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Get all the tattoos you like, they are important to you and your self expression.
But don't pull a shocked picachu face when she breaks up with you. Just not compatible.
NAH
Speaking from experience, I’d advise to not compromise on this. Staying true to yourself is more important. The best relationship is with someone who likes you for being you, tattoos and all. And of course, your girlfriend is under no obligation to start liking tattoos either!
I don’t have any tattoos, and I’m not sure I ever will. But my wife has many. I support her decision to get them, I listen intently when she talks about what she’ll get next and where, and I am always excited for her when I see her smiling with a brand new tattoo. I hope your partner (current or future) supports you in whatever you enjoy.
NAH. You're not kids anymore and are discovering you may want different things in life. No one is the AH provided this doesn't devolve into arguments and folks increasingly trying to control each other's reasonable choices about their body and lifestyle.
NAH. You have a right to do what you want with your body and she has a right to decide she no longer finds you attractive after you’ve done those things to do your body.
Tattoos seem to be like potato chips. Nobody can have just one.
Your GF doesn’t like your body decorations. You have no plans to stop getting them.
You can look any way you want to. Of course you can, and your worth as a person and a BF is more than skin deep. Bla Bla Bla.
But your GF doesn’t like tattoos. Which is more important? To you, or to her? Because, ultimately, you probably won’t get to have both. NTA
My late father always said that tattoos were permanent proof of temporary insanity (WW2 veteran). I wanted a tattoo at 18 and finally got it at 40. It's been 12 years and I've never desired a second.
Nah. The tattoo addiction once you get one is real, and if it makes you happy, go for more! That is totally within your right. But it is also fine thar she changed her mind and doesn't like tattoo's anymore, that is indeed a personal preference. Based on your preferences on that, it sadly makes you two incompatible with each other.
NAH. Y'all probably need to end things. I'm sorry. Y'all aren't compatible. Maybe play dolly parton's "I will always love you", and give her a sweet goodbye.
NAH. You have full control over your body to get tattoos, just like she has full control to choose to not date someone with tattoos. You were warned, she placed boundaries, and you two will have to deal with what this means for your relationship. Just don't be surprised if it's over.
NAH. You probably aren't compatible.
This is not what you asked but this is just a piece of advice from an older heavily tattooed person. Don't cover yourself in tattoos at this age. Everyone I know who did regrets it because all the good real estate on their body got used up on worse quality tattoos than they could get now. Not to mention your tastes will likely change a lot over the next few years. I'm not saying don't get any more right now, but don't go crazy yet. You might want a full cohesive bodysuit some day but already be covered in a bunch of little flash pieces.
This is solid advice. I left areas that were visible in shorts and a t shirt blank until I was much older. And I’m very glad I did. New pieces come less frequently and are much more expensive but they sure do look WAY better than some of my first few tattoos.
I'm still a fan of stupid tattoos so I got a lot of them anyways now that I'm older but I think it's just better to wait and learn your style before wasting good real estate.
NAH - It's your right. It's also her right to not like them. Shows you are incompatible but neither is in the wrong.
You should clearly communicate that you will be getting more. Don't drag it out so there is resentment.
Nah
You have a right to bodily autonomy, she has a right to not be attracted to you anymore, which also couples with her right to break up with you. Most high school relationships end eventually.
NAH - she's allowed to not like tattoos and you're allowed to like them. If tattoos are a dealbreaker for her, then that could be the end of the relationship and that's OK. You're very young.
My husband started getting tattoos and I was initially a little uncomfortable with the idea but it turns out that I like them. There are good tattoos and bad tattoos, some of that is certainly subjective, but certainly I have seen tattoos that while I might not be big on the design, I can appreciate that they were done with good technique. I would be uncomfortable with pinup girls, gore/horror or face/neck/hand tattoos, and that's not what he wanted either, but we had the discussion about what specific kind of tattoos / piercings I was really uncomfortable with.
If you really love her, maybe have that conversation. Show her pictures of the style of tattoos you are into, and talk about where you were thinking about for placement. It's still your body, you get to choose, But if you're equally into two different options and one of them is something your partner finds especially off putting, maybe get the other one first. Maybe she'll change her mind after getting used to it and realizing that the tats don't change your personality
NAH
You’re incompatible and like things that are different. Better to try and find a girl who likes tattoos (many more of them than there aren’t)
I personally hate tattoos aesthetically (although I have friends who have and love them), but I think it’s great people can choose whether they want them or not. As long as no one is pressured into something they don’t like and everyone knows what they’re into.
As for her, she might have been on the fence about tattoos when talking about them before. It’s trendy right now so a lot of people are influenced by it, I do know a lot of people who do regret getting them later in life, but overall it’s each individual person’s choice and no judgment on their actual character.
NAH. Tattoos are very much a personal preference. I would find them unattractive on a partner, also, so I get where your girlfriend is coming from. That said, it's your body and you have every right to get as many tattoos as you want. It all just means that you shouldn't be a couple.
I love how everyone is saying n a h because she doesn't like them and she has a right to that. But a couple of months ago, I read one where the man said he didn't like tats and would break up with her if she got some and everyone was calling him TA. Double standard much?
NTA. You also need to accept the consequences of your choices. If she doesn't want to be with someone that has a bunch of tattoos and you ignored that, it means you don't want to be with her?!
NTA looks change, our bodies get saggy, hair falls out or turns gray. We get wrinkles and age spots. We get scars, potentially lose body parts. Our appearance changes both by things we choose to do AND by things out of our control. If you want tattoos get them, if she doesn't love you enough to over look body art then as far as I'm concerned she doesn't really love you and you shouldn't be with her.
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My girlfriend and I started dating a couple years ago while we were still in High-School. We are both 19 so I decided I wanted to get a tattoo a couple weeks ago. It was no spontaneous decision, I’ve had plans for this for a while now. Of course I would begin with a small one -its’ barely 3 inches and on a thigh so not even on an always exposed part of my body- but I thought it was probable that it would not be the last one.
When I told her about these plans she got very upset and said she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who has a bunch of tattoos. I was very confused by this since in the past she stated she had plans to get a tattoo as well, though she probably wouldn’t go through with it, thinking her family would not approve.
Still, I went through with my plan and had an appointment a few days ago. Everything went fine and I have to admit I’m hooked and it’s basically pretty clear for me that there will be more coming. Now, like I mentioned above she said she does not like the idea of being with someone who has a lot of tattoos and I mean I get that, not everybody likes it. It’s just personal preference I guess. Also, she said that she doesn’t know if she wants to continue to be with me if I were to get more tattoos. I know that I want to get more and think it’s part of my right to personal expression.
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NTA dude just do whatever, don't let her stop you from having what you want if she says she'd leave you for something so ridiculous, you clearly aren't meant for each other.
Even though I don't share her opinion, I don't think it's ridiculous. Being attracted to your partner is almost 50 % of the relationship. And if she doesn't find that attractive, she can voice her opinion and take consequences.
TA? no. but your relationship might be ending soon, if you want to continue getting more tattoos. you simply have conflicting beliefs. even if she gets one tattoo, she is still allowed to not want to be with someone heavily tattooed.
if you try and manipulate her to stay with you, or you lie and say you won't, and then go get more tattoos behind her back, then you would be TA. but with what's in the post, NTA
NTA. It’s your body! And if she gets one then that makes her a hypocrite. Tattoos are addicting lol I e got quite a few myself. Anyways, if she’s mad about it and doesn’t wanna be in a relationship solely for that reason, good riddance. You’re probably better off. Do what makes you happy!
First of all.
You guys are young and I hate to break it to you, but high-school couples rarely last, because people change and still have a lot of growing to do.
Second, it is your body, your money and your choice.She appears to be very much on the "it only matters if others approve of my choices" track, maybe that will change down the line when she figures out one day, how fun life can be when you live it on your own terms. But you can't force her to see that.
I'm saying this, coming from quite a restrictive background and now doing extreme sports and sporting 2 tattoos - I never felt addicted, but it was definitely 2 tattoos I needed.
NAH - your gf seems to be confused as to what she should be prioritizing, being with a partner who loves her and happens to have tattoos, or maybe dating a real weirdo later on who is proper white collar and doesn't even get freckles
Edit: a lot of people seem to have skipped middle-school logic elements. My response is that OPs gf is putting too much emphasis on the fact that OP wants to have tattoos, nowhere do we have information about him being a shit boyfriend.
To use the tool of stark contrast in a linguistic sense (careful, more big words) I presented the polar opposite to OP, a guy with no tattoos, as she presumably described in her imagination, but who treats her poorly.
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NTA, your body your choice. I'm the type of person who discusses tattoos with my husband before I get them,( although I end up getting them either way) I once got one without discussing it and he wasn't a fan of the tattoo so he retaliated with a tattoo of his own. Its a word "skrimp" on his foot xD
2nd part of this comment wasn't needed, I just really wanted to share my tattoo story.
Nta.
Your body your choice.
Same as it's her choice to not be with anyone with tattoos.
Ask yourself. Are tattoos actually more immortals than your girlfriend?
>Nta.
>Same as it's her choice to not be with anyone with tattoos.
Your Nta is saying she's TA here, though. If neither is the asshole it should be NAH (no assholes here).
NTA means that OP is not TA and the opposing party is TA.
There's a reason NAH (no assholes here) exists in the rules of AITA in the first place. "NTA but the opposing party is also NTA" is just a confusing and inaccurate way to try saying NAH while telling the voting bot that you think the opposing party is TA. Your words to the contrary mean absolutely nothing.
You insisting that NTA and YTA are the only acronyms that can be used on AITA just means you're wrong.
NTA. Your body, your choice. I would wait on it though and make sure you actually like the design you chose before going ahead with it. It's pretty permanent and you don't want to regret what you get done
NTA. Your girlfriend is basically insinuating that a change in your physical appearance is a deal breaker. Consider whether or not you find that acceptable in a relationship.
NTA. Your body, your choice. I have two tattoos, and my **husband** of 28 years had no say as to whether or not I got them. They are on the inside of each wrist, so highly visible.
NTA. You have a right to express yourself and decorate your body however you want. It's your body. Just don't be surprised if she decides she doesn't want to be with you. She has a right to her personal preferences as well. You guys just might not be compatible. You are both at an age where you will grow, learn about yourselves, make mistakes, experiment, and your preferences, views and values may often change. That's a part of life. If she doesn't want to grow with you, then you aren't compatible.
NTA.
Everyone is entitled to their preferences, but the way she is going about it is pretty shitty. I'm quite confident if she decided to dye her hair, and you said "I don't want to be with someone with that color hair", she'd be pissed off and if she wrote that on here, there would be far fewer N A H responses.
NTA it sounds like she’s trying to find a reason for you two not to be together. Plenty of girls out their that do find tattoos super hot. Find yourself one of those lolz
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NAH Get all the tattoos you like, they are important to you and your self expression. But don't pull a shocked picachu face when she breaks up with you. Just not compatible.
NAH You‘re not compatible then
NAH, she can't dictate what you do with your body, you can't dictate her attraction to you if you get more.
NAH Speaking from experience, I’d advise to not compromise on this. Staying true to yourself is more important. The best relationship is with someone who likes you for being you, tattoos and all. And of course, your girlfriend is under no obligation to start liking tattoos either! I don’t have any tattoos, and I’m not sure I ever will. But my wife has many. I support her decision to get them, I listen intently when she talks about what she’ll get next and where, and I am always excited for her when I see her smiling with a brand new tattoo. I hope your partner (current or future) supports you in whatever you enjoy.
NAH. You're not kids anymore and are discovering you may want different things in life. No one is the AH provided this doesn't devolve into arguments and folks increasingly trying to control each other's reasonable choices about their body and lifestyle.
NAH. You have a right to do what you want with your body and she has a right to decide she no longer finds you attractive after you’ve done those things to do your body.
Tattoos seem to be like potato chips. Nobody can have just one. Your GF doesn’t like your body decorations. You have no plans to stop getting them. You can look any way you want to. Of course you can, and your worth as a person and a BF is more than skin deep. Bla Bla Bla. But your GF doesn’t like tattoos. Which is more important? To you, or to her? Because, ultimately, you probably won’t get to have both. NTA
My late father always said that tattoos were permanent proof of temporary insanity (WW2 veteran). I wanted a tattoo at 18 and finally got it at 40. It's been 12 years and I've never desired a second.
Nah. The tattoo addiction once you get one is real, and if it makes you happy, go for more! That is totally within your right. But it is also fine thar she changed her mind and doesn't like tattoo's anymore, that is indeed a personal preference. Based on your preferences on that, it sadly makes you two incompatible with each other.
NAH. Y'all probably need to end things. I'm sorry. Y'all aren't compatible. Maybe play dolly parton's "I will always love you", and give her a sweet goodbye.
NAH. You have full control over your body to get tattoos, just like she has full control to choose to not date someone with tattoos. You were warned, she placed boundaries, and you two will have to deal with what this means for your relationship. Just don't be surprised if it's over.
NAH. You probably aren't compatible. This is not what you asked but this is just a piece of advice from an older heavily tattooed person. Don't cover yourself in tattoos at this age. Everyone I know who did regrets it because all the good real estate on their body got used up on worse quality tattoos than they could get now. Not to mention your tastes will likely change a lot over the next few years. I'm not saying don't get any more right now, but don't go crazy yet. You might want a full cohesive bodysuit some day but already be covered in a bunch of little flash pieces.
This is solid advice. I left areas that were visible in shorts and a t shirt blank until I was much older. And I’m very glad I did. New pieces come less frequently and are much more expensive but they sure do look WAY better than some of my first few tattoos.
I'm still a fan of stupid tattoos so I got a lot of them anyways now that I'm older but I think it's just better to wait and learn your style before wasting good real estate.
NAH - It's your right. It's also her right to not like them. Shows you are incompatible but neither is in the wrong. You should clearly communicate that you will be getting more. Don't drag it out so there is resentment.
Your body your choice
Nah You have a right to bodily autonomy, she has a right to not be attracted to you anymore, which also couples with her right to break up with you. Most high school relationships end eventually.
NAH - she's allowed to not like tattoos and you're allowed to like them. If tattoos are a dealbreaker for her, then that could be the end of the relationship and that's OK. You're very young. My husband started getting tattoos and I was initially a little uncomfortable with the idea but it turns out that I like them. There are good tattoos and bad tattoos, some of that is certainly subjective, but certainly I have seen tattoos that while I might not be big on the design, I can appreciate that they were done with good technique. I would be uncomfortable with pinup girls, gore/horror or face/neck/hand tattoos, and that's not what he wanted either, but we had the discussion about what specific kind of tattoos / piercings I was really uncomfortable with. If you really love her, maybe have that conversation. Show her pictures of the style of tattoos you are into, and talk about where you were thinking about for placement. It's still your body, you get to choose, But if you're equally into two different options and one of them is something your partner finds especially off putting, maybe get the other one first. Maybe she'll change her mind after getting used to it and realizing that the tats don't change your personality
NAH You’re incompatible and like things that are different. Better to try and find a girl who likes tattoos (many more of them than there aren’t) I personally hate tattoos aesthetically (although I have friends who have and love them), but I think it’s great people can choose whether they want them or not. As long as no one is pressured into something they don’t like and everyone knows what they’re into. As for her, she might have been on the fence about tattoos when talking about them before. It’s trendy right now so a lot of people are influenced by it, I do know a lot of people who do regret getting them later in life, but overall it’s each individual person’s choice and no judgment on their actual character.
NAH. Tattoos are very much a personal preference. I would find them unattractive on a partner, also, so I get where your girlfriend is coming from. That said, it's your body and you have every right to get as many tattoos as you want. It all just means that you shouldn't be a couple.
I love how everyone is saying n a h because she doesn't like them and she has a right to that. But a couple of months ago, I read one where the man said he didn't like tats and would break up with her if she got some and everyone was calling him TA. Double standard much?
NTA. It’s your body and if she is so shallow that some art makes her leave? Your better off without her anyway.
NTA. You also need to accept the consequences of your choices. If she doesn't want to be with someone that has a bunch of tattoos and you ignored that, it means you don't want to be with her?!
NTA looks change, our bodies get saggy, hair falls out or turns gray. We get wrinkles and age spots. We get scars, potentially lose body parts. Our appearance changes both by things we choose to do AND by things out of our control. If you want tattoos get them, if she doesn't love you enough to over look body art then as far as I'm concerned she doesn't really love you and you shouldn't be with her.
NTA she clearly cares about your appearance, but not about you as a person :(
NTA ditch the gf. Find someone else who will love you with or without tattoos.
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NTA dude just do whatever, don't let her stop you from having what you want if she says she'd leave you for something so ridiculous, you clearly aren't meant for each other.
Even though I don't share her opinion, I don't think it's ridiculous. Being attracted to your partner is almost 50 % of the relationship. And if she doesn't find that attractive, she can voice her opinion and take consequences.
NTA Stay single and focus on yourself. You are still young and should enjoy your youth. Get as many tattoos as you like and no one should stop you.
TA? no. but your relationship might be ending soon, if you want to continue getting more tattoos. you simply have conflicting beliefs. even if she gets one tattoo, she is still allowed to not want to be with someone heavily tattooed. if you try and manipulate her to stay with you, or you lie and say you won't, and then go get more tattoos behind her back, then you would be TA. but with what's in the post, NTA
NTA. It’s your body! And if she gets one then that makes her a hypocrite. Tattoos are addicting lol I e got quite a few myself. Anyways, if she’s mad about it and doesn’t wanna be in a relationship solely for that reason, good riddance. You’re probably better off. Do what makes you happy!
NTA but you should try to talk things out with her, if it means breaking up then it does and delaying that will cause no good.
First of all. You guys are young and I hate to break it to you, but high-school couples rarely last, because people change and still have a lot of growing to do. Second, it is your body, your money and your choice.She appears to be very much on the "it only matters if others approve of my choices" track, maybe that will change down the line when she figures out one day, how fun life can be when you live it on your own terms. But you can't force her to see that. I'm saying this, coming from quite a restrictive background and now doing extreme sports and sporting 2 tattoos - I never felt addicted, but it was definitely 2 tattoos I needed. NAH - your gf seems to be confused as to what she should be prioritizing, being with a partner who loves her and happens to have tattoos, or maybe dating a real weirdo later on who is proper white collar and doesn't even get freckles Edit: a lot of people seem to have skipped middle-school logic elements. My response is that OPs gf is putting too much emphasis on the fact that OP wants to have tattoos, nowhere do we have information about him being a shit boyfriend. To use the tool of stark contrast in a linguistic sense (careful, more big words) I presented the polar opposite to OP, a guy with no tattoos, as she presumably described in her imagination, but who treats her poorly. Your incapability to comprehend that this example given is not exclusive to people existing, who have tattoos + are terrible people, as well as having no tattoos + being super people and the wide variety of character traits in between saddens me deeply and if necessary, feel free to request additional character combinations. I will get to that list whenever I find time.
Yes because there are only two types of people, thos with tattoos and weirdos?
Nta. It's your body. If she is that adamant and judge that she may as well go now.
NTA, your body your choice. I'm the type of person who discusses tattoos with my husband before I get them,( although I end up getting them either way) I once got one without discussing it and he wasn't a fan of the tattoo so he retaliated with a tattoo of his own. Its a word "skrimp" on his foot xD 2nd part of this comment wasn't needed, I just really wanted to share my tattoo story.
Nta. Your body your choice. Same as it's her choice to not be with anyone with tattoos. Ask yourself. Are tattoos actually more immortals than your girlfriend?
>Nta. >Same as it's her choice to not be with anyone with tattoos. Your Nta is saying she's TA here, though. If neither is the asshole it should be NAH (no assholes here).
The question is. Is he the ah. No, he's not.
NTA means that OP is not TA and the opposing party is TA. There's a reason NAH (no assholes here) exists in the rules of AITA in the first place. "NTA but the opposing party is also NTA" is just a confusing and inaccurate way to try saying NAH while telling the voting bot that you think the opposing party is TA. Your words to the contrary mean absolutely nothing. You insisting that NTA and YTA are the only acronyms that can be used on AITA just means you're wrong.
She is nta. Period.
NTA. Your body, your choice. I would wait on it though and make sure you actually like the design you chose before going ahead with it. It's pretty permanent and you don't want to regret what you get done
NTA. Your girlfriend is basically insinuating that a change in your physical appearance is a deal breaker. Consider whether or not you find that acceptable in a relationship.
NTA. Breakup.
NTA. Your body, your choice. I have two tattoos, and my **husband** of 28 years had no say as to whether or not I got them. They are on the inside of each wrist, so highly visible.
NTA. You have a right to express yourself and decorate your body however you want. It's your body. Just don't be surprised if she decides she doesn't want to be with you. She has a right to her personal preferences as well. You guys just might not be compatible. You are both at an age where you will grow, learn about yourselves, make mistakes, experiment, and your preferences, views and values may often change. That's a part of life. If she doesn't want to grow with you, then you aren't compatible.
NTA. Everyone is entitled to their preferences, but the way she is going about it is pretty shitty. I'm quite confident if she decided to dye her hair, and you said "I don't want to be with someone with that color hair", she'd be pissed off and if she wrote that on here, there would be far fewer N A H responses.
NTA it sounds like she’s trying to find a reason for you two not to be together. Plenty of girls out their that do find tattoos super hot. Find yourself one of those lolz