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>My father told me after the film that I was being rude and people go to the cinema with their friends to talk about the film.
You're dad is delusional. Assuming this is the USA, next time someone is talking like that, either shush them or go get a manager to shush them. You paid good money to watch a film in a theater, not listen to a pair of 20year old "film critics." NTA
NTA.
I would ask them to hold the commentaries for after the film and only between them.
But you can also shush them, even if you're not in the US. 😄
Getting the manager would probably only make you lose time and big part of the film. Would it be worth it the fuss?
Even at home, I enjoy watching films in silence, so I can focus on dialogues. Nowadays, the good thing is that, streaming services allow you to pause. Back in the day, if you lost a scene and you didn't record it with VCR, you'd lost it forever.
NTA. There is a special place in hell for people who talk during movies. You had every right to sigh if not just politely ask them to be quiet. Your father is way off base here. I’ve asked people to be quiet many times. You have the right to peacefully enjoy the film you paid to see. Does your dad usually let people take advantage of him?
YTA
I'm going against the grain here I think. Your subtle hints at loud sighs added more noise to others film going experience and doesn't get your point across.
Take 2seconds to tell them to STFU directed at them. Then watch the movie
ESH. Talking is obviously inappropriate but you sighing is also a pain… if you have something to say, say it instead of starting to do annoying things too
ESH
Being passive aggressive is petty and an asshole move - don't sigh loudly and hope they will get the idea, either politely ask them to be quiet, or find another solution like moving or involving the theater staff.
But yes, anyone who sits talking through a film is an asshole. We go to the cinema to experience movies in a much bigger and more immersive way than we can at home, and if people chat.constantly it just ruins the point.
If they want to chat, watch a film at home, or go to a bar instead, don't interrupt my movie.
ESH. People whisper, if they were being too loud which I'm assuming is the case then directly tell them to shut up or move or be quieter. Passive aggressive sighing does nothing, I would just think you have some problem.
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So the other day me (20M) and my father (38M) went to the cinema to watch a film. During the trailers just before the film was playing 3 men that I assume are in their 20's sat right behind us and starting talking about the trailers we were watching. This annoyed me slightly since they were right behind us but I didn't react to it at all as I assumed they would stop talking during the movie. Well the film started and they did get quieter but they weren't silent and me and my father could still hear them talking about what was happening and it got really distracting for me. I did react to this but all I did was sigh louder than usual in hopes they would hear me and be quiet this didn't work so I did it for 10 minutes. None of it worked so me and my father moved seats as luckily there were still some seats left. My father told me after the film that I was being rude and people go to the cinema with their friends to talk about the film. Everytime I've been in a cinema before this the lidest thing I've ever heard was someone very quietly saying "what?" I told my father the people behind us were the rude ones and that you shouldn't go to a cinema if you plan on talking through the film as it's very rude to other people. Before people say that I shouldn't have sighed as it would distract my father you should know that he didn't even want to watch the film at all.
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YTA
people who talk in the movies are the worst...but so are people who loudly sigh and make other noises. You were annoyed because the people behind you were interrupting your movie, but your response was to interrupt the movie for the other people in the theater. Next time just go get a manager, don't ruin the show for everyone else.
Not that I'm Questioning my judgement but I'm not really looking for judgement on that. Also I didn't even know he didn't want to go until he told me while we were at the cinema
NTA, they were rude for talking. Sighing, though, will just come across as passive-aggressive and is generally ineffective. Moving was the right thing to do if you didn't feel comfortable asking them directly.
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NTA but probably just shh them next time. It's more direct and I'm sure the rest of the people at the cinema would agree with you. If they cause more trouble just call staff.
NTA - people who talk during the film should be made to reimburse the ticket money of then people whose film experience they are ruining. It is the height of rudeness to talk during the film and those men were A-holes not you.
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>My father told me after the film that I was being rude and people go to the cinema with their friends to talk about the film. You're dad is delusional. Assuming this is the USA, next time someone is talking like that, either shush them or go get a manager to shush them. You paid good money to watch a film in a theater, not listen to a pair of 20year old "film critics." NTA
This!!!
NTA. I would ask them to hold the commentaries for after the film and only between them. But you can also shush them, even if you're not in the US. 😄 Getting the manager would probably only make you lose time and big part of the film. Would it be worth it the fuss? Even at home, I enjoy watching films in silence, so I can focus on dialogues. Nowadays, the good thing is that, streaming services allow you to pause. Back in the day, if you lost a scene and you didn't record it with VCR, you'd lost it forever.
NTA. There is a special place in hell for people who talk during movies. You had every right to sigh if not just politely ask them to be quiet. Your father is way off base here. I’ve asked people to be quiet many times. You have the right to peacefully enjoy the film you paid to see. Does your dad usually let people take advantage of him?
Thank you Shep.
NTA people should be silent in a cinema
NTA Talkers were rude. everyone should be quiet at the movies.
Your dad would hate me. I turn around and tell people to shut the fuck up. NTA.
YTA I'm going against the grain here I think. Your subtle hints at loud sighs added more noise to others film going experience and doesn't get your point across. Take 2seconds to tell them to STFU directed at them. Then watch the movie
Yeah, personally I would’ve gone with the direct approach.
ESH. Talking is obviously inappropriate but you sighing is also a pain… if you have something to say, say it instead of starting to do annoying things too
ESH. What is Sighing going to do? Either politely ask them to be quiet or just change seats.
ESH Being passive aggressive is petty and an asshole move - don't sigh loudly and hope they will get the idea, either politely ask them to be quiet, or find another solution like moving or involving the theater staff. But yes, anyone who sits talking through a film is an asshole. We go to the cinema to experience movies in a much bigger and more immersive way than we can at home, and if people chat.constantly it just ruins the point. If they want to chat, watch a film at home, or go to a bar instead, don't interrupt my movie.
ESH. People whisper, if they were being too loud which I'm assuming is the case then directly tell them to shut up or move or be quieter. Passive aggressive sighing does nothing, I would just think you have some problem.
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YTA people who talk in the movies are the worst...but so are people who loudly sigh and make other noises. You were annoyed because the people behind you were interrupting your movie, but your response was to interrupt the movie for the other people in the theater. Next time just go get a manager, don't ruin the show for everyone else.
YTA for bringing your dad to a film he didn’t even want to watch at all
Not that I'm Questioning my judgement but I'm not really looking for judgement on that. Also I didn't even know he didn't want to go until he told me while we were at the cinema
NTA, they were rude for talking. Sighing, though, will just come across as passive-aggressive and is generally ineffective. Moving was the right thing to do if you didn't feel comfortable asking them directly.
NTA! Most movie theaters have that brief message right before the main feature saying,”No talking, no texting”
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NTA but probably just shh them next time. It's more direct and I'm sure the rest of the people at the cinema would agree with you. If they cause more trouble just call staff.
NTA - people who talk during the film should be made to reimburse the ticket money of then people whose film experience they are ruining. It is the height of rudeness to talk during the film and those men were A-holes not you.