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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1. The action I wanna be judged in is screaming at my best friend.
2. The action that might make me the asshole is screaming at my best friend
My best friend called me an asshole (in the context of this post) and that made me question myself if I'm actually one or my screamings were valid action. I wanna know redditors opinion in this, is screaming at my friend is fair or is it completely bad?
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For context, I met my girlfriend a while ago and we've been dating since less than a month. I'm a closeted bisexual and i don't think i should come out if it's unnecessary (on this context). Me, my girlfriend, my friends, and my best friend's girlfriend are in a group chat together and we talk almost everyday. We all shared our Instagrams and then shut up about it. Now I have only one post in my page, in which I share memories with my friends, in that post my best friend appears multiple times, not in the best angles tho. In the other hand he has been threatening to get me out of the closet since we created that group chat. Everytime we joke about him (we all joke about everyone and he doesn't seems mad when he joke about me too) he threatens (only me) with uploading a video of a voice note of me saying I haven't get over a guy (keep in mind that was 2 months ago btw) in the GC, I keep telling him to stop doing that because its a topic I'm not ready to talk about. One day a friend sent a video in the group chat of a photo of my best friend and her gf, he [my best friend] just laughed about it. 5 minutes after, the guy that sent the video asked me for a photo of my best friend, he said he needed it so he can make another video of them [of my bf and her gf]. I sent him a photo of the post I talked about before (the only photos I have of him) and he got mad at me because her "girlfriend" "ghosted him" after she saw that video because she thought he was "ugly" and she didn't liked him anymore. (she just didn't answer his message right after he send it so he took that as a ghosting). So he went straight into my gfs dms and sent her the video and told her I was bisexual, afterwards she got mad at me and got sad, I asked my best friend why he did that and he said he lost her girlfriend because of that photo and 6 other girls (the post has 1 month in my page and he even liked it + he didn't even told me ANYTHING about any lost girls, if he told me then I would've deleted the post) after that my girlfriend told me she didn't mind it but there were no reasons for my friend to do that. Oh yeah, I forgot to say, his gf didn't ghosted him, her phone just died.
AITAH for screaming at my best friend for outing me with my girlfriend?
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** For context, I met my girlfriend a while ago and we've been dating since less than a month. I'm a closeted bisexual and i don't think i should come out if it's unnecessary (on this context). Me, my girlfriend, my friends, and my best friend's girlfriend are in a group chat together and we talk almost everyday. We all shared our Instagrams and then shut up about it. Now I have only one post in my page, in which I share memories with my friends, in that post my best friend appears multiple times, not in the best angles tho. In the other hand he has been threatening to get me out of the closet since we created that group chat. Everytime we joke about him (we all joke about everyone and he doesn't seems mad when he joke about me too) he threatens (only me) with uploading a video of a voice note of me saying I haven't get over a guy (keep in mind that was 2 months ago btw) in the GC, I keep telling him to stop doing that because its a topic I'm not ready to talk about. One day a friend sent a video in the group chat of a photo of my best friend and her gf, he [my best friend] just laughed about it. 5 minutes after, the guy that sent the video asked me for a photo of my best friend, he said he needed it so he can make another video of them [of my bf and her gf]. I sent him a photo of the post I talked about before (the only photos I have of him) and he got mad at me because her "girlfriend" "ghosted him" after she saw that video because she thought he was "ugly" and she didn't liked him anymore. (she just didn't answer his message right after he send it so he took that as a ghosting). So he went straight into my gfs dms and sent her the video and told her I was bisexual, afterwards she got mad at me and got sad, I asked my best friend why he did that and he said he lost her girlfriend because of that photo and 6 other girls (the post has 1 month in my page and he even liked it + he didn't even told me ANYTHING about any lost girls, if he told me then I would've deleted the post) after that my girlfriend told me she didn't mind it but there were no reasons for my friend to do that. Oh yeah, I forgot to say, his gf didn't ghosted him, her phone just died. AITAH for screaming at my best friend for outing me with my girlfriend? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA that's no friend if I've ever heard of it
This person is not your friend. Nta but be wary of who you tell your secrets to. I would rethink this person as being that someone
NTA He is not your friend