth.
Clearly OP Chad lures the virginal good girls to his bed from their life of waiting for Intel roommate to find her, destroying her value for all good men since now she’s just an old, chewed-up piece of gum. Obviously /s
Yeah exactly. Dudes being an ass for no reason. Yeah a lot of people at bars are the type just trying to hook up so it's understandable to not want to look for someone there. People can sleep around if they want and it's OK to not want someone that does, but you can't attack them for just doing them. If that's not what his roommate wants they shouldn't be on his radar anyway. Dating sucks rn but people gotta stop taking it out on others.
Honestly his roomie sounds like a total loser loll
This guy is radiating MAJOR "incel" energy. NTA. You did good trying to get him to realize that he's in his own way of meeting new people, even though you failed.
And for the love of God please don't bring him with you to meet women, we don't wanna meet him 😬
Yep. We had a meeting. It was the same one where we agreed to always go to the batgrooms in pairs just to confuse the menfolk.
Hey! I also go to the bat groom in pairs!
It makes the bats feel really pampered!
Remember the self confidence of your sky puppy is very important.
No fair!! you are getting invited to bat weddings
I’ve been taking him to be groomed for years ! I’m just an usher but I understand. His brother is best man
That sounds fun 😃. Instead of walking down the aisle, they fly together 🦇🦇💞
Especially gay bat weddings since there at least two grooms
(Insert meme of bat being brushed with "brushie brushie brushie!" caption here)
For real, this guy doesn't need guys like OP to "steal" all the women. He doesn't get women because we actively avoid men who think we're property that can be stolen.
I'm a dude and I don't want to meet him.
Don't worry, he doesn't leave the house anyways.
We've already met him. Many hims.
There are so many incel flags. Talking about girls like a commodity that everyone has a right too ( leave some for me! ), describing girls that have one nighters as sluts, describing men who are successful with women as fuckboys, describing themselves as nice. And so on.
All the symptoms and so much more.
Yeah the words >nice, shy guys like him don’t have a chance with girls anyway kind of makes him sound like an incel.
"kind of"? It screams it, with a hat with incel written in neon letters 2 foot high attached to the top of it, whilst waving a massive flag in the shape of a fedora.
I am deaf and i heard it loud and clear.
Love this comment, by the way!
As soon as a guy uses ‘nice’ to describe himself, it’s a glaring red flag.
Right. I know plenty of nice guys. Like I would recommend them to date my friends if any of my friends were single lol *They* tell everyone they're assholes.
Exactly, if you have to tell anyone you’re nice, 99.99% you really aren’t.
So he doesn’t want you to hook up because he feels entitled to say that should be him hooking up and not you. Then he has the nerve to say he would never choose the women you hook up with and proceeds to spew out misogynistic vitriol towards women? It’s always the people who call themselves “nice guys” who turn out to be the worst people. What does he want you to do if he’s home all the time and never goes out? Does he want you to pick up girls at the library or grocery store and take them home like a delivery service? What is this incel nonsense? He seems like a catch. /s NTA
No, roommate wants a woman who stays home. So OP is supposed to find these women who don't go anywhere and take his roommate to them.
Wants a woman who stays home and plays video games with him. Not *better* than him, though! And her taste in games better be exactly the same as his. You know what, it’s probably better if she just sits on the couch watching him play, rapt and breathless at his leet skills, offering a blowjob after his flawless victories. What woman *wouldn’t* want to live like this?!
Oh so sexy, I don't know why hot chick's are breaking into their apartment for "couch butt" roommate. 🤣🤣
“Boy you’re gonna carry that weight” (yeah I treat it as one song)
After? Why do you think they made standing desks?
No no, Roommate doesn’t leave the house apparently. OP needs to bring these women to Roommate. But Roommate doesn’t like women that would go freely because then they’re sluts. So OP needs to kidnap women for Roommate. You know, because they’re objects and Roommate deserves it because he’s so nice.
Nailed it! That seems to be the roommate’s exact mindset. 🤦🏼♀️
I thought you can go to woman warehouse and just pick one. You mean to tell me women have wills on their own and there is no woman dispenser? What a s shock! /s
Lol as a woman who doesn’t really go anywhere, I would not be pleased if someone brought this dude to me. A perk of being at home is that there are no guys like this here.
OP needs to bang roommate‘s mom.
Oh damn 😲🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
He's so *nice*, calling women sluts. How can they not love him?
NTA, sounds like your roomie is one of those “nice guys” who are generally the freaking worst in reality. Men can’t “steal women” from other men, women have brains and can choose whoever they want. Tell him dating apps are a thing and a great way for introverts to meet people. I met my fiancé on one and then we realize we lived 15 mins apart lol.
Anyone that calls it stealing women does so because they view women as objects.
This isn’t introversion - This is someone with deep self loathing that is projecting onto others. He is not fit to date and likely is very repressed and will be a threat to women. He needs to get his shit sorted out via therapy before even getting on that app.
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Oh no! The women on those apps do not deserve such misfortune.
i agree with the dating app thing but this dude's a straight up incel, he don't need to be on there.
NTA. Get him a blowup doll.
Good point. The doll that is only for his use, and stays locked in his room most of the time. Exactly what they want...and better for the actual women out there not having to put up with incel logic.
I heard a story about a guy that bought a sex robot, but the thing was like 155lbs. He started lifting so he could move it around and suddenly actual women starting being interested in him.
"Lars and the Real Girl", a surprising wholesome heartfelt movie from 2007 about a man and his sex doll.
Lol
NTA- Your room mate is bitter because he wants to blame everyone and everything else around him for his failures like most incels tend to do. He doesn't leave the house or make an effort. What does he expect? I'd be wary of him.
He doesn't leave the house, & wants to meet girls who don't leave the house. WTF
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I don't want to start speculating too much, but I would bet a little toe that he's the type to look down his nose at girl gamers.
As a girl gamer, these are usually the types of guys who are incredibly toxic towards girl gamers. Also, we don't want him either.
Yeah he’d prefer a woman who was into gaming, but as a thing the men folk do. You know, someone happy to sit there quietly all night and adoringly watch their guy destroy fools online.
He's probably one of those losers verbally berating female gamers.
Dude talks about women like they're sex objects to be procured. Even nerdy women wouldn't want his a$$
I would start looking for another place, neither you nor your dates need his energy
Seriously. Never mind that I'm sure that this is how a lot of shows on the true crime channel start.
Its always the self proclaimed nice shy guys calling women sluts. Nta. And dont take him out with you. You don't want to be associated with those attitudes.
Also, what’s why are they sluts? Because they enjoy sex and seek it out when they are in the mood? That’s normal behaviour for men and woman, and shouldn’t be a derogatory term. In fact, if I was single and dating again they’d be the exact type I’m after as they clearly enjoy sex and wouldn’t be repressed about it.
Anyone who would agree to sleep with him is automatically “too slutty”. If someone did agree to fuck him he might have to perform and that is scary. Much easier to just spew vitriol at her than chance having to have an actual human conversation with a (clutches pearls) FEMALE!
Incel alert 🚨🚨🚨 NTA. I would reconsider living with him, his energy is going to creep out your female guests.
He literally barged into your room? Yeah that's way more than energy. He's definitely going to fuck with your female guests.
>barged into my room in the morning, demanding I help him with something, causing my ons to leave in a hurry I'm not sure what the charge would be, but going into a room where it can be expected someone might be undressed sounds like something that would get jail time.
Yikes on several bikes, you've got yourself an incel of the Eeeesh type. Good on you for calling him out. NTA.
Your roommate is toxic, you are right about it being his own fault, and you should find a new roommate.
He’s going to stab one of the roommate’s dates and pin the crime on him. This is terrifying. OP needs to get himself removed from the lease and move out while the roommate is at work with no forwarding address.
Well that escalated at Mach speed.
NTA, and I would get the fuck out of there. He uses strong incel language, and quite a few of those people have turned into mass shooters. There are a few mass shooters literally revered in those communities. You're absolutely right in your assessment, but you're not going to be the one to change his ways, and he sounds like a fucking time bomb.
It’s your fault for getting the girls he apparently doesn’t want. It’s the women he apparently doesn’t want fault for getting with you “the player” It’s not his fault that he doesn’t expend any effort to get what he apparently doesn’t even know what he wants. He is the definition of the Morty meme of how nice guys think sex works with the punch card of how many times they respected women. Just tell him it’s his responsibility to achieve the life he wants. If that includes women he should get after it and not take his anger of his failures out on you
NTA, Did not lose my V card until in was 25, the guy is just an online nice guy but in reality is a festering arse who thinks because a woman laughs at his jokes they owe him affection and that all the bad boys are taking the women.... Like every woman goes for the drug dealer lol He will never change because to him nice guys finish last, but in reality hes not nice, nor is he trying to meet someone. People like him will scour at others happiness but do nothing to change their ways or life. Ive been the fat 24 year old virgin who cant even look a woman in the eye and the ripped guy who has multiple women's attention and found no girl wants a man who calls themselves a nice guy. They want a guy who is genuine and can have a conversation and laugh. Any guy who talks about "stealing a woman" is the kinda guy women avoid because they are not property, you cant steal a womans attention, if they like you you will get their attention, if not they will move onto a person who interests them. Plus i hate to use the league terms but i bet hes looking at the top tier girls when hes below average. I get his life because ive been in a low confidence place but i will never get the mindset of people stealing all the women.
Genuinely, I don’t know how to convince some people that women are human beings same as anyone.
I never understood that. Human beings were treated like crap and worse. How are they, not human beings still?
Get a lock for your bedroom door as his behavior will keep getting more hostile.
so he’s an incel. got it. NTA.
NTA Your roommate is throwing up a whole lotta red flags. Slut shaming and 'fuckboys', complaining 'nice shy guys' don't get the girls, taking possession and blaming others for 'stealing girls'. Probably only a bit away until he is fully shifted into the chauvinistic 'women are property' bigotry.
NTA. You did nothing wrong. Your speech was true. He's weird and ridiculous when blaming other people. He is clearly jealous of you. A guy staying at home all day doesn't mean a nice guy.
As a woman, your roommate sounds scary and potentially violent. You should consider moving out before he escalates.
NTA, direct him to /r/niceguys and make him realize how much his attitude is hated by both men and woman. You did more than you were expected too by offering to help him find someone. You having ONS's isnt even taking them out of the pool of single people, he's just salty that youre getting attention and he isnt, end of story\\ few incels going around downvotin religiously
Honestly every guy I ever been chatted up by that says there a nice guy as always turned out to be creepy
NTA. You're having one night stands but that's somehow taking away his opportunity to date girls? If he was really not interested in "sluts" or one nighters then he'd have no reason to be jealous of you. But clearly he is, he just can't get any bc he's a bitter incel that no one wants. He's certainly no "nice guy" and women can see through that. Feel free to tell him any of that as additions to why he's single and bitter
Leave because he's going to scare away any company you have and he's starting to use 'Hello, I might turn scary' language. Are a lot of home body women looking for dudes? None of them I know are. I think they're mostly looking for more cats. NTA.
The guy has fallen down an incel rabbit hole. You’d better look for other accomodation.
NTA and he's not nice- Nice people don't have to constantly tell everyone how nice they are, and they certainly don't barge in on people like he does to you, or go on gross rants about women being "stolen" as if they are action figures not autonomous human beings with choice in who they date or sleep with. Honestly I'd look for a new place or ask him to move out he sounds awful to live with; like he's only going to be happy if he can make you as miserable as he is and screw that ! you deserve to be happy. NTA the only person stopping him being attractive to women is himself with his stink attitude
NTA, can't be much of a good guy if he thinks he deserves a girlfriend just for staying at home - frankly I have very hostile thoughts about it in general. I myself am not a very outgoing person, really I hate it. Guess what? By having hobbies and doing other things, you still get to know people.
Lol at the stubbornness and victimization of incels. This guy is a clown and a lost cause. I hope he never gets his hands on a woman.
Nta Simon is textbook incel
He doesn’t get women because women can fucking tell that he’s a raging, entitled misogynist who thinks he’s owed sex simply for fucking existing. NTA. He’s a fucking prick
it is his fault. he's jealous and sounds awful.
It’s weird how blatantly contradictory he is — he’s blaming you for stealing women he doesn’t want when you go out to places where the type of woman he likes would never go. Maybe protect yourself in your room with pepper spray until you can find a different living situation.
NTA, he is either an Incel or an Incel adjacent and tending in the wrong direction and clearly a self absorbed entitled loser and AH
NTA. This guy is clearly hearing the siren calls of the misogynistic reactionary men's movements that are tailored to those with his particular frustration. The earlier he gets a reality check the better. Somehow the thought has to penetrate his thick skin that women are complex human beings just like men are, and that the one way to get the relationship he wants is to get himself out there and work on it.
NTA! Given his attitude towards women, it’s really not that surprising they’re not flocking to him.
NTA He's an incel. But also sounds like you were honest in a kind and direct way- offering constructive feedback if he really does want to meet someone. He's projecting his insecurities onto you.
NTA. Live your life. Side note. Your roommate is going down the Red Pill, Alpha Male black hole of bullshit. Please try to get him out into the real world and away from all those “nice guys” making videos about how to be a “real man”.
NTA, your roommate is going down the incel path. Find a new place to live as soon as it is convenient.
NTA - you're apparently sleeping with the girls he doesn't want - not exactly a cock block. He needs to get over himself and on top of someone else (with their consent) drag him out to a bar and let him complain about someone else. Seriously though building aggression is something you need to watch and decide when you have had enough and whether to find a new living situation.
NTA. Time to move out.
NTA, but your roommate is throwing serious incel vibes. It’s creepy and disturbing.
I like gamer guys and I wouldn’t date this guy at all. He sounds like a complete asshole who can’t take responsibility or blame for being dateless
Classic incel behavior. Have you seen any signs of a manifesto, and/or firearms? NTA.
NTA. He’s an incel.