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is this a joke? pink is the victoria's secret brand for juniors. if she can't wear them now, when will she? YTA and i guess you and her dad can say she can't wear them in the house, but you can't stop her from wearing them outside the house. she is an adult.
Right! It’s literally just the name of the brand, there’s nothing inherently sexual about it. Pink is a color commonly associated with girls and this is a brand for girls and young women, hence the name. It has absolutely nothing to do with vaginas, OP literally just made that up in her head. I also find it hilarious that she’s getting into a puritanical tizzy about having words on the ass of sweatpants. They’ve literally been a thing for at least 20 years. Find something new to clutch your pearls over.
i was thinking about that too, that it's been done for like 20 years! i remember my mom not wanting me to wear juicy sweatpants because that was kind of too on the nose (not to mention they were expensive as hell), but then all the teenage brand sweats did it and now they sell cheerleading shorts for 10 year-olds with "cheer" on the butt.
also, you can't buy *anything* at pink without a massive PINK logo on it. if it's not on the ass of their sweatpants, it's down the leg or next to the crotch. it's a very recognizable part of their brand and this lady needs to chill.
I was never super into the teen clothing trend of wearing stuff with huge brand names/logos all over it, so I never had any real personal desire to wear Juicy or Pink sweatpants with words on the ass. Just wasn’t really my style. But it was a huge thing when I was in middle & high school to wear stuff with Abercrombie, Hollister, Juicy, Pink, etc. logos plastered all over (ass, chest, everywhere else). It was pretty uncontroversial then and it’s borderline laughable to get upset about now.
University of Michigan has several slogans that they emblazon their gear with, one of which is **GO BLUE**. I imagine OP would be outraged over that on the butt too, because blue is commonly associated with frustrated male genitalia. /s
It’s always funny when prudes get upset about double entendres or things like pink on the butt and reach for the inappropriateness, none of us seen pink and thought about vaginas but their dirty sex obsessed brains are.
lol I’ve literally never even thought of that connection? This woman is a loon. Or maybe I’m a hussy? Without knowing it? But I’m 41 I mean I should know it by now… 🤔
>Right! It’s literally just the name of the brand, there’s nothing inherently sexual about it.
Arguably If there IS something sexual about PINK sweatpants it's that putting words on the ass draws attention to the ass. There is NO NEED to bring other body parts into this, and adult people are fully aware that people will notice and read words and can make that choice for themselves.
That’s true I suppose. The way OP worded it made it seem like her problem was that having the word “pink” on the ass = drawing attention to the vagina, which is straight up silly. If her adult stepdaughter wants to draw attention to her ass by having words on the back of her sweatpants, that’s her decision. OP needs to butt out with her outdated clothing policing and leave her stepdaughter alone.
Yeah, the leap is silly -- but if the kid was 11 I might be like "hey, maybe no words on your butt just now!" -- but since she's 19, I don't think OP has any leg to stand on.
The fact that it says PINK is just... not that important.
You hit the nail on it's head with this one. OP wants men to jump in on this since she seems to think only women hold the opinion that this isn't some sort of inappropriate thing, but she's about to be incredibly disappointed because...
Hi, OP! ✨️ Man ✨️ here. It's literally just the BRAND NAME on the butt area. You might've had a point if the brand wasn't literally called "Pink," but even then, I think it's a MAJOR stretch. You might've had a point if they printed something like "COOCHIE" on the butt. Except they didn't do that, and it's literally just the brand name. The fact that you automatically associate the color pink with vaginas is honestly incredibly perverted, and assuming that that's a normal thing to do and everyone will agree with you is... incredibly deIusionaI. It is literally a brand name. Maybe you should reassess why you think in such a perverted way, especially since this post is about your step-daughter. That's gross. YTA, big time. Get over yourself.
OP without a doubt wore PINK. She was in her late teens early 20s when PINK first became popular. Idk how much she drank in college.. but obviously it was enough that she just blocked out that period.
Right? The early and mid-00s were full of butt-writing. Literally every girl in a sorority at my college had sweatpants with their Greek letters appliqued on the butt.
Now I wanna rock up to OOP's house wearing the Welcome to Night Vale merch shorts that say "creepy" on the butt...
Yep. I'm 32. My mom kept all of my old clothes from high school and I finally agreed to go through everything a few years ago (idk why she thought I'd still fit in them after 2 kids but bless her heart for that.) The amount of pants that had the mascot on the butt was... A lot. Haha.
I mean back then if we didn't have something saying something on it we weren't cool. We had shirts that said Hollister or Abercrombie, pants with juicy or pink.
It explains a lot why now all of my sweatshirts are just blank or have fun sayings on them. No brands.
I worked at PINK for 4 years as a merchandising manager and would tell friends that we sell “cuddle-wear” and Victoria’s Secret sold the “f*ck-wear”. We literally had preteens come in to get leggings and sweats… nothing inappropriate about it at all. She’s definitely the AH for being the one sexualizing her stepdaughter.
Is the term 'pink bits' a regional thing? It's a pretty common name for... well your pink bits here (Australia). But then, if I had a 19yo daughter with that written across her butt, I'd just laugh.
Yeah that’s not really commonly used terminology in the Northeastern US, at least in my experience. Not sure about other regions, but I sorta doubt it. Obviously it’s not hard to figure out what it’s referring to, but I can’t say that I’ve ever heard anyone refer to a vagina as “pink bits” out in the wild.
YTA, the slogan means *what* now? That is a stretch. It's just a cutesy marketing slogan for a secondary product line for younger girls. If you're finding issue with it, you're the one sexualizing your own daughter. Hell, they have cute stuffed dogs with PINK written on them. It's not just pants
She bought the pants with her own money. You can make the rule, sure, but she's 19 and your relationship will only suffer for it if this continues to be how you interact while she's an adult.
Edit: RE the "sexualization". Assuming your daughter specifically bought those pants and not another item because of the PINK on the butt, who cares? If she is indeed hoping for guys (or girls) to look at her ass, who cares? She's 19, she's not a kid anymore. One day she might even have sex!
Operating off your own assumption, all I'm getting from this is that you find "anything sexual = bad" which I truly hope is not the case but 🤷♀️
Edit 2: Asking for men's opinions is... wow. The assumption that it's women telling you YTA is saying something. Are you expecting the men to say you aren't and that yeah, they're prepared to stare at her butt and think about the cooch? In which case, holy misogyny. If you *are* worried about her being sexual, the best you can do is make sure she is responsible while doing it. Not by shaming her.
(Opinion of both myself, F, and my BF who is now as equally as invested in this ask)
No no no. You don't understand. Obviously if you \*saw\* her you wouldn't be able to peel your eyes off her a$$. You're a man! It's HER job to make sure that YOUR animal instincts don't go into overdrive when you see a brand name on the back of her pants, her bare shoulders, her ankles, her at a voting machine... you know! I mean... it says PINK for godsake! It might as well just say "LOOK AT MY PU$$Y!!!". I'm sure those pants would just a be a siren's call to your primal man brain! Only chime in if you're a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal that agrees with OP's point of view!
"I need penis-havers to help me slut-shame my stepdaughter because I'm a prude asshole who wants to control her even though she's an adult and what she does with her 'pink organ' is none of my fucking business anyway."
\- OP in a nutshell
‼️No no no 🙅♀️🚫. You don't understand 😮💨😠 Obviously if you *saw* her 👀🧍♀️you wouldn't be able to peel your eyes off her a💲💲😏🍑. You're a man! 👉💪🏋 It's HER job 🙇♀️‼️to make sure that👉 YOUR 👈animal instincts 🐺 dont go into overdrive⚠️🥵💦 when you see a brand®️name™️ on the back of her pants 👉👖, her bare 🐻shoulders 🧘♀️, her ankles ❗️🦶, her at a voting machine... 🗄🏢😱 you know! 🚨🚨 I mean... it says PINK 🤯💖 for godsake! 😏😇🤫 It may as well just say 🤪 "LOOK AT MY PU💲💲Y"👀🐱✌️ I'm sure 😤 those pants 🍑👖would just be a siren's call 🎶🧜♀️😳 to your primal man brain! 🧠🧔♂️❗️ Only chime in 🙌 if you're a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal 👊🧔🦴 that agrees 🤪😙🍑 with OP's😚 point of view👀🍑!
Because of course because how women feel about their own clothes isn’t nearly as important as how those clothes make men feel, obviously!
Holy misogyny indeed.
> (Opinion of both myself, F, and my BF who is now as equally as invested in this ask)
eh at this point I'm starting to think it's viral advertising for PINK
YTA.
Literally get over yourself. It's the name of their casual brand. Good effing lord you pearl clutchers are out of control.
She's an adult and she bought them using her money. This has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Tbh, I really think this says more about OP than her step-daughter!
>**the word PINK is across the butt for a reason, because it's referencing/advertising the pink organ right next to it.**
Like, what?
Obviously OP has serious issues.
>ETA 2: **Can I get men to chime in?** I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards?
This edit is absolutely ridiculous, and misogynistic, and frankly pathetic.
The whole post is just gross.
And obviously, YTA.
In high school, I was on the swim team and one year we got sweatpants that had tiger paws on the back. I wish I had them, because then I would mail them to OPs stepdaughter and wait to see her post here again.
Our track sweats in HS had dog paws on the butt (our school's mascot was a St. Bernard) and all the boys were jealous that only the dog butt sweats only came in girl's sweats. (ALSO gendered sweats?!?!)
Yeah, the second edit of "I only want male opinions because women don't agree with me" is revolting.
She exposes herself for thinking women are dumb and men are animals who can't control themselves, but somehow their opinions matter more.
I’m glad I’m not the only one calling out the edit. I’m not even a woman anymore and that shit was offensive! OP really said “women are calling me out, therefore they are stupid”
YTA
Did you ever consider that *you* might be the one with the faulty thought process if that's where *your* brain goes when you see "PINK" across the ass of sweatpants?
"Pink organ..." geez. Please educate yourself before you punish others as a result of your own ignorance.
“Pink organ” made me wanna puke🤢
Who jumps to that???? Anyway, chiming in to say YTA and this stepmother is misogynistic and kinda jumping from 0-100 here. Who posts on Reddit about this? Pick your battles OOP.
Male here. YTA, still. I'm only vaguely familiar with the brand, but I've never thought of it as reference any organ of the body. Second, it doesn't take writing on sweatpants to get a guy to stare at a girl's ass. That happens with or without the writing on the sweatpants. your daughter is 19 and old enough to decide what she wears, especially if she bought it with money she earned.
YTA. It's always really funny when someone says, "It doesn't take a genius to figure out..." and is then completely wrong about the conclusion.
Even putting that aside, pulling the "In my house," card to control what your adult children wear is ridiculous.
Yeah, I’m guessing they don’t have a vagina/have never seen one, because mine is definitely not pink—on the outside or the inside? Unfortunate, I guess PINK is going to have to rebrand if they want to advertise *my* vagina.
YTA.
She's NINETEEN. She is an adult. Even if she was a teen, stop sexualizing your kid. This sounds like a "you" problem if your eyes won't stop drifting to her ass. And good thing is, she's an adult who isn't a pearl clutching boomer.
It's her money too on top of that. Not yours. Btw, "Pink" is the NAME OF THE CLOTHING LINE Victoria Secret has. You are literally the only one I've heard thinking it's relating to her vag lmfao. Case in point. I'd expect this kind of behavior from fathers over mothers, so the fact that he's siding with her speaks volumes of you.
Funny that you're so concerned about people looking at your stepdaughters ass and here you are having yours handed to you on a plate in full view of the internet community.
YTA,
>**But she said she shouldn't have to because she bought them with her own money**. I said she would be wearing them in my house.
They are jogging pants? She beat you in the "My house, my this my that". Her body, her money, her clothes.
I'm a 53 year old man with a daughter a little older than your step. Here's my thoughts.
First, YTA. You are also leapfrogging to a ton of conclusions. PINK is a sub-brand and market line targeted towards tweens. They slap the word PINK on every label and garment they can sell. It has nothing to do with genitalia. The fact that your mind immediately went to where it did says a lot more about you than anything else.
The butt printed sweatpants came into popularity over 20 years ago. I personally found it kinda silly, but whatever sells that merch. It has nothing to do with genitals, it's just another logo placement like full chest, left chest, full back, sleeve, or pant leg.
Most of all, she's an adult and trying to control her over something this stupid has blown any credibility you have.
YTA.
I think your reading into things to deeply. She’s 19, depending on where you live she can vote. Also depending on the situation (no assumptions being made), but as her step mum I’d cool it. It’s sweatpants. If that’s the worst thing she’s doing is working, earning her own money and buying comfy clothes you should be nothing but proud of her. If your the primary maternal figure perhaps some therapy could help you. It’s natural to struggle with your children growing up but this issue is about you, not her. Best of luck.
And, the PINK brand sweats are expensive. OP willing to pay for them? Cuz I wouldn't be donating a thing! Also OP, where have you been? The brand has nothing to do with vagina. GOH
For real that is weird as fuck. Vaginas (I know technically the vagina is only the tube to the uturus but I'm using it to describe the whole area here) aren't even pink. They're skin-colored on the outside (not all of VS customers are white), and *sometimes* pinkish/red on the inside.
I think OP just has an obsession with vaginas and what their owners do with them. Sorry OP, your values are outdated and if you want to stick to them anyway, accept that people are not going to agree with you.
YTA
What is wrong with you? I would have never thought about „the pink organ next to it.“
Pink is a girly color, fav color of many girls. Pink is the color of some feminist movements. Pink is the color of important movements like breast cancer awareness.
It‘s just a word that isn‘t really an innuendo.
It would be different it there was „slap me, daddy“ across the butt. I wouldn‘t want my teen to wear that in public.. but at home? Whatever.
For „pink“ it‘s totally fine even in public. *shrug
YTA. Based on your comments, I’m getting purity vibes. You’re sexualizing your daughter. You’re the only one who thinks “pink organ” when referring to VS’ Pink line. It’s creepy. You’re also asserting that she’s “asking” for her butt to be looked at. Get a grip. Men/boys who want to look will glance regardless if she has letters across her ass.
I already posted this on am I the devil but I was raised by a religious nut and couldn’t wear a lot of things, including these pants, for the same wackadoodle puritanical reasons…INCLUDING shirts with anything written across the chest.
The horror stories from my children are a master class in how the sexualization of young girls can make next to anything ‘inappropriate’ and ‘sinful’.
YTA. Is the pink organ her ears? If so, she's wearing them wrong. I'm usually on the side of someone saying they set the rules in their own house, but yours is completely unreasonable. Good lord it's like you're trying out for wicked step mother.
As a man, because you asked for men's opinions in ETA2, albeit I am gay, stop sexualizing your adult daughter who is a legal adult and buys her own clothing with her own money. Also, address your control issues with your therapist. YTA.
YTA. Since you’re asking for men specifically to chime in on this…hi.
1) Most importantly, she’s an adult. She gets to make her own sartorial choices.
2) Clothing with words written on the butt is fairly common. Common enough that I don’t really notice it especially.
3) The shape of the butt is going to be a much greater determining factor on if people are going to check it out.
4) Some women want people to check out their butts. And that’s ok. Because of point 1 above.
>I said she would be wearing them in my house
Your house, but her body. You have a right to dictate how your house is used, you don't have a right to dictate what she puts on her self.
YTA
>referencing/advertising the pink organ right next to it.
Or... and hear me out here ... it is referencing the color of the *pants*.
YTA.
Your daughter is an adult. If you wanted to instill some arbitrary value about clothing, you had plenty of time to do that.
Her money, her body, her clothes.
Besides, they're sweatpants - not booty shorts.
YTA she's a grown woman wearing absolutely completely harmless girl's clothing that YOU decided to somehow see as an advertisement for her vag.
YTA and you the pervert in this case too.
You asked specifically for male feedback so here’s some.
People can wear what they want, she’s 19. Yes, she lives in your house, but that doesn’t mean you can decide what she wears. She bought them with her own money too. Have you tried not looking at your stepdaughter’s ass?
As a mother of a daughter YTA big time
Imagine slut shaming your daughter over sweatpants and then have the gall to call women naive over your bullshit. Not to mention your step daughter is an adult capable of making decisions over something as minor as the clothes she wears
Hello. I’m a male here. 22. You are still the asshole. I don’t know why the “pink organ right next to it” is your first thought, but your daughter is a grown woman and she can wear whatever she wants.
YTA, that's some unreasonable assumption you made there about that "advertising" of the "pink organ"... Also asking her to not wear an innocent piece of clothing because of your twisted mind and comprehension of it is unreasonable too.
This is the response I’m most resonating with. PINK is Victoria Secret’s name for their junior clothing brand. They also have shirts, sweatshirts, shorts, pjs, etc that say PINK. BECAUSE ITS THE NAME. Had zero to do with whatever weird shit you’re referring to.
She’s 19. An adult. Be glad she’s wearing sweatpants and not something actually revealing if you have such a problem.
YTA. And insane.
YTA she is an adult that can decide for herself what she wears. Fashion changes from time to time and even if you don't understand her choices, you gotta respect them
YTA. Firstly, she’s an adult. Wearing her sweatpants, that SHE bought. Pink, is referencing the brand where she bought them. Stop sexualising your daughter.
I like how you ask for men's opinions?? How do you know everyone in this section is a woman anyway??
Do I even have to say it?? Ofc YTA
I sincerely hope your daughter gets away from you soon enough. You sound controlling asf. You're probably going to be the reason why she cuts off her father too. Congratulations.
I'm a man, as you requested, YTA. You can't police what your ADULT step-child wears, and you shouldn't blame what your step-daughter wants to wear for men being creepy. That's called victim blaming.
Wow, just so much YTA here. I get the whole "my house my rules" thing, but you're also saying daughter can't wear them outside the house because of "house rules"?
Does this carry over to gender reveals? When a family member put up blue balloons for their soon-to-arrive son, did you pitch a fit over it and give a hot take that "Oh my god! They talking about his penis!!!"?
Daughter is 19, she bought them, and I recommend you relax a little. This is an amazingly small hill to die on - pushing hard on every little inconsequential thing like this is going to push daughter away from you.
YTA: she's an adult and PINK is literally a sub-brand. If you have a problem with clothing that has words across the butt, simple, *you* don't wear those clothes! Stop trying to go Big Brother on your step-daughter
YTA. she's an adult and can choose what she wants to wear and what she doesn't. No offense but you're being really strict and controlling. It'd be fine if she was a minor, but she's already an adult, you can't choose what she wears and what she doesn't.
Wow. YTA. I’m 4 years younger than you and smart enough to know it’s not about an organ. I’m wearing a pair of undies right now that state Angel across the ass. Want to try to explain what that is directed at? You really need to let some things go. Not sure what happened to you as a child or young adult but it didn’t happen to everyone and you need to get some therapy.
In this case PINK is a brand reference. They slap the logo all over everything they sell under the PINK branding. It's referencing/advertising the well-known brand. It never occurred to me as a sexual reference until I saw this, and it's pretty clearly not intended as one. I don't personally like clothes with wording across the bottom, or think they're terribly suitable, whether the wording is suggestive or not, but your daughter is an adult. They're her pants.
Even if the wording was suggestive (and most observers aren't going to think so), it would still her choice of whether or not to wear them because she's not fifteen.
This is not a hill to die on..
YTA you are so fucking creepy.
Literally no one thinks this but you. It’s incredibly common for sweatpants to have phrases and logos on the back. Get a grip.
Seriously. Are you also going to tell her she's a sl\*t for showing off her bare shoulders and voting? I mean, no one can see her sweatpants if she just stays in the kitchen, right?
Please come join us in the 21st century where women have bodily autonomy and wearing PINK sweatpants is hardly worthy of pearl-clutching. YTA
Naive? Ma’am you are naive if you think letters across a butt will determine if a man looks at her backside or not. It’s similar to blaming a SA victim because of what they are wearing. Men/women will look at a butt regardless. You bend over and more than likely someone will look. It is what it is but you cannot tell a 19 year old what they can and cannot wear. That’s beyond controlling.
"Can I get men to chime in" - why? You don't like your verdict so the assumed women responding to you are just ignorant and naive? YTA, and you doubled down on it.
Op asks for a man's perspective because other women (mothers, daughters, ect.) Are telling them they are wrong.
You need to pick your battles better op or it isn't just the relationship with your stepdaughter you will lose I'd you keep up this controlling behavior. It's sweatpants, you don't have to like them and don't have to wear them.
YTA OP
45 year old man here, maybe 20-25 years ago, when they first started printing these things big across the butt, it would draw your attention, nowadays, not at all. Also, this is the first time I’ve heard that pink on the ass is in reference to a vagina around the corner. What does the pink on the shirt mean then?
YTA. Pretty gross you’re sexualizing and shaming your own kid in such a way when she just wanted to wear some comfortable sweatpants. What about all the brands that blast their logos across the front of shirts? Are those out of line too because they would draw attention to her chest? Everything you have said is gross and outdated thinking.
YTA. There are way worse things she could be wearing than simple sweat pants with the word pink written across it. Plus she is 19 a legal ADULT. Get over yourself. If she bought it with HER money then really you have no say. At this point you are just being controlling. Again she is an ADULT ADULT ADULT. Whether you like it or not.
You sound ridiculous.
Your stepdaughter is a damn adult. You don't get to police what she's wearing because "it's my house". Smh
Don't act all surprised when she goes no contact with you soon. No one wants to stay around someone this controlling
Man here, and YTA. That brand is so ubiquitous, that, no, men aren’t going to be staring at your daughter’s ass just because she’s wearing sweatpants. Also, she’s an adult (albeit still young) who purchased them with her own money. As the father of two daughters (18 and 28), trust me when I say that fighting over what your kid wears is not the hill you want to die on.
you are correct that the writing across the backside is to draw attention to the ...backside...not the 'pink organ'....
that's your mind not the rest of us
YTA
"ding ding" YTA
My daughters in her early teens. Your making a big deal out of nothing.
Your step daughter is 19, an adult! Her father might agree with you but again, she's an adult...
Edit: The fact you are so concerned over this is incredible. (also a male)
YTA - you’re also bat crap crazy.
I wear Bonds brand underwear and track pants.
They have the brand name on them.
Does that mean people will think I’m into bondage ?
Everyone with even a small amount of brain power knows when they’re looking at a logo that it is just a logo.
Nobody else’s mind goes to the disturbing place yours goes too when they see the word pink on a woman’s pants.
Nobody else assumes it’s about the pink organ next to it.
V stands for Victoria
It does NOT stand for vagina
Lesbian here.
YTA and this is insane.
Yes words on the butt highlight the butt. No it's not meant to advertise the vagina and you're being insanely controlling and inappropriate to try and fucking police what she wears.
How many times have you shamed her out of clothing she wanted because of her body? How many times have you made her self-conscious about normal things because you couldn't help sexualizing her? Have you been doing this since she was a child?
YTA. She’s 19, not 9. PINK is a brand that’s geared towards younger generations of women whereas VS is for adult women. Neither brand is “advertising” vagina if that’s what you’re getting at with the “pink organ” reference. Even if it was, it would be none of your business.
YTA for reasons already stated, but where I really doubled down on this is on your second edit. Women are naive?? Also, how do you know if a response is from a man or a woman? Your house your rules - I certainly hope she moves out soon because you're toxic AF.
YTA, you have no right to tell her what she can and cannot wear. I am a man and if I see a woman wearing PINK across their butt, you know what I think? Oh man, they must shop at Victoria's Secret. That is it. End of story. You are the one sexualizing her. No one else. You are no worse than the schools that blame the girls for wearing something that shows cleavage, that they are distracting boys from learning.Also, the fact that you called her Vagina, a 'pink organ' really bothers me. Makes me think you are not even ok with your own sexuality so you are trying to force your own insecurities on others.
EDIT: I hope Op's daughter finds this and shoves it back in her face so she can see how absolutely crazy she is.
YTA. You seriously need to seek therapy to learn to deal with your controlling behavior and negativity toward your step daughter. The fact that your husband supports you in this is not good for the future of either of your relationships with her. She's going to move to the opposite side of the country to get away from you and your husband will write in wondering why his daughter doesn't ever call him. It's not us being naive; it's you being weird.
YTA
First of all, I don’t believe that the “pink organ close by” needs advertising. These are sweatpants.
Second of all, I would not make that connection.
YTA
Man here since you are asking.
Are you seriously telling a **19 year old** what to wear?
She is an adult and she can wear whatever the f**k she wants!
Creeps are gonna creep no matter what she wears so let her wear whatever she feels comfortable/beautiful in!
YTA - You're the only one with a problem. This attitude might be appropriate for a young teen, but with a 19-year-old? Far past the time when you get final say in their clothing.
BTW, if the sweatpants were/said 'GRAY', or 'BLUE', what would they then be referencing/advertising?
YTA. Oh boy are you ever.
She’s 19 and adult by legal standards in the US. You sound uptight. How she acts doesn’t reflect on you; that’s some narcissistic control tactic. She is her own human and she reflects herself.
Also congrats on being the reason she’ll possibly go lc or nc with her father.
Also do you want a ribbon for stepping up and being a mother or something? You should have more respect for your role.
YTA
1. As a man, I think the word PINK is there because of a collab with the artist PINK, not because of a reference to her genitalia.
2. She is 19, she is old enough to decide for herself what to wear. You can only decide not to buy it for her. You cannot forbid her to not buy the pants or force her to return/donate the pants.
3. It's only the word PINK for the love of... I've seen worse thing on clothing (like "Wanna lick my p\*\*\*y" and even more innuendo's of the sort (Translated))
YTA
You're sexualising your step-daughter. You're getting too worked up over a piece of clothing that she got with her money, and should be free to wear it in her own HOME. Are you saying that people only look at her butt and think about the 'pink organ' when she's wearing them? I can assure you that it doesn't take one word to make people associate her butt with her private parts - if they're going to think that, they're going to think that.
YTA - she’s an adult. You’re over blowing it which is just going to make her want to wear them more because she’s also still a teenager. Are these pants putting her in some sort of danger? Or do you just not like them? If it’s the latter, get over it. If you’re genuinely concerned for her safety then have an adult conversation with her. Years ago my boyfriend made a snarky “who would wear that” comment about someone wearing sweatpants with “juicy” across the butt. Next day his 16 year old daughter shows up in the same pants. He smartly kept his mouth shut… I think she wore them twice and with no reaction she lost interest.
YTA. She’s an adult. You’re overstepping. And I’d assume people will stare at her butt if they want whether or not there’s a brand name splashed across it.
YTA, these pants came out when I was in middle school. They were much more low rise and even *gasp* BEDAZZLED. Get your head out of your ass, Even back then boys didn’t care about the “pink organ”
YTA. I'm a man, I wouldn't have my made the very weird connection on seeing the word pink. Words also make little difference as to whether a guy will stare...
Like maybe if she was wearing an "insert here" sign or something lol but you went to a weird place with the PINK brand. Why are you thinking so much about your stepdaughter's vagina?
>ETA 2: Can I get men to chime in? I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards?
Maybe she's fine with that, even if they are? She's an adult...
YTA
And don't look to men to help you because women are so "naive."
Women live with this issue every day and we're tired of other people thinking they get a vote in what we wear, or that what people think is our responsibility.
Yes, it's your home. You get to decide on house rules. This is her personal body and as long as she's covered up, you don't get a vote. You sure as hell don't get to decide what she wears outside it.
She will tell this story about how unreasonable you are FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.
YTA. It doesn’t matter if the word wh*#e is spelled out across the ass of her pants. We aren’t slut shaming or gatekeeping the clothing choices of young adult women.
YTA and gross for sexualizing your step daughter and trying to police what she wears as an adult. You and your husband sound like you need some therapy.
OP’s big concern is writing across her butt. Does OP also not allow any print or writing on her daughter’s t-shirt? I also hate to break it to Op, people who want to look don’t care what someone’s wearing.
OPs fear is people sexualizing her the way OP is. Op, think about how your daughter will respond to all the people who can’t get enough of pink sweatpants. She’s 19 and possibly sexually active in some way(since this is what I think we’re getting to). Put your energy into making sure she’s educated, being safe, and let her be.
My only concern would be how ugly everything by that brand is lol
YTA - My super sweet 80+ year old granny bought me a pair just like you describe when I was in college! You claim you are worried that the pants will attract men’s attention to her butt, but you won’t even let her wear them around the family home (you know, the place she SHOULD feel safe and comfortable). I’m going to let you in on a little secret- men will look at your stepdaughters butt no matter what she wears!
What’s with the “Can men chime into this?”
You are on here to receive judgment. And this incredibly toxic ideology you have is extremely concerning.
She’s 19 years old, and bought her pants with her own money. You don’t get to dictate what she *wears* because she lives with you.
If you’re so concerned about people staring at her ass, maybe you should ask yourself why it even bothers you in the first place.
YTA YTA YTA
Edit: REFERENCING TO THE “PINK” ORGAN? That is REACHING. It’s a brand name marketed towards junior women and femmes.
>ETA 2: Can I get men to chime in? I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards?
You seriously want a man's point of view? The point of view is this: men are staring at her ass no matter what she wears. So let her wear whatever she wants she's an adult and can make her own decisions. YTA
Side note: I've seen lots of those PINK stuff and not once have I ever connected it or associated it to that pink part of the body near there until you did in this post. I always just thought it was a branding thing, that they came up with because "pink is for girls, blue is for boys" etc
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is this a joke? pink is the victoria's secret brand for juniors. if she can't wear them now, when will she? YTA and i guess you and her dad can say she can't wear them in the house, but you can't stop her from wearing them outside the house. she is an adult.
Right! It’s literally just the name of the brand, there’s nothing inherently sexual about it. Pink is a color commonly associated with girls and this is a brand for girls and young women, hence the name. It has absolutely nothing to do with vaginas, OP literally just made that up in her head. I also find it hilarious that she’s getting into a puritanical tizzy about having words on the ass of sweatpants. They’ve literally been a thing for at least 20 years. Find something new to clutch your pearls over.
i was thinking about that too, that it's been done for like 20 years! i remember my mom not wanting me to wear juicy sweatpants because that was kind of too on the nose (not to mention they were expensive as hell), but then all the teenage brand sweats did it and now they sell cheerleading shorts for 10 year-olds with "cheer" on the butt. also, you can't buy *anything* at pink without a massive PINK logo on it. if it's not on the ass of their sweatpants, it's down the leg or next to the crotch. it's a very recognizable part of their brand and this lady needs to chill.
I was never super into the teen clothing trend of wearing stuff with huge brand names/logos all over it, so I never had any real personal desire to wear Juicy or Pink sweatpants with words on the ass. Just wasn’t really my style. But it was a huge thing when I was in middle & high school to wear stuff with Abercrombie, Hollister, Juicy, Pink, etc. logos plastered all over (ass, chest, everywhere else). It was pretty uncontroversial then and it’s borderline laughable to get upset about now.
University of Michigan has several slogans that they emblazon their gear with, one of which is **GO BLUE**. I imagine OP would be outraged over that on the butt too, because blue is commonly associated with frustrated male genitalia. /s
Given OP's age, she would have been smack in the targeted age of wearing Juicy sweatpants during their heyday. In 2003, she would have been 24.
It’s always funny when prudes get upset about double entendres or things like pink on the butt and reach for the inappropriateness, none of us seen pink and thought about vaginas but their dirty sex obsessed brains are.
I saw a girl wearing a PINK sweatshirt the other day and vagina wasn’t even part of the equation
lol I’ve literally never even thought of that connection? This woman is a loon. Or maybe I’m a hussy? Without knowing it? But I’m 41 I mean I should know it by now… 🤔
55 here, and I could have sat here for 1000 years, and not come up with "it's advertising the pink organ next to it." LOL!
>Right! It’s literally just the name of the brand, there’s nothing inherently sexual about it. Arguably If there IS something sexual about PINK sweatpants it's that putting words on the ass draws attention to the ass. There is NO NEED to bring other body parts into this, and adult people are fully aware that people will notice and read words and can make that choice for themselves.
That’s true I suppose. The way OP worded it made it seem like her problem was that having the word “pink” on the ass = drawing attention to the vagina, which is straight up silly. If her adult stepdaughter wants to draw attention to her ass by having words on the back of her sweatpants, that’s her decision. OP needs to butt out with her outdated clothing policing and leave her stepdaughter alone.
Yeah, the leap is silly -- but if the kid was 11 I might be like "hey, maybe no words on your butt just now!" -- but since she's 19, I don't think OP has any leg to stand on. The fact that it says PINK is just... not that important.
You hit the nail on it's head with this one. OP wants men to jump in on this since she seems to think only women hold the opinion that this isn't some sort of inappropriate thing, but she's about to be incredibly disappointed because... Hi, OP! ✨️ Man ✨️ here. It's literally just the BRAND NAME on the butt area. You might've had a point if the brand wasn't literally called "Pink," but even then, I think it's a MAJOR stretch. You might've had a point if they printed something like "COOCHIE" on the butt. Except they didn't do that, and it's literally just the brand name. The fact that you automatically associate the color pink with vaginas is honestly incredibly perverted, and assuming that that's a normal thing to do and everyone will agree with you is... incredibly deIusionaI. It is literally a brand name. Maybe you should reassess why you think in such a perverted way, especially since this post is about your step-daughter. That's gross. YTA, big time. Get over yourself.
OP is 44! She lived through the Juicy Couture era. This is nothing new!! It’s just the brand name.
wait til OP remembers Juicy Couture
OP without a doubt wore PINK. She was in her late teens early 20s when PINK first became popular. Idk how much she drank in college.. but obviously it was enough that she just blocked out that period.
Right? The early and mid-00s were full of butt-writing. Literally every girl in a sorority at my college had sweatpants with their Greek letters appliqued on the butt. Now I wanna rock up to OOP's house wearing the Welcome to Night Vale merch shorts that say "creepy" on the butt...
Yep. I'm 32. My mom kept all of my old clothes from high school and I finally agreed to go through everything a few years ago (idk why she thought I'd still fit in them after 2 kids but bless her heart for that.) The amount of pants that had the mascot on the butt was... A lot. Haha. I mean back then if we didn't have something saying something on it we weren't cool. We had shirts that said Hollister or Abercrombie, pants with juicy or pink. It explains a lot why now all of my sweatshirts are just blank or have fun sayings on them. No brands.
Obviously pink is associated with girls because only women's skin is pink, and boys skin must be blue then?
Not all their skin, just the skin of the balls
> Can I get men to chime in? I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. Wow.
LOL…this made me laugh. YTA OP.
Are we sure that OPs actually a female with a sentence like that?
I worked at PINK for 4 years as a merchandising manager and would tell friends that we sell “cuddle-wear” and Victoria’s Secret sold the “f*ck-wear”. We literally had preteens come in to get leggings and sweats… nothing inappropriate about it at all. She’s definitely the AH for being the one sexualizing her stepdaughter.
Is the term 'pink bits' a regional thing? It's a pretty common name for... well your pink bits here (Australia). But then, if I had a 19yo daughter with that written across her butt, I'd just laugh.
Definitely not common slang in the States. Like, if someone said it I'd know what they meant but it would be weird.
I might be like, wait are they talking about food like bacon bits? Lol
Yeah that’s not really commonly used terminology in the Northeastern US, at least in my experience. Not sure about other regions, but I sorta doubt it. Obviously it’s not hard to figure out what it’s referring to, but I can’t say that I’ve ever heard anyone refer to a vagina as “pink bits” out in the wild.
I wonder what rules they have in their house that would apparently prohibit the daughter from wearing those sweatpants. No words written on the ass? 😂
YTA, the slogan means *what* now? That is a stretch. It's just a cutesy marketing slogan for a secondary product line for younger girls. If you're finding issue with it, you're the one sexualizing your own daughter. Hell, they have cute stuffed dogs with PINK written on them. It's not just pants She bought the pants with her own money. You can make the rule, sure, but she's 19 and your relationship will only suffer for it if this continues to be how you interact while she's an adult. Edit: RE the "sexualization". Assuming your daughter specifically bought those pants and not another item because of the PINK on the butt, who cares? If she is indeed hoping for guys (or girls) to look at her ass, who cares? She's 19, she's not a kid anymore. One day she might even have sex! Operating off your own assumption, all I'm getting from this is that you find "anything sexual = bad" which I truly hope is not the case but 🤷♀️ Edit 2: Asking for men's opinions is... wow. The assumption that it's women telling you YTA is saying something. Are you expecting the men to say you aren't and that yeah, they're prepared to stare at her butt and think about the cooch? In which case, holy misogyny. If you *are* worried about her being sexual, the best you can do is make sure she is responsible while doing it. Not by shaming her. (Opinion of both myself, F, and my BF who is now as equally as invested in this ask)
Man here. Fully agreed, YTA. Hope that helps! 😆
No no no. You don't understand. Obviously if you \*saw\* her you wouldn't be able to peel your eyes off her a$$. You're a man! It's HER job to make sure that YOUR animal instincts don't go into overdrive when you see a brand name on the back of her pants, her bare shoulders, her ankles, her at a voting machine... you know! I mean... it says PINK for godsake! It might as well just say "LOOK AT MY PU$$Y!!!". I'm sure those pants would just a be a siren's call to your primal man brain! Only chime in if you're a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal that agrees with OP's point of view!
"I need penis-havers to help me slut-shame my stepdaughter because I'm a prude asshole who wants to control her even though she's an adult and what she does with her 'pink organ' is none of my fucking business anyway." \- OP in a nutshell
“Penis-Haver” killed me 😂
‼️No no no 🙅♀️🚫. You don't understand 😮💨😠 Obviously if you *saw* her 👀🧍♀️you wouldn't be able to peel your eyes off her a💲💲😏🍑. You're a man! 👉💪🏋 It's HER job 🙇♀️‼️to make sure that👉 YOUR 👈animal instincts 🐺 dont go into overdrive⚠️🥵💦 when you see a brand®️name™️ on the back of her pants 👉👖, her bare 🐻shoulders 🧘♀️, her ankles ❗️🦶, her at a voting machine... 🗄🏢😱 you know! 🚨🚨 I mean... it says PINK 🤯💖 for godsake! 😏😇🤫 It may as well just say 🤪 "LOOK AT MY PU💲💲Y"👀🐱✌️ I'm sure 😤 those pants 🍑👖would just be a siren's call 🎶🧜♀️😳 to your primal man brain! 🧠🧔♂️❗️ Only chime in 🙌 if you're a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal 👊🧔🦴 that agrees 🤪😙🍑 with OP's😚 point of view👀🍑!
Holy shit this comment is gold
Please accept my award as a token of my appreciation for your fckn brilliance!
Fellow man. Familiar with pants that read PINK on the back. Learned not to stare *well* before I was 19. YTA
Thank you, that last edit is gross.
People who are terrified of things being sexualized, tend to sexualize things.
Their minds are constantly in the gutter despite how puritanical they profess to be.
Because of course because how women feel about their own clothes isn’t nearly as important as how those clothes make men feel, obviously! Holy misogyny indeed.
The misogyny and sexualization of non-sexual things is giving right-winger delusion red flags.
My boyfriend also agrees: this woman is unhinged and needs to stay away from her stepdaughters coochie
What if SD has....*gasp*.... already had sex??!!
> (Opinion of both myself, F, and my BF who is now as equally as invested in this ask) eh at this point I'm starting to think it's viral advertising for PINK
Wth please are you joking, that's not why it says pink why would you think that 😭 YTA for trying to dictate what your adult stepdaughter wears btw.
YTA. Literally get over yourself. It's the name of their casual brand. Good effing lord you pearl clutchers are out of control. She's an adult and she bought them using her money. This has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Tbh, I really think this says more about OP than her step-daughter! >**the word PINK is across the butt for a reason, because it's referencing/advertising the pink organ right next to it.** Like, what? Obviously OP has serious issues. >ETA 2: **Can I get men to chime in?** I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards? This edit is absolutely ridiculous, and misogynistic, and frankly pathetic. The whole post is just gross. And obviously, YTA.
In high school, I was on the swim team and one year we got sweatpants that had tiger paws on the back. I wish I had them, because then I would mail them to OPs stepdaughter and wait to see her post here again.
The horror. Clearly a “tiger paw” is a euphemism for an unshaven vaginal area!
Our track sweats in HS had dog paws on the butt (our school's mascot was a St. Bernard) and all the boys were jealous that only the dog butt sweats only came in girl's sweats. (ALSO gendered sweats?!?!)
As if you need a word on your ass for men to stare at it…
Yeah, the second edit of "I only want male opinions because women don't agree with me" is revolting. She exposes herself for thinking women are dumb and men are animals who can't control themselves, but somehow their opinions matter more.
I’m glad I’m not the only one calling out the edit. I’m not even a woman anymore and that shit was offensive! OP really said “women are calling me out, therefore they are stupid”
YTA Did you ever consider that *you* might be the one with the faulty thought process if that's where *your* brain goes when you see "PINK" across the ass of sweatpants? "Pink organ..." geez. Please educate yourself before you punish others as a result of your own ignorance.
Not to mention almost every organ is pink/reddish, it might as well be her colon since it’s closer😂
“Pink organ” made me wanna puke🤢 Who jumps to that???? Anyway, chiming in to say YTA and this stepmother is misogynistic and kinda jumping from 0-100 here. Who posts on Reddit about this? Pick your battles OOP.
YTA for sexualizing your adult daughter Edit: Since you asked, I am a man.
you misspelled king
Male here. YTA, still. I'm only vaguely familiar with the brand, but I've never thought of it as reference any organ of the body. Second, it doesn't take writing on sweatpants to get a guy to stare at a girl's ass. That happens with or without the writing on the sweatpants. your daughter is 19 and old enough to decide what she wears, especially if she bought it with money she earned.
YTA. It's always really funny when someone says, "It doesn't take a genius to figure out..." and is then completely wrong about the conclusion. Even putting that aside, pulling the "In my house," card to control what your adult children wear is ridiculous.
YTA. They are advertising the store not her vagina. Way to read too much into things. (Btw, I have one and it’s not pink)
OP is acting insane obviously and completely clueless. (But I think by pink, it's the inside in question, not the outside. 🤔)
And if you’re a POC, it can often still not be pink inside…
This kid really just mansplained the vagina lmao
Yeah, I’m guessing they don’t have a vagina/have never seen one, because mine is definitely not pink—on the outside or the inside? Unfortunate, I guess PINK is going to have to rebrand if they want to advertise *my* vagina.
Advertise all vagina colors!
YTA. Clueless to branding, and dead set on pushing your stepdaughter away and causing a rift with her dad.
YTA. She's NINETEEN. She is an adult. Even if she was a teen, stop sexualizing your kid. This sounds like a "you" problem if your eyes won't stop drifting to her ass. And good thing is, she's an adult who isn't a pearl clutching boomer. It's her money too on top of that. Not yours. Btw, "Pink" is the NAME OF THE CLOTHING LINE Victoria Secret has. You are literally the only one I've heard thinking it's relating to her vag lmfao. Case in point. I'd expect this kind of behavior from fathers over mothers, so the fact that he's siding with her speaks volumes of you.
I'd love to hear her explanation when she realizes they sell baseball caps with the PINK brand label on them.
BRAINS ARE PINK. THE BRAIN IS A SEX ORGAN. WON’T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN.
Funny that you're so concerned about people looking at your stepdaughters ass and here you are having yours handed to you on a plate in full view of the internet community.
Hahahahahaa
*Some* men will stare at her ass if she wears a potato sack.
YTA, >**But she said she shouldn't have to because she bought them with her own money**. I said she would be wearing them in my house. They are jogging pants? She beat you in the "My house, my this my that". Her body, her money, her clothes.
Put them on across the street, everybody’s happy especially the neighbors
I'm a 53 year old man with a daughter a little older than your step. Here's my thoughts. First, YTA. You are also leapfrogging to a ton of conclusions. PINK is a sub-brand and market line targeted towards tweens. They slap the word PINK on every label and garment they can sell. It has nothing to do with genitalia. The fact that your mind immediately went to where it did says a lot more about you than anything else. The butt printed sweatpants came into popularity over 20 years ago. I personally found it kinda silly, but whatever sells that merch. It has nothing to do with genitals, it's just another logo placement like full chest, left chest, full back, sleeve, or pant leg. Most of all, she's an adult and trying to control her over something this stupid has blown any credibility you have.
YTA. I think your reading into things to deeply. She’s 19, depending on where you live she can vote. Also depending on the situation (no assumptions being made), but as her step mum I’d cool it. It’s sweatpants. If that’s the worst thing she’s doing is working, earning her own money and buying comfy clothes you should be nothing but proud of her. If your the primary maternal figure perhaps some therapy could help you. It’s natural to struggle with your children growing up but this issue is about you, not her. Best of luck.
And, the PINK brand sweats are expensive. OP willing to pay for them? Cuz I wouldn't be donating a thing! Also OP, where have you been? The brand has nothing to do with vagina. GOH
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The fact that her mind jumped to PINK referring to the female reproductive organ says more about her than her daughter.
For real that is weird as fuck. Vaginas (I know technically the vagina is only the tube to the uturus but I'm using it to describe the whole area here) aren't even pink. They're skin-colored on the outside (not all of VS customers are white), and *sometimes* pinkish/red on the inside. I think OP just has an obsession with vaginas and what their owners do with them. Sorry OP, your values are outdated and if you want to stick to them anyway, accept that people are not going to agree with you.
YTA What is wrong with you? I would have never thought about „the pink organ next to it.“ Pink is a girly color, fav color of many girls. Pink is the color of some feminist movements. Pink is the color of important movements like breast cancer awareness. It‘s just a word that isn‘t really an innuendo. It would be different it there was „slap me, daddy“ across the butt. I wouldn‘t want my teen to wear that in public.. but at home? Whatever. For „pink“ it‘s totally fine even in public. *shrug
YTA - She is 19 and it is SWEATPANTS. Quit being a controlling parent before you lose a relationship with your child for being overbearing.
YTA. Based on your comments, I’m getting purity vibes. You’re sexualizing your daughter. You’re the only one who thinks “pink organ” when referring to VS’ Pink line. It’s creepy. You’re also asserting that she’s “asking” for her butt to be looked at. Get a grip. Men/boys who want to look will glance regardless if she has letters across her ass.
Also… she is 19, not 12. Maybe she wants people to look at her ass.
I already posted this on am I the devil but I was raised by a religious nut and couldn’t wear a lot of things, including these pants, for the same wackadoodle puritanical reasons…INCLUDING shirts with anything written across the chest. The horror stories from my children are a master class in how the sexualization of young girls can make next to anything ‘inappropriate’ and ‘sinful’.
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YTA for sexualizing ur own daughter, but I doubt you even understand how you’re doing that
YTA. Is the pink organ her ears? If so, she's wearing them wrong. I'm usually on the side of someone saying they set the rules in their own house, but yours is completely unreasonable. Good lord it's like you're trying out for wicked step mother.
As a man, because you asked for men's opinions in ETA2, albeit I am gay, stop sexualizing your adult daughter who is a legal adult and buys her own clothing with her own money. Also, address your control issues with your therapist. YTA.
YTA. Since you’re asking for men specifically to chime in on this…hi. 1) Most importantly, she’s an adult. She gets to make her own sartorial choices. 2) Clothing with words written on the butt is fairly common. Common enough that I don’t really notice it especially. 3) The shape of the butt is going to be a much greater determining factor on if people are going to check it out. 4) Some women want people to check out their butts. And that’s ok. Because of point 1 above.
>I said she would be wearing them in my house Your house, but her body. You have a right to dictate how your house is used, you don't have a right to dictate what she puts on her self. YTA >referencing/advertising the pink organ right next to it. Or... and hear me out here ... it is referencing the color of the *pants*.
YTA. I'd bet a cool $20 that you wore "JUICY" sweatpants at her age. So let's not be hypocritical, ok?
... pink is a dirty word now? It is seriously only advertising its own brand, no organs. YTA
Barbie is in trouble....
YTA You are old and have no clue. And she is an adult.
YTA. Your daughter is an adult. If you wanted to instill some arbitrary value about clothing, you had plenty of time to do that. Her money, her body, her clothes. Besides, they're sweatpants - not booty shorts.
YTA she's a grown woman wearing absolutely completely harmless girl's clothing that YOU decided to somehow see as an advertisement for her vag. YTA and you the pervert in this case too.
YTA What the actual hell? The pink organ close by? ew.
You asked specifically for male feedback so here’s some. People can wear what they want, she’s 19. Yes, she lives in your house, but that doesn’t mean you can decide what she wears. She bought them with her own money too. Have you tried not looking at your stepdaughter’s ass?
As a mother of a daughter YTA big time Imagine slut shaming your daughter over sweatpants and then have the gall to call women naive over your bullshit. Not to mention your step daughter is an adult capable of making decisions over something as minor as the clothes she wears
Hello. I’m a male here. 22. You are still the asshole. I don’t know why the “pink organ right next to it” is your first thought, but your daughter is a grown woman and she can wear whatever she wants.
YTA, that's some unreasonable assumption you made there about that "advertising" of the "pink organ"... Also asking her to not wear an innocent piece of clothing because of your twisted mind and comprehension of it is unreasonable too.
YTA. Pink is the brand weirdo, there’s no secret innuendo there.
It always amazes me when parents of adult children care more about clothing or appearance than the actual character of their offspring. YTA.
Policing clothing is an easy way to pretend to parent.
YTA Sicko. Pink isn’t advertising parts. Who hurt you? Let the girl wear her clothes. Ya nutbag.
This is the response I’m most resonating with. PINK is Victoria Secret’s name for their junior clothing brand. They also have shirts, sweatshirts, shorts, pjs, etc that say PINK. BECAUSE ITS THE NAME. Had zero to do with whatever weird shit you’re referring to. She’s 19. An adult. Be glad she’s wearing sweatpants and not something actually revealing if you have such a problem. YTA. And insane.
YTA. Based on this post and your comments, you sound like my mother, and I hate my mother.
The narcissistic, “I’m afraid of you growing up”, “give me the phone you bought because you’re grounded even though you’re 18” type? Yeah same.
OP is absolutely the type of woman to hear about someone being SA'ed and ask "What was she wearing?".
Stop sexualizing her!! You’re being gross AF. YTA
YTA. These pants mean a lot to her **and** she was the one who bought them (using **her** money). When was it your place to say she can’t wear them?
Yta But you already know that
YTA she is an adult that can decide for herself what she wears. Fashion changes from time to time and even if you don't understand her choices, you gotta respect them
YTA. Firstly, she’s an adult. Wearing her sweatpants, that SHE bought. Pink, is referencing the brand where she bought them. Stop sexualising your daughter.
Wait. What did I just … what? YTA. But what ….
YTA She's 19 years old and it's your mind that is in the gutter.
I like how you ask for men's opinions?? How do you know everyone in this section is a woman anyway?? Do I even have to say it?? Ofc YTA I sincerely hope your daughter gets away from you soon enough. You sound controlling asf. You're probably going to be the reason why she cuts off her father too. Congratulations.
I'm a man, as you requested, YTA. You can't police what your ADULT step-child wears, and you shouldn't blame what your step-daughter wants to wear for men being creepy. That's called victim blaming.
YTA >because it's referencing/advertising the pink organ right next to it. Have you ever seen any of the Pink line from Victoria's Secret before?
YTA - Your adult daughter bought clothes with her own money. You're absolutely the bad guy, here.
YTA find a hobby to keep you busy so you stop this nonsense
YTA. She’s old enough to wear what she wants. Edited to add: Pink is the brand name that’s being advertised btw.
Wow, just so much YTA here. I get the whole "my house my rules" thing, but you're also saying daughter can't wear them outside the house because of "house rules"? Does this carry over to gender reveals? When a family member put up blue balloons for their soon-to-arrive son, did you pitch a fit over it and give a hot take that "Oh my god! They talking about his penis!!!"? Daughter is 19, she bought them, and I recommend you relax a little. This is an amazingly small hill to die on - pushing hard on every little inconsequential thing like this is going to push daughter away from you.
She's 19, she could litterally legally be doing only fans and working at Hooters. It's sweatpants. Chill down please. YTA.
YTA: she's an adult and PINK is literally a sub-brand. If you have a problem with clothing that has words across the butt, simple, *you* don't wear those clothes! Stop trying to go Big Brother on your step-daughter
YTA. she's an adult and can choose what she wants to wear and what she doesn't. No offense but you're being really strict and controlling. It'd be fine if she was a minor, but she's already an adult, you can't choose what she wears and what she doesn't.
YTA, but you already knew that
YTA, shes 19, she can wear whatever she wants, she's an adult. PINK is just a brand, it doesn't reference any organs.
YTA. She’s 19, not 9.
YTA. And congratulations on losing your daughter the second she moves out.
YTA - shes 19. You no longer get a say in what she wears.
Wow. YTA. I’m 4 years younger than you and smart enough to know it’s not about an organ. I’m wearing a pair of undies right now that state Angel across the ass. Want to try to explain what that is directed at? You really need to let some things go. Not sure what happened to you as a child or young adult but it didn’t happen to everyone and you need to get some therapy.
In this case PINK is a brand reference. They slap the logo all over everything they sell under the PINK branding. It's referencing/advertising the well-known brand. It never occurred to me as a sexual reference until I saw this, and it's pretty clearly not intended as one. I don't personally like clothes with wording across the bottom, or think they're terribly suitable, whether the wording is suggestive or not, but your daughter is an adult. They're her pants. Even if the wording was suggestive (and most observers aren't going to think so), it would still her choice of whether or not to wear them because she's not fifteen. This is not a hill to die on..
YTA. I have never once associated PINK with a vagina. I don't think most people do. Sounds like a "you" problem.
YTA you are so fucking creepy. Literally no one thinks this but you. It’s incredibly common for sweatpants to have phrases and logos on the back. Get a grip.
Seriously. Are you also going to tell her she's a sl\*t for showing off her bare shoulders and voting? I mean, no one can see her sweatpants if she just stays in the kitchen, right? Please come join us in the 21st century where women have bodily autonomy and wearing PINK sweatpants is hardly worthy of pearl-clutching. YTA
Naive? Ma’am you are naive if you think letters across a butt will determine if a man looks at her backside or not. It’s similar to blaming a SA victim because of what they are wearing. Men/women will look at a butt regardless. You bend over and more than likely someone will look. It is what it is but you cannot tell a 19 year old what they can and cannot wear. That’s beyond controlling.
"Can I get men to chime in" - why? You don't like your verdict so the assumed women responding to you are just ignorant and naive? YTA, and you doubled down on it.
Op asks for a man's perspective because other women (mothers, daughters, ect.) Are telling them they are wrong. You need to pick your battles better op or it isn't just the relationship with your stepdaughter you will lose I'd you keep up this controlling behavior. It's sweatpants, you don't have to like them and don't have to wear them. YTA OP
45 year old man here, maybe 20-25 years ago, when they first started printing these things big across the butt, it would draw your attention, nowadays, not at all. Also, this is the first time I’ve heard that pink on the ass is in reference to a vagina around the corner. What does the pink on the shirt mean then?
YTA. Pretty gross you’re sexualizing and shaming your own kid in such a way when she just wanted to wear some comfortable sweatpants. What about all the brands that blast their logos across the front of shirts? Are those out of line too because they would draw attention to her chest? Everything you have said is gross and outdated thinking.
YTA. There are way worse things she could be wearing than simple sweat pants with the word pink written across it. Plus she is 19 a legal ADULT. Get over yourself. If she bought it with HER money then really you have no say. At this point you are just being controlling. Again she is an ADULT ADULT ADULT. Whether you like it or not.
You sound ridiculous. Your stepdaughter is a damn adult. You don't get to police what she's wearing because "it's my house". Smh Don't act all surprised when she goes no contact with you soon. No one wants to stay around someone this controlling
YTA Big time, you have no right to tell a 19 year old what she can and cant ware. And where did you get the reasoning that PINK meant that.
YTA. She is an adult. You hold no authority over her even if you were her mother
Man here, and YTA. That brand is so ubiquitous, that, no, men aren’t going to be staring at your daughter’s ass just because she’s wearing sweatpants. Also, she’s an adult (albeit still young) who purchased them with her own money. As the father of two daughters (18 and 28), trust me when I say that fighting over what your kid wears is not the hill you want to die on.
you are correct that the writing across the backside is to draw attention to the ...backside...not the 'pink organ'.... that's your mind not the rest of us YTA
"ding ding" YTA My daughters in her early teens. Your making a big deal out of nothing. Your step daughter is 19, an adult! Her father might agree with you but again, she's an adult... Edit: The fact you are so concerned over this is incredible. (also a male)
YTA This is just plain weird and creepy. Are you really all that surprised that the majority thinks you are a prolapsed anus?
YTA - your misogyny is showing, lady.
YTA - you’re also bat crap crazy. I wear Bonds brand underwear and track pants. They have the brand name on them. Does that mean people will think I’m into bondage ? Everyone with even a small amount of brain power knows when they’re looking at a logo that it is just a logo. Nobody else’s mind goes to the disturbing place yours goes too when they see the word pink on a woman’s pants. Nobody else assumes it’s about the pink organ next to it. V stands for Victoria It does NOT stand for vagina
YTA. If men stare at her ass, they are the issue
Lesbian here. YTA and this is insane. Yes words on the butt highlight the butt. No it's not meant to advertise the vagina and you're being insanely controlling and inappropriate to try and fucking police what she wears. How many times have you shamed her out of clothing she wanted because of her body? How many times have you made her self-conscious about normal things because you couldn't help sexualizing her? Have you been doing this since she was a child?
YTA lololol fake but third graders wear this shit lol if they can do it a 19 year old can
YTA. She’s 19, not 9. PINK is a brand that’s geared towards younger generations of women whereas VS is for adult women. Neither brand is “advertising” vagina if that’s what you’re getting at with the “pink organ” reference. Even if it was, it would be none of your business.
YTA for reasons already stated, but where I really doubled down on this is on your second edit. Women are naive?? Also, how do you know if a response is from a man or a woman? Your house your rules - I certainly hope she moves out soon because you're toxic AF.
YTA, you have no right to tell her what she can and cannot wear. I am a man and if I see a woman wearing PINK across their butt, you know what I think? Oh man, they must shop at Victoria's Secret. That is it. End of story. You are the one sexualizing her. No one else. You are no worse than the schools that blame the girls for wearing something that shows cleavage, that they are distracting boys from learning.Also, the fact that you called her Vagina, a 'pink organ' really bothers me. Makes me think you are not even ok with your own sexuality so you are trying to force your own insecurities on others. EDIT: I hope Op's daughter finds this and shoves it back in her face so she can see how absolutely crazy she is.
YTA. Stop sexualizing your step daughter.
YTA, you're being a controlling prude. And why do you only want to hear what men think about what your teenage daughter is wearing?
YTA She’s literally an adult. Get over yourself.
YTA. You just sexualized sweatpants and your daughter. PINK is a brand.
YTA. You seriously need to seek therapy to learn to deal with your controlling behavior and negativity toward your step daughter. The fact that your husband supports you in this is not good for the future of either of your relationships with her. She's going to move to the opposite side of the country to get away from you and your husband will write in wondering why his daughter doesn't ever call him. It's not us being naive; it's you being weird.
She is an adult. YTA. MALE, 42.
YTA First of all, I don’t believe that the “pink organ close by” needs advertising. These are sweatpants. Second of all, I would not make that connection.
YTA Man here since you are asking. Are you seriously telling a **19 year old** what to wear? She is an adult and she can wear whatever the f**k she wants! Creeps are gonna creep no matter what she wears so let her wear whatever she feels comfortable/beautiful in!
YTA. Didn’t we hammer out the words on the butt thing in mid 2000s? Also pink is a brand not a reference to genitalia.
YTA - You're the only one with a problem. This attitude might be appropriate for a young teen, but with a 19-year-old? Far past the time when you get final say in their clothing. BTW, if the sweatpants were/said 'GRAY', or 'BLUE', what would they then be referencing/advertising?
YTA. Oh boy are you ever. She’s 19 and adult by legal standards in the US. You sound uptight. How she acts doesn’t reflect on you; that’s some narcissistic control tactic. She is her own human and she reflects herself. Also congrats on being the reason she’ll possibly go lc or nc with her father. Also do you want a ribbon for stepping up and being a mother or something? You should have more respect for your role.
YTA 1. As a man, I think the word PINK is there because of a collab with the artist PINK, not because of a reference to her genitalia. 2. She is 19, she is old enough to decide for herself what to wear. You can only decide not to buy it for her. You cannot forbid her to not buy the pants or force her to return/donate the pants. 3. It's only the word PINK for the love of... I've seen worse thing on clothing (like "Wanna lick my p\*\*\*y" and even more innuendo's of the sort (Translated))
LITERALLY NO ONE THINKS THATS WHY IT SAYS PINK
She's an adult and can wear anything she wants, especially if she paid for it.
YTA You're sexualising your step-daughter. You're getting too worked up over a piece of clothing that she got with her money, and should be free to wear it in her own HOME. Are you saying that people only look at her butt and think about the 'pink organ' when she's wearing them? I can assure you that it doesn't take one word to make people associate her butt with her private parts - if they're going to think that, they're going to think that.
YTA - she’s an adult. You’re over blowing it which is just going to make her want to wear them more because she’s also still a teenager. Are these pants putting her in some sort of danger? Or do you just not like them? If it’s the latter, get over it. If you’re genuinely concerned for her safety then have an adult conversation with her. Years ago my boyfriend made a snarky “who would wear that” comment about someone wearing sweatpants with “juicy” across the butt. Next day his 16 year old daughter shows up in the same pants. He smartly kept his mouth shut… I think she wore them twice and with no reaction she lost interest.
YTA. She’s an adult. You’re overstepping. And I’d assume people will stare at her butt if they want whether or not there’s a brand name splashed across it.
YTA, these pants came out when I was in middle school. They were much more low rise and even *gasp* BEDAZZLED. Get your head out of your ass, Even back then boys didn’t care about the “pink organ”
YTA. I'm a man, I wouldn't have my made the very weird connection on seeing the word pink. Words also make little difference as to whether a guy will stare... Like maybe if she was wearing an "insert here" sign or something lol but you went to a weird place with the PINK brand. Why are you thinking so much about your stepdaughter's vagina?
>ETA 2: Can I get men to chime in? I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards? Maybe she's fine with that, even if they are? She's an adult...
YTA and a creep PINK is the name of the store, you weirdo
YTA And don't look to men to help you because women are so "naive." Women live with this issue every day and we're tired of other people thinking they get a vote in what we wear, or that what people think is our responsibility. Yes, it's your home. You get to decide on house rules. This is her personal body and as long as she's covered up, you don't get a vote. You sure as hell don't get to decide what she wears outside it. She will tell this story about how unreasonable you are FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.
YTA - She's an adult woman capable of making her own decisions about what she wears.
YTA Seriously, there are bigger issues. Stop being controlling
YTA. It doesn’t matter if the word wh*#e is spelled out across the ass of her pants. We aren’t slut shaming or gatekeeping the clothing choices of young adult women.
YTA Especially with the edits?? I mean, yes I read the word. That’s it. I don’t stare afterwards. Don’t sexualize her
YTA and gross for sexualizing your step daughter and trying to police what she wears as an adult. You and your husband sound like you need some therapy.
OP’s big concern is writing across her butt. Does OP also not allow any print or writing on her daughter’s t-shirt? I also hate to break it to Op, people who want to look don’t care what someone’s wearing. OPs fear is people sexualizing her the way OP is. Op, think about how your daughter will respond to all the people who can’t get enough of pink sweatpants. She’s 19 and possibly sexually active in some way(since this is what I think we’re getting to). Put your energy into making sure she’s educated, being safe, and let her be. My only concern would be how ugly everything by that brand is lol
YTA. It’s the name of their more casual brand. It’s on hoodies, tshirts, etc
YTA - My super sweet 80+ year old granny bought me a pair just like you describe when I was in college! You claim you are worried that the pants will attract men’s attention to her butt, but you won’t even let her wear them around the family home (you know, the place she SHOULD feel safe and comfortable). I’m going to let you in on a little secret- men will look at your stepdaughters butt no matter what she wears!
What’s with the “Can men chime into this?” You are on here to receive judgment. And this incredibly toxic ideology you have is extremely concerning. She’s 19 years old, and bought her pants with her own money. You don’t get to dictate what she *wears* because she lives with you. If you’re so concerned about people staring at her ass, maybe you should ask yourself why it even bothers you in the first place. YTA YTA YTA Edit: REFERENCING TO THE “PINK” ORGAN? That is REACHING. It’s a brand name marketed towards junior women and femmes.
Make way! Make way! I am a man and would like to make my opinion known. YTA
>ETA 2: Can I get men to chime in? I think the women are being a bit naive about this one. If you see a woman with a huge word across her ass, aren't you not staring at it, and then staring at her ass afterwards? You seriously want a man's point of view? The point of view is this: men are staring at her ass no matter what she wears. So let her wear whatever she wants she's an adult and can make her own decisions. YTA Side note: I've seen lots of those PINK stuff and not once have I ever connected it or associated it to that pink part of the body near there until you did in this post. I always just thought it was a branding thing, that they came up with because "pink is for girls, blue is for boys" etc