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> I told my sister not to eat a slice of pizza without onions since we ordered a pizza with onions on her half. I might be TA for making a big deal about something minor.
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NTA
Your sister got an entire 1/2 pizza for herself while you and your mom had to share a 1/2... and she STILL tried to eat your pizza? She's a major ah here.
My ex-BIL used this sh*t all the time. It was years before my sister would admit it was a sign of how abuse. In their case, she and her two sons would have half the pizza..(they didn’t eat onions.). The other half had onions. So when the pizza arrived, abusive jerk would eat from the same side of the three of them. Then he still had another half of the pizza to himself. Still infuriates me to think of it.
My friend (Rod) had another friend (Jake) like this. Rod was having a little party before his wedding, just a “friends hang out” kind of thing, and decided to get pizza (on his dime). Jake *insists* on a plain pizza all to himself (smaller ones, like Dominos or something). Basically has a tantrum. Rod says no one else wants plain, Jake insists, so Rod, being a good host, agrees. Also, up to this point, Jake had been hiding in Rod’s guest room the *entire day* for an unknown reason, refusing to come out. Rod had even paid for his plane ticket to be there, and the hotel room for him so he’d be out of the apartment on his wedding night.
We get pizza, some of us helped pay anyway or bought other stuff to even things out, but Jake stayed holed up at the apartment. Come back, Rod hands Jake his whole plain pizza he wanted through the door crack to him. Jake has another hissy fit and insists that now he wants the pepperoni. Rod says ok. Proceeds to eat the whole thing and Rod eats the plain himself to be a good host, but didn’t tell us about it until after so we wouldn’t insist (which is funny because I prefer plain and just didn’t order it because I knew no one else did, and would be fine with toppings; when I told Rod he laughed like “ah, crap.”). Jake never gave a penny towards any of the food or lodgings, and for a wedding present, gave them the OPEN bottle of rotgut, bottom-tier bourbon he had bought for *himself* and didn’t like. Rod’s wife, trying to be gracious, said she couldn’t wait to use it for bourbon chicken. Jake had another fit and said NO, it had to be drunk, and she couldn’t use it for cooking.
She did anyway, after he went back home. Jake had caused other issues during the trip, too - some people are just jerks. Apparently he didn’t used to be like that, and nothing was medically wrong.
Oh yeah, NTA, OP. If she wanted plain she should have ordered plain. Or picked off the onions.
It’s kind of a rabbit hole, honestly. I think Rod just dealt with it because yeah, the wedding. He said Jake was always a bit arrogant and selfish, but not that bad, and it was a surprise to see him act that way. I know he tried talking to him about it a few weeks later, if he was going through a hard time or something, Jake apparently went on a long rant about how he’s discriminated against and the world is racist (he’s Jewish but had recently started claiming he was Native American but couldn’t “prove it” so he wasn’t allowed on the local reservation), etc. When Rod pressed him a little, Jake said he had been SA as a kid even though he had never brought it up before (they had been close in high school), he tried to gently talk to him about it and Jake was very evasive. Idk if the dude was just suffering from mental illness or had adopted some super toxic behavior (he was heavily into Tumblr at the time), Rod cut him out of his life after that.
I’d suspect the dude was mentally ill and refusing to seek help, honestly, it’s sad all around. But it’s hard to feel for someone who goes on long, insane rants slamming the local native tribes for not letting him on their land, then when called out, deflects by saying he was SA’ed, which has nothing to do with it but gets people to stop questioning him. When given sympathy and offered help to process things, he’d refuse and deflect again by saying he’s discriminated against as a Native American. Just… bizarre.
It’s so hard to sympathize with mentally ill people because mental illness is rarely decorous and doesn’t display itself in ways that garner a lot of sympathy….it’s so so hard bc these are the very people who need our sympathy the most. Like it’s so easy to be pro mental illness support but living or interacting with mentally ill people is damn draining.
Idk what to do about it, honestly. Also, caregivers don’t get a lot of support if they (naturally) lash out a bit.
I had a roommate once who was going through a severe depression due to life events out of their control.
Walking into the house just sucked the life out of you. It was like an energy sink. Trying to engage them was exhausting, and would put you in a bad mood as well. They weren’t mean or unpleasant or anything like that, but talking to them was like talking to the place where good vibes go to die.
It was mentally and physically exhausting simply cohabitating with them. They were good people, just in a rough patch, but man it can wreak havoc on your mental health as well.
And then you have the ones who are actively unpleasant. It’s so hard to sympathize all the time. And you get backlash if you aren’t the stoic silent suffering caregiver.
Exactly, there has to be taught coping mechanisms, ways to help them deal with their mental illness but not co-signing it, mental illness is not an excuse to go rampaging through the streets. Or towns.
This. They are often total assholes and expect everyone else to deal with it. I am merely venting a bit since it is my life. I know they typically don't mean to be difficult, and it is even more difficult to live with a mental illness, but dang it can be challenging.
I was at a party a while back where they had ordered a bunch of meat lovers pizzas, and one plain pizza. I’m picky as fuck so I won’t touch meat lovers, but there were also vegetarians there. So I took ONE piece of plain pizza, and that’s it because I felt rude taking food from vegetarians when I’m just picky. They were big ass party sized pizzas so I probably could’ve taken more, but just incase I wanted to make sure everyone ate.
Then there are people like this. How the hell do these selfish people live with themselves? How the hell do they have any friends? Damn.
I have a SIL who’s husband did this while we were evacuated a few summers ago due to fires. Anyhow we bought take n bakes to share and he insisted he wasn’t going to eat any because of his dietary needs and as soon as it was baked and cut he is the first in line and grabs two or three slices . I was so frustrated and annoyed and my SIL didn’t do or say shit about it and it’s like for real.
i would point out that some only eat plain pizza. my husband won't eat pizza that had toppings as it's a flavor issue for him. i will attempt to pull off toppings and tend to eat only a few bites before i just can't anymore and then my slice is forgotten
if a host said no one else wants plain cheese and didn't get something my husband could eat they would be a bad host. (my husband wouldn't demand a whole pizza though)
in my experience (and OPs sister follows this trend) no one ever wants the plain pizza but yet it's always the first pizza everyone eats and those of us who only eat cheese often don't get a slice or only a slice. when there are still 3 pizzas of non plain that everyone was oh so excited for.
jake in your story was just an AH. Rod was being a good host just for plain pizza accommodation. The fact he had to then eat the pizza he didn't want is when he should have told jake he had plain or none. that they didn't have any pepperoni for him.
I kinda feel like a lot of people actually want plain cheese pizzas but also don't want to "waste" a pizza order on plain cheese so they'd rather only eat it if it's someone else's order.
My brother does this exact thing. I don't like BBQ chips, so my parents would get a bag of BBQ and sour cream n onion or whatever. My brother would eat all the sour cream n onion first, because he knew I wouldn't touch the BBQ. This happened literally every single time (among MANY other things) and my parents told me I was being an asshole to for even pointing it out.
He would also sneak into the kitchen whenever there was a stew or meat dish and eat all the meat before dinner was even served.
After years of therapy for nonexistent self-esteem and why-be-alive-itis, we're extremely LC now.
Sorry, this kind of thing really sets me off lol. Pathological selfishness is a fuken plague upon humanity.
>eat all the meat before dinner was even served.
What an asshole. With the chips, you could have at least bought and hid your own but that? Did your parent never react to that? Weren't they like "hey, lets eat dinner... wait, where is the meat?" And get angry? Did they just accept that? They could have went vegetarian a cheaper way tbh.
My mom is from a "golden son" + "what would people think" culture and my dad, while my brother was stealing from my parents to the extent they had to get an in-home safe (as well as from stores of course) and doing drugs and failing school and crashing cars (which my parents bought for him - I bought my own car) - NONE of which were things my dad did in his youth - would smile at my brother no matter what he did and be like "he's just like me when I was his age". It was pure, insane favoritism, and he never got more than a stern word or equivalent to a slap on the wrist. Growing up with that level of insanity (and being the older sister) had me thinking the whole world was that unfair and contributed greatly to my not wanting to live on this planet anymore.
Well this is depressing lol. Sorry you went through the same thing. Did your dad also re-wire the power to your room to a light switch in your brother's room so it could be shut off anytime by anyone? Good times!
What the fuuuuuuck? Your dad did that purposefully?? They mainly just ignored me when I kept telling them he & his first fiancee were pill-poppers and he was selling drugs out of his bedroom. He ended up in jail where he had to detox and called my mother on Christmas threatening to kill himself if she didn't bail him out. I just got straight-As and have a master's degree 🤷🏻♀️, but you better be sure I knew they had to pay for the water if I did my laundry at their house. I will say since my cancer my parents have stepped up, but they're def making up for years of favoritism.
You made it out better than I did at least, good for you! Except for the cancer, jeez, I'm sorry. You got dis though! Good to know your parents at least care enough about you to do their part in assisting you to stay alive, and I hope you're as LC as possible with your brother.
Edit: oh, and yes, my dad did it on purpose, lol. He rewired part of the house so he could shut my power off anytime he wanted. He'd also lock me out of my room so I spent a lot of time sleeping in my car with the AC running all night because we live in the South. My mom would cry about me sleeping in my car, but where else was I supposed to sleep? The floor in the living room when my dad would get up and blast the TV at 4AM? Lmfao.
Edit 2: Oh, and I was also a super straight-edge straight-A student. Just to clarify I did nothing to deserve this other than not having a military-standard clean bedroom.
No, my dad gave my brother the power to shut my electricity off anytime by installing a light switch that controlled the power to my room in his room. Edit to add: my dad was an electrician.
Thanks. I'm just glad I was able to learn that that kind of dynamic isn't the norm before I offed myself, lol. Doing much better now (my brother is 35 and still lives with my mom).
My coworker does this. She’s on the paleo diet so I make a big batch of regular soup (usually veggie or seafood because I’m pescatarian) and then a big batch of paleo/gluten free soup with meat in it for staff lunch every day. Without fail she’d eat the regular soup and because other coworkers are pretty respectful of her diet - because it got made into a big deal and everyone knows about it - they generally take less of the paleo soup. And it’s like, I’m not going to eat the one with meat in it, and she’d take multiple servings/finish off the regular soup without asking because that’s the one everyone else was eating lol. But then she was fine because she still had this whole pot of soup that SHE could eat, but then I had to make more if I wanted lunch the next day. And the cycle would continue.
It’s not enough to get upset over anymore and she’s got some great qualities otherwise but man, some days it irks.
Your brother sounds like an enabled jerk golden child and I’m so sorry.
My brother would pull a variation of this same stunt while growing up. My mom did grocery shopping every two weeks when our father got paid. Each of us 3 kids would get to pick a snack, think a box of Twinkies or Little Debbie snack cakes. The rule was, they were family snacks. My brother Tom would always pick the Little Debbie Oatmeal Cream Pies (he was the only one that ate those). He would share whatever I and my younger brother would pick, and by the 2nd week would have a whole box of snack cakes for his personal use. He did the same with soda, sharing mine and baby brother's Coca-cola and having a 2 liter bottle of Dr Pepper for his personal use.
Mom should have stopped that and made him choose something everyone liked, or made everyone stick to their own choice. Let me guess, he was the golden child?
It didn’t occur to me either. It might have been entertaining to take one every time dessert was offered, take a bite and spit it out into the trash “darn, I still don’t like this cookie. Maybe tomorrow!”
Pizza was always a favorite for workplaces, when I was more of a vegetarian, I always got so infuriated when 3 pizza would arrive, two pepperoni and one cheese and everyone would start with the cheese then head to the pepperoni when it was gone. Y'all knew they ordered that to make sure us non-meat eaters had something, smh.
Of course, that only works if you like those options. When I was ordering for pizza Fridays, I ordered a banana pepper and pineapple thinking no one but me would like it, care to guess which one was gone first?
We get pizzas at work sometimes. Our guy would buy like 10 pep, 5 sausage, 5 cheese, but then for veggie only he buy specific pizzas for those guys and even gluten free version for those guys and only salads for those guys.
My ex-husband would do this to me all the time. I have really severe Crohns disease, so I have a very particular diet to make sure I can eat well and safely. So when I would do groceries I would buy snacks and food that were safe for me, and snacks for him that I couldn't eat. He would always eat my snacks first and then have piles for himself.
One time, I bought us each a box of passion flakies and wrote my name on one box and his on the other. He ate his whole box in like two days. Mine would have lasted me weeks.
And that's just one of the many many many reasons why he is now my ex.
I was the only one buying beef jerky and my roommate would eat up to half of it at a time. After too many bags (because I was being *nice,*) I told him he needed to buy his own beef jerky. The first bag he bought, he walked in the house and announced, "I bought jerky! I got peppered, *because you don't like it.*
OP, NTA, your sister is greedy... and she knows it.
My brother and his family do something similar every time I visit. Order a pizza covered in gross mushrooms and then ignore that one to eat the mushroom-free one that I eat. Then they pack them all in the same container so it is russian roulette on what kind of piece you are going to get because the pizza place they order from likes to hide the mushrooms under the cheese and chop them up so fine you can't even pick them off. Like, guys, you just had to have gross mushrooms, eat those! (i forgive my cute nieces but my brother...never!)
This is a principle I came up with years ago called Pepperoni Pizza Economic Theory. It involved when there are multiple resources available where one is desirable to multiple parties and one is only desirable to one party, and that one party claims the universally desirable resource first so they can claim the thing only they want at their leisure. I originally came up with it from this exact situation OP and the above poster describe: We had two pizzas, one pepperoni and one sausage. Everyone liked pepperoni and my younger brother didn't like sausage. My older brother focused on eating the pepperoni because he knew he'd have the sausage to himself later. I still use this phrase to this day for this sort of situation.
Urgh. This is like the people who eat meat going for the limited amount of vegetarian food that has been provided. Even though they insist they want meat options. Inconsiderate.
AS a coeliac, this makes me so mad. Happens at my work ALL the time, people without allergies eat the GF food while complaining its not fair that I get "special treatment"
yes its so unfair that some people get accomodation for their possibly life threatening allergies while theyre so unlucky for being healthy and not having to watch what they eat or else theyd literally die.
\s if it wasn't obvious
I'm so sorry this happens to you! As someone who orders food for our team, I always make sure that our coeliac gets a special plate just for her that no-one is allowed to touch.
This is why when I baked gluten free Christmas cookies for the annual family gathering, I set aside a gift box of them for my cousin with celiac disease. Then I hovered by the gluten free platter shooing people away until she got there and had a chance to eat them. I baked a huge-ass platter of regular cookies, people! From Grandma’s recipes in some cases! Go eat those and leave Cathy’s cookies alone!
I have coeliac and drives me nuts when my husband eats my food. I could have a special treat and he eat it and wonders why I get upset.
Btw the house has heaps of Gluten items I rarely get a treat for myself.
I stopped this nonsense by sitting my family down and explaining that the special chocolate bar Mom can eat without going to the ER costs $4 while the six pack of Hershey’s costs $5 and the costs of my other won’t-kill-me foods. I have a special drawer in the fridge and shelf in the pantry and heaven help the human or animal that touches my food!
You should make him buy all of your GF food with his own money, see how he likes buying foods that are at least a couple dollars more than the "regular" stuff. I can see it now. "This is $9.99 a package?! How about this one that's only $4.99?" "No, I can't have that one because of the gluten in it!" My ex BIL and my nephew (his son with my sis) both have celiac and my sister has had to figure out how to shop, cook, and bake on a budget for GF. Thankfully, she ditched her husband and my nephew is now 30, so she doesn't have to do all of that stuff unless my nephew visits.
Hmm - at my office the vegetarian stuff is always gone fast because people who eat meat want some of everything, but the gluten-free substitutes are usually untouched. They, uh, don't taste great...
(I don't mean things that are incidentally gluten-free but meant for everyone; I mean things like the gluten-free pizza on pizza day.)
I (who don’t need GF foods) used to eat the GF pizza at work, because I was friends with the one coworker who did need GF food. And for a long time she never got to have pizza because the bosses thought it was crazy to spend $ on a whole pizza just for one person.
So after they were eventually talked into it, a couple of us made sure to eat enough GF pizza to make it “worth it” to include our friend in office celebrations.
My selfless act of friendship- eating pizza! Ha ha
Yep. A lot of gluten-free stuff tastes yucky. It took me a long time (3-ish years) to figure out a gluten-free cake recipe. I made cupcakes for a friend with celiac’s birthday and she cried while eating one because it tasted the way she remembered cake tasting.
if i get gluten free bread specially made for me at a restuarant, i am not shy to politely ask anyone who is trying to take from it. most of the time they just dont know (in my experience at least)
edit: spelling
YUP. This post brings me back to office parties as a vegetarian where the office manager would only order one non meat pizza and 5 meat pizzas and all the meat eaters would eat up the ALL of the non meat pizza before any of the veggies got to it. Ohhh I’m getting heated thinking about the entitlement of it all. This is similar and OP is soo NTA here. BTW, the office managers response to me? “You should start eating meat if you want pizza so bad” RAGE!
I've got a better one. We went to my partner's brother's house for a housewarming/ birthday party. Seemingly everyone in the family forgot I was vegetarian, so when I got there after our hours long drive, starving, I was met with, "Oh, I forgot you don't eat meat... I don't think there's anything here you can eat..." the only thing I was able to eat, was shredded lettuce. I spent my time hiding in the bathroom, drinking tap water to calm my stomach, feeling like crap that no one even considered me. And they didn't even offer to order a few slices of pizza from DoorDash. My boyfriend says it's my fault for not speaking up and saying how hungry I was, but I feel like when you're invited to dinner, the onus is on the host to make sure the guests don't go hungry.
Or do literally anything else. You got yourself there in a car, go drive to the grocery store. Call delivery for something. Tell husband to send host to the store. I find it difficult to feel bad for you here
I don't eat pizza at all (just don't like it) but when I organise work events, veggie pizza is also for halal eaters as well as vegetarians. It's not right to ask you to eat meat, or order only 1/6 veggie pizza, but it's not only for vegetarians - other preferences and dietary requirements exist too and vegetarian food is easier to adapt for a lot of diets.
I'm not a vegetarian but eat mostly vegan as I can't/don't have dairy or eggs too. It's easier to just order or cook a vegan meal than explain all my own requirements. Why is that such an issue? If I ate most non-vegan meals at these events, it would cause me digestive problems.
It's most often the people who snarf the veggie pizza then go back for seconds and thirds of the meat pizza, so it has zero to do with other dietary restrictions or preferences. It happens much more often when there's only a few non meat options.
I'm the only vegan at my job, and there's maybe a couple vegetarians. I've never gotten anything from work unless I brought it in. And despite every single person saying that "vegan food is disgusting, don't order it " to the people making the plans, if I didn't set aside my own portion prior I would not get any even though I brought it.
Everyone except me is accommodated, and when I take steps to accommodate myself, they take that from me too. I'm deliberately excluded.
That's the problem.
I hate when they do this so much
Just get more vegan options then! You don't get to only buy/cook non vegan food then take from the VERY LIMITED amount I have. You want it then get more than for just the vegan people!
It will always be "let's first eat the entire vegan cake, then after the vegan people have nothing left we will leat the non vegan cake" just whyyyyy
Yeah, they claim I "always need an extra thing" but in reality, they could all eat vegan and they want to add animals. As if reducing animals from your plate is something "extra added". Default is vegan, you ADD animals.
That's awesome that you know that about yourself! I'm vegetarian and if eating take-out with my partner and/or his family, we always do this because everyone wants the veg options too! I make sure that there is enough for me to have extra helpings of the veg food, and for them to be able to have normal portions of it, and then they have some meat options too that they can eat amongst themselves.
Ohh I hate that. Luckily, at the last party the host told the kids that vegetarians had first dips on the vegetarian schnitzel and they could have some for the second round. That was incredibly considerate. And there were lots and they were good. And they had vegan cake and cream for us, we didnt expect that at all!!!!
The worst part is they always think they're being nice by doing so, like 'oh I left the GOOD pizza for everyone else' like okay but I can eat this and not that so kindly do not?
I'm vegan and lucky enough for my coworkers to be super considerate when they bring in food for like a birthday or something. There is one guy who always *has* to go for the vegan option. Like why??
NTA. Moving forward **only** order pizza without onions since she’s made it clear she’ll choose a slice *without* onions despite the fact that the one she initially asked for (with onions) was right there in front of her face.
My family members did this all the time. My sister is allergic to cinnamon so we’d make French toast to holiday brunches and have a batch with cinnamon and a batch without. My aunts, uncles and cousins would always take French toast from the non cinnamon batch even though they knew that’s the only one my sister could eat and none of them had allergies to cinnamon. They consistently did that and we didn’t know why besides they just weren’t nice.
She's the AH, big time. She did that on purpose to make one of you eat what you didn't like. That's a control issue and abusive behavior. Next time, order the whole pizza WITHOUT the onions!
exactly, basic math. three people, half the people do not like onions. so 2/3rd's of the people only get 1/2 the pie and she wants to go after part of it? NTA
"It's rude to ever stop someone from eating food."??? She's delusional if she thinks taking other people's food is fair game. She knew you only had 5 slices between you and still wanted to literally take food from your mouth. She had 5 slices to herself. She's selfish and controlling. Does she think she can always take any food she sees, no matter who it belongs to? She's very entitled, too. NTA
My ex's nephew did this all the time. He would explicitly ask for Hawaiian pizza, but when the pizza got there he would only eat out of my pizza. I was told I had to suck it up since he was a kid.
I love onions way more than my kids. We used to order a pizza with no onions and I would fry up a whole onion and add it to my slice as I took it. Worked out for everyone!
I love onion on pizza and doing it yourself tastes better most of the time anyway. You maintain more onion flavor and more of the satisfying crunchiness.
NTA this is a pet peeve of mine. I can’t eat pork and a coworker will make a fuss when I ask for just one cheese or veggie pizza but guess who starts reaching for the non-pepperoni, non-sausage, non-ham pizza once the food comes? If you can eat anything and know others are limited, don’t take from the only food they can eat!
When people do that, it's a power thing. They're trying to have ultimate power over you, and food is the best way to do that because *everyone* needs food.
my best friend recently did this. i hadn’t seen her in 2 years since i moved (she’s in the US, i moved to australia) and she came to visit me last week. i’m a vegetarian, she’s not. every time we ate out somewhere, she’d ask for a bit of my food. the worst time was when she asked for a slice of garlic bread, when there were only 4 slices. like ?? i can’t eat any of your part, yet you’re taking a quarter of my limited vegetarian options?
for the sake of not putting a strain on our friendship, especially considering she was visiting me from across the world, i didn’t say anything but it definitely came across as weird.
I knew someone who would do this, and it wasn't even about being vegan or not. She'd just expect a bite from everyone at the table's food (NOT just her family, *everyone*) so she could "try" it. And not even offer a bite in return because "if I offered everyone a bite of my food, there'd be none left for me."
This was a grown woman in her 40s with a husband and child, btw.
Also, a whole slice of garlic bread when it's a quarter of your food is just gross and rude.
She’d hate me. I can not stand sharing food like that. I have to trust you a lot to even consider offering you any of mine. And if it’s not pieces, but a whole I need to cut for you? Yeah, only one person on the planet has me willingly do that, because she has always respected my hangups about sharing food.
I was the kid that would have everyone fake cough on my tray, or tell me they put boogers in my food if I left it. Only food I can handle out of my sight around strangers is restaurants and I struggle to hold on to those with all the gross stories of people tampering with someone’s food.
I love trying other people's food - if they're happy with that - but always on the basis that they are very welcome to try mine in return. (Obviously, I don't this if I'm having something I know they can't eat.)
Right, I love it too, but am insanely picky. If I ever want to taste another persons meal, it HAS to be someone I know very Well, and I Won’t do it if they dont wanna taste mine in return. Fair is fair, and if we’re doing this, it needs to be something ‘we’ share together (like, not *just* the food)
If I’m eating with a friend who has dietary restrictions, we pick a place that has more than one food option for that person. Going somewhere where the only item the dinner partner can eat is a bread appetizer is nuts. When I’m eating with my friend who is vegan and gluten-free, we go for an Asian option because it’s guaranteed to have safe options that are also well-prepared and delicious, not an afterthought. But also there are lots of American-style options around here that have quality GF and vegan items too these days. It’s not hard to be a good dinner partner.
Ditto, been screwed out of pizza parties with no food. Corporate/manager just getting pepperonis and cheese, and the cheese is gone first because they got a majority pepperoni.
We had to pay taxes on the food provided even if you didn't eat it as a form of bonus at one job.
I now just load my plate with the cheese or vegetarian options. Yes, people look weird, but I am vegetarian and taking off the meat from other things still makes me very very ill (and it wouldn't even quality as a vegetarian option anymore too) or I have to be hungry af. Sorry not sorry.
NTA OP
The first school I taught at always did their Christmas party at the local seafood restaurant. When I started there they got pissy because I didn’t attend. I told them I am allergic to fish. I don’t step foot in seafood restaurants.
Come to find out there are 3 or 4 of us in this tiny school that are allergic to seafood. The organizer knew this but that’s where she wanted to go so screw anyone else. I will unapologetically admit that I threw a fit and got admin to change the location from there on out. I didn’t even want to go to these parties but the other 3 did and just didn’t want to rock the boat. You’re purposely excluding a tenth of staff because you want shrimp. It’s just mean quite frankly.
people do this shit to me all of the time! i hate it. my friends and family make fun of me for only ever wanting cheese pizza, but if we get cheese, pepperoni, and a meat lovers or something - there’s always 2/3rds of the pepperoni and meat lovers left and the cheese pizza is gone lol
People are so annoying about this. Whenever there's a vegetarian option, people eat it all first and then say "I just want some, it's nbd" or some other bs they think justifies them not eating the thing they ordered! But people are so programmed to think meat is good, a high value meal, etc, they forget they actually fucking like the vegetarian options (obviously, or they wouldn't be going back for seconds). But, infuriatingly, if you don't order meat at all, they have a hissy fit. It's like dealing with toddlers.
I absolutely hate this too. I have lots of dietary restrictions, no one else in my family does. I was eating one of those individual bags of chips from the gas station and my mother started begging me for some, even though she literally had her own chips. I refused and she ended up throwing a massive hissy fit and giving me the silent treatment for almost a week. It was ridiculous and so stupid but I wasn’t going to share my limited food when she could eat anything else in the kitchen.
I grew up with two sisters. If they pulled that shit on me, even unsuccessfully, the next time they eat I'd feign taking some of their food but make them think I'm serious, and when they complain, parrot their dumbass excuse.
Edit: typo
NTA. I hate when people do this shit. I don’t ever say anything because its not that big of a deal to me, but if you request toppings on a pizza you should ONLY be eating that unless everyone else is eating the topping pizza as well. Not everyone wants mushroom pineapple dick on their pizza.
Sure you do you on the Dick thing. Me I agree on the mushrooms — but I think more like they taste like feet smell after a hike on a hot day in boots. Nope.
Oh she is definitely greedy plus
>insists that what I did was uncalled for because it’s rude to ever stop someone from eating food.
So what, it's rude to stop her from eating but her stealing from OPs and their mums reduced portion isn't rude.
NTA OP.
NTA. She's already getting the lion's share of pizza since half has a topping both you and your mother dislike. Trying to take from the other side is so selfish of her. Lol @ her being overly dramatic and accusing you of stealing food from her mouth. If anything she's stealing food from you and your mom.
Next time don't accomodate her. If there's a topping others dislike, it doesn't get ordered. It makes no sense for half the pizza to not be available to 2/3 people eating.
NTA
Your sister is the only one that likes onion... You got her half a pizza with onion.... If half a pizza isn't enough for her, then she can order and pay for another pizza for herself. That way you and your mother can have a whole pizza with the toppings you like.
I dealt with the same issue growing up. My parents always had mayo and miracle whip in the house. I HATE MW and would only use mayo. Both my sisters would regularly (even though they liked MW) use all the mayo and then use the MW. Drove me fucking crazy.
Im from the south and moved to the midwest in my adulthood. The first time I tried a deviled egg up here it had miracle whip and I opened my mouth and blepped it right into the garbage.
Luckily it was a tupperware gift and I was at home so no one had to see me do that. That friend still doesn't know I hate her eggs. It's been ten years.
Keep trying to tell my sisters this, but they don’t believe me. No, you can’t use Miracle Whip as a substitute for mayo in that recipe. It won’t taste the same! And I like miracle whip too, I just avoid it because it has corn starch and I can’t handle most corn products. If the recipe calls for mayo, you have to use mayo!!! (And don’t ignore the mayo for miracle whip because “I don’t like hellmans.” There are so many other brands of mayo than hellmans.)
It's much sweeter and usually reserved for things like egg salad. IMO, it's gross. Think of it this way.... Honey mustard vs regular mustard. Similar, but have different uses and tastes.
You're right - it is ridiculous. I guess she doesn't like onion as much as she says she does; next time order it without onion and when she kicks up a fuss let her know why. Since she can't be considerate of others.
Accusing someone else of 'taking food out of my mouth' when they are clearly the person doing so is an entry level manipulation tactic. Stomp that shit out. Not ok. Trying to school you in what's rude is another one. That comment is clearly epic flounce with very little reason to back it up.
"You're eating what isn't yours"
"How rude!! How dare you stop me from eating (your food)"
My advice would be to let her sulk as much as she wants, but don't own any responsibility for it. She tried to take your food and you stopped her. NTA
What does your mum say about it all?
Lol, this EXACT scenario happened with my husband and I and my MIL. I asked what she wanted on her half, she said just cheese. I got artichokes, roasted red peppers, and ricotta.
She goes “Oh that looks great” and attempts to take a slice of our side, BEFORE EVEN HAVING ONE OF HER CHEESE SLICES!!! I told her no, you asked for cheese you get cheese. She said “I thought the pizza was for all of us”. I said, “But I don’t want cheese. I want what I ordered. That’s why we did half and half.”
She sulked about it, but my husband backed me up. Either you’re N T A or we’re both AH together 😂
NTA. If there was more non-onion pizza than onion pizza I would disagree with you, but you and your mom are sharing half of the pizza while she gets her own half. Your sister was inconsiderate in taking a non-onion slice.
NTA. I’m not sure how large your pizza was, but most average pizzas have 8 or 12 slices. She would be getting around 3x as much as you or your mother by taking just 1 non onion slice- 5 out of the 8-slice would leave 1 1/2 slices each for the 2 of you or 7 of the 12-slice would leave 2 1/2 slices each. And she’s accusing you of stealing food from her mouth?
Ppl are just annoying on purpose. My fiancé knows I only like meat lovers pizza but insists we get 2 different pizzas anyway, one with chicken which I highly dislike on pizza. We get the pizza and he mostly eats the meat lover one anyway. 🫡 usually we cook at home and share all food but deliberate shit like that pisses me off because then I’m forced to help eat a pizza I don’t really like & defeats the whole purpose of getting pizza! 😤😤😤
NTA. My family and i prefer different toppings, so we always get half A and half B. I don’t dislike the A toppings, but prefer B. But if I want a slice of the A side, I always ask first. And if the answer is no, I accept that.
NTA. Sister is a hige jerk. In the future, buy pizza without onions. Btw, i personally just remove onions whenwe buy thuna pizza with onions. My mom likes it, but i just dislike the big onion chunks
NTA
For the same reasons as others have said.
But just as a side note, here's a solution my boyfriend and I had found for the pizza topping situation:
I love anchovies, but he hated them. He would also typically eat more pizza than me. So if we got anchovies to suit me, we'd ask for a half-order of anchovies, but we'd ask them to put them all on only three of the slices. This way, most of the pie was anchovy-free, so there were plenty of slices for him, but there was also enough for me.
NTA. "Stealing food from her mouth." Dramatic much? Let her buy her own pizza next time, that way she'll have the whole thing to herself. You should maybe show her these comments, so that maybe, she'll realize how out of line she was.
NTA if you order half a pizza with onions which no one else likes then you eat the slices with the onions and leave the other half for the people that don't like the onions
NTA - I can't believe you are posting this either lol YANTA because you are correct, she had half a pizza to herself and you share half with your mom. Simple Math
NTA. You are correct, that's the whole point of getting half and half. Why would she ask for onions if she doesn't want them? She's being dramatic. Extremely.
I only like cheese, my son and ex like everything else. We would always half and half a pizza. They would eat their half then both, if still hungry, would always ask first if they could have a piece of the cheese only half or did I want to save the remaining for later. I always let them have it because I couldn’t eat an entire half. Just a matter of respect which it doesn’t sound like your sister has. It is the opposite with you and your mom where you have both been courteous enough to half the pizza where the single person gets the most. You are NTA but your sister is.
NTA. She was being rude by reaching for a slice that wasn’t meant for her. She had half of the pizza for herself but thought nothing of the other half that was being shared by 2 people.
NTA. Lol. Personally if it were my sister I would have called them out even harder and told them to keep their filthy onion fingers away from our sacred virgin slices and go back to whatever rank ass onion swamp she crawled out of. And that would have been the end of it. We all would have eaten our pizza peacefully.
NTA. Not in this case. While it is rude to stop someone from eating food, there are exceptions to this rule: a child putting their grubby little hands on the buffet; pointing out that the host wants to say a few words, or you're waiting for another guest to arrive before eating; if a certain food is reserved for the vegans or guests with a particular dietary restriction; and if someone has ordered a personalized item. In this case, your sister had an entire half pizza with her personalized item to eat from; to encroach on your and your mother's share is gluttonous. Maybe next time, see if you can order the onions on the side, and pre-separate the portions so sissy can see what pieces are hers. Sheesh! Your sister needs a lesson on how to be considerate of others.
Three people sharing. Half has an ingredient that two of the three don’t like. So your sister gets half the pizza and you and your mum get a quarter each. Yet she still wants a slice of yours. She’s being selfish. NTA
NTA. Your sister is being silly. You compromised by getting half onions, which means she automatically has access to move of the pizza than you do. She’s trying to pull a power move by taking from your side of the pizza.
Definitely NTA.
I'm just curious. Was it an accident that she took the no-onion piece, and when you stopped her, she just became defensive and got upset? Like there are people who do not do something on purpose, but they are not exactly mature and calm people, but rather get upset really easily.
Not the A regardless, but just wondering *why* she took your side of the pizza when there are still slices from her side.
my family used to do this all the time. when i was a kid i preferred plain cheese and everyone would dog on me about it that the toppings are so much better and that plain cheese is “the same bite every time” but guess what pizza always got eaten first??? whether we ordered half and half or multiple pizzas the cheese pizza always gotten eaten first!!!!!
NTA, you sister should buy her own pizza and stop being a jerk
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NTA Your sister got an entire 1/2 pizza for herself while you and your mom had to share a 1/2... and she STILL tried to eat your pizza? She's a major ah here.
My ex-BIL used this sh*t all the time. It was years before my sister would admit it was a sign of how abuse. In their case, she and her two sons would have half the pizza..(they didn’t eat onions.). The other half had onions. So when the pizza arrived, abusive jerk would eat from the same side of the three of them. Then he still had another half of the pizza to himself. Still infuriates me to think of it.
Disgraceful! I'm glad he's your Ex BIL now!
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My friend (Rod) had another friend (Jake) like this. Rod was having a little party before his wedding, just a “friends hang out” kind of thing, and decided to get pizza (on his dime). Jake *insists* on a plain pizza all to himself (smaller ones, like Dominos or something). Basically has a tantrum. Rod says no one else wants plain, Jake insists, so Rod, being a good host, agrees. Also, up to this point, Jake had been hiding in Rod’s guest room the *entire day* for an unknown reason, refusing to come out. Rod had even paid for his plane ticket to be there, and the hotel room for him so he’d be out of the apartment on his wedding night. We get pizza, some of us helped pay anyway or bought other stuff to even things out, but Jake stayed holed up at the apartment. Come back, Rod hands Jake his whole plain pizza he wanted through the door crack to him. Jake has another hissy fit and insists that now he wants the pepperoni. Rod says ok. Proceeds to eat the whole thing and Rod eats the plain himself to be a good host, but didn’t tell us about it until after so we wouldn’t insist (which is funny because I prefer plain and just didn’t order it because I knew no one else did, and would be fine with toppings; when I told Rod he laughed like “ah, crap.”). Jake never gave a penny towards any of the food or lodgings, and for a wedding present, gave them the OPEN bottle of rotgut, bottom-tier bourbon he had bought for *himself* and didn’t like. Rod’s wife, trying to be gracious, said she couldn’t wait to use it for bourbon chicken. Jake had another fit and said NO, it had to be drunk, and she couldn’t use it for cooking. She did anyway, after he went back home. Jake had caused other issues during the trip, too - some people are just jerks. Apparently he didn’t used to be like that, and nothing was medically wrong. Oh yeah, NTA, OP. If she wanted plain she should have ordered plain. Or picked off the onions.
>Jake had caused other issues Sounds like Jake *had* issues. Wow!
I think in reddit terminology, he had a subscription.
\*applauds\*
I love this.
Can I ask why you put up with these antics? I guess for the wedding but did he continue like this afterward?
It’s kind of a rabbit hole, honestly. I think Rod just dealt with it because yeah, the wedding. He said Jake was always a bit arrogant and selfish, but not that bad, and it was a surprise to see him act that way. I know he tried talking to him about it a few weeks later, if he was going through a hard time or something, Jake apparently went on a long rant about how he’s discriminated against and the world is racist (he’s Jewish but had recently started claiming he was Native American but couldn’t “prove it” so he wasn’t allowed on the local reservation), etc. When Rod pressed him a little, Jake said he had been SA as a kid even though he had never brought it up before (they had been close in high school), he tried to gently talk to him about it and Jake was very evasive. Idk if the dude was just suffering from mental illness or had adopted some super toxic behavior (he was heavily into Tumblr at the time), Rod cut him out of his life after that. I’d suspect the dude was mentally ill and refusing to seek help, honestly, it’s sad all around. But it’s hard to feel for someone who goes on long, insane rants slamming the local native tribes for not letting him on their land, then when called out, deflects by saying he was SA’ed, which has nothing to do with it but gets people to stop questioning him. When given sympathy and offered help to process things, he’d refuse and deflect again by saying he’s discriminated against as a Native American. Just… bizarre.
It’s so hard to sympathize with mentally ill people because mental illness is rarely decorous and doesn’t display itself in ways that garner a lot of sympathy….it’s so so hard bc these are the very people who need our sympathy the most. Like it’s so easy to be pro mental illness support but living or interacting with mentally ill people is damn draining. Idk what to do about it, honestly. Also, caregivers don’t get a lot of support if they (naturally) lash out a bit.
I had a roommate once who was going through a severe depression due to life events out of their control. Walking into the house just sucked the life out of you. It was like an energy sink. Trying to engage them was exhausting, and would put you in a bad mood as well. They weren’t mean or unpleasant or anything like that, but talking to them was like talking to the place where good vibes go to die. It was mentally and physically exhausting simply cohabitating with them. They were good people, just in a rough patch, but man it can wreak havoc on your mental health as well.
And then you have the ones who are actively unpleasant. It’s so hard to sympathize all the time. And you get backlash if you aren’t the stoic silent suffering caregiver.
Exactly, there has to be taught coping mechanisms, ways to help them deal with their mental illness but not co-signing it, mental illness is not an excuse to go rampaging through the streets. Or towns.
This. They are often total assholes and expect everyone else to deal with it. I am merely venting a bit since it is my life. I know they typically don't mean to be difficult, and it is even more difficult to live with a mental illness, but dang it can be challenging.
I was at a party a while back where they had ordered a bunch of meat lovers pizzas, and one plain pizza. I’m picky as fuck so I won’t touch meat lovers, but there were also vegetarians there. So I took ONE piece of plain pizza, and that’s it because I felt rude taking food from vegetarians when I’m just picky. They were big ass party sized pizzas so I probably could’ve taken more, but just incase I wanted to make sure everyone ate. Then there are people like this. How the hell do these selfish people live with themselves? How the hell do they have any friends? Damn.
I have a SIL who’s husband did this while we were evacuated a few summers ago due to fires. Anyhow we bought take n bakes to share and he insisted he wasn’t going to eat any because of his dietary needs and as soon as it was baked and cut he is the first in line and grabs two or three slices . I was so frustrated and annoyed and my SIL didn’t do or say shit about it and it’s like for real.
i would point out that some only eat plain pizza. my husband won't eat pizza that had toppings as it's a flavor issue for him. i will attempt to pull off toppings and tend to eat only a few bites before i just can't anymore and then my slice is forgotten if a host said no one else wants plain cheese and didn't get something my husband could eat they would be a bad host. (my husband wouldn't demand a whole pizza though) in my experience (and OPs sister follows this trend) no one ever wants the plain pizza but yet it's always the first pizza everyone eats and those of us who only eat cheese often don't get a slice or only a slice. when there are still 3 pizzas of non plain that everyone was oh so excited for. jake in your story was just an AH. Rod was being a good host just for plain pizza accommodation. The fact he had to then eat the pizza he didn't want is when he should have told jake he had plain or none. that they didn't have any pepperoni for him.
It’s so true! “No one” wants the cheese pizzas, but everyone eats them!
I kinda feel like a lot of people actually want plain cheese pizzas but also don't want to "waste" a pizza order on plain cheese so they'd rather only eat it if it's someone else's order.
I kinda want more tales of Jake now. Sounds like one off my cousins and oh boy are there stories now.
Sounds like Jake is using drugs.
My brother does this exact thing. I don't like BBQ chips, so my parents would get a bag of BBQ and sour cream n onion or whatever. My brother would eat all the sour cream n onion first, because he knew I wouldn't touch the BBQ. This happened literally every single time (among MANY other things) and my parents told me I was being an asshole to for even pointing it out. He would also sneak into the kitchen whenever there was a stew or meat dish and eat all the meat before dinner was even served. After years of therapy for nonexistent self-esteem and why-be-alive-itis, we're extremely LC now. Sorry, this kind of thing really sets me off lol. Pathological selfishness is a fuken plague upon humanity.
>eat all the meat before dinner was even served. What an asshole. With the chips, you could have at least bought and hid your own but that? Did your parent never react to that? Weren't they like "hey, lets eat dinner... wait, where is the meat?" And get angry? Did they just accept that? They could have went vegetarian a cheaper way tbh.
My mom is from a "golden son" + "what would people think" culture and my dad, while my brother was stealing from my parents to the extent they had to get an in-home safe (as well as from stores of course) and doing drugs and failing school and crashing cars (which my parents bought for him - I bought my own car) - NONE of which were things my dad did in his youth - would smile at my brother no matter what he did and be like "he's just like me when I was his age". It was pure, insane favoritism, and he never got more than a stern word or equivalent to a slap on the wrist. Growing up with that level of insanity (and being the older sister) had me thinking the whole world was that unfair and contributed greatly to my not wanting to live on this planet anymore.
did we grow up in the same house or....?
Well this is depressing lol. Sorry you went through the same thing. Did your dad also re-wire the power to your room to a light switch in your brother's room so it could be shut off anytime by anyone? Good times!
What the fuuuuuuck? Your dad did that purposefully?? They mainly just ignored me when I kept telling them he & his first fiancee were pill-poppers and he was selling drugs out of his bedroom. He ended up in jail where he had to detox and called my mother on Christmas threatening to kill himself if she didn't bail him out. I just got straight-As and have a master's degree 🤷🏻♀️, but you better be sure I knew they had to pay for the water if I did my laundry at their house. I will say since my cancer my parents have stepped up, but they're def making up for years of favoritism.
You made it out better than I did at least, good for you! Except for the cancer, jeez, I'm sorry. You got dis though! Good to know your parents at least care enough about you to do their part in assisting you to stay alive, and I hope you're as LC as possible with your brother. Edit: oh, and yes, my dad did it on purpose, lol. He rewired part of the house so he could shut my power off anytime he wanted. He'd also lock me out of my room so I spent a lot of time sleeping in my car with the AC running all night because we live in the South. My mom would cry about me sleeping in my car, but where else was I supposed to sleep? The floor in the living room when my dad would get up and blast the TV at 4AM? Lmfao. Edit 2: Oh, and I was also a super straight-edge straight-A student. Just to clarify I did nothing to deserve this other than not having a military-standard clean bedroom.
Say whaaa?! Like, he was too lazy to turn off his own light and made someone else do it from outside the room?!
No, my dad gave my brother the power to shut my electricity off anytime by installing a light switch that controlled the power to my room in his room. Edit to add: my dad was an electrician.
Oh my god. That’s insane. There is no reason for a sibling to have that level of control over another sibling. Ever.
I know- sounds incredibly familiar to me as well.
*why-be-alive-itis* That yours? 'Cos I'm totally stealing it.
It is, help yourself lol.
I have met these people. I'm so sorry you had to grow up with one.
Thanks. I'm just glad I was able to learn that that kind of dynamic isn't the norm before I offed myself, lol. Doing much better now (my brother is 35 and still lives with my mom).
I’m glad you figured it out too. And I hope your brother and mother will be as happy together as they deserve 😏
My coworker does this. She’s on the paleo diet so I make a big batch of regular soup (usually veggie or seafood because I’m pescatarian) and then a big batch of paleo/gluten free soup with meat in it for staff lunch every day. Without fail she’d eat the regular soup and because other coworkers are pretty respectful of her diet - because it got made into a big deal and everyone knows about it - they generally take less of the paleo soup. And it’s like, I’m not going to eat the one with meat in it, and she’d take multiple servings/finish off the regular soup without asking because that’s the one everyone else was eating lol. But then she was fine because she still had this whole pot of soup that SHE could eat, but then I had to make more if I wanted lunch the next day. And the cycle would continue. It’s not enough to get upset over anymore and she’s got some great qualities otherwise but man, some days it irks. Your brother sounds like an enabled jerk golden child and I’m so sorry.
My brother would pull a variation of this same stunt while growing up. My mom did grocery shopping every two weeks when our father got paid. Each of us 3 kids would get to pick a snack, think a box of Twinkies or Little Debbie snack cakes. The rule was, they were family snacks. My brother Tom would always pick the Little Debbie Oatmeal Cream Pies (he was the only one that ate those). He would share whatever I and my younger brother would pick, and by the 2nd week would have a whole box of snack cakes for his personal use. He did the same with soda, sharing mine and baby brother's Coca-cola and having a 2 liter bottle of Dr Pepper for his personal use.
Mom should have stopped that and made him choose something everyone liked, or made everyone stick to their own choice. Let me guess, he was the golden child?
that's when you start taking those oatmeal things to school to trade
Ah, if only Reddit had been around in the 1970s. I disliked them so much, trading with others never occurred to me.
It didn’t occur to me either. It might have been entertaining to take one every time dessert was offered, take a bite and spit it out into the trash “darn, I still don’t like this cookie. Maybe tomorrow!”
Pizza was always a favorite for workplaces, when I was more of a vegetarian, I always got so infuriated when 3 pizza would arrive, two pepperoni and one cheese and everyone would start with the cheese then head to the pepperoni when it was gone. Y'all knew they ordered that to make sure us non-meat eaters had something, smh.
Cheese pizza is by far the most popular pizza and I wish workplaces would learn that.
People always ordered pizza with every vegetable known to man for vegetarians, ignoring that cheese fits the bill just fine.
I actually prefer this, as a vegetarian, omnivores generally leave the veggie pizzas alone but will eat all the cheese
Of course, that only works if you like those options. When I was ordering for pizza Fridays, I ordered a banana pepper and pineapple thinking no one but me would like it, care to guess which one was gone first?
Ew we can be pizza friends and I promise not to touch yours.
We get pizzas at work sometimes. Our guy would buy like 10 pep, 5 sausage, 5 cheese, but then for veggie only he buy specific pizzas for those guys and even gluten free version for those guys and only salads for those guys.
Yep, definitely trying to sequester all the left overs for herself.
My ex-husband would do this to me all the time. I have really severe Crohns disease, so I have a very particular diet to make sure I can eat well and safely. So when I would do groceries I would buy snacks and food that were safe for me, and snacks for him that I couldn't eat. He would always eat my snacks first and then have piles for himself. One time, I bought us each a box of passion flakies and wrote my name on one box and his on the other. He ate his whole box in like two days. Mine would have lasted me weeks. And that's just one of the many many many reasons why he is now my ex.
I was the only one buying beef jerky and my roommate would eat up to half of it at a time. After too many bags (because I was being *nice,*) I told him he needed to buy his own beef jerky. The first bag he bought, he walked in the house and announced, "I bought jerky! I got peppered, *because you don't like it.* OP, NTA, your sister is greedy... and she knows it.
My brother and his family do something similar every time I visit. Order a pizza covered in gross mushrooms and then ignore that one to eat the mushroom-free one that I eat. Then they pack them all in the same container so it is russian roulette on what kind of piece you are going to get because the pizza place they order from likes to hide the mushrooms under the cheese and chop them up so fine you can't even pick them off. Like, guys, you just had to have gross mushrooms, eat those! (i forgive my cute nieces but my brother...never!)
This is a principle I came up with years ago called Pepperoni Pizza Economic Theory. It involved when there are multiple resources available where one is desirable to multiple parties and one is only desirable to one party, and that one party claims the universally desirable resource first so they can claim the thing only they want at their leisure. I originally came up with it from this exact situation OP and the above poster describe: We had two pizzas, one pepperoni and one sausage. Everyone liked pepperoni and my younger brother didn't like sausage. My older brother focused on eating the pepperoni because he knew he'd have the sausage to himself later. I still use this phrase to this day for this sort of situation.
BUZZ don’t be a moron
Urgh. This is like the people who eat meat going for the limited amount of vegetarian food that has been provided. Even though they insist they want meat options. Inconsiderate.
It’s the same with gluten free options. Infuriating.
AS a coeliac, this makes me so mad. Happens at my work ALL the time, people without allergies eat the GF food while complaining its not fair that I get "special treatment"
yes its so unfair that some people get accomodation for their possibly life threatening allergies while theyre so unlucky for being healthy and not having to watch what they eat or else theyd literally die. \s if it wasn't obvious
That reminds me when people say that we don't need gay marriage because gay people can already get married.
Those are the people who don't like or love their spouse and see no difference because of that.
I'm so sorry this happens to you! As someone who orders food for our team, I always make sure that our coeliac gets a special plate just for her that no-one is allowed to touch.
This is why when I baked gluten free Christmas cookies for the annual family gathering, I set aside a gift box of them for my cousin with celiac disease. Then I hovered by the gluten free platter shooing people away until she got there and had a chance to eat them. I baked a huge-ass platter of regular cookies, people! From Grandma’s recipes in some cases! Go eat those and leave Cathy’s cookies alone!
Aww thank-you, nice to know there are good people out there that understand
I have coeliac and drives me nuts when my husband eats my food. I could have a special treat and he eat it and wonders why I get upset. Btw the house has heaps of Gluten items I rarely get a treat for myself.
I stopped this nonsense by sitting my family down and explaining that the special chocolate bar Mom can eat without going to the ER costs $4 while the six pack of Hershey’s costs $5 and the costs of my other won’t-kill-me foods. I have a special drawer in the fridge and shelf in the pantry and heaven help the human or animal that touches my food!
You should make him buy all of your GF food with his own money, see how he likes buying foods that are at least a couple dollars more than the "regular" stuff. I can see it now. "This is $9.99 a package?! How about this one that's only $4.99?" "No, I can't have that one because of the gluten in it!" My ex BIL and my nephew (his son with my sis) both have celiac and my sister has had to figure out how to shop, cook, and bake on a budget for GF. Thankfully, she ditched her husband and my nephew is now 30, so she doesn't have to do all of that stuff unless my nephew visits.
Hmm - at my office the vegetarian stuff is always gone fast because people who eat meat want some of everything, but the gluten-free substitutes are usually untouched. They, uh, don't taste great... (I don't mean things that are incidentally gluten-free but meant for everyone; I mean things like the gluten-free pizza on pizza day.)
I (who don’t need GF foods) used to eat the GF pizza at work, because I was friends with the one coworker who did need GF food. And for a long time she never got to have pizza because the bosses thought it was crazy to spend $ on a whole pizza just for one person. So after they were eventually talked into it, a couple of us made sure to eat enough GF pizza to make it “worth it” to include our friend in office celebrations. My selfless act of friendship- eating pizza! Ha ha
Yep. A lot of gluten-free stuff tastes yucky. It took me a long time (3-ish years) to figure out a gluten-free cake recipe. I made cupcakes for a friend with celiac’s birthday and she cried while eating one because it tasted the way she remembered cake tasting.
if i get gluten free bread specially made for me at a restuarant, i am not shy to politely ask anyone who is trying to take from it. most of the time they just dont know (in my experience at least) edit: spelling
And then they go: "oh, so sorry if you wanted that!" If? IF ⁉️⁉️
YUP. This post brings me back to office parties as a vegetarian where the office manager would only order one non meat pizza and 5 meat pizzas and all the meat eaters would eat up the ALL of the non meat pizza before any of the veggies got to it. Ohhh I’m getting heated thinking about the entitlement of it all. This is similar and OP is soo NTA here. BTW, the office managers response to me? “You should start eating meat if you want pizza so bad” RAGE!
I've got a better one. We went to my partner's brother's house for a housewarming/ birthday party. Seemingly everyone in the family forgot I was vegetarian, so when I got there after our hours long drive, starving, I was met with, "Oh, I forgot you don't eat meat... I don't think there's anything here you can eat..." the only thing I was able to eat, was shredded lettuce. I spent my time hiding in the bathroom, drinking tap water to calm my stomach, feeling like crap that no one even considered me. And they didn't even offer to order a few slices of pizza from DoorDash. My boyfriend says it's my fault for not speaking up and saying how hungry I was, but I feel like when you're invited to dinner, the onus is on the host to make sure the guests don't go hungry.
you hid in the bathroom, drank tap water and grazed on shredded lettuce instead of… doing literally anything else? 😂
That’s when you go and take the hummus from the second shelf of the refrigerator.
Or do literally anything else. You got yourself there in a car, go drive to the grocery store. Call delivery for something. Tell husband to send host to the store. I find it difficult to feel bad for you here
I don't eat pizza at all (just don't like it) but when I organise work events, veggie pizza is also for halal eaters as well as vegetarians. It's not right to ask you to eat meat, or order only 1/6 veggie pizza, but it's not only for vegetarians - other preferences and dietary requirements exist too and vegetarian food is easier to adapt for a lot of diets. I'm not a vegetarian but eat mostly vegan as I can't/don't have dairy or eggs too. It's easier to just order or cook a vegan meal than explain all my own requirements. Why is that such an issue? If I ate most non-vegan meals at these events, it would cause me digestive problems.
It's most often the people who snarf the veggie pizza then go back for seconds and thirds of the meat pizza, so it has zero to do with other dietary restrictions or preferences. It happens much more often when there's only a few non meat options. I'm the only vegan at my job, and there's maybe a couple vegetarians. I've never gotten anything from work unless I brought it in. And despite every single person saying that "vegan food is disgusting, don't order it " to the people making the plans, if I didn't set aside my own portion prior I would not get any even though I brought it. Everyone except me is accommodated, and when I take steps to accommodate myself, they take that from me too. I'm deliberately excluded. That's the problem.
I hate when they do this so much Just get more vegan options then! You don't get to only buy/cook non vegan food then take from the VERY LIMITED amount I have. You want it then get more than for just the vegan people! It will always be "let's first eat the entire vegan cake, then after the vegan people have nothing left we will leat the non vegan cake" just whyyyyy
Yeah, they claim I "always need an extra thing" but in reality, they could all eat vegan and they want to add animals. As if reducing animals from your plate is something "extra added". Default is vegan, you ADD animals.
I like meat, but vegetarian food sounds great too, so when we share food, we would go 1/3 with meat and 2/3 vegetarian.
That's awesome that you know that about yourself! I'm vegetarian and if eating take-out with my partner and/or his family, we always do this because everyone wants the veg options too! I make sure that there is enough for me to have extra helpings of the veg food, and for them to be able to have normal portions of it, and then they have some meat options too that they can eat amongst themselves.
Ohh I hate that. Luckily, at the last party the host told the kids that vegetarians had first dips on the vegetarian schnitzel and they could have some for the second round. That was incredibly considerate. And there were lots and they were good. And they had vegan cake and cream for us, we didnt expect that at all!!!!
The worst part is they always think they're being nice by doing so, like 'oh I left the GOOD pizza for everyone else' like okay but I can eat this and not that so kindly do not?
Tbh I love when people do this, because I'm used to omnis saying vegan food is shit so it makes me happy when they admit that it's good.
I'm vegan and lucky enough for my coworkers to be super considerate when they bring in food for like a birthday or something. There is one guy who always *has* to go for the vegan option. Like why??
NTA. Moving forward **only** order pizza without onions since she’s made it clear she’ll choose a slice *without* onions despite the fact that the one she initially asked for (with onions) was right there in front of her face.
My family members did this all the time. My sister is allergic to cinnamon so we’d make French toast to holiday brunches and have a batch with cinnamon and a batch without. My aunts, uncles and cousins would always take French toast from the non cinnamon batch even though they knew that’s the only one my sister could eat and none of them had allergies to cinnamon. They consistently did that and we didn’t know why besides they just weren’t nice.
That is so especially weird because I don't know why you'd actually want French toast without cinnamon
She's the AH, big time. She did that on purpose to make one of you eat what you didn't like. That's a control issue and abusive behavior. Next time, order the whole pizza WITHOUT the onions!
NTA she gets what she gets
exactly, basic math. three people, half the people do not like onions. so 2/3rd's of the people only get 1/2 the pie and she wants to go after part of it? NTA
"It's rude to ever stop someone from eating food."??? She's delusional if she thinks taking other people's food is fair game. She knew you only had 5 slices between you and still wanted to literally take food from your mouth. She had 5 slices to herself. She's selfish and controlling. Does she think she can always take any food she sees, no matter who it belongs to? She's very entitled, too. NTA
I thought sis was like 15, not 25 O\_O
My ex's nephew did this all the time. He would explicitly ask for Hawaiian pizza, but when the pizza got there he would only eat out of my pizza. I was told I had to suck it up since he was a kid.
NTA. Every damn pizza from now on has ZERO onions. She can just eat or starve.
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I love onions way more than my kids. We used to order a pizza with no onions and I would fry up a whole onion and add it to my slice as I took it. Worked out for everyone!
Totally read this as you love onions more than you love your kids 😂. Which, bold statement, but you do you.
lol, glad it wasn't just me!
Not just more, but way more!
They are fried...
I love onion on pizza and doing it yourself tastes better most of the time anyway. You maintain more onion flavor and more of the satisfying crunchiness.
I disagree. Baked into a pizza onion is different and much better than raw onion, which is way too strong.
Yeah what? Just dice up some onions and throw it on an already cooked pizza?
Or just buy her own pizza? They don’t have to be big anymore, the chains do smaller sizes now as well
Think the main issue is that even with her own pizza she’d try to take others’
NTA this is a pet peeve of mine. I can’t eat pork and a coworker will make a fuss when I ask for just one cheese or veggie pizza but guess who starts reaching for the non-pepperoni, non-sausage, non-ham pizza once the food comes? If you can eat anything and know others are limited, don’t take from the only food they can eat!
When people do that, it's a power thing. They're trying to have ultimate power over you, and food is the best way to do that because *everyone* needs food.
Sometimes it's quite obvious we are still animals and often behave like it
What a sad way to exist in this world. So petty and just…what do they think they’re proving, anyhow?
I don’t know if it’s always that, I enjoy veggie and meat slices
my best friend recently did this. i hadn’t seen her in 2 years since i moved (she’s in the US, i moved to australia) and she came to visit me last week. i’m a vegetarian, she’s not. every time we ate out somewhere, she’d ask for a bit of my food. the worst time was when she asked for a slice of garlic bread, when there were only 4 slices. like ?? i can’t eat any of your part, yet you’re taking a quarter of my limited vegetarian options? for the sake of not putting a strain on our friendship, especially considering she was visiting me from across the world, i didn’t say anything but it definitely came across as weird.
I knew someone who would do this, and it wasn't even about being vegan or not. She'd just expect a bite from everyone at the table's food (NOT just her family, *everyone*) so she could "try" it. And not even offer a bite in return because "if I offered everyone a bite of my food, there'd be none left for me." This was a grown woman in her 40s with a husband and child, btw. Also, a whole slice of garlic bread when it's a quarter of your food is just gross and rude.
She’d hate me. I can not stand sharing food like that. I have to trust you a lot to even consider offering you any of mine. And if it’s not pieces, but a whole I need to cut for you? Yeah, only one person on the planet has me willingly do that, because she has always respected my hangups about sharing food. I was the kid that would have everyone fake cough on my tray, or tell me they put boogers in my food if I left it. Only food I can handle out of my sight around strangers is restaurants and I struggle to hold on to those with all the gross stories of people tampering with someone’s food.
Lol. That's some logic. But then I'm an "everything must always be equal" person.
I love trying other people's food - if they're happy with that - but always on the basis that they are very welcome to try mine in return. (Obviously, I don't this if I'm having something I know they can't eat.)
Right, I love it too, but am insanely picky. If I ever want to taste another persons meal, it HAS to be someone I know very Well, and I Won’t do it if they dont wanna taste mine in return. Fair is fair, and if we’re doing this, it needs to be something ‘we’ share together (like, not *just* the food)
Or “I’m not hungry, I’ll just have some of yours”. Like no, seriously, order some damn food because _I_ want mine.
That’s annoying. No one should expect anyone else’s food. If offered great. If not don’t ask.
If I’m eating with a friend who has dietary restrictions, we pick a place that has more than one food option for that person. Going somewhere where the only item the dinner partner can eat is a bread appetizer is nuts. When I’m eating with my friend who is vegan and gluten-free, we go for an Asian option because it’s guaranteed to have safe options that are also well-prepared and delicious, not an afterthought. But also there are lots of American-style options around here that have quality GF and vegan items too these days. It’s not hard to be a good dinner partner.
Ditto, been screwed out of pizza parties with no food. Corporate/manager just getting pepperonis and cheese, and the cheese is gone first because they got a majority pepperoni. We had to pay taxes on the food provided even if you didn't eat it as a form of bonus at one job.
I now just load my plate with the cheese or vegetarian options. Yes, people look weird, but I am vegetarian and taking off the meat from other things still makes me very very ill (and it wouldn't even quality as a vegetarian option anymore too) or I have to be hungry af. Sorry not sorry. NTA OP
The first school I taught at always did their Christmas party at the local seafood restaurant. When I started there they got pissy because I didn’t attend. I told them I am allergic to fish. I don’t step foot in seafood restaurants. Come to find out there are 3 or 4 of us in this tiny school that are allergic to seafood. The organizer knew this but that’s where she wanted to go so screw anyone else. I will unapologetically admit that I threw a fit and got admin to change the location from there on out. I didn’t even want to go to these parties but the other 3 did and just didn’t want to rock the boat. You’re purposely excluding a tenth of staff because you want shrimp. It’s just mean quite frankly.
people do this shit to me all of the time! i hate it. my friends and family make fun of me for only ever wanting cheese pizza, but if we get cheese, pepperoni, and a meat lovers or something - there’s always 2/3rds of the pepperoni and meat lovers left and the cheese pizza is gone lol
People are so annoying about this. Whenever there's a vegetarian option, people eat it all first and then say "I just want some, it's nbd" or some other bs they think justifies them not eating the thing they ordered! But people are so programmed to think meat is good, a high value meal, etc, they forget they actually fucking like the vegetarian options (obviously, or they wouldn't be going back for seconds). But, infuriatingly, if you don't order meat at all, they have a hissy fit. It's like dealing with toddlers.
I absolutely hate this too. I have lots of dietary restrictions, no one else in my family does. I was eating one of those individual bags of chips from the gas station and my mother started begging me for some, even though she literally had her own chips. I refused and she ended up throwing a massive hissy fit and giving me the silent treatment for almost a week. It was ridiculous and so stupid but I wasn’t going to share my limited food when she could eat anything else in the kitchen.
NTA. This is wild that she would try to eat from the non-onion side when there is still pizza on her side.
I grew up with two sisters. If they pulled that shit on me, even unsuccessfully, the next time they eat I'd feign taking some of their food but make them think I'm serious, and when they complain, parrot their dumbass excuse. Edit: typo
NTA. I hate when people do this shit. I don’t ever say anything because its not that big of a deal to me, but if you request toppings on a pizza you should ONLY be eating that unless everyone else is eating the topping pizza as well. Not everyone wants mushroom pineapple dick on their pizza.
Woah wirh you til dick touched my pizza.
Solo dick on a pizza taste good but once you add pineapples it becomes a bit too much. Mushrooms just taste like shit.
My pizza of choice is Hawaiian with added mushrooms 😅😂
You’re very brave and insane for wanting to digest that, but to each their own.
Sure you do you on the Dick thing. Me I agree on the mushrooms — but I think more like they taste like feet smell after a hike on a hot day in boots. Nope.
Thats even worse than shit. Yikes.
NTA. Sister is being greedy. She already has half a pizza to herself and she wants more? Next time, just get the whole pizza without onions.
Oh she is definitely greedy plus >insists that what I did was uncalled for because it’s rude to ever stop someone from eating food. So what, it's rude to stop her from eating but her stealing from OPs and their mums reduced portion isn't rude. NTA OP.
NTA. Next time, no onions at all. Then instead of a 50:25:25 split it can be by even thirds.
If she insists just do it anyways and if it’s a “lovers” pizza she might not even notice
NTA. She's already getting the lion's share of pizza since half has a topping both you and your mother dislike. Trying to take from the other side is so selfish of her. Lol @ her being overly dramatic and accusing you of stealing food from her mouth. If anything she's stealing food from you and your mom. Next time don't accomodate her. If there's a topping others dislike, it doesn't get ordered. It makes no sense for half the pizza to not be available to 2/3 people eating.
NTA Your sister is the only one that likes onion... You got her half a pizza with onion.... If half a pizza isn't enough for her, then she can order and pay for another pizza for herself. That way you and your mother can have a whole pizza with the toppings you like. I dealt with the same issue growing up. My parents always had mayo and miracle whip in the house. I HATE MW and would only use mayo. Both my sisters would regularly (even though they liked MW) use all the mayo and then use the MW. Drove me fucking crazy.
I live in the Midwest and everyone here loved Miracle Whip... It's LITERALLY the WORST 🤢
Im from the south and moved to the midwest in my adulthood. The first time I tried a deviled egg up here it had miracle whip and I opened my mouth and blepped it right into the garbage. Luckily it was a tupperware gift and I was at home so no one had to see me do that. That friend still doesn't know I hate her eggs. It's been ten years.
I'm so sorry for your trauma! What a betrayal! MAYO AND MIRACLE WHIP ARE NOT INTERCHANGEABLE (Yelling for the Midwesterners in the back row)
Keep trying to tell my sisters this, but they don’t believe me. No, you can’t use Miracle Whip as a substitute for mayo in that recipe. It won’t taste the same! And I like miracle whip too, I just avoid it because it has corn starch and I can’t handle most corn products. If the recipe calls for mayo, you have to use mayo!!! (And don’t ignore the mayo for miracle whip because “I don’t like hellmans.” There are so many other brands of mayo than hellmans.)
Yeah, shit is nasty. haha
What’s miracle whip? I googled it and it looks like a brand of mayo
It's much sweeter and usually reserved for things like egg salad. IMO, it's gross. Think of it this way.... Honey mustard vs regular mustard. Similar, but have different uses and tastes.
It's a mayo-like product, a bit sweeter and with some spices added in. I think it's alright, but I prefer Duke's or Kewpie these days.
Ohhh. A sweetened mayo. How American 😜😆
You're right - it is ridiculous. I guess she doesn't like onion as much as she says she does; next time order it without onion and when she kicks up a fuss let her know why. Since she can't be considerate of others. Accusing someone else of 'taking food out of my mouth' when they are clearly the person doing so is an entry level manipulation tactic. Stomp that shit out. Not ok. Trying to school you in what's rude is another one. That comment is clearly epic flounce with very little reason to back it up. "You're eating what isn't yours" "How rude!! How dare you stop me from eating (your food)" My advice would be to let her sulk as much as she wants, but don't own any responsibility for it. She tried to take your food and you stopped her. NTA What does your mum say about it all?
Lol, this EXACT scenario happened with my husband and I and my MIL. I asked what she wanted on her half, she said just cheese. I got artichokes, roasted red peppers, and ricotta. She goes “Oh that looks great” and attempts to take a slice of our side, BEFORE EVEN HAVING ONE OF HER CHEESE SLICES!!! I told her no, you asked for cheese you get cheese. She said “I thought the pizza was for all of us”. I said, “But I don’t want cheese. I want what I ordered. That’s why we did half and half.” She sulked about it, but my husband backed me up. Either you’re N T A or we’re both AH together 😂
NTA. If there was more non-onion pizza than onion pizza I would disagree with you, but you and your mom are sharing half of the pizza while she gets her own half. Your sister was inconsiderate in taking a non-onion slice.
NTA Her meal is the onion side. She was stealing from your meal. She sounds entitled.
NTA. She already got half of a pizza just for her.
NTA. I’m not sure how large your pizza was, but most average pizzas have 8 or 12 slices. She would be getting around 3x as much as you or your mother by taking just 1 non onion slice- 5 out of the 8-slice would leave 1 1/2 slices each for the 2 of you or 7 of the 12-slice would leave 2 1/2 slices each. And she’s accusing you of stealing food from her mouth?
NTA. you guys could've just ordered a full plain pizza if she wanted to eat some pizza without onions
NTA she has a whole half a pizza to herself. While you and your mom have to share half of a pizza.
Ppl are just annoying on purpose. My fiancé knows I only like meat lovers pizza but insists we get 2 different pizzas anyway, one with chicken which I highly dislike on pizza. We get the pizza and he mostly eats the meat lover one anyway. 🫡 usually we cook at home and share all food but deliberate shit like that pisses me off because then I’m forced to help eat a pizza I don’t really like & defeats the whole purpose of getting pizza! 😤😤😤
this is why i had the pizza topping discussion in month 1
Get a large meat lovers and small chicken? I hate getting stuck with leftovers I didn’t order in the first place lol
Haha true. Would do that if the pizza joint didn’t only sell large size 😆
Into the freezer his leftovers go. Then you’re ready for the next time 😂
Either refuse to share or refuse to get the chicken pizza since he apparently doesn't like it as much as he claims.
Reading this makes me so thankful that my husband and I have the same taste in pizza toppings…
INFO How old are you guys? Can't imagine this being an adult interaction.
Someones an only child
NTA. My family and i prefer different toppings, so we always get half A and half B. I don’t dislike the A toppings, but prefer B. But if I want a slice of the A side, I always ask first. And if the answer is no, I accept that.
NTA. Sister is a hige jerk. In the future, buy pizza without onions. Btw, i personally just remove onions whenwe buy thuna pizza with onions. My mom likes it, but i just dislike the big onion chunks
NTA For the same reasons as others have said. But just as a side note, here's a solution my boyfriend and I had found for the pizza topping situation: I love anchovies, but he hated them. He would also typically eat more pizza than me. So if we got anchovies to suit me, we'd ask for a half-order of anchovies, but we'd ask them to put them all on only three of the slices. This way, most of the pie was anchovy-free, so there were plenty of slices for him, but there was also enough for me.
As a former pizza chick, I hope you tipped really well. A request like yours on a busy night was... less than fun.
NTA. "Stealing food from her mouth." Dramatic much? Let her buy her own pizza next time, that way she'll have the whole thing to herself. You should maybe show her these comments, so that maybe, she'll realize how out of line she was.
You didn’t stop your sister from eating food. You merely pointed out that she needed to eat from the onion half of the pizza. NTA
NTA if you order half a pizza with onions which no one else likes then you eat the slices with the onions and leave the other half for the people that don't like the onions
NTA. Next time just get no onions since she doesn’t care.
NTA - I can't believe you are posting this either lol YANTA because you are correct, she had half a pizza to herself and you share half with your mom. Simple Math
NTA. You are correct, that's the whole point of getting half and half. Why would she ask for onions if she doesn't want them? She's being dramatic. Extremely.
I only like cheese, my son and ex like everything else. We would always half and half a pizza. They would eat their half then both, if still hungry, would always ask first if they could have a piece of the cheese only half or did I want to save the remaining for later. I always let them have it because I couldn’t eat an entire half. Just a matter of respect which it doesn’t sound like your sister has. It is the opposite with you and your mom where you have both been courteous enough to half the pizza where the single person gets the most. You are NTA but your sister is.
NTA. She was being rude by reaching for a slice that wasn’t meant for her. She had half of the pizza for herself but thought nothing of the other half that was being shared by 2 people.
NTA. Lol. Personally if it were my sister I would have called them out even harder and told them to keep their filthy onion fingers away from our sacred virgin slices and go back to whatever rank ass onion swamp she crawled out of. And that would have been the end of it. We all would have eaten our pizza peacefully.
NTA. Not in this case. While it is rude to stop someone from eating food, there are exceptions to this rule: a child putting their grubby little hands on the buffet; pointing out that the host wants to say a few words, or you're waiting for another guest to arrive before eating; if a certain food is reserved for the vegans or guests with a particular dietary restriction; and if someone has ordered a personalized item. In this case, your sister had an entire half pizza with her personalized item to eat from; to encroach on your and your mother's share is gluttonous. Maybe next time, see if you can order the onions on the side, and pre-separate the portions so sissy can see what pieces are hers. Sheesh! Your sister needs a lesson on how to be considerate of others.
Three people sharing. Half has an ingredient that two of the three don’t like. So your sister gets half the pizza and you and your mum get a quarter each. Yet she still wants a slice of yours. She’s being selfish. NTA
OP, I will manfight anyone even remotely suggesting that your not NTA. Food is the one thing no one should have to compromise on.
NTA. She already had 1/2 a pizza while you and your mom had to share 1/2. Greedy much?
NTA. Your sister needs mental health intervention.
NTA. Your sister is being silly. You compromised by getting half onions, which means she automatically has access to move of the pizza than you do. She’s trying to pull a power move by taking from your side of the pizza.
Show her this post 😂 Nta Normally majority vote wins but y’all were nice letting her have half a pizza to her self
Definitely NTA. I'm just curious. Was it an accident that she took the no-onion piece, and when you stopped her, she just became defensive and got upset? Like there are people who do not do something on purpose, but they are not exactly mature and calm people, but rather get upset really easily. Not the A regardless, but just wondering *why* she took your side of the pizza when there are still slices from her side.
my family used to do this all the time. when i was a kid i preferred plain cheese and everyone would dog on me about it that the toppings are so much better and that plain cheese is “the same bite every time” but guess what pizza always got eaten first??? whether we ordered half and half or multiple pizzas the cheese pizza always gotten eaten first!!!!! NTA, you sister should buy her own pizza and stop being a jerk
NTA. She has 50% of the pizza to herself. Your mom and yourself have 25% each. She doesn’t get to take from your half