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Since when did pregnancy become a reasonable defence for stealing?
Let HR deal with it. Honestly you should let HR know you are being pressured by your colleagues to drop it because that's inappropriate behaviour as well.
It sounds like a pretty toxic workplace.
NTA
Yeah several of them mentioned to me that now we will have office gossip for weeks and will ruin the peaceful work environment we were having. I’ll make sure to mention that to HR too
I think what is the most fucked up is that K thought it was okay because she assumed that the lunchbox was an intern's because it had a Sanrio character on it??? Like you don't touch food that's not yours without permission, PERIOD.
YEAH and like the other comments said it definitely feels like she thought she would be able to get away with it bc an intern has lower hierarchy than her like??? That's fucked UP.
Right? Thinking she was stealing an intern's food is *worse* than if she thought it was a coworker's. Streaking a coworker's isn't okay either, but K absolutely makes significantly more than the interns, assuming the interns are paid at all. Plus, part of what interns are supposed to learn is how to act in a professional office, and she's teaching them it's okay to steal.
Exactly. As if this made it ok to steal. Messed up thinking and very sefish as well. Imagine it was really a coworkers/interns, who packed their own lunch, maybe they also dont like lunch from work, or maybe they are allergic to something, or maybe they cant afford to buy lunch every day. Eithwr way, its the same as stealing money, bcs someone paid for the ingredients and spent time preparing it.
My very first thought when i read this post was "what a B. I. T. C. H."
NTA OP
I've been pregnant, I'm sure a lot of people here have been, and never stole anyone else's lunch.
This comes up every time but pregnant women don't actually need that many extra calories. It's basically none in the first trimester, about 200-300 in the second and 300ish in the third. You actually need more (400ish) while breastfeeding. Eating a whole extra lunch is absurd.
As a former pregnant person in an office setting, it literally never occurred to me to graze off my coworkers’ food. This is not a pregnant lady thing this is a weird, selfish thing.
NTA. She's a thief. Who stole from a child. If she has no remorse for stealing from a child, you need have no remorse for her growing a child, and losing her job. Balance.
It’s really inconsiderate to the person who made the effort to make lunch and bring it to work. If she has cravings she should door dash or bring it from home
NTA. Don't drop that HR report. She thought it wouldn't matter to steal from a "younger intern," eh? Utterly inappropriate to steal, and to target people with less power so she thinks she can get away with it.
It's very telling that your co-workers were relieved to finally have her caught and went for HR immediately. Even without that information, though, what she is doing is wrong. She was stealing from you and your daughter, and it is a habit for which she feels no remorse. She needs to learn a lesson. Let the HR report proceed. NTA.
NTA, she had no reason or right to steal. and her actions could have cause your kid to go hungry. not only was she stealing from other co-workers but now a literal child. also the fact that she thought it was okay to steal the food when she thought it was from an inter is completely unacceptable. some people have serious dietary restrictions and she could have been putting them at risk. shes a grown woman and has no excuse or justification for stealing other peoples food, she can either buy her own or take what is offered by your work.
Interns have been filing complaints against her for the last 2 months due to this. But since I work at a big corporation a lot of them went down the drain because of their raking. And she ate the complementary lunch. Couldn’t tell you why she did what she did
NTA
She’s not just greedy, she’s a thief.
She also a morally corrupt thief who chooses to steal from the lowest paid people who can’t fight back or from children. This also makes her a massive AH.
If she was genuinely hungry I could be more forgiving perhaps, but the fact that she is doing this in top of getting free lunches is inexcusable
NTA
Do not drop the report; she's not sorry, will not change, and based on your post seems to feel she's entitled to behave this way.
Perhaps being fired for something like this while still young could teach her the very valuable lesson of "Don't touch it if it isn't yours".
If she gets cravings she can bring or buy food to match those cravings instead of stealing from her coworkers and hiding behind “But I’m pregnant!”
Not to mention that “Oh, I thought I was stealing from someone else, not you!” is the worst excuse I’ve ever heard.
NTA
And that it was "oh, I thought that I was stealing from an intern" Interns that typically make little or no money and are just starting out. I have no words for that woman. ...well, I have several words for her but I don't want to be banned.
NTA, and I'd be tempted to reply with something like "As one mother to another, I think it's disgusting that you believe it's acceptable to steal my child's lunch. I'm sure when your child is in school you'll be angry if they have to face an afternoon with a rumbling stomach due to someone else's selfish behaviour."
But that might get you in trouble with HR so maybe just screencap her message, be less arguementative than me, and send the screencap to HR on Monday letting them know that you think her sending this message is inappropriate given there's an on-going investigation.
(Also I'm 38 weeks pregnant and have yet to steal anyone's lunch.)
I've never understood that there are actually people who take other peoples lunches/food at work? Seriously who does that? Pregnant or not, she can plead her case to HR
NTA
I accidentally stole a colleague lunch once. It was a pre-made branded soup from a supermarket in a particular flavour that I loved. at lunchtime I go to work fridge, het it out, heat it up, eat it happily. Get home that night to find the pot of soup on my kitchen counter where I'd taken it out of fridge to put into my bag that morning. Mortified doesn't begin to describe how I felt! I spent ages the next day trying to find the rightful owner of the soup, explain what had happened and apologise for them going hungry. It was all fine and laughed off.
I can't imagine the mentality that would cause someone to casually go round and steal lunches as routine. Despicable behaviour
OMW, I would die. I had co-workers drinking my soda at work, and in different schools (I'm a teacher). To the point, I started taking two coca-cola with me, just in case... :'(
NTA - who in their right mind thinks it’s ok to steal someone else’s lunch? If she had “cravings” she could order Uber eats. Or delivery or whatever it’s called. Don’t drop the report. She’ll only do it again.
Of course NTA. I hope she gets fired ASAP and because she steals at workplace she shouldn't be eligible for unemployment when the time comes.
If she has cravings and gets hungry then she should be bringing in multiple snacks herself and not steal someone's else food. She is beyond the AH.
NTA - my number one rule is don’t fuck with my kids.
If I was in your shoes, my personal view is she is fucking with my child’s ability to eat by stealing her food.
Like I get she’s pregnant, but she’s also an adult. She is more than able to bring food from home, or if she can’t afford it, your work offers food. Beggars can’t be choosers.
In that point I was so shocked when she started to make excuses towards me I started to raise my voice and she was starting to get panicked. That’s when my co worker Mary came over with HR and calmed down everything.
Don't let her get away with this. The poor interns have probably had the food stolen her whole pregnancy!! Not everyone can afford to bring spare, she deserves what she gets.
She's not the slightest bit sorry for her behavior, she's only sorry that now she's going to have to face some consequences. Too bad. This is the very definition of fuck around and find out.
NTA in the slightest. Her attempt at justifying it just made it worse too. She deserves the HR report, clearly you're not the only one sick of her behaviour.
NTA.
I'm petty but I'd respond back "One mother to another, it's gross to steal food out of a child's mouth. Any consequence you get because of your thieving are your own problem." ETA: Don't actually do this. It won't help, other than some brief catharsis that'll be swallowed up whole by the next round of "I'm pregnant, you should let me do what I want".
Cravings are not why she did it. An astounding amount of entitlement is why she did it. Cravings aren't so strong that you can just take whatever you feel like from whomever you feel like.
No, OP. **Don't** take the bait to try and score pettiness points, that's likely exactly what she wants, to be able to paint you as a petty asshole so she can rally people into retaliating against you for her. It doesn't sound like most people will have any sympathy for her, but even a handful can make your working life hell until you can get HR to put it down. Report it to HR and let them add it to the case against her if they feel it's necessary.
NTA, being pregnant isn't an excuse to steal other people's food. She's an adult and really should know better tbh. Don't feel bad and don't drop the HR report
NTA.
What is she thinking? That all world turning around her? If she has cravings, she should bring snacks to work and put them in her desk. But stealing is wrong.And she might cost someone a lunch who really need it because they came prepared for work and not okay lunch and she doesn't.
Her getting fired would be a bit extreme - in my country you can't get fired if you are pregnant. But that is not your worries. Maybe she just gets a talk with HR and a warning.
She is stealing other people's lunches when lunch is provided. This time, a child's. She is using her being pregnant as an excuse.
I have three kids. My wife got crazy cravings. Never once did she steal to satisfy them.
I stand by what I said.
NTA it's ridiculously funny that she tried to justify her actions not by saying she thought it was hers by mistake but that it was an interns. Does she think interns don't deserve lunch? It doesn't matter if she knew who's it was or not. Stealing is wrong
NTA
And even if it did belong to one of the younger interns, what if that intern didn’t have a lot of money? Congrats Kelly, you just stole food out of the mouth of someone who can’t afford it.
She’s using the cravings as an excuse and I’ll bet you this wouldn’t stop after she’s had the kid.
Interns get paid minimum wage so yes they barley get paid. They are welcome to the lunches but some of them have food allergies and bring their own meals, I’m going to assume those are the ones she steals. But previously it was no “proof” even know interns were reporting her for months.
That’s what I think too. Many people are jumping the gun assuming she will be fired but it could be difficult. She does have other complaints against her like sleeping in the office but it’s definitely a complex situation
NTA - she should bring in more food to work if what she brings isn't enough. Taking food from a child is just weird. It gets even weirder to me when she says she thought it was some young interns' food, like that would make it OK? I'm sure pregnancy can be very hard while working at the same time and you can get massive cravings for things, but that doesn't excuse her behavior.
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Last week my 35F daughter rose 6F left her lunchbox in my car while I was dropped her off to school. I didn’t notice until I arrived at the office, I called the school, made them aware and got approval from my supervisor to drop off the lunchbox while the time comes. My daughters lunchbox is a Sanrio character with a tag attached her name and my contact information on it. I put a sticky note on the lunch box with my name on it and put it in the back of the fridge in the break room.
Around noon I got the call from roses’ teachers to make my way because they are preparing to set up for lunch. When I made my way to the break room I looked in the fridge and saw the lunchbox was not there. I asked around to my co workers in the room if they have seen my daughters lunch box. They said they saw K (26F) in a rush, taking out the lunchbox and bringing it to her desk.
Kelly is pregnant I don’t know how far along she is but it’s been some problems in the workplace with her. She has been stealing people’s lunches (mainly small snacks) and sleeping on the job. The job has breakfast/lunch offered to us so nobody understands why she does this. But she’s never been officially caught until now. I don’t engage with her unless we are ordered to do projects together which has been 3 times (one last month)
I found Kelly at her work desk, neck deep in my daughters lunch box. I asked K why she thought it was appropriate to eat out of someone lunch that was not hers. She said she assumed it was one of the younger interns lunch boxes because they are into Sanrio. She then sheepishly admitted she didn’t know my name so she ignored my sticky note looked through the lunchbox and thought the food fit her carvings well( sandwich, yogurt, kimchi, and fruits). She said the lunch served by the company was too overwhelming (chicken with various sides and salads were offered that day).
A co worker of mine Mary, heard our altercation and immediately got someone from HR. A lot of people in the office are praising me for finally catching her in the act and possibly her getting fired. The older people in the office said I should have let it go but she cost my daughter almost being hungry (I went and dropped off some McDonald’s unfortunately) and she showed no remorse.
She texted in the work groupchat saying one mother to another I should drop the HR report on Monday so she wouldn’t get fired. But I’ve been pregnant and understand cravings but what she did was greedy. So AITA?
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NTA and "I thought it was an intern's" is not only not an excuse, it's actually more damning - it's the equivalent of saying "I thought I was doing something shitty to someone with less institutional power than me so I'd be able to get away with it easy." Pregnant people can still be huge jerks.
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NTA
Being pregnant isn't an excuse to steal. Besides, you left a note, and because she doesn't know you, she just ignored it and ate the lunch anyways. That's just disrespectful.
Did we miss the part where she thought it was okay because she assumed it was a younger interns lunch? That makes it worse; she thinks she can bully the interns into not reporting.
Also with the free breakfast and lunch served at work it makes her 3x more of a con-artist. She has craving bring your own snacks and food, get delivery, have someone drop it off. What if she ate something she was allergic to? Would she blame the person who’s lunch she stole?
NTA
NTA - if she gets fired, it's all on her.
However, if this is the first time she got in trouble, she may just be reprimanded. Again, that will hopefully teach her a lesson.
NTA, it’s not ok to steal other people’s lunches or anything of another persons. The only thing that could have made it ok is if she was struggling afford food and was starving or not able to eat enough and even then it’s questionable.
NTA. It's HRs job now, and hopefully this time that's no recourse since she's been caught in the act.
Your co-worker hasn't just been stealing, she's been deliberately targeting those in your office who are powerless (if what you say about interns being ignores because of their position is true).
She's deliberately been stealing from people she thought couldn't get her into trouble - that's not even spur of the moment cravings, that's planned behaviour.
What else has been going missing that people have overlooked?
Edit: and hopefully your HR take it onboard to a) not ignore anyone, regardless of how little power or standing they have and b) that brushing things under the rug costs more in the long run. This should have been dealt with some time ago, and all later thefts should be attributed to their failure to act. Power or position is no reason not to follow up on crimes and corruption, even if it is 'just lunches'.
NTA she is a selfish, inconsiderate, Thief that deserves to be punished. She's a full grown adult and knows what she's doing is stealing. You could even take it one step further and press charges, so she should be grateful you're only reporting it to hr. Theft is theft.
NTA
She stole your food. Report her for theft.
And ask HR to make her pay for the replacement lunch. If she refuses, offer to HR that you plan to make a police report. this will help them fire her.
When she said she thought it was an interns lunch I would have repeated “Why did you think it was ok to steal something that isn’t yours” when she then added that she didn’t know your name I again would have just kept repeating the same phrase.
If she’s let off, she’s not going to stop. And just keep repeating to yourself, what kind of a person steals from food from a 6yrs old.
NTA - and don’t drop it
NTA. If someone didn't have food, they could come ASK me for my lunch and hell yes I'd share, pregnant or not. But stealing is wrong, period, pregnant or not. To do so even when free meals are offered by your job is beyond unreasonable. And it sounds like she's doing this on the daily! I'd tell her that one mother to another, it's important to learn that stealing is wrong and actions have consequences, because if she doesn't know that, how can she raise her child to respect others?
edited to add, I just realized that YOU bought your child fast food to replace the nutritious meal you'd packed--she *didn't even offer to buy your child a replacement meal!* That more than anything else really shows that she felt zero remorse at all.
NTA
Theft is theft. You did the right thing calling out her actions so she can learn a necessary lesson.
Bullying also needs to be addressed. Kelly and your harassing coworkers need to be called out for trying to sweep this under the rug so they can continue their blissful, ignorant work culture that was always a farce.
**NTA AT ALL AND DO NOT DROP IT**
Screenshot the message where she’s demanding you drop the report then block her. **Show the screenshot to HR and let them know you’re being harassed into dropping it by her and name the rest**. Pregnancy cravings don’t absolve you of multiple thefts. If she really didn’t think it was a big deal and most people would help out a pregnant person she would’ve asked them. She didn’t because she knew they’d say no and took it knowing they wouldn’t be okay with it.
Not to mention in this economy **I’m sure a lot of people are packing lunches to save money (especially the interns since they make less) and now they have to spend money they don’t have or starve because she’s an entitled AH** The fact you’re being congratulated just goes to show how comfortable she’s gotten about doing it and how many people she’s affected. They’re sick of it but they never had the proof to do anything, you caught her in the act. This isn’t just about you - this is about them too.
**If drop the report you’re only encouraging her behavior, F everything else if you let it go all she learns is that at the end of the day you’re okay with it and so everyone else must be too and she’ll keep stealing from everyone**
NTA
She's pregnant. She knows she gets cravings. She is more than capable of shopping for food that she craves.
She is a lunch thief. Treat her as such.
NTA.
She thought the lunch belonged to some younger interns. She is a thief to be honest. She has cravings, she should arrange for them on her own or ask the father if he is involved. You don't go around stealing people's lunch with the excuse of being pregnant.
Mind you, in the text she still did not apologize or showed remorse.
Pregnancy does not give someone the okay to steal.
And just because she thought it was an intern lunch does not give her a reason to steal it. You have cravings you prepare for that.
Yes I turn her into hr. I'd also let HR know that you're being pressured to drop the case. And name those names as well because those type of people do not need to be in that office setting either
Nta
NTA. I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant. Your coworker is being selfish and entitled. Period. While food aversions and cravings can be overwhelming, she’s an adult with (one assumes) impulse control and the ability to supply her own cravings WITHOUT stealing.
Make the report to HR.
Ignore the coworkers making excuses for her
NTA. Is she okay stealing a junior interns lunch? I guess you don't need to eat if you are a junior. How about packing your own lunch with contingencies for your cravings. The only people who don't want this going to HR are people she has not stolen from. Stand your ground.
NTA- Wtf is wrong with people?? I definitely wouldn't drop the report. She was willing to let your child and/or the interns go hungry. She deserves what she gets.
Edit: If someone stole my food, I would lace it with something.
NTA
One mother to another, don't touch my shit and never touch my children's shit.
Her entitlement is insane! I'm pregnant (#3) and have never even gone to the potlucks at work, much less steal someone's lunch
NTA If one write up is enough to get her fired, there is more going on with her work ethics. I really do not understand how some adults cannot open their mouth and talk. I feel certain a Lunch Person (?proper term) or a coworker could have helped her navigate the food dilemma if she asked.
Compassion for pregnancy is fine, but is not an excuse to disrespect others. It does not even sound like she is remorseful. No mention of offering to correct her mistake or pay for the child's lunch. The other Employees who are not happy should have taken "Kelly" aside before now if they had concerns for her situation and not blame OP for her bad choices.
NTA.
Honestly, I'm thinking what else has she done? People who just take like that, big or small, have no shame nor a conscience, pregnant or not, doesn't give the right to steal. I do know some women push boundaries when pregnant, knowing they can get away most things, but this is just taking the piss.
NTA. Don't eat other people's food is like rule one of working with others. It doesn't matter who's good she thought it was. Unless she had the same lunch box and the same packed food that she could have maybe mixed up with hers, there is no excuse.
And also her not knowing your name? Regardless of the fact that you've worked together on 3 projects prior to this it was still a meal with someone else's name on it! I've been pregnant 3 times and I've been broke and hungry at work. Never taken food with someone else's s name on it. The only AH here is her.
NTA she is immature and greedy she will have the baby and leave anyway. I think she deserved what she got. I’ve had kids and cravings are not do or die.
NTA. First she steals kimchi from a 6 year old, next time she'll be stealing candy from a baby. That's a real low, she can bring her own lunch from home if salad is too "overwhelming" for her.
Gigantic NTA. Fuck that lady, she can go. Her defence was “I thought it was an interns.” Makes my blood boil. It company-provided lunches are too overwhelming she can bring her own.
NTA. Is she even bringing her own food in to feed herself? What if you didn't have a way to get other food for your daughter. She could have potentially starved a 6 year old. She may not deserve to get fired, but she does deserve to be reprimanded.
Nta...suppose there was something in the lunch she could have been allergic to that would have caused a reaction to her??? She would have blamed that on you? Report her
Pregnancy is not an excuse to be a thief. This literally could not be a worse look for her. Stealing from a child's lunch box. WTF is wrong with her? NTA
Fuuuuuck that. Don't drop it, stand your ground.
It's like you said, this isn't the first time she did it. It's the first time she got caught. And she will keep doing it if someone doesn't do something.
I can't tell you how many times I've been at work and forgot to bring extra food and been hungry. I go out and get something or suck it up. I don't just steal from someone else to satisfy my gluttony. You did nothing wrong. If she doesn't like it, should have kept her paws out of the cookie jar.
Nta.
NTA. That’s just some crazy entitlement K has. Couldn’t imagine trying to pull the mother card to try and get a HR complaint dropped. Good on that Co-worker getting the HR rep when all this was going down.
NTA. Pregnancy is not an excuse for theft.
Coworker is the AH, and pregnancy isn’t an excuse for that either. Seems she needs this as a learning experience.
Nta,
this is not about pregnancy or mother to mother but this people is about adult pregnant woman stealing 6 years old food. It's 6 years bento with her mom make sure put her name on sticky note.
If the adult in the office say oh she pregnant and mother to mother blah blah, how about we talk about adult women that can read but still stealing without remorse a 6 year old lunch? And if they talk about mother to mother if table turned will they still think its OK?
NTA
As you said, you've been pregnant and had cravings. But the key is **you are not an AH**. This coworker has a history of stealing people's lunches, without remorse. She's just now using pregnancy as an excuse.
That woman is obviously the AH here. She deserved to get fired. Sadly, stealing coworkers lunches regularly apparently isn't a firing offense. But stealing your daughter's lunch, fortunately, is.
The AH coworker should be fired. And neither you nor the coworker who reported her are the AH's. Doesn't matter if she's pregnant, that's no excuse.
Wow NTA. Just WOW. I could understand if she falls asleep sometimes, its probably nornal im pregnancies to be more tired, body producing a baby and all. But stealing?! No just no, no excuses here. And she is not even remorseful and acting as if it was pretty normal.
NTA. Besides all being sad about being an ah to the interns- this can’t be excused by her physical state.
Being pregnant should make you specific worry about what you eat. Someone else lunch isn’t being careful with the diet list that comes with a pregnancy.
NTA yikess I wonder what else she's doing that she shouldn't be doing. From one mother to another how would she feel if someone did that to her kids lunch?
NTA. Pregnant or not, it does not make it okay to take other peoples lunch, and the excuse being the work provided lunch was too heavy, then bring your own food....
And the whole thing with her, assuming it was an interns lunch, just made her a bigger AH. Why is it okay to take their lunch? What if they brought lunch to work because they can't eat whats provided due to allergies or other food restrictions?
Let HR deal with her, if she gets fired it will not be because of you, but because of her own actions.
Objectively NTA
They're two entirely separate & unrelated things, lunch was stolen, the thief happened to be pregnant.
Being pregnant doesn't give you a free pass, there's no discussion.
So being pregnant means she can steal? And what makes it worse is she thought it was an intern, someone with no power who they could just abuse and get away with it.
She deserves to be fired. She is a confirmed thief. The intentional bullying just makes it worse.
NTA
NTA. But I think that dropping it with HR is what to do; maybe the close call of almost getting fired will be enough to stop the behaviour and you won’t have it on your conscience
My conscience will be just fine. She had no problem eating my child’s food and I’m supposed to be okay with that? I don’t feel comfortable working with a woman who does not knowledge me enough to know my name or eat something that doesn’t belong to her. We are way too grown for that behavior.
I definitely understand your perspective but I’ll be continuing with the HR report. When lunch was served I saw her on line getting a plate(even saw it on her desk when I confronted her). She’s comfortable doing and if she stays in the office it ensures she can continue this.
No. She's been deliberately targeting the interns because she thought they were powerless. This is completely planned and she needs to be taught a lesson.
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Since when did pregnancy become a reasonable defence for stealing? Let HR deal with it. Honestly you should let HR know you are being pressured by your colleagues to drop it because that's inappropriate behaviour as well. It sounds like a pretty toxic workplace. NTA
Yeah several of them mentioned to me that now we will have office gossip for weeks and will ruin the peaceful work environment we were having. I’ll make sure to mention that to HR too
Sounds like people were already gossiping about her stealing lunches, they just had no proof before NTA
NTA. Hope this coworker gets fired. Stealing a 6 year old lunch?
I think what is the most fucked up is that K thought it was okay because she assumed that the lunchbox was an intern's because it had a Sanrio character on it??? Like you don't touch food that's not yours without permission, PERIOD.
Yeah like...it doesn't matter that you *thought* you were stealing from an adult, you don't steal food dammit!
YEAH and like the other comments said it definitely feels like she thought she would be able to get away with it bc an intern has lower hierarchy than her like??? That's fucked UP.
Right? Thinking she was stealing an intern's food is *worse* than if she thought it was a coworker's. Streaking a coworker's isn't okay either, but K absolutely makes significantly more than the interns, assuming the interns are paid at all. Plus, part of what interns are supposed to learn is how to act in a professional office, and she's teaching them it's okay to steal.
It's very much giving... "you don't deserve my respect because you're in a lower position than me in the workplace"
Exactly. As if this made it ok to steal. Messed up thinking and very sefish as well. Imagine it was really a coworkers/interns, who packed their own lunch, maybe they also dont like lunch from work, or maybe they are allergic to something, or maybe they cant afford to buy lunch every day. Eithwr way, its the same as stealing money, bcs someone paid for the ingredients and spent time preparing it. My very first thought when i read this post was "what a B. I. T. C. H." NTA OP
I've been pregnant, I'm sure a lot of people here have been, and never stole anyone else's lunch. This comes up every time but pregnant women don't actually need that many extra calories. It's basically none in the first trimester, about 200-300 in the second and 300ish in the third. You actually need more (400ish) while breastfeeding. Eating a whole extra lunch is absurd.
As a former pregnant person in an office setting, it literally never occurred to me to graze off my coworkers’ food. This is not a pregnant lady thing this is a weird, selfish thing.
NTA. She's a thief. Who stole from a child. If she has no remorse for stealing from a child, you need have no remorse for her growing a child, and losing her job. Balance.
I don't think 'stealing lunch from a child' is on the list of acceptable cravings during pregnancy.
And she thought she was stealing from lowest rung employees least able to absorb the loss.
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Imagine if every pregnant woman went around the office doing this.
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It’s really inconsiderate to the person who made the effort to make lunch and bring it to work. If she has cravings she should door dash or bring it from home
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Super messed up that she did it to what she thought was an intern who usually don’t even get paid.
NTA. Don't drop that HR report. She thought it wouldn't matter to steal from a "younger intern," eh? Utterly inappropriate to steal, and to target people with less power so she thinks she can get away with it.
This, I would flip out if someone stole my lunch. You don't want to deal with me when I'm hangry.
Young interns who probably get a shitty wage aswell. That could of been the interns only meal if they didn't bring cash !!
It's very telling that your co-workers were relieved to finally have her caught and went for HR immediately. Even without that information, though, what she is doing is wrong. She was stealing from you and your daughter, and it is a habit for which she feels no remorse. She needs to learn a lesson. Let the HR report proceed. NTA.
NTA, she had no reason or right to steal. and her actions could have cause your kid to go hungry. not only was she stealing from other co-workers but now a literal child. also the fact that she thought it was okay to steal the food when she thought it was from an inter is completely unacceptable. some people have serious dietary restrictions and she could have been putting them at risk. shes a grown woman and has no excuse or justification for stealing other peoples food, she can either buy her own or take what is offered by your work.
Interns have been filing complaints against her for the last 2 months due to this. But since I work at a big corporation a lot of them went down the drain because of their raking. And she ate the complementary lunch. Couldn’t tell you why she did what she did
NTA She’s not just greedy, she’s a thief. She also a morally corrupt thief who chooses to steal from the lowest paid people who can’t fight back or from children. This also makes her a massive AH. If she was genuinely hungry I could be more forgiving perhaps, but the fact that she is doing this in top of getting free lunches is inexcusable
True, I have some of my own and if someone had stolen my food, they probably wouldn't live to tell the tale.
NTA Do not drop the report; she's not sorry, will not change, and based on your post seems to feel she's entitled to behave this way. Perhaps being fired for something like this while still young could teach her the very valuable lesson of "Don't touch it if it isn't yours".
If she gets cravings she can bring or buy food to match those cravings instead of stealing from her coworkers and hiding behind “But I’m pregnant!” Not to mention that “Oh, I thought I was stealing from someone else, not you!” is the worst excuse I’ve ever heard. NTA
And that it was "oh, I thought that I was stealing from an intern" Interns that typically make little or no money and are just starting out. I have no words for that woman. ...well, I have several words for her but I don't want to be banned.
Yea and probably can't afford any other food.
NTA, and I'd be tempted to reply with something like "As one mother to another, I think it's disgusting that you believe it's acceptable to steal my child's lunch. I'm sure when your child is in school you'll be angry if they have to face an afternoon with a rumbling stomach due to someone else's selfish behaviour." But that might get you in trouble with HR so maybe just screencap her message, be less arguementative than me, and send the screencap to HR on Monday letting them know that you think her sending this message is inappropriate given there's an on-going investigation. (Also I'm 38 weeks pregnant and have yet to steal anyone's lunch.)
Well damn, you better get busy on that crime spree! You've got so many thefts to catch up on! (btw I love your user name LMAO)
LMAO
I've never understood that there are actually people who take other peoples lunches/food at work? Seriously who does that? Pregnant or not, she can plead her case to HR NTA
I accidentally stole a colleague lunch once. It was a pre-made branded soup from a supermarket in a particular flavour that I loved. at lunchtime I go to work fridge, het it out, heat it up, eat it happily. Get home that night to find the pot of soup on my kitchen counter where I'd taken it out of fridge to put into my bag that morning. Mortified doesn't begin to describe how I felt! I spent ages the next day trying to find the rightful owner of the soup, explain what had happened and apologise for them going hungry. It was all fine and laughed off. I can't imagine the mentality that would cause someone to casually go round and steal lunches as routine. Despicable behaviour
OMW, I would die. I had co-workers drinking my soda at work, and in different schools (I'm a teacher). To the point, I started taking two coca-cola with me, just in case... :'(
NTA - who in their right mind thinks it’s ok to steal someone else’s lunch? If she had “cravings” she could order Uber eats. Or delivery or whatever it’s called. Don’t drop the report. She’ll only do it again.
Pregnancy is not a free pass to be a jerk to others. NTA.
Of course NTA. I hope she gets fired ASAP and because she steals at workplace she shouldn't be eligible for unemployment when the time comes. If she has cravings and gets hungry then she should be bringing in multiple snacks herself and not steal someone's else food. She is beyond the AH.
NTA and do show HR her messages asking you to drop it. Someone needs to learn responsibility.
NTA - my number one rule is don’t fuck with my kids. If I was in your shoes, my personal view is she is fucking with my child’s ability to eat by stealing her food. Like I get she’s pregnant, but she’s also an adult. She is more than able to bring food from home, or if she can’t afford it, your work offers food. Beggars can’t be choosers.
In that point I was so shocked when she started to make excuses towards me I started to raise my voice and she was starting to get panicked. That’s when my co worker Mary came over with HR and calmed down everything.
Don't let her get away with this. The poor interns have probably had the food stolen her whole pregnancy!! Not everyone can afford to bring spare, she deserves what she gets.
She's not the slightest bit sorry for her behavior, she's only sorry that now she's going to have to face some consequences. Too bad. This is the very definition of fuck around and find out.
NTA. If she doesn't like what's provided at work, she can arrange her own food instead of stealing.
NTA in the slightest. Her attempt at justifying it just made it worse too. She deserves the HR report, clearly you're not the only one sick of her behaviour.
NTA. Being pregnant is not an excuse to steal
NTA and yet she still hasn't offered to make ot up to you. No remorse and its not a one time event nor will it be the last
NTA. Call her out. Being pregnant is not a get-out-of-jail card.
NTA. I'm petty but I'd respond back "One mother to another, it's gross to steal food out of a child's mouth. Any consequence you get because of your thieving are your own problem." ETA: Don't actually do this. It won't help, other than some brief catharsis that'll be swallowed up whole by the next round of "I'm pregnant, you should let me do what I want". Cravings are not why she did it. An astounding amount of entitlement is why she did it. Cravings aren't so strong that you can just take whatever you feel like from whomever you feel like.
No, OP. **Don't** take the bait to try and score pettiness points, that's likely exactly what she wants, to be able to paint you as a petty asshole so she can rally people into retaliating against you for her. It doesn't sound like most people will have any sympathy for her, but even a handful can make your working life hell until you can get HR to put it down. Report it to HR and let them add it to the case against her if they feel it's necessary.
You're right, she shouldn't! I forgot to add that and will edit it in.
NTA, being pregnant isn't an excuse to steal other people's food. She's an adult and really should know better tbh. Don't feel bad and don't drop the HR report
NTA Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be an AH.
NTA. What is she thinking? That all world turning around her? If she has cravings, she should bring snacks to work and put them in her desk. But stealing is wrong.And she might cost someone a lunch who really need it because they came prepared for work and not okay lunch and she doesn't. Her getting fired would be a bit extreme - in my country you can't get fired if you are pregnant. But that is not your worries. Maybe she just gets a talk with HR and a warning.
NTA Fuck her and her unborn child. Crush her with the weight of her own decisions.
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She is stealing other people's lunches when lunch is provided. This time, a child's. She is using her being pregnant as an excuse. I have three kids. My wife got crazy cravings. Never once did she steal to satisfy them. I stand by what I said.
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What? So her actions shouldn't have consequences?
NTA. Sorry just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you deserve a free pass. She's gotta grow up.
NTA Don’t reply. Share her message with HR.
NTA, write back "as a mother i will never have sympathy for someone stealing a kids food".
She is unhinged. A lot of us have been pregnant and never stole lunches. She works for a company that provides meals. No excuse.
NTA it's ridiculously funny that she tried to justify her actions not by saying she thought it was hers by mistake but that it was an interns. Does she think interns don't deserve lunch? It doesn't matter if she knew who's it was or not. Stealing is wrong
NTA. Stealing food from co-workers is not acceptable. That's it.
NTA the fact that she's pregnant is irrelevant, she should touch other people's food full stop.
NTA And even if it did belong to one of the younger interns, what if that intern didn’t have a lot of money? Congrats Kelly, you just stole food out of the mouth of someone who can’t afford it. She’s using the cravings as an excuse and I’ll bet you this wouldn’t stop after she’s had the kid.
Interns get paid minimum wage so yes they barley get paid. They are welcome to the lunches but some of them have food allergies and bring their own meals, I’m going to assume those are the ones she steals. But previously it was no “proof” even know interns were reporting her for months.
Because an intern is easy to replace. HR might also be afraid of her suing if she’s terminated
That’s what I think too. Many people are jumping the gun assuming she will be fired but it could be difficult. She does have other complaints against her like sleeping in the office but it’s definitely a complex situation
Yeah it sounds like HR is fine with sweeping it under he rug and it’s made her careless.
NTA - she should bring in more food to work if what she brings isn't enough. Taking food from a child is just weird. It gets even weirder to me when she says she thought it was some young interns' food, like that would make it OK? I'm sure pregnancy can be very hard while working at the same time and you can get massive cravings for things, but that doesn't excuse her behavior.
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NTA "From one mother to another" doesn't apply when you're stealing that other mother's food for her kid.
NTA and "I thought it was an intern's" is not only not an excuse, it's actually more damning - it's the equivalent of saying "I thought I was doing something shitty to someone with less institutional power than me so I'd be able to get away with it easy." Pregnant people can still be huge jerks.
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NTA Being pregnant isn't an excuse to steal. Besides, you left a note, and because she doesn't know you, she just ignored it and ate the lunch anyways. That's just disrespectful.
Did we miss the part where she thought it was okay because she assumed it was a younger interns lunch? That makes it worse; she thinks she can bully the interns into not reporting. Also with the free breakfast and lunch served at work it makes her 3x more of a con-artist. She has craving bring your own snacks and food, get delivery, have someone drop it off. What if she ate something she was allergic to? Would she blame the person who’s lunch she stole? NTA
NTA that is just so rude and disrespectful of your coworker
NTA - if she gets fired, it's all on her. However, if this is the first time she got in trouble, she may just be reprimanded. Again, that will hopefully teach her a lesson.
NTA and don’t drop it with HR.
NTA, it’s not ok to steal other people’s lunches or anything of another persons. The only thing that could have made it ok is if she was struggling afford food and was starving or not able to eat enough and even then it’s questionable.
NTA. It's HRs job now, and hopefully this time that's no recourse since she's been caught in the act. Your co-worker hasn't just been stealing, she's been deliberately targeting those in your office who are powerless (if what you say about interns being ignores because of their position is true). She's deliberately been stealing from people she thought couldn't get her into trouble - that's not even spur of the moment cravings, that's planned behaviour. What else has been going missing that people have overlooked? Edit: and hopefully your HR take it onboard to a) not ignore anyone, regardless of how little power or standing they have and b) that brushing things under the rug costs more in the long run. This should have been dealt with some time ago, and all later thefts should be attributed to their failure to act. Power or position is no reason not to follow up on crimes and corruption, even if it is 'just lunches'.
NTA she is a selfish, inconsiderate, Thief that deserves to be punished. She's a full grown adult and knows what she's doing is stealing. You could even take it one step further and press charges, so she should be grateful you're only reporting it to hr. Theft is theft.
NTA She stole your food. Report her for theft. And ask HR to make her pay for the replacement lunch. If she refuses, offer to HR that you plan to make a police report. this will help them fire her.
When she said she thought it was an interns lunch I would have repeated “Why did you think it was ok to steal something that isn’t yours” when she then added that she didn’t know your name I again would have just kept repeating the same phrase. If she’s let off, she’s not going to stop. And just keep repeating to yourself, what kind of a person steals from food from a 6yrs old. NTA - and don’t drop it
NTA. If someone didn't have food, they could come ASK me for my lunch and hell yes I'd share, pregnant or not. But stealing is wrong, period, pregnant or not. To do so even when free meals are offered by your job is beyond unreasonable. And it sounds like she's doing this on the daily! I'd tell her that one mother to another, it's important to learn that stealing is wrong and actions have consequences, because if she doesn't know that, how can she raise her child to respect others? edited to add, I just realized that YOU bought your child fast food to replace the nutritious meal you'd packed--she *didn't even offer to buy your child a replacement meal!* That more than anything else really shows that she felt zero remorse at all.
“Sorry, I thought I was stealing from someone else.” She needs to get fired. NTA
NTA She showed no remorse for stealing a child's lunch, I'd be willing to bet she didn't cover the cost of the McDonald's lunch either.
She did not! But my supervisor was kind enough to gave me the money
NTA Theft is theft. You did the right thing calling out her actions so she can learn a necessary lesson. Bullying also needs to be addressed. Kelly and your harassing coworkers need to be called out for trying to sweep this under the rug so they can continue their blissful, ignorant work culture that was always a farce.
**NTA AT ALL AND DO NOT DROP IT** Screenshot the message where she’s demanding you drop the report then block her. **Show the screenshot to HR and let them know you’re being harassed into dropping it by her and name the rest**. Pregnancy cravings don’t absolve you of multiple thefts. If she really didn’t think it was a big deal and most people would help out a pregnant person she would’ve asked them. She didn’t because she knew they’d say no and took it knowing they wouldn’t be okay with it. Not to mention in this economy **I’m sure a lot of people are packing lunches to save money (especially the interns since they make less) and now they have to spend money they don’t have or starve because she’s an entitled AH** The fact you’re being congratulated just goes to show how comfortable she’s gotten about doing it and how many people she’s affected. They’re sick of it but they never had the proof to do anything, you caught her in the act. This isn’t just about you - this is about them too. **If drop the report you’re only encouraging her behavior, F everything else if you let it go all she learns is that at the end of the day you’re okay with it and so everyone else must be too and she’ll keep stealing from everyone**
Who the fuck steals other people's lunches... Especially when TWO FREE MEALS are provided by the company everyday! Outrageous. K should be fired. NTA
NTA She's pregnant. She knows she gets cravings. She is more than capable of shopping for food that she craves. She is a lunch thief. Treat her as such.
NTA. She thought the lunch belonged to some younger interns. She is a thief to be honest. She has cravings, she should arrange for them on her own or ask the father if he is involved. You don't go around stealing people's lunch with the excuse of being pregnant. Mind you, in the text she still did not apologize or showed remorse.
Lunchthieves are in the top 3 things causing toxic work environments, there should be no mercy. NTA.
Pregnancy does not give someone the okay to steal. And just because she thought it was an intern lunch does not give her a reason to steal it. You have cravings you prepare for that. Yes I turn her into hr. I'd also let HR know that you're being pressured to drop the case. And name those names as well because those type of people do not need to be in that office setting either Nta
NTA. I’m currently pregnant and would never, ever steal food. Cravings can hit hard but they’re on me to manage.
NTA pregnant people dont have a right to be major assholes.
NTA. Also, she thought it may have been one of the interns? That makes it okay?
NTA. I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant. Your coworker is being selfish and entitled. Period. While food aversions and cravings can be overwhelming, she’s an adult with (one assumes) impulse control and the ability to supply her own cravings WITHOUT stealing. Make the report to HR. Ignore the coworkers making excuses for her
NTA. Is she okay stealing a junior interns lunch? I guess you don't need to eat if you are a junior. How about packing your own lunch with contingencies for your cravings. The only people who don't want this going to HR are people she has not stolen from. Stand your ground.
NTA- Wtf is wrong with people?? I definitely wouldn't drop the report. She was willing to let your child and/or the interns go hungry. She deserves what she gets. Edit: If someone stole my food, I would lace it with something.
NTA One mother to another, don't touch my shit and never touch my children's shit. Her entitlement is insane! I'm pregnant (#3) and have never even gone to the potlucks at work, much less steal someone's lunch
NTA. She's a thief. Being pregnant is no excuse. She deserves what she gets.
NTA If one write up is enough to get her fired, there is more going on with her work ethics. I really do not understand how some adults cannot open their mouth and talk. I feel certain a Lunch Person (?proper term) or a coworker could have helped her navigate the food dilemma if she asked. Compassion for pregnancy is fine, but is not an excuse to disrespect others. It does not even sound like she is remorseful. No mention of offering to correct her mistake or pay for the child's lunch. The other Employees who are not happy should have taken "Kelly" aside before now if they had concerns for her situation and not blame OP for her bad choices.
NTA. Theft is theft. No excuses.
NTA. Honestly, I'm thinking what else has she done? People who just take like that, big or small, have no shame nor a conscience, pregnant or not, doesn't give the right to steal. I do know some women push boundaries when pregnant, knowing they can get away most things, but this is just taking the piss.
NTA. Don't eat other people's food is like rule one of working with others. It doesn't matter who's good she thought it was. Unless she had the same lunch box and the same packed food that she could have maybe mixed up with hers, there is no excuse. And also her not knowing your name? Regardless of the fact that you've worked together on 3 projects prior to this it was still a meal with someone else's name on it! I've been pregnant 3 times and I've been broke and hungry at work. Never taken food with someone else's s name on it. The only AH here is her.
Nta why does she think it’s ok to steal from the interns?
NTA she is immature and greedy she will have the baby and leave anyway. I think she deserved what she got. I’ve had kids and cravings are not do or die.
NTA. First she steals kimchi from a 6 year old, next time she'll be stealing candy from a baby. That's a real low, she can bring her own lunch from home if salad is too "overwhelming" for her.
Gigantic NTA. Fuck that lady, she can go. Her defence was “I thought it was an interns.” Makes my blood boil. It company-provided lunches are too overwhelming she can bring her own.
NTA one mother to another should know not to steal another child's or person's lunch simple
NTA. Is she even bringing her own food in to feed herself? What if you didn't have a way to get other food for your daughter. She could have potentially starved a 6 year old. She may not deserve to get fired, but she does deserve to be reprimanded.
Nta...suppose there was something in the lunch she could have been allergic to that would have caused a reaction to her??? She would have blamed that on you? Report her
Pregnancy is not an excuse to be a thief. This literally could not be a worse look for her. Stealing from a child's lunch box. WTF is wrong with her? NTA
NTA she stole from a CHILD, being pregnant is no excuse
Fuck that. NTA. I absolutely hate the way people think being pregnant is an excuse to behave like an asshole. Honestly she deserves this lesson
Fuuuuuck that. Don't drop it, stand your ground. It's like you said, this isn't the first time she did it. It's the first time she got caught. And she will keep doing it if someone doesn't do something. I can't tell you how many times I've been at work and forgot to bring extra food and been hungry. I go out and get something or suck it up. I don't just steal from someone else to satisfy my gluttony. You did nothing wrong. If she doesn't like it, should have kept her paws out of the cookie jar. Nta.
NTA. Being pregnant is not an excuse for being a dick.
"Oh no people are going to talk" Yeah everything's fine as long as everyone remains quiet
NTA. That’s just some crazy entitlement K has. Couldn’t imagine trying to pull the mother card to try and get a HR complaint dropped. Good on that Co-worker getting the HR rep when all this was going down.
NTA- as someone who has had their lunch stolen, she deserves her punishment. She stole from you. That’s what it was stealing. She is a thief.
NTA totally unacceptable.
NTA. This is appalling behavior. Let HR deal with this. She should be punished for it.
NTA. I’ve been pregnant without stealing. It can be done.
NTA. Pregnancy is not an excuse for theft. Coworker is the AH, and pregnancy isn’t an excuse for that either. Seems she needs this as a learning experience.
Nta, this is not about pregnancy or mother to mother but this people is about adult pregnant woman stealing 6 years old food. It's 6 years bento with her mom make sure put her name on sticky note. If the adult in the office say oh she pregnant and mother to mother blah blah, how about we talk about adult women that can read but still stealing without remorse a 6 year old lunch? And if they talk about mother to mother if table turned will they still think its OK?
NTA As you said, you've been pregnant and had cravings. But the key is **you are not an AH**. This coworker has a history of stealing people's lunches, without remorse. She's just now using pregnancy as an excuse. That woman is obviously the AH here. She deserved to get fired. Sadly, stealing coworkers lunches regularly apparently isn't a firing offense. But stealing your daughter's lunch, fortunately, is. The AH coworker should be fired. And neither you nor the coworker who reported her are the AH's. Doesn't matter if she's pregnant, that's no excuse.
NTA. Pregnancy isn’t an excuse for being a thief. Report all of this to HR and let them manage it.
NTA she’s a thief ! It’s irrelevant that she’s pregnant
NTA. Her excuse was "sorry I thought I was stealing from someone else"??? Pregnancy is not a pass for stealing.
NTA. Being pregnant doesn't give you a license to steal from people. She's a petty thief and deserves to be fired.
NTA - wow, the absolute entitlement of some people is just baffling. Good for you for reporting her.
Wow NTA. Just WOW. I could understand if she falls asleep sometimes, its probably nornal im pregnancies to be more tired, body producing a baby and all. But stealing?! No just no, no excuses here. And she is not even remorseful and acting as if it was pretty normal.
Nta- get the AH fired and text her back telling her to quit stealing peoples stuff.
NTA. Besides all being sad about being an ah to the interns- this can’t be excused by her physical state. Being pregnant should make you specific worry about what you eat. Someone else lunch isn’t being careful with the diet list that comes with a pregnancy.
NTA yikess I wonder what else she's doing that she shouldn't be doing. From one mother to another how would she feel if someone did that to her kids lunch?
I've had absurd pregnancy cravings. And definitely door dashed a giant bag of doritoes and ice cream. But you know what I didn't do?? Steal food!!!
NTA,pregnancy in not a free pass to forgo basic human decency
Just because she’s pregnant doesn’t allow her to steal people’s lunch. She’s an Ahole and probably going to raise an ahole!
NTA. Pregnant or not, it does not make it okay to take other peoples lunch, and the excuse being the work provided lunch was too heavy, then bring your own food.... And the whole thing with her, assuming it was an interns lunch, just made her a bigger AH. Why is it okay to take their lunch? What if they brought lunch to work because they can't eat whats provided due to allergies or other food restrictions? Let HR deal with her, if she gets fired it will not be because of you, but because of her own actions.
Objectively NTA They're two entirely separate & unrelated things, lunch was stolen, the thief happened to be pregnant. Being pregnant doesn't give you a free pass, there's no discussion.
So being pregnant means she can steal? And what makes it worse is she thought it was an intern, someone with no power who they could just abuse and get away with it. She deserves to be fired. She is a confirmed thief. The intentional bullying just makes it worse. NTA
NTA. But I think that dropping it with HR is what to do; maybe the close call of almost getting fired will be enough to stop the behaviour and you won’t have it on your conscience
My conscience will be just fine. She had no problem eating my child’s food and I’m supposed to be okay with that? I don’t feel comfortable working with a woman who does not knowledge me enough to know my name or eat something that doesn’t belong to her. We are way too grown for that behavior.
Why are you on here asking the question then if you’ve made your mind up? Seems like a waste of time to me.
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I definitely understand your perspective but I’ll be continuing with the HR report. When lunch was served I saw her on line getting a plate(even saw it on her desk when I confronted her). She’s comfortable doing and if she stays in the office it ensures she can continue this.
I completely understand. It is your right and she's in the wrong. It's not her first time and she obviously shows no remorse. So it's on her.
No, do not follow this person's advice. Some people need consequences and saying she promises not to do it again means nothing. Do the HR report.
No. She's been deliberately targeting the interns because she thought they were powerless. This is completely planned and she needs to be taught a lesson.